Hahaha great analogy. However, you don't go out and start LARPing around as a SpecOps guy just because you played some CoD. Tactibros withstanding. Women have a unique challenge here though, and many can't help but fall into the fantasy because of hypergamy. Sadly, a lot of young impressionable minds are being misled by modern media these days.
@@deepestsleeep almost all 3rd world countries show their population is increasing even though the economic condition is so bad. People from developed countries such as Singapore, Japan or S.Korea are having a different life style, demand and education background. In the past If people work hard, it was not difficult to buy a house as now. How much is housing coast in Singapore, Korea, Japan or Shanghai now? Its crazy price. Also, There are plenty of things that people can enjoy their life without marriage or having a child. Therefore people rather choose to live single or kidless life than marriage or life as a parents. When S.Korea was poor, everyone was poor at that time but now, people comparing their life to other and wanna be better and want more which is happening in every modern society. Society is also change by the time as human does. Its so wrong you compare S.Korea in 1950th to S.Korea 2020th. Totally different conditions.
Have a backbone and don't accept what you don't want. Put your pride aside and take less pay for more time. Be smart with money to make it work with less money.
People in developed countries have different standards of living in their youth, so they expect to give the same standard or better to their family, otherwise they would’ve failed as parents, whereas people in developing countries only know poverty, so they are fine struggling to provide for themselves and their family, in fact it’s seen as heroism. Our global population has actually peaked though, regardless of where you’re from. Even the poorest country have decreasing birth rates. Our governments all over the world have relied on a pyramid scheme of people giving birth to support the people at the top (the elderly) and soon most of us will experience the same problem. There won’t be enough people to support the genz or millenials when we get old, and our retirement age will increase, and we’ll be homeless at the first sign of trouble with our health or finances. If climate change doesn’t get us first.
I don't like people treating this "people don't want to marry and have kids" as some huge mystery. The reasons are obvious and apparent, in big cities people are living in extremely competitive environments, where they are demanded to focus 100% on their jobs. Not to thrive, just to barely survive. There it is, mystery solved. If you want people to have romance and children then don't treat them as robots, have a society where there is balance between work and personal life, and give them salaries that actually allow them to be mostly worry free.
Especially real life Korean men. All that love bombing ends once she's committed to him, and she quickly realizes that the knight underneath the shining armor is carries a domineering and often abusive macho attitude.
@@doujinflipor, maybe the woman changes once he puts a ring on it, and becomes intolerant of the man's hobbies and demands that he turn over all his finances to her. There is a term for women like that. "Stop Lurker"
Also tends to cut out the reality that a man who will treat you well and view as an equal will not approach a woman in the same paternalistic manner as in k-dramas. A guy who believes in equality ain't going to buy tons of things for you and pay for every meal. The men who do that will expect women to be weak, earn less or not work at all and stay at home.
@@cumibakar10 Try being a negro that doesn't speak Korean to at least A2 in South Korea; only English (&possibly French). I wish you good look in this [somewhat hypothetical] scenario.
When she says "men are more chivalrous here", she means the 10% at the top that can throw money around while the other men checked out of dating entirely.
Its a dangerous reality check how SK the world's best fantasy creators in reality suffers from highest rate of depression , suicide and lowest fertility rates . Its shows the big big difference between k drama and real world.
What a racist generalization just because of what you see online. SK has the same depression and suicide rates per capita as countries like the US (15-20 per 100,000 residents)
It's literally taking "romance fantasy" to greater heights. "Romance" is already bad enough - highly unrealistic and dramatic which is not what life is about.
Suicide rate is only higher for the 80+ age bracket. Every other age bracket is lower than OECD average. And fertility rate of locals is same as most western nations, the difference is in higher immigration.
The ones who struggle the most in reality are the ones to always create the best fantasies. How many comedians are depressive? Look at Robin Williams, Jim Carey, Louis C.K.
@@zenastronomythat’s partially true. But I think it’s the degradation of morals and hopelessness of the new generation that contributes the most to this.
Romance is nicer than reality. Think of the popularity of Cinderella story. Most women would love to marry a wealthy, handsome, kind, young prince but won't.
@@natashadickson4819 Not "won't", but more like they don't have access to wealthy, handsome, kind, young prince as a bottom-of-society maid. Even if they did, prince charming is chasing the princess, not you. Unfortunately, a lot of young girls never grow out of this fantasy until its too late.
The solution is pretty simple really. In Korea to do a marriage ceremony it cost more than in Europe and America. Govt needs to reign in and make the process less pricey by opening govt schemes and reducing private sectors running as marrage ceremony agency and off course benefits for child care too. This will help a lot
Then it's a social thing. Marriage ceremony (the one that takes a lot of money) is actually optional. Registering a marriage is not too hard nor expensive. But the social pressure to have a (lavish) ceremony along with it is so high, that almost nobody would get married without one. Especially in todays' "me me me" influence of having "being a princess in the most important day in life" thing.
@@wakaneutyep. but it also takes a lot of social pressure to cohabit and have bastard children. they able to do that nonetheless. the reality is, these couples want an out. they want to be able to leave when they want to. and that marriage oath is suffocating for them. the problem with that is, it destroys any security in the relationship, ultimately dooming it to failure. and it destroys any children born in that relationship, due to the instability of that relationship. there is a reason society evolved marriage as the most stable way of organising society peacefully for the most prosperity.
The modern society is too much sinked in hollywood movies and disney stories. No wonders people can't dissociate marriage from a lavish cerimmony, just like the comment above. A marriage is a commitment made by a man and a woman before God, and two witness. Don't confuse it with cohabiting, which is wrong. Spiritually they are totally different, and this impact the life of the couple and their future children.
Wow only 3% cohabitation in SK! Here in Quebec (Canada) only 52% of the family are married and 48% are common law union which is non married couple but the kids has the same rights than married couple. As women are very educated here and we have gender equity policies, 48% of the task force are female. Women doesn’t need marriage as a financial protection. A couple is mainly base on love. But most immigrants still choose to get a marriage by cultural values or religious.
Everyone understandably loves the fantasy of being married to the perfect wife and having beautiful obedient children with no worries in the world. But the reality is for majority of people, once you get married and have children - you live day to day for your children and their needs. Only people with children will feel this incredible urge to nurture and ensure the future of their offspring. If you are childless and you don't know what you're missing - you may not feel this kind of urge. That may be why its easy for this generation to remain single and childless - you won't miss what you never had.
Modern youth don't want kids because kids bring net negative value to their life. They used to work on the farm, or you can send them to the factories, somewhat offsetting their cost to the parents. Now, kids are more expensive than ever to raise (higher life standards), and bring less value than ever before. Society doesn't enforce them to be a parent's retirement plans like they were supposed to be for thousands of years of human history. And we have better alternatives for retirement savings now. Your 401k account won't just "find themselves" and decide it doesn't want to talk to you again or never pay out. Kids are fun, but so are pets and video games. The only way we get high birthrates again is for "raising children" to be a profitable life-event for most people. "Desire for children" alone won't do it. The proof is in the statistics. Add a 10% lifetime earnings tax on children that goes to the parents and watch the birthrate boom happen.
The young Koreans are doing the right thing. Especially the women who of course want to have the same freedom that men have, when it comes to work, sex, traveling the world and other things that people want when they have the financial means.
Men and women were never created to be the same. Otherwise our bodies and abilities would be the same. Korean women don't have mandatory conscription for a reason. They are not called to die for the men. It's the men who are called to die to protect the women.
@@KBowWow75WOMEN MUST NOT BE FORCED INTO CHILDBIRTH AND MARRIAGES. IT'S STRAIGHT-OUT SEXUAL AND PHYSICAL ASSAULT ON THE WOMEN. FOR WARS, THEY MUST BE STOPPED. MEN AND CORRUPT LEADERS CREATE WARS, AND INSTEAD THEY MUST BE STOPPED FROM CREATING THEM. IN ISLAMIC COUNTRIES AND INDIA MANY MANY WOMEN ARE FORCED WHICH IS EVEN GRUESOME TO WATCH. I AM A WOMAN FROM SOUTH ASIA AND I SUPPORT SOUTH KOREAN WOMEN.
@@KBowWow75That's stupid, women must NOT be forced into marriages and childbirth. It's straightforward sexual and physical violence on women then where is the protection. For those wars, men and corrupt politicians create them and they must be stopped from doing so instead of forcing women into marriages causing marital rapes and childbirth which are already violence.
@@KBowWow75 @KBowWow75 That's stupid, women must NOT be forced into marriages and childbirth. It's straightforward s.exual and physical violence on women then where is the protection. For those wars, men and corrupt politicians create them and they must be stopped from doing so instead of forcing women into marriages causing marital rapes and childbirth which are already violence.
@@KBowWow75 @KBowWow75 women must NOT be forced into marriages and childbirth. It's straightforward s,exual and physical violence on women then where is the protection. For those wars, men and corrupt politicians create them and they must be stopped from doing so instead of forcing women into marriages causing marital rapes and childbirth which are already violence.
I don't understand why people in comment section assume that these people are not happy and they are living their lives unfulfilled and are shallow because they are not married . ..people are projecting their own insecurities on these people ..these people trying their best to live their lives without destroying somebody's else ..that majority of people do when they are married ...fantasy is just form of entertainment ..I don't like wars but I like war movies and series
There's a lot of cool things about South Korea, but it always struck me as odd when people form a picture of a country or place purely based on media. We had seen it in a big way before with Japan and anime, and now through S. Korea and kdrama/kpop. And every time people are just left disappointed. It's ok to get an initial interest in a place through media, but please don't bet your life on that alone. Do some actual research and just go on a vacation for a week before even considering anything more. No place on earth is perfect, but we also all have different values, so it's important to match your values with a realistic picture of the place you want to be in.
Nobody thinks Hollywood films are a reflection reality. I don't know why CNA assumes people would think otherwise about Korean entertainment. With one of the lowest press freedom in the world, it is no coincidence that this Korea hit piece is a series of attempts by state-run CNA to bash a fellow asian nation to mask Singapore's problems. Let me remind you that this kind of ill intentioned, antagonism can go both ways when more and more Koreans find out about your propapanda campaign.
Hollywood is driven by rare celebrities, whereas K-romance dramas make it sound like the male leads are what all Korean bachelors are like. There's a reason so many young women around the world are studying Korean language and dreaming to move to Seoul.
You would be surprised how many young girls are duped by this. It's not just drama but idols as well. Idols constantly make reality variety show content, have paid private video solo phone calls with fans. The parasocial aspect is very crucial in Korean entertainment while in Hollywood their celebrities prefer to not even touch social media.
I don't care where you go people are flawed and can not compete with fictional characters. These romance books and kdramas have people out here with unrealistic standards.
6:37 health, housing & childcare benefits are fine but promoting babies outside marriage to increase birth rate will mess up the situation even more. Korea has enough no. of abandoned babies. Adoption should be promoted instead
If you can stay with each other and want to take babies, then I think a wedding is the better option. If everyone starts living without a wedding, I think someday there will not be any cultivation for a normal life.
A lot of SG girls from rich daddies wants to marry for instagram. What does that mean? It means they marry only to post pics of their wedding. At the UK, as a British, i met many SG girls studying at the UK desperate for white hubby. Many went after my handsome buddy and made him cost a crazy amount for her dream wedding. At the wedding, am one of his grooms men, she and her friends were mostly instagramming non stop until the end of the wedding ceremony. Then she changed completely to not give 2 sheet about the marriage. It broke my buddy. As if she wants to marry for the wedding ceremony to post on instagram and not the married journey. I feel sorry for him because of her rich daddy, she wants to be treated like a princess 24/7.
I also hv mates from SG who shared the ladies there are materialistic AF. They fantasize from K drama and craves for white hubby and mixed race babies. Only for social medias and those dopamine trigger likes, hearts and thumbs up.
Something I don't see talked about a lot, but why is Seoul the only city in Korea people want to live in? Why not develop the agricultural sector so that Koreans don't live in a monolith.
Korea is a very status driven society. All forms of blue collar work are looked down upon even if they pay better. All the richest people and most prestigious entities are in Seoul, so the capital region further benefits from network effect at the cost of the rest of Korea.
Most of drama that starts with happy marriage ends up with either partner being a cheater or becoming one, also Korea has one of the highest divorce and suicide rates due to depression 😅
Can someone explain to me why someone would prefer having children outside of marriage than in ?... Why would you make a child with someone you are not willing to marry ?
I mean being one before God, the law, society or anything you believe in... saying that you are commited and making it official are two different things, since just being commited to stay together has literally no weight what so ever (what could your dad do if your mom leaves him... legally next to nothing)... if you are serious about being together, just make it official... if anything the goverment gives you benefits (at least in my country) and panishes infidelity and stuff like that
@P.90.603 I don't know how it works in the USA, but the one who breaks it should be the one getting punished because that is common sense. I guess the USA system is stupid. Also, as a Christian, the part about becoming one before God seems more important to me than the legal paperwork, which might lead to us not being able to agree. But even when I was atheist I regarded marriage as the ultimate showing of love, since you elevate the relationship to something more special and become one family. Having legal protection is just a bonus and at least in Europe it works just fine (From what I have seen)
Getting married in the honeymoon phase of the relationship is risky. If you want to be happy together longterm, you still have to like each other without the rose-coloured glasses. So, even though I know that South Korea is quite conservative in many ways, it sounds odd to me that living with your partner without being married is so controversial there. No wonder that so many young people avoid dating in general if they are expected to get married quickly.
Going Dutch is awkward to arrange there. What usually happens is trading off who pays which stage of the date, like he pays for dinner at the restaurant and then she pays for coffee and dessert at a separate cafe.
Eveyone think developed nation ones are the happiest..nope sk is the best example for how developed nation suffering from low fertility rate,high suicide rate among students, work hard like a animal, no time to spending for family, high cost of living...even my country ( india ) are still developing but we are the happiest one compare to south korea... hope in future, sk realise what the meaning of living....
The happiest countries on average are Skandinavian countries because of high wealth, high wealth equality, good social security, low corruption etc. People are happier if they live in a society that feels safe and fair.
I totally agree. I don't care what the studies say. Here in the Netherlands everyone will say they are 10/10 happy, but if you read their body language it will tell a different story. Go to a place like India or the Philippines and all the people are smiling and happy all the time. It's because they have strong loving families and a meaningful life based in spirituality. Here in the west everyone is just living pointless lives striving after status.
It s normal, I like history romances, esp. Chinese, as these don t lie about reality but show that true love isn' t easy and it takes a lot of efforts, sacrifice for each other, overcoming difficulties, serving for the benefit of the nation . They are educative and I have a lot of friends, even South Korean who follow this path, many international and interfacial marriages are successful . They usually have 3- 5 children. Don t do the mistakes to have babies without fathers. I am a teacher and many students feel depressed, for such reasons Bulgarian society is getting weak and sick.
It doesn’t matter if it was 60 years or a thousand years in the past. If it worked why try and fix something that was never broken?😂 Stop copying Americans. America is backwards. Relationships are not progressive and or productive. We have the worst success when it comes to relationships. 80% of the women divorce men and if not divorce 80% of women break up with men. 35% of men failed paternity which means the women cheated. False accusations. Women are unstable mentally and emotionally. They have been ran through by hundreds of men and they admitted themselves and think its okay. Living together without any commitment and trying to “figure it out through the years” is a waste of time especially for women. They have a biological clock and the older, the more risky it is for their health to have babies. Its backwards and not productive. “Oh lets live together to see if it works out” sounds like both dont know if they are compatible and what to look for. They have not self reflected. If they dont know from the start it is just the “blind, leading the blind” it never ends good.
I also cohabitate with my partner. We don't want to give red packets during Chinese New Year and I don't like how Asian weddings are all about giving money and spending money so I'm in no rush to get married.
How much of your generation see things your way? I wonder how widespread it is now. Also having/planning kids complicates the cohabitation thing. You guys plan on no kids? Or get married once you have them?
Government have made having family & marriage expensive. Government have made housing, healthcare, education, food and retirement exoensive and difficult. So few people are getting marrued and starting a family.
It's a shared east asia problem. Housing is waaaaay too expensive, too much parental control, too much financial expecation and demand based on tradition instead of gender equality and marrying for love.
The situation is extremely bad here in Asia. Hypergamy is an all time peak and with rising unemployment and inflation it's going even higher. My friend was working day and night, killing himself just to marry a girl who he was dating and she ended up leaving him and marrying a guy from a rich family. Met so many girls, went on so many dates and everyone was more concerned about my income and property. It is a mess. Asia is in such a mess rn.
Isn't it people's fault to think that drama represents real life though? Do we see Indians or Filipinos living their regular life similar to what's shown in their dramas lol!!
I feel like a lot of women always assume that men in other cultures are better than men in their own culture. But it's always the case that they simply don't know enough about the real men in those other cultures, and that's why they seem "better" on surface level. I'm sure that some Korean women also assume that Western men are "more chivalrous" than Korean men, which is not necessarily true.
Hmm my experience is Asian women believe white men are more supportive of gender equality and are more independent of their parents so the Asian women can be equals & not deal with the in-laws as much.
I have heard dating and hookups are common there. Atleast they are getting sex unlike people of my country where a big population is Virgin and not getting sex!
I see a point of cohabitation if in the end it will lead to a marriage or a civil union. Otherwise, this arrangement is lose lose for the women and the children who will be born as bastards. I’m not sure about korean law, but i just feel the bastards lack power when it comes to inheritance in many countries.
Perhaps for faithful churchgoers, but Korea is a largely irreligious society so abortion is still a ready option. The men are much more hesitant to commit to marriage due to divorce courts heavily favoring transfer of his wealth to the woman by default. Ghosting people is a regular phenomenon and so is regular doctor visits, so romantic cohabitation ironically ends up as the most individually conservative arrangement.
love and support kdrama,kpop but thats about it...I would not dream of living in korea or having a relationship with a korean...not all of them but some are really racist towards sea and in a way that is like after all the fuss in their studies you would wonder why they are still behind with social hierarchy/beliefs etc
cohabitaion is a stupid idea. if a man cohabit and when he get older he can still married and have family and children. even if he age 50 he need to go to country that much poorer and can find wife much younger. but if the women getting older. she would never find husbend, make family, or having children. dont you think in thousands of years of history of human. why cohabitation is taboo. dont you think human in those thousands years history never ever had coupke that doing cohabitation? and why cohabitaion ended become taboo?
That's stupid. Even men get affected with age. Their fertility and looks are affected, too. Now for poor countries. I am from a poor country myself and that too a woman. Women here are FORCED into marriages, FORCED into childbirth, every night face marital rapes. Wait some decades, women are RISING here, too.
The girl in the video was not just selling herself for cheap, she was giving herself away for free. This is the typical incel mindset these days, men who want to have a Traditional Wife but still do 50/50. It is really about the free mating ritual for them... No Asian man want to pay streetwalkers anymore, because they can get it for free...
Marriage was invented by men to control women and make them dependent on their husbands. That's why most divorces are initiated by the woman. Marriage is more beneficial for men than for women (on average).
People perish from lack of knowledge. The marriage is a gift for the women, but they can not see it. I just saw a documentary where the korean woman, living alone, she had to get two jobs to maintain herself. And being able to sleep only 3 hours in a day! She was 32 years old, until what age her body can work living like this? It was just sad. Modern society calls it women empowerment, I call it crazyness. In a marriage, the man provides and protects the woman, and the woman supports the man and nurtures the family. It is so obvious the solution for all of this.
Divorce is the reaaon. The man leaves and the woman is stuck with the stress and headache of raising those kids. Carrying the financial burden with lil to no help from the father. The father goes and makes more kids and abandons his oldee ones. Marriage and kids arent worth it anymore.
@@anubizz3 Remove the word epidemic (for which there is no objective definition when used in this context), and yes, I believe it is a fairly common phenomenon now that societies move away from traditional notions of family. If one broadens one's perspective even more, there are plenty of functionally single mother families where men/fathers/ husbands might not be absent completely from the home, but are absent emotionally, financially, and practically. As an older Asian American, I'm thinking of my experience with families from older generations. Then, there are the women who choose to be single mothers which I would guess is less common in Asian cultures which tend to be more conservative. Perhaps it's more common here in the US, but I'm hearing more and more how common single mothers are by choice in Europe.
@@slc4226 I put word epidemic for a reason, Jesus just google it. it even have its own Wikipedia page and this is not a secret . if you become single mother by choice then stop complaining. and the fact that we talking the absent of father in Korea conservative country is out of context because you using the problem in your culture to judge men in other culture. Thats why I ask which culture we talking about here? Korean? where Korean men just gonna leave abandon their child and make more babies? if that the case then Korean society will not having problem with population decline....
Wat a news.. No country in the wrld actually holds up to their media depiction😅 just like Singapore is a police dictatorship state dat crushes freedom of speech n basic human rights which they arent allowed to even talk bout😢Throwing rock from glass house as always CNA.
Just because CNA highlight problems in a specific country does not mean that they deny the issue is present at home. I'm sure for most reasonable people they understand the issue of fertility is not unique to south korea although they are the worst case. And as such it's useful to see what happens there to understand what are the factors that make fertility rate so low, such that you can come up with solutions at home. I say this as someone from Australia so of course the issue is less close to home, but I've watched quite a few investigations from CNA and they do cast criticisms of current SG approaches from my perspective.
If some intellectuals in Korea think that having children outside of marriage is ok, then they should look at the black community in the US. Study the marriage rates between races in the 20th century when the single parent household started to dominate. US sociologists did a study and they concluded that to have a comfortable life in the US, you need to: 1) Finish high school 2) Don't have a kid before age 20 3) Don't have that kid before you are married
I don't understand why people are not wise enough to see the true reason. People want children not because they can affordable it easily. There are many things people are willing to sacrifice to obtain something, it is just that children and marriage are slowly becoming not one of these things. When you have to have children yet not really wanting it among other things, you obviously will be calculative. If people only want children when they can easily afford it, they seriously shouldn't be having children. Therefore, the real solution is not making it affordable, it will always hardly be affordable to people who have stronger 'wants' in their lives. It is grooming the new generation to want children more than anything else.
East Asia has a completely different culture. From an early age your child is doing extra curricular activities and tutoring. Most people would rather not have children than let them start behind other children.
@@Umeshukitsune There is always a bell curve, no matter how bad or 'good' times are, there will always be less and more capable people, there are people who will always be left behind. People who always want to start a family (not 'it will be nice to start a family') will marry and have kids. I feel that modern societies are not more aware, they are more distracted by other 'wants' in life. It is not a bad thing, it is arrogant to think humanity has to last forever. I believe it is best to just be happy.
It's nice and all...but korea is slowly dying out....fertility rate already at 0.67....these young people are not realising the fact that when they reach 60 what a terrifying world it would be for them!!
@@resumepeacetalks600Which means that the population of North Korea will shrink as well. It's already just half the size of the Southern Korean population while having a lack of food and healthcare.
Its reciprocal, all these fairy tales and plastic surgeries make women think they deserve so much and more when it comes to their partner. They have an insane amount of men who just checked out and are tired of protecting something that hates them.
Koreans still bear painful memories about: - China🇨🇳 declared Kim Chi its national dish and Hanbok a national dress. - Chinese skaters pushed Korean athletes to disqualify in the Olympics. - Chinese many attempts to change Korean ancient history.
Cause the marriage laws make marriage a dangerous game for a man to do in South Korea. You need lots of money to do and you can lose lots of your wealth if she's no longer happy with you and want a new man.
They don't want to get married because adultery is illegal there. Both korean men and women like to cheat on their partners but don't want to suffer consequences.
@@alstjrqkr689 I Just heard about it from a guy and through various forms of media. The most insane part was how I saw it contributes significantly to the economy.
It's better than forced marriages in many islamic countries and South Asia. That's how the TFR is high here. 😑 As soon as the woman turns 22 they force her into a marriage even when she consistently says NO. Later Marital rape and later forced childbirth. Sexual and physical violence in marriage. Saw that from my own eyes... South Koreans women are luckier compared to them atleast.
@@sivaram1210 yeah because they don't have any choice so they plaster the happiness on their faces. Trust me being forced to have ßex with a man you never wanted to marry and being forced into childbirth is excruciatingly torturing sexually, physically and emotionally. Thank God my father's a kind person that I am not facing these.
@@frenzybuzz3703 how do you know they been physically and tortured..I want proof..if you want debate then go to search in google..even if they arranged marriage most of them are happy..thank God my parents are arranged marriage that I am not facing these..as your point Korean society are not arranged marriage but why they are more divorce rate compare to the other country...
If you want a perfect man you must first be a perfect woman. Don’t sleep around and expect men to respect you. Marriage is a trap for men, especially successful men.
It's just like why I love Call of Duty Modern Warfare but I remain to be an office worker instead of a Tier One Special Forces operator.
Exactly!!!!
Hahaha great analogy. However, you don't go out and start LARPing around as a SpecOps guy just because you played some CoD. Tactibros withstanding. Women have a unique challenge here though, and many can't help but fall into the fantasy because of hypergamy. Sadly, a lot of young impressionable minds are being misled by modern media these days.
All about money and time.
Pay us enough and let us go home early, so we can have time with our family.
No. No. No! How then are you going to make bosses and Chaebo richer???😉
@@deepestsleeep Hello... The poorest nation has the most babies... Now even China population are on a decline...
@@deepestsleeep almost all 3rd world countries show their population is increasing even though the economic condition is so bad. People from developed countries such as Singapore, Japan or S.Korea are having a different life style, demand and education background.
In the past If people work hard, it was not difficult to buy a house as now. How much is housing coast in Singapore, Korea, Japan or Shanghai now? Its crazy price.
Also, There are plenty of things that people can enjoy their life without marriage or having a child.
Therefore people rather choose to live single or kidless life than marriage or life as a parents.
When S.Korea was poor, everyone was poor at that time but now, people comparing their life to other and wanna be better and want more which is happening in every modern society.
Society is also change by the time as human does.
Its so wrong you compare S.Korea in 1950th to S.Korea 2020th. Totally different conditions.
Have a backbone and don't accept what you don't want. Put your pride aside and take less pay for more time. Be smart with money to make it work with less money.
People in developed countries have different standards of living in their youth, so they expect to give the same standard or better to their family, otherwise they would’ve failed as parents, whereas people in developing countries only know poverty, so they are fine struggling to provide for themselves and their family, in fact it’s seen as heroism.
Our global population has actually peaked though, regardless of where you’re from. Even the poorest country have decreasing birth rates. Our governments all over the world have relied on a pyramid scheme of people giving birth to support the people at the top (the elderly) and soon most of us will experience the same problem. There won’t be enough people to support the genz or millenials when we get old, and our retirement age will increase, and we’ll be homeless at the first sign of trouble with our health or finances. If climate change doesn’t get us first.
I don't like people treating this "people don't want to marry and have kids" as some huge mystery. The reasons are obvious and apparent, in big cities people are living in extremely competitive environments, where they are demanded to focus 100% on their jobs. Not to thrive, just to barely survive. There it is, mystery solved.
If you want people to have romance and children then don't treat them as robots, have a society where there is balance between work and personal life, and give them salaries that actually allow them to be mostly worry free.
All I want to say to all young girls is that the plotline in kdrama is written by women towards women. Men function different in irl
Unlike Korean dramas, Korea is like a paradise for women and hell for men. Statistically, the most men choose to kill themselves.
Especially real life Korean men. All that love bombing ends once she's committed to him, and she quickly realizes that the knight underneath the shining armor is carries a domineering and often abusive macho attitude.
@@doujinflipthat's why the birth rates are so low
@@doujinflipor, maybe the woman changes once he puts a ring on it, and becomes intolerant of the man's hobbies and demands that he turn over all his finances to her. There is a term for women like that. "Stop Lurker"
Also tends to cut out the reality that a man who will treat you well and view as an equal will not approach a woman in the same paternalistic manner as in k-dramas. A guy who believes in equality ain't going to buy tons of things for you and pay for every meal. The men who do that will expect women to be weak, earn less or not work at all and stay at home.
This proves that everything that looks shiny is not gold. People want to see realistic dramas that's why parasite and squid game are big hits
Exactly.
What a racist generalization to Koreans just because you watched a youtube video 🤦♂️
@@cumibakar10korea is the number 1 racist country in the world 😂
@@inceldetector6148A brief look at history will tell you that the former colonial powers were far more racist.
@@cumibakar10 Try being a negro that doesn't speak Korean to at least A2 in South Korea; only English (&possibly French). I wish you good look in this [somewhat hypothetical] scenario.
in tv, the couple never have to care about time, money, unemployment. welcome to the real life
When she says "men are more chivalrous here", she means the 10% at the top that can throw money around while the other men checked out of dating entirely.
They want the Romance but not the Duty and Work required in a Marriage.
Marriage also gives the gov't the right to take your passport and throw you in jail if the marriage fails and alimony are not paid.
Divorce court Andy over here @@extremepsyche3135
Do you really have to get married?
90% of women are
The real problem is just low childbirth, the implication here is that you will marry before you have a kid@@kamalaroyale790
we always love to watch something that we can't get
hitting below the belt kkkkkkk
Its a dangerous reality check how SK the world's best fantasy creators in reality suffers from highest rate of depression , suicide and lowest fertility rates . Its shows the big big difference between k drama and real world.
What a racist generalization just because of what you see online. SK has the same depression and suicide rates per capita as countries like the US (15-20 per 100,000 residents)
I guess depressions drive good creativity?
It's literally taking "romance fantasy" to greater heights. "Romance" is already bad enough - highly unrealistic and dramatic which is not what life is about.
Suicide rate is only higher for the 80+ age bracket. Every other age bracket is lower than OECD average. And fertility rate of locals is same as most western nations, the difference is in higher immigration.
@@Ara-yt4jv Link? Source?
The ones who struggle the most in reality are the ones to always create the best fantasies. How many comedians are depressive? Look at Robin Williams, Jim Carey, Louis C.K.
Not unique to SK. It’s happening across all developed countries.
capitalism
Nope Korean birth rate is even more than half of the other countries in Europe etc. it’s almost like own genocide that’s how little babies there are.
@@zenastronomythat’s partially true. But I think it’s the degradation of morals and hopelessness of the new generation that contributes the most to this.
@@flippinnngiraffe808 another word for side affects of capitalism
@@flippinnngiraffe808 agree with this
This is what you call practicality.
I feel this wasn't so much about South Koreans as about myself. Why I remain single and childless but love K-drama-romance. 😅😂
Romance is nicer than reality. Think of the popularity of Cinderella story. Most women would love to marry a wealthy, handsome, kind, young prince but won't.
You are sick. Trust me family and children is only meaning in life. Study work is all useless and will be boring quick
@@natashadickson4819 Not "won't", but more like they don't have access to wealthy, handsome, kind, young prince as a bottom-of-society maid. Even if they did, prince charming is chasing the princess, not you. Unfortunately, a lot of young girls never grow out of this fantasy until its too late.
😢ikr
The solution is pretty simple really. In Korea to do a marriage ceremony it cost more than in Europe and America. Govt needs to reign in and make the process less pricey by opening govt schemes and reducing private sectors running as marrage ceremony agency and off course benefits for child care too. This will help a lot
this is common in all asian countries
Then it's a social thing. Marriage ceremony (the one that takes a lot of money) is actually optional. Registering a marriage is not too hard nor expensive. But the social pressure to have a (lavish) ceremony along with it is so high, that almost nobody would get married without one. Especially in todays' "me me me" influence of having "being a princess in the most important day in life" thing.
@@wakaneutyep. but it also takes a lot of social pressure to cohabit and have bastard children. they able to do that nonetheless.
the reality is, these couples want an out. they want to be able to leave when they want to. and that marriage oath is suffocating for them.
the problem with that is, it destroys any security in the relationship, ultimately dooming it to failure.
and it destroys any children born in that relationship, due to the instability of that relationship.
there is a reason society evolved marriage as the most stable way of organising society peacefully for the most prosperity.
The modern society is too much sinked in hollywood movies and disney stories.
No wonders people can't dissociate marriage from a lavish cerimmony, just like the comment above. A marriage is a commitment made by a man and a woman before God, and two witness.
Don't confuse it with cohabiting, which is wrong.
Spiritually they are totally different, and this impact the life of the couple and their future children.
just get married to judge not church or extravagant event
Wow only 3% cohabitation in SK! Here in Quebec (Canada) only 52% of the family are married and 48% are common law union which is non married couple but the kids has the same rights than married couple. As women are very educated here and we have gender equity policies, 48% of the task force are female. Women doesn’t need marriage as a financial protection. A couple is mainly base on love. But most immigrants still choose to get a marriage by cultural values or religious.
Is that the writer for Oh my Ghost?!!! I loved that show!!! Wheres season two?
Everyone understandably loves the fantasy of being married to the perfect wife and having beautiful obedient children with no worries in the world.
But the reality is for majority of people, once you get married and have children - you live day to day for your children and their needs. Only people with children will feel this incredible urge to nurture and ensure the future of their offspring.
If you are childless and you don't know what you're missing - you may not feel this kind of urge.
That may be why its easy for this generation to remain single and childless - you won't miss what you never had.
Modern youth don't want kids because kids bring net negative value to their life. They used to work on the farm, or you can send them to the factories, somewhat offsetting their cost to the parents. Now, kids are more expensive than ever to raise (higher life standards), and bring less value than ever before. Society doesn't enforce them to be a parent's retirement plans like they were supposed to be for thousands of years of human history. And we have better alternatives for retirement savings now. Your 401k account won't just "find themselves" and decide it doesn't want to talk to you again or never pay out.
Kids are fun, but so are pets and video games. The only way we get high birthrates again is for "raising children" to be a profitable life-event for most people. "Desire for children" alone won't do it. The proof is in the statistics. Add a 10% lifetime earnings tax on children that goes to the parents and watch the birthrate boom happen.
The young Koreans are doing the right thing. Especially the women who of course want to have the same freedom that men have, when it comes to work, sex, traveling the world and other things that people want when they have the financial means.
Men and women were never created to be the same. Otherwise our bodies and abilities would be the same. Korean women don't have mandatory conscription for a reason. They are not called to die for the men. It's the men who are called to die to protect the women.
@@KBowWow75WOMEN MUST NOT BE FORCED INTO CHILDBIRTH AND MARRIAGES. IT'S STRAIGHT-OUT SEXUAL AND PHYSICAL ASSAULT ON THE WOMEN. FOR WARS, THEY MUST BE STOPPED. MEN AND CORRUPT LEADERS CREATE WARS, AND INSTEAD THEY MUST BE STOPPED FROM CREATING THEM. IN ISLAMIC COUNTRIES AND INDIA MANY MANY WOMEN ARE FORCED WHICH IS EVEN GRUESOME TO WATCH. I AM A WOMAN FROM SOUTH ASIA AND I SUPPORT SOUTH KOREAN WOMEN.
@@KBowWow75That's stupid, women must NOT be forced into marriages and childbirth. It's straightforward sexual and physical violence on women then where is the protection. For those wars, men and corrupt politicians create them and they must be stopped from doing so instead of forcing women into marriages causing marital rapes and childbirth which are already violence.
@@KBowWow75
@KBowWow75 That's stupid, women must NOT be forced into marriages and childbirth. It's straightforward s.exual and physical violence on women then where is the protection. For those wars, men and corrupt politicians create them and they must be stopped from doing so instead of forcing women into marriages causing marital rapes and childbirth which are already violence.
@@KBowWow75
@KBowWow75 women must NOT be forced into marriages and childbirth. It's straightforward s,exual and physical violence on women then where is the protection. For those wars, men and corrupt politicians create them and they must be stopped from doing so instead of forcing women into marriages causing marital rapes and childbirth which are already violence.
I don't understand why people in comment section assume that these people are not happy and they are living their lives unfulfilled and are shallow because they are not married . ..people are projecting their own insecurities on these people ..these people trying their best to live their lives without destroying somebody's else ..that majority of people do when they are married ...fantasy is just form of entertainment ..I don't like wars but I like war movies and series
aesops fable fox with the sour grapes
Life without partner and children is meaningless.
@@Mustang85635 thats the funniest thing i have ever heard
@@whY2Kareyou must be in depression since birth then..
@@P.90.603exactly right. Women need a family or end up depressed 100% of the time.
There's a lot of cool things about South Korea, but it always struck me as odd when people form a picture of a country or place purely based on media. We had seen it in a big way before with Japan and anime, and now through S. Korea and kdrama/kpop. And every time people are just left disappointed.
It's ok to get an initial interest in a place through media, but please don't bet your life on that alone. Do some actual research and just go on a vacation for a week before even considering anything more. No place on earth is perfect, but we also all have different values, so it's important to match your values with a realistic picture of the place you want to be in.
Nobody thinks Hollywood films are a reflection reality. I don't know why CNA assumes people would think otherwise about Korean entertainment. With one of the lowest press freedom in the world, it is no coincidence that this Korea hit piece is a series of attempts by state-run CNA to bash a fellow asian nation to mask Singapore's problems. Let me remind you that this kind of ill intentioned, antagonism can go both ways when more and more Koreans find out about your propapanda campaign.
Hollywood is driven by rare celebrities, whereas K-romance dramas make it sound like the male leads are what all Korean bachelors are like. There's a reason so many young women around the world are studying Korean language and dreaming to move to Seoul.
CNA did many things like this.
You would be surprised how many young girls are duped by this. It's not just drama but idols as well. Idols constantly make reality variety show content, have paid private video solo phone calls with fans. The parasocial aspect is very crucial in Korean entertainment while in Hollywood their celebrities prefer to not even touch social media.
People believe Hollywood too…the number of people disappointed with dating bc Hollywood glamorizes sex, partying and drugs…
In a K-drama the man is portrayed as rich or CEO of a company LOL
I don't care where you go people are flawed and can not compete with fictional characters. These romance books and kdramas have people out here with unrealistic standards.
6:37 health, housing & childcare benefits are fine but promoting babies outside marriage to increase birth rate will mess up the situation even more. Korea has enough no. of abandoned babies. Adoption should be promoted instead
South Korea's birthrate is declining. The government should provide education for abandoned children.
If you can stay with each other and want to take babies, then I think a wedding is the better option. If everyone starts living without a wedding, I think someday there will not be any cultivation for a normal life.
Because they don't like problems and responsibilities, but it is life. If you can't manage yourself, you will always be substitute player
A lot of SG girls from rich daddies wants to marry for instagram. What does that mean? It means they marry only to post pics of their wedding. At the UK, as a British, i met many SG girls studying at the UK desperate for white hubby. Many went after my handsome buddy and made him cost a crazy amount for her dream wedding. At the wedding, am one of his grooms men, she and her friends were mostly instagramming non stop until the end of the wedding ceremony. Then she changed completely to not give 2 sheet about the marriage. It broke my buddy. As if she wants to marry for the wedding ceremony to post on instagram and not the married journey. I feel sorry for him because of her rich daddy, she wants to be treated like a princess 24/7.
I also hv mates from SG who shared the ladies there are materialistic AF. They fantasize from K drama and craves for white hubby and mixed race babies. Only for social medias and those dopamine trigger likes, hearts and thumbs up.
Then again nobody can't force him to do something he doesn't want to do.
Are you a new British citizen? The way you type is not typically British, it sounds more like what a Singaporean would say instead.
WOW, 충격적이네요
@@RaiunHana
How does British type exactly?
Something I don't see talked about a lot, but why is Seoul the only city in Korea people want to live in? Why not develop the agricultural sector so that Koreans don't live in a monolith.
Korea is a very status driven society. All forms of blue collar work are looked down upon even if they pay better. All the richest people and most prestigious entities are in Seoul, so the capital region further benefits from network effect at the cost of the rest of Korea.
Have you ever seen a kdrama about married family with kids? Offcourse not. Its always single people
World of the married😂😂😂😂😂
Actually yes there are lots of them
Reply 1988.
U must watch my ultimate favourite drama- "Flower of Evil"👍u won't regret it
Most of drama that starts with happy marriage ends up with either partner being a cheater or becoming one, also Korea has one of the highest divorce and suicide rates due to depression 😅
Can someone explain to me why someone would prefer having children outside of marriage than in ?... Why would you make a child with someone you are not willing to marry ?
I mean being one before God, the law, society or anything you believe in... saying that you are commited and making it official are two different things, since just being commited to stay together has literally no weight what so ever (what could your dad do if your mom leaves him... legally next to nothing)... if you are serious about being together, just make it official... if anything the goverment gives you benefits (at least in my country) and panishes infidelity and stuff like that
@P.90.603 I don't know how it works in the USA, but the one who breaks it should be the one getting punished because that is common sense. I guess the USA system is stupid.
Also, as a Christian, the part about becoming one before God seems more important to me than the legal paperwork, which might lead to us not being able to agree. But even when I was atheist I regarded marriage as the ultimate showing of love, since you elevate the relationship to something more special and become one family. Having legal protection is just a bonus and at least in Europe it works just fine (From what I have seen)
They are just following modern Western culture
How is it half birthrate of even western countries then ?
like it should be .
@@roxyglow9670 Asians not having seeex anymore
Get ready to have increased single mothers if people think just by living in cohabitation is enough.
Also increased of
"a person born of unmarried parents; an illegitimate child".. = Bastard. This is obviously adapting the Western culture
You mean increase in singke fathers
Because they think love from kdrama exists in real world and they could find something what they see in shows.
Getting married in the honeymoon phase of the relationship is risky. If you want to be happy together longterm, you still have to like each other without the rose-coloured glasses. So, even though I know that South Korea is quite conservative in many ways, it sounds odd to me that living with your partner without being married is so controversial there. No wonder that so many young people avoid dating in general if they are expected to get married quickly.
Omg. CNA had to resort to click bait titles. But I clicked on it. 😅
As much as Hollywood or Bollywood movies reflect USA and India.
I guess splitting the bill is a big no no in Korea.
Going Dutch is awkward to arrange there. What usually happens is trading off who pays which stage of the date, like he pays for dinner at the restaurant and then she pays for coffee and dessert at a separate cafe.
Eveyone think developed nation ones are the happiest..nope sk is the best example for how developed nation suffering from low fertility rate,high suicide rate among students, work hard like a animal, no time to spending for family, high cost of living...even my country ( india ) are still developing but we are the happiest one compare to south korea... hope in future, sk realise what the meaning of living....
The happiest countries on average are Skandinavian countries because of high wealth, high wealth equality, good social security, low corruption etc. People are happier if they live in a society that feels safe and fair.
I totally agree. I don't care what the studies say. Here in the Netherlands everyone will say they are 10/10 happy, but if you read their body language it will tell a different story. Go to a place like India or the Philippines and all the people are smiling and happy all the time. It's because they have strong loving families and a meaningful life based in spirituality. Here in the west everyone is just living pointless lives striving after status.
It s normal, I like history romances, esp. Chinese, as these don t lie about reality but show that true love isn' t easy and it takes a lot of efforts, sacrifice for each other, overcoming difficulties, serving for the benefit of the nation . They are educative and I have a lot of friends, even South Korean who follow this path, many international and interfacial marriages are successful . They usually have 3- 5 children. Don t do the mistakes to have babies without fathers. I am a teacher and many students feel depressed, for such reasons Bulgarian society is getting weak and sick.
Single life is the best life! Marriage and having children is overrated!
all depends on how you find satisfaction in life.
Cohabitation was really trending in the 1960's in The USA. Culturally South Korea is living 60 years in the past.
they need to change quickly fs
It doesn’t matter if it was 60 years or a thousand years in the past. If it worked why try and fix something that was never broken?😂
Stop copying Americans. America is backwards. Relationships are not progressive and or productive. We have the worst success when it comes to relationships. 80% of the women divorce men and if not divorce 80% of women break up with men. 35% of men failed paternity which means the women cheated. False accusations. Women are unstable mentally and emotionally. They have been ran through by hundreds of men and they admitted themselves and think its okay.
Living together without any commitment and trying to “figure it out through the years” is a waste of time especially for women. They have a biological clock and the older, the more risky it is for their health to have babies. Its backwards and not productive. “Oh lets live together to see if it works out” sounds like both dont know if they are compatible and what to look for. They have not self reflected. If they dont know from the start it is just the “blind, leading the blind” it never ends good.
I also cohabitate with my partner. We don't want to give red packets during Chinese New Year and I don't like how Asian weddings are all about giving money and spending money so I'm in no rush to get married.
How much of your generation see things your way? I wonder how widespread it is now. Also having/planning kids complicates the cohabitation thing. You guys plan on no kids? Or get married once you have them?
Keep. Living in the dreams people
Government have made having family & marriage expensive. Government have made housing, healthcare, education, food and retirement exoensive and difficult. So few people are getting marrued and starting a family.
2:20 Excellent point
It's a shared east asia problem. Housing is waaaaay too expensive, too much parental control, too much financial expecation and demand based on tradition instead of gender equality and marrying for love.
Korean men.. Chivalrous? HAHAHAAAHHA
Hypergamy in asian countries is bigger than the west, if you dont are a CEO and have a Jungkook face is over.
The situation is extremely bad here in Asia. Hypergamy is an all time peak and with rising unemployment and inflation it's going even higher. My friend was working day and night, killing himself just to marry a girl who he was dating and she ended up leaving him and marrying a guy from a rich family.
Met so many girls, went on so many dates and everyone was more concerned about my income and property. It is a mess. Asia is in such a mess rn.
ah please stfu. I live in Seoul and there are ugly / average couples everywhere. Buffon.
Lolz. The cohabiting woman's parents refused to go on camera
Cohabitation is disadvantageous for women. Men aren't on the same biological clock pressure as women.
Isn't it people's fault to think that drama represents real life though? Do we see Indians or Filipinos living their regular life similar to what's shown in their dramas lol!!
I feel like a lot of women always assume that men in other cultures are better than men in their own culture. But it's always the case that they simply don't know enough about the real men in those other cultures, and that's why they seem "better" on surface level. I'm sure that some Korean women also assume that Western men are "more chivalrous" than Korean men, which is not necessarily true.
Hmm my experience is Asian women believe white men are more supportive of gender equality and are more independent of their parents so the Asian women can be equals & not deal with the in-laws as much.
I have heard dating and hookups are common there. Atleast they are getting sex unlike people of my country where a big population is Virgin and not getting sex!
It's like playing GTA but not committing crime in real life.
Too much materialistic pleasure ruined entire society.
This is the harsh reality 😢. We fear getting married to the toxic people
I see a point of cohabitation if in the end it will lead to a marriage or a civil union. Otherwise, this arrangement is lose lose for the women and the children who will be born as bastards. I’m not sure about korean law, but i just feel the bastards lack power when it comes to inheritance in many countries.
Perhaps for faithful churchgoers, but Korea is a largely irreligious society so abortion is still a ready option. The men are much more hesitant to commit to marriage due to divorce courts heavily favoring transfer of his wealth to the woman by default.
Ghosting people is a regular phenomenon and so is regular doctor visits, so romantic cohabitation ironically ends up as the most individually conservative arrangement.
Why does the narrator sound like the guy from the Best Indie Games.
love and support kdrama,kpop but thats about it...I would not dream of living in korea or having a relationship with a korean...not all of them but some are really racist towards sea and in a way that is like after all the fuss in their studies you would wonder why they are still behind with social hierarchy/beliefs etc
With the way it goes NK might actually survive more than SK in the end.
cohabitaion is a stupid idea. if a man cohabit and when he get older he can still married and have family and children. even if he age 50 he need to go to country that much poorer and can find wife much younger. but if the women getting older. she would never find husbend, make family, or having children. dont you think in thousands of years of history of human. why cohabitation is taboo. dont you think human in those thousands years history never ever had coupke that doing cohabitation? and why cohabitaion ended become taboo?
That's stupid. Even men get affected with age. Their fertility and looks are affected, too. Now for poor countries. I am from a poor country myself and that too a woman. Women here are FORCED into marriages, FORCED into childbirth, every night face marital rapes. Wait some decades, women are RISING here, too.
The girl in the video was not just selling herself for cheap, she was giving herself away for free.
This is the typical incel mindset these days, men who want to have a Traditional Wife but still do 50/50.
It is really about the free mating ritual for them...
No Asian man want to pay streetwalkers anymore, because they can get it for free...
Marriage was invented by men to control women and make them dependent on their husbands. That's why most divorces are initiated by the woman. Marriage is more beneficial for men than for women (on average).
People perish from lack of knowledge.
The marriage is a gift for the women, but they can not see it. I just saw a documentary where the korean woman, living alone, she had to get two jobs to maintain herself. And being able to sleep only 3 hours in a day! She was 32 years old, until what age her body can work living like this? It was just sad.
Modern society calls it women empowerment, I call it crazyness.
In a marriage, the man provides and protects the woman, and the woman supports the man and nurtures the family.
It is so obvious the solution for all of this.
@@MachVini🤡
Divorce is the reaaon. The man leaves and the woman is stuck with the stress and headache of raising those kids. Carrying the financial burden with lil to no help from the father. The father goes and makes more kids and abandons his oldee ones. Marriage and kids arent worth it anymore.
You talking of black culture?
@@anubizz3 Pretty common across color lines.
@@slc4226 ah really we ever heard single mom epidemic in Asian and white culture?
@@anubizz3 Remove the word epidemic (for which there is no objective definition when used in this context), and yes, I believe it is a fairly common phenomenon now that societies move away from traditional notions of family. If one broadens one's perspective even more, there are plenty of functionally single mother families where men/fathers/ husbands might not be absent completely from the home, but are absent emotionally, financially, and practically. As an older Asian American, I'm thinking of my experience with families from older generations. Then, there are the women who choose to be single mothers which I would guess is less common in Asian cultures which tend to be more conservative. Perhaps it's more common here in the US, but I'm hearing more and more how common single mothers are by choice in Europe.
@@slc4226 I put word epidemic for a reason, Jesus just google it. it even have its own Wikipedia page and this is not a secret . if you become single mother by choice then stop complaining. and the fact that we talking the absent of father in Korea conservative country is out of context because you using the problem in your culture to judge men in other culture.
Thats why I ask which culture we talking about here? Korean? where Korean men just gonna leave abandon their child and make more babies? if that the case then Korean society will not having problem with population decline....
They are Updated about Home , Buliding, entertainment, Plastic Surgery but They not Updated Their Mind 😂😂😂😂😂
If you confuse fictions with reality, I think you're the problem.
Babies without marriage you can just leave it for someone to take care.
Wat a news.. No country in the wrld actually holds up to their media depiction😅 just like Singapore is a police dictatorship state dat crushes freedom of speech n basic human rights which they arent allowed to even talk bout😢Throwing rock from glass house as always CNA.
Singapore is North Korea with money.
obviously you have not read the western media
Just because CNA highlight problems in a specific country does not mean that they deny the issue is present at home. I'm sure for most reasonable people they understand the issue of fertility is not unique to south korea although they are the worst case. And as such it's useful to see what happens there to understand what are the factors that make fertility rate so low, such that you can come up with solutions at home. I say this as someone from Australia so of course the issue is less close to home, but I've watched quite a few investigations from CNA and they do cast criticisms of current SG approaches from my perspective.
What do you mean? There seems to be more couples in Korea than ever. Having low birthrates doesn't mean people aren't dating ffs
If some intellectuals in Korea think that having children outside of marriage is ok, then they should look at the black community in the US. Study the marriage rates between races in the 20th century when the single parent household started to dominate. US sociologists did a study and they concluded that to have a comfortable life in the US, you need to:
1) Finish high school
2) Don't have a kid before age 20
3) Don't have that kid before you are married
But....but...but...feminism.
I don't understand why people are not wise enough to see the true reason. People want children not because they can affordable it easily. There are many things people are willing to sacrifice to obtain something, it is just that children and marriage are slowly becoming not one of these things. When you have to have children yet not really wanting it among other things, you obviously will be calculative. If people only want children when they can easily afford it, they seriously shouldn't be having children. Therefore, the real solution is not making it affordable, it will always hardly be affordable to people who have stronger 'wants' in their lives. It is grooming the new generation to want children more than anything else.
East Asia has a completely different culture. From an early age your child is doing extra curricular activities and tutoring. Most people would rather not have children than let them start behind other children.
@@Umeshukitsune There is always a bell curve, no matter how bad or 'good' times are, there will always be less and more capable people, there are people who will always be left behind. People who always want to start a family (not 'it will be nice to start a family') will marry and have kids. I feel that modern societies are not more aware, they are more distracted by other 'wants' in life. It is not a bad thing, it is arrogant to think humanity has to last forever. I believe it is best to just be happy.
Maybe for them romance is only a fantasy
They're only interested in rich Korean men or white guys.
It's nice and all...but korea is slowly dying out....fertility rate already at 0.67....these young people are not realising the fact that when they reach 60 what a terrifying world it would be for them!!
Women's fertilty past 30 is only 50%. Men starting at 35 start their decline in fertility and for a healthy offspring.
You will be alone REGARDLESS. Unless you have friends close to you.
people are alone regardless of kids
Democratic People's Republic of Korea has a fertility rate of 1.81 tho. 💪🏾🇰🇵
@@resumepeacetalks600Which means that the population of North Korea will shrink as well. It's already just half the size of the Southern Korean population while having a lack of food and healthcare.
Can't find it in reality so that's why they find it in fantasy tv.
Well, without kdrama it could be worse
Because it’s K-Drama. Try do it K-Drama&Bills. 😅
No mention of the culture of violence and sexual violence against woman. Foregin gals should be made aware of it.
Its reciprocal, all these fairy tales and plastic surgeries make women think they deserve so much and more when it comes to their partner. They have an insane amount of men who just checked out and are tired of protecting something that hates them.
@@Milchi7we are talking about crimes against women and yiu ar talking about plastic surgery? Typical gRapist
7:00 Disappointed after seeing this video. Reality is far away from friction
This is me with manhwa
They are not emotional people. It's all Calculative relationships.
Better than FORCED MARRIAGES
Yep and complete idiots
never marry or have children!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i ahve no money to raise children
7:02 "not even nine steps" . you should also consider that people normally do not walk like that.
So 💙balls?
Made in India.
Because they are irresponsible
so you kenthu everyday then
wat du yu men
Third-world China should look up to superpower South Korea 🇰🇷 to learn how to become a mild-mannered and open-minded nation.
Lol no . Sk is not a good example
Koreans still bear painful memories about:
- China🇨🇳 declared Kim Chi its national dish and Hanbok a national dress.
- Chinese skaters pushed Korean athletes to disqualify in the Olympics.
- Chinese many attempts to change Korean ancient history.
Cause the marriage laws make marriage a dangerous game for a man to do in South Korea. You need lots of money to do and you can lose lots of your wealth if she's no longer happy with you and want a new man.
Lol , what a fact 😂
They don't want to get married because adultery is illegal there. Both korean men and women like to cheat on their partners but don't want to suffer consequences.
It is no longer illegal. It probably hasn't been for a decade already
I think ur talking bout Japan😂
@@alstjrqkr689 Cheating is insane for both sexes in Japan.
@@chrislisenby2681 not really.. hav u been to jp???
@@alstjrqkr689 I Just heard about it from a guy and through various forms of media. The most insane part was how I saw it contributes significantly to the economy.
Not enough financial security, no child care assistance and too much burden placed on women are killing the birth rate.
free _ _ _ bucket
It's better than forced marriages in many islamic countries and South Asia. That's how the TFR is high here. 😑
As soon as the woman turns 22 they force her into a marriage even when she consistently says NO. Later Marital rape and later forced childbirth. Sexual and physical violence in marriage.
Saw that from my own eyes...
South Koreans women are luckier compared to them atleast.
Everyone not to be forced....even forced one doesn't mean they are not happier some of them find their happiness..
@@sivaram1210 yeah because they don't have any choice so they plaster the happiness on their faces. Trust me being forced to have ßex with a man you never wanted to marry and being forced into childbirth is excruciatingly torturing sexually, physically and emotionally. Thank God my father's a kind person that I am not facing these.
@@frenzybuzz3703 how do you know they been physically and tortured..I want proof..if you want debate then go to search in google..even if they arranged marriage most of them are happy..thank God my parents are arranged marriage that I am not facing these..as your point Korean society are not arranged marriage but why they are more divorce rate compare to the other country...
@@sivaram1210that's gRape
This all looks cool but when Elon says makes babies or we are fckd, then they got confused
If you want a perfect man you must first be a perfect woman. Don’t sleep around and expect men to respect you. Marriage is a trap for men, especially successful men.
Rooming means "F***ing"?
K dramas sucks
Dub this, I tend to listen rather than see the video.
You can copy and paste the transcript on a text-to-speech reader and listen to that
You might actually learn a new language if you start reading subtitles@@hikkomorisg. I never watch dubbed programmes and I am fluent in 6 languages.
왜소음경증
Stop sex before marriage, porn and masturbation. Stop the condom industry.
The most insecure and delulu nation be like: