@@ChelseaDetari Watch much of Carlin's later stuff. At that point he did not care about his popularity or ratings or anything. He had made it. And he wanted to make a real difference, so he spoke the truth. Check him out. He is the TRUTH.
As a 60 year old black male. I wish I knew this when I was your age. Forget that American dream thing it’s just a time drain out of your life, start living now. There are no do overs.
I feel so grateful and happy hearing this come from someone with your level of life experience. To be honest sometimes i questions if later on in life I might regret making the choices I’ve made. It’s good to hear this from you
@@ChelseaDetari You will never regret happy memories. I'm 50 and it took me a long time to realize I'm on the wrong path. I worked so hard to numb the pain someone bestowed on me that I did not even get to live. I forgot the purpose ow work and made it my life mission. I have a lot material things but, they don't bring true happiness.
I am a veteran teacher and I feel you on this. I turn 60 in September and I'm out after 1st quarter. I'm saddened every time I see a 65+-year-old hobble back into the building to substitute.
I have about 14 years in teaching and I’m like ok…11 more years will make 25. The veterans talking about they’ve been teaching for 37 years…40 years…and can’t retire because of X…I don’t understand it. Like…what are we doing?!?!
I retired teaching in 2018. The biggest issue has been , at least in my state, they have reduced COLA and have raised health insurance premiums every year. I now take home $500 less than when I retired. Add the current inflationary situation and I am having to go back to work. I am looking into leaving the country but I have kids college to pay for.
The more you chase the American dream, the more you realize it's really the American nightmare. Endless rat racing. Constantly gotta look over your should because people pretending to be friends are just competition trying to establish an edge. The American nightmare.
Yes I came up with an idea and with a "friend" started hustling it. Soon she started to behave like she came up with all the ideas and I was the issue. She basically stole the idea and going to try and trademark it as her own without me. LOL yes but thing is I am over hustling.
These “why is gave up” vids have been a reassurance of what I’ve been thinking these last couple of years. “I wasn’t hungry enough” was the rebuttal from most. I appreciate the ppl being honest in these vids. 🙏🙏
They're still drinking the work yourself to death kool-aid. Like you I'm super grateful people are talking about this because I'm tired and according to society I'm just getting started. It's a no for me.
Oh my gosh you are a teacher too? That's amazing. I'm sure you have such a great impact on the students every single day. I remember when I was teaching, I felt a bit torn. On one end, its such a beautiful profession and the kids are sweet, but I didn't feel fulfilled. I love you ♥️
@@ChelseaDetari I’m also Haitian 🇭🇹 went to nursing school😫😫😫😫 I hate it but I was brought to the US by Godparents therefore I had to do what I had to do because my parents (my dad was simply a sperm donor because he was never present) couldn’t do sh!t for me. I’m doing the nursing thing but I’m looking into tech, because since day one, I knew nursing wasn’t it. What I want to do is move to Florida (I also hate the cold 🥶 - currently living here in Connecticut) to help the Haitian population there. That’s all I want.
@Big Rah oh my gosh this is a word. This sense of individualism goes completely against our intrinsic nature, leaving us feeling isolated when there are so many of us who can join together to pave our own path
A lot of my chasing in the past came from a place of lack. I focused so much on what I didn’t have. I’m trying to change that perspective and search my heart for what really matters to me. Peace has been steadily rising as a top priority. Right now my biggest challenge is overcoming fear. I don’t want to live a life of regret. Hopefully if I commit to learning, growing, and living more authentically, I’ll find my peace. Thank you for sharing your story. You are beautiful inside and out. ❤️
Your level of self-awareness and introspection is wow, Chelsea. Please continue to learn, grow, and live authentically. This is really the key to peace and boundless joy. All which you deserve. Thank you for taking the time to listen to my story
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This is where I am!!! My uncle passed of cancer he said if I would have know I would end up like this I would have never paid off all the debt and worked so hard
I call it the American nightmare. I make my own dreams. Chasing materialism nothing more rather than really enjoy life . Always Chasing materialism nothing more
@@notjustaprettyface I see you've thought outside of the box for a long time. From 18 to 28 that's 20 years !!!! You been woke for a long that that's a blessing !!!
you're beautiful both inside and out. I love that a young person like yourself thinks so wisely, You get it. stay on track and you will accomplish what many long for.
Exactly…. Once you get settled into what you believe is your path: inflation happens, the dream gets more expensive (in dollars and mental investment) and / or you have to start over due to circumstances outside of your control. I announced it to some of my closer friends that I’m leaving once I accumulate enough financially.
Everything on this Earth was meant to be free but somewhere along the lines money changed everything. Its ironic that you can look at some 3rd world countries and the people are happy without having any luxuries. Yet you have people complaining here because the WIFI isnt working. Goes to show that happiness comes from within. I have friends who enjoy their jobs as electricians, plumbers, cdl drivers. They have no student loans and they enjoy their jobs. Its funny society will down on them because they don't have a degree and work in corporate jobs.
The truest true "people complaining here because the WIFI isnt working" in my observation, people look for problems and trivialize them than see the beauty all around them even in the chaos.
i’m willing to work a traditional job until i’m 35. if that means i gotta live in a cottage in the irish country side after that because i don’t have enough money, then so be it. i’m TIRED
Whewwww listen!!! When I tell you I get it, I get it. You will have enough money to be where you choose. Stay displayed and keep your eyes on the joy and peace. Rooting for you!
All you said is very deep and true, Chelsea. I just want to remind everyone that you don’t have to leave America to live the life you want. In fact, there may not be a better place in the world to be free to live any type of life you want, or at least to pursue it.
“I gave up on the American dream so I can choose freedom instead”!! Cheers freedom is EVERYTHING! You are gorgeous grateful when I hear people walking in their truth. I’m a social worker turned freelance stylist and def feel fulfilled! Keep inspiring ❤️😻
Hello. I had a family member that kept telling me that life was boring. One day he comitted suicide. I learned early in life that following other's ideas is a bad choice. This is why I live my life the way I can, and not to please anyone. I understand everything that you said here. You are right. Live life the way you want. Be, and stay happy. Congratulations on your journey through life.
Great perspective! I have never associated the American Dream to money, or wealth but rather being able to achieve whatever you set your mind to since America provides plenty of opportunity. My thought!
I'm a middle aged white guy and I've been saying I want to retire this year cause I'm tired of th is rat race. What means most is living in peace and taking care of those around me and living simply.
As an African/Haitian woman it's so easy to feel like us black people are the only ones who feel trapped because of the system. But actually it's all of us. Thank you for sharing this comment. I'm sure it puts a lot into perspective for anyone who reads it
I appreciate this and am glad to hear more about your experience. My whole life I was raised so counterculture that I never had the American dream or any aspirations that were connected to what we see in the mainstream. In some ways this has been excellent and in other ways perhaps not as balanced since I had a large disregard for some structures that I still am required to Operate within. To continue in the vein of the video, It is absolutely incredible when leaving the states to see that one can live a good life without slaving for the corporations or " the man". I wish for everyone to realize and know what is possible in that regard.
I know exactly what you talking about, I was tired at age 38 ..and it gets harder every year.I feel like moving back to ,which I don't know y my mom left there and though America would be better. Less stressful jobs,less racism and friendly people
I felt locked out of the american dream. But as I tried to get in I've also started to see that it's BS. I've notice more people seeming to come to realization or maybe it's just that we all post our thoughts and people have realized this before us and just live their lives not getting caught chasing the American dream but just making enough to support themselves and their family and be happy with what they have.
The community found here on TH-cam of those describing the feelings we haven't been able to put into words.....is an incredible thing. I don't take it for granted. ❤
I gave up on the American dream and created my own, and it's a mixture of some luxury and some simplicity. I'm able to write my own book and read it. You don't have to choose one or the other.
My fellow hatian sister sak pase, I noticed you had commented on a few videos on the same topic and it's funny how the universe works your video popped up on my timeline and I'm enjoying this video.I'm on the same mission to l leave The American dream behind the country I'm looking forward to moving to is the Dominican Republic
Ask pease my brother! The universe is so funny. I believe in divine timing and alignment and that we receive exactly what we need to hear when it is time. I feel so happy this video found it’s way to you!
I've felt like this for years. I think now I have it figured out. We gotta do what's best for us. I know for sure the American Dream wasnt for me at all! I quit my job, home school my children, and started a business helping people.
@ChelseaSatine thank you. Same to you! Homeschooling isn't the greatest as far as my kids participating. They were against it, but at the sametime being that I worked in the school system. I know they weren't learning anything, and everyone fell behind because of 2020. Then there was one of the teachers saying one of my children at the time was only reading at grade level, which I knew wasn't true. My kids want to be with their friends that's the only reason they give me a hard time. Lol, it's a process. If I were the person that I am now back when they were younger, I would have never put my children in school at all.
Listening to her and realizing she's beautiful inside and out and wishing more people we're thinking like this because they're killing and shooting for this American dream every day
Great video! It’s definitely a moving target. I accomplished that “something” after 15 years of waiting. And of course, the target MOVED! I have officially given up on the American “Dream”.
Dude, yes. What you've said resonates with me on a deeper level. I can't talk to anyone about this because everyone is still so stuck within the machine. As soon as you start talking about how crazy we've made our lives with work, materialism, society, etc, they either think you crazy or just 'young and naive.' I worked a project management position for over 5 years. That environment is brutal. Plus, you're expected to put in more that 50 hours a week. If you add up the time you give to your employers versus the free time you have in any given year, it's super lopsided. It's all an illusion we've been sold on and just adds suffering to the majority of one's life. Living is about experiencing life. Not selling your dwindling time for fictitious paper. We have to do it though in order to survive. I just hope enough wake up so we can break free from our outdated illusions.
You have like crystal clear vision! It's not you, it's them. I've gotten quite a few negative comments on here claiming that I am young and naive and lazy 😫 I hope more people will just wake up one day
Excellent content and delivery! I gave up chasing the American dream. It's futile to me. I am striving for simplicity and a life of peacefulness. New subscriber. ❤️
I wouldn't call my "dream" the "American Dream." However, I do strive to live a life that is satisfying to me. My dream has never been the white picket fence. However, I 100% agree with you and the best statement ever was the continuous moving of the goalpost. Well said, my Sister!
This is the kind of girl I need and want. I became totally debt free last year, including my mortgage. Trying to find women that aligns with your anti American dream visions is tough!
Hadn't I met you before you paid off your mortgage I would have advised against paying off a low yielding debt in favor of investing the extra money into assets. The rate of appreciation of those assets will move in multiples of the inflation rate which is sadly higher than wages.
I feel you but sometimes I think people need to move to another country for maybe 1-2 years then tell us how the American dream is but compared to how the country they lived in for past 1-2 years have them such inspiration
@@Afrocreolebombshelle thank you for the work you do. If you have any idea of what you would like to transition to next, I’ll create some videos for you!
I have heard so many incredible things about Germany. Maybe one day I will be visiting and if I were still teaching, I’d be curious about what it’s like teaching there 😊
I'm Haitian American livinig in NYC and I'm in college rn. Honestly I never wanted the American dream. I never felt a connection to America and the way of life. I enjoy the slow pace living tbh
I give up too! I stopped chasing a dream of a car and now I can ACTUALLY live life day to day! I want to get married and my bf and I will figure that out when it’s time, no need for a house and a yard just a good quality home in a location we want to be in 😊
You need real drive to make it as an entrepreneur and it probably wouldn't hurt to find a mentorship program to help you along the way. Colleges used to act as your second family and mentor but greed has taken over. I'm not opposed to a degree or a trade but you have to be careful not to acquire more loans than you can comfortably pay back. I know because I recently paid off $66,034 in a five year period. I'm grateful to be debt free. 🙏 🙏 🙏
im tired of seeing these people thinking a 9_5 job is the end of the world, you should keep that job and use the money to create a healthy set of investments to live off of, you dont need friends, you dont need a house at 30, but you can invest in real estate and learn how to get rid of your biggest expense househacking even in NY, but learn to be financially free young, dont just quit your job and then start planning thats reckless
have good financial literacy and you wont be in the rat race, money isnt problems but THINGS are problems, money isnt the issue its your strategy, at some point you gotta realize you dont like money cause the only path you know is stiffling, educate yourself
Sooooo true that A 9-5 job is not the end of the world, it's just not for everyone and that's okay. I'm so so grateful that I had a 9-5 job during my life time. I agree use discernment before quitting your job. That's what I share here on this channel. But All things considered, There are more ways to make money besides trading time at a 9-5. Property and land exist outside of America too. Everyone needs to define financially free for themselves. Financially free is relative.
You can have financial literacy and read all the books 📚 and still be in the rat race. 🤷🏽♀️I'm 28 and no longer in the rat race, and a big part of that is, because I left America. I started designing my own dream. Let's not pretend that lack of education is the reason that so many of our people are suffering. It's the lack of means. Knowledge without application means nothing. Knowledge without an environment conducive to applying this knowledge is useless.
Real estate is only ONE type of investment and unfortunately real estate can keep a person trapped in a Country they no longer want to reside in. Buying a home is neither easy nor possible for a lot of individuals. Buying additional properties to rent out is not only less possible for most, but a headache all in itself with a ton of stressful factors. One makes their profits (market- dependant) only after they sell. Whereas index funds is another story. Easier, less stress, attainable, with trackable instant gratification if you're savvy to how they work. The Hubby and I are child-free and only earning/investing for our own lifetimes of enjoyment. We're not concerned with generational wealth or leaving legacies to others. If we choose to spend our lives leaving each person, place, or thing better than we found it..... that should be legacy enough. Ones soul is more important than ones portfolio.
I agree with everything you said. I strongly agree with your peace and the fact that it radiates thru your communication. I however l disagree with the notion that more money = more problems. After all, how can the world be your play ground with no money at all. Even tho you quit your 9 to 5 you still need money to finance the beautiful place your currently in. With respect ✊🏾
Yes I agree with you. I should have said chasing more money without an intention = more problems. Chasing money with the assumption that it will make you happier = more problems. More money without love and wisdom = more problems
“That's why they call it the American Dream, because you have to be asleep to believe it.” - George Carlin
Dang this is good!
@@ChelseaDetari Watch much of Carlin's later stuff. At that point he did not care about his popularity or ratings or anything. He had made it. And he wanted to make a real difference, so he spoke the truth. Check him out. He is the TRUTH.
Basically you’re working to be “accepted” not for what you want. As long as I’m not struggling to pay bills and can enjoy some pleasures I’m happy
Hmmm this is a really good point
Amen!!!!!
“ A moving target” is an accurate description.
Kinda like a carrot and stick
Facts 100%
The goal post continues to move…
As a 60 year old black male. I wish I knew this when I was your age. Forget that American dream thing it’s just a time drain out of your life, start living now. There are no do overs.
I feel so grateful and happy hearing this come from someone with your level of life experience. To be honest sometimes i questions if later on in life I might regret making the choices I’ve made. It’s good to hear this from you
@@ChelseaDetari You will never regret happy memories. I'm
50 and it took me a long time to realize I'm on the wrong path. I worked so hard to numb the pain someone bestowed on me that I did not even get to live. I forgot the purpose ow work and made it my life mission. I have a lot material things but, they don't bring true happiness.
I am a veteran teacher and I feel you on this. I turn 60 in September and I'm out after 1st quarter. I'm saddened every time I see a 65+-year-old hobble back into the building to substitute.
I have about 14 years in teaching and I’m like ok…11 more years will make 25. The veterans talking about they’ve been teaching for 37 years…40 years…and can’t retire because of X…I don’t understand it. Like…what are we doing?!?!
I retired teaching in 2018. The biggest issue has been , at least in my state, they have reduced COLA and have raised health insurance premiums every year. I now take home $500 less than when I retired. Add the current inflationary situation and I am having to go back to work. I am looking into leaving the country but I have kids college to pay for.
The more you chase the American dream, the more you realize it's really the American nightmare. Endless rat racing. Constantly gotta look over your should because people pretending to be friends are just competition trying to establish an edge. The American nightmare.
So so true!!! Constantly having to look over your shoulders is such an exhausting nightmare
So so true!!! Constantly having to look over your shoulders is such an exhausting nightmare
Yes I came up with an idea and with a "friend" started hustling it. Soon she started to behave like she came up with all the ideas and I was the issue. She basically stole the idea and going to try and trademark it as her own without me. LOL yes but thing is I am over hustling.
True. Same in Canada and in Western Capiatlist Slavery Conglomerates
Yes you are telling the truth. I am done with the rat race. I'm 27 male and done with it
Your introspection of yourself in the American dream is outstanding!!!!! America trains us like circus animals unable to think outside the BOX.
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thank you so much for hearing my thoughts, I hope you are having a peaceful and loving holiday season!
These “why is gave up” vids have been a reassurance of what I’ve been thinking these last couple of years. “I wasn’t hungry enough” was the rebuttal from most. I appreciate the ppl being honest in these vids. 🙏🙏
The “I wasn’t hungry enough” is the biggest lie! Thank you for watching
They're still drinking the work yourself to death kool-aid. Like you I'm super grateful people are talking about this because I'm tired and according to society I'm just getting started. It's a no for me.
I'm a Nyc teacher and can totally relate. I'm also Haitian. I love you. I have reached the American dream and it has not made me happy.
Oh my gosh you are a teacher too? That's amazing. I'm sure you have such a great impact on the students every single day. I remember when I was teaching, I felt a bit torn. On one end, its such a beautiful profession and the kids are sweet, but I didn't feel fulfilled. I love you ♥️
@@ChelseaDetari I’m also Haitian 🇭🇹 went to nursing school😫😫😫😫
I hate it but I was brought to the US by Godparents therefore I had to do what I had to do because my parents (my dad was simply a sperm donor because he was never present) couldn’t do sh!t for me. I’m doing the nursing thing but I’m looking into tech, because since day one, I knew nursing wasn’t it.
What I want to do is move to Florida (I also hate the cold 🥶 - currently living here in Connecticut) to help the Haitian population there. That’s all I want.
@@quelquun2018 heyyy sis! I hope you made that move to florida! or least started planning to. May this holiday season bring you closer to your dreams
23 years chasing I’m exhausted 😩 done ✅
23 years of wisdom sis!!! It didn't go to waste 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
I felt this 😪, it's not healthy to maintain. Especially as black people we were never meant to have power in this white patriarchal system.
Whew that part. It's especially hard for black people!!!
@@ChelseaDetari I would love to hop on a podcast or club to talk about this if ou are open to it
@Big Rah oh my gosh this is a word. This sense of individualism goes completely against our intrinsic nature, leaving us feeling isolated when there are so many of us who can join together to pave our own path
@Big Rah A WORD! Individualism has been so damaging to us as a whole
@Big Rah Amen somebody!!!
I call in it the American Headache It's not worth it It causes stress headaches. There is no rule to live that life. Be happy. Live your dream
Very wise advice
American Headache.....I like that. I think I'm gonna use that phrase myself from here on out.... 👍
Yeeeeeeeeeees to ALL of this. I could not agree MORE. ☺️🌺AND I love that you chose YOU. Much love and joy to you! 💛
Hey sis hey!!!!! Awwwww you are so encouraging and lovely!!! The more we choose ourselves the more we can give to others ❤️
A lot of my chasing in the past came from a place of lack. I focused so much on what I didn’t have. I’m trying to change that perspective and search my heart for what really matters to me. Peace has been steadily rising as a top priority.
Right now my biggest challenge is overcoming fear. I don’t want to live a life of regret. Hopefully if I commit to learning, growing, and living more authentically, I’ll find my peace.
Thank you for sharing your story. You are beautiful inside and out. ❤️
Your level of self-awareness and introspection is wow, Chelsea. Please continue to learn, grow, and live authentically. This is really the key to peace and boundless joy. All which you deserve. Thank you for taking the time to listen to my story
I had to screen shot this comment. Yesssss
Same girl same
Peace is everything❤️❤️❤️
I’m definitely not anymore I stopped a few years ago and just quit my job and finding myself. I’m living a life for myself.
Im so proud of you! Are you happy about your decision?
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@@southafricaismyhome814 I'm currently in Africa!!!! In Senegal 🇸🇳 now and will be in south Africa soon!!!
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@@ChelseaDetari Are you Muslim? I only ask because Senegal is a Muslim country. Have you heard of Sheikh Ahmadou Bamba? A miracle man
This is where I am!!! My uncle passed of cancer he said if I would have know I would end up like this I would have never paid off all the debt and worked so hard
Oh my goodness, I am so sorry for your loss sis. This comment just hit me right in the heart, such a wake up call
Woww 😥
I call it the American nightmare. I make my own dreams. Chasing materialism nothing more rather than really enjoy life . Always Chasing materialism nothing more
That's honestly a better name for it 😩 I'm going to start using that now. Chasing materialism and becoming more and more empty...
@@ChelseaDetari a few
NightMerica
@@TheRealJaded 🤣 actually tho'
So proud of you! What power you have!!!!
Ohhhh thank you so much Marie!!! 💛💛💛
I thought I was the only one who felt like this. I've been feeling this way since I was 18 now I'm 38. I know I wasn't crazy !!!!
YOU ARE NOT CRAZY! Spot on to figure it out at 18 years old!
@@ChelseaDetari Thank you Chelsea.. it's allways a bigger picture then what we see with our eyes!! I've always look at life that way.
You are not crazy. You are 100% same. Now go out there and live your best life!
@@clydejr6065 same!!! I’m 38 too lol but knew at 18 that this so-called American dream wasn’t for me!
@@notjustaprettyface I see you've thought outside of the box for a long time. From 18 to 28 that's 20 years !!!! You been woke for a long that that's a blessing !!!
you're beautiful both inside and out. I love that a young person like yourself thinks so wisely, You get it. stay on track and you will accomplish what many long for.
what a beautiful compliment. thank you thank you thank you
Exactly….
Once you get settled into what you believe is your path: inflation happens, the dream gets more expensive (in dollars and mental investment) and / or you have to start over due to circumstances outside of your control.
I announced it to some of my closer friends that I’m leaving once I accumulate enough financially.
checking in on your moving process. I hope you are closer to your dream and feeling ease this holiday season!
Everything on this Earth was meant to be free but somewhere along the lines money changed everything. Its ironic that you can look at some 3rd world countries and the people are happy without having any luxuries. Yet you have people complaining here because the WIFI isnt working. Goes to show that happiness comes from within.
I have friends who enjoy their jobs as electricians, plumbers, cdl drivers. They have no student loans and they enjoy their jobs. Its funny society will down on them because they don't have a degree and work in corporate jobs.
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There’s no freedom in a corporate job. You can have that and keep the money.
very true
The truest true "people complaining here because the WIFI isnt working" in my observation, people look for problems and trivialize them than see the beauty all around them even in the chaos.
i’m willing to work a traditional job until i’m 35. if that means i gotta live in a cottage in the irish country side after that because i don’t have enough money, then so be it. i’m TIRED
Whewwww listen!!! When I tell you I get it, I get it. You will have enough money to be where you choose. Stay displayed and keep your eyes on the joy and peace. Rooting for you!
All you said is very deep and true, Chelsea. I just want to remind everyone that you don’t have to leave America to live the life you want. In fact, there may not be a better place in the world to be free to live any type of life you want, or at least to pursue it.
this is true!
“I gave up on the American dream so I can choose freedom instead”!! Cheers freedom is EVERYTHING! You are gorgeous grateful when I hear people walking in their truth. I’m a social worker turned freelance stylist and def feel fulfilled! Keep inspiring ❤️😻
I’m soooo happy that you are feeling fulfilled with the choice you made. I hope this holiday season is filled with so much ease and happiness!
I need this woman in my life! Off grid is how I need to live!
Off grid life. Happy life.
You are on the right track now. Be free my Sistah, the world belongs to you/us!
thank you thank so much for the. encouragement!!!!
Powerful presentation. “It’s designed so that you will never arrived”. Thanks for educating the public!!
I am so proud of you for this realization
Thank you so much for the ecouragment
Hello. I had a family member that kept telling me that life was boring. One day he comitted suicide. I learned early in life that following other's ideas is a bad choice. This is why I live my life the way I can, and not to please anyone. I understand everything that you said here. You are right. Live life the way you want. Be, and stay happy. Congratulations on your journey through life.
Wow I'm so sorry for your loss 🙏🏽 I'm grateful you learned early in life to live the life you choose
Such a great, honest video ------- I agree on all points. Left the American Dream and traded it in to live in the Caribbean. NO REGRETS!!!
Thank you so much for watching and your kind words. The Caribbean is my home, you must feel like you are in heaven everyday. Which country?
@@ChelseaDetari Puerto Rico
@@learnwithjahsun amazing! That's a blessing 🙏🏽
Great perspective! I have never associated the American Dream to money, or wealth but rather being able to achieve whatever you set your mind to since America provides plenty of opportunity. My thought!
Interesting thought! As long as you are happy 🙏🏽
I'm a middle aged white guy and I've been saying I want to retire this year cause I'm tired of th is rat race. What means most is living in peace and taking care of those around me and living simply.
As an African/Haitian woman it's so easy to feel like us black people are the only ones who feel trapped because of the system. But actually it's all of us. Thank you for sharing this comment. I'm sure it puts a lot into perspective for anyone who reads it
I appreciate this and am glad to hear more about your experience. My whole life I was raised so counterculture that I never had the American dream or any aspirations that were connected to what we see in the mainstream. In some ways this has been excellent and in other ways perhaps not as balanced since I had a large disregard for some structures that I still am required to Operate within.
To continue in the vein of the video, It is absolutely incredible when leaving the states to see that one can live a good life without slaving for the corporations or " the man". I wish for everyone to realize and know what is possible in that regard.
I know exactly what you talking about, I was tired at age 38 ..and it gets harder every year.I feel like moving back to ,which I don't know y my mom left there and though America would be better. Less stressful jobs,less racism and friendly people
I felt locked out of the american dream. But as I tried to get in I've also started to see that it's BS. I've notice more people seeming to come to realization or maybe it's just that we all post our thoughts and people have realized this before us and just live their lives not getting caught chasing the American dream but just making enough to support themselves and their family and be happy with what they have.
So many of us feel locked out of that dream and i agree with you, it seems that so many more people are waking up and it’s truly beautiful.
The community found here on TH-cam of those describing the feelings we haven't been able to put into words.....is an incredible thing. I don't take it for granted. ❤
I remember someone telling me the people not working in America are the homeless on the street…..very scary.
It’s scary…
I gave up on the American dream and created my own, and it's a mixture of some luxury and some simplicity. I'm able to write my own book and read it. You don't have to choose one or the other.
Amazing! Congratulations!!!
Be careful to preserve your soul because you become who you surround yourself with and you become what you think about.
And that’s a word
Wonderfully said. Very intelligent woman, lovely voice and delivery. Big up Haiti as well. I need to find a way out of the 9-5 lifestyle myself.
No one has ever gotten rich working a job. 100% of wealthy people got that way by acquiring assets.
Thank you so much for watching
I moved after college to Tokyo because I felt the same way 30 years ago. Tokyo would be a nice place for you to teach w/a master's at a university....
Wow Tokyo sounds so so interesting! How did you feel there?
My fellow hatian sister sak pase, I noticed you had commented on a few videos on the same topic and it's funny how the universe works your video popped up on my timeline and I'm enjoying this video.I'm on the same mission to l leave The American dream behind the country I'm looking forward to moving to is the Dominican Republic
Ask pease my brother! The universe is so funny. I believe in divine timing and alignment and that we receive exactly what we need to hear when it is time. I feel so happy this video found it’s way to you!
I've felt like this for years. I think now I have it figured out. We gotta do what's best for us. I know for sure the American Dream wasnt for me at all! I quit my job, home school my children, and started a business helping people.
I’m so curious to know how home schooling your children have been. So very inspiring! I hope your holiday season is joyful and peaceful!!
@ChelseaSatine thank you. Same to you! Homeschooling isn't the greatest as far as my kids participating. They were against it, but at the sametime being that I worked in the school system. I know they weren't learning anything, and everyone fell behind because of 2020. Then there was one of the teachers saying one of my children at the time was only reading at grade level, which I knew wasn't true.
My kids want to be with their friends that's the only reason they give me a hard time. Lol, it's a process.
If I were the person that I am now back when they were younger, I would have never put my children in school at all.
Listening to her and realizing she's beautiful inside and out and wishing more people we're thinking like this because they're killing and shooting for this American dream every day
🙏🏽♥️ ahh thank you and I agree with your thinking
Completely resonates and I can't wait to move abroad either!
Where are you thinking about moving???
@@ChelseaDetari Italy!
Great video! It’s definitely a moving target. I accomplished that “something” after 15 years of waiting. And of course, the target MOVED! I have officially given up on the American “Dream”.
Good on you for figuring it out so young.
Dude, yes. What you've said resonates with me on a deeper level. I can't talk to anyone about this because everyone is still so stuck within the machine. As soon as you start talking about how crazy we've made our lives with work, materialism, society, etc, they either think you crazy or just 'young and naive.' I worked a project management position for over 5 years. That environment is brutal. Plus, you're expected to put in more that 50 hours a week.
If you add up the time you give to your employers versus the free time you have in any given year, it's super lopsided. It's all an illusion we've been sold on and just adds suffering to the majority of one's life. Living is about experiencing life. Not selling your dwindling time for fictitious paper. We have to do it though in order to survive. I just hope enough wake up so we can break free from our outdated illusions.
You have like crystal clear vision! It's not you, it's them. I've gotten quite a few negative comments on here claiming that I am young and naive and lazy 😫 I hope more people will just wake up one day
Sisssssss I feel you! Thank you for this video. Also the, hair, the fit, the space, the ENERGY, a vibe! Subscribed! 💗💛
You are EVERYTHING!!!! Thank you for this beautiful compliment sisssss💛🦋💛🦋💛🦋
Great video Chelsea!
Thank you ☺️
Thank you for watching! 😊
Excellent content and delivery! I gave up chasing the American dream. It's futile to me. I am striving for simplicity and a life of peacefulness. New subscriber. ❤️
Hi Paula! Oh my gosh I'm so happy. Thank you, thank you, thank you for subscribing. Thank you for listening to my story ♥️
I was working 2 jobs and side hustle uber eats I was drained and tired and I'm taking care of my kids. I'm over nyc I'm packing and moving down south
I can imagine how exhausted you felt. Responding 7 months later to this comment to check in with your move. have you moved yet are you in the process?
I have anxiety I have a child and worried about her. But i am trying to think positive.
Your child is so so lucky to have you. Even though things feel hard right now, you are still going. Thank you so much for not giving up.
This whole video spoke to me. Thank you.
Chelsea I live in NYC as well!
Hi Annie!!!
Niiice, you have a lot of courage. Life is about people, experiences, and relationships. Respect Homegirl.!!
Subbed. I feel you.
You're subbed?? 😁🙌🏾 🙏🏽💛 Its so nice to feel like I'm not the only one who feels this way about the "American nightmare"
💕 certainly more to life than chasing things. Choosing freedom instead. Speak my Caribbean Queen!!!!
People over things. Love over accomplishments. 💕
Yes, people over things love over accomplishment; this is such a necessary reminder especially as the year comes to a close :)
I wouldn't call my "dream" the "American Dream." However, I do strive to live a life that is satisfying to me. My dream has never been the white picket fence. However, I 100% agree with you and the best statement ever was the continuous moving of the goalpost. Well said, my Sister!
Thank you so much for watching and for your words!
I know the feeling, and I’ve been going through the same thing for most of my adult life.
Feels good to have you be able to relate to this. What are you changing lately in your life? What’s the next step for you?
This is the kind of girl I need and want. I became totally debt free last year, including my mortgage. Trying to find women that aligns with your anti American dream visions is tough!
Wow congrats in being debt free! The right one will find you very soon 😊
Hadn't I met you before you paid off your mortgage I would have advised against paying off a low yielding debt in favor of investing the extra money into assets. The rate of appreciation of those assets will move in multiples of the inflation rate which is sadly higher than wages.
@@JWW10666 I’m good…I prefer not to have monthly payments.
Yes ❤️
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I feel you but sometimes I think people need to move to another country for maybe 1-2 years then tell us how the American dream is but compared to how the country they lived in for past 1-2 years have them such inspiration
Yes that's what I did!
Yessssss Freedom!!
Chasing fancy stuff that is not even profitable its a waste of time ... I'm proud of u Sister stay bless
Thank you for your kind and positive words
@@ChelseaDetari u welcome Sister I was wondering if I can interview u for one of my personal growth episodes
@@OluwaShagoon of course! Please send me a email. Hello@coachchelsea.com
Respect
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Beautiful video. You are blessed to realize this at a young age. I wish you well. BTW my hubby is haitian...beautiful people. Take care!
I'm so grateful to have such great teachers who helped me learn this!!! Wow awwwww has hubby cooked Haitian food for you yet??
Balance - Gratitude - Simplicity
Yes!
Big Facts!!!
I’m burnt out
Where are you working sis?
@@ChelseaDetari CNA
@@Afrocreolebombshelle thank you for the work you do. If you have any idea of what you would like to transition to next, I’ll create some videos for you!
Come to Germany. We need teachers such as you are! Please come and stay...you'll love it here!
I have heard so many incredible things about Germany. Maybe one day I will be visiting and if I were still teaching, I’d be curious about what it’s like teaching there 😊
I'm Haitian American livinig in NYC and I'm in college rn. Honestly I never wanted the American dream. I never felt a connection to America and the way of life. I enjoy the slow pace living tbh
Choose the soft life my friend you deserve that. Work hard. Choose your own path though
bravo Chelsea, you are right. Philip from France and Luxemburg
Hello Philip thank you for watching. Thank you for stopping by! 😊
I like your videos! I love to support my haïtian Sisters 🇭🇹 new subscriber here!
Oh my heart is so happy!!! Thank you so much for being here sister!
@@ChelseaDetari You are welcome Beautiful 😉
AMEN
🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 can you relate too?
To be left behind is not that bad because you can pause to focus on what really really matters
I love this 💕
YOUR HAIR . BEAUTIFUL ❤️.
Thank you!
Good for you
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As soon as you said you're Haitian, I immediately liked the video. Bon courage !
ayeeeeeee lets goooo!!!! thank you for watching 😊
I give up too! I stopped chasing a dream of a car and now I can ACTUALLY live life day to day! I want to get married and my bf and I will figure that out when it’s time, no need for a house and a yard just a good quality home in a location we want to be in 😊
I'm hearing more and more people say this and I'm so happy I'm not crazy!
you are sooo far from crazy
“SUCCESS IS THE PROGRESSIVE REALIZATION OF A WORTHY IDEAL”, Earl Nightendale.
love this quote
Sense spoken 👏
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Thanks for watching!
Excellent!!!!
Thank you for watching 🙏🏽♥️
I totally agree with you I'm born in America my roots are Jamaican I hate it here I just can't pack up leave like you
I would love to visit Jamaica one day. What do you think is stopping you from leaving?
@@ChelseaDetari I know what's stopping me I rather not say on the internet kind of personal
@@amyissuchamazing I understand. Whatever it is though, I believe you will find a way. Sending you love
@@ChelseaDetari peace love and light 💋💫🧿🖤🕉️
LOVE THIS ! AYITI NOU LA !
AYEEEEEEEEEEEEE!!!! LETS GOOOOO!!!!!
Whew! This video right here!
thanks for watching sis!!!
I love this very intentional ❤️
its sad because I felt this, nothing really even makes sense. I sometimes think about living off the grid and how would I actually do it
Sis living off the grid, if that feels right go for it. Drop any questions you might have about being able to do that and I’ll make a video about it
Ur video is very inspiring 👏. I'm living in depression now as we speak! Since I moved to the US my life has been hell, is like riches in slavery.
I hope you are working towards more freedom for yourself. What are your plans for the holiday season and how are you feeling lately?
I just need to know how to do this.
Drop a specific questions and I’ll make a video about it
Whenever I bring this topic up people get so uncomfortable and quiet.
Why do you think that's the case?
I’m not sure I believe they are programmed to do what others do and most need that validation.
I love this. I also live in New York 😊
Hey sis! Where in New York?
@@ChelseaDetari I live in Queens
@@briana8033 cool, I used to live in Jamaica Queens
You need real drive to make it as an entrepreneur and it probably wouldn't hurt to find a mentorship program to help you along the way. Colleges used to act as your second family and mentor but greed has taken over. I'm not opposed to a degree or a trade but you have to be careful not to acquire more loans than you can comfortably pay back. I know because I recently paid off $66,034 in a five year period. I'm grateful to be debt free. 🙏 🙏 🙏
Wow congratulations on being debt free!!!!
im tired of seeing these people thinking a 9_5 job is the end of the world, you should keep that job and use the money to create a healthy set of investments to live off of, you dont need friends, you dont need a house at 30, but you can invest in real estate and learn how to get rid of your biggest expense househacking even in NY, but learn to be financially free young, dont just quit your job and then start planning thats reckless
have good financial literacy and you wont be in the rat race, money isnt problems but THINGS are problems, money isnt the issue its your strategy, at some point you gotta realize you dont like money cause the only path you know is stiffling, educate yourself
Everyone is what they are.
It's the word, I AM THAT I AM
Don't give up the chance to BE what you are
Sooooo true that A 9-5 job is not the end of the world, it's just not for everyone and that's okay. I'm so so grateful that I had a 9-5 job during my life time. I agree use discernment before quitting your job. That's what I share here on this channel. But All things considered, There are more ways to make money besides trading time at a 9-5. Property and land exist outside of America too. Everyone needs to define financially free for themselves. Financially free is relative.
You can have financial literacy and read all the books 📚 and still be in the rat race. 🤷🏽♀️I'm 28 and no longer in the rat race, and a big part of that is, because I left America. I started designing my own dream. Let's not pretend that lack of education is the reason that so many of our people are suffering. It's the lack of means. Knowledge without application means nothing. Knowledge without an environment conducive to applying this knowledge is useless.
Real estate is only ONE type of investment and unfortunately real estate can keep a person trapped in a Country they no longer want to reside in. Buying a home is neither easy nor possible for a lot of individuals. Buying additional properties to rent out is not only less possible for most, but a headache all in itself with a ton of stressful factors.
One makes their profits (market- dependant) only after they sell. Whereas index funds is another story. Easier, less stress, attainable, with trackable instant gratification if you're savvy to how they work.
The Hubby and I are child-free and only earning/investing for our own lifetimes of enjoyment. We're not concerned with generational wealth or leaving legacies to others. If we choose to spend our lives leaving each person, place, or thing better than we found it..... that should be legacy enough. Ones soul is more important than ones portfolio.
I agree with everything you said. I strongly agree with your peace and the fact that it radiates thru your communication. I however l disagree with the notion that more money = more problems. After all, how can the world be your play ground with no money at all. Even tho you quit your 9 to 5 you still need money to finance the beautiful place your currently in. With respect ✊🏾
Yes I agree with you. I should have said chasing more money without an intention = more problems. Chasing money with the assumption that it will make you happier = more problems. More money without love and wisdom = more problems
We must unite
it’s the only way
It's called the American dream because you got to be asleep to believe it.
This comment has me weakkkkkk it's so true 😂
GCarlin was a brilliant Man. ❤️ 👏 👏
@@expeditionconfidential8853 he was the goat for sure.
I'm curious. What are you doing now? Where do you live?
I’m traveling now, currently traveling through Africa 😊
Congratulations 🍾 🥂