Autism makes a lot of things really hard

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  • เผยแพร่เมื่อ 24 ธ.ค. 2024

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  • @Lauren-kh1sv
    @Lauren-kh1sv 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +17

    I forced myself to (attempt to) function in constantly uncomfortable situations for almost two decades, but the consequences were horrible. I was undiagnosed at that point, so didn’t know why I couldn’t do “what I was supposed to, like everyone else”, so I kept trying harder, and failing harder, and eventually became physically ill. I’m now trying to learn what kind of life I will need going forward in order to avoid burnout and stay healthy 🙏🏼 you’re not alone! ❤

  • @REZZA2020
    @REZZA2020 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    thank you to Trevor for building community. My thoughts are with each Autistic here at Christmas.

  • @canUfeelMYface
    @canUfeelMYface 19 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

    Life is difficult for all of us

  • @BernardoPatino
    @BernardoPatino 2 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    thank you so much you don't know how much this video means to me and i don't even know how to put it into words but it just felt like a deep hug

  • @marielamesen
    @marielamesen 2 วันที่ผ่านมา +6

    Wow, this is just like hearing my boyfriend talk. And he hasn't had an autistic assessment although we have also always kinda known, but also been confused as to why are "simple" things so hard for him and why is he always exhausted... So yeah, this video made me cry and understand a lot. Thank you so much. Please keep sharing your experience because you are actually very well articulated and it helps me a lot to understand my boyfriend. Please also talk about how can I help as a gf. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

  • @TerryMcGinnis03525
    @TerryMcGinnis03525 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    Got the same anxiety issues and feeling overwhelmed in situations that "shouldn't be" problematic.
    It's hard to live with.

  • @breannaraybuck4956
    @breannaraybuck4956 2 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Thank you for posting this. I celebrated christmas with my family today and when i got home i was just completely exhausted i don’t know if this is related to autism or not but it felt like my body was an extra 20 pounds and i could barely move.

  • @Gavin-cu5xn
    @Gavin-cu5xn 2 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    I have Autism I'm 18 and ever since then I didn't really belonged in this cruel world

  • @emcleverton
    @emcleverton 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    To tire oneself is a reality I'm now mindful of. I have a routine and I'm privileged enough to have at least one good whole day to myself. It is hard when things get out of hand and we have to break our routines to "function in society". Our brain literally works different, there's no way out of that, and part of being autistic is knowing that things will be hard and exhausting, but also having consciousness of it, it's important for us to take better care of ourselves - whatever that means.

  • @vragnasistemata
    @vragnasistemata 2 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    🙏 🙏 this video is really helpful, thank you for existing, please continue
    especially the end of the video is my favorite part, i really need more acceptance of myself and less blame and shame

  • @billiepotts1541
    @billiepotts1541 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    Indeed-it’s impossible to grow from touching the hot stove. You can temporarily increase your tolerance, yes, but you might end up seriously burning your hand, and once you stop, your tolerance will return to normal. Being autistic is like that. We can learn scripts to make social situations easier, but that won’t suddenly make the stove cold.

  • @claire.morgan
    @claire.morgan 18 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    I see you using "and also" - are you familiar with DBT? And I appreciate how you validate hard emotions. That's so important. I'm 29 and in a pretty good place mentally, but when I got my first job out of college it completely broke me. I had no vocabulary for how overstimulated I was - or why that was such a problem for me (surprise! I have autism). I got so burnt out and depressed. A lot of people would quit their job if they hated it that much, but I couldn't express to them how starting all over and going through that change again would be so much worse. I've been there 7 years now and have learned a lot about myself and feel a lot more confident. Still have to take baby steps into new adult responsibilities, but I try not to rush or push myself. We have to give ourselves grace.

  • @samuelferrardz
    @samuelferrardz 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    Hey Trevor,
    Just wanted to drop by and say how much I loved your latest nine-minute video-it was the perfect length to really hear you out without feeling rushed. I appreciate how openly you’re processing everything that comes with being autistic, and it’s so cool to see how much you’ve grown over time. I’ve been following you on Instagram as well, and I’m really happy to see you continuing to do your thing and share these insights.
    I noticed the conversation about comfort zones and how society tends to push everyone to “go out of them,” but for us on the spectrum, that can look very different. It’s not about “touching a hot stove” as someone said in the comments, just because someone says it’ll make us grow-sometimes that can do more harm than good. From my perspective, you absolutely are growing, and it’s amazing to watch. I especially loved those moments in the video where you weren’t hard on yourself; that little break from self-criticism was exactly the vibe I needed. The background with the plants, lights, and gentle music really gave it a personal, calming feel, too. (By the way, what kind of music did you use? It felt super chill and matched the ambiance perfectly.)
    Also, I see you’ve been posting quite a few videos lately-awesome stuff, man! Your voice is needed out there. Just remember it’s a marathon, not a sprint. I only mention that because I know firsthand how posting regularly can turn into a pressure cooker if you’re not careful (been there, done that, plus I’m in grad school now, so I get it). I’m definitely not saying “stop” (I’m excited for every new upload!)-just that I hope you’re finding a sustainable rhythm that works for you.
    Anyway, I’m really grateful for how authentically you share your journey, Trevor. Wishing you a fantastic holiday season, and I can’t wait to see what you come up with next!
    Take care,
    Sam

  • @edwardasuquo3963
    @edwardasuquo3963 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

    I need that squishy thing

  • @abisheikg
    @abisheikg 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    Pushing too hard can cause us to develop negative relationships with the things that we are trying to do, if we are not conscious enough.
    It's a tricky balance. I don't want to be afraid of doing things in the world. But I don't want autistic overwhelm or shutdown as well. The world just expects us to do neurotypical things or else categorizes this as social anxiety or anxiety. But it's not social anxiety when your body is getting to a shutdown due to overwhelm of senses and emotions... And even medical professionals don't understand/agree with this a lot of times.

  • @Taurusboy07
    @Taurusboy07 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    I TOTALLY AGREE!!!!!!! Just getting out of bed is a TASK!!!!! I damn near have to coach myself out of bed.

  • @heedmydemands
    @heedmydemands 2 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

  • @benburns5995
    @benburns5995 3 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Hi Trevor, I think as you do these uncomfortable tasks in the future hopefully it will get a little easier each time you do. It never feels good to be uncomfortable but I think it was good that you were able to sit down and talk through your struggles.
    One thing you should do is count your Blessings daily on the things that you are able to do successfully at the end of each day. Best wishes Trevor as well start a New Year in 2025.

  • @MaryKDayPetrano
    @MaryKDayPetrano 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I would really like one of those stim things you have. Where can I get one ?

  • @HelíVera-j6q
    @HelíVera-j6q 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    thanks for this video is really helpfull. I'm curious about how old are you Trevor. regards!

  • @jackwt7340
    @jackwt7340 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    There are two possible causes of autism. One is damage to the brain during development that causes the consciousness to fail to adapt, but this is likely to lead to other, more serious mental illnesses. More likely is a mismatch between consciousness and brain structure. The brain structure of your previous body is very different from the brain structure of humans on Earth. If you were Homo erectus in your previous life, you'd have low ability autism. If you were an Avatar in your previous life, you would show high ability autism. But as you get older, your consciousness will gradually adapt to the human brain.

    • @manny3031
      @manny3031 2 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      Brother if past lives are even a thing