To anyone that has been or currently going through this: You did not/Don’t deserve to be treated like that/this way. It’s not your fault. Please leave 🙏🏻 it will only get worse and it will escalate
Was tortured and abused emotionally physically verbally by both mother in law and an alcoholic husband.....finally came out of that hell for good....its over....im so peaceful now....children suffered too....divorced alrdy.....finally
@Louisa, Good for you. While it's true your kiddos had to deal with situations NO ONE should should be forced to experience, ever. On a brighter note, always r remember that the resilience of children is AMAZING. What's more is, not only did you set a great example by showing them that NO ONE sbould deal with abuse. When they grow up, they're going to remember that you loved them protected them. They'll love you even more for that
I'm happy for you and your kids. Now comes the time to work through the trauma you all experienced. If you can afford it/have access, get the help of people who specialise in trauma therapy. For all of you.
I think this is very realistic. His sister whom he suffered with and loves very much seen him in a different light on this day. She reminded him of what he swore he would never become and she let him know that he did exactly what he said he wouldn't. That hurt him to be the vilian in his lil sis's eyes. To be his father. Hurt him enough to want to seek help.
I LOVED THIS FILM RIGHT HERE!! DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IS VERY REAL AND I HAVE BEEN DEALING WITH IT FOR NUMEROUS YEARS. HOWEVER IT WAS TRULY ENDEARING TO SEE THE FAMILY MEMBER OF THE ABUSER NOT ENABLE THEM. I APPLAUD THIS PIECE BECAUSE NOT ONCE IN MY SITUATIONS DID ANYONE STAND UP FOR ME BUT TOLD ME I SHOULDN'T DO THINGS THAT I KNOW WILL UPSET HIM BUT I WISH THEY ONLY KNEW THAT I DIDN'T HAVE TO DO ANYTHING TO GET MY ASS BEAT.. SMH😢 THANK YOU
Know what you mean..my exes family would never step in.. when I left after he struck our son who was only 9 months old..his mother rings me collect from the island.. asking why I put her son in jail..he told her baby fell down the stairs.. Whatever...I told her he punched him right in the face..
It’s good. No one should have to tolerate domestic violence and the first priority must always be the welfare of the victim. But abusers become that way for a reason, and I like to see a film like this, which explores ways to break the cycle of abuse.
Brilliant video. And I thought she looked beautiful at the beginning of the video. Time for this bullshit to end for the sake of future generations. Thank you.
I found myself in an abusive relationship. Bruises all over me. He wont stop hitting me. He cant stop. He says im disrespectful, no manners, i interrupt him I deserve it I feel so stuck
Leo Laddie no one deserves to be hit whether you are in a relationship or not..... Try talking to your family or counselor for help because you honestly don't deserve it!!!!!
1 if u are in us. Buy lots of food coupons a stach.hide 2~watch june hunt steps y o relste to abuse. 3. Hide camerasvor use cell record Him.4 .call loc as l pastors ask for help.really fast and pray call i pon JESUS.je saves he is protecting me. Money is a issue. Go to he bank withdrawal all ..hide.. See a pl as ce where you c as n be safe and hide. ANYTHING LAW IS COSTLY AND WON'T HELP. IF HE HAS NO CONTROL..LET HAPPEN IN PUBLIC WHERE YOU CAN ASK HELP....SCRE R M DON'T HIT ME AS AGAIN...
Alwsys remember ending is more important than beginning~ if you RECORD and listen alone you might cry and see this is not love ..u loved u err endured u hoped.. Now u MUST seek friends and family..if u are alone like me..and he took all your money.. Make a video on utube as nd ask donations.brok r n heart but hard to recover...place money..2 issues.
My father was abusive. He would smack me around, slam doors on me and stomp on my feet. He would hit my brother with hard leather soled shoes, and a belt(with the buckle side) if it wasn't for my sister inlaw, he would have abused my nephew. Domestic violence is a disease, an insidious rampant disease.
If your father ever tried to smack me around, I'm not gonna sit there and take it, I would punch the shit outta him for putting his goddamn hands on me, I don't give a fuck, sorry I have to say that
It's a nightmare for a child trapped with an abusive parent. A child can't leave the relationship he or she can only walk on eggshells until they become old enough to leave home.
People like you are the exact reason why men and women do not report this or seek help exiting abusive relationships. You are partly the reason why they are murdered
I think she was very Brave to Stay in the relationship. I praise her. I was raised Not to run away from unpleasantness. I was Praised for tolerating Unfair and abusive treatment directed toward me. But when I did Defend myself, I was Harshly Chastised and threatened with loss of love.
I also want to clarify something else. I have No kids, No husband. It is other people in my life who " abuse " me. I don't even like to use the word " abuse ". It sounds so self-pitying, and it is also an Over-reaction to arguments. Fights are normal, even if they are sometimes Unjustly directed at a person. This is true for all kinds of relationships.
My husband does that every 60 months or so, rest of the year he is nice and sweet to me and my 2 daughters all our families see us as perfect family but once idk what happens to him he shouts so load that scares me so much. Idk what can I do about this?
Call 911, find a place to stay besides home, plan on what to do, get money, get food, etc. Take the kids, if you have kids, he will most likely turn to them in anger with no one else to if you're gone, go to churches cuz they try to help those women, and they got money give to abused women and get em jobs, you'll have to take on a whole new identity sometimes, too.
I COME FROM VIOLENCE AND WHEN I MARRIED AND THOUGHT I WAS PREGNANT HUSBAND HAD A FIT. BECAME VIOLENT . ELDER WOMEN SAID STAY. I DID. MY RELIGION FORBID DIVORCE. 2ND TIME YEARS LATER I THOUGHT I WAS PREGNANT AGAIN HE DID AGAIN . PRIEST SAID I WOULD GO TO HELL IF I DIVORCED HIM. I SAID 'I AM ALREADY IN HELL" AND LEFT. RETURNED TO A HAPPY LIFE ONCE MORE.
This situation in Samoa is prolly a hair truth from the real truth... Samoan marriage is base on a very solid platform. Where the man loves and nourish he's wife unconditional as well as the woman.. ... anything out of the ordinary are the ways of the outsiders....
Six Facts About Intimate Partner Violence (IPV) You Probably Didn’t Know
1. Intimate partner violence, also known as domestic violence, consists of physical, sexual, and psychological aggression, including what have been called “power and control” behaviors. Except for sexual abuse, rates in the general population are comparable across the sexes, as well as across sexual orientation. In the United States, over 26 million men and 23 million women are abused in some manner by an intimate partner each year, with rates of physical abuse victimization around 5.3 million for male victims and 4.7 million for female victims. 2. Women are motivated to perpetrate IPV for the same reasons as men, and motives are similar across sexual orientation. Aside from self-defense, the motives include a desire to punish, out of jealousy, in retaliation, when they are under the influence of substances, to express anger or other emotions, or as a way of getting what they want and dominating the other person. 3. Both partners are physically violent in a majority (about 60%) of abusive relationships, and women strike the first blow as often as do men. The percentage of bi-directional aggression is greater when all forms of abuse, including psychological abuse, are considered. 4. Nonetheless, it would be incorrect to suggest that IPV is the same across the sexes. Women account for more than three-fourths of intimate partner homicide victims, and women who kill their partners are more likely to do so in self-defense than men who kill their partners. Women also incur the much larger share of serious physical injuries requiring medical attention. Compared to male victims, female victims also exhibit more severe psychological symptoms, including depression and PTSD. Minor physical injuries, however, are incurred by men and women at more comparable rates, and the impact of psychological abuse is the same regardless of sex or sexual orientation. 5. Most IPV is of the type known as situational violence, consisting of infrequent physical assaults, such as grabbing or pushing, resulting in minor injuries, or no injuries at all. This type of abuse arises from escalated conflicts and poor impulse control and does not always worsen over time. The type of IPV known as battering features more severe physical assaults and an overall pattern of dominance and control. While women are equally likely as men to engage in most battering behavior, it is usually men who perpetrate extreme battering behavior, sometimes called intimate terrorism. 6. Children are more adversely affected in the short run by observing violence by the father, in terms of psychological distress, but observing assaults by the mother puts them equally at risk for having conduct and academic problems. In the long run, children who observe IPV by either parent are significantly more likely than other children to assault dating partners in adolescence, to abuse their spouses or co-habitants in adulthood, and develop substance abuse and other mental health disorders. Sources: Hamel, J., & Russell, B. (2022 publication). Domestic violence legal practice and intervention policy: Beyond the gender paradigm. New York: Oxford University Press. National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey (NISVS). Available online at: www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/datasources/nisvs/index.html Partner Abuse State of Knowledge Project. Available for free online at www.domesticviolenceresearch.org
I'm sorry but it should not have taken his sister to make him realize that he had become just like his father. That's good that he wants to get some help now but he would be doing it without me hopefully his next relationship will be successful but I would not stand for i, it's a little too late to see the errors of your ways now. Good luck to you partner...I'm out.
This video is unrealistic. For the truth about family violence, see the following videos: 1. *ManWomanMyth - Domestic Violence - Introduction* 2. *Police Training for Domestic Violence with Donald Dutton* ... only 11 minutes 3. *Christina Hoff Sommers on Violence Against Women* 4. *Dr. Tonia Nicholls - The uncomfortable facts on IPV* 5. *Julio shares his experience with domestic violence & the justice system* 6. *The Truth About Domestic Violence - You'll Never Believe...* 7. *Laws ruining men*
I beat and verbally abuse my husband and child all the time, it's just a part of life like breathing or eating. One must show dominance over others, or there will be anarchy. Before you stop kicking your significant other's face in, please take a moment to think about that. It's not your fault. They made you do it. You are a good person.
I grew up with abusive parents. My siblings and I, decided that we would be better parents.
Thank goodness, we all did.
'So you think its ok for another man to hit me?' that was powerful.
To anyone that has been or currently going through this: You did not/Don’t deserve to be treated like that/this way. It’s not your fault. Please leave 🙏🏻 it will only get worse and it will escalate
Families should learn to love and respect each other
This hits so hard for me, as a survivor of domestic violence/abuse by strangers and especially family members
Me too, I have a verbally/emotionally/psychologically abusive father 💔
Was tortured and abused emotionally physically verbally by both mother in law and an alcoholic husband.....finally came out of that hell for good....its over....im so peaceful now....children suffered too....divorced alrdy.....finally
❤
Good for you, I wish you and you family all the happiness you deserve. Stay strong 💪
@Louisa,
Good for you. While it's true your kiddos had to deal with situations NO ONE should should be forced to experience, ever. On a brighter note, always r remember that the resilience of children is AMAZING. What's more is, not only did you set a great example by showing them that NO ONE sbould deal with abuse. When they grow up, they're going to remember that you loved them protected them. They'll love you even more for that
hi and 👋 🤗 👋 🤗 👋 😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊@@wendyhannan2454
I'm happy for you and your kids. Now comes the time to work through the trauma you all experienced. If you can afford it/have access, get the help of people who specialise in trauma therapy. For all of you.
I think this is very realistic. His sister whom he suffered with and loves very much seen him in a different light on this day. She reminded him of what he swore he would never become and she let him know that he did exactly what he said he wouldn't. That hurt him to be the vilian in his lil sis's eyes. To be his father. Hurt him enough to want to seek help.
This almost made me cry because it's relatable to me
same but for me is my fake cousin. I sticked with her for too long
Great ddepiction of what often happens to young boys who grow up with a father, step father or boy friend who beats his mother.
I broke the cycle of being like my mother. My son's did well with their families. I got help early, when my son's were young. Don't be a tyrant.
I LOVED THIS FILM RIGHT HERE!! DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IS VERY REAL AND I HAVE BEEN DEALING WITH IT FOR NUMEROUS YEARS. HOWEVER IT WAS TRULY ENDEARING TO SEE THE FAMILY MEMBER OF THE ABUSER NOT ENABLE THEM. I APPLAUD THIS PIECE BECAUSE NOT ONCE IN MY SITUATIONS DID ANYONE STAND UP FOR ME BUT TOLD ME I SHOULDN'T DO THINGS THAT I KNOW WILL UPSET HIM BUT I WISH THEY ONLY KNEW THAT I DIDN'T HAVE TO DO ANYTHING TO GET MY ASS BEAT.. SMH😢
THANK YOU
Know what you mean..my exes family would never step in.. when I left after he struck our son who was only 9 months old..his mother rings me collect from the island.. asking why I put her son in jail..he told her baby fell down the stairs.. Whatever...I told her he punched him right in the face..
My brother hits me, and this made my chest feels so cold I feel like crying I hate men beating women
It’s good. No one should have to tolerate domestic violence and the first priority must always be the welfare of the victim. But abusers become that way for a reason, and I like to see a film like this, which explores ways to break the cycle of abuse.
I refuse to put myself through unnecessary changes.🤬🤬🤬
This is a beautiful message , had me in tears for real ❤🙌💯
Powerful message 😥💕
I’m writing a book that touches on family violence I hope it helps those who are hurting. This is A great ad
Very powerful film. Art like this inspires me to keep making impactful art! Great job!
Brilliant video. And I thought she looked beautiful at the beginning of the video. Time for this bullshit to end for the sake of future generations. Thank you.
Man these actors are good this PSA is so terrifying which is good that it is terrifying bc that’s the point
His sister came in at the right time.
I found myself in an abusive relationship. Bruises all over me. He wont stop hitting me. He cant stop. He says im disrespectful, no manners, i interrupt him
I deserve it
I feel so stuck
Leo Laddie Try to get help:/
Leo Laddie honey please find some way to leave wouldn’t want anything to happen to you
Leo Laddie no one deserves to be hit whether you are in a relationship or not.....
Try talking to your family or counselor for help because you honestly don't deserve it!!!!!
1 if u are in us. Buy lots of food coupons a stach.hide 2~watch june hunt steps y o relste to abuse. 3. Hide camerasvor use cell record Him.4 .call loc as l pastors ask for help.really fast and pray call i pon JESUS.je saves he is protecting me. Money is a issue. Go to he bank withdrawal all ..hide.. See a pl as ce where you c as n be safe and hide. ANYTHING LAW IS COSTLY AND WON'T HELP. IF HE HAS NO CONTROL..LET HAPPEN IN PUBLIC WHERE YOU CAN ASK HELP....SCRE R M DON'T HIT ME AS AGAIN...
Alwsys remember ending is more important than beginning~ if you RECORD and listen alone you might cry and see this is not love ..u loved u err endured u hoped.. Now u MUST seek friends and family..if u are alone like me..and he took all your money.. Make a video on utube as nd ask donations.brok r n heart but hard to recover...place money..2 issues.
Oh oh, sorry to hear that. Hope you are doing good
My father was abusive. He would smack me around, slam doors on me and stomp on my feet. He would hit my brother with hard leather soled shoes, and a belt(with the buckle side) if it wasn't for my sister inlaw, he would have abused my nephew. Domestic violence is a disease, an insidious rampant disease.
Hi i know we don't know each other personally but I'm sorry your father was abusive to you and your brother, y'all don't deserve that treatment at all
If your father ever tried to smack me around, I'm not gonna sit there and take it, I would punch the shit outta him for putting his goddamn hands on me, I don't give a fuck, sorry I have to say that
It's a nightmare for a child trapped with an abusive parent. A child can't leave the relationship he or she can only walk on eggshells until they become old enough to leave home.
We marry into a family before we start our own. That family should stand by us, and stand up against abuse no matter who is the perpetrator.
Her first mistake sticking around after the first attitude
she isn't to blame at all
@@sunnybunnysky She knew what she had in her life never bother waking up
@@jspurs22Domestic violence is NEVER the victims fault. Either you’re a perpetrator yourself or you excuse people around you that are
People like you are the exact reason why men and women do not report this or seek help exiting abusive relationships. You are partly the reason why they are murdered
I think she was very Brave to Stay in the relationship. I praise her. I was raised Not to run away from unpleasantness. I was Praised for tolerating Unfair and abusive treatment directed toward me. But when I did Defend myself, I was Harshly Chastised and threatened with loss of love.
You should never have to suffer your husband's abuse
I also want to clarify something else. I have No kids, No husband. It is other people in my life who " abuse " me. I don't even like to use the word " abuse ". It sounds so self-pitying, and it is also an Over-reaction to arguments. Fights are normal, even if they are sometimes Unjustly directed at a person. This is true for all kinds of relationships.
I went through this it so sad went u to scare to get out of it .ladies please get out before is to late
This is so deep
This is some good acting! 👍🏽 Very much prevalent in poly families. First hand account.
NEVER believe à man like this. Run, leave him, build a new safe home for you and your children.
On point ♥️
Talk to each other 👌🏼💎
This is wrong, nobody should hit or abuse their wife, especially in front of their children
Unfortunately it's never this easy.
My husband does that every 60 months or so, rest of the year he is nice and sweet to me and my 2 daughters all our families see us as perfect family but once idk what happens to him he shouts so load that scares me so much. Idk what can I do about this?
The best method:
Jeremiah 18:2 💪💪💪💪
If that fails there's always judges 4:21
Men like that doesn't deserve love.
Leon Valeeni not women no?
"She deserves it!" / Me:"No she does NOT!"
It's NEVER EVER OK for a man to hit on a woman.
I actually cried
This family violence psa this very powerful and sad tooo
I need help I’m trying to get over an abusive relationship I’m trying to find a outlet
My prayer is that you will get out unharmed and be able to move on with your life....
U definitely succeed in over coming this difficulty and fine ur way. Have confidence dear
Call 911, find a place to stay besides home, plan on what to do, get money, get food, etc. Take the kids, if you have kids, he will most likely turn to them in anger with no one else to if you're gone, go to churches cuz they try to help those women, and they got money give to abused women and get em jobs, you'll have to take on a whole new identity sometimes, too.
I know this off topic...but wow..that curly hair girl is sooooooooo cute❤
Will he keep his promise?
I COME FROM VIOLENCE AND WHEN I MARRIED AND THOUGHT I WAS PREGNANT HUSBAND HAD A FIT. BECAME VIOLENT . ELDER WOMEN SAID STAY. I DID. MY RELIGION FORBID DIVORCE. 2ND TIME YEARS LATER I THOUGHT I WAS PREGNANT AGAIN HE DID AGAIN . PRIEST SAID I WOULD GO TO HELL IF I DIVORCED HIM. I SAID 'I AM ALREADY IN HELL" AND LEFT. RETURNED TO A HAPPY LIFE ONCE MORE.
Are you going to ruin my whole life with this? 💀
Being an abusive husband just because he was abused is a pathetic excuse. I was abused and I didn't become an abuser. It's a bullshit excuse PERIOD!
true
I grew up wit a domestic family and thinking it was normal but its not
How can someone harm their own family....
This situation in Samoa is prolly a hair truth from the real truth... Samoan marriage is base on a very solid platform. Where the man loves and nourish he's wife unconditional as well as the woman.. ... anything out of the ordinary are the ways of the outsiders....
2:01 When your dad goes to the living room at the wrong time of the agreement.
As if that would happen his mrs would’ve gave him the shandle 🩴 if he spoke to her like that 🤣🤣😂
Powerful
yo im a male and i just wanna start somthing #womenrights #respectallwomen #respecteveryone
My heart goes out to you and I don't even know you.
2:01 🙁…
Awww so sad😞
He looks scary
Six Facts About Intimate Partner Violence (IPV) You Probably Didn’t Know
1. Intimate partner violence, also known as domestic violence, consists of physical, sexual, and psychological aggression, including what have been called “power and control” behaviors. Except for sexual abuse, rates in the general population are comparable across the sexes, as well as across sexual orientation. In the United States, over 26 million men and 23 million women are abused in some manner by an intimate partner each year, with rates of physical abuse victimization around 5.3 million for male victims and 4.7 million for female victims.
2. Women are motivated to perpetrate IPV for the same reasons as men, and motives are similar across sexual orientation. Aside from self-defense, the motives include a desire to punish, out of jealousy, in retaliation, when they are under the influence of substances, to express anger or other emotions, or as a way of getting what they want and dominating the other person.
3. Both partners are physically violent in a majority (about 60%) of abusive relationships, and women strike the first blow as often as do men. The percentage of bi-directional aggression is greater when all forms of abuse, including psychological abuse, are considered.
4. Nonetheless, it would be incorrect to suggest that IPV is the same across the sexes. Women account for more than three-fourths of intimate partner homicide victims, and women who kill their partners are more likely to do so in self-defense than men who kill their partners. Women also incur the much larger share of serious physical injuries requiring medical attention. Compared to male victims, female victims also exhibit more severe psychological symptoms, including depression and PTSD. Minor physical injuries, however, are incurred by men and women at more comparable rates, and the impact of psychological abuse is the same regardless of sex or sexual orientation.
5. Most IPV is of the type known as situational violence, consisting of infrequent physical assaults, such as grabbing or pushing, resulting in minor injuries, or no injuries at all. This type of abuse arises from escalated conflicts and poor impulse control and does not always worsen over time. The type of IPV known as battering features more severe physical assaults and an overall pattern of dominance and control. While women are equally likely as men to engage in most battering behavior, it is usually men who perpetrate extreme battering behavior, sometimes called intimate terrorism.
6. Children are more adversely affected in the short run by observing violence by the father, in terms of psychological distress, but observing assaults by the mother puts them equally at risk for having conduct and academic problems. In the long run, children who observe IPV by either parent are significantly more likely than other children to assault dating partners in adolescence, to abuse their spouses or co-habitants in adulthood, and develop substance abuse and other mental health disorders.
Sources:
Hamel, J., & Russell, B. (2022 publication). Domestic violence legal practice and intervention policy: Beyond the gender paradigm. New York: Oxford University Press.
National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey (NISVS). Available online at: www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/datasources/nisvs/index.html
Partner Abuse State of Knowledge Project. Available for free online at www.domesticviolenceresearch.org
I seen worst😔
I’m sorry but that thumbnail tho 🤭😂
I heard violence a few years ago and they killed their dog
I'm sorry but it should not have taken his sister to make him realize that he had become just like his father. That's good that he wants to get some help now but he would be doing it without me hopefully his next relationship will be successful but I would not stand for i, it's a little too late to see the errors of your ways now. Good luck to you partner...I'm out.
Who had an adituce had an aditude
Life insurance policies. Accidents do happen
When u destroy totally a family ...when was in that for years.... pretending to be happy....fake....be careful when u get into homes
My name is Tasha lol
Tasha Gweshe
Lmao 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Tasha Gweshe
I read your comment when he said “your not talking to one of your patients Tasha” 😂
This video is unrealistic. For the truth about family violence, see the following videos:
1. *ManWomanMyth - Domestic Violence - Introduction*
2. *Police Training for Domestic Violence with Donald Dutton* ... only 11 minutes
3. *Christina Hoff Sommers on Violence Against Women*
4. *Dr. Tonia Nicholls - The uncomfortable facts on IPV*
5. *Julio shares his experience with domestic violence & the justice system*
6. *The Truth About Domestic Violence - You'll Never Believe...*
7. *Laws ruining men*
No one!!!
These are very poignant and powerful. My ONLY problem with this is your subtitles are really, REALLY awrful.
G is that us
First
I beat and verbally abuse my husband and child all the time, it's just a part of life like breathing or eating. One must show dominance over others, or there will be anarchy. Before you stop kicking your significant other's face in, please take a moment to think about that. It's not your fault. They made you do it. You are a good person.
And if a man sit up there and say the same thing then they won't even hear the end of it. That is not fair........respectfully said statement.☺
Lmaooo yall need jesus
haha yur fucked lady 😅😅
Something is seriously wrong with you smh
I pray that he leaves you. You are a horrible woman.
He has a point, the house was a mess.
Hi I'm sorry but I don't give a fuck if the house was a mess, that's not a goddamn excuse for him to hit his wife like that