What you do is so important, not only for you but for so many others out there. My question is for both of you: how easy or hard was the decision to make the transition and has it affected your relationship. if so, in what way? (Again, for both of you, but especially for your wife). Thank you for being you ❤
Hi Sam, I have loved your music for quite a long time. I also apparently live under a rock because the news of your journey hasn't reached me until this very day. I applaud your courage and your openess about your experiences. Much love from a Dutch ally
Okay, I just thought I'd share the experience I had today at Aldi. Standing at the register someone asks to go to the toilet and one of the cashiers says it was the door ahead of her but that she would have to pull hard to open it. The lady did but it did not budge.(bless her and her full bladder :-) ) It was my turn to pay and my cashier goes ; 'why don't you try it ?! You're a man ! A man should be able to do that'. I think to myself (as I get red in the face and people staring at me with expectations)' Weee-èèll, that's a little stereotype thinking missy !' (If only they knew, HA !) But I did what was expected of me and saw that it wasn't possible to open it as the lock did not move. So she gave me scissors and YES, I saved the day ! I got a 'thank you Sir' and I guess as I walked out I did think it is nice to be recognized as a man (finally) It is a process and it doesn't go as quick as we would want to but you'll get there. What I realized through the process is that the woman I was all these years is also a part of me and always will be. Peace V
I am also a transgender youtuber from belgium, i have full albums from your group k's choice, the day that i knew that you were also transgender i thought yesss im not alone anymore haha. Respect!!!
Dear Sam, I've been watching your blogs and went to one of your concerts in January last year, so just before you started your transition. My boyfriend just walked in, saw me watching your blog no. 24 and asked me what I was watching. So I told him (in Dutch) "Ik kijk naar Sam Bettens in gesprek met z'n zoon. Zo bijzonder hoe ze haar verhaal doet." (I'm watching Sam Bettens talking to his son. So special how she's telling her story). And I immediately stopped taking, I was mad. Apperently it is still an automatism to say 'her' even though I watched your vlogs, I applaud you for being so open and candid, I admire the way your going through your transition. But it's so hard to get rid of automatisms after following you in K's choice for so long. Sarah was a big part of my student time. Listened to your albums a lot in those forming days. How do you feel about it, knowing that it's not intentional? But I can imagine it's hurtful, even though you know people totally understand and accept your transition. And somehow I feel I need to apologize as on the other side it's totally not meant to hurt you, as it is an honest mistake coming from years and years of thinking about someone in a certain way. Take care and I wish you all the luck and happiness in your process! Greetings from the Netherlands 🇳🇱
Bonjour ! J'étais (et suis toujours) une grande fan de K's choice quand j'étais adolescente. Votre musique tourne toujours en boucle dans ma voiture. J'ai appris assez récemment que vous aviez opéré une transition. Quand j'étais jeune, je vous voyais un peu comme un ange avec vos cheveux très clairs et vaporeux et votre voix mélodieuse. Quand je vous ai revu, je ne vous a pas reconnu. Vous avez bien changé et votre voix aussi. C'est évident que vous êtes un homme, impossible de vous confondre avec une femme ! J'espère bientôt vous ré-entendre chanter avec votre nouvelle voix et vous souhaite tout le bonheur du monde. Bises ! PS : désolée d'écrire en français mais mon anglais est mauvais.
Sam! I had the pleasure of opening for you in Dallas many years ago at S4. My name is Lorena and I LOVE you and to me you ARE a musician and a bad ass one at that!! Also, thank you for being brave enough to share your journey with all of us! Keep going my friend. You are wonderful! And I support you as a man!!! Love ya!
I have to say I no longer think of you as Sarah. I’m not sure how that happened, except that I see you a lot on here and Instagram, and it is always Sam, so perhaps I’ve just trained my brain. 🤓 As far as a replacement for “you guys” - I think “y’all” is it. I use this all the time now. I feel like “you guys” is a bit sexist, but y’all covers it. It also helps me not to miss Georgia so much. 😁 Hmmm, as far as something for Stef- tell her I bet she doesn’t remember meeting my wife and I in JC because she was having a verrrrrry good time. (Teasing 💜). She wanted my Cocoon Crash shirt. Here are my questions: How has the way you see Sam changed since the transition? In what ways is it the same? My wife’s question was “Ask her if she makes him carry heavy stuff now.” 🤣 Love y’all! 🌷
Sam, jij bent mijn idool van toen ik een tiener was, ik volg je muziek al zo lang dat ik er nog steeds van baal dat ik je nog nooit live heb zien optreden😪 maar jij was ‘toen’ de vrouw waar ik naar opkeek, en je bent ‘nu’ de man naar wie ik kijk met zo veel bewondering. Jij bent jij en dat is helemaal goed. Een goeie vriend van mij is ook transgender, jullie zitten nu ongeveer in dezelfde rit naar het echte jij zijn, en doordat ik jou verhaal kan volgen snap ik meer van mijn goeie vriend zijn gevoelens en worstelingen dan anderen misschien. Ik heb geen vraag maar ik wens je het allerbeste toe voor jou en je gezin, en ik hoop in de toekomst voor mezelf dat ik je toch ooit in het echt kan zien optreden! 😇 hopelijk blijft het geen kinderdroom. Sam, veel succes in het blijven wie je bent! En groetjes aan je leuke gezinnetje ginder ver! 😘 Groetjes Kathleen
Hi Sam, pretty short vlog this time.. but I love it. Can't wait for the next one :) My question for your wife is what changes does she had to go through since your transition?
Maf dat ze je nu je je transformatie doormaakt aanzien voor een vrouw terwijl ze je voorheen toen je Sarah was voor man aanzagen. Fijn dat je vrouw ook geintervieuwd wil worden, geen vraag, maar wel enorm respect hoe jij het allemaal aanpakt. Want sommige reactie zijn niet al te aardig onder je v-logs. Tot de volgende v-log 😘
Couple question: do you get approached into more male/female stereotypes like waiters handing sam the bill, people asking Stef more “do you have kids” questions or expecting her to comfort the kids when in public, people asking Sam questions in different order, like more politics or cars Or gadgets first and nature or shoes later. I am taking extremely stereotype examples now in hope it explains my question more clearly, it could be smaller or less noticeable. Thank you :) love your series.
Questions for Stef... 1/ About Sam : Did you accept the transition of Sarah to Sam without worrying about the role that played the pressure coming from society gender stereotypes ? Didn’t you ever ask if it was not a way to give up the fight and enter into the normality? 2/ About you : Won’t the feminine Sarah miss you? Physically and mostly mentally? Are you ready to cope with the potential Testosteron-driven man insurance of Sam? 3/ About both of you : Does your new « straight » status reassure you when you go together in public ? Is it easier for you to say « I introduce you my husband » than it was before when you had to say « my wife »? or does it have no importance for both of you?
Er zou inderdaad een neutraal woord moeten bestaan bij twijfel. Of zelf zonder twijfel, want je weet toch nooit hoe iemand het liefst aangesproken wil worden? “Dag persoon”, “dag mens”,... dat klinkt helaas niet zo fijn. Het begint eigenlijk al van in de maxi cosi, wanneer vreemden nietsvermoedend je “mooi prinsesje” willen bewonderen. Of bij de McDonalds waar kinderen een speelgoedje krijgen naargelang hun geslacht. Dit Sam. Dit zegt meer over wat er nog moet veranderen in onze wereld. Change the world, don’t let the world change you. Ik heb lang nagedacht over een vraag voor je vrouw. Maar.. verbazend genoeg heb ik er geen. Ik wil alleen zeggen: ik heb erg veel bewondering voor jullie. Ik zie onvoorwaardelijke liefde, in goede en slechte dagen. Samen. (Woordspeling van Sam en Amen, hihi). Als je jouw partner graag ziet, en geen klein beetje. Als je jouw partner het beste gunt, steunt met heel je hart. Dan is er, ondanks de fysieke verandering, niets veranderd aan de relatie. Misschien is die zelf nog intenser geworden. Niet? (Ow, heb ik nu net tóch een vraag..) Ps: Ik had dit in het Engels willen typen, maar wie weet wat Google Translate er allemaal van maakt.
Great positive vibes in this vlog, Sam. You seem more patient now. Settling in maybe? Looking forward to the next interview. Your wife seems to have a pleasant voice judging by a previous snippet. This may seem a strange thing to ask her... I wonder what has really changed for her, all the obvious external stuff aside. I mean, you're still yourself. You're still the one for her, right? Also, the transition is omnipresent in your mind. Is it in hers?
#vlog25-26 : I hear ya ! I recognize so much of what you are saying. I am still very aware that my voice does not sound deep when I talk to people and had to except that after 7 years it is not going to change anymore. I can't blame anyone on the phone saying 'yes mam' ! And YES, the IRONY being seen as a boy when I was younger and not when I was transitioning ! It helps when you get facial hair as people tend not to doubt it anymore-if they do...A-Kwaaard :-o (and I do hope it does not take 4 years for you to get it !!! For some reason nature gives you hair where you DON'T want it and seems useless to be there) In my case, I fantasized about how I wanted to look and sound and it did not measure up. Those are all reality checks during the process. But, it can be different for every individual (as I have seen in many videos) But there is not doubt that testosterone has an effect. I am still the same person but let's just say 'flavors' seem to change/evolve and it can be confusing. My door is always open to have a talk about it as I do understand that (as everything in life) other people can't understand as they don't go through it. I saw that rex rebel is performing in AB on the 10th but it is sold out. (I must confess I have lost track with your musical career but am very curious about it) But if you want to meet and have the time by all means.... ! Hang in there !
nonbinary trans person here. it's easy to say that it shouldnt matter when you've never had to be seen as anything other than your true gender. maybe being misgendered once or twice could be brushed off as, like "oh, they dont know me, i know who i am and that's what matters!" ... but you have to remember, it's not just once or twice. it's an entire lifetime of never being seen as who you are, maybe not even knowing who you are yourself. when you've finally, finally realised what it is that you've been missing, and everyone around you still treats you like someone you're not, it hurts. there's no logic-ing yourself out of it; it just hurts. so no, it "shouldn't matter"... but yes, it does.
Vraagje voor Stef: krijg ook jij soms te maken met rotopmerkingen of onbegrip en hoe ga je hiermee om? En bij wie kan jij terecht voor steun/luisterend oor? Ps:jullie zijn twee fantastische mensen ❤️! Bedankt Stef, om onze vragen te beantwoorden en Sam:laat u niet te vlug ontmoedigen🤗😘
@@valerievink1948 die gaan dan over Sam zelf, maar er zijn er ook die niet begrijpen dat er voor Stef weinig verandert en dat ze gewoon een hecht koppel blijven. Zij zal daar misschien wel opmerkingen over krijgen.
Thank you Sam , I see you as well . Hmm , let’s see 🤔 a question Do you have any one song you perform that’s your favourite or like some artists they are all your babies Thank you Angel hugs and blessings to you and yours 💜💜💜
Hey Sam, jammer dat sommige mensen nog steeds foutjes maken en je lady noemen, maar zoals je zegt heeft alles tijd nodig. Gelukkig merk je nog steeds veranderingen dus je komt er wel, al gaat het trager dan je zou willen... Blij te horen dat Stef mee wil doen, ik ga eens goed nadenken over een vraag voor haar 😉. Tot binnenkort 😘 ❤️
I guess your point but it is not easy for people sometimes to know what to do or what to say. I think if people say something to offend yes one should be offended but when it is not mean or not meant to offend it is better to just let go and not feel too emotional. I don't think it is about validating you or else it is simply because human beings are not perfect and can be clumsy sometimes. The intention is what really matters. Well maybe you should have asked the question you wanted to ask this person. Even if it would have been embarrassing maybe it could have helped this person to maybe think differently. I have a trans male friend. When he was a she he used to be my wife's colleague and friend. Sometimes my wife still makes the mistake and says "she" instead of "he" and I can guarantee you it is not a game or else. My wife loves him and respect him and validate him as a guy. It is just the brain which needs time to adapt the change of habits. It is a process for the person who is transitioning but there is another process for those who are not close relative and can't follow this process on a regular basis. When the person is in your everyday life they have time to process, your evolution is their evolutions. For the others, they just do their best to adapt as quickly as they can to change a habit. Then yes they are direspectful people for sure. Those ones won't even try to understand , to make an effort if they disapprove (which is none of their business anyway) or apologize. Forgive the others and don't be upset 😉
I am a CIS woman and have often been misgendered throughout my life, ironically, usually when I am wearing a dress... I know how shitty it can make you feel xx
Ik ben benieuwd hoe het met Stef gaat nu ze het pad bewandelt om de risicojaren van 5 jaar schoon te gaan halen. Gaat het goed met haar gezondheid? En was het in het begin niet heel moeilijk dat Sam vrijwillig de borstoperatie zou gaan doen? Naast dat het voor hem begrijpelijk was te gaan doen. Wat deed het jou?
Hoi Sam, Je zal het misschien niet willen horen, maar je krijgt meer rimpels, en dat is denkelijk omdat de vette huid en collageen verminderd, niet? Dat je stem maar niet lijkt te veranderen is misschien goed nieuws voor de fans. Tijd voor nog een k's choice tour ( autocorrect maakt hier k's voice van :D ) . Ik kom graag naar het sportpaleis als het zover is! :) En een vraag voor je vrouw: waar was jij het meest bang voor, welk deel van Sarah dacht je te moeten missen en mis je dit ook of is dit gebleven? (Uiterlijk/ karakter)
Well... she has to transition from a gay woman back to a straight woman. How’s her identity doing these days? Was it difficult? I have the best question. 😜😜😜
Hi! de vraag van Leslie Starnes; inderdaad n goeie! hoe voelt jouw vrouw zich: gay/straight/pan en .. heeft de transitie daar iets in veranderd; voor haarzelf / voor haar omgeving.
Hi Sam...how dare they call you a lady! Unfortunate i'm all to familiar with this misplaced adressing. I wanna choose the Role as Model rather than being trown back in it. I
Er zou inderdaad een neutraal woord moeten bestaan bij twijfel. Of zelf zonder twijfel, want je weet toch nooit hoe iemand het liefst aangesproken wil worden? “Dag persoon”, “dag mens”,... dat klinkt helaas niet zo fijn. Het begint eigenlijk al van in de maxi cosi, wanneer vreemden nietsvermoedend je “mooi prinsesje” willen bewonderen. Of bij de McDonalds waar kinderen een speelgoedje krijgen naargelang hun geslacht. Dit Sam. Dit zegt meer over wat er nog moet veranderen in onze wereld. Change the world, don’t let the world change you. Ik heb lang nagedacht over een vraag voor je vrouw. Maar.. verbazend genoeg heb ik er geen. Ik wil alleen zeggen: ik heb erg veel bewondering voor jullie. Ik zie onvoorwaardelijke liefde, in goede en slechte dagen. Samen. (Woordspeling van Sam en Amen, hihi). Als je jouw partner graag ziet, en geen klein beetje. Als je jouw partner het beste gunt, steunt met heel je hart. Dan is er, ondanks de fysieke verandering, niets veranderd aan de relatie. Misschien is die zelf nog intenser geworden. Niet? (Ow, heb ik nu net tóch een vraag..) Ps: Ik had dit in het Engels willen typen, maar wie weet wat Google Translate er allemaal van maakt.
What you do is so important, not only for you but for so many others out there.
My question is for both of you: how easy or hard was the decision to make the transition and has it affected your relationship. if so, in what way? (Again, for both of you, but especially for your wife).
Thank you for being you ❤
Yeah!!! Looking so forward to hear the interview to your wife ;))
Q: what's the hardest and best part so far for you in Sam's transition ?
Hi Sam, I have loved your music for quite a long time. I also apparently live under a rock because the news of your journey hasn't reached me until this very day. I applaud your courage and your openess about your experiences. Much love from a Dutch ally
Okay, I just thought I'd share the experience I had today at Aldi. Standing at the register someone asks to go to the toilet and one of the cashiers says it was the door ahead of her but that she would have to pull hard to open it. The lady did but it did not budge.(bless her and her full bladder :-) ) It was my turn to pay and my cashier goes ; 'why don't you try it ?! You're a man ! A man should be able to do that'. I think to myself (as I get red in the face and people staring at me with expectations)' Weee-èèll, that's a little stereotype thinking missy !' (If only they knew, HA !) But I did what was expected of me and saw that it wasn't possible to open it as the lock did not move. So she gave me scissors and YES, I saved the day ! I got a 'thank you Sir' and I guess as I walked out I did think it is nice to be recognized as a man (finally) It is a process and it doesn't go as quick as we would want to but you'll get there. What I realized through the process is that the woman I was all these years is also a part of me and always will be. Peace V
thank you for sharing that story, i love hearing other people's day to day stuff
As a male with long hair, I get called a lady somewhat frequently. Even when I have a full on beard. So, I wouldn't think about it too much.
I am also a transgender youtuber from belgium, i have full albums from your group k's choice, the day that i knew that you were also transgender i thought yesss im not alone anymore haha. Respect!!!
Dear Sam, I've been watching your blogs and went to one of your concerts in January last year, so just before you started your transition. My boyfriend just walked in, saw me watching your blog no. 24 and asked me what I was watching. So I told him (in Dutch) "Ik kijk naar Sam Bettens in gesprek met z'n zoon. Zo bijzonder hoe ze haar verhaal doet." (I'm watching Sam Bettens talking to his son. So special how she's telling her story). And I immediately stopped taking, I was mad. Apperently it is still an automatism to say 'her' even though I watched your vlogs, I applaud you for being so open and candid, I admire the way your going through your transition. But it's so hard to get rid of automatisms after following you in K's choice for so long. Sarah was a big part of my student time. Listened to your albums a lot in those forming days. How do you feel about it, knowing that it's not intentional? But I can imagine it's hurtful, even though you know people totally understand and accept your transition. And somehow I feel I need to apologize as on the other side it's totally not meant to hurt you, as it is an honest mistake coming from years and years of thinking about someone in a certain way. Take care and I wish you all the luck and happiness in your process! Greetings from the Netherlands 🇳🇱
Bonjour !
J'étais (et suis toujours) une grande fan de K's choice quand j'étais adolescente. Votre musique tourne toujours en boucle dans ma voiture.
J'ai appris assez récemment que vous aviez opéré une transition. Quand j'étais jeune, je vous voyais un peu comme un ange avec vos cheveux très clairs et vaporeux et votre voix mélodieuse. Quand je vous ai revu, je ne vous a pas reconnu. Vous avez bien changé et votre voix aussi. C'est évident que vous êtes un homme, impossible de vous confondre avec une femme ! J'espère bientôt vous ré-entendre chanter avec votre nouvelle voix et vous souhaite tout le bonheur du monde. Bises !
PS : désolée d'écrire en français mais mon anglais est mauvais.
Sam! I had the pleasure of opening for you in Dallas many years ago at S4. My name is Lorena and I LOVE you and to me you ARE a musician and a bad ass one at that!!
Also, thank you for being brave enough to share your journey with all of us! Keep going my friend. You are wonderful! And I support you as a man!!! Love ya!
I have to say I no longer think of you as Sarah. I’m not sure how that happened, except that I see you a lot on here and Instagram, and it is always Sam, so perhaps I’ve just trained my brain. 🤓 As far as a replacement for “you guys” - I think “y’all” is it. I use this all the time now. I feel like “you guys” is a bit sexist, but y’all covers it. It also helps me not to miss Georgia so much. 😁 Hmmm, as far as something for Stef- tell her I bet she doesn’t remember meeting my wife and I in JC because she was having a verrrrrry good time. (Teasing 💜). She wanted my Cocoon Crash shirt. Here are my questions: How has the way you see Sam changed since the transition? In what ways is it the same? My wife’s question was “Ask her if she makes him carry heavy stuff now.” 🤣 Love y’all! 🌷
Sam, jij bent mijn idool van toen ik een tiener was, ik volg je muziek al zo lang dat ik er nog steeds van baal dat ik je nog nooit live heb zien optreden😪 maar jij was ‘toen’ de vrouw waar ik naar opkeek, en je bent ‘nu’ de man naar wie ik kijk met zo veel bewondering. Jij bent jij en dat is helemaal goed. Een goeie vriend van mij is ook transgender, jullie zitten nu ongeveer in dezelfde rit naar het echte jij zijn, en doordat ik jou verhaal kan volgen snap ik meer van mijn goeie vriend zijn gevoelens en worstelingen dan anderen misschien. Ik heb geen vraag maar ik wens je het allerbeste toe voor jou en je gezin, en ik hoop in de toekomst voor mezelf dat ik je toch ooit in het echt kan zien optreden! 😇 hopelijk blijft het geen kinderdroom.
Sam, veel succes in het blijven wie je bent! En groetjes aan je leuke gezinnetje ginder ver! 😘 Groetjes Kathleen
Hi Sam, pretty short vlog this time.. but I love it. Can't wait for the next one :)
My question for your wife is what changes does she had to go through since your transition?
Maf dat ze je nu je je transformatie doormaakt aanzien voor een vrouw terwijl ze je voorheen toen je Sarah was voor man aanzagen. Fijn dat je vrouw ook geintervieuwd wil worden, geen vraag, maar wel enorm respect hoe jij het allemaal aanpakt. Want sommige reactie zijn niet al te aardig onder je v-logs.
Tot de volgende v-log 😘
Couple question: do you get approached into more male/female stereotypes like waiters handing sam the bill, people asking Stef more “do you have kids” questions or expecting her to comfort the kids when in public, people asking Sam questions in different order, like more politics or cars Or gadgets first and nature or shoes later. I am taking extremely stereotype examples now in hope it explains my question more clearly, it could be smaller or less noticeable. Thank you :) love your series.
Questions for Stef...
1/ About Sam : Did you accept the transition of Sarah to Sam without worrying about the role that played the pressure coming from
society gender stereotypes ? Didn’t you ever ask if it was not a way to give up the fight and enter into the normality?
2/ About you : Won’t the feminine Sarah miss you? Physically and mostly mentally? Are you ready to cope with the potential Testosteron-driven man insurance of Sam?
3/ About both of you : Does your new « straight » status reassure you when you go together in public ? Is it easier for you to say « I introduce you my husband » than it was before when you had to say « my wife »? or does it have no importance for both of you?
Yep. This is my life. Starting T next week and I’m fully prepared to keep getting misgendered for a long time.
Brand New Dani good luck brother!
@@SamBettens557 , Thank you, Sam! Keep it up brother. Your Vlog does a lot of good!
@@DaniFiore Hah! I just realized I replied from my music account!! No worries!! Alter-ego problems, right?!
Er zou inderdaad een neutraal woord moeten bestaan bij twijfel. Of zelf zonder twijfel, want je weet toch nooit hoe iemand het liefst aangesproken wil worden?
“Dag persoon”, “dag mens”,... dat klinkt helaas niet zo fijn.
Het begint eigenlijk al van in de maxi cosi, wanneer vreemden nietsvermoedend je “mooi prinsesje” willen bewonderen.
Of bij de McDonalds waar kinderen een speelgoedje krijgen naargelang hun geslacht.
Dit Sam. Dit zegt meer over wat er nog moet veranderen in onze wereld. Change the world, don’t let the world change you.
Ik heb lang nagedacht over een vraag voor je vrouw. Maar.. verbazend genoeg heb ik er geen.
Ik wil alleen zeggen: ik heb erg veel bewondering voor jullie. Ik zie onvoorwaardelijke liefde, in goede en slechte dagen. Samen. (Woordspeling van Sam en Amen, hihi).
Als je jouw partner graag ziet, en geen klein beetje. Als je jouw partner het beste gunt, steunt met heel je hart. Dan is er, ondanks de fysieke verandering, niets veranderd aan de relatie. Misschien is die zelf nog intenser geworden. Niet? (Ow, heb ik nu net tóch een vraag..)
Ps: Ik had dit in het Engels willen typen, maar wie weet wat Google Translate er allemaal van maakt.
Great positive vibes in this vlog, Sam. You seem more patient now. Settling in maybe?
Looking forward to the next interview. Your wife seems to have a pleasant voice judging by a previous snippet. This may seem a strange thing to ask her... I wonder what has really changed for her, all the obvious external stuff aside. I mean, you're still yourself. You're still the one for her, right? Also, the transition is omnipresent in your mind. Is it in hers?
Yeah finally stef!! So my question for her: what was your first thought when sam said or questioned that he might be trans??
#vlog25-26 : I hear ya ! I recognize so much of what you are saying. I am still very aware that my voice does not sound deep when I talk to people and had to except that after 7 years it is not going to change anymore. I can't blame anyone on the phone saying 'yes mam' ! And YES, the IRONY being seen as a boy when I was younger and not when I was transitioning ! It helps when you get facial hair as people tend not to doubt it anymore-if they do...A-Kwaaard :-o (and I do hope it does not take 4 years for you to get it !!! For some reason nature gives you hair where you DON'T want it and seems useless to be there) In my case, I fantasized about how I wanted to look and sound and it did not measure up. Those are all reality checks during the process. But, it can be different for every individual (as I have seen in many videos) But there is not doubt that testosterone has an effect. I am still the same person but let's just say 'flavors' seem to change/evolve and it can be confusing. My door is always open to have a talk about it as I do understand that (as everything in life) other people can't understand as they don't go through it. I saw that rex rebel is performing in AB on the 10th but it is sold out. (I must confess I have lost track with your musical career but am very curious about it) But if you want to meet and have the time by all means.... ! Hang in there !
Robinstonewood thanks so much!
I don’t understand why passing as a man should matter as long as you are doing this to be true to yourself ?!
nonbinary trans person here. it's easy to say that it shouldnt matter when you've never had to be seen as anything other than your true gender. maybe being misgendered once or twice could be brushed off as, like "oh, they dont know me, i know who i am and that's what matters!" ... but you have to remember, it's not just once or twice. it's an entire lifetime of never being seen as who you are, maybe not even knowing who you are yourself. when you've finally, finally realised what it is that you've been missing, and everyone around you still treats you like someone you're not, it hurts. there's no logic-ing yourself out of it; it just hurts. so no, it "shouldn't matter"... but yes, it does.
Its because its based on ideology not reality so constantly seeking validation
Happy Birthday :)) Wish you lots of new cool changes and happiness :).
Vraagje voor Stef: krijg ook jij soms te maken met rotopmerkingen of onbegrip en hoe ga je hiermee om? En bij wie kan jij terecht voor steun/luisterend oor? Ps:jullie zijn twee fantastische mensen ❤️! Bedankt Stef, om onze vragen te beantwoorden en Sam:laat u niet te vlug ontmoedigen🤗😘
Da's een goeie vraag... Wij zien immers alleen de (gelukkig slechts enkele) rotreacties op Sam's v-logs 😉
@@valerievink1948 die gaan dan over Sam zelf, maar er zijn er ook die niet begrijpen dat er voor Stef weinig verandert en dat ze gewoon een hecht koppel blijven. Zij zal daar misschien wel opmerkingen over krijgen.
Thank you Sam , I see you as well .
Hmm , let’s see 🤔 a question
Do you have any one song you perform that’s your favourite or like some artists they are all your babies
Thank you
Angel hugs and blessings to you and yours 💜💜💜
Hey Sam, jammer dat sommige mensen nog steeds foutjes maken en je lady noemen, maar zoals je zegt heeft alles tijd nodig. Gelukkig merk je nog steeds veranderingen dus je komt er wel, al gaat het trager dan je zou willen... Blij te horen dat Stef mee wil doen, ik ga eens goed nadenken over een vraag voor haar 😉. Tot binnenkort 😘 ❤️
hello Sam ! I like you music !
I hope that you will come out in vinyl of old live of Ks CHOICE! (Hello from Belgium ! )
I guess your point but it is not easy for people sometimes to know what to do or what to say. I think if people say something to offend yes one should be offended but when it is not mean or not meant to offend it is better to just let go and not feel too emotional. I don't think it is about validating you or else it is simply because human beings are not perfect and can be clumsy sometimes. The intention is what really matters. Well maybe you should have asked the question you wanted to ask this person. Even if it would have been embarrassing maybe it could have helped this person to maybe think differently. I have a trans male friend. When he was a she he used to be my wife's colleague and friend. Sometimes my wife still makes the mistake and says "she" instead of "he" and I can guarantee you it is not a game or else. My wife loves him and respect him and validate him as a guy. It is just the brain which needs time to adapt the change of habits. It is a process for the person who is transitioning but there is another process for those who are not close relative and can't follow this process on a regular basis. When the person is in your everyday life they have time to process, your evolution is their evolutions. For the others, they just do their best to adapt as quickly as they can to change a habit. Then yes they are direspectful people for sure. Those ones won't even try to understand , to make an effort if they disapprove (which is none of their business anyway) or apologize. Forgive the others and don't be upset 😉
I just throw it back at them , ma’am or sir , he ,she ,they jump and quickly proclaim their indignace and correct me ,
I am a CIS woman and have often been misgendered throughout my life, ironically, usually when I am wearing a dress... I know how shitty it can make you feel xx
Enjoy your music, will download, keep the progress going 👊
I always say “hey folks”
I see you Sam. Looking forward to the interview with your wife next time.
i’m sorry that happens to you sam. i dont want to offend you, but you did not change that much. is your dosage high enough?
Elias Ziel it is according to my doctor
Ik ben benieuwd hoe het met Stef gaat nu ze het pad bewandelt om de risicojaren van 5 jaar schoon te gaan halen. Gaat het goed met haar gezondheid? En was het in het begin niet heel moeilijk dat Sam vrijwillig de borstoperatie zou gaan doen? Naast dat het voor hem begrijpelijk was te gaan doen. Wat deed het jou?
bedankt bettie. gezondheid weer goed zo ! x RIE xx
Hoi Sam, Je zal het misschien niet willen horen, maar je krijgt meer rimpels, en dat is denkelijk omdat de vette huid en collageen verminderd, niet? Dat je stem maar niet lijkt te veranderen is misschien goed nieuws voor de fans. Tijd voor nog een k's choice tour ( autocorrect maakt hier k's voice van :D ) . Ik kom graag naar het sportpaleis als het zover is! :) En een vraag voor je vrouw: waar was jij het meest bang voor, welk deel van Sarah dacht je te moeten missen en mis je dit ook of is dit gebleven? (Uiterlijk/ karakter)
Well... she has to transition from a gay woman back to a straight woman. How’s her identity doing these days? Was it difficult? I have the best question. 😜😜😜
You were a beautiful woman and now a beautiful man 💕
Vraagje voor Stef : was je heel verbaasd toen Sam je voor het eerst sprak over de transitie? 😘
Vraag: wat is het meest positieve wat veranderd is tussen jullie...als er überhaupt iets veranderd is?!
Vraag: aan welke grote en kleine dingen merk je dat Sam steeds meer zichzelf is en blijer is met zichzelf?
Aan niks. Sam lijkt eerder ongelukkiger te worden met die obsessieve gender focus.
Wow Peachyoghurt! Held! Wat een rot opmerking zeg
@@Perzikyoghurt get out of here if you have nothing nice to say! Or shut the F*** up! RESPECT, something you need to learn!
its's looking good, I will miss her voice.
Love you Sam
Hi! de vraag van Leslie Starnes; inderdaad n goeie! hoe voelt jouw vrouw zich: gay/straight/pan en .. heeft de transitie daar iets in veranderd; voor haarzelf / voor haar omgeving.
Ironie . Zoals je zegt' I'ts just a Moment in Time ' :-) X
Had je vrouw het voelen aankomen ? Merkte zij dat je ergens mee zat voor je het haar vertelde ? Was je vrouw bang voor de reacties van anderen ?
Hi Sam...how dare they call you a lady! Unfortunate i'm all to familiar with this misplaced adressing. I wanna choose the Role as Model rather than being trown back in it. I
Er zou inderdaad een neutraal woord moeten bestaan bij twijfel. Of zelf zonder twijfel, want je weet toch nooit hoe iemand het liefst aangesproken wil worden?
“Dag persoon”, “dag mens”,... dat klinkt helaas niet zo fijn.
Het begint eigenlijk al van in de maxi cosi, wanneer vreemden nietsvermoedend je “mooi prinsesje” willen bewonderen.
Of bij de McDonalds waar kinderen een speelgoedje krijgen naargelang hun geslacht.
Dit Sam. Dit zegt meer over wat er nog moet veranderen in onze wereld. Change the world, don’t let the world change you.
Ik heb lang nagedacht over een vraag voor je vrouw. Maar.. verbazend genoeg heb ik er geen.
Ik wil alleen zeggen: ik heb erg veel bewondering voor jullie. Ik zie onvoorwaardelijke liefde, in goede en slechte dagen. Samen. (Woordspeling van Sam en Amen, hihi).
Als je jouw partner graag ziet, en geen klein beetje. Als je jouw partner het beste gunt, steunt met heel je hart. Dan is er, ondanks de fysieke verandering, niets veranderd aan de relatie. Misschien is die zelf nog intenser geworden. Niet? (Ow, heb ik nu net tóch een vraag..)
Ps: Ik had dit in het Engels willen typen, maar wie weet wat Google Translate er allemaal van maakt.
Ik vraag me dat ook af. Soms zeg ik dan gewoon 'hallo'. Eenvoudig en universeel. 🙂