Not a thing sadly. Paternity fraud is perfectly legal in the US and seems to be even encouraged. Interesting enough, many -people are against mandatory dna testing....makes you wonder.
Story 1: why would they wait until wedding day to spill the beans? Imagine spending thousands of dollars on a wedding only for it to not happen. If he had found out sooner, he might have been able to recoup some of the costs. Ex best friend had a gleeful look on his face thinking he would get his way. Well he lost a friend, who apparently wasn’t a friend in the end, and the girl probably hates AP now for the way he went about things…but she was wrong too by trying to trap OP in a marriage with a baby that wasn’t his 🤦🏼♀️ if you are going to cheat on your SO, then you do NOT love that person enough…end of story! So tired of all the excuses of why “it just happened and doesn’t mean anything”. Um, it means something to the SO 😡
She was going to tell him after the wedding? In my state in the US, that would mean he would be on the hook for paying for the child, even if it wasn't his. Your wife has an affair and gets pregnant and you divorce her? Too bad, at least 18 years of child support. If you are unlucky they nail you for college, too. Since the best friend and fiance waited so long to tell him, I wonder if OP can sue them for money lost on the wedding.
I live in united state and there are some state that u can sue the mom for parental fraud and couldn't pay the child support to the child that wasn't his. Also, I hear some states are changing their laws because of this.
@@davidransom4476 most states are not at fault. My lawyer said it makes for a faster and cheaper divorce. I saw a story somewhere where they said that, in Michigan if you're on the birth certificate, you have to pay child support even if you prove you're not the father.
OP is not the baby's father - his "best" friend is. WELL, OP, you know what to do don't you? Bye cheater, get on with our life, and a wedding is so much cheaper than a divorce.
There are a good thing about op's situation, at least he can permanently cut ties on his cheated ex and not paying child support on the affair child. So, that ex friend did op a huge favor and saved him for life of not paying child support with the cheated ex. I feel sorry for op and what he going through but at least he know what kind of people that they betrayed him .
Well he dodged a bullet. If she cheated before she would cheat during marriage. Ironically the ex best friend and her will not make it long term. They are both cheaters and their marriage will never last. Feel sorry for the kid. He should sue them for any costs incurred with the wedding though.
Cheated AND lied! Let those two immoral, low down AHs have each other. And make sure that any decent people (grandparents, aunts, Uncles, etc) who can participate in that poor child’s life do so!
Story 1: Lawsuit time!! Gotta recover those costs and make them bleed some cash at the same time!! Last story: Yuna? Someone was playing Final Fantasy F10 (and the age is almost spot on considering the release date).
Look into proportional finances in a relationship. And also, that he seems to think he gets to make all the decisions, including committing OP to a more expensive house that she didn’t want. Also, him NOT cleaning their original home, and wanting to upgrade and force OP to pay for cleaning is pure entitlement.
The op thinks SHE made a huge scene in public and hurt Emma? The instigator? The one who has apparently rely been hateful towards Yuna for years? Emma, the golden child whose parents never seem to have taught her right from wrong?
Op doesn't realize how free he is and how big of a bullet he has dodged and this is going to be a huge lesson learned that he keeps his enemies close and his so called bfriend at arms length....
@@the_introvert_philosoper yeah I know lol. Like I said, I don't think they care. They just give the votes for whatever reason. I also find myself questioning the authenticity of some of these stories.
Op your next step is to suit the offending parties (both) for costs of wedding (including travel expenses for your guests), pain and alienation of affections. You’ve got more than enough witnesses for affidavits. Good luck chin up and move on.
He never was his best friend he was there to get what ever op could help him with and you could tell he was envious of him to take his girlfriend away.
11:33. It’s weird to hear people talk about their clearly financially/emotionally abusive husbands as though it’s just a normal thing. I suspect it’s easier to recognize from the outside. Hopefully as we hear these stories, other people will recognize the signs earlier if they are ever in such a situation.
She should contribute something to the rent even if it is a smaller %. At the same time hire a cleaner and have him contribute to that as well. Or he can start to do cleaning for a month since she covered the previous year.
OP is a man. Best friend is a man, fiancé is OP's former fiancé having an affair with the best man. Then tile is wrong. In any event, the best man won nothing. OP was the actual victor here. 2. This is not a marriage. 3. Good for OP to stand up for her half-sister.
When ever this happens its prudent to re contextualize your situation. -you didn't loose a brother, you lost a guy that saw you as a charity case and had no respect for you. You didn't loose a wife, you lost a maciavalian cheater that wanted to spring (do probably not admit it ) somebody else's baby on you AFTER you were hooked legally. -you did not lose a Life, you gained one whit less deceitful manipulative people. Mourne for what you think you had. but keep in mind theirs better things to haw before you.
Second story OP he tricked you into getting place you can’t afford and now blackmailed you into paying more than you can not afford… get out of there thus no sharing. So he keeps his earnings but you have to share yours? Good. Grief! I would pack suitcase instantly…
If the people were saying "I told you so" mostly everybody knows what that means, unless you're dumb.. They were probably telling OP that his ex was sleeping around or that her being around his best friend looks suspicious and he was sweeping it under the rug, was not looking into it.. Thinking that it's his best friend and fiancee, they wouldn't do anything like that.. And I understand y'all are going to be like oh my gosh he didn't know.. whatever!! I believe he was told and he didn't believe it and now this is the end result of him not paying attention and listening to what people were saying.. Even if you didn't listen to what they said, hear them and then pay attention with with your own eyes.. That right there would tell you more of a story than anything else and also your gut feeling always remember, it is there for a reason. Alot of people ignore that.. Stop ignoring that feeling If something is going on your gut is going to tell you..
There was another reddit post where an OP's bf got his and OP's realtionship ruined because he focused too much on what everyone else is saying. Surprise surprise, 'the people' telling OP's bf she was cheating turned out to be liars, but OP's bf believed them and broke it off with OP and slandered her everywhere. When the truth came out, nothing could be salvaged except for the apologies. So while yes, we should follow our gut feelings and listen to people's perspective and advice, ultimately the best solution is to balance out our logic and feelings: listennto our gut feelings, find proof, listen to all sides of the parties involved, and THEN draw our conclusion(s) on the situation.
Ops husband is co trolling financially. He doesn’t want her to have money so then she can’t be independent and move on without him. She is being gaslight RN. He let her work for him so he could keep an eye on her
Op NTA. And the most horrible thing is that fiance and best friend are traitors. I would be devastated because not only the fiance but the worst my best friend betrayed me. He can find new fiance but best friend ? Omg this is horrible.
1st story....That ex friend will always know he was second best. He will never be trusted by anyone again. That marriage will fail big time. It’s cursed. You dodged a bullet. God has someone else in mind that’s better for you.
16:13. So many red flags. This “man” thinks that women who have jobs are sluts? Clear Mysogynist. He says this out loud and *no one* says anything? Suggests they don’t have very much self respect, did their parents not raise them right? Step Sister somehow believes him and starts skipping classes?! Over this pathetic excuse for a man? Why don’t these people love or value themselves?
Pregnant or not if my fiancee did this to me my sister's and cousin's would lay hands on her and me and my friends would beat my former friend. Why did OP in story 1 think they were the AH?
No he will never recover, if ths is a true story. He will not be able to trust anyone. Best friend/no worst enemy. Fiance/no user. Family and friends/no they suspected and said nothing. Himself/no obviously can't read anybody.
Damn man. If you're going to assault him, don't just try to swing at him or throw punches. Be deliberate. You know you've got a short window and people will try to stop you. He permanently damaged you so return the favor. Be casual. hide your intent. Then gauge his eye out. If someone hurts you permanent, you hurt them permanent and you let the horrible mutilating or crippling injury be a constant reminder and punishment.
A lot of witnesses at a wedding. A judge may sympathize but you still get the book thrown at you. Also friend is more athletic, he may be better in direct fight. Attack by ambush. Need plausible deniability and a strong alibi if you plan to hurt him badly. (Who wouldn't) Possibly by permanently removing his ability to sire children. There are a few ways of doing that. Most would be excruciating, pick one. Repeated blunt force trauma would be least efficient but probably most satisfying. No mercy for that dude.
S1 I'm confused the narrator is telling the story as a man. But the title is told as a woman. If it's a man, you need to go NC with both of them especially your pregnant fiance. Your buddy didn't win anything but no friend, GF or child. You didn't lose anything except enemies and burdens. You dodged a missile.
These stories are one of many reasons why I will never nor anybody else should ever get married Marriage is nothing but a bunch of drama family drama and unnecessary spending
Marriage is an essential legal agreement and its defintly perfect for people who are made for monogamy and loyalty (not everyone) so I understand why you'd say for you but "nor should anybody else" comes off as a little bitter or salty
marriage; Sue them both for attempted marriage/paternity fraud and for the price of the wedding.
Not a thing sadly. Paternity fraud is perfectly legal in the US and seems to be even encouraged. Interesting enough, many -people are against mandatory dna testing....makes you wonder.
Story 1: why would they wait until wedding day to spill the beans? Imagine spending thousands of dollars on a wedding only for it to not happen. If he had found out sooner, he might have been able to recoup some of the costs. Ex best friend had a gleeful look on his face thinking he would get his way. Well he lost a friend, who apparently wasn’t a friend in the end, and the girl probably hates AP now for the way he went about things…but she was wrong too by trying to trap OP in a marriage with a baby that wasn’t his 🤦🏼♀️ if you are going to cheat on your SO, then you do NOT love that person enough…end of story! So tired of all the excuses of why “it just happened and doesn’t mean anything”. Um, it means something to the SO 😡
She was going to tell him after the wedding? In my state in the US, that would mean he would be on the hook for paying for the child, even if it wasn't his. Your wife has an affair and gets pregnant and you divorce her? Too bad, at least 18 years of child support. If you are unlucky they nail you for college, too. Since the best friend and fiance waited so long to tell him, I wonder if OP can sue them for money lost on the wedding.
In most States with that law there is a loophole that if you can prove who the real father is you don't have to pay child support, he would.
I live in united state and there are some state that u can sue the mom for parental fraud and couldn't pay the child support to the child that wasn't his. Also, I hear some states are changing their laws because of this.
Unless contested, a child born within a marriage is considered the child of that man. However; the OP can/should contest it and get a dna test.
I LIVE IN California. Even if the husband proves It's not his child, he's going to be paying. Infidelity is also not grounds for divorce here.
@@davidransom4476 most states are not at fault. My lawyer said it makes for a faster and cheaper divorce.
I saw a story somewhere where they said that, in Michigan if you're on the birth certificate, you have to pay child support even if you prove you're not the father.
OP is not the baby's father - his "best" friend is. WELL, OP, you know what to do don't you? Bye cheater, get on with our life, and a wedding is so much cheaper than a divorce.
There are a good thing about op's situation, at least he can permanently cut ties on his cheated ex and not paying child support on the affair child. So, that ex friend did op a huge favor and saved him for life of not paying child support with the cheated ex.
I feel sorry for op and what he going through but at least he know what kind of people that they betrayed him .
First mistake.u pur her on a pedestal.
NEVER DO THAT.
Sue both of them for money you spent on the wedding.
Well he dodged a bullet. If she cheated before she would cheat during marriage. Ironically the ex best friend and her will not make it long term. They are both cheaters and their marriage will never last. Feel sorry for the kid. He should sue them for any costs incurred with the wedding though.
Cheated AND lied! Let those two immoral, low down AHs have each other. And make sure that any decent people (grandparents, aunts,
Uncles, etc) who can participate in that poor child’s life do so!
Sue the best friend and ex fiance for the entire cost of the wedding, and stop fucking with nasty people. You dodged a bullet, watch your back.
Add in some emotional pain and suffering damages into that lawsuit as well.
Story 1: Lawsuit time!! Gotta recover those costs and make them bleed some cash at the same time!!
Last story: Yuna? Someone was playing Final Fantasy F10 (and the age is almost spot on considering the release date).
Look into proportional finances in a relationship. And also, that he seems to think he gets to make all the decisions, including committing OP to a more expensive house that she didn’t want. Also, him NOT cleaning their original home, and wanting to upgrade and force OP to pay for cleaning is pure entitlement.
The op thinks SHE made a huge scene in public and hurt Emma? The instigator? The one who has apparently rely been hateful towards Yuna for years? Emma, the golden child whose parents never seem to have taught her right from wrong?
Op doesn't realize how free he is and how big of a bullet he has dodged and this is going to be a huge lesson learned that he keeps his enemies close and his so called bfriend at arms length....
Seriously, how is this a AITA story?! Even if i got the title, i feel like so much is missing to know what moral problem the person is facing.
It's most likely not from the AITA subreddit. Maybe a different one and no one cares about rhe actual format
@@Bijecarli Yeah but the comments are NTA whic is one of the voting choices in AITA
@@the_introvert_philosoper yeah I know lol. Like I said, I don't think they care. They just give the votes for whatever reason. I also find myself questioning the authenticity of some of these stories.
Op your next step is to suit the offending parties (both) for costs of wedding (including travel expenses for your guests), pain and alienation of affections. You’ve got more than enough witnesses for affidavits. Good luck chin up and move on.
He never was his best friend he was there to get what ever op could help him with and you could tell he was envious of him to take his girlfriend away.
11:33. It’s weird to hear people talk about their clearly financially/emotionally abusive husbands as though it’s just a normal thing. I suspect it’s easier to recognize from the outside. Hopefully as we hear these stories, other people will recognize the signs earlier if they are ever in such a situation.
Because they love bomb them in the beginning of their relationships. They don't reveal their true self until after marriage.
Second Story: who wants to bet that he'd been cutting her pay for rent money?
She should contribute something to the rent even if it is a smaller %. At the same time hire a cleaner and have him contribute to that as well. Or he can start to do cleaning for a month since she covered the previous year.
OP is a man. Best friend is a man, fiancé is OP's former fiancé having an affair with the best man. Then tile is wrong. In any event, the best man won nothing. OP was the actual victor here. 2. This is not a marriage. 3. Good for OP to stand up for her half-sister.
Yeah. Very confusing.
id ask mine if hed take care of cleaning the house since i did that for 18 months if he wants me to pay the rent.
I just hope he sues her for the money wasted in that Cham of wedding.
Last story: I love your solution! Leave the parents with their spoiled brat who should be living her own life not sponging off her parents at her age.
That is terrible. I feel your pain. Getting up by the boot straps will be very hard. You can only do it on your own time.
Your husband is a financial abuser. Divorce the jerk. You'd be better off without that anchor dragging you down.
When ever this happens its prudent to re contextualize your situation. -you didn't loose a brother, you lost a guy that saw you as a charity case and had no respect for you. You didn't loose a wife, you lost a maciavalian cheater that wanted to spring (do probably not admit it ) somebody else's baby on you AFTER you were hooked legally. -you did not lose a Life, you gained one whit less deceitful manipulative people. Mourne for what you think you had. but keep in mind theirs better things to haw before you.
This where I call up my friends from my 'bad boy' days. They can sort it for me.
Story 1: the trash walked itself out.
Second story OP he tricked you into getting place you can’t afford and now blackmailed you into paying more than you can not afford… get out of there thus no sharing. So he keeps his earnings but you have to share yours? Good. Grief! I would pack suitcase instantly…
This story is hard to follow
If the people were saying "I told you so" mostly everybody knows what that means, unless you're dumb.. They were probably telling OP that his ex was sleeping around or that her being around his best friend looks suspicious and he was sweeping it under the rug, was not looking into it..
Thinking that it's his best friend and fiancee, they wouldn't do anything like that.. And I understand y'all are going to be like oh my gosh he didn't know..
whatever!! I believe he was told and he didn't believe it and now this is the end result of him not paying attention and listening to what people were saying.. Even if you didn't listen to what they said, hear them and then pay attention with with your own eyes..
That right there would tell you more of a story than anything else and also your gut feeling always remember, it is there for a reason. Alot of people ignore that.. Stop ignoring that feeling If something is going on your gut is going to tell you..
There was another reddit post where an OP's bf got his and OP's realtionship ruined because he focused too much on what everyone else is saying. Surprise surprise, 'the people' telling OP's bf she was cheating turned out to be liars, but OP's bf believed them and broke it off with OP and slandered her everywhere. When the truth came out, nothing could be salvaged except for the apologies.
So while yes, we should follow our gut feelings and listen to people's perspective and advice, ultimately the best solution is to balance out our logic and feelings: listennto our gut feelings, find proof, listen to all sides of the parties involved, and THEN draw our conclusion(s) on the situation.
s2; she should be paying half of the old rent. The new place was entirely him.
the title is weird shouldn't it be he's the father of my fiancee's baby
It is back to front isn't it!
I was also confused listening to the first part of the story
Ops husband is co trolling financially. He doesn’t want her to have money so then she can’t be independent and move on without him. She is being gaslight RN. He let her work for him so he could keep an eye on her
Op NTA.
And the most horrible thing is that fiance and best friend are traitors.
I would be devastated because not only the fiance but the worst my best friend betrayed me.
He can find new fiance but best friend ? Omg this is horrible.
If OP’s (ex) fiancée was sleeping with OP and with best friend, then why would the AH-best friend be sure he would be the father?
He wouldn't, he just wanted the girl. So to do so he would wreck her marriage.
I hope that he can sue them
Yuna, Emma, and everyone else.
Leave as soon as you can. You don't need these people.
Second story divorce the jerk
Dude, you'll be fine. There are so many more awesome women out there than men so you'll have no trouble finding a new partner
1st story....That ex friend will always know he was second best. He will never be trusted by anyone again. That marriage will fail big time. It’s cursed.
You dodged a bullet. God has someone else in mind that’s better for you.
16:13. So many red flags. This “man” thinks that women who have jobs are sluts? Clear Mysogynist. He says this out loud and *no one* says anything? Suggests they don’t have very much self respect, did their parents not raise them right? Step Sister somehow believes him and starts skipping classes?! Over this pathetic excuse for a man? Why don’t these people love or value themselves?
Apt Rent etc. Forget help, pack up and leave. Husband is trying to control you and is using you as back-up ATM.
When i read books like this, i like the drama and mess. But in real life none of it is entertainment its just cruel
No prenuptial he was not paying you your right rate.
So tell him you want your pay .
Divorce him and take his company
The title makes no sense. Shouldn't it be "Best friend announced that he's the father of my fiancee's baby"?
Pregnant or not if my fiancee did this to me my sister's and cousin's would lay hands on her and me and my friends would beat my former friend. Why did OP in story 1 think they were the AH?
No he will never recover, if ths is a true story. He will not be able to trust anyone. Best friend/no worst enemy. Fiance/no user. Family and friends/no they suspected and said nothing. Himself/no obviously can't read anybody.
Your step sister is the better sister.
Damn man. If you're going to assault him, don't just try to swing at him or throw punches. Be deliberate. You know you've got a short window and people will try to stop you. He permanently damaged you so return the favor. Be casual. hide your intent. Then gauge his eye out. If someone hurts you permanent, you hurt them permanent and you let the horrible mutilating or crippling injury be a constant reminder and punishment.
A lot of witnesses at a wedding. A judge may sympathize but you still get the book thrown at you. Also friend is more athletic, he may be better in direct fight. Attack by ambush. Need plausible deniability and a strong alibi if you plan to hurt him badly. (Who wouldn't) Possibly by permanently removing his ability to sire children. There are a few ways of doing that. Most would be excruciating, pick one. Repeated blunt force trauma would be least efficient but probably most satisfying.
No mercy for that dude.
If you are a father that loves your son, you disappear the friend. It's what a man is supposed to do for his family.
Stay. Vigilant. Men.
Get the ring back
Get a dog. They are loyal.
Love the girls in the video!!
Throwing some advice in. Maybe cut the text in either the title or the thumbnail. Don't keep text on both as it may drive people away
So the title of the video is wrong....?
You need all the therapy and maby go on a nice long trip hopefuly if your not to damaged by this you can finde a good woman and start a family.
S1 I'm confused the narrator is telling the story as a man. But the title is told as a woman. If it's a man, you need to go NC with both of them especially your pregnant fiance. Your buddy didn't win anything but no friend, GF or child. You didn't lose anything except enemies and burdens. You dodged a missile.
The title makes no sense. Fiancee=female person one is engaged to. Fiance is the male version.
Best friend would be strapped to my wedding car by his 🥜 🤷♂️ you will learn to stay in your lane after I put you in a wheelchair ♿️ 😂
Marriage isn't worth it.
These stories are one of many reasons why I will never nor anybody else should ever get married
Marriage is nothing but a bunch of drama family drama and unnecessary spending
Marriage is an essential legal agreement and its defintly perfect for people who are made for monogamy and loyalty (not everyone) so I understand why you'd say for you but "nor should anybody else" comes off as a little bitter or salty