this appeared on my feed at just the right time!!! i don't know who you are but i watched and enjoyed this vid a lot. my dysphoria has been awful too recently -_-. hearing your story really makes me feel.. not alone, i guess. and the drawings are gorgeous, i love the hair and the vibes. i think i'm gonna draw myself like this too. anyways, i hope you're well. thanks for the vid, and have a very really good day!
This means so much to me. I’m really glad I can provide some comfort for u, I know how it is to feel isolated. Just remember that the feeling is not forever, I hope all the best for ur journey !!!
It is a sensitive topic to talk about, that's brave of you ! This is something that I personaly really struggle to express to people, even though I'm not in an abusive situation and I'm not the one who suffers the most from this. If that's not too personal, what pronouns do you prefer using ? I think I can relate to the masculine/feminine clothing struggle, I'm a woman but I don't like "feminine" clothes in general, my ideal goal is to be more masculine/tomboyish. Sometimes I try to be more feminine but it never really feels like me, and I especially HATE when ANY gender role/ gender association is pushed on me : wether it's looks ("you would be pretty with some make up and different clothes") or personality. Weirdly enough, I'm especially insecure about hobbies and interests that are, in fact, associated with being a woman. I don't want anybody to think, "she likes baking, of course, she's a girl", it's not about gender, it's about who I am as a person. I hate from the bottom of my heart every time anybody says anything related to "typical men/women behaviour", "All men/ women are [insert adjective], am I right ? Haha ". These are very exagerated sentences I use as example, it's often much more subtle, implied rather than said clearly. I think as a result I sometimes feel like I need to push my non-girly side forward harder to combat the vision people have of me, and if I express any thoughts, words or interests that align too much with the image of the typical woman forced upon us by the media we consume, I almost feel guilty, as if I'm proving these people right… I wish there wouldn't be such a thing as "manly" or "girly" (and why girly and not "womanly" ?), I wish our personalities would be seen as detached from the genitals we bear, in fact I wish there wasn't such a thing as "sex" or "gender"... So when you say you want to be able to explore both feminity and masculinity freely, and that you don't wan't any sort of clothing style being forced on you, that's something I can understand, or at least I think so. I also relate to the weight issue : I know I'm not the one with the biggest weight problem so I don't want to complain to much about it, but I have gained a lot of weight over the years because of my mental health issues, and I feel insecure about it, and frustrated that any effort that I do doesn't seem to be enough to reverse the damage. I'm really trying to be more "body positive" but it's not easy. It also doesn't help that the excess weight makes me more curvy, and that pushes my body image further away from the gender-neutral body I wish I had...
Heyyy First of all I just wanna thank u from sharing ur experience And to answer ur question I goes by she/they Personally I think gender role are so deep engrained in society is probably sad, people should be able to have the freedom to fully express themselves and explore themselves without judgement and having people stereotype them I think there’s so many people who had lived their whole life without fully understanding themselves because they never feel comfortable learning and expressing themselves. What I’m trying to say is that I think we should just let people be people. And about the weight issues, I totally understand ur experience as I’m going through the same thing, I think there’s so much shame around overweight people. If they feel comfortable with their body than they are not healthy, but if they want to try and lose weight then they are fatphobic. I think it can really discourage people for pursuing what’s best for them and again, just being themselves. Hopefully the society can improve and hopefully everything goes well in ur journey and eventually be able to be confident and comfortable with being u!!! I believe in u!!!
this appeared on my feed at just the right time!!! i don't know who you are but i watched and enjoyed this vid a lot. my dysphoria has been awful too recently -_-. hearing your story really makes me feel.. not alone, i guess. and the drawings are gorgeous, i love the hair and the vibes. i think i'm gonna draw myself like this too.
anyways, i hope you're well. thanks for the vid, and have a very really good day!
This means so much to me. I’m really glad I can provide some comfort for u, I know how it is to feel isolated.
Just remember that the feeling is not forever, I hope all the best for ur journey !!!
It is a sensitive topic to talk about, that's brave of you ! This is something that I personaly really struggle to express to people, even though I'm not in an abusive situation and I'm not the one who suffers the most from this.
If that's not too personal, what pronouns do you prefer using ?
I think I can relate to the masculine/feminine clothing struggle, I'm a woman but I don't like "feminine" clothes in general, my ideal goal is to be more masculine/tomboyish. Sometimes I try to be more feminine but it never really feels like me, and I especially HATE when ANY gender role/ gender association is pushed on me : wether it's looks ("you would be pretty with some make up and different clothes") or personality.
Weirdly enough, I'm especially insecure about hobbies and interests that are, in fact, associated with being a woman. I don't want anybody to think, "she likes baking, of course, she's a girl", it's not about gender, it's about who I am as a person. I hate from the bottom of my heart every time anybody says anything related to "typical men/women behaviour", "All men/ women are [insert adjective], am I right ? Haha ". These are very exagerated sentences I use as example, it's often much more subtle, implied rather than said clearly.
I think as a result I sometimes feel like I need to push my non-girly side forward harder to combat the vision people have of me, and if I express any thoughts, words or interests that align too much with the image of the typical woman forced upon us by the media we consume, I almost feel guilty, as if I'm proving these people right… I wish there wouldn't be such a thing as "manly" or "girly" (and why girly and not "womanly" ?), I wish our personalities would be seen as detached from the genitals we bear, in fact I wish there wasn't such a thing as "sex" or "gender"...
So when you say you want to be able to explore both feminity and masculinity freely, and that you don't wan't any sort of clothing style being forced on you, that's something I can understand, or at least I think so.
I also relate to the weight issue : I know I'm not the one with the biggest weight problem so I don't want to complain to much about it, but I have gained a lot of weight over the years because of my mental health issues, and I feel insecure about it, and frustrated that any effort that I do doesn't seem to be enough to reverse the damage. I'm really trying to be more "body positive" but it's not easy. It also doesn't help that the excess weight makes me more curvy, and that pushes my body image further away from the gender-neutral body I wish I had...
Heyyy
First of all I just wanna thank u from sharing ur experience
And to answer ur question I goes by she/they
Personally I think gender role are so deep engrained in society is probably sad, people should be able to have the freedom to fully express themselves and explore themselves without judgement and having people stereotype them
I think there’s so many people who had lived their whole life without fully understanding themselves because they never feel comfortable learning and expressing themselves.
What I’m trying to say is that I think we should just let people be people.
And about the weight issues, I totally understand ur experience as I’m going through the same thing, I think there’s so much shame around overweight people. If they feel comfortable with their body than they are not healthy, but if they want to try and lose weight then they are fatphobic.
I think it can really discourage people for pursuing what’s best for them and again, just being themselves.
Hopefully the society can improve and hopefully everything goes well in ur journey and eventually be able to be confident and comfortable with being u!!!
I believe in u!!!
@@purpeescave Thank you so much !
You're beautiful. Remember that
Thank u!!!