Overcoming Shame | Internalized Homophobia, Age-Gapphobia & Fatphobia

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ความคิดเห็น • 31

  • @Nikkirv7
    @Nikkirv7 23 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +8

    My girlfriend relates to p so much, we also have a large gap and you guys have previously made a video of my letter last year which I appreciate so much. You guys truly are representation and my girlfriend and I feel less alone when we watch your videos so I hope my comment adds to your motivation to never stop spreading hope and being a little light for people like us. I'm getting emotional now🥹😭But thank you thank you!!!❤

    • @Nikkirv7
      @Nikkirv7 23 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +2

      And to add😂I love how you guys are always so open and deeply honest about the truths of age gap/queer/body image topics🥹Very relatable❤

  • @mavvi3303
    @mavvi3303 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

    I notice I have a lot of shame that has made me hide away for many years. I have made attempts to share myself more this year, it’s still a big wall to climb. I appreciate you both for your authenticity, it really inspires me 💛

  • @Sorchae
    @Sorchae 21 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +3

    I think p is very correct in her theory. I have often recognized this connection to biology and procreation as well. People are generally attracted to and feel positively about what they perceive as healthy/beneficial to procreation

  • @TM33333
    @TM33333 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    "Sometimes you are ashamed of being ashamed." SO TRUE!

  • @kevindiment
    @kevindiment 19 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +2

    It's basicly Jeasousy of your happiness and their fear of not doing same to be as happy as you two, Well said Saidie, very mature, In effect your both correct

  • @RELAXINGCOMMUNIT
    @RELAXINGCOMMUNIT วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    Merry Christmas sadie & p❤

  • @playfullearning1212
    @playfullearning1212 23 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

    Merry Christmas Sadie and P ❤🎉

  • @Larissa-xq4bj
    @Larissa-xq4bj 18 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

    could you please talk more about your experience with feeling shame within your own body? I‘ve been struggling with this feeling for a long time and can‘t let it go.

  • @basak5827
    @basak5827 9 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    I swear I don't know why being fat is such a big taboo. Even if you're 10 kilos more than you "should normally be", it's like OMG. I mean, even doctors say lose weight first. As a complete throwaway, does it give people a feeling like how can you accept not being better when you have a chance to be "better"? Based on this, it may be associated with stupidity. But is anorexia thought of as exaggerating while trying to be better, in other words, not stupid, but as losing control which is "humane". Being fat seems to people as a kind of rebellion in comparison and being a rebel is kind of stupid for a lot of people because it is worsen your life in a way so not that clever. You don't care about social codes, but being very thin is trying to obey the rules so much ?? I don't know

  • @kevindiment
    @kevindiment 19 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

    Merry Christmas

  • @moordt
    @moordt 23 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +4

    Isn't the common determinator the patriarchy?

    • @sunflwer1111
      @sunflwer1111 22 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

      Definitely a contributor.

  • @rubynizambeg9419
    @rubynizambeg9419 วันที่ผ่านมา

    You guys well explained this topic 💕

  • @AE1P
    @AE1P 17 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

    I don't generally comment (I prefer to watch your content and lurk lol), but with regard to P's theorising I feel compelled to interject.
    Overall it's a flawed framework that doesn't hold up when applied to other contexts, which Sadie pointed out, but I also don't think that P is entirely wrong in her observation that society uses the biological talking point as a justification for misogyny and homophobia. I'd see that as a symptom of a larger structural issue however, rather than a root cause.
    I have an academic background in theological history and I feel I should point out that P built her theory on an historically revised definition of "gluttony". The actual meaning of that term is the hoarding of wealth, thereby letting others perish in conditions of poverty while the glutton continues to live in comfort. The meaning was revised by European aristocracy to the definition that P used, in order to facilitate fuedal societal systems whose social order required serfs' complacency.
    Ironically, I should also mention that Proverbs 23:2 prescribes a very clear solution to gluttony/hoarding wealth: The glutton should un-al!ve himself - and if he is unwilling to do so, then those who have been oppressed by his gluttony have an obligation to do un-al!ve him themselves. This way, the glutton's undue wealth can be equitably redistributed to those in need. (Don't shoot the messenger, this is just what's written in the Bible! 😂)
    In other words, rich people in power changed the meaning from "hoarding wealth" to "eating too much" to prevent poor people from collectively rising up against the rich.
    I think understanding this history, and more to the point having an understanding of the history of our societal power dynamics, is instructive when it comes to searching for the root causes of all of our modern day "-isms". Because, while things have certainly gotten better, unfortunately not *that* much has changed from feudal society to now.

    • @SadieP
      @SadieP  8 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

      Wow! This is very profound thank you for your input! ✨💜

  • @7pe13
    @7pe13 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Merry Christmas guys 🧚🏻‍♂️🧚🏻‍♂️

  • @sunflwer1111
    @sunflwer1111 22 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

    16:08 Profound! 👏

  • @blackmachine8690
    @blackmachine8690 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    ❤ i love you xxx

  • @JamieG-b8z
    @JamieG-b8z 6 นาทีที่ผ่านมา

    Over time i have evolved out of that belief that we must procreate, instead lets meet people we have genuine connections with, if you procreate great, but lets be honest theres many people who arent ideal parent material. I have one living child, i do my best but there will be no more children. I have found some happiness, but it isnt everything. I wouldnt want the new generations believing that it is the answer to happiness.

  • @tang0m0m
    @tang0m0m 21 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    I have been hit on by younger people, those at least 20 or more years younger. They have told me (younger people) that "Age is just a number". I see more and more younger people say that same thing. I had a family member that was normal weight most of her life and them her thyroid started failing, she gained weight, it wasn't her fault, and it took time to find the proper treatment to help her. So this hate of these people is wrong as you never know what health issues they may have. We must look to history, way back, women who were plump were looked at as beautiful. Today we see more predigests because of Societal instilled opinions. We all should agree that hate in any form shouldn't be taught. We are not born judgmental. Gay, straight, we are all people, as long as you are not harming others, you should be able to live your life in happiness.

    • @tang0m0m
      @tang0m0m 21 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      You hit it on the nail... Be true to yourself, if you are not, then you harm yourself more than other could ever harm you.

  • @filmandphilosophy7884
    @filmandphilosophy7884 20 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

    Sadie is in the amberverse 😂 but i disagree with her, amber is a horrible person and she deserves most of the hate she gets.

    • @Staaaarrr0
      @Staaaarrr0 19 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

      Yes gorl. You can tell that she’s new in gorlworld 😭 Amber is the worst.

    • @SadieP
      @SadieP  8 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      Noooo why is she horrible???? Noone deserves that much hate 😭 (and yes i’m new 😋)

    • @Staaaarrr0
      @Staaaarrr0 7 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

      @@SadieP
      -She is an abusive girlfriend, which can also be seen in the vlogs she made (especially during the Krystal and Becky era).
      -She lied about being raped by her ex. (Her ex made an video about it.. she also hit her ex )
      -She constantly lies about the smallest things; she is a pathological liar.
      -She starts diets but can’t stick to them for longer than a week or so. Then she has excuses for why it didn’t work and gives up. It’s always the same cycle. She complains but never does anything about it. She says she wants to change things, but in the end, she never does. It’s so obvious that she doesn’t want to change.. over ten years of vlogs and she GAINED weight. Never really got help.. never really wanted it..
      -She’s a cheater. She admitted to being in love with her ex for 1.5 years while in another relationship (she confessed this during that relationship). She also cheated on her first girl friend.
      -After the break up with Becky, she publicly humiliated and treated her poorly in livestreams because her ego was hurt. Becky broke up. During the 2021 livestream era, her awful and abusive personality became especially apparent. For example, she admitted she fake cried when Becky proposed to her and that she never had feelings for her. That she settled for Becky.
      -She lied about her aunt cutting contact with her because of her weight. Amberlynn admitted in a later video that this was a lie because her aunt confronted her after seeing the video.
      -She was totally abusive to her ex, Krystal. She filmed her even tho Krystal clearly didn’t want to be filmed and even recorded her on the toilet. She did the same to her other ex, Destiny. (Filming while she was in the bathroom)
      -She mistreated her pets. She once threw her cat and she didn’t trim her dog’s nails. Recently, she drove 16 hours to see her new girlfriend, Emily, and brought her three pets (a dog and two cats) along instead of leaving them at home. Everyone advised against this because it’s obvious the animals would be under extreme stress. She could have found a solution for her pets to stay at home, but no-Amberlynn is selfish and took them anyway. The worst part? One morning, she left the patio door open, and one of her cats escaped and has been missing ever since. She “searched” for the cat for a few days, but after about a week, Amberlynn drove the 16 hours back home without her cat.
      What I’m trying to say is that Amberlynn is a narcissist who only thinks about herself. It’s hard to write everything down here. As you can see, the list is already long, lol.
      Her new girlfriend is also a feeder. All her viewers quickly figured this out through research and warned Amberlynn, but she doesn’t want to listen, even though there’s evidence everywhere! The girlfriend’s name is Emily, and in April or May, she lost her ex-wife… who weighed 1,000 pounds. Emily even spoke at her ex-wife’s funeral, and a month later, she got together with Amberlynn. It’s obvious that Amberlynn is Emily’s fetish. Since meeting Emily, Amberlynn has also gained weight but refuses to admit Emily is a feeder. (They’ve been together since June or July.)
      There’s so much to talk about-just watch the documentaries by the Snowflake channel where everything is summarized. The "Shaped by the Algorithm" series is great for people new to this, lol. There are also many videos exposing Amberlynn’s lies, “mean girl moments,” or titles like “Amberlynn Reid: The Nightmare Girlfriend.” And „amberlynns lies or lahs“ Once you dive in, I’m sure you’ll understand why she has the reputation she does.

  • @rumeysaylmaz9754
    @rumeysaylmaz9754 วันที่ผ่านมา

    ı miss your turkısh video

  • @rumeysaylmaz9754
    @rumeysaylmaz9754 วันที่ผ่านมา

    türkçe video çek artık özlendin

  • @nonylcadelina
    @nonylcadelina วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    🎄🎄🎄🎄🙏🎉🎉🤟👌🏳️‍🌈🌈😊