Why So Many People Are Quitting Dating Apps - Brett Cooper

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  • @ChrisWillx
    @ChrisWillx  5 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

    Hello you savages. Watch the full episode with Brett here - th-cam.com/video/v39se0OQyIs/w-d-xo.html Get a 20% discount on your first order from Maui Nui Venison by going to mauinuivenison.com/modernwisdom (use code MODERNWISDOM)

  • @khalilwilson2586
    @khalilwilson2586 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +535

    My problem with dating is it’s hard to find a woman in my age bracket (20-25) that has the same values as me. A lot of young women care about the social media aesthetic and not building a future for family

    • @user-tz4tq8py2w
      @user-tz4tq8py2w 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +28

      You just need more volume, speak to more women and a larger variety, and eventually you will meet one who matches your same values. Before I met my girlfriend, I had the same issue (we’re both 21), and I solved it just by increasing the volume of women I spoke to/approached, and getting out more

    • @khalilwilson2586
      @khalilwilson2586 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@mattstone8878 yeah it’s tough. It seems like it’s a hopeless cause but also chasing the other type of women isn’t fulfilling to me anymore

    • @khalilwilson2586
      @khalilwilson2586 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@user-tz4tq8py2w yeah I’ve been shooting my shot, just sometimes get discouraged because it feels like I keep running into the same type no matter where I meet them. I haven’t given up yet though

    • @tgheretford
      @tgheretford 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

      While you'll be told that it gets easy and you'll have the pick of all the women once you are 35, in reality, it doesn't get easier unless you are the top 0.0001% of men who can date 21 year olds in your middle age without stigma or condemnation. From my own experience, things got worse as I got older and I quit dating as I approached my middle age and I don't regret it.

    • @-MakeItGood-
      @-MakeItGood- 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@tgheretfordthis is true, don’t expect it to get better because it won’t unless you are Zuckerberg

  • @323johnnybravo
    @323johnnybravo 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +534

    Everyone is talking to 10 people at once and everyone is looking for the next best thing. The cycle never ends. It’s trash.

    • @ruckin3
      @ruckin3 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +50

      everyone? Or women almost exclusively ?

    • @323johnnybravo
      @323johnnybravo 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +34

      @@ruckin3 with woman bump that number up to 20

    • @stevesteiner7220
      @stevesteiner7220 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      @@ruckin3 Everyone. Get off your masculine high horse.

    • @ThatGuy-tx4vm
      @ThatGuy-tx4vm 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +36

      ​@@stevesteiner7220no. Everyone THAT CAN... therefore women

    • @ruckin3
      @ruckin3 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@stevesteiner7220beta steve has entered the chat

  • @markt2398
    @markt2398 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +108

    No one stays in their lane anymore. It's thrown off the whole market. Top guys will hook up with almost all levels of women, which makes the mid-lower women think they're higher status. Those women now think they can land a top guy and they ignore men at their level, but then get disappointed by the top guys just using them for fun. Mid-lower guys check out completely since they get nothing but scraps, if anything at all.
    You can't deny dating aps/social media/smart phones have been the driver of a lot of these issues. We didn't have access to anyone in the world before all that. I see a lot of these instagram "models" posting picks of world travel, etc.. which you know is on some rich dudes dime most of the time. That would not have been an option for most women in days past, unless you were in LA or NYC possibly. You had the guys closest to you as options and that's all. People naturally paired off with someone in their wheelhouse. I don't see this all changing anytime soon.

    • @yujirohamna555
      @yujirohamna555 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Does writing paragraph in TH-cam help?

    • @TurboFist0
      @TurboFist0 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      Perfect explanation of what's happening.

    • @Kino_pup
      @Kino_pup 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@yujirohamna555someone will see it and think about it. You can’t just do nothing.. We didn’t evolve to live or date like this. Like it or not, technology has made things worse. We are ape people.. we aren’t infinitely compatible with technology.

    • @jadonsmith3224
      @jadonsmith3224 8 วันที่ผ่านมา

      I can't stand it when people refer to dating culture as "the market". It's so reductive and douchy

    • @ProjectPiperCustoms
      @ProjectPiperCustoms 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      ​@jadonsmith3224 get your feelings out of the word use. It IS a market. Whether you like it or not.

  • @thelordoftheriffs6467
    @thelordoftheriffs6467 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +571

    The reality of dating for so many guys can be summed up in one simple, iconic phrase “the juice isn’t worth the squeeze”. Hoeflation is unfortunately an incredibly real concept. The fact that us men have to work 10 times harder than our grandfathers did to get a woman 10 times worse than our grandmothers were. Even if you’re tall, handsome, successful, dress well etc, the vast majority of women find the vast majority of men either repulsive or completely invisible

    • @bigneiltoo
      @bigneiltoo 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I found a dozen women willing to make out with me on the SPOT.
      Do you think ONE of them treated me like I was anything special?
      No. Hardly any of them even texted back. For the dates, they said "you didn't support TRUMP, did you?"
      They treat the dating pool like it's infinitely deep.

    • @SandwichDoctorZ
      @SandwichDoctorZ 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +55

      Exactly. When they were saying it's not all that different from 50 years ago, I dont think many really understand just how different things are statistically and it goes beyond being 'nervous'.
      Just one element is, 100 years ago 95% of women were still virgins on their wedding. Now it's 5%. While about 30% of young men are still virgins. So both have gotten more promiscuous, but it's definitely not in any equal way. It's lopsided toward women being more promiscuous with a small amount of the men. The advise TDW seems to give suggests 25% of men that are virgins should have to risk whatever they have to marry a h0e, which frankly isnt a very traditional solution if that's what they hope to promote..
      I'd think wiser advise would be, yes be traditional and work on yourself, but get a passport (and just dont be naive wherever you go, have common sense.). That's the only realistic solution i can see for h0eflation. It's been working out for me with my filipina fiance😊 i feel bad for the men still stuck in the American dating market though.

    • @skippylippy547
      @skippylippy547 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

      That's simply not true. Your reality is very warped.

    • @michaeldavidhernandez3560
      @michaeldavidhernandez3560 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      @@thelordoftheriffs6467 And one more thing. The invention of the Dildoe. 😳😂🤣😆😄🤯

    • @vaughnwilliams1208
      @vaughnwilliams1208 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      100% true

  • @bigneiltoo
    @bigneiltoo 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +525

    Least romantic quote possible: "He slid into my DMs".

    • @wolverine9632
      @wolverine9632 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +30

      "He verbally requested consent."

    • @emmanuelwil-jeff
      @emmanuelwil-jeff 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      but's that's the landscape nowadays what can you do i mean where and when you'll find that other person is hard to say anymore but life goes on and that's the problem or at least people don't realize time stops for no one :P

    • @MatthewReid-ww6qt
      @MatthewReid-ww6qt 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      @@emmanuelwil-jeff The Problem is that most people are the stars of their show, completely oblivious to their surroundings. Some do so willingly, and some do so unknowingly. As you say though, time waits for no one. Life passes quickly and feels even more so when you go on autopilot. "Stop and smell the roses"

    • @brianthesnail3815
      @brianthesnail3815 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      As my young adult sons say, messaging a woman beforehand is basically getting down in writing that a woman is willing to talk to you and ultimately meet you in person. As my sons explained, a lot of dating app meetings are in fact between people who know each other already. Again, the dating app is a means of documenting the process so a man can't be later accused of harassment.
      My eldest has a long time girlfriend but they met a at a party and then he met her again at another party 'talked to her' in writing on his phone for a long time and then they met up. It was not out of fear. It is a sensible defence mechanism.

    • @MatthewReid-ww6qt
      @MatthewReid-ww6qt 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@brianthesnail3815 Hmm. I always thought dating apps were bs scams. This should be their selling point 😂

  • @flyingfortress4819
    @flyingfortress4819 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +270

    As a single 25 year old man in the dating world, I refer to it as “the trenches”

    • @stevethomas74
      @stevethomas74 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +30

      As a single 49 year old man in the dating world, I refer to it as 'The 7th Circle of Hell'.

    • @KyCheezebro
      @KyCheezebro 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I can relate to that. 😂
      That's really how it feels for us average guys in today's world.
      No wonder we're all opting out.

    • @jacobstuart17
      @jacobstuart17 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      No the trenches would be far better. At least then if I die, I wouldn't have to find a wife 😂

    • @fanBladeOne
      @fanBladeOne 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@stevethomas74 More accurate description

    • @stevethomas74
      @stevethomas74 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@fanBladeOne I've been doing this shit for years. It's an absolute clusterfuck with absolutely NO signs of getting any better👿

  • @chrisarney8265
    @chrisarney8265 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +230

    Despite all that advice, her "finding her husband" turned out to be just her picking out the most studly guy in the room and going "I want him!" Some guys just have it, some don't. And she, like everyone else, wanted the guy that "had it."

    • @AIRJAC33
      @AIRJAC33 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +53

      Exactly. She’s full of it.

    • @dothedewinme
      @dothedewinme 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +74

      “My type used to be arrogant assholes”
      Yeah, you and every other girl lol. And I know, in highschool I was confident and kind of and arrogant bad boy, smoked weed, played the drums, snowboarded, didn’t give a rip and because of that I had something like 14 girlfriends and several more turned down in the between sophomore and senior year. I also watched alot of my friends who were genuinely good guys that were nice and caring struggle to get even one gf and many never did.
      It’s 100% a thing

    • @alenaadamkova5322
      @alenaadamkova5322 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      The problem of dating can be also caused by phone and tech addiction, chasing the dopamine.
      Dr. Anna Lembke explains it well, the phone addiction caused people to seek only pleasure and avoid pain.
      But both plesaure and pain are importnat for brain development, and mental health because both are in same place of brain.
      and "pleasure and pain" are cooperating together
      You can not have pleasure without pain, they are part of the same brain.
      We see it with athletes, they seek pain in order to get pleasure, its healthy form of pain.
      Muscians also seek pain, in order to get pleasure.
      Boith plesaure and pain are rewarded by a dopamine.
      But the phone addiction makes people think that we should chase only pleasure and avoid commitment, it causes anxiety and deepression, lack of skills etc.
      If you in dating field chase only pleasure, and avoid the healthy form of pain, healthy commitment, and building a relationships
      then people get anxious and depressed. In sport you have to chase some pain in order to get the dopmanine reward system in healthy way.

    • @alenaadamkova5322
      @alenaadamkova5322 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      The problem of dating can be also caused by phone and tech addiction, chasing the dopamine.
      Dr. Anna Lembke explains it well, the phone addiction caused people to seek only pleasure and avoid pain.
      But both plesaure and pain are importnat for brain development, and mental health because both are in same place of brain.
      and "pleasure and pain" are cooperating together
      You can not have pleasure without pain, they are part of the same brain.
      We see it with athletes, they seek pain in order to get pleasure, its healthy form of pain.
      Muscians also seek pain, in order to get pleasure.
      Both plesaure and pain are rewarded by a dopamine.
      But the phone addiction makes people think that we should chase only pleasure and avoid commitment, it causes anxiety and deepression, lack of skills etc.
      If you in dating field chase only pleasure, and avoid the healthy form of pain, healthy commitment, and building a relationships
      then people get anxious and depressed, because the receptors in brain that are supposed to experience the healthy pain, are not stimulated....they are stimulated only with pleasure reward.
      if you stimulate only pleasure reward receptors, it leads to depression and lack of motivation.
      In sport you have to chase some pain in order to get the dopmanine reward system in healthy way.

    • @RG-br9ns
      @RG-br9ns 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      They may say it’s Society and Social media “DID THIS” but down to their Core it’s their Nature to Select the Guys that Stand out. It’s a WAR ZONE for a reason.

  • @JJ-dl4pc
    @JJ-dl4pc 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +308

    Brett's description of those girls is what makes it not worth it. Trauma and leftovers, nope and yuck.

    • @DabbinLlama
      @DabbinLlama 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      There’s great girls out there

    • @xyz7857
      @xyz7857 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

      ​@@DabbinLlamaUnicorns.

    • @HurleyIsAStoner420
      @HurleyIsAStoner420 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      So people are the cause of all their trauma? Brett went through the trauma of her brother passing is that her fault ?

    • @DabbinLlama
      @DabbinLlama 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@xyz7857 I guess I’ve been really lucky multiple times then

    • @anewagora
      @anewagora 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Most people are traumatized. You want people to be closed off to you because of your trauma?

  • @thisguy7976
    @thisguy7976 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +291

    Lol. Two attractive and successful people are talking about the difficulties of dating. Not to say that they haven't struggled as well but they're not "playing on the same difficulty" as the rest of us.

    • @nickfoster848
      @nickfoster848 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +31

      So definitely just give up and be miserable, because at least that way you don’t have to make any changes.

    • @thisguy7976
      @thisguy7976 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +38

      @@nickfoster848 Never said that

    • @Pathofmen
      @Pathofmen 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Some things make us feel like we can't win. I'm genuinely good looking at 5'9". 🍻

    • @Matty-mg9tf
      @Matty-mg9tf 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

      The more attractive and successful you are (generally speaking) the more picky and particular you'll become. More people in the general population will give you the time of day, but you'll generally be "uninterested" in the vast majority of them.

    • @TERMINXX101
      @TERMINXX101 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@nickfoster848Holy whataboutism

  • @the_smoking_patriot3993
    @the_smoking_patriot3993 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +309

    Guys never date a coworker, that’s a minefield you don’t wanna navigate

    • @MarkaNgamer
      @MarkaNgamer 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +33

      Most people I know found their partners at work (stable and married). I guess it's like saying never give birth to a child because it hurts like hell.

    • @the_smoking_patriot3993
      @the_smoking_patriot3993 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +31

      @@MarkaNgamer see the people I know that tried dating a coworker ended up dealing with HR cause of the chick. So it’s more of a minefield than it used to be since METOO

    • @montyuchiha8530
      @montyuchiha8530 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

      Yeaa i dated a coworker once and it did not end well. It created the most awkward environment and i hated goin to work. Luckily she got a new job and had moved on.

    • @TheUnkindness
      @TheUnkindness 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      I'm living through this right now. It's a nightmare to say the least lol

    • @Robodude_0528
      @Robodude_0528 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@montyuchiha8530same for me except she still works in my building and I see her frequently

  • @ruckin3
    @ruckin3 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +66

    Yeah, Im sure Chris as a 1% and BC as a top 20% clearly understand the war on dating today. Their looks and her gender has them playing on easy mode and we listen to see what words of wisdom?

    • @InvestmentAdviceConsultantNI
      @InvestmentAdviceConsultantNI 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      But u see they are ones people see the truth is always hidden

    • @TurboFist0
      @TurboFist0 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      I wouldn't consider Brett top 20%. I think she's cute, but I wouldn't really call her beautiful which is reserved for the top 20% of women imo.

    • @gemelwalters2942
      @gemelwalters2942 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Lol which is why it's so bizarre that their viewers take advice from them. They will never understand your situation

    • @WilliamPayneNZ
      @WilliamPayneNZ 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I don't think we should really critique Chris for being 1%. The man does what he has to do to be physically fit. It is not like he eats junk food all day and doesn't even try. He genuinely puts in the effort.

    • @Williiam21
      @Williiam21 3 วันที่ผ่านมา

      He is also genetically gifted no doubt, not to take away from all his hard work though

  • @StimParavane
    @StimParavane 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +145

    As a decent man with a good income I don't want a boss babe who has been run through by a series of chads.

    • @balasaashti3146
      @balasaashti3146 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

      When my boss didn't understand why I was married I'm 27, 26 at the time. I tried to explain my situation. He then went on that I'm super mature and I should wait and get a girl in her late thirties who already had a career home ect. And I had to raise a eyebrow he was literally saying to be the guy she settles with after she is done having all the other dudes go through her. That one was hard to swallow, like I understand I'm a workaholic but damn.

    • @leedlbagginshield8492
      @leedlbagginshield8492 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

      @@balasaashti3146strange logic from your Boss‘ side

    • @davidmattax6087
      @davidmattax6087 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@balasaashti3146do not listen to a word of “advice” from your boss. It is straight garbage that you’ll regret ever considering

    • @Phone-e6w
      @Phone-e6w หลายเดือนก่อน

      Take it up with the Chad's that are disingenuous to the women they run through

  • @XHEGEBKCOVYJEKFUVU
    @XHEGEBKCOVYJEKFUVU 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +175

    Chris is getting SO CLOSE to actually attempting to hold women accountable for the lions share of the blame of modern dating. Wonder when he will finally take the plunge.

    • @castiel4746
      @castiel4746 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +42

      never, he is just afraid, he needs to pamper everyone. he is not like "those RP guys"

    • @mintoxace5571
      @mintoxace5571 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +47

      He’s too blue pill. He’s also handsome and successful so he doesn’t know what the modern average guy goes through.

    • @aegisreflector2725
      @aegisreflector2725 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      He won't.

    • @anewagora
      @anewagora 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      What do you mean "lions share of the blame of modern dating" ?

    • @XHEGEBKCOVYJEKFUVU
      @XHEGEBKCOVYJEKFUVU 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      @@anewagora lions share means “the most” of something. Women select men, that’s how it works. Women have been proven, mostly through data from dating apps to all choosing the same small portion of men, which they can’t possibly all have as partners unless they want to share - and many women do. Women hold the majority of the blame for the modern dating crisis

  • @mattm2767
    @mattm2767 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +34

    Approaching girls is not endemic to being a guy. For the vast majority of human history people didn’t approach each other or date. Most marriages were arranged by fathers. Asking girls out and dating fairly new to societies.
    I am not saying that asking someone “out” (without the father or another family member) never happened before but they were exceptions to the general rule.

    • @MrOdaddy2011
      @MrOdaddy2011 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      I find it insane that most people seem to ignore this fact. Dating was invented in like the last 200 years, before that the challenges were straightforward and primarily based off survival or reproductio, nor love If most men find it difficult to approach women it means that men weren't meant to do that.

    • @andrebaxter4023
      @andrebaxter4023 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      You’re correct that it’s a new thing, but it’s necessary in this day and age. Our families(at least in the USA) don’t have arranged marriages and/or are being set up by friends/family. We gotta hunt now, if you’re not in a huge social circle with some single women in it.

    • @michaelt.5672
      @michaelt.5672 หลายเดือนก่อน

      The two sides of the courtship were still defined by the gender though:
      The male side approached and made an offer, while the female side accepted or rejected.
      Whether that conversation happens between the potential couple or their respective fathers, the dynamic is the same.
      And importantly, the pressure on the man to impress is there either way.
      Whether you have to impress your potential spouce directly, or your potential parents in law have to have a good opinion of you makes little difference psychologically speaking.
      Not to mention that the human species is far older than the concept of marriage. We were stone age nomadic hunter-gatherers far longer than we were sedentary civilisations.
      The concept of arranged partnerships sounds a little far-fetched for that context.

  • @NK-nk3xe
    @NK-nk3xe 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +261

    Why in the HELL would college students use dating apps to meet people?? YOU ARE AROUND PEOPLE YOUR AGE ALL DAMN DAY. WTF?

    • @spunkush
      @spunkush 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +36

      In college, dating apps are for sex. When your older, they become the way to date. Since you end up seeing wayy fewer single people you age once your out.

    • @tgheretford
      @tgheretford 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

      At this point, it's now dating apps or nothing. People refuse to meet in real life whether because of "creeps" or the danger of having your life ruined via trial on social media.

    • @SpitshineSneakers
      @SpitshineSneakers 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Its because college students are broke. If women want to go on a fancy date at a nice restaurant they look outside of college campus for dates.

    • @skippylippy547
      @skippylippy547 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      @@tgheretford I don't believe that.
      I think you got sucked into an alternative reality. Get out of there!

    • @svr5423
      @svr5423 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      when I went to college, we had around 25% women in IT/Engineering. And this was considered a class with a high percentage of females.
      If you went over to the people who studied how to build machines, it was around 5%.
      So naturally, you'll look somewhere else.

  • @thomasclarke6934
    @thomasclarke6934 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +260

    Neither of these people have a clue about the "harsh reality of modern dating." They might as well be speculating about the hardships of starving people in Ethiopia and trying to give them advice.

    • @Rufio1975
      @Rufio1975 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Why would you say that?

    • @chadthackston1992
      @chadthackston1992 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +67

      @@Rufio1975 Because they're both objectively attractive- Brett has never had to work for a date in her life. She's also married. Married people, regardless of their age, put this wall of naivete up as soon as they say "I do". They think that their experience is the same for everyone.

    • @Rosie-uf5ox
      @Rosie-uf5ox 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      @@chadthackston1992She JUST got married.

    • @seemlesslies
      @seemlesslies 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +40

      ​@@Rosie-uf5oxthe main point still stands. Neither one of these people has ever had to work hard to find a relationship lol.

    • @cniht
      @cniht 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +24

      Yeap, attractive successful people should really not be talking about what even above average people experience in life, let alone average or below average. They know not of what they speak.

  • @CsharpPreza
    @CsharpPreza 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +36

    A woman talks about how men should take responsibility and accept that dating "is hard" while she completely misses the point that what makes men unsuccessful is mostly not about _how_ they date and is not something men can learn and get better at because the issue is that most women are just broken for lack of a better word, and they have done it to themselves.

  • @doobieblaze1628
    @doobieblaze1628 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +294

    The "Me Too" movement turned into the "No Thank You" movement for many men✌️❤️

    • @bigneiltoo
      @bigneiltoo 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +45

      @3qtipkilla But "believe all women" isn't reductive?

    • @hungrymusicwolf
      @hungrymusicwolf 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +30

      @3qtipkilla It isn't reductive when it's true and accurate. It certainly did for me. Any woman remotely supportive of anything remotely resembling Me Too is basically off my radar.

    • @Photonkannon
      @Photonkannon 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      "Me Too" and women having high standards/being malicious are not the same.
      "Me Too" is literally about victims of sexual assault or rape. It is related, but overall it is separate from the larger dating culture discussion.
      Your comment is morally dubious at best and , at worst, disgusting. I strongly recommend you rethink this mindset.
      EDIT: Yes I agree, that Me Too has gone too far, but it is completely unrelated to this video and not in the larger dating culture discussion.

    • @hungrymusicwolf
      @hungrymusicwolf 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

      @@Photonkannon Me Too was for approximately 1 day about victims. Afterwards coming out as a victim became a trend and people were (often times later proven) to be falsely accused.
      All so influencers could get in on the fame.

    • @TheNightman.
      @TheNightman. 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @3qtipkilla Yeah no, he's 100% right

  • @reinedire7872
    @reinedire7872 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

    47 years old. Dated the old fashioned way until I was 32, mostly a bunch of emotionally damaged, self centered tramps. Then met my future wife online after about 6 months of on and off searching. Mind you, this was in 2009, after the stigma of online dating had kind of warn off but before the majority of women started using it for the sole purpose of feeding their egos. It's possible to succeed, but it's definitely way harder than it used to be and I feel bad for younger people because of that. My best advice is to keep trying but also to be at peace with the notion that it may not happen for you. You gotta want it, but you'll be ok if you don't get it. Good luck, gentlemen!

  • @jpl7909
    @jpl7909 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +33

    "The conditions are different" yeah, tens of hookups and several abortions for girls just 2 years into university she said, what an absolutely amazing dating pool.

  • @Rootz2000
    @Rootz2000 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +201

    Women are dating for an accessory now, not a partner.

    • @Ron.Swanson.
      @Ron.Swanson. 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      that’s how dating should be. You should have all your shit together, and they are there as an accessory to your hobbies and day to day things.

    • @Rootz2000
      @Rootz2000 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

      @@Ron.Swanson. no

    • @Ron.Swanson.
      @Ron.Swanson. 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@Rootz2000 so you think when you have a partner it means you ditch your day to day routine and all of your interests for your girl? That’s called being a simp.

    • @Rope257
      @Rope257 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

      @@Ron.Swanson. "so you think when you have a partner it means you ditch your day to day routine and all of your interests for your girl"
      How is this even remotely related and relevant to women dating for an accessory?

    • @ThatGuy-tx4vm
      @ThatGuy-tx4vm 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      ​@@Ron.Swanson.nope. Human beings have survival first and companionship and love second... Luxuries, hobbies and fun are further down the list. Loneliness drives people insane and makes them physically ill as well.

  • @EseShad0w316
    @EseShad0w316 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +129

    Guys who are smart will work on themselves (especially physically, hit the gym) and see which girls want them, and choose accordingly. May not always end positively but it's a hell of a lot better than chasing women. Men should be emotionally detached when it comes to women and ultimately focused on their life goals.

    • @stevetaylor9265
      @stevetaylor9265 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

      Exactly think with the head on top of your shoulders.

    • @MisterL777
      @MisterL777 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

      What I learned from doing this is that doing 20 pull ups is much easier than getting a woman interested in you (much less a woman you like). But for most people (normal people?) it's the opposite.

    • @Pozywny
      @Pozywny 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      @@MisterL777 what's nice is by the time you can do 10 pull ups women start being interested in you lol

    • @Vladi2102
      @Vladi2102 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

      @@Pozywny I can confirm that's not true. I've been doing 10+ and even 20+ pull ups for years now, I'm still absolutely invisible. Probably works for tall and attractive guys though.

    • @danh2716
      @danh2716 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@Vladi2102 Well, yeah. You can't be short.

  • @nickmattio3397
    @nickmattio3397 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +50

    For Men, Rule 1: Be Hot AF. Rule 2: Be Rich AF. Rule 3, Make Sure You Follow Rules 1 and 2

    • @kathyp1563
      @kathyp1563 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Look around at men who are coupled. There are a lot of ordinary looking men who are coupled. You don't think of them as plain, because they are loved. So you have to look.
      Of course, I've known plain & sweet men who choose whichever woman showed an interest...but she's mean. This is always heartbreaking. She didn't turn mean after they got married, it was obvious, but he went for it.
      I've also watched a lot of plain but sweet men pursue & marry plain & sweet women. Strange that these women seem to get prettier after they marry. Again, I think people who are loved become more attractive.
      If you insist that the only reason you are single is because you are not handsome, you may choose out of desperation. Or you may never pinpoint the real reason.
      Lots of plain people find love.

    • @TheSlippytongue
      @TheSlippytongue 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      You obviously haven't noticed all of the 'average' looking guys who are in relationships with objective 'hotties' 😂 Personality matters WAY more than looks. Internalize that, and you will thrive!

    • @kathyp1563
      @kathyp1563 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @TheSlippytongue what about the average men who name in relationships with average looking women? It's the health of the relationship, not the looks that us enviable.

    • @BritishEcho
      @BritishEcho 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Yup
      Win the genetic lottery.
      Win the life lottery.
      Just that easy.

    • @suv3534
      @suv3534 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@TheSlippytongue Not true at all if you don't have the looks you won't get through the door. Personality only comes into play once mutual attraction is established

  • @Zbomb96
    @Zbomb96 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    It’s when you realise when women say they want to be approached what they mean is they want to be approached by a tall, rich, confident and successful chad not the average bloke.

  • @MisterL777
    @MisterL777 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +34

    I remember one time I was sitting next to 2 girls who were claiming that all the good men were taken (which next to a single guy is not a very elegant thing to say, but let's ignore that).
    Both of those women had a boyfriend.
    So I saw 3 possibilities
    1 they were lying
    2 they got their partner through cheating
    3 they were with someone they considered not good
    Isn't that such a weird thing to say in their situation?

  • @rhett.orical
    @rhett.orical 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +151

    As a 24-year-old man, I’ve learned with dating that the only winning move is not to play.

    • @Badger1776
      @Badger1776 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      “24 year old man”
      Don’t think that’s a thing bud.

    • @dumdum8880
      @dumdum8880 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      As a 23 year old whose had no luck, I have questions. Are you in shape? Do you have a stable job or prospects? Do you have your personality in order? Do you have any interest or the like? Do you follow any religion or demonstrate long term mating suitibility? The the answer is No to a lot of these, it's you not them. If you answer yes to a lot of these, your probably just in the wrong city or looking in the wrong place. If you try all of that then maybe you can fall back on we're in a mating crisis where a lot of women won't date for children till 30, on which they have a 50/50 chance, so have no long term insentives and you might just be in the unlucky group of guys who will be left behind by those woman who fail to attend the dating market in a timely manner. When one sex suffers now, both do. Neither sex can motivate reproduction from the other so a percentage is screwed. But don't count yourself out yet, women tend to date a 2-4 years older, so your actual dating market is only in their early 20's at the moment. Still time left for so still hope left for you.

    • @jmz2144
      @jmz2144 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      You're gonna look back when you're older and regret not living

    • @user-og6hl6lv7p
      @user-og6hl6lv7p 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      Giving up is also losing.

    • @stevesteiner7220
      @stevesteiner7220 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      True. It's not a game. Find a girl that doesn't play the game as well.

  • @DoctorEnigma01
    @DoctorEnigma01 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +28

    As an older gentleman I can tell you that dating WAS much easier in the 80s, 90s and all the way up to about 2010, then there was a giant sea change among women, it became crazy, the world became crazy, the standards went through the roof and first dates started feeling more like a job interview then getting to know someone and dating started feeling like a job itself, exhausting. I feel bad for anyone these days dealing with it, it will only get worse IMO.

    • @danh2716
      @danh2716 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Have to agree. Dating has never been "easy-going" but it was a lot more straightforward when there was pretty much a 100% guarantee that there wasn't going to be sex anytime in the beginning of the relationship. There was actually time for courtship.

    • @The.Harsh.Truths
      @The.Harsh.Truths 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      While I agree with you general statement, also consider that your looks may have declined since 2010 as well, and that could be one of the variables impacting your results.

    • @Blackpilled_Fever_Dream
      @Blackpilled_Fever_Dream 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      The first smart phone came out in 2007. Having access to social media 24/7 warped the female brain.

  • @evenmoreevil
    @evenmoreevil 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +61

    The people asking for a 10 when they are a 4 will forever be single

    • @daveyjones7391
      @daveyjones7391 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Agreed, but this advice applies to so many of us dudes who, simply put, have delusions of their own rating and want a supermodel.

  • @melissa3232
    @melissa3232 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    “Falling in love felt like going home”- 💕
    Most romantic thing I have heard in a while. Wish you all the best.

  • @Scott-iw5ji
    @Scott-iw5ji 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    The average man knows he deserves nothing. The average woman thinks she deserves everything.
    That’s why dating sucks.

  • @mario125ww
    @mario125ww 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +30

    After alot of reflection as a 26 yr old virgin who has never had a gf, I realize that it is a systematic problem at large.
    For example, I never had a girl flirt with me and truly desire me. I was always the odd man out. I understood that this is my responsibility to figure out why. Now that I am 26 yrs old, I worked on myself enough that Im no longer a weak man. However there arent women out there to date.
    On my average day, i see maybe 10 girls who all got bfs or not my type. I have to find social events and make alot of friends to even get one lead. In fact, this summer i did just that just to get ghosted by 3 dates. Now i chill and do me most times but i realize that this problem isnt easily solvable unless your environment plays to your strengths

    • @akabuki100
      @akabuki100 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Move to a bigger city

    • @walterp1028
      @walterp1028 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

      ​@@akabuki100bigger cities are part the problem. Harder to find women that share your values in a city. Most cities tend to lean left. If you want a woman with at least some traditional values its fairly impossible. Especially as the gap between men going more conservative and women going more liberal widens. Most young women are going full communist and its amplified to a bigger degree in most cities.

    • @jaykay4541
      @jaykay4541 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Definitely a huge part of the problem is the way you were raised and school by a society that says that men and women are the same.
      It absolutely isn’t true at all.
      Men have to be successful in some aspect of their life or at least show promise, plus still have to pursue women to get women.
      Women don’t, guys will flock to them in their early 20s.
      The good news for you is your prime is 35-55.
      If you get your success on point then you’ll have more success.
      It’s the exact opposite for women who will not have close to the options they have at 26 when they are 35-55 even if they are 4 times as successful.

    • @NK-ch1cj
      @NK-ch1cj 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      you mean to say "systemic" not "systematic"

    • @marianpe5773
      @marianpe5773 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@jaykay4541how many people are successful 1-10%? How others get partner in past?

  • @damienfallon8980
    @damienfallon8980 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

    I feel like online dating focuses on looks alone. The problem with that is many times a girl might not instantly think you are good looking but after spending time with you via a group setting she can begin to like you based on making her feel comfortable and secure. She may like your sense of humor and all of the sudden boom, she likes you. You lose that in a dating app.

    • @TurboFist0
      @TurboFist0 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      This is why dating apps are so much worse for men than they are women. Men will still mostly care about looks whether it's IRL or dating apps while women care a lot more about personality and sense of humor IRL and obviously that can't really come through on a dating app so they are forced to just swipe on the hottest guys.

    • @kitsunin4690
      @kitsunin4690 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@TurboFist0 You're absolutely right. The only way to find success for many men is to entirely avoid dating apps.
      Importantly, dating apps are literally designed to be bad at helping people find long-term relationships, because if you find one, you won't use the app again: Success is bad for engagement! The interesting thing here is that women are usually more interested in long-term relationships than men, so they have their own massive problem here. The problem is that dating apps are giving them terrible matches. So while dating apps filter out a lot of men completely, those men who do have success with them get what they want. At the same time, the low quality of matches women can find leaves the vast majority of women having "success" but not the type of success they actually want.
      For most men, you can never be good enough to find a good match. For most women, it doesn't matter how "good" you are, an app will probably never give you a good match.
      These apps are horrible for everyone.

  • @svr5423
    @svr5423 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +36

    I was born in the early 80ies.
    Nobody taught me either how to date. I just went on the internet and found my first GF.
    Second one I picked up at a lake (she was there with her cousin).
    Third one was at a event we both visited.
    It just happens. But I'm done with dating now. Not that anything went really terrible, but it also doesn't really add something meaningful to my life. The connection I have with my long-term friends is much more important. And I enjoy living on my own, inviting people only when I feel like socialising.
    I'm a MGTOW now.

    • @forzanerazzurri2339
      @forzanerazzurri2339 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      You were born in the early 80s and used the Internet to get your first girlfriend? That's pretty sad dude considering Internet dating wasn't a thing when you should have been starting to date girls.

    • @svr5423
      @svr5423 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      @@forzanerazzurri2339 Have you been living behind a rock?
      Internet became mass media in the mid-90ies, including chatrooms and online dating. And mobile data plans became popular when the new millennium began.
      I think you are just upset because you didn't figure out how to use the internet, like everybody else did.

    • @badgerattoadhall
      @badgerattoadhall 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@svr5423I was born in the VERY early 1980s and "online dating" was not really a thing until 2003 with PoF. I got my first girlfriend in late 10th grade.

    • @MagiKez
      @MagiKez 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@svr5423he is a bit of a late bloomer, which is fine. Internet dating really wasn't a thing back at the age when most people were dating. Maybe he met her in a chat room or an online video game, but that was certainly not looked upon favorably by the culture at the time

    • @forzanerazzurri2339
      @forzanerazzurri2339 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@svr5423 nerd

  • @trophy8174
    @trophy8174 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +242

    College life ruins girls.

    • @badgoy7875
      @badgoy7875 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      Why?

    • @trophy8174
      @trophy8174 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@badgoy7875 Partying every week with fake friends and getting their backs blown out by ever my guy on their floor. Plus drugs and alcohol are everywhere.

    • @christianrodriguez5346
      @christianrodriguez5346 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      The bad ones but there are a few good ones

    • @marianpe5773
      @marianpe5773 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@trophy8174Nah media do much worse than drugs to girls😅

    • @EightyFiveMillion
      @EightyFiveMillion 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

      @@badgoy7875i think its because they end up studying a lot or something….

  • @brianthesnail3815
    @brianthesnail3815 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    To be fair, I met my wife and went 'That one' after 10 seconds. She literally walked towards me across a small square at university on the first day at interview. That was it. I just knew we were going to get married. She didn't feel the same but I could not shake off the feeling.

    • @Pathofmen
      @Pathofmen 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Haha she didn't feel the same. That's funny man. Good for you bro. I'm 44 and married, 2 kids. I make MGTOW videos about social media and narcissism, looking through the clips to find videos makes me bummed out for my sons. Hypergamy and feminism is a horrible combo. Add in narcissism and entitlement ouch.
      It's odd man, as we age we know we're ignorant and forget just how much wisdom we have to offer. So I made a channel..
      Best wishes.

  • @S.J.L
    @S.J.L 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +40

    Guys have always had a 99% unobtainable woman...36-24-36, virgin, devoted, mentally sound and productive...but we'll gladly settle for a fair to average looking woman with a good attitude who is supportive, mostly sane and complimentary over a hot head case who is a net negative.

    • @gm9460
      @gm9460 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

      Finish the thought - women have a male equivalent and apps allow most of them to sleep with that guy if they want to but chances are he doesn’t commit leaving them confused and angry but still unwilling to “settle for less”.

  • @TheGoodMMADog
    @TheGoodMMADog 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +92

    Im 31, 5’5”, make less than 100k. I’m getting engaged soon and I spent so much time watching videos like this, obsessing over things that didn’t really matter. Once I traveled, moved across the country for work, developed new interests and hobbies I generated a personality that attracted a whole bunch of women and now I’ve found what I deem perfect for me. My advice to any single guy who is looking, stop overthinking it, date with an open mind, keep improving, try things that scare you, you’ll grow from it and give women some grace. There are some great women out there, not everyone will be a match for you and if they’re not, it’s ok.

    • @38zae
      @38zae 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      real shit bro❤️

    • @andrewgood7586
      @andrewgood7586 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

      Just wait until youre married for 2+ years and then come back to this and tell us how youre doing. lmfao

    • @Jetherston
      @Jetherston 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      You'll be broke and divorced within ten years.

    • @mario125ww
      @mario125ww 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      The only criticism I have for your advice is that it is not that simple for everyone. I personally don't have girls who would go on dates and I can experience with an open mind.
      I personally been rejected by every girl I have ever ask out. It sucks and I don't have guidance on how to fix it

    • @andrewgood7586
      @andrewgood7586 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      @@mario125ww Dont ask them out. Get them to want to go out with you.
      I dont recall ever asking any girl Ive ever been with out. Its more like do you want to chill? Or theyve been the one eager to get to know me.

  • @gnarwhal7562
    @gnarwhal7562 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    I gave up the soul-crushing experience of dating apps a long time ago. Fellas, if you're brave to shoot your shot in person, while it is riskier, the reward is far better than what you'll find on Tinder, Grindr, etc. Me, I've just been on hiatus from the whole dating pool because I find regular life exhausting enough to navigate

  • @ivanharrison241
    @ivanharrison241 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +148

    It's like watching an episode of Dawson's Creek but no one gets laid.

  • @ronmexico5908
    @ronmexico5908 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

    There are always going to be problems in dating and in relationships. The question is, is it worth the effort anymore? For many people the answer is no. It’s getting worse and worse and the legal system will be used against men when it’s convenient

  • @St.MichaelsWingman
    @St.MichaelsWingman 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +51

    I mean... I'm 6'1", handsome or so I've been told, work in finance and do very well, served in the Marine Corps and saw combat in Afghanistan, wise beyond my years I think... and yet, dating is hard even for me. Maybe that's just the way it is? I don't know. I'll let people prove me right or wrong with their responses to this.

    • @TheGoodMMADog
      @TheGoodMMADog 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      Arrogance

    • @thelamboman4085
      @thelamboman4085 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

      Leave the West bro and you’ll instantly get much better results

    • @nikki7263
      @nikki7263 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

      Honestly try asking some girls out. Or at the very least try being friendly and talk to who you’re interested and then ask her out. If she says yes, great! If she says no, then move on. A lot of girls can be very shy around guys, especially attractive guys, because they think they’re probably in a relationship or they’re not attractive enough for this guy. If you’re not comfortable asking girls out then I’d focus on taking care of your mental, physical, and spiritual health and who knows, maybe one day a girl will have the guts to ask you out lol

    • @kt9495
      @kt9495 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I was married for 23 years and have been single for 10. I don’t look my age and consider myself very open. I’m financially stable. Tried the apps shortly after my divorce with the usual complaints and never got back on them. I don’t get approached in person but generally receive compliments. It’s an odd time we’re navigating. The only answer I’ve come up with outside of the idea that women/men bad (blanket statements serve no one and are totally subjective), is that overall we feel more connected through technology, and something about that is changing an evolutionary drive to be in relationship. Who knows what the consequences might be.

    • @jaykay4541
      @jaykay4541 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@kt9495
      Why did you divorce your husband??
      Why did you possibly believe someone better would commit to you when you were long, long past your prime.
      There is no bigger red flag to a decent man then hearing you let a long marriage, definitely says it’s predictable what happens to anyone who commits to you.

  • @CrimzinEclipse2010
    @CrimzinEclipse2010 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    I remember a conversation with my wife where we were discussing body counts.
    She told me how she doesn’t understand how some people can have body counts of 100+ people.
    She then told me that she could maybe understand 4 sexual partners per year, which would be roughly 1 every 3 months.
    I then laughed and explained to her that she’s definitely only talking about women, because it is insanely difficult for an average guy to have 1 sexual partner every 3 months.

  • @phoenixlord2017
    @phoenixlord2017 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +31

    I personally would consider myself one of the guys that Brett describes, im a guy of faith, I workout, im not like jacked or anything but im taking care of my body, eat somewhat healthy, and have a great relationship with my family. For some reason this is no longer desirable and I grew up thinking that it was, but im just not going to try anymore. What's the point?

    • @TheGoodMMADog
      @TheGoodMMADog 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      How hard do you try?

    • @Maiseymax696
      @Maiseymax696 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      I am basically the female version of this and it doesn't seem like most guys find it desirable either

    • @cel99
      @cel99 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Just continue doing what you mentioned in your comment and don't give up hope.
      God will send you your missing rib 🙏

    • @cel99
      @cel99 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Bible verses for a relationship:
      1 Corinthians 16:4
      Ephesians 4:32
      Proverbs 15:1
      Ephesians 4:31
      Colossians 3:13
      1 Corinthians 13:4

    • @cel99
      @cel99 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@Maiseymax696 If you are a Proverbs 31 woman then don't give up hope.
      Put your trust in God and he will send you the right man who is searching for his missing rib 🙏

  • @antonvalentine
    @antonvalentine 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    I disagree with some of this, because I'm 29 (still a millennial) and I grew up approaching girls that I liked, and I was sexually active when the complete shift of not being able to approach women happened. I remember the transition of no longer walking up to a girl and starting a conversion because the stakes were (all of a sudden) much higher. I remember being told "the worst she can say is no" and one day that was just no longer true. Any guy who is older than 25 was taught to be able to withstand a certain level of public rejection from a girl, but these days a guy can get arrested over claims from a girl that he has never even interacted with (which actually does happen) and thats not a generational difference, that a change in society that happened in an extremely short amount of time. Dating apps are safer because you have a (digital) paper trail where people usually can't get away with lying.

  • @Jacques.Smith_
    @Jacques.Smith_ 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +35

    I tried Tinder twice, both experiences sucked big time. Both girls didn't look anything like their profile pictures. Lying to me before we even met in real life, is not a good idea.

  • @chrisandrew6633
    @chrisandrew6633 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +30

    I think the greatest issue comes before the dating, it's- I have not had a crush on a girl in over a year.
    The quality of modern women is so average/low that I struggle to be intrigued by any of them. I find about one girl every year or two to crush on. If women are so amazing/beautiful/intelligent/etc why do I feel nothing for SOOO many of them?

    • @jaykay4541
      @jaykay4541 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

      I’m obese covered with ugly tattoos, swear like a trucker, claim I don’t need no man but am $50,000 in debt,
      how could you not have a crush on me💁‍♀️

    • @chrisandrew6633
      @chrisandrew6633 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      ​@@jaykay4541 The ONLY good thing I can say about the tattoos is- they let u identify the type of girl immediately. (But yeah I agree, I hate tattoos on women. Don't get me started.)

  • @jkbrown5496
    @jkbrown5496 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    First dating, in the US, has only been middle class since around 1914 when the term was used by a college girl commenting in a magazine article. Prior to that, men called on the woman at her home under supervision.
    And the "singles bar" only dates from 1965 when TGI Fridays was opened by a guy who wanted to meed the single women in his Manhattan neighborhood. The original dating "app" is not yet 60 years old.
    Betty Friedan's book The Feminine Mystique:
    "I don't think there was anything else like it at the time. Before TGI Fridays, four single twenty-five-year-old girls were not going out on Friday nights, in public and with each other, to have a good time. They went to people's apartments for cocktail parties or they might go to a real restaurant for a date or for somebody's birthday, but they weren't going out with each other to a bar for a casual dinner and drinks because there was no such place for them to go"

    • @fellowasp6768
      @fellowasp6768 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      And your point is?

  • @azcardguy7825
    @azcardguy7825 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    She has a good head on her shoulders but she is super young and hasn’t felt with life’s real problems yet. Her outlooks will change dramatically over the next 10 years.

  • @hannibalhobbes4289
    @hannibalhobbes4289 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    After graduating high school, I’ve met all of my dates except one on apps. The one that I did not meet on an app lasted the longest by far.

  • @azcardguy7825
    @azcardguy7825 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    I really don’t like her take on this at all. I’m a 33 year old man, 6’4”, financial advisor, and am in good shape… I don’t consider myself a “high value” man. I consider myself a flawed human being that’s no better than anyone else. We gotta start looking inward.

  • @ballshippin3809
    @ballshippin3809 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +30

    A work colleague of mine put it best by saying 99% of women who use dating apps are broken in one way or another. If they were really attractive looking and had a friendly feminine personality then they wouldn't waste their time with dating apps as they could easily get pulled by a Chad in a bar or the gym.

    • @alexanderg5386
      @alexanderg5386 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      99 percent of woman use dating apps, even the "good girls". 99 percent of woman keep options open and talk to their ex while in relationships. You absolutely 💯 percent have to not allow your girl to talk to other men. They will lie when they say "he's just a friend".

    • @markro1049
      @markro1049 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      My friends and I use dating apps and we have a phrase to describe that: "Any man can end up in a dating app but not any woman does"

    • @leedlbagginshield8492
      @leedlbagginshield8492 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I live in Germany and men here rarely make a move on women they’re interested it. It’s a bit frustrating, they expect the woman to be more active

    • @TheLinkedList
      @TheLinkedList 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@leedlbagginshield8492 stop asking the world (men in your case) to change for you then... they literally said that in the video.

    • @leedlbagginshield8492
      @leedlbagginshield8492 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@TheLinkedList I‘m not asking them to change. All I‘m saying is that they shouldn’t be surprised If some women will look elsewhere to find a partner.

  • @Greenlights111
    @Greenlights111 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I’m 25 and single and the hardest part is feeling the social obligation to be out meeting people. My friends hangout a lot less and I spend most of my time alone, I’m a really extroverted person so this is a big challenge for me and makes me want a relationship all the more, while I recognize the more I search for it the more elusive it becomes. It’s a tough cycle and I’m also trying to break lustful habits and build myself! I have lived in a new city for the last 3+ years since graduating uni, but I think about moving closer to home to find someone closer to my family and hopefully my values, but I don’t want to be so closed minded. God please help me become the best and healthiest and happiest version of myself that I can be. When I and she is ready, Lord bring us together and let us build a great family and life together!

  • @Reflectionmaterial
    @Reflectionmaterial 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +59

    She is 22 years old, has only lived in one country. She probably only has sociallized in certain circles. But now talks like she understands everything...... wait what?????????

    • @Maiseymax696
      @Maiseymax696 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      She lived in Budapest for a time

    • @_DeadBeat_
      @_DeadBeat_ 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      famous college sorority american mid white woman that has access to the global dating market through social media. she has more experience than 90% of men that has ever existed

    • @Reflectionmaterial
      @Reflectionmaterial 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      @@_DeadBeat_ she has been dating less than 4 years.
      And she is now married.
      I just googled her and she is not a scientist in sociology.
      So her anecdotal life exeprience seems a bit limited.

    • @zacharybils9182
      @zacharybils9182 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      @@Reflectionmaterialtrue, however she probably has people in her circle who give her wisdom and advice. She seems like she has a good head on her shoulders, I wish her luck in her marriage.

    • @Reflectionmaterial
      @Reflectionmaterial 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      @@zacharybils9182 everybody tries to be a good person.
      Does not mean they all are qualified to talk about incredibly complicated subjects.
      She is an actress. Talk about that. Not about stuff you have less than 4 years experience in.

  • @gangstercapitalism
    @gangstercapitalism 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Girls used to come onto guys before social media and smart phones, graduated HS in 2007. Trust me, everyone’s lost their minds chasing the millionaire lifestyle, also entitlement blocks gratitude, so that’s why the state of love and respect is at an all time low.

  • @randycliff4045
    @randycliff4045 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Grandparents can make a difference -- we talk all the general ideas of them being married and having children of their own. We encourage their thoughts of the future being about relationships, and not just vocation.

  • @OrsvikEnnin
    @OrsvikEnnin 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

    Men, stay single. Protect your virginity, keep it secret and keep it safe. Eventually you’ll unlock the mage build.

    • @BritishEcho
      @BritishEcho 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Became a wizard this year 😅👍

  • @phantomforester9337
    @phantomforester9337 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    You cannot reveal yourself completely to a potential partner right off the bat because then you would give them the opportunity to feed you what you are looking for while concealing anything in them that you are not. You have to dance the dance until you know each other well enough to know that you are compatible.

  • @Jacques.Smith_
    @Jacques.Smith_ 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +86

    Dating someone you met at work.. generally a bad idea.

    • @jonathanmcculley3728
      @jonathanmcculley3728 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

      A terrible mistake I had to learn the hard way

    • @bugra320
      @bugra320 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      How will it be then? Finding someone online(not even possible for most men) is worse. The possible options are finding someone at school or work

    • @Derr1ck_yt
      @Derr1ck_yt 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@bugra320stop worrying about it and build your life up instead

    • @Jetherston
      @Jetherston 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Tons of people met at work, not that is prohibited. There is no acceptable place to approach women anymore. Women were never into guys that much anyway, they just needed us. Now that they don't need men they aren't interested and they make it illegal to approach them. They all wear headphones in the gym too. LOL

    • @EseShad0w316
      @EseShad0w316 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@jonathanmcculley3728 Same. Never again lol

  • @janstein9202
    @janstein9202 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +26

    My roommate:
    "I want guys to approach me"
    Also, my roommate:
    "A guy came to me in the gym asking me for an workout advice. So creepy"😂

    • @spunkush
      @spunkush 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      @@janstein9202 yah, if one girl rejects you for being creepy. That entire building is finished. She will tell everyone that you hit on her (since it makes her look desired and also sisterhood wants consensus)

    • @kathyp1563
      @kathyp1563 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      When I was single, I stopped allowing friends to insult men around me.
      We need to acknowledge:
      * a man that I'm not attracted to isn't necessarily a poor catch. It is a good mental exercise to see him as a catch for someone else, just not me.
      * a lady always acknowledges the compliment of someone being attracted to her. Just because the idea of him touching you is unpleasant, does not reduce the compliment. In old books, women were taught by their mothers to say "I'm flattered, but..."

  • @ctfireinsky9554
    @ctfireinsky9554 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Whenever I hear a woman use the word "Intimidated" she instantly drops 2 points.

  • @YouTubeOverrated
    @YouTubeOverrated 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    That no matter how hard you try, you can’t make someone love you.
    It needs to be organic or you have to move on.

  • @jyaburajyabura730
    @jyaburajyabura730 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

    women in real life are not even looking at me, how in the world should i approach women outside of dating apps

    • @nKarje
      @nKarje 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Yeah. People tell me I'm good-looking and I'm 6'5, yet women in the streets etc don't even look at me. No smiles or eye contact. I often go to a coffee shop and it's only the men who actually make an effort to speak or be friendly. Same when I go to the sauna. I don't even exist to women unless I say something first.
      Yesterday I went on a 4.5 hour hike with 15 people, most of whom I didn't know. I had to speak to all the women first or would've been ignored otherwise. I'm not even flirting, I'm just being friendly and social.

    • @wahpah
      @wahpah 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@nKarje Most people are cold in the US until you engage. When you start talking to them they lift that veil and it's pretty easy to see how a person feels towards yoy

    • @nKarje
      @nKarje 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      @@wahpah I'm describing my experience in Scotland btw.

    • @wahpah
      @wahpah 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @nKarje I guess you can apply it to most 3rd world countries. I'm 6'1 and get compliments often as well but don't get signals like smiling or eyes. Sometimes but not often. I'm in nyc and sometimes on commutes I've gotten stares but for the most part on my day to day not really. You can tell somewhat when you engage, when are girl is into me they are definetlly more bubbly during the chat, and if im feeling it id extend my number to them to take if they want for a date. I think girls and people in general are not good at flirting, I don't know how you are but I'm 19, and Girls definetly do not do the smiling as an invitation thing anymore in my age group or anything like that

    • @wahpah
      @wahpah 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I mean first world

  • @thecautionaryinsomniac7108
    @thecautionaryinsomniac7108 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

    Yeah, approaching was never really a thing. Look at the data from the 1900s, majority of people met through friends or family. 30% through family, 30% through friends and 30% primary and secondary. However as we progressed as a society (digressed more likely) through 60s, 70s and so on it became slightly more meetings at work, church, bars etc. Then came online dating and the isolationist way in which we now exist. Societies typically collapse from the loss of god, followed by female promiscuity, followed then by the demoralization of men, aka men no longer want to fight for the society. Were there now.

    • @infiniteworfare5089
      @infiniteworfare5089 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      thats cause god isnt real. alot of people lack common sense nowadays. its not surprising. humans are lacking natural selection and its unknown how much animals and plants are suffering from lack of natural selection as well.

    • @glamoagency5642
      @glamoagency5642 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      not yet. We have to first stop providing utilities and sanitation services. Like not work those jobs. Only then the colapse will be palpable.

    • @thecautionaryinsomniac7108
      @thecautionaryinsomniac7108 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@glamoagency5642 Won't matter, the collapse is planned, has been for a long time. it's systemic through and through

    • @TurboFist0
      @TurboFist0 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      "Societies typically collapse from the loss of god, followed by female promiscuity, followed then by the demoralization of men, aka men no longer want to fight for the society."
      Damn. This actually makes so much sense. I know for a fact that if the US were to enter into WWIII or something that I definitely wouldn't care about fighting to preserve this country or society. You would literally have to force me to join because to me, there is nothing really worth fighting for in this country anymore.

  • @WeareCreative360
    @WeareCreative360 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    once upon a time, single ppl put out "dating apps" in the newspaper hoping someone would answer, or there was "speed dating" events at the local bar or other places. "digital dating" is the most recent incarnation, but despite all these things, haven't we really just forgotten how to just talk to each other, find your likes/dislikes in conversation and go from there?

  • @psychodiver
    @psychodiver 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Late 30s, Indie-Author, gym-goer, okay looking....it's fkn brutal out there and finding my equal in this day and age feels non-existent.
    To all the dudes my age, good luck if you're single and try not to be discouraged from trying still. Sending bro hugs!

  • @phoenixvette
    @phoenixvette 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    The secret for men is to not actually be in love. Once you're in love it becomes dangerous, you become prey. If you keep your affection for a woman in the "I like you" range of feeling you will simultaneously never get hurt and always have women interested in you. Mysterious men are fun, emotional men are friend-zoned. If you actually have feelings of love, you have lost the game of love. This is why women are attracted to married men, why they always want what they can't have, why they never think about the long term future results of their actions and why they always choose men who are later called "toxic" after the fun phase is over and they're having mimosa brunch with their friends.

  • @LTDLimiTeD1995
    @LTDLimiTeD1995 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    My parents forbade me from dating until I was 16 and then just expected me to just know how to do everything.

    • @hufficag
      @hufficag 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I started dating at 25

  • @TomGrob
    @TomGrob 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    First they played hard to get.
    Now they are hard to want.
    I was just smart enough to understand it very early (when I was young & broke) and put my focus on earning money, saving & developing skills in engineering & business.
    I might get layed of soon, but guess what? I can afford law or med school without taking out a loan, because I understood how finances work. I feel very save & comfortable.
    And when I do it I don't have time anyways so, why even bother.
    They all want successful men, but they don't see the price men pay to be successful.

  • @jamescastle-mason8063
    @jamescastle-mason8063 8 วันที่ผ่านมา

    If you find a humble woman who's truly beautiful in all ways, hold onto her. 10 years in 3 married and a kid and im seriously blessed.

  • @matthewstewart5008
    @matthewstewart5008 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Men - looks money status
    Women - just be pretty

  • @Johnny_Utah
    @Johnny_Utah 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Graduating from UCLA with an English degree at 19 is... fine. but it's not graduating from Caltech with a degree to astrophysics or something.

  • @masteryoda498
    @masteryoda498 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Modern dating is terrible for men who are NOT in the top 5% in terms of LOOKS, dating is ridiculously EASY for vvomen.

  • @KB-cw3dw
    @KB-cw3dw 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    My issue is, I graduated college and was contractually obligated to join the military. I'm currently stationed on the east coast (grew up in the Southwest), and have been living near a very, very large military post. The city right outside post, where I live, is pretty ghetto and dangerous. There is a very, very loose sexual/party culture surrounding the military post and the neighboring cities. All anyone really does for entertainment on the weekends is drink and party. I refuse to conform to that lifestyle. The church that I go to here is 90+% men. I don't know what to do. The majority of my friends who are dating tend to date down; there are for a certainty many times more men in their 20's-30's than there are women in the surrounding area. I'm trying to simultaneously juggle Active Duty military life with running a small business, so exploring different cities that are a minimum 1-2 hours away is very difficult, and when I do make my way out there, I'm typically there with friends who only want to drink. It's also just too difficult to date that far. As someone who just turned 30, I feel there is no hope for me finding a quality girl to date. I dated plenty in college, but just never found someone with whom I felt I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. I don't consider myself unattractive. I'm very fit by even military standards. I guess I've become apathetic towards dating; the little dating I've done here has been miserable and unfulfilling.

    • @hufficag
      @hufficag 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Start putting time into dating once either the business or the military life falls away. Then you'll only have 2 things to juggle which is doable.

  • @ronhughes5894
    @ronhughes5894 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Any woman who wants to be approached but refuses to do the approaching herself is a massive hypocrite.

    • @TurboFist0
      @TurboFist0 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Not really. It's always been tradition that the man approaches. The problem that women create for themselves is that they make themselves "unapproachable" through their body language, always being with a group of friends, etc.

  • @kw7796
    @kw7796 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Women only get the message when we say NO to their BAD behavior. MEN - keep up the good work. Don't reward bad behaviors!

  • @dalepetersen1166
    @dalepetersen1166 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    There aren't any romance movies like there used to be that advocated dating and meeting people and communicating like there used to be. Most of the movies today just glorify violence or some odd behavior

    • @HaleyMary
      @HaleyMary 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      That explains why dating has gone so downhill to non existent. I grew up watching '80s movies where characters actually talked to each other in so many awkward ways. You don't see people wanting to be honest and awkward anymore, but I think being awkward is cool. No wonder we are so lost in modern times. I feel like dating hasn't been good or even existent throughout my whole adult life. Why can't people just approach people in person, be kind and just embrace being awkward until you slowly get to know someone?

  • @JF-xm6tu
    @JF-xm6tu 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    No. Im not approaching anymore. I dont want to be publically shamed and abused again for taking my shot

    • @kathyp1563
      @kathyp1563 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      The "cold approach" never was successful. Of all the established couples in your circle, is there anyone who met through a cold approach?
      We used to widen our social circle, when we wanted to meet potential dates. This meant we met more same-sex friends, too. This is important for a single to do, anyways. The friends introduced us to new hobbies & experiences, which allowed us to meet the opposite sex. And most couples knew each other before we dated.

    • @JF-xm6tu
      @JF-xm6tu 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@kathyp1563 I met my first two gfs from cold approach

    • @NeiyMaritz
      @NeiyMaritz 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      ​@@kathyp1563but most dudes only know dudes and often don't have sisters

    • @kathyp1563
      @kathyp1563 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@NeiyMaritz when I was single, one of my requirements in a man was strong male friendships. No loners.
      The thing about being single is that it is a transient lifestyle. Even if YOU don't move, everyone else is constantly moving around you. It is healthy for singles to actively increase their social circles.
      It's also good to be the "ya wanna come with?" guy. You are surrounded by lonely people.
      When I was single, I introduced 3 married couple, 2 dating that ended, 1 best friendship (between women), & 1 roommates of women who were in financial need of someone to live with but didn't know anyone. Each of these "couples" started because I invited an acquaintance to come to a house party, a yard party, or a group hike, or a group going to a festival. Oh, in my 30s, I decided to work on my cooking by hosting a monthly dinner party of 4-6 people. I hosted people I didn't even know.
      I met my husband in his own garage. His housemate hosted a party & invited my friend. They were barely acquaintances & she'd know no one else, so she invited me. My husband is an extreme introvert. He asked a woman out 10 years earlier & was rejected. Hadn't done it since. He looks up & sees women in his garage! As host he had to come introduce himself. He had to chat. I invited him to join our swing dance group. I'm an inviter. We needed more men. He did. It took 2 years for him to ask me out, but only 5 months to be engaged.

    • @Jaylade
      @Jaylade 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      grow some balls

  • @rosegonella3098
    @rosegonella3098 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    It's not settling exactly, I'd call it managing your expectations. I was a very pretty little girl and always thought I would grow up to be beautiful, but then I hit adolescence and looked in the mirror and that quickly evaporated. Not that I'm ugly, but I'm maybe a 6 on a good day. But, that just meant I developed a personality to compensate for what I lacked in the physical department. And I had to be realistic when it came to finding someone to eventually marry. The few criteria I had was he had to be intelligent, kind, reasonably healthy, and have a sense of humor.

  • @louisenglish8069
    @louisenglish8069 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +37

    Love getting life advice from 20 somethings

    • @semibiotic
      @semibiotic 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Modern 40 something give even worse advices. That's not about age.

    • @josefranciscodasilvaeolive674
      @josefranciscodasilvaeolive674 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      I cannot express how relieved I am to finally see at least one other person notice that!!
      We need elders, not podcasts! We need wisdom not advice. We need structure and guidance, not clues and hints.

    • @Jeff-bd5yo
      @Jeff-bd5yo 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Chris is 36.

    • @louisenglish8069
      @louisenglish8069 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@Jeff-bd5yo Uh, Brett is not. Duh. Does this really have to be pointed out?

    • @Jeff-bd5yo
      @Jeff-bd5yo 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@louisenglish8069 I know Brett isn't. That's why I didn't say anything about her, are you perhaps slow?

  • @cazalis
    @cazalis 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    The first thing, any human could do, before dating, regardless of sexual preference, is to learn to live with the idea of being alone for the rest of your life. In other words, first know thyself. We don’t teach people that right? So the root is our desires, conditioned desires.

  • @WayneDoro
    @WayneDoro 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Read the book The Unequal game by Jimmy Fowler, it explains how messed up roles between men and women in modern day dating nowadays are.

  • @WilliamPayneNZ
    @WilliamPayneNZ 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    As a man I have never really been interested in test driving cars so to speak. I don't play the field or see how things go. I also don't care about being alone. For me the times I have met someone that I wanted to be with it is because the connection I felt with that person was so strong and that they were so much like me that I couldn't imagine waking up every day with anyone else. I have never met anyone who felt the same way back so it has never worked. But for me I don't chase women, I don't play the field.
    It has always been an emotional connection for me. I get to know someone as a friend, they enter my life and we get to know each other. I learn their intellect their sense of humour and behavior and over time I will realise that I don't want to be with anyone else.
    That apparently is quite high pressure expectations for women but that is how my interest in women has always been. I am autistic I have Asperger's. So being alone doesn't bother me. So when I meet someone that makes me feel that way it is a special thing.

  • @oakstream6041
    @oakstream6041 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Im 46 and done now. I have a dog so its all good. 🤣

  • @damonf6564
    @damonf6564 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    If you don't know who you are, then the persona you wear, is the only thing anyone has to love. Personas being inherently fake, means nobody can have a relationship with you, only the persona.

  • @battlepug3122
    @battlepug3122 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Brett: "They're setting these insane standards"
    Chris: "How so?"
    He's joking right... right?

  • @tonybayarea
    @tonybayarea 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Most of the good guys out here (45 and under) who are looking for a date, keep getting rejected by the girl/woman because there being told by her that they are too nice and not intriguing to that woman on a daily basis. Then that same woman goes and finds a guy that talks/treats them bad and then they ask "Where are all the good guys at!?" The good guys are out here. You just keep rejecting every good guy out here that wants to treat you good and be with you for the right reasons.

  • @mariarusek1851
    @mariarusek1851 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    It's soooo sweet when she talks about her husband

  • @garrettstephens91
    @garrettstephens91 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I know lots of good men who are masculine, strong, kind, holy, handsome, and protectors who are single not by choice. Explain that.

  • @mhuntprofessional
    @mhuntprofessional หลายเดือนก่อน

    Oooh boy.
    Watching her face glow when she talks about her husband is so wholesome and satisfying. 🥰
    That's the goal, fellas.
    Find a girl who loves you THAT much.
    And to do that you need to BE a guy worth that level of love and devotion. 👍

  • @andrewgood7586
    @andrewgood7586 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +41

    I just cant look at Brett without seeing Bens face. lmfao

    • @allinmybackyard3988
      @allinmybackyard3988 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      both may have italian ancestry.

    • @andrewgood7586
      @andrewgood7586 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@allinmybackyard3988 Theyre related. lol

    • @allinmybackyard3988
      @allinmybackyard3988 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@andrewgood7586 they are not.

    • @andrewgood7586
      @andrewgood7586 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@allinmybackyard3988 You sure about that? Theyve said theyre brother and sister.

    • @andrewgood7586
      @andrewgood7586 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@allinmybackyard3988 Hmmm I guess youre right. I assume they joke about it because they look similar.

  • @OpEditorial
    @OpEditorial 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Yes, the good ones ARE all taken, people have significantly fewer options than they realise and no, ladies, your career aspirations and how many countries you've been to ever matters to men.

  • @jordonlongley6576
    @jordonlongley6576 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    The only shit I’m going to talk here is that these two people don’t understand what it’s like to date at such a loss. They can explain the phenomenon very well but they don’t understand what it’s like to feel like some sort of deformed beast after so many rejections.

  • @christianrodriguez5346
    @christianrodriguez5346 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Fellas I am a firm believer in that you find a woman when it is the right time. I found my good gf out of all places online in Reddit. She made a post and I commented. She dm me and we became friends then started dating. I wasn’t looking for her. Just keep on living life and someone will want you. Please note the right woman will never ever make you play games she will make it easier for you since she truly wants you. For the ones they want they will not be hard they will be extremely easy.

    • @marianpe5773
      @marianpe5773 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      I make thousands of comments and girl never dm me😅

    • @christianrodriguez5346
      @christianrodriguez5346 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@marianpe5773 lol for me she seemed like she needed help and advice and according to her she really liked how I spoke and came from a place of experience. She felt something was there hence why she dm me. It is scary how similar we are in terms of values and who we are.

    • @TurboFist0
      @TurboFist0 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      You're an exception my friend. The sad reality is that most average millennial and gen-z men will be single and lonely for the majority of their lives.

  • @Decimus-Magnus
    @Decimus-Magnus 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I got into an debate with my SO regarding Jennifer Aniston's inability to find a man. I said she needed to lower her standards because what are likely her insane standards (he needs to be amazing looking, higher status, and wealthier than JA) aren't working out for her. My SO emphatically said no, there's nothing wrong with JA or her standards, and that men need to do better and JA shouldn't have to settle. 😂 I asked for that was working out for JA, since there are only a handful of single men in the world that likely meet JA's standards which has left her "in dating hell" according to JA. My SO got more upset and said we needed to stop talking about it. 🤣

  • @Arejen03
    @Arejen03 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    yes im 5'7 as a male, i dont bother with dating lol

    • @bob-px3sh
      @bob-px3sh 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Lol what? Go work out Im 5'8 and 185lbs buff. Being shorter means u live longer and can gain weight easier

    • @festusmuldoon
      @festusmuldoon 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      I'm 5'7" and have never had any issues with girls. My current gf is an inch taller than me and hasn't even brought it up.

    • @stinkypinkie9029
      @stinkypinkie9029 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      You could still get women if you have charisma. Unfortunately even if they like you, the vast majority will view it as settling or will be convinced by their friends they deserve better. So I understand why short men don’t bother with dating anymore; there’s far too much disrespect from women.

    • @Arejen03
      @Arejen03 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@stinkypinkie9029 yeah I'm black pilled enough not to settle, I never gonna be beta bux

    • @seemlesslies
      @seemlesslies 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I'm 5'7" never had an issue with dating relating to my height since online dating honestly.
      I lie about my height in my profile to 5'9" and make sure they know before the date.
      It's never really been an issue. For the women I've talked to.
      I married a women of model level attractiviness we divorced. Nothing to do with her wanting anyone else. I was always her Chad/first pick.
      Our issues were more complicated.

  • @1boi593
    @1boi593 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    if privilege was a person it would be brett cooper

  • @renegade637
    @renegade637 12 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Being rather protective of my individial independence, I didn't like the idea of not having control of my dating life. So, stuff like getting betrothed or arranged marriages felt like I was getting robbed of my choice in life. But, as I was trying out some of these dating apps and website, I found it difficult to get anywhere with them. Then, hearing all these stories of women who treat dating apps like what kind of frappuchino they're in the mood for on a particular day made it feel like I was just another number in a sea of numbers women had a choice of swiping either right or left on. So, instead of using a dating site, I'm thinking a matchmaking service seems like a better option.
    Am I giving up on my ability to pick who I want to spend the rest of my life with? Well, to a certain extent. But, given that I'm ADHD and I'm not sure I would have made a good desision to begin with, maybe it's not that big of a deal to have some help in finding a potential partner to spend the rest of my life with.

  • @andivid3499
    @andivid3499 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    11:30
    Translation: "The bad boys pumped me and used me up, and then my "not-insecure" husband swooped in and saved me." 😂
    Work hard boys, this is the type of woman you will be rewarded with in the US!

  • @middleagedbaldguy6774
    @middleagedbaldguy6774 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Im 50 and teach at a local college. Dating today looks like a minefield. I dont envy the folks who have to navigate it.