Gaslighting is also what people with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) resort to in order to avoid culpability. But it's not so much a manipulation of others as it is a manipulation of the person with NPD, which is a trauma response. In other words, the person who is gaslighting another person, could be trying desperately to avoid knowing the truth about themselves. Why? Because someone with NPD literally cannot tolerate the truth about themselves. What do you think Briana? I love your approach to all these interpersonal difficulties and look forward to your take on what I've added to the conversation. With respect and gratitude, Veronica Monet
I so enjoyed this video on gaslighting!! I didn’t like the behavior and had started to question my motives but after watching this video I realize that I was being gaslighted! Thank you so much for the video 🙏🏽
I’ve had some really weird reactions when I called out people for gaslighting me. They say they’re not, but when I point out the lack of empathy and trying to convince me of my feelings otherwise, I double down and also say how disrespectful it is. And I will not tolerate it. Usually makes ‘em think twice before saying something else to me because they know I will not hesitate to cut them out of my life if they persist.
I just listened to Daoism's Holy Book called Tao Te Ching on TH-cam. It talks alot about letting go and controlling oneself more than others. Here are my favorite quotes from it that directly relate to this great channel, with the video link below: Because he has nothing to prove people trust his words. For every force there is a counterforce. Because he is content with himself he does not need other's approval. Because he accepts himself the whole world accepts him. If you realize you have enough you are truly rich. Let your workings remain a mystery. Just show people the results. When there is no desire all things are at peace. The master does not try to be powerful thus he is truly powerful. The ordinary man keeps reaching for power. Thus he never has enough. The master does nothing. Yet he leaves nothing undone. The ordinary man is always doing things. Yet many more are left to be done. The gentlist thing in the world overcomes the hardest thing in the world....this shows the value of nonaction. Success or failure. Which is more destructive? If you look to others for fulfillment you will never truly be fulfilled Be content with what you have. Rejoice in the way things are. When you realize there nothing is lacking the whole world belongs to you. True perfection seems imperfect. Yet it is perfectly itself. There is no greater illusion than fear. He who sees through all fear will always be safe. Less and less you need to force things. Until you arrive at nonaction. True mastery is gained by letting things go their own way. It can't be gained by interfering. Those who know don't talk. Those who talk don't know. If you want to be a great leader follow the Dao (God.) Try to make people happy and you lay the groundwork for misery. Try to make people moral and you lay the groundwork for vice. Thus the master is content to serve as an example and not to impose her will. Give evil nothing to oppose and it will disappear by itself. A great man........ thinks of his enemy as the shadow that he himself casts. Rushing into action you fail. Trying to grasp things you loose them. Forcing a project to completion you ruin what was almost ripe. Therefore the master takes action by letting things take their course. He remains as calm at the end as at the beginning. He has nothing. Thus nothing to loose. What he desires is non desire. What he learns is to unlearn. He simply reminds people who they have always been. He cares about nothing but the Dao (The way, correct principals/God.) Thus he can care for all things. When they know they don't know people can find their own way. If you realize all things change there is nothing you will try to hold on to. Trying to control the future is like trying to take the master carpenter's place. When you handle the master carpenter's tools chances are that you will cut your hand. Act for the people's benefit. Trust them. Leave them alone. The hard and stiff will be broken. Nothing in the world is as soft and yielding as water. Yet for dissolving the hard and inflexible nothing can surpass it. The soft overcomes the hard. The gentle overcomes the rigid. Everyone knows this is true. But few can put it into practice. Tao Te Ching th-cam.com/video/jVbNPQZwL6k/w-d-xo.html
Seriously don’t taste your time. Move on if u find someone is causing u to second guess yourself. Narcissistic ppl have many victims. Love yourself and move on
Self love stops all this non sense. Love yourself and move on with your life. The most successful tend to have narcissistic personalities. Be wise …love yourself
U don’t need to ask other ppl. That silly stop second guessing your inner knowing !! Marc conststanty has lite. It will happen again !! And then u know u r being manipulated. Practice loving yourself .
You speak in away that seems it is directed to me... I am trying hard but my ? s on all of this , is unnessary and continues it but no one seems to get it doesnt stop . The trials seem to come in waves . I want a healthy trusting and loving relationship . When Im ready... But i know i still love him and it scares the hell out of me. I get lost and panic then idk what to do . Any sugestion on dealing with past and those who are trying to see me now . Ive pushed men away repeatedly
@@cindyfreeman6361 I don't know if this will be helpful, but I offer it as my experience and you can take it or leave it. I want to stress that YOU are the expert on you and what is best for you. Not me and not anyone else posting comments here. That said, I have found the perspective offered through Internal Family Systems (IFS) to be very helpful. When I view the abuser or narcissist as simply a part and not the entire person, I can actually see those parts much more clearly. It has helped me gain a lot of clarity and stop bouncing back and forth between "he's so great" and "he's so horrible." Instead, I focus on the behaviors that are great and those that are horrible. I can't fix or change either. But I do insist upon a commitment to therapy. If there is no shared commitment to getting help for these abusive patterns, then there is no way forward with that person in my opinion.
@@VeronicaMonet i need help now i cant make the day to day work anymore dont know if i caneven drive my car very far but with no more money i wont get to stay here in hotel anymore
I Have to leave this room of safety no $$$ to stay . Ive tried all that i know now strengh is gone tell who ever come now my car cant travel just want peace and no physical mean ness ... My son has been taken unto wilderness for many years to come so no more fight there is no one for me to fight for
Have you experienced gaslighting before? What other questions do you have about gaslighting? I'd love to hear below!
Gaslighting is also what people with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) resort to in order to avoid culpability. But it's not so much a manipulation of others as it is a manipulation of the person with NPD, which is a trauma response. In other words, the person who is gaslighting another person, could be trying desperately to avoid knowing the truth about themselves. Why? Because someone with NPD literally cannot tolerate the truth about themselves. What do you think Briana? I love your approach to all these interpersonal difficulties and look forward to your take on what I've added to the conversation. With respect and gratitude, Veronica Monet
I so enjoyed this video on gaslighting!! I didn’t like the behavior and had started to question my motives but after watching this video I realize that I was being gaslighted! Thank you so much for the video 🙏🏽
I’ve had some really weird reactions when I called out people for gaslighting me. They say they’re not, but when I point out the lack of empathy and trying to convince me of my feelings otherwise, I double down and also say how disrespectful it is. And I will not tolerate it. Usually makes ‘em think twice before saying something else to me because they know I will not hesitate to cut them out of my life if they persist.
I just listened to Daoism's Holy Book called Tao Te Ching on TH-cam. It talks alot about letting go and controlling oneself more than others. Here are my favorite quotes from it that directly relate to this great channel, with the video link below:
Because he has nothing to prove people trust his words.
For every force there is a counterforce.
Because he is content with himself he does not need other's approval. Because he accepts himself the whole world accepts him.
If you realize you have enough you are truly rich.
Let your workings remain a mystery. Just show people the results.
When there is no desire all things are at peace.
The master does not try to be powerful thus he is truly powerful. The ordinary man keeps reaching for power. Thus he never has enough. The master does nothing. Yet he leaves nothing undone. The ordinary man is always doing things. Yet many more are left to be done.
The gentlist thing in the world overcomes the hardest thing in the world....this shows the value of nonaction.
Success or failure. Which is more destructive?
If you look to others for fulfillment you will never truly be fulfilled
Be content with what you have. Rejoice in the way things are. When you realize there nothing is lacking the whole world belongs to you.
True perfection seems imperfect. Yet it is perfectly itself.
There is no greater illusion than fear.
He who sees through all fear will always be safe.
Less and less you need to force things. Until you arrive at nonaction.
True mastery is gained by letting things go their own way. It can't be gained by interfering.
Those who know don't talk. Those who talk don't know.
If you want to be a great leader follow the Dao (God.)
Try to make people happy and you lay the groundwork for misery. Try to make people moral and you lay the groundwork for vice. Thus the master is content to serve as an example and not to impose her will.
Give evil nothing to oppose and it will disappear by itself.
A great man........ thinks of his enemy as the shadow that he himself casts.
Rushing into action you fail. Trying to grasp things you loose them. Forcing a project to completion you ruin what was almost ripe. Therefore the master takes action by letting things take their course. He remains as calm at the end as at the beginning. He has nothing. Thus nothing to loose. What he desires is non desire. What he learns is to unlearn. He simply reminds people who they have always been. He cares about nothing but the Dao (The way, correct principals/God.) Thus he can care for all things.
When they know they don't know people can find their own way.
If you realize all things change there is nothing you will try to hold on to.
Trying to control the future is like trying to take the master carpenter's place. When you handle the master carpenter's tools chances are that you will cut your hand.
Act for the people's benefit. Trust them. Leave them alone.
The hard and stiff will be broken.
Nothing in the world is as soft and yielding as water. Yet for dissolving the hard and inflexible nothing can surpass it. The soft overcomes the hard. The gentle overcomes the rigid. Everyone knows this is true. But few can put it into practice.
Tao Te Ching
th-cam.com/video/jVbNPQZwL6k/w-d-xo.html
Thanks for this!
Leave abusers. Don’t try to fix them. Move on !!
Spot on
Seriously don’t taste your time. Move on if u find someone is causing u to second guess yourself. Narcissistic ppl have many victims. Love yourself and move on
Self love stops all this non sense. Love yourself and move on with your life. The most successful tend to have narcissistic personalities. Be wise …love yourself
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U don’t need to ask other ppl. That silly stop second guessing your inner knowing !! Marc conststanty has lite. It will happen again !! And then u know u r being manipulated. Practice loving yourself .
You speak in away that seems it is directed to me... I am trying hard but my ? s on all of this , is unnessary and continues it but no one seems to get it doesnt stop . The trials seem to come in waves . I want a healthy trusting and loving relationship . When Im ready... But i know i still love him and it scares the hell out of me. I get lost and panic then idk what to do . Any sugestion on dealing with past and those who are trying to see me now . Ive pushed men away repeatedly
@@cindyfreeman6361 I don't know if this will be helpful, but I offer it as my experience and you can take it or leave it. I want to stress that YOU are the expert on you and what is best for you. Not me and not anyone else posting comments here. That said, I have found the perspective offered through Internal Family Systems (IFS) to be very helpful. When I view the abuser or narcissist as simply a part and not the entire person, I can actually see those parts much more clearly. It has helped me gain a lot of clarity and stop bouncing back and forth between "he's so great" and "he's so horrible." Instead, I focus on the behaviors that are great and those that are horrible. I can't fix or change either. But I do insist upon a commitment to therapy. If there is no shared commitment to getting help for these abusive patterns, then there is no way forward with that person in my opinion.
@@VeronicaMonet how do i contact this help
@@VeronicaMonet i need help now i cant make the day to day work anymore dont know if i caneven drive my car very far but with no more money i wont get to stay here in hotel anymore
I Have to leave this room of safety no $$$ to stay . Ive tried all that i know now strengh is gone tell who ever come now my car cant travel just want peace and no physical mean ness ...
My son has been taken unto wilderness for many years to come so no more fight there is no one for me to fight for