Hey guys! I'M BACK & I AM A MOMMY! I have been away for 3 MONTHS on maternity leave which is unbelievable, on December 1st I had my miracle baby after 15 years of infertility! I said in this in the description BUT I want to make it BLATANTLY CLEAR that I have ZERO issues with hospitals, with epidurals, with c-sections, none of that. I think EVERY way that ANYONE wants to birth is valid, beautiful and their own. Everyone has preferences, for instance, my best friend chose to schedule c-sections for herself - that is HER preference and I think that is amazing. My other friend had a home birth with a midwife & doula - her choice her preference. My other best friend chose a hospital birth center with epidural - her choice her preference. I do not EVER judge or care what ANYONE wants to do in their birth. I think the same goes here - if someone had wanted a scheduled c-section and ended up going into labor and giving birth at home - that could be very traumatizing for them - As it was SO different from their birth preference, ya know? It has nothing to do with feeling like one birth is "better" than another - because I do not believe that. Just way different than anticipated. Hope you enjoy the video!
I dont know why but all of a sudden I had a flash back to watching you put on Sally Hansens spray tan makeup stuff years and years ago 🤣🤣🤣 I'm so proud for you.
Zack, you mentioned you had a mental breakdown yourself. i just want to say we see you. we are so proud of you for being so strong, so calm, for Kristi and baby! we love you, dude
I'm a male UK Paramedic and I have seen many shares of traumatic births. I just wanted to say to ALL women that you are amazing, you astound me with your bravery, tolerance to pain, and sheer determination even when put far too much pressure on yourselves. I hope that your Trauma heals over time and that you are receiving the best help to work through it, I have no doubt what wonderful parents you and Zach will make and have watched you for years. I'm a gay guy I've never watched you for makeup tips but your personality and storytelling captivate me whenever I watch. I've been so busy in the last year with ongoing global catastrophes to spend time catching up on what has been going on. I missed the fact you were even pregnant, so this has been a wonderful binge-watch over Christmas 2021. I wish you all the best over the new year and the coming years...
As a NICU nurse, I truly believe your midwife was your sons hero that day! Even though she wasn’t able to be there for the delivery, getting you guys to the hospital was crucial. Let’s not forget....you and Zach LISTENED to her advice. Never forget what an amazing advocate you were for your son on that AMAZING day!!! Thanks for sharing such an important story! So much love to you and your beautiful family! 💗💗💗💗
THIS! As mothers we can never predict how it going to go when we bring our children into this world, but ultimately what we all want is the best for our babies and you did what you needed to do to protect your little guy right from the start! All of your feelings are totally valid, and you’re a great mom. ❤️
Oh I’m so thankful you got an epidural. The stress could not be good for baby and you. You did your research and changed your plan when needed. Well done mom!
Zach is an award winning support system... him breathing with you is everything. The fact that full on labor kristi is still a comedian is also everything. You’re a superhero mama and you did a wonderful, wonderful job!
My mum has supported a lot of her friends during labour and said that during labour, women are brutally honest and sharp tongued. She says the insults from a person in labour are unmatched and then refused to tell me any of the things said because they were that bad..
I so admire your bravery to open yourself here. I was in labor for 48 hours with my first child, which has become a non ending source of great fun for our family, and since he has a WONDERFUL sense of humor, and he knows how much we love him, he LOVES the teasing and gives it right back! Lol Around the time he turned 15, 16, I used to wake him up 48 hours before his birthday, and would whisper "Justin...48 hours" . When he was working in another state, he called me COLLECT, so as a Mom I'm all worried something happened. Instead, he just said "48 hours Mom. Love you"" and hung up. Even his sister gets in on the joke. Her favorite line is "48 hours of labor, and THIS is what we got! It's all done/said with great love. He's 45 now, and Still loves this joke, so it lives on. My only piece of advise is "enjoy your son"
Anyone who knows you, meaning your channel, knows how prepared and ready you were! You made it your literal job, you learned even more that you already knew (which was a lot) and you are so self aware and responsible. You're gonna be a great mother, one that inspires so many to keep pushing on and to be down to earth, all with love, care and compassion. The negative comments, by strangers (or not) are nothing more than garbage blow in the wind and they have one thing in common: they don't know you, don't understand you and lastly but not last importantly: they can not be about you. Why? Because if they indeed did know you, they simply wouldn't exist. No one is perfect but you are close to that perfection momma, and your husband and your beautiful baby know it, and they are the only ones that matter.
You’re literally the ONLY person I’d sit and watch an hour birth story for!! Seriously though I’ve been following you since the start of your pregnancy and I’m so happy to see you become a mama!
@@carolannemonteleone5276 completely the same here! Myself and my boyfriend have decided to remain childfree (just a personal choice!) But I'm absolutely sobbing at this video - I'm SO happy for them, I've followed Kristi for such a long time and it's just so beautiful 💛
@Rawbeautykristi Omg I am completely balling my eye's out right now! I am so so happy and excited for the three of you! You both will be the most amazing mommy and daddy! He is so beautiful..so precious and the greatest gift you'll ever recieve! Enjoy every second..they grow so fast.! I can't stop crying the most happy tears ever! I love you all so so much! I really hope I don't see anything negative! You look beautiful momma! You literally fought for your baby boy..I am so happy you both are doing well.! I really hope you don't get alot of unsolicited advice! You trust your instincts girl.. Congratulations Kristi and Zac! Sending you tons of hugs! He's such a gorgeous baby boy! 👶👪 Stay safe! xoxo hydie ❤😁😢
It’s so true. Downplaying traumatic birth means women aren’t prepared and then when it happens to them they feel like they can’t talk about it. 22 years later I can still remember the attitudes of “you have a healthy baby why are we still talking about this?” I got when trying to process my own traumatic birth experience.
Agreed. I literally have PTSD from giving birth to my daughter and people look at me like I’m being “dramatic” when I try and tell them my story. I love that Kristi is opening the conversation
Honestly everyone makes fun of women who do their hair and makeup and shaving and all that before going in for birth, but the truth is there is a lot of time before it’s going to happen and these little mundane tasks can kill time and be so self-soothing. Grooming and taking care of yourself is a really great way to calm nerves.
It's also the last time that they may be able to do that for themselves for a while, I would want to enjoy doing myself up one last time if I knew everything was about to change.
Yea and also if we think about it, most ppl get ready for special events and bringing a life into the world is probably the one of the most important and special events ever. So why not? When I found out I was pregnant I told my husband I want to curl my hair lol I wanna look good for my baby's arrival n for the photos!
I watched my sister do a full beat while she was in labor, and I remember our family just roasting her. It may seem silly to put on false lashes before giving birth, but that’s just her. Whatever your personality is and whatever you use to cope or ready yourself for intense life experiences should not be ignored just because you’re having a baby
@@xenaloree1138 props to her 👏 thats honestly impressive especially if the look held up throughout the process. I cant even wear makeup for a day of nothing without ruining it and looking trash later
Coming back to comment on this video, I was told I would never have children. I cried hearing your beautiful story being so happy for you. I’m Now 30 weeks with a baby boy ! Made me think of you and want to rewatch your story ❤ love you Kristi! ❤
Dude...I felt that to my core! When you're contracting like that and people are trying to talk to you and ask questions...I about lost it. Took everything in me not to to respond with obscenities. Lol
When i had my second baby the nurse that was doing my paper work asked me what was my name and i remmember i said i do not know i do not remmember 🤣🤣🤣.
That one nurse at the end when you were about to give birth, telling the other nurses abt your infertility story like a proud friend was SO SWEET and honestly made me tear up!! And Zach just looking at you so lovingly the entire time... omg. Through all of the pain and horror, what a beautiful ending
I won’t go into details but I’d just Like to say you are not the only one getting help after birth. My son turned 3 in January and I still speak to someone monthly in order to deal with my emotions from delivery. You are a strong woman, I am a strong woman, every woman is strong and it is 100% ok to have and feel whatever emotions you have going on.
Proud of you! Being a mom, hormonally, physically, emotionally so tough. You are WORTHY of being surrounded in your head by self love and worth. You guys are rockstars.
Honestly, you are my hero. I am 70 years old and I still remember the labor I felt and I went through when I gave birth to my twins 51 years ago and my daughter 54 years ago and each one in labor over a day and a half, . it is so easy how people down play women in childbirth, but when I was young old folks used to say that a woman having a baby was a hair away from death. Now, to date women are still dying during childbirth even with all the medical technology, so every one needs to know that becoming a mother is so much more then getting pregnant and pushing.!! Congratulations 🎉🎈🍾🎊 on your beautiful baby Boy, I’m sure he’s almost 4 years old now, God Bless your family ♥️🙏🏽✝️🩸🔥
As a woman who was told I may never have babies, a failed hypnobirther and now a mom, and also a postpartum nurse, I so appreciated the honesty in this video. I cry every time I watch this video. Congratulations and enjoy the ride! :)
Midwife: “are you having a contraction?” Kristi: “I don’t know anything” I felt that! Remember saying the same thing when I was in labor to my midwife.
Amen! I remember thinking I can't do this, the pain is excruciating. Like how do women get through this! I did and still don't know how. Our miracle was worth it of course but the wave of emotions and the pain and uncertainty of labor I don't miss! 🥰
The midwife acknowledging your 16 years of infertility and struggles to get here right after you felt his head during pushing was SO BEAUTIFUL TO ME. After everything you had been through, from the infertility to the excruciating labor... it all lead to this beautiful moment that was SO WORTH IT. I am so happy for you, Kristi. Oh my GOD this is amazing.
My heart goes out to you, dear! I also had a very traumatic birth. I was prepared mentally for it to be bad, but what happened surpassed my expectations tenfold. Everything was going well until the actual birth. No matter how hard I pushed it just wouldnt come out. 30 mins later the doctor literally stuck his hands in and pulled it out. Turns out the baby was tangled in his cord 3 times. But I kept bleeding out. Was under general annestesia two times while they tried to save my ovaries, as well as my life. Spend 24h in reanimation, got 4 banks of blood and lots of other stuff, 4 days of continuous pain, 4 days bedridden without being able to see my child. I was so exhausted physically, mentally and emotionally that I couldnt even feel the happiness when they brought my son. I felt so guilty about it and the memory still haunts me almost 2 years later. There are details I am sure I wouldn't be able to share with anybody.
Ma’am she specifically asked very politely for no horror stories, I’m so sorry this was your experience but let’s just celebrate her baby and validate HER experience!! 🥰
If you have had a kid you understand every story is different and interesting. Your story is valid. I am sorry you went through that. Hopefully with time everything gets better.
I don't wanna give birth, I don't wanna have kids but I watched the whole thing till the end. I am so happy to see you so thrilled and excited omg You deserve this and I love you so much, Kristi!!!
I watched this whole video. I wasn't going to because im a mom of 3 girls pregnant with my 4th and it's my boy finally ❤... I'm 4 weeks away from my due date and I'm finding myself nervous. I had my 1st daughter at 23 and I am now 40 and so I'm nervous that things might be different this time around. Your story took me threw an emotional roller coaster for sure but it's exactly what I needed because, things absolutely can go any which way...I feel close to you without knowing you but I've cried with you, smiled, laughed, worried, celebrated with you and when you brought your son out at the end...I automatically had love for you guys. Thank you for sharing your raw truth. It's real and it's necessary because it's not all rainbows...it's scary and women are absolutely phenomenal! There is no deeper most precious love on earth than a mom n her babies... Your so strong. We're all so strong and don't know it till we're faced n in the thick of it and come out the other side and say I can't believe I just did that lol...your beautiful family is blessed and I just thank you for ur testimony mama...❤
As an L&D nurse I wanted to say I’m so sorry you had such a traumatic experience. Every second feels like a year to everyone in the room including nurses when a baby isn’t crying and it is understandably traumatizing. And in those moments it really is silent to the point you could hear a pin drop as you described even though the room is full of people all working like crazy. All of your feelings, preferences, plans, experiences etc for you (and any mother) are valid and should never be judged or compared to anyone else’s birth experience. No one better comment anything shitty you’ve been through enough already Mama. Glad he ended up being a happy, healthy little chunky baby in the end.
right? I was like a b!tch better not LOL Like I was gonna do something but yeah, so happy to see the comment section be supportive, loving, respectful and GRATEFUL for her sharing her experience. I was terrified when she went radio silent. SO damn glad everything worked out and they have a healthy, happy and loved baby Alder for all of us *aunties and uncles* to love on from afar!
Can I ask you if the lack of oxygen when being born after strangled by a cord, is dangerous? It happened to me and I ended up getting autism and I suspect it was cuz lack of oxygen when I was born.
@@mildlynerdy of course there are some “bad apples” in every field, but I think the majority of us are supportive and non judgmental. But never be afraid to stand up for yourself and ask for a different nurse if you’re not vibing with the one you have. Your birth is about you and you should feel comfortable and supported in any birthing experience and choices you make.
@@Luna-ii4mx I honestly don’t know if there are any links that have been made between autism and hypoxia (low oxygen), but I can say that the cord being wrapped completely or draped (like a scarf) around the neck or the body is fairly common and most have good outcomes at birth. I don’t know the long term effects of it of course because as a nurse we don’t see them long term and get to see how they develop, but the majority of tangled cords have normal oxygen levels during the postpartum period they are in the hospital.
i dont think i have ever watched a video this long on youtube but i enjoyed every second. thank you for being so vulnerable & amazing & your lil bb is SO cute!
I know it's not the focus of the video, but wow how brilliant is Zach? Holding you, and joking, you can hear he stress in his voice but he was there the whole time. He's what a husband should be.
Came to comment the same thing. My husband, distances himself when he's nervous/anxious... So majority of my labor/birth of my boys was me doing it alone with him in the room.
Sweetheart, you have been a mom since conception, you have been improving your self confidence since you looked at that positive stick. You had been preparing for birth for years. Your husband delivered your son, you were the first to hold and love on him. No matter the trauma he endured, to get to you… you are a family. No one will ever take any of that away from the two you! You are a perfect family. Congratulations to all of you.
when you were crying and said “i won’t know anyone” at the hospital and zack said “you’ll know me” i LOST it 😭 then about 100 times after that. moms are fucking superhuman. welcome to the mom club, we’re happy to have you ❤️
I’m not a mother and never plan to be a mother. That being said, I will never understand the people that feel entitled to tell mothers what they ‘should’ do when it comes to giving birth. I don’t even have the words for the trauma you went through. Mothers, you are incredible! I hope the trauma will ease up for you at some point. I’m glad you have your little miracle now!
Right? Birthing an entire human out of your vajine is traumatising, anxious and scary enough as it is, no one needs gatekeeping and judgey weirdos on top of that.
I felt every word you spoke. With my first baby..... she was in position. But back to back. Posterior. A star gazer. My waters had broken naturally 5 days previous so I had to have the gel and the drip to start my labour....omgoodness the pain! Long story short..... 36 hours in labour and 9cm......I stopped progressing and was rushed to theatre for an emergency c section .....my daughter Emily was born via c section weighing 9lb 2.5 and she is now almost 22 years old and it feels like yesterday. You are amazing! Bl00dy amazing. Congratulations x
You did not have to share this with us, but I feel an immense privilege to be able to see this because this is a very intimate precious family moment. Congratulations!
you are the purest form of strength hun! you are a superwoman and your courage to speak about such a traumatic experience and the importance of mental health is admirable! sending you all so much light and love!
@@mariel4085 Why are you even here if you didn't listen to the disclaimer? This is not the place to let your frustrations out. As Kristi said, "Get fucked".
@@mariel4085 if you are here to judge her then please leave, this woman went through so much and if you are not going to be nice or helpful then get out! Kristi is incredible and she went through so much
@@mariel4085 you good? You seem dedicated to leaving hate comments on her videos. Did you forget people can see your comment history just by clicking your username? That’s embarrassing for you honestly lol
I wanted to make the sounds with her. I think I want her with me if by some miracle I do get pregnant I need someone in there that completely gets it lol
You’re allowed mourn the experience you wanted and looked forward to having. You’re allowed to feel hurt and betrayed by the events surrounding the birth of your son. No birth is the same, and every woman experiences different things. My birth was not what I planned, my daughter had to come a month early due to my body failing her (I had GD as well). I went through a 5 day of failed after failed inductions and it was so traumatic for me. I’m still healing. And that’s ok. I wish you nothing but positive, healing energy in your motherhood journey. Hearing your story was an honour, Kristi.
Kristi, I have NEVER shed as many tears, first verification of your pregnancy for you and your husband. All the joys of pregnancy, the expectations when labor begins, THEN the trauma when things go wrong. I sobbed! Zack's silence after birth😢. But, God is good! Answered prayers. I am so happy for all three of you. Wonderful family!
I’m a mom of 4, youngest is 12 and oldest is 19. I have never heard the birthing experience described as well as you just did. I hung on your every word. Thank you for not only telling your story but for validating so many others in the process. You did an amazing job and your little man is so precious. Congratulations y’all!
I feel so honored that you let us into this sensitive, intimate moment of your life. I only cried like a million times. I’ve even kept my husband up to date throughout your pregnancy and everything. You and zack are the epitome of true love and soul connection and I’m so happy God blessed you with the little blessing you deserve. Thank you for letting us be a part of it and being vulnerable. You are going to be the best mommy ever- I can already see it. Thank you for keeping it raw. I love you! 💕
It would be neat to hear Zach sit down and make a video from his perspective, if he felt comfortable doing that. It’s always interesting to hear what a husband felt through it all.
I'm not a mother, but I cried so much through this video. You and your husband going through such intense human experiences literally just ripped open my heart. I'm so glad that you have a healthy baby boy & that you finally got to be parents after everything.💜
I already knew Alder was healthy and totally okay, but as soon as he came out and wasn’t crying my heart sank. It terrified me just watching it even though I knew he would be alright. Thank you for openly and honestly sharing such an emotional part of your life with us.
I’m at your 26 hour breaking point and wow the same thing happened to me, I was stuck at 3.5 after 40 hours (16 at the hospital). I also really didn’t want the epidural, but afterward I said “I regret nothing” and I fell asleep. Gave birth 8 hours later. It humbled me greatly and made me have compassion on all the moms before and after me. I did go on to have another and it was easy, 6 hours first contraction to holding baby. Was 6cm when I arrived at the hospital and I was hardly uncomfortable yet. Wow is every labor different. No regrets on my epidural first birth!
MEEEEE TOOOOOO, OH MY LORD KRISTI YOU BEAUTIFUL SOUL AND YOUR BEAUTIFUL FAMILY. I WANT TO PERSONALLY GAURD IT AND KEEP YOU AND YOUR LOVED ONES FROM ALL HARMS WAYYY. THIS IS SO MUCH.
Me too! And I’m so incredibly happy for the two of them for bringing this sweet boy into the world. I don’t want kids of my own and I’m not good with other people’s kids, but I’m so incredibly happy that Kristi got to have her baby and that he’s okay and they’re all doing so well now
Hearing Kristi say that people negatively said ANYTHING about her birth; hurts me to my soul. She is such a beautiful human being and when I gave birth in Aug 19 and was dealing w/ my own postpartum, watching her videos; watching her joy in everything. Really did help me. I am just so happy for her.
Rewatching this year's after having your sweet baby boy. I hate that this happened to you, and how it effected you. But how things are going now, I truly think it happened for a reason. This experience pushed you to get the help you needed with therapy, and focusing on your mental/physical health that you had pushed off for so long. Your baby came into your life for such bigger reasons, such a bigger purpose.
Ya know you spend years watching this person on your phone or computer, and eventually you feel a closeness to this person you’ve never met, and that doesn’t know you exist. You form a kind of friendship and love for this person. And just like any other relationship in your life you feel for them, and Kristi has such a way of expressing her experiences and feelings. When I tell you a cried watching her go through what she went through, I fucking cried real tears. What you went through, Kristi, was hard. You had a fucking hard labor and delivery. I’ve never felt the things I felt watching you in labor, and recount labor. You are so fucking incredible.
This is exactly how I feel to, she’s such a wonderful, amazing person, I’m so sad she had such a hard hard time😭 i care about her so much and I’m so happy they are both safe🖤
I had my son 23 years ago and I’ve never heard anyone describe anything close to what I went through until now. It’s 4am and I’m sobbing because someone else felt like I felt. I ended up with a c section but I just have never been able to relate to anyone else’s emotions and I felt for so long like I was the only woman who stared death in the face in what was supposed to be and at the same was the best moments of my life. I was just 18 then and it’s taken 23 years for me to hear from you a lot of what I felt. So... Thank you. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for sharing your story. You are a Goddess. You are superhuman and nothing that you feel is wrong. Not one thought that you have is bad or wrong. Everything you felt, feel and ever will feel is perfectly natural. You have made me feel...for the first time in my life...like I am not alone and I was not alone in how I felt and thought in the long terrifying hours of my sons birth. In the long nights alone with my son after the birth. Thank you so much for sharing your story. And you’re right! He is the cutest baby ever!!
Absolutely with you on this. I felt like my birth story was being narrated even though I also ended up with an emergency c-section. Lots of love to you too 🤍
I am totally with you. When my seventeen year old son was born it was horrifyingly traumatizing. After days of brutal ineffective labor we had to have an a emergency cesarean and I had no pain meds and felt it all. It was discovered during the surgery (during which 6 people physically held me down because I was screaming and flailing in pain) that I had a bandl's ring. Thanks to that ring, both of us nearly died. I had never heard anyone talk about a traumatizing birth and I felt like I had failed. I had no one to talk to who understood and no one I could relate to. I loved my midwife (she stayed through the birth despite having the surgeon take over) but she accidentally made me feel worse at my first post birth appointment by telling me it was the scariest birth she witnessed in 20 years. I felt like there was something very wrong with me. I went through terrible PPd, ptsd etc. I wish I had heard Kristy's story back then. I wouldn't have felt so alone. I would have looked at Kristy and known she had done nothing wrong and hopefully would have seen myself in a more positive light. Kristy is so brave, strong, and generous for sharing this. We were not owed her story, but she shared so other women could hear. This is so much better than the hushed way no one would speak about difficult birth stories when my baby was born. Im am amazed and humbled by Kristy in this moment.
Same girl! My son is almost 3 now, and I've never heard a story so similar to mine. It was actually so comforting to hear her being so honest about her feeling through it all. It's exactly how I felt.
@@jsan3743 "had to have an a emergency cesarean and I had no pain meds and felt it al" omg what? I am so sorry you went through that but I can not even believe why a C-Section would be done without pain meds. Didn't they work or was there no time to wait? Horrified just by the thought of it. And I'm already scared of needles •.•
Crazy because I am like you I'm feeling her story because I have exact same thing happen but even crazier because now I'm reading your comment and I got pregnant the very first time I had sex a month before I turn 18 probably TMI but anywho I had my daughter when I was 18 she's now 23 and I had the exact same thing happen and although I was expecting to have a normal birth I was 2 weeks overdue had to go into the hospital they started pitocin overnight and the next day I still haven't dilated and my water still hasn't broke the increase my pitocin eventually broke my water for me it resealed they broke it again and with an hour after that which at that point was about 9:30 the second night a nurse was in my room started screaming down the hall next thing I know there's 15 people around me putting oxygen on my face and pushing my whole bed down the hall saying I was at the emergency C-section I was so scared mind you I'm 18 so I'm sure that didn't help but I just started the crying and could not stop I thought something was wrong with my baby I thought I was going to lose her but I will say also after my c-section at a beautiful healthy baby poor Christie but some of our bodies just aren't meant they have babies naturally I guess because three kids later every single time even the second time when I went into labor on my own on time and my contractions we're a minute and a half to 3 minutes apart for 48 hours 2 days with contractions around every two minutes and that one time with my body dilate past 2 cm on its own but also not one time would my water break on its own I literally feel like there's something wrong with my cervix where I just cannot dilate but I also feel blessed to be able to get pregnant at all especially three times when there's people out there like my sister who's ever gotten pregnant on her own and can't have kids and Christy who it took 15 years and didn't think she'd be able to have kids
"I don't know anybody and I'm scared." My heart broke. Not knowing anyone is really scary I'm sure. I've never given birth but I think you are incredibly strong.
@@leah5295 I was thinking about Sam as I was watching this, hoping this doesn't scare her haha. It's unbelievable what Kristi went through! I'm sobbing. What an incredible, amazing, resilient human. Alder is so beautiful, I'm so happy for her and Zack ❤
Honestly anyone who has anything bad to say to kristi about anything she went through during her labor can get fucked. It’s different for all people and she’s showing us the raw dark and beauty side of it 🥺
It’s mind blowing to me that mothers will put each other down based on their birth experience. Unless someone made a choice that put themselves and/or baby in danger, who is to say someone’s experience is inferior to another. We are all human and all came into this world the same way (to some degree)
@@GraceMariex3 I honestly couldn't agree more, I couldn't care less if someone gave birth naturally in 25 minutes and it was amazing, or if it was the most traumatic experience imaginable. We all deserve the exact same level of respect and admiration for the lives we created 🤍
My second son (born 6-12-22) came quick. My water broke at 5:45 and I gave birth at the hospital at 7:00 am. I only had a few contractions and the ones at first weren't so bad at all but the couple right before birth were super intense. It was unmedicated and i pushed for about 5 minutes before he came out and i had almost no pain. Everyone is different and you did absolutely AMAZING! I've always admired women who labor long with no epidural and you did it for so so long hun and suffered so much so please don't ever let anyone make you feel guilty. I had an epidural with my first son and it was a life saver. Your son is gorgeous and you both will be the best parents ever! ❤🥰🙏🏻👶🏼
Sorry this is totally off topic a little bit but my birthday is 6-12 😁 and my brother is 3 years younger than me and his birthday is also 6-12.. I'm 41 and hes 38. I just thought that was really cool 😉
He IS! I have 2 kids, and I've told my hubby the same thing. 😂 BTW, my hubby has been shown every pic and IG story since the baby has been born 😁 He agrees that this little guy is the cutest baby ever 💗 (but don't tell my kids! 😂😂😂)
I had to have a hysterectomy at 26, so I'll never experience pregnancy or birth for myself. I'm so happy you made this video and took the time to talk through how things felt and that you didn't sugar-coat any of it.
Uterus implanting surgeries are there. I had read a news about it in my country india. So, might be possible elsewhere.so if u have wish Dont lose hope beautifull..
I delivered my firstborn a day after you. My birth was so similar to yours and i still can’t talk about it. Watching this while breastfeeding my babyboy and i have never held him tighter. Typing this while tears are streaming down my face. Thank you so much for sharing. We are warriors. We are superhuman. We survived and will thrive. I salute you 🙌🏻❤️
Sweety. I relate to your story so much. My first was an emergency section due hospital incompetency. My second, just 21 months later was identical to what you went through. Both my boys are 23 & 24 now. But I know I still have trauma from their births and the way I was treated in hospital. I had postpartum depression after both births which lasted a very long time. I do hope you got the help you needed. Your little boy is gorgeous ❤ he must be about 4 by now!
I remember commenting on your announcement as I was pregnant at the same time but sadly I lost my little baby. I’m 20 weeks pregnant today and this video has me sobbing. I’m so so happy for you and zach. Your the most beautiful mother and I’m enjoying watching your journey. Sending you so much love xxxx
Condolences on your little baby, that's absolutely devastating and absolutely get therapy if you need it. There's support groups online and just know you are not alone in your loss. But on the other hand, CONGRATULATIONS on your current pregnancy, and I hope everything goes as smooth as possible for you and the bub. I've never had/want kids/ I have aspirations to be the cool aunt, so I don't have any personal experience with pregnancy, but just know this random person is 100% rooting for you.
I was on Pitocin for 29 hours with my first child. No pain meds. My son was in distress and I was close an emergency C-Section. I finally relented and agreed to an epidural. This relaxed me so much that I went from a 6 dilated to a 10, and 30 minutes later I was holding my baby boy. Pitocin is NO joke! ❤
I’ve miscarried 4 times and I just want to be a mom and I didn’t have hope until I found your page. I’m so thankful for this series, I’m hoping that I can In the future I’m hoping for a miracle. Thank you Kristi!
People only wanna document those calm not scary birth stories. So Kristi, THANK YOU FOR BEING HONEST. I am so appreciative of your vulnerability and honest story.
@@Raya-ir4tm I’m not shaming those who don’t share it. I’m just thanking her for being vulnerable and sharing her story! I’m going to be an L&D nurse and I don’t really hear of stories like hers being told, but to me, these stories are equally as important to hear. And I do think Kristi is humble and amazing for sharing her story. It’s never easy talking about a traumatic experience.
@@isabelahaeger2635 but....you actually did 😑 For me personally, I’ve never heard of a “calm not scary” birth story.....ever 🤷🏼♀️ Birth is violent in and of itself. The expectation otherwise is just delusional, lol!
I totally understand what you went through. I was in labor 39 hours and 36 minutes with my first son and the Patosin contractions are horrendous. I don't wish that upon my worst enemy. I ended up having to have no pain medicine because after they started the Petosin first few hours his heart rate and my heart rate started dropping, so therefore, I could have no pain medicine for the contractions. So I went in on Monday night, so started having the contractions shortly. , went until Tuesday morning without anything. Finally, they were able to start giving us a little bit of pain medicine. When tea and our heart rate started staying steady unfortunately, it happened again and they had to stop the pain medicine again. So I went all the way until Wednesday morning at 9 AM with no pain medicine so I totally understand. What you say about the Potosin. contractions. Thank God when I finally got my epidural. I was able to relax my water broke. And they had given me till 12 o'clock to have my son. Or they were gonna have to do a c section and I was petrified of them cutting me. I did not want that no matter What I finally about 10:30 started.Having to push and I gave birth to him at eleven thirty six that morning but I am it's so grateful that I didn't have to have A c section.
Can we please give Zack serious props as well as Kristi? He was a fucking champ the whole time, and so supportive. That little baby is so lucky to have not only Kristi as a mom, but Zack as a dad. And he's such a cute little chonker!!!
I think I can speak for EVERYONE when I say that motherhood suits you so, so beautifully. Your voice is incredibly powerful; please don’t stop sharing your story, so many people can benefit from hearing it! You would make an amazing birth advocate.
I have made 2 comments and deleted both on here, I'm not very eloquent, but this ☝comment! Sending you and your new family all the love! He is perfect, you are perfect, and let's not forget about zack ❤
My heart goes out to you for the experience that you have and what your precious baby boy had and I'm so grateful that you and your beautiful beautiful son are okay now. Thank you for your honesty. May you continue to heal from your trauma which is 100% real and understandable. Enjoy your bundle of joy and have a really good life. You're a wonderful mom
I just want to say, you're so brave for committing to your preferences and not wanting an epidural. And then to take it in stride when things didn't go your way. I'm speechless. I don't think I could ever be that brave. Your commitment to wanting to bring your son into the world the way you thought was right was so heart touching. Also, Zack was amazing. I have no words. Girls, get you a man that's that supportive of you. That's that positive and stays with you when you're struggling and puts you first. You guys brought me to tears. Thank you for sharing all of this, I know reliving it can't have been easy
Only a gifted storyteller can have me wincing, cringing, crying, laughing, sympathizing, empathizing, crying, chuckling, exhausted, anticipating, frantic, empathizing, astonished, on pins-n-needles, smiling, crying, sympathizing, cracking up, consoling, relieved, etc. etc. (and round-n-round I went!) and ending with the huge urge to hug you and hand you a glass of wine 🍷. Wow! It felt like I was watching a thriller of sorts. He’s absolutely gorgeous ❤️. So so glad you’re doing better.
My only hope is that if I ever have children, I just hope to be as lucky to have a husband as supportive as Zach. Congratulations. You are amazing. Thank you for sharing this!
Re-watching this a few years later. Your story gave my daughter hope in the middle of a 9 year infertility journey, including 7 losses. She just gave birth to the beautiful baby girl her family prayed for, especially my granddaughter who really wanted a baby sister. Their family is complete. I'm also a birth doula. Stories like yours and hers just comfirm for me that God is real, prayers work, and hope springs eternal. Blessings to you all, particularly those of you still waiting for your baby miracle. ❤
Shoutout to your husband for being the PERFECT birthing partner. We didn’t expect less! Birth is an insane roller coaster of an experience and you are completely validated in whatever you feel about it. Anyone who has an opinion about your birth can block themselves.
Kristi, I had been enthusiastically sharing your story with my boyfriend ever since you announced your pregnancy. the day your water broke is the day that he left me, and shortly afterwards I found out that I was pregnant. I’ve been terrified since that day, but this story gave me so much peace. thank you ❤️
You got this girl!! He left but you aren't alone & you deserve best which obviously wasn't him anyway. Keep sharing & you will get thru this. Xoxo...or I guess it is air hugs & kisses these days...lol
He was dead weight. You are not alone. I pray that you will get through with flying colours and that your little one will be healthy and a blessing to you. ❤️
My mom told me that when I was born I didn't cry or breathe for 10 minutes and the doctors and herself kept rubbing and shaking me, and eventually I started to cry but had to stay at the hospital for 2 weeks. I'm 23 years old now. Whenever she tells this story to someone she always starts crying and I always say "well I'm here now, stop crying, I'm fine" but after watching your video I finally understand what she went through when I wasn't breathing and now I'm sobbing
Tears, throughout your entire journey. I get you, miracles still happen , every journey is different,, and yet sometimes to hold that miracle..... bumps and valleys happen along the way. Mine is 42 now and yours is having his birthday in 2 days!! Pure joy wishes for your family's celebration of this miracle.
I can’t imagine criticizing a women over how they choose to give birth. Your story is incredibly traumatic and the strength you have to go through it and then talk about it and share your story with millions of people is incredible. You and all other mothers are incredibly strong and powerful. Much love to you, Zach, and your beautiful baby boy ❤️❤️❤️
Mothers should be able to talk about their traumatic birth experiences. It would normalize that not all birth experiences are happy and rainbows. I’m so glad you’re putting your mental health first and giving your son the best life he could possibly have. (Also props to Zack for being literally the best husband ever.)
My mom was in labor with me for almost 72 hours.... The doctor that delivered me almost killed us both because she was on the labor hormone for too long. Made it out okay obviously, but another woman wasn't so lucky as he let her bleed to death. As far as I know he was sued and is no longer practicing. She wasn't supposed to be able to have kids too and now she has three. She had PCOS and every time she had cysts removed and ended up pregnant
@@littleplague5988 This is so horrible. I’m glad you and your mom are okay. But I mean this so disrespectfully, FUCK that doctor and I hope he’s in jail for manslaughter.
Congratulations on the arrival of your beautiful son. Obviously, 3 years have passed, but this is the first time I have seen your video. You did great. Enjoy every minute, they grow too fast. Xx
I had my daughter 13 years ago and NO ONE talked about what a woman’s body goes through after they give birth. There are millions of books about pregnancy and birth then is like, “ok, you have your baby now, carry on, go be a mom”. I’m so glad that women are willing to discuss postpartum and help women know that they are not alone.
I commented something like this about 2 years ago on another video that everyone will talk about healthy eating while pregnant, exercises, how to get a room ready, items to buy, what bottles are highly rated, what to pack to go to the hospital, and a million other things, but NOT ONCE did anything ever mention what to expect during postpartum. Someone replied to my comment saying I could easily google it and it's my own fault for not being prepared. How does one prepare for something they're not aware of? I understand post surgery healing and such, but I honestly had no idea about the nuances of postpartum recovery until I was thrown into it. That reply to the comment still irks me 2 years later. Loll
I agree with you 100% I had my daughter 15 yrs ago this July and im still traumatized from giving birth. I instantly had post partum and was treated for it for literally yrs shit even now. The epidural didnt work I was like the exorcist. I swear my head spun. And let me tell you when i finally got my 9lb baby out they didnt even let me see her nm put her on me. Then hrs later i started to hemorrhage and was rushed to the OR for a DNC i passed out and didnt see my baby till the next day.
@@RandyButternubs917 I dont blame you. It irked me just reading it. So either that person didnt have a baby yet or wasnt blessed with post partum. We may let a comment irk us but we were strong enough to over come what we had to go through. For the most part lol.
@THISIS THEGIRLI think everyone is different. I'm an OB nurse who is very educated about post partum and was completely blind sighted by it. For me it made me feel I was a terrible mother so I saw those resources through that lens even though I knew better. There was no way I was going to join a support group and tell other women what a failure of a mother I was. That's where my head was. I told no one. I just got lucky that I worked with my OB who recognized it immediately and prescribed me medication before that fog lifted and I saw what was happening. However if I would of came across her and watched another mother go through it without me having to admit I was struggling it would of made a difference. I only have one child for a reason and I could never willingly go through that again. I swear I cried so much my son looked at me like good god woman get it together I'm the one who is supposed to cry all the time not you.
And to all those who so wished they COULD be mothers, who sadly just can’t for whatever reason..... You’re doing brill too, and it’s not your fault ❤️ You’re still whole. And valid....and wonderful as you are.
For the person who has been there as the nurse taking the baby and the person who takes care of them when they are in the NICU, I can truly say I’ve never got to watch the emotions of the family unfold like this. In the moment, it’s all focus on baby. I sobbed. I always knew it was hard and those seconds to minutes feel like ages to us too, but no one has been able to tell the whole story to us like you just did. Thank you for sharing your story to the world even when you didn’t have to 🥺💙 I’ve honestly been terrified of giving birth since the day I found out I was pregnant. This surprisingly helped ease the nerves some in a way that’s hard to explain. Can’t wait for the postpartum video!
This gave me all the feelings! 1. I’m so happy for you and your hubby. I don’t *virtually* know two more deserving people to be blessed with parenthood. 2. Your experience was so similar to my first delivery. It’s so traumatic and mind fucking when you have a specific plan and it doesn’t go that way. 3. Your little guy is seriously the cutest!!! Big congratulations to you all!!!
I am a 70yr. old grandmother. Mother of 3. Was a Doula for many years. I am waiting on my 3rd grandson due any minute. Thank you so much for telling your birth story in your raw beauty way. This is helping me prepare for supporting my daughter in law in the best way I can. Blessings and love to you and your family.
This did not feel like over an hour, I was so invested. Giving birth is crazy, you‘re a superhuman for enduring it like this wow. mad respect. Thank you for sharing this and being so open and honest.
I know I'm 3 years late to your birth. Firstly I'm so happy for you that you were able to finally have a baby, after 15 years of infertility. As to you birth story, I know exactly how you felt. I went through exactly the same as you. The pain when they put you on that medication to increase your contractions is sooooooooo painful, I thought I was going to die too. I've never experienced such unbearable pain in all my life. Sadly, even though I got to 8cms, they told me I was in trouble, because I had Eclampsia . They told me I had to have a Caesarean. I was crushed, but I'm glad my son was ok and although it took me 1 year to get well. The eclampsia made me so ill. My lovely boy is now 25 and my little miracle. You were so brave and strong, but you did it and I'm so happy that he was ok and you too. I guess he's 3 years old now. Bless his sweet little life. I was riveted watching your story. God bless your little family. ❤❤❤❤
As someone 6 months pregnant with no baby experience whatsoever, this was so incredibly helpful to hear. Many people share with me their traumatic birthing stories and they make it sound hopeless, like there's a wrong way and you have no say. You told this so well and in a weird way eased a LOT of my own worries. I am so happy for you three, you give me so much hope for what's to come 💗
5 months here, and same! I have no idea what to expect and it being shared in such an open and honest way is the best. Kristi; congratulations for you and your family Also Zoe; congratulations on your baby
I’m not a mom but a youtuber I really like, Dor Sack, on just posted their birth story too (both a vlog of the day and another sit down one post-labor with a lot of info and insight) and might be helpful too?? Good luck! You’ll be great!
Hey guys! I'M BACK & I AM A MOMMY! I have been away for 3 MONTHS on maternity leave which is unbelievable, on December 1st I had my miracle baby after 15 years of infertility! I said in this in the description BUT I want to make it BLATANTLY CLEAR that I have ZERO issues with hospitals, with epidurals, with c-sections, none of that. I think EVERY way that ANYONE wants to birth is valid, beautiful and their own. Everyone has preferences, for instance, my best friend chose to schedule c-sections for herself - that is HER preference and I think that is amazing. My other friend had a home birth with a midwife & doula - her choice her preference. My other best friend chose a hospital birth center with epidural - her choice her preference. I do not EVER judge or care what ANYONE wants to do in their birth. I think the same goes here - if someone had wanted a scheduled c-section and ended up going into labor and giving birth at home - that could be very traumatizing for them - As it was SO different from their birth preference, ya know? It has nothing to do with feeling like one birth is "better" than another - because I do not believe that. Just way different than anticipated. Hope you enjoy the video!
love your family so much 🥺❤️
So so happy you are back! We love you guys 😘
I dont know why but all of a sudden I had a flash back to watching you put on Sally Hansens spray tan makeup stuff years and years ago 🤣🤣🤣 I'm so proud for you.
You guys look proud as punch in those first hold photos.....so so special 🥰
So great to see you............❤️❤️❤️Thank You So Much🥰
This is the best unboxing I've ever seen.
lol
Right!
LMAOOOO
Why is this the funniest comment I've ever seen on the internet?
Haha top comment!!
Zack, you mentioned you had a mental breakdown yourself. i just want to say we see you. we are so proud of you for being so strong, so calm, for Kristi and baby! we love you, dude
Dads can really be superheroes! I know the father of my child was!!
Hard out.... Every time he said something encouraging to her it set me off crying.....
Good job Zach!!
We love you for taking such good care of our girl!🙌🏼
No seriously!
“i don’t know anybody there”
zack: “you know me” 🥺
Why did this make me cry and I'm only 3 seconds in and haven't seen anything yet
29:54 for anyone who needs it
I lost it here 😭 I love mom and dad
rae x 💕🌸
That got me too
I'm a male UK Paramedic and I have seen many shares of traumatic births. I just wanted to say to ALL women that you are amazing, you astound me with your bravery, tolerance to pain, and sheer determination even when put far too much pressure on yourselves. I hope that your Trauma heals over time and that you are receiving the best help to work through it, I have no doubt what wonderful parents you and Zach will make and have watched you for years. I'm a gay guy I've never watched you for makeup tips but your personality and storytelling captivate me whenever I watch. I've been so busy in the last year with ongoing global catastrophes to spend time catching up on what has been going on. I missed the fact you were even pregnant, so this has been a wonderful binge-watch over Christmas 2021. I wish you all the best over the new year and the coming years...
Thank you for all the thousands of patients you save. Thank you for your honesty
Do you want any kids?!
As a NICU nurse, I truly believe your midwife was your sons hero that day! Even though she wasn’t able to be there for the delivery, getting you guys to the hospital was crucial. Let’s not forget....you and Zach LISTENED to her advice. Never forget what an amazing advocate you were for your son on that AMAZING day!!! Thanks for sharing such an important story! So much love to you and your beautiful family! 💗💗💗💗
THIS! As mothers we can never predict how it going to go when we bring our children into this world, but ultimately what we all want is the best for our babies and you did what you needed to do to protect your little guy right from the start! All of your feelings are totally valid, and you’re a great mom. ❤️
Living for this comment ♥️♥️♥️♥️
That's a great perspective ❤️
Oh I’m so thankful you got an epidural. The stress could not be good for baby and you. You did your research and changed your plan when needed. Well done mom!
This comment made me cry, so beautiful. So true
I am here and I am ready to sob hysterically
I'm here with you girl
Just texted the same thing to all my friends
Checking in for my midday sob 🙋🏻♀️🥺
Same girl
me too hannah
Zach is an award winning support system... him breathing with you is everything. The fact that full on labor kristi is still a comedian is also everything. You’re a superhero mama and you did a wonderful, wonderful job!
I thought the same exact thing
My mum has supported a lot of her friends during labour and said that during labour, women are brutally honest and sharp tongued. She says the insults from a person in labour are unmatched and then refused to tell me any of the things said because they were that bad..
Totally what I was thinking. My husband just sat there and watched me and slept when they told me to try and get some sleep.
YESSSS we are team Zach over here 🙌🏼 they are the best couple and it was so heartwarming to hear her talk about how his energy kept her going 😭
Totally agree
I so admire your bravery to open yourself here. I was in labor for 48 hours with my first child, which has become a non ending source of great fun for our family, and since he has a WONDERFUL sense of humor, and he knows how much we love him, he LOVES the teasing and gives it right back! Lol Around the time he turned 15, 16, I used to wake him up 48 hours before his birthday, and would whisper "Justin...48 hours" . When he was working in another state, he called me COLLECT, so as a Mom I'm all worried something happened. Instead, he just said "48 hours Mom. Love you"" and hung up. Even his sister gets in on the joke. Her favorite line is "48 hours of labor, and THIS is what we got! It's all done/said with great love. He's 45 now, and Still loves this joke, so it lives on. My only piece of advise is "enjoy your son"
I love this 🥰
shout out to zack for seemingly having the calmest, quietest energy.
Anyone who knows you, meaning your channel, knows how prepared and ready you were! You made it your literal job, you learned even more that you already knew (which was a lot) and you are so self aware and responsible. You're gonna be a great mother, one that inspires so many to keep pushing on and to be down to earth, all with love, care and compassion. The negative comments, by strangers (or not) are nothing more than garbage blow in the wind and they have one thing in common: they don't know you, don't understand you and lastly but not last importantly: they can not be about you. Why? Because if they indeed did know you, they simply wouldn't exist. No one is perfect but you are close to that perfection momma, and your husband and your beautiful baby know it, and they are the only ones that matter.
You’re literally the ONLY person I’d sit and watch an hour birth story for!! Seriously though I’ve been following you since the start of your pregnancy and I’m so happy to see you become a mama!
@@carolannemonteleone5276 completely the same here! Myself and my boyfriend have decided to remain childfree (just a personal choice!) But I'm absolutely sobbing at this video - I'm SO happy for them, I've followed Kristi for such a long time and it's just so beautiful 💛
yes!!
AMD THATS FACTSS
@Rawbeautykristi Omg I am completely balling my eye's out right now! I am so so happy and excited for the three of you! You both will be the most amazing mommy and daddy! He is so beautiful..so precious and the greatest gift you'll ever recieve! Enjoy every second..they grow so fast.! I can't stop crying the most happy tears ever! I love you all so so much! I really hope I don't see anything negative! You look beautiful momma! You literally fought for your baby boy..I am so happy you both are doing well.! I really hope you don't get alot of unsolicited advice! You trust your instincts girl.. Congratulations Kristi and Zac! Sending you tons of hugs! He's such a gorgeous baby boy! 👶👪 Stay safe! xoxo hydie ❤😁😢
Uh same!
I discovered I am pregnant last week and I can’t thank you enough for posting this. ❤❤❤
More people need to talk about traumatic births . To normalize them . Not every birth is like Instagram
It’s so true. Downplaying traumatic birth means women aren’t prepared and then when it happens to them they feel like they can’t talk about it. 22 years later I can still remember the attitudes of “you have a healthy baby why are we still talking about this?” I got when trying to process my own traumatic birth experience.
Yep 👆👆
Agreed. I literally have PTSD from giving birth to my daughter and people look at me like I’m being “dramatic” when I try and tell them my story. I love that Kristi is opening the conversation
Even Instagram births aren’t like instagram.
Amen, amen, amen!!!!
Honestly everyone makes fun of women who do their hair and makeup and shaving and all that before going in for birth, but the truth is there is a lot of time before it’s going to happen and these little mundane tasks can kill time and be so self-soothing. Grooming and taking care of yourself is a really great way to calm nerves.
LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK 👏🏻👏🏻
It's also the last time that they may be able to do that for themselves for a while, I would want to enjoy doing myself up one last time if I knew everything was about to change.
Yea and also if we think about it, most ppl get ready for special events and bringing a life into the world is probably the one of the most important and special events ever. So why not? When I found out I was pregnant I told my husband I want to curl my hair lol I wanna look good for my baby's arrival n for the photos!
I watched my sister do a full beat while she was in labor, and I remember our family just roasting her. It may seem silly to put on false lashes before giving birth, but that’s just her. Whatever your personality is and whatever you use to cope or ready yourself for intense life experiences should not be ignored just because you’re having a baby
@@xenaloree1138 props to her 👏 thats honestly impressive especially if the look held up throughout the process. I cant even wear makeup for a day of nothing without ruining it and looking trash later
Zack: “you think you’re there but you’re not there yet”
Kristi: “you have never known anything”
Zack: “that’s true” lol 😂
“You know nothing John Snow”
They are the best couple ever!
Laughed so hard at that!!! It was awesome.
This was my favorite!!! I swear it’s something every mom has felt!!
@Paola Garcia 22:46 !
Coming back to comment on this video, I was told I would never have children. I cried hearing your beautiful story being so happy for you. I’m
Now 30 weeks with a baby boy ! Made me think of you and want to rewatch your story ❤ love you Kristi! ❤
Congrats mama! Hope you have/had an amazing labour and birth and a healthy baby. Take care ❤❤
Hope you and baby are happy and healthy!
🎉Congratulations🎉 👏🙌🙏
Congratulations!!
How are you doing now? I hope everything turned out well. Sending you all by best wishes
"are you having a contraction?"
"i don't know anything"
"okay"
This was prob my fave quote from the whole thing, and there were some good ones haha
that's the most relatable quote when you're in that kind of pain.
Dude...I felt that to my core! When you're contracting like that and people are trying to talk to you and ask questions...I about lost it. Took everything in me not to to respond with obscenities. Lol
Accurate lmao
When i had my second baby the nurse that was doing my paper work asked me what was my name and i remmember i said i do not know i do not remmember 🤣🤣🤣.
That one nurse at the end when you were about to give birth, telling the other nurses abt your infertility story like a proud friend was SO SWEET and honestly made me tear up!! And Zach just looking at you so lovingly the entire time... omg. Through all of the pain and horror, what a beautiful ending
Me too! It was so sweet.
So glad that even though she had to go to a place that she didn't know someone knew her 💗
@@MissLaceyNoel Wow I didn't even think of it that way and now I am crying all over again
@@MissLaceyNoel omg this got me. 😭🥰
@@Sarah-ty5ev
I won’t go into details but I’d just
Like to say you are not the only one getting help after birth. My son turned 3 in January and I still speak to someone monthly in order to deal with my emotions from delivery. You are a strong woman, I am a strong woman, every woman is strong and it is 100% ok to have and feel whatever emotions you have going on.
Proud of you for getting help
💕💕💕
Proud of you! Being a mom, hormonally, physically, emotionally so tough. You are WORTHY of being surrounded in your head by self love and worth. You guys are rockstars.
❤️❤️❤️
So proud of you for getting help! 💜💜💜
Honestly, you are my hero. I am 70 years old and I still remember the labor I felt and I went through when I gave birth to my twins 51 years ago and my daughter 54 years ago and each one in labor over a day and a half, . it is so easy how people down play women in childbirth, but when I was young old folks used to say that a woman having a baby was a hair away from death. Now, to date women are still dying during childbirth even with all the medical technology, so every one needs to know that becoming a mother is so much more then getting pregnant and pushing.!! Congratulations 🎉🎈🍾🎊 on your beautiful baby Boy, I’m sure he’s almost 4 years old now, God Bless your family ♥️🙏🏽✝️🩸🔥
As a woman who was told I may never have babies, a failed hypnobirther and now a mom, and also a postpartum nurse, I so appreciated the honesty in this video. I cry every time I watch this video. Congratulations and enjoy the ride! :)
Midwife: “are you having a contraction?”
Kristi: “I don’t know anything”
I felt that! Remember saying the same thing when I was in labor to my midwife.
Same!! Lol
Totally!!
Same!!!
Yup, same! It was like my brain wasn't capable of thinking through what was going on, just focused on getting through it (even with no idea how!)
Amen! I remember thinking I can't do this, the pain is excruciating. Like how do women get through this! I did and still don't know how. Our miracle was worth it of course but the wave of emotions and the pain and uncertainty of labor I don't miss! 🥰
The midwife acknowledging your 16 years of infertility and struggles to get here right after you felt his head during pushing was SO BEAUTIFUL TO ME. After everything you had been through, from the infertility to the excruciating labor... it all lead to this beautiful moment that was SO WORTH IT. I am so happy for you, Kristi. Oh my GOD this is amazing.
Yesss,such a beautiful moment💕
My heart goes out to you, dear! I also had a very traumatic birth. I was prepared mentally for it to be bad, but what happened surpassed my expectations tenfold. Everything was going well until the actual birth. No matter how hard I pushed it just wouldnt come out. 30 mins later the doctor literally stuck his hands in and pulled it out. Turns out the baby was tangled in his cord 3 times. But I kept bleeding out. Was under general annestesia two times while they tried to save my ovaries, as well as my life. Spend 24h in reanimation, got 4 banks of blood and lots of other stuff, 4 days of continuous pain, 4 days bedridden without being able to see my child. I was so exhausted physically, mentally and emotionally that I couldnt even feel the happiness when they brought my son. I felt so guilty about it and the memory still haunts me almost 2 years later. There are details I am sure I wouldn't be able to share with anybody.
Ma’am she specifically asked very politely for no horror stories, I’m so sorry this was your experience but let’s just celebrate her baby and validate HER experience!! 🥰
@heelsdownauto lol not allowed to share a traumatic story so we can celebrate a woman we don't even know...Gross.
@@heelsdownauto thought exact same thing, she requested no one else's stories
If you have had a kid you understand every story is different and interesting. Your story is valid. I am sorry you went through that.
Hopefully with time everything gets better.
@babyturkey8342 when she asks you nit to, it isn't gross. ...as you said kok... ( that's gross)
I don't wanna give birth, I don't wanna have kids but I watched the whole thing till the end.
I am so happy to see you so thrilled and excited omg
You deserve this and I love you so much, Kristi!!!
Same here! I'm SO happy for them!
Same, but I'm happt that she wanted it so much and she did it!! She deserved it. Te amo Drew tua ♡
Same!!!! I didn’t even want to watch at first but then she reeled me in and I was glued to my phone lol
Same, I have no desire at all to have children, but oh my god I bawled when their baby was born. Women amaze me every damn day 🖤
Haha same.
KRISTI. The storytelling, the obvious care that went into this video. What an incredible gift you've shared with us.
I laughed. I cried. This could be a documentary. Best part: kristi being able to talk to baby boy in her little mouse voice. That made me sob
I love that voice❤️
I watched this whole video. I wasn't going to because im a mom of 3 girls pregnant with my 4th and it's my boy finally ❤... I'm 4 weeks away from my due date and I'm finding myself nervous. I had my 1st daughter at 23 and I am now 40 and so I'm nervous that things might be different this time around. Your story took me threw an emotional roller coaster for sure but it's exactly what I needed because, things absolutely can go any which way...I feel close to you without knowing you but I've cried with you, smiled, laughed, worried, celebrated with you and when you brought your son out at the end...I automatically had love for you guys. Thank you for sharing your raw truth. It's real and it's necessary because it's not all rainbows...it's scary and women are absolutely phenomenal! There is no deeper most precious love on earth than a mom n her babies... Your so strong. We're all so strong and don't know it till we're faced n in the thick of it and come out the other side and say I can't believe I just did that lol...your beautiful family is blessed and I just thank you for ur testimony mama...❤
As an L&D nurse I wanted to say I’m so sorry you had such a traumatic experience. Every second feels like a year to everyone in the room including nurses when a baby isn’t crying and it is understandably traumatizing. And in those moments it really is silent to the point you could hear a pin drop as you described even though the room is full of people all working like crazy. All of your feelings, preferences, plans, experiences etc for you (and any mother) are valid and should never be judged or compared to anyone else’s birth experience. No one better comment anything shitty you’ve been through enough already Mama. Glad he ended up being a happy, healthy little chunky baby in the end.
I hope that a nurse like you is there for me if I do have kids 🥺
right? I was like a b!tch better not LOL Like I was gonna do something but yeah, so happy to see the comment section be supportive, loving, respectful and GRATEFUL for her sharing her experience. I was terrified when she went radio silent. SO damn glad everything worked out and they have a healthy, happy and loved baby Alder for all of us *aunties and uncles* to love on from afar!
Can I ask you if the lack of oxygen when being born after strangled by a cord, is dangerous? It happened to me and I ended up getting autism and I suspect it was cuz lack of oxygen when I was born.
@@mildlynerdy of course there are some “bad apples” in every field, but I think the majority of us are supportive and non judgmental. But never be afraid to stand up for yourself and ask for a different nurse if you’re not vibing with the one you have. Your birth is about you and you should feel comfortable and supported in any birthing experience and choices you make.
@@Luna-ii4mx I honestly don’t know if there are any links that have been made between autism and hypoxia (low oxygen), but I can say that the cord being wrapped completely or draped (like a scarf) around the neck or the body is fairly common and most have good outcomes at birth. I don’t know the long term effects of it of course because as a nurse we don’t see them long term and get to see how they develop, but the majority of tangled cords have normal oxygen levels during the postpartum period they are in the hospital.
i dont think i have ever watched a video this long on youtube but i enjoyed every second. thank you for being so vulnerable & amazing & your lil bb is SO cute!
I know it's not the focus of the video, but wow how brilliant is Zach? Holding you, and joking, you can hear he stress in his voice but he was there the whole time. He's what a husband should be.
🥺😭💕🙏🏼 I completely agree, he is my sweet angel and I am so lucky to have him
that’s exactly what i came to the comments to say
He was so excited for helping delivering the baby too 🥺 so sweet
Came to comment the same thing. My husband, distances himself when he's nervous/anxious... So majority of my labor/birth of my boys was me doing it alone with him in the room.
@@RawBeautyKristi may we all find our Zach ❤️
Sweetheart, you have been a mom since conception, you have been improving your self confidence since you looked at that positive stick. You had been preparing for birth for years. Your husband delivered your son, you were the first to hold and love on him. No matter the trauma he endured, to get to you… you are a family. No one will ever take any of that away from the two you! You are a perfect family. Congratulations to all of you.
when you were crying and said “i won’t know anyone” at the hospital and zack said “you’ll know me” i LOST it 😭 then about 100 times after that. moms are fucking superhuman. welcome to the mom club, we’re happy to have you ❤️
My soul SHATTERED when I saw her so helpless and scared 😭😭
I’m not a mother and never plan to be a mother. That being said, I will never understand the people that feel entitled to tell mothers what they ‘should’ do when it comes to giving birth. I don’t even have the words for the trauma you went through. Mothers, you are incredible! I hope the trauma will ease up for you at some point. I’m glad you have your little miracle now!
Same. I dont wanna have kids but I love my niece. I would never tell other woman what they should do ♥️
Right? Birthing an entire human out of your vajine is traumatising, anxious and scary enough as it is, no one needs gatekeeping and judgey weirdos on top of that.
So agree with you.
My sisters name is Heather Marie haha!! Only difference so far is that she has 3 kids lolol
Hearing someone else talk about having a traumatic birth is so validating
Same, and I’m 60 years old!
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100%
It really is.
Yep - we are far too silenced by the "orgasmic" birther brigade.
I felt every word you spoke.
With my first baby..... she was in position. But back to back. Posterior. A star gazer. My waters had broken naturally 5 days previous so I had to have the gel and the drip to start my labour....omgoodness the pain! Long story short..... 36 hours in labour and 9cm......I stopped progressing and was rushed to theatre for an emergency c section .....my daughter Emily was born via c section weighing 9lb 2.5 and she is now almost 22 years old and it feels like yesterday.
You are amazing! Bl00dy amazing. Congratulations x
You did not have to share this with us, but I feel an immense privilege to be able to see this because this is a very intimate precious family moment. Congratulations!
i felt the exact same way!
Well put 😭💜
you are the purest form of strength hun! you are a superwoman and your courage to speak about such a traumatic experience and the importance of mental health is admirable! sending you all so much light and love!
@@mariel4085 Why are you even here if you didn't listen to the disclaimer? This is not the place to let your frustrations out. As Kristi said, "Get fucked".
@@mariel4085 yeah she had a baby, AFTER 15 YEARS OF INFERTILITY!!! That IS something to congratulate & be thankful for ❤
@@mariel4085 if you are here to judge her then please leave, this woman went through so much and if you are not going to be nice or helpful then get out! Kristi is incredible and she went through so much
@@mariel4085 seriously, STFU
@@mariel4085 you good? You seem dedicated to leaving hate comments on her videos. Did you forget people can see your comment history just by clicking your username?
That’s embarrassing for you honestly lol
I can’t believe I thought I wasn’t going to cry. This story was so incredible. You did so good.
SAME 😭
What a special story...he is adorable. Enjoy him always.
I wanted to make the sounds with her. I think I want her with me if by some miracle I do get pregnant I need someone in there that completely gets it lol
Yes she did. Love both of your channels.
I cried upon intro! ❤❤ such a beautiful couple
Super happy for them! 🤗
So glad I ran across your videos! I laughed, I cried, I felt your fullness of joy. Congratulations on your beautiful boy!
You are superwoman. Also...Can we all give a round of applause for Zack?!
You’re allowed mourn the experience you wanted and looked forward to having. You’re allowed to feel hurt and betrayed by the events surrounding the birth of your son. No birth is the same, and every woman experiences different things. My birth was not what I planned, my daughter had to come a month early due to my body failing her (I had GD as well). I went through a 5 day of failed after failed inductions and it was so traumatic for me. I’m still healing. And that’s ok. I wish you nothing but positive, healing energy in your motherhood journey. Hearing your story was an honour, Kristi.
Perfectly said!
Period!!! Perfectly said
Kristi: "You know what, these are really good contractions, I'm not gonna have a long labor at all."
Baby Alder: "hold my umbilical cord."
Hahahaha omg that is hilarious!!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Bruuuuh 😭
Kristi, I have NEVER shed as many tears, first verification of your pregnancy for you and your husband. All the joys of pregnancy, the expectations when labor begins, THEN the trauma when things go wrong. I sobbed! Zack's silence after birth😢. But, God is good! Answered prayers. I am so happy for all three of you. Wonderful family!
I’m a mom of 4, youngest is 12 and oldest is 19. I have never heard the birthing experience described as well as you just did. I hung on your every word. Thank you for not only telling your story but for validating so many others in the process. You did an amazing job and your little man is so precious. Congratulations y’all!
My mom had 4 kids too! I'm the oldest and I'm 19, and the youngest is 12, what s crazy coincidence!
This!!!
Could not agree with you more!
Yes I absolutely agree!
I feel so honored that you let us into this sensitive, intimate moment of your life. I only cried like a million times. I’ve even kept my husband up to date throughout your pregnancy and everything. You and zack are the epitome of true love and soul connection and I’m so happy God blessed you with the little blessing you deserve. Thank you for letting us be a part of it and being vulnerable. You are going to be the best mommy ever- I can already see it. Thank you for keeping it raw. I love you! 💕
It would be neat to hear Zach sit down and make a video from his perspective, if he felt comfortable doing that. It’s always interesting to hear what a husband felt through it all.
Yesss second this!
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1000%!
YES!!!!!! I would love ❤️ that❗️❗️❗️❗️
I would be so interested in that video.
I'm not a mother, but I cried so much through this video. You and your husband going through such intense human experiences literally just ripped open my heart. I'm so glad that you have a healthy baby boy & that you finally got to be parents after everything.💜
i swear no matter how many times i see your story i still get teary-eyed.🥺 glad you and baby made it out safe
also this chair is so cute comfy lookin i love your aesthetic
I already knew Alder was healthy and totally okay, but as soon as he came out and wasn’t crying my heart sank. It terrified me just watching it even though I knew he would be alright. Thank you for openly and honestly sharing such an emotional part of your life with us.
I’m at your 26 hour breaking point and wow the same thing happened to me, I was stuck at 3.5 after 40 hours (16 at the hospital). I also really didn’t want the epidural, but afterward I said “I regret nothing” and I fell asleep. Gave birth 8 hours later. It humbled me greatly and made me have compassion on all the moms before and after me. I did go on to have another and it was easy, 6 hours first contraction to holding baby. Was 6cm when I arrived at the hospital and I was hardly uncomfortable yet. Wow is every labor different. No regrets on my epidural first birth!
Me: **doesn’t really like babies and is not that interested in motherhood at all**
Also me: *UNCONTROLLABLE SOBBING FOR A LITERAL HOUR*
SAME
Legit ME lol...
MEEEEE TOOOOOO, OH MY LORD KRISTI YOU BEAUTIFUL SOUL AND YOUR BEAUTIFUL FAMILY. I WANT TO PERSONALLY GAURD IT AND KEEP YOU AND YOUR LOVED ONES FROM ALL HARMS WAYYY. THIS IS SO MUCH.
Me too! And I’m so incredibly happy for the two of them for bringing this sweet boy into the world. I don’t want kids of my own and I’m not good with other people’s kids, but I’m so incredibly happy that Kristi got to have her baby and that he’s okay and they’re all doing so well now
Saaaame 😭
You weren't lying: he is definitely one of the cutest babies I've ever seen. Congratulations to you guys!
Hearing Kristi say that people negatively said ANYTHING about her birth; hurts me to my soul. She is such a beautiful human being and when I gave birth in Aug 19 and was dealing w/ my own postpartum, watching her videos; watching her joy in everything. Really did help me. I am just so happy for her.
It makes me so so mad
Beautiful baby.I HAVE 3 OF MY OWN.❤❤❤
Rewatching this year's after having your sweet baby boy. I hate that this happened to you, and how it effected you. But how things are going now, I truly think it happened for a reason. This experience pushed you to get the help you needed with therapy, and focusing on your mental/physical health that you had pushed off for so long. Your baby came into your life for such bigger reasons, such a bigger purpose.
Ya know you spend years watching this person on your phone or computer, and eventually you feel a closeness to this person you’ve never met, and that doesn’t know you exist. You form a kind of friendship and love for this person. And just like any other relationship in your life you feel for them, and Kristi has such a way of expressing her experiences and feelings. When I tell you a cried watching her go through what she went through, I fucking cried real tears. What you went through, Kristi, was hard. You had a fucking hard labor and delivery. I’ve never felt the things I felt watching you in labor, and recount labor. You are so fucking incredible.
This is exactly how I feel to, she’s such a wonderful, amazing person, I’m so sad she had such a hard hard time😭 i care about her so much and I’m so happy they are both safe🖤
The way Kristi still has so much empathy when she is going through something so traumatic astounds me. What a person
I would be cursing, punching, demanding someone to surgically remove my baby! She is much stronger than me
I had my son 23 years ago and I’ve never heard anyone describe anything close to what I went through until now. It’s 4am and I’m sobbing because someone else felt like I felt. I ended up with a c section but I just have never been able to relate to anyone else’s emotions and I felt for so long like I was the only woman who stared death in the face in what was supposed to be and at the same was the best moments of my life. I was just 18 then and it’s taken 23 years for me to hear from you a lot of what I felt. So... Thank you. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for sharing your story. You are a Goddess. You are superhuman and nothing that you feel is wrong. Not one thought that you have is bad or wrong. Everything you felt, feel and ever will feel is perfectly natural. You have made me feel...for the first time in my life...like I am not alone and I was not alone in how I felt and thought in the long terrifying hours of my sons birth. In the long nights alone with my son after the birth. Thank you so much for sharing your story. And you’re right! He is the cutest baby ever!!
Absolutely with you on this. I felt like my birth story was being narrated even though I also ended up with an emergency c-section. Lots of love to you too 🤍
I am totally with you. When my seventeen year old son was born it was horrifyingly traumatizing. After days of brutal ineffective labor we had to have an a emergency cesarean and I had no pain meds and felt it all. It was discovered during the surgery (during which 6 people physically held me down because I was screaming and flailing in pain) that I had a bandl's ring. Thanks to that ring, both of us nearly died. I had never heard anyone talk about a traumatizing birth and I felt like I had failed. I had no one to talk to who understood and no one I could relate to. I loved my midwife (she stayed through the birth despite having the surgeon take over) but she accidentally made me feel worse at my first post birth appointment by telling me it was the scariest birth she witnessed in 20 years. I felt like there was something very wrong with me. I went through terrible PPd, ptsd etc. I wish I had heard Kristy's story back then. I wouldn't have felt so alone. I would have looked at Kristy and known she had done nothing wrong and hopefully would have seen myself in a more positive light. Kristy is so brave, strong, and generous for sharing this. We were not owed her story, but she shared so other women could hear. This is so much better than the hushed way no one would speak about difficult birth stories when my baby was born. Im am amazed and humbled by Kristy in this moment.
Same girl! My son is almost 3 now, and I've never heard a story so similar to mine. It was actually so comforting to hear her being so honest about her feeling through it all. It's exactly how I felt.
@@jsan3743 "had to have an a emergency cesarean and I had no pain meds and felt it al" omg what? I am so sorry you went through that but I can not even believe why a C-Section would be done without pain meds. Didn't they work or was there no time to wait? Horrified just by the thought of it. And I'm already scared of needles •.•
Crazy because I am like you I'm feeling her story because I have exact same thing happen but even crazier because now I'm reading your comment and I got pregnant the very first time I had sex a month before I turn 18 probably TMI but anywho I had my daughter when I was 18 she's now 23 and I had the exact same thing happen and although I was expecting to have a normal birth I was 2 weeks overdue had to go into the hospital they started pitocin overnight and the next day I still haven't dilated and my water still hasn't broke the increase my pitocin eventually broke my water for me it resealed they broke it again and with an hour after that which at that point was about 9:30 the second night a nurse was in my room started screaming down the hall next thing I know there's 15 people around me putting oxygen on my face and pushing my whole bed down the hall saying I was at the emergency C-section I was so scared mind you I'm 18 so I'm sure that didn't help but I just started the crying and could not stop I thought something was wrong with my baby I thought I was going to lose her but I will say also after my c-section at a beautiful healthy baby poor Christie but some of our bodies just aren't meant they have babies naturally I guess because three kids later every single time even the second time when I went into labor on my own on time and my contractions we're a minute and a half to 3 minutes apart for 48 hours 2 days with contractions around every two minutes and that one time with my body dilate past 2 cm on its own but also not one time would my water break on its own I literally feel like there's something wrong with my cervix where I just cannot dilate but I also feel blessed to be able to get pregnant at all especially three times when there's people out there like my sister who's ever gotten pregnant on her own and can't have kids and Christy who it took 15 years and didn't think she'd be able to have kids
I truly appreciate you sharing your story. I never give up praying my infertile daughter gets her miracle ❤
"I don't know anybody and I'm scared."
My heart broke. Not knowing anyone is really scary I'm sure. I've never given birth but I think you are incredibly strong.
Omg you look so cute in this video and I’m so scared to watch
I've had 3 boys naturally and I'm too scared to watch.
Don’t be scared, all of our stories are 1 of billions!!
@@leah5295 I was thinking about Sam as I was watching this, hoping this doesn't scare her haha. It's unbelievable what Kristi went through! I'm sobbing. What an incredible, amazing, resilient human. Alder is so beautiful, I'm so happy for her and Zack ❤
@@ssrr90 yess!! Especially cos Sam sais on her preg reveal video that shes so scared of dying during childbirth 🥺😭
@@leah5295 what?! Sam is preggo! I had no idea!
Any negative commenters can absolutely “GET FUCKED.” I mean it with the most disrespect too haha congrats Kristi, you’re stronger than you know ❤️
I'm surprised they exist! Like, who could be negative about thisssss☺🥰😊
Honestly anyone who has anything bad to say to kristi about anything she went through during her labor can get fucked. It’s different for all people and she’s showing us the raw dark and beauty side of it 🥺
It’s mind blowing to me that mothers will put each other down based on their birth experience. Unless someone made a choice that put themselves and/or baby in danger, who is to say someone’s experience is inferior to another. We are all human and all came into this world the same way (to some degree)
@@GraceMariex3 I honestly couldn't agree more, I couldn't care less if someone gave birth naturally in 25 minutes and it was amazing, or if it was the most traumatic experience imaginable. We all deserve the exact same level of respect and admiration for the lives we created 🤍
I've just replied to one negative comment that if they have nothing nice to say how about they don't comment at all.
My second son (born 6-12-22) came quick. My water broke at 5:45 and I gave birth at the hospital at 7:00 am. I only had a few contractions and the ones at first weren't so bad at all but the couple right before birth were super intense. It was unmedicated and i pushed for about 5 minutes before he came out and i had almost no pain. Everyone is different and you did absolutely AMAZING! I've always admired women who labor long with no epidural and you did it for so so long hun and suffered so much so please don't ever let anyone make you feel guilty. I had an epidural with my first son and it was a life saver. Your son is gorgeous and you both will be the best parents ever! ❤🥰🙏🏻👶🏼
Sorry this is totally off topic a little bit but my birthday is 6-12 😁 and my brother is 3 years younger than me and his birthday is also 6-12.. I'm 41 and hes 38. I just thought that was really cool 😉
You weren't lying, this isn't mom's talk... he is definitely the cutest baby ever. Congratulations, you are amazing.
He IS! I have 2 kids, and I've told my hubby the same thing. 😂
BTW, my hubby has been shown every pic and IG story since the baby has been born 😁 He agrees that this little guy is the cutest baby ever 💗 (but don't tell my kids! 😂😂😂)
@@glow_with_cindy 🤣🤣🤣
I had to have a hysterectomy at 26, so I'll never experience pregnancy or birth for myself. I'm so happy you made this video and took the time to talk through how things felt and that you didn't sugar-coat any of it.
Uterus implanting surgeries are there. I had read a news about it in my country india. So, might be possible elsewhere.so if u have wish Dont lose hope beautifull..
My heart goes out to you. Don't lose hope.
Oh bless you. I hope if you want to be a mother, you get to. By surrogacy, adoption, fostering or uterus donation.
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I am so sorry. I had to have one at 23 in 3 surgeries. 🙏 for you ❤
I delivered my firstborn a day after you. My birth was so similar to yours and i still can’t talk about it. Watching this while breastfeeding my babyboy and i have never held him tighter. Typing this while tears are streaming down my face. Thank you so much for sharing. We are warriors. We are superhuman. We survived and will thrive. I salute you 🙌🏻❤️
Sweety. I relate to your story so much. My first was an emergency section due hospital incompetency. My second, just 21 months later was identical to what you went through. Both my boys are 23 & 24 now. But I know I still have trauma from their births and the way I was treated in hospital. I had postpartum depression after both births which lasted a very long time. I do hope you got the help you needed. Your little boy is gorgeous ❤ he must be about 4 by now!
I remember commenting on your announcement as I was pregnant at the same time but sadly I lost my little baby. I’m 20 weeks pregnant today and this video has me sobbing. I’m so so happy for you and zach. Your the most beautiful mother and I’m enjoying watching your journey. Sending you so much love xxxx
Sending you so much love dear. E-hugs.
Condolences on your little baby, that's absolutely devastating and absolutely get therapy if you need it. There's support groups online and just know you are not alone in your loss.
But on the other hand, CONGRATULATIONS on your current pregnancy, and I hope everything goes as smooth as possible for you and the bub.
I've never had/want kids/ I have aspirations to be the cool aunt, so I don't have any personal experience with pregnancy, but just know this random person is 100% rooting for you.
Thank you both so much for commenting back, it’s so kind of you both. Xxxx
I’m 20weeks 1 day, due July 19th 🥰
I'm sorry for your loss, but congratulations on your rainbow baby xx
Can we just talk about how amazing Zach is?! He’s so patient and listens to your body language and your needs so well
“And I say this with the upmost disrespect... Get Fucked” 🤣🤣 love it Kristi Congrats! 🎊
I was on Pitocin for 29 hours with my first child. No pain meds. My son was in distress and I was close an emergency C-Section. I finally relented and agreed to an epidural. This relaxed me so much that I went from a 6 dilated to a 10, and 30 minutes later I was holding my baby boy. Pitocin is NO joke! ❤
buckling up to start bawling my eyes out this lovely afternoon 🥺
Already started bawling
@@ashdnhie337 girl i was 2 seconds in SOBBING their story makes me so emotional
2 seconds into the video I'm crying already.
HEIWBSJWJSBWIWKA IM SCREAMING
Congratulations'!!!!!
I’ve miscarried 4 times and I just want to be a mom and I didn’t have hope until I found your page. I’m so thankful for this series, I’m hoping that I can In the future I’m hoping for a miracle. Thank you Kristi!
Keeping you in my prayers Lauren 🙏❤
I had 3 miscarriages before having my daughter 8 years later. She's 10 and I'm still in disbelief don't lose hope❤
you are so loved and you are in the thoughts of every single person who hears your story
This happened to my cousin she miscarried 3 times but had a daughter later dont give up
I have a few cousins who cant get pregnant u r not alone
People only wanna document those calm not scary birth stories. So Kristi, THANK YOU FOR BEING HONEST. I am so appreciative of your vulnerability and honest story.
I so agree! This was so humbling
@@Raya-ir4tm I’m not shaming those who don’t share it. I’m just thanking her for being vulnerable and sharing her story! I’m going to be an L&D nurse and I don’t really hear of stories like hers being told, but to me, these stories are equally as important to hear. And I do think Kristi is humble and amazing for sharing her story. It’s never easy talking about a traumatic experience.
@@isabelahaeger2635 but....you actually did 😑 For me personally, I’ve never heard of a “calm not scary” birth story.....ever 🤷🏼♀️ Birth is violent in and of itself. The expectation otherwise is just delusional, lol!
I totally understand what you went through. I was in labor 39 hours and 36 minutes with my first son and the Patosin contractions are horrendous. I don't wish that upon my worst enemy. I ended up having to have no pain medicine because after they started the Petosin first few hours his heart rate and my heart rate started dropping, so therefore, I could have no pain medicine for the contractions. So I went in on Monday night, so started having the contractions shortly. , went until Tuesday morning without anything. Finally, they were able to start giving us a little bit of pain medicine. When tea and our heart rate started staying steady unfortunately, it happened again and they had to stop the pain medicine again. So I went all the way until Wednesday morning at 9 AM with no pain medicine so I totally understand. What you say about the Potosin. contractions. Thank God when I finally got my epidural. I was able to relax my water broke. And they had given me till 12 o'clock to have my son. Or they were gonna have to do a c section and I was petrified of them cutting me. I did not want that no matter What I finally about 10:30 started.Having to push and I gave birth to him at eleven thirty six that morning but I am it's so grateful that I didn't have to have A c section.
Can we just take a minute and appreaciate how wonderful of a husband is Zack 🥺
So so wonderful. Thank you for being an awesome man and supporter of this incredible woman. And daddy to this baby boy.
😭😭😭😭
He is the sweetest!!
Can we please give Zack serious props as well as Kristi? He was a fucking champ the whole time, and so supportive. That little baby is so lucky to have not only Kristi as a mom, but Zack as a dad. And he's such a cute little chonker!!!
I completely agree!
I think I can speak for EVERYONE when I say that motherhood suits you so, so beautifully. Your voice is incredibly powerful; please don’t stop sharing your story, so many people can benefit from hearing it! You would make an amazing birth advocate.
I have made 2 comments and deleted both on here, I'm not very eloquent, but this ☝comment! Sending you and your new family all the love! He is perfect, you are perfect, and let's not forget about zack ❤
My heart goes out to you for the experience that you have and what your precious baby boy had and I'm so grateful that you and your beautiful beautiful son are okay now. Thank you for your honesty. May you continue to heal from your trauma which is 100% real and understandable. Enjoy your bundle of joy and have a really good life. You're a wonderful mom
I just want to say, you're so brave for committing to your preferences and not wanting an epidural. And then to take it in stride when things didn't go your way. I'm speechless. I don't think I could ever be that brave. Your commitment to wanting to bring your son into the world the way you thought was right was so heart touching. Also, Zack was amazing. I have no words. Girls, get you a man that's that supportive of you. That's that positive and stays with you when you're struggling and puts you first. You guys brought me to tears. Thank you for sharing all of this, I know reliving it can't have been easy
PS: he's perfect, and you are amazing
Only a gifted storyteller can have me wincing, cringing, crying, laughing, sympathizing, empathizing, crying, chuckling, exhausted, anticipating, frantic, empathizing, astonished, on pins-n-needles, smiling, crying, sympathizing, cracking up, consoling, relieved, etc. etc. (and round-n-round I went!) and ending with the huge urge to hug you and hand you a glass of wine 🍷. Wow! It felt like I was watching a thriller of sorts. He’s absolutely gorgeous ❤️. So so glad you’re doing better.
Right! I felt it! She’s a fabulous story teller. Not many people can I watch over an hour of and not even realize that hour passed.
@@maryperrot4120 that was an hour!!??? Damn I didn’t even realize it lol wow
My only hope is that if I ever have children, I just hope to be as lucky to have a husband as supportive as Zach. Congratulations. You are amazing. Thank you for sharing this!
I hope you do as well. I have had 2 babies with my high school sweetheart and he was just like Zach! It really helps the situation.
Re-watching this a few years later. Your story gave my daughter hope in the middle of a 9 year infertility journey, including 7 losses. She just gave birth to the beautiful baby girl her family prayed for, especially my granddaughter who really wanted a baby sister. Their family is complete. I'm also a birth doula. Stories like yours and hers just comfirm for me that God is real, prayers work, and hope springs eternal. Blessings to you all, particularly those of you still waiting for your baby miracle. ❤
Shoutout to your husband for being the PERFECT birthing partner. We didn’t expect less!
Birth is an insane roller coaster of an experience and you are completely validated in whatever you feel about it. Anyone who has an opinion about your birth can block themselves.
Kristi, I had been enthusiastically sharing your story with my boyfriend ever since you announced your pregnancy. the day your water broke is the day that he left me, and shortly afterwards I found out that I was pregnant. I’ve been terrified since that day, but this story gave me so much peace. thank you ❤️
Oh momma, stay strong, you got this! ❤️
that is so awful...good luck!
Good luck momma! You have got this.
You got this girl!! He left but you aren't alone & you deserve best which obviously wasn't him anyway. Keep sharing & you will get thru this. Xoxo...or I guess it is air hugs & kisses these days...lol
He was dead weight. You are not alone. I pray that you will get through with flying colours and that your little one will be healthy and a blessing to you. ❤️
My mom told me that when I was born I didn't cry or breathe for 10 minutes and the doctors and herself kept rubbing and shaking me, and eventually I started to cry but had to stay at the hospital for 2 weeks. I'm 23 years old now.
Whenever she tells this story to someone she always starts crying and I always say "well I'm here now, stop crying, I'm fine" but after watching your video I finally understand what she went through when I wasn't breathing and now I'm sobbing
My mom had a c-section with me and the same experience happened. They didn’t hear a peep from me for about 5 minutes.
This exact thing happened to my son too. He's also now 23. If your comment wasn't posted 3 years ago I'd wonder if I was actually your mother. 😂
Tears, throughout your entire journey. I get you, miracles still happen , every journey is different,, and yet sometimes to hold that miracle..... bumps and valleys happen along the way. Mine is 42 now and yours is having his birthday in 2 days!! Pure joy wishes for your family's celebration of this miracle.
I can’t imagine criticizing a women over how they choose to give birth. Your story is incredibly traumatic and the strength you have to go through it and then talk about it and share your story with millions of people is incredible. You and all other mothers are incredibly strong and powerful. Much love to you, Zach, and your beautiful baby boy ❤️❤️❤️
I feel so woke now. This is the RAW Kristi we didn’t expect but 100% appreciate. You are so freakin amazing. I have only respect for you.
Mothers should be able to talk about their traumatic birth experiences. It would normalize that not all birth experiences are happy and rainbows. I’m so glad you’re putting your mental health first and giving your son the best life he could possibly have. (Also props to Zack for being literally the best husband ever.)
My mom was in labor with me for almost 72 hours.... The doctor that delivered me almost killed us both because she was on the labor hormone for too long. Made it out okay obviously, but another woman wasn't so lucky as he let her bleed to death. As far as I know he was sued and is no longer practicing. She wasn't supposed to be able to have kids too and now she has three. She had PCOS and every time she had cysts removed and ended up pregnant
@@littleplague5988 This is so horrible. I’m glad you and your mom are okay. But I mean this so disrespectfully, FUCK that doctor and I hope he’s in jail for manslaughter.
Congratulations on the arrival of your beautiful son. Obviously, 3 years have passed, but this is the first time I have seen your video. You did great. Enjoy every minute, they grow too fast. Xx
Not me crying at 1 am in my room because I’m emotionally invested in kristy’s birth ever since she announced she was pregnant. 😩🥺😭
Same !! Been watching her before she got pregnant and I cried when she announced she was pregnant!
I had my daughter 13 years ago and NO ONE talked about what a woman’s body goes through after they give birth. There are millions of books about pregnancy and birth then is like, “ok, you have your baby now, carry on, go be a mom”. I’m so glad that women are willing to discuss postpartum and help women know that they are not alone.
I commented something like this about 2 years ago on another video that everyone will talk about healthy eating while pregnant, exercises, how to get a room ready, items to buy, what bottles are highly rated, what to pack to go to the hospital, and a million other things, but NOT ONCE did anything ever mention what to expect during postpartum.
Someone replied to my comment saying I could easily google it and it's my own fault for not being prepared. How does one prepare for something they're not aware of? I understand post surgery healing and such, but I honestly had no idea about the nuances of postpartum recovery until I was thrown into it. That reply to the comment still irks me 2 years later. Loll
I agree with you 100% I had my daughter 15 yrs ago this July and im still traumatized from giving birth. I instantly had post partum and was treated for it for literally yrs shit even now. The epidural didnt work I was like the exorcist. I swear my head spun. And let me tell you when i finally got my 9lb baby out they didnt even let me see her nm put her on me. Then hrs later i started to hemorrhage and was rushed to the OR for a DNC i passed out and didnt see my baby till the next day.
@@RandyButternubs917 I dont blame you. It irked me just reading it. So either that person didnt have a baby yet or wasnt blessed with post partum. We may let a comment irk us but we were strong enough to over come what we had to go through. For the most part lol.
@THISIS THEGIRLI think everyone is different. I'm an OB nurse who is very educated about post partum and was completely blind sighted by it. For me it made me feel I was a terrible mother so I saw those resources through that lens even though I knew better. There was no way I was going to join a support group and tell other women what a failure of a mother I was. That's where my head was. I told no one. I just got lucky that I worked with my OB who recognized it immediately and prescribed me medication before that fog lifted and I saw what was happening. However if I would of came across her and watched another mother go through it without me having to admit I was struggling it would of made a difference. I only have one child for a reason and I could never willingly go through that again. I swear I cried so much my son looked at me like good god woman get it together I'm the one who is supposed to cry all the time not you.
I think one of the few content creators speaking about this is also Colleen ballinger you should check her videos out you may relate to her story
i gotta reiterate it-- mothers you are fucking incredible.
Thanks 🥺
And to all those who so wished they COULD be mothers, who sadly just can’t for whatever reason.....
You’re doing brill too, and it’s not your fault ❤️ You’re still whole. And valid....and wonderful as you are.
@@pru666 very true. Parents or aspiring parents- both are superheroes.
Yes we are 💪💪💪
Amen!! 💚
Precious story . Congrats to you and your husband . The love and joy you two share is awesome .
For the person who has been there as the nurse taking the baby and the person who takes care of them when they are in the NICU, I can truly say I’ve never got to watch the emotions of the family unfold like this. In the moment, it’s all focus on baby. I sobbed. I always knew it was hard and those seconds to minutes feel like ages to us too, but no one has been able to tell the whole story to us like you just did. Thank you for sharing your story to the world even when you didn’t have to 🥺💙 I’ve honestly been terrified of giving birth since the day I found out I was pregnant. This surprisingly helped ease the nerves some in a way that’s hard to explain. Can’t wait for the postpartum video!
This gave me all the feelings! 1. I’m so happy for you and your hubby. I don’t *virtually* know two more deserving people to be blessed with parenthood. 2. Your experience was so similar to my first delivery. It’s so traumatic and mind fucking when you have a specific plan and it doesn’t go that way. 3. Your little guy is seriously the cutest!!! Big congratulations to you all!!!
I am a 70yr. old grandmother. Mother of 3. Was a Doula for many years. I am waiting on my 3rd grandson due any minute. Thank you so much for telling your birth story in your raw beauty way. This is helping me prepare for supporting my daughter in law in the best way I can. Blessings and love to you and your family.
You seem like such a warm, wonderful person. Congratulations on the impending arrival of grand baby number 3 💐
Congratulations on your newest Grandson coming!❤ Positive thoughts and love that all goes well!
I pray all goes well Jeanne....Congratulations.
I have 6 grandchildren....And I thank God for them every day
This did not feel like over an hour, I was so invested. Giving birth is crazy, you‘re a superhuman for enduring it like this wow. mad respect. Thank you for sharing this and being so open and honest.
So invested! I feel different after watching this video. What a tale!
@@bootslawless I know right! Happiness is all over their face...They have a beautiful love story! Have a great week! Stay safe..xo hydie 👶👪
I know I'm 3 years late to your birth. Firstly I'm so happy for you that you were able to finally have a baby, after 15 years of infertility. As to you birth story, I know exactly how you felt. I went through exactly the same as you. The pain when they put you on that medication to increase your contractions is sooooooooo painful, I thought I was going to die too. I've never experienced such unbearable pain in all my life. Sadly, even though I got to 8cms, they told me I was in trouble, because I had Eclampsia . They told me I had to have a Caesarean. I was crushed, but I'm glad my son was ok and although it took me 1 year to get well. The eclampsia made me so ill. My lovely boy is now 25 and my little miracle.
You were so brave and strong, but you did it and I'm so happy that he was ok and you too. I guess he's 3 years old now. Bless his sweet little life. I was riveted watching your story. God bless your little family. ❤❤❤❤
As someone 6 months pregnant with no baby experience whatsoever, this was so incredibly helpful to hear. Many people share with me their traumatic birthing stories and they make it sound hopeless, like there's a wrong way and you have no say. You told this so well and in a weird way eased a LOT of my own worries. I am so happy for you three, you give me so much hope for what's to come 💗
5 months here, and same! I have no idea what to expect and it being shared in such an open and honest way is the best.
Kristi; congratulations for you and your family
Also Zoe; congratulations on your baby
5 months first timer here too! Watching kristi has helped relieve so much of my fears about giving birth.
Good luck to all the new mamas!
Labour pain is the worst in my opinion, but after that it was super easy. It is important to not think about it a lot and not be stressed bcuz of it😁.
I’m not a mom but a youtuber I really like, Dor Sack, on just posted their birth story too (both a vlog of the day and another sit down one post-labor with a lot of info and insight) and might be helpful too?? Good luck! You’ll be great!
Congrats!!!!! My sister is also 6months pregnant, two of my cousins, and two girls at work as well... A lot of early autumn affections during COVID!😜