I want a romantic relationship with a woman, but I don’t want anything sexual, I’m actually very sex-repulsed. Also, it’s hard enough dating because I’m autistic. Anyway, I know this video’s a couple years old, but it feels good to know that I’m not weird because of how I feel. 💕
Not necessarily 😊 An asexual can choose to have sex if they would like biological children. And, as Navy Davey said, they could just adopt. It's pretty much the same as gay couples having children, actually
@@donaldbanks1989 No problem! 😊 But it isn't just adoption. Aces can have sex to have children too. They just don't feel attraction, and thus don't inherently want it, if that makes sense?
Imagine then how terrible it is in countries where you're not allowed to be anything but straight.I mean 'allo straight'.Here,asexuality literally does not exist. Sometimes u mention during a conversation "I'm asexual "and they are like" are we talking plants now". Aside gay asexuality, telling a girl that's interested in u that you're not interested in sex sends out a message that you're just gay . And for a gay Ace, immediately you're just tired of going on with the conversation because u know in d end you'll try telling them yeah but I'm still not into sex nd then they be like "u're just gay"... as if you were silent each time u mentioned (not into sex)asexual. I do not mean to spread hate but d LGBTQ community makes matters even much worse.They immediately see u as a threat or even a spy if u say u're Ace or in terms most understand "I'm not into sex"... funny as that sounds they could even turn violent. I honestly think that things will only get better if advocate for asexuality as the gay community did in 2012. Unless that, people will never see Ace as something real .As in Asexual marriages shud be labelled and recognized in law. After all 'gay marriages' do not mean the couples do not engage in other things not considered gay,if u understand what I mean in terms of Asexuality. It can be very depressing to wake up here every morning as an asexual. The Gay community can be annoying, tiring nd depressing ...atimes I feel more hurt by them than d allo society in general. Initially I felt it was because of the repression they get from d society or simply because they are horny m*f. Seriously I really hope they change the way they treat us like sh*t. God!I just pray one goes through this with complete mental sanity in d end.
Oh my gosh! So being gay and asexual is an actual thing!? I'm the same and I've been confused about this part of my identity. Thank you for sharing. 🙏🏽
I want to explore an asexual homo romantic relationship. I have had 2 homosexual relationships and due to me giving a lack of sex I feel one cheated on me and the other because I didn’t want to bottom. I just want to be with a guy my age romantically. Could you hit me up. I’m 35. My contact e mail is on all my videos at my TH-cam channel
Hey, your words really helped me now. I dentified as a lesbian for a while but i never felt a "real" sexual atraction. I always liked to cuddle the hair of someone I like, to kiss someone and the other things but thinking about sex and watching porn is really disgusting for me. Just being close to someone I love make me feel safe and comfortable and there's no way I can be aromantic. I knew there is some asexual community, but I didn't know much about it and I didn't identify as asexual (maybe just 'cause I thought asexual and aromantic are both the same). Now, I started to think more about it and realized I can be asexual and romantic at once. After watching this video I know that I actually am homoromantic asexual and I'm really happy there's more people like me with same thoughts and feelings. There's no definition, description, test or quiz on the internet what helped me more than you. Thank you! PS: please, excuse my English
OMG!!! I wasnt even sure that such thing as homoromantic asexual exist! Now that I Know It does, I can finally solve My sexual orientation identity problem and identify as a lesbian Ace! Ty so much, Daniel!!!
I call myself gay instead of homoromantic asexual since almost NOBODY knows what homoromantic means and also, gay can mean h0either homosexual or homoromantic, so saying that im gay is right even tho im not homosexual but im homoromantic
@@localnonbinaryprussianbowl3350 I can understand your point. I honestly didn't know either. only when I read something about it. I never really saw myself as a lesbian, always asexual. just because I didn't really realize it. Over the years I started to like women more and now I can only imagine a life with them. I only had girlfriends too.
Congratulations on your channel growth! Wishing you lots of success in all your creative endeavors. Really liked the idea of this "unfamiliar harmony" between the two identities. I think this expressed the idea of initial dissimilarity but an eventual recognition of intercompatibility. I think the differences between the communities create a lot of push and pull and it's difficult at times to form your own path and understanding of your identity. You want to fit in and enjoy a sense of community but at times I question whether I really like certain things or if I've just taught myself to enjoy them for the sake of others or in order to feel more 'normal' or accepted. It's really strange to think about, I think many gay people would vehemently deny you could endoctrinate anyone into gay culture and yet sometimes I feel like if I don't do x y or z then I'm just not gay enough to get into the club. Of course I'm sure part of this is self-inflicted and speaks perhaps more to my own conception of the gay community or my own close-mindedness about what it means to be part of the gay community.
Thanks! To be honest, I nearly took out the bit about "unfamiliar harmony" because it sounded a bit cringey 😂 I'm glad I didn't though! Yeah, I completely agree. It's easy to feel pressured into acting a certain way within a community, in order to fit in. But you shouldn't have to, if that means losing your sense of identity
Thank you so much for this video... very at easy with homosexuality, but found it very hard coming to terms with asexuality over the 2 years since it dawned on me that that's what i was... still discovering and learning of course, but this video had helped! 👌
More difficult than when you're just gay, unfortunately. I don't have much first-hand experience, but I am going to start dating again in the near future, and then I'll talk about that in a video :)
So hard... especially if you have social anxiety (I have every symptom but I’m not professionally diagnosed with it. I’m kinda afraid my therapist/doctor will judge me 😅) also I know I’m late lol
My friend told me that if i have a non asexual partner and i wont have sex with saidpartner, they will leave very quickly. I told him that asexuals can be with non asexuals since sex isnt the only thing in a relationship that matters. He understands it now.
@Hisoka Morow yea, its mean when people say that "if you dont wanna have sex with someone, you cant have a non asexual partner because SeX iS aLl ThAt MaTtErS iN a ReLaTiOnShIp" like are people really that horny that they will love so eone just to have frick with them? Btw thanks for the compliment!
@Hisoka Morow oh and i can help you find your sexuality with these questions: - could you imagine having a relationship with a girl? - could you imagine having a relationship with a guy? - could you imagine having a relationship with an enby? If you answer yes to girls and boys, youre probably biromantic, if you answer yes to all, youre probably panromantic. And if you answer yes to girls, you are, depending on your gender, either homoromantic or heteroromantic, And when you answer yes to guys, then, depending on your gender, youre either heteroromantic or homoromantic.
If I remember correctly, on my other account, I found this video and got introduced that there’s a word for this. Thanks a lot! Edit: hello me from 1 month ago! Just wanted to edit this letting anyone reading this to know I’m biromantic. ;v;
I'm demi and gay, but I don't know how to start dating. I've tried Tinder and it's awful, how can I know If I like someone just for a picture? People don't put anything in the bio, it's frustrating D:
Thank you for sharing your experience. I identify as the same and as a teenager I had no idea what I was going through and why my experience was so different from everyone else. It’s only now at 39 that I’m actually realising what I feel and felt was / is valid.
As someone who is coming to terms with being potentially homoromantic asexual too, I think your videos are absolutely amazing. I love how casual you are, You're not trying to be over the top like some TH-camrs and it's really nice and I really agree with you. I used to sit In gay bars and feel like I belong but also didn't. I used to sit there feeling like there was something else. Why aren't I trying to hook up like everyone else? Why aren't I talking about sexual things all the time? Why isn't it the main topic and recently I've come to terms with the fact that I could possibly be Homoromantic instead and asexual, thank you for your story I appreciate it
Thanks for this video. I’m not asexual, but I am a gay man who is completely oriented towards monogamy and I also have a low sex drive compared to most men. I relate a lot to homoromantic aces even if I am not ace myself.
I'm not sure if I'm a homoromantic asexual or simply find the idea of a sexual relationship between two women uncomfortable due to the homophobic culture I was raised it 🤔
I identify as Biromantic Heterosexual. I'm basically part straight and LGBT+. So yeah, I understand what you mean. It's like you're moulded by two very different communities.
I’m gay and asexual. I have romantic attraction but I have no sexual attraction at all. I didn’t know homoromantic was what’s that’s called before. I’m glad I finally know what word describes who I am now
There are surely others like you, but I imagine a lot of those people haven't considered it because the split attraction model doesn't exist outside the ace community
I really enjoyed watching your video. I'm in my 60s and I never felt that I fit into the gay population, even though I am. Are there any gay asexual/romantic men who are older than 60? Or am I the only one?
Hi! I'm new to the LGBT+ Community. Right now I'm questioning what to call myself. After a while of Google searches and thinking about who I am. I came the conclusion that I am Asexual. I spent so long thinking I was broken, my identity as an Ace is important to me. On the other hand, my romanctic orientation is Lesbian. I am a lesbian in every way Expect sexual. I feel romanctic, aesthetic, and sensual attraction towards females. Do you think it would be okay if I called myself a lesbian and was open about being "Gay". I'm struggling with this because I am also Ace. I want to find myself a nice girlfriend some day and if I start talking to a girl I'd tell her I'm Ace but I'm thinking it's easier to just call myself a lesbian instead of consistently explaining. I also feel like I done belong in the Lesbian Community because I don't feel the sexual attraction towards girls. I relate to the community because I find girls "hot" in an aesthetic sense instead of sexual. I relate to the struggles of being Gay romantically. Thoughts?
Of course that's okay! I call myself gay all the time 😊 It's a lot easier than having to explain asexuality to everyone I come across. Then, like you said, you can bring it up with a girl you're interested in dating 😊
@@SliceOfAce okay! Im just afraid in not "gay enough" to call myself gay but on getting more confident in my romanctic orientation. Your video has helped a lot and your reply!!! (I wasn't expecting you reply lol) thank you
Yeah i feel exactly the same as you. I’m afraid to tell my friends I’m “gay” because they will picture homoerotic thoughts they will place in my mind witch I don’t have. But romantically I feel I want the same thing and I’m ok with that. Tho I do not know how to go about finding a partner I have had no experiences being romantic with any male and if I was Interested what are the odds that any relationship would last without sexual content that I’m not interested In
I know I’m lesbian but I prefer romantic affection & outercourse & need to keep safe / commitment to open up in those sexual ways but do feel sexual attraction. Im gray ace questioning. or thinking I’m homoromantic gray sexual. nice to have community to figure out/ talk abt identity
so i am a trans man... i thought i was gay and recently realized I am demisexual homoromantic... for me coming out with all of this feels like wanting to make things more difficult for me... but yeah it's me I would not change it for anyone.
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I want a romantic relationship with a woman, but I don’t want anything sexual, I’m actually very sex-repulsed.
Also, it’s hard enough dating because I’m autistic.
Anyway, I know this video’s a couple years old, but it feels good to know that I’m not weird because of how I feel. 💕
Samee
Same but give me bois
Sameee but sex favorable
I’m straight but I only want a romantic relationship with a man sex is scary and gross I’m also autistic but I wish I was asexual like you
I also identify as homoromantic asexual. I’m married and have 2 kids.
I was wondering how that you could have kids until I remembered adoption exists
Not necessarily 😊 An asexual can choose to have sex if they would like biological children. And, as Navy Davey said, they could just adopt. It's pretty much the same as gay couples having children, actually
@@donaldbanks1989 No problem! 😊 But it isn't just adoption. Aces can have sex to have children too. They just don't feel attraction, and thus don't inherently want it, if that makes sense?
@@donaldbanks1989 You're not alone, I know exactly how you feel. I'm sure you won't be alone forever 😊
Imagine then how terrible it is in countries where you're not allowed to be anything but straight.I mean 'allo straight'.Here,asexuality literally does not exist. Sometimes u mention during a conversation "I'm asexual "and they are like" are we talking plants now". Aside gay asexuality, telling a girl that's interested in u that you're not interested in sex sends out a message that you're just gay . And for a gay Ace, immediately you're just tired of going on with the conversation because u know in d end you'll try telling them yeah but I'm still not into sex nd then they be like "u're just gay"... as if you were silent each time u mentioned (not into sex)asexual. I do not mean to spread hate but d LGBTQ community makes matters even much worse.They immediately see u as a threat or even a spy if u say u're Ace or in terms most understand "I'm not into sex"... funny as that sounds they could even turn violent. I honestly think that things will only get better if advocate for asexuality as the gay community did in 2012. Unless that, people will never see Ace as something real .As in Asexual marriages shud be labelled and recognized in law. After all 'gay marriages' do not mean the couples do not engage in other things not considered gay,if u understand what I mean in terms of Asexuality. It can be very depressing to wake up here every morning as an asexual. The Gay community can be annoying, tiring nd depressing ...atimes I feel more hurt by them than d allo society in general. Initially I felt it was because of the repression they get from d society or simply because they are horny m*f. Seriously I really hope they change the way they treat us like sh*t. God!I just pray one goes through this with complete mental sanity in d end.
Oh my gosh! So being gay and asexual is an actual thing!? I'm the same and I've been confused about this part of my identity. Thank you for sharing. 🙏🏽
I want to explore an asexual homo romantic relationship. I have had 2 homosexual relationships and due to me giving a lack of sex I feel one cheated on me and the other because I didn’t want to bottom. I just want to be with a guy my age romantically. Could you hit me up. I’m 35. My contact e mail is on all my videos at my TH-cam channel
Hey, your words really helped me now. I dentified as a lesbian for a while but i never felt a "real" sexual atraction. I always liked to cuddle the hair of someone I like, to kiss someone and the other things but thinking about sex and watching porn is really disgusting for me. Just being close to someone I love make me feel safe and comfortable and there's no way I can be aromantic. I knew there is some asexual community, but I didn't know much about it and I didn't identify as asexual (maybe just 'cause I thought asexual and aromantic are both the same). Now, I started to think more about it and realized I can be asexual and romantic at once. After watching this video I know that I actually am homoromantic asexual and I'm really happy there's more people like me with same thoughts and feelings. There's no definition, description, test or quiz on the internet what helped me more than you. Thank you!
PS: please, excuse my English
Thank you, I'm really glad that my video helped you! 😆
And your English is excellent
This is exactly how I feel!
This is literally what i feel !
Oops, I didn't mean to post this video yet! Oh well, you can have it early :)
We support your decision. Haha
OMG!!! I wasnt even sure that such thing as homoromantic asexual exist! Now that I Know It does, I can finally solve My sexual orientation identity problem and identify as a lesbian Ace! Ty so much, Daniel!!!
This is the only TH-cam Channel and you're the only youtuber that I know who uploaded this kind of video!! LOVE YOU 😘 So much for uploading this!!
Thanks, I'm glad you enjoyed it!
Slice of Ace
I relate to every single details you shared in this video in which I think our LGBTQ+ community must realize by the corner
I don't think I have EVER related to anything SO HARD. Btw there isn't much awareness for male aces!
Aww, thanks. Yep, hence why I'm trying to fill that gap 😊
@@SliceOfAce THANKYOUUU
Thanks for making this vid! It makes me feel more Human hearing your story :)
Happy to help! :)
Me too : )
I am also asexual and homoromantic ... or "lesbian", although in my case I prefer homoromantic
Pata me too :’)
I call myself gay instead of homoromantic asexual since almost NOBODY knows what homoromantic means and also, gay can mean h0either homosexual or homoromantic, so saying that im gay is right even tho im not homosexual but im homoromantic
@@localnonbinaryprussianbowl3350 I can understand your point. I honestly didn't know either. only when I read something about it. I never really saw myself as a lesbian, always asexual. just because I didn't really realize it. Over the years I started to like women more and now I can only imagine a life with them. I only had girlfriends too.
You are not alone
Finally!!!! i know what i am now! I'm in tears watching this, cause there's others out there like me! Thankyou so much for this vid!!!
You're very welcome! 😊
I identify as biromantic asexual and completely sex repulsed meaning I don’t want anything to do with sex I’m glad you acknowledge yourself and us
New here! Gonna catch up with old videos. Fellow asexual homoromantic here
Welcome!!! :)
Congratulations on your channel growth! Wishing you lots of success in all your creative endeavors.
Really liked the idea of this "unfamiliar harmony" between the two identities. I think this expressed the idea of initial dissimilarity but an eventual recognition of intercompatibility. I think the differences between the communities create a lot of push and pull and it's difficult at times to form your own path and understanding of your identity. You want to fit in and enjoy a sense of community but at times I question whether I really like certain things or if I've just taught myself to enjoy them for the sake of others or in order to feel more 'normal' or accepted. It's really strange to think about, I think many gay people would vehemently deny you could endoctrinate anyone into gay culture and yet sometimes I feel like if I don't do x y or z then I'm just not gay enough to get into the club. Of course I'm sure part of this is self-inflicted and speaks perhaps more to my own conception of the gay community or my own close-mindedness about what it means to be part of the gay community.
Thanks! To be honest, I nearly took out the bit about "unfamiliar harmony" because it sounded a bit cringey 😂 I'm glad I didn't though! Yeah, I completely agree. It's easy to feel pressured into acting a certain way within a community, in order to fit in. But you shouldn't have to, if that means losing your sense of identity
Thank you so much for this video... very at easy with homosexuality, but found it very hard coming to terms with asexuality over the 2 years since it dawned on me that that's what i was... still discovering and learning of course, but this video had helped! 👌
I'm glad I could help!
How difficult is to find a partner being an asexual gay?
More difficult than when you're just gay, unfortunately. I don't have much first-hand experience, but I am going to start dating again in the near future, and then I'll talk about that in a video :)
So hard... especially if you have social anxiety (I have every symptom but I’m not professionally diagnosed with it. I’m kinda afraid my therapist/doctor will judge me 😅) also I know I’m late lol
My friend told me that if i have a non asexual partner and i wont have sex with saidpartner, they will leave very quickly.
I told him that asexuals can be with non asexuals since sex isnt the only thing in a relationship that matters. He understands it now.
@Hisoka Morow yea, its mean when people say that "if you dont wanna have sex with someone, you cant have a non asexual partner because SeX iS aLl ThAt MaTtErS iN a ReLaTiOnShIp" like are people really that horny that they will love so eone just to have frick with them?
Btw thanks for the compliment!
@Hisoka Morow oh and i can help you find your sexuality with these questions:
- could you imagine having a relationship with a girl?
- could you imagine having a relationship with a guy?
- could you imagine having a relationship with an enby?
If you answer yes to girls and boys, youre probably biromantic, if you answer yes to all, youre probably panromantic.
And if you answer yes to girls, you are, depending on your gender, either homoromantic or heteroromantic,
And when you answer yes to guys, then, depending on your gender, youre either heteroromantic or homoromantic.
If I remember correctly, on my other account, I found this video and got introduced that there’s a word for this. Thanks a lot!
Edit: hello me from 1 month ago! Just wanted to edit this letting anyone reading this to know I’m biromantic. ;v;
You're welcome!
I'm demi and gay, but I don't know how to start dating. I've tried Tinder and it's awful, how can I know If I like someone just for a picture? People don't put anything in the bio, it's frustrating D:
There's asexuals.net, which is an ace dating site. Might be worth checking out?
Thank you for sharing your experience. I identify as the same and as a teenager I had no idea what I was going through and why my experience was so different from everyone else. It’s only now at 39 that I’m actually realising what I feel and felt was / is valid.
As someone who is coming to terms with being potentially homoromantic asexual too, I think your videos are absolutely amazing. I love how casual you are, You're not trying to be over the top like some TH-camrs and it's really nice and I really agree with you. I used to sit In gay bars and feel like I belong but also didn't. I used to sit there feeling like there was something else. Why aren't I trying to hook up like everyone else? Why aren't I talking about sexual things all the time? Why isn't it the main topic and recently I've come to terms with the fact that I could possibly be Homoromantic instead and asexual, thank you for your story I appreciate it
You're welcome, I'm glad it helps! 😊
@@SliceOfAce The fact that you still reply to these comments 👑👑
63 subscribers already?! You’re almost on your way!
Yeah, I can't believe how many subscribers I have already! I did get a big boost during AAW, so things have slowed down a bit since then
Thanks for this video. I’m not asexual, but I am a gay man who is completely oriented towards monogamy and I also have a low sex drive compared to most men. I relate a lot to homoromantic aces even if I am not ace myself.
I'm asexual.
Your Lucky you don't feel horny
Thanks for posting this. i think in the future we'll be recognised more, hope so anyway
I'm not sure if I'm a homoromantic asexual or simply find the idea of a sexual relationship between two women uncomfortable due to the homophobic culture I was raised it 🤔
I identify as Biromantic Heterosexual. I'm basically part straight and LGBT+. So yeah, I understand what you mean. It's like you're moulded by two very different communities.
How are you hetero and and bi? I'm sorry if that's offensive to you I just genuinely want to know
@@saiyah3371 He feels emotional connections with both genders but has physical needs from one.
So if ur in a monogamous romantic relationship with the same sex do u just hold in ur sexual needs from the opposite sex?
I’m gay and asexual. I have romantic attraction but I have no sexual attraction at all. I didn’t know homoromantic was what’s that’s called before. I’m glad I finally know what word describes who I am now
I’m a homoromantic bisexual! Idk anyone else like this
There are surely others like you, but I imagine a lot of those people haven't considered it because the split attraction model doesn't exist outside the ace community
Slice of Ace thank you for helping me find myself. But since split attraction doesn’t exist outside should I just go by gay or bi?
It's your choice! I tend to identify as gay to most people because it's simpler, but it's your choice whom you choose and when 😊
Slice of Ace thank you so much
You're very welcome! 😊
I really enjoyed watching your video. I'm in my 60s and I never felt that I fit into the gay population, even though I am. Are there any gay asexual/romantic men who are older than 60? Or am I the only one?
Look into Ace Dad Advice online. He has a TH-cam channel and TikTok. I can't remember if he's over 60, but he's of an older generation 😊
Hi! I'm new to the LGBT+ Community. Right now I'm questioning what to call myself. After a while of Google searches and thinking about who I am. I came the conclusion that I am Asexual. I spent so long thinking I was broken, my identity as an Ace is important to me. On the other hand, my romanctic orientation is Lesbian. I am a lesbian in every way Expect sexual. I feel romanctic, aesthetic, and sensual attraction towards females. Do you think it would be okay if I called myself a lesbian and was open about being "Gay". I'm struggling with this because I am also Ace. I want to find myself a nice girlfriend some day and if I start talking to a girl I'd tell her I'm Ace but I'm thinking it's easier to just call myself a lesbian instead of consistently explaining. I also feel like I done belong in the Lesbian Community because I don't feel the sexual attraction towards girls. I relate to the community because I find girls "hot" in an aesthetic sense instead of sexual. I relate to the struggles of being Gay romantically. Thoughts?
Of course that's okay! I call myself gay all the time 😊 It's a lot easier than having to explain asexuality to everyone I come across. Then, like you said, you can bring it up with a girl you're interested in dating 😊
@@SliceOfAce okay! Im just afraid in not "gay enough" to call myself gay but on getting more confident in my romanctic orientation. Your video has helped a lot and your reply!!! (I wasn't expecting you reply lol) thank you
You're welcome! I try to read all the comments and reply to any with direct questions 😊
Thank you 😚
I'm heterosexual but homoromantic but I wish I was asexual
Yeah i feel exactly the same as you. I’m afraid to tell my friends I’m “gay” because they will picture homoerotic thoughts they will place in my mind witch I don’t have. But romantically I feel I want the same thing and I’m ok with that. Tho I do not know how to go about finding a partner I have had no experiences being romantic with any male and if I was Interested what are the odds that any relationship would last without sexual content that I’m not interested In
Thank u for making this video.
You're welcome!
I love beeing ace-gay 😊
I know I’m lesbian but I prefer romantic affection & outercourse & need to keep safe / commitment to open up in those sexual ways but do feel sexual attraction. Im gray ace questioning. or thinking I’m homoromantic gray sexual. nice to have community to figure out/ talk abt identity
I'm homo romantic too I just came out to my mom my brother
Very relatable
we’re gasexual and we’re valid
so i am a trans man... i thought i was gay and recently realized I am demisexual homoromantic... for me coming out with all of this feels like wanting to make things more difficult for me... but yeah it's me I would not change it for anyone.
You’re a woman with issues….
I am Homoromantic
And heterosexual?
😙😙😙
Thank you ❤️❤️❤️
You're welcome!