PDA in Japan VS America [Public Displays of Affection between intercultural couples]
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 8 ก.ย. 2024
- Ever wonder about the differences between PDA (Public Displays of Affection) in Japan and America?
We tried to be serious in this video. We really did. But, you know... oh well. I hope we were able to shed (a little) light on the subject of the differences of PDA in Japan and America!
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I know all those feels! Sometimes I like to tease Jun by giving him a quick kiss on the cheek when we're on an escalator or something. He gets super embarrassed but he still smiles. :D
-Rachel
Rachel & Jun That's adorable~ Hahaha.
Jun are so adorable.....
Public Displays of Affection are so important when comes to the moment that makes you feel grateful to be together you should act on it and not bottle up you emotions conservatively if the one you love says something sweet in the moment or your feeling that gratitude that they are yours in that moment then a kiss is like a reward that only couples can give each other. You know what I feel is the most adorable thing in the world more then puppies and kitties and babies and that's sweet old couples holding hands and cuddling exchanging a quick kisses cause it makes you feel... kind of envious right?
"Do we make your friends uncomfortable with our PDA?"
"NO, we are cute. We are adorable."
BEST PART
YES
lol right when I read you mr comment they had said it XD
+Sophie Hastings I died XD
"HA!"
5:36
his conviction
No, " we're cute, we're *adorable*"
Oh my days, Ryosuke just absentmindedly playing with Grace's hair is probably the cutest thing I've ever seen!
it is one of the most precious things I've seen in a long time!
Agreed!!
"No, we are cute, we are adorable" NAWWWW
Leow Yeyi Yeaaaaahhhh~
Min 5:23 when Grace makes his husband malfunction for a couple of seconds 😂😂😂😂
His?
Ophie, some languages don't have different pronouns like "her" and "him", they only use one pronoun for everybody. :) It can be a very common mistake when English isn't your native language.
You guys renew my faith in humanity, keep up the great work, may the new years bring you both happiness and health:)
+Little Angelica Awww That is so sweet! Thank you!!
"We are cute, we are adorable... Ha!"
Yes. Yes guys are ^///^
" no we are cute, we are adorable! "
When I was in Tokyo a few years ago, I saw a high school couple totally MACKING on the train. The guy was pushing the girl up against the barrier thing next to the door, putting his leg in between hers and everything. Me and my Japanese friend were like ._. It was a sight unseen in Japan before that and I basically never saw that outside my own high school in Canada. What was funny though was my Japanese friend turned to me and said she wished she had a boyfriend who would do that.
hikkipedia Woah dang. How rare. I'm sure everyone felt madly uncomfortable...
Sound about normal to me. Lol I guess I'm just a weird one.
"We are cute....we are adorable...ha!" You guys are too perfect for each other! Oshie Dot Xx
"Do we make your friends uncomfortable?"
"No we are adorable HA!"
I don't like PDA and I'm American lol I think it just depends on what kind of PDA. My boyfriend understands how I don't like kissing and being overly lovey dovey in front of my friend because I don't want her to feel uncomfortable. If it's just the two of us in public, a quick kiss or holding hands is okay, but couples who straight out make out and are almost on top of each other in public is gross to me lol nobody wants to see that xD
Same here in central Europe. When it happens, it is akward for all people seeing it.
I so agree. I'm an American too but PDA at a certain point I can't stand. Hugging and holding hands in public, maybe not even holding hands, is what I could stand in public. Cuddling I might not mind if I see it in public but kissing and being the typical overly lovey dovey I can't stand. PDA is way overused in my high school. I see couples being all mushy lovey dovey. Not that it's bad to a certain point but it's like making out kissing and that. I personally feel that that stuff just makes people uncomfortable and maybe even jealous and there has to be that certain order. I don't want to upset people anymore that Japan feels. I understand their standards and when I do move there for my career and settle down, I will definitely tell my future partner about how I feel about PDA. You know, compromise. Very important indeed. Although maybe hiding hands wouldn't be a too bad thing, even for Japan standards but yet again, I'm not fully aware of that.
I wouldn't be able to marry a japanese guy because I'm hispanic and we are all about hugs and kisses. Like seriously when you go to someone house it would be rude if you don't go around the house you are visiting and give everyone a hug and a kiss. Lol.
Marifer Jimenez I knowwww. But some people eventually warm up to PDA :D
Texan in Tokyo lol, ya I guess. Still, I think it would be so akward at first.
Though i am not a dude, it is quite the same with some girls like myself.
***** same here lol
***** really? Cuz I don't mind, anctually I like giving hugs and kisses to family or family friends (I know it sounds weird but for me it makes me feel confortable/happy like I'm around people that I can trust, or something like that). Lol. But I can see how that could be akward.
Ugg. It drives me nuts that people in the US expect PDA between couples. I don't mind people holding hands, and hugs are always great, and quick little kisses on a cheek or forehead are okay, but I'm not keen and riding the train home and the couple behind me starts making noisy kisses. And no one should be expected to kiss or cuddle in public if they don't want to.
***** True. I guess that would strike people as being rude or like 'what, don't you like her?"
Genisay
j alex ?
I don't expect it and don't feel comfortable with it, but then again, I'm in odd ball in this country.
This video is very interesting, thank you! You guys are so adorable! ^.^
Thanks :)
+Texan in Tokyo you're welcome :)
+Texan in Tokyo seriously you guys are such a great couple
You guys are so cute together! Speaking of PDA: It was so cute to see your husband playing with your hair! Love it!
Inter-cultural marriages are a lot of fun if you can overcome the differences. There will never be a dull moment in your life! Hahaha! And if you do find a low point in your marriage, just think about why you want to be with that person the first place! Forget about PDA. Just remember don't ever go to bed angry.
You two are ADORABLE!
Keiko Weaver Awwwww THANK YOU!
Damn, I didn't realize I still have you guys in my list of TH-cam people.... hope you're doing well and so glad these videos are still up for us to see Japan through your eyes. Thank you for all this happiness, much needed :)
UGHHHHHHHH YOU GUYS ARE SO CUTE.
I FEEL LIKE I'M DYING.
No but seriously, never change. I love watching you two be lovey dovey. It's heartwarming. I love how you guys seem to be best friends as well as lovers. :]
BlackAuras Hahahah. Awwww, thanks!
"Do we make your friends in Japan uncomfortable?"
"Oh no, we're cute, we're adorable."
OMG YES YOU ARE
This was a great video! You two are just adorable. I'm married to an American, but he's kind of shy so when we were dating it took us a long time to hold hands, touch, kiss, etc. in public. Before I met him I did date a few other people in college. One of them was a guy from China. I remember the first time walking down the street and grabbing his hand when it was a very crowded day because I was afraid I was going to lose track of him in the crowd. He stopped so suddenly, it jerked me to a halt. I looked back at him, and he had this shocked goofy grin on his face. I said, "Oh I'm sorry, was I not supposed to do that?" And he just kept grinning, shook his head no, held my hand tighter, and kept walking. I found out later from other friends that casual touching wasn't a very common thing to do in China. That never occurred to me, but he seemed genuinely thrilled about it so I just kept doing it. Eventually he had to go back home to China, and we didn't keep up the relationship. I do wonder about him sometimes though, and if he remembers me fondly.
Jill C Awwww... that's oddly sweet.
It's so interesting to hear about different cultures (and different love stories between people from different cultures).
I'm sure he remembers you fondly~
"No we are cute, we are adorable :D" idk why that had me laughing xD
analivita He says funny things~
You guys are the most adorable couple ever, but I'm sure that's not the first time someone has told you that. :)
haylz27 Hahaha, thanks :)
We try~
You two are so sweet to watch! I love how Ryosuke makes funny faces whenever you look at the camera, and then makes normal face when you look at him.
Lol 5:40 "No. We are cute. We are adorable." You guys are adorable:)
一四九プライムっち hahahaha, thanks :)
I LOVE the PDA that's in this video! Putting arms around each other, him playing with your hair, etc. LOVE IT. It makes me so happy!
Only 5 minutes in and I'm busting up laughing about him making faces and being silly. It's just so funny and real.
omg you guys are so cute, I couldn't stop giggling like an idiot XD
Ryosuke just cracks me up! He's so cute and funny!
I can sort of understand the aversion to PDA. I myself have never been a big fan of having to witness people kissing and cuddling in public. I don't know why, but it just makes me a little uncomfortable. And I also don't participate in too much PDA. I'll hug my boyfriend, hold hands with him, and sit close to him in public, but I always feel like people are staring at us if we start kissing and cuddling. And that's not the kind of attention that I want.
But not everyone is as shy as I am, so I can understand how a negative reaction to PDA might come as a shock to them. Especially if they come from somewhere where public displays of affection are generally accepted as the norm and might even be encouraged.
Well, this reply ended up being longer than I intended. Excellent video and really informative for anyone who didn't know about the difference between Japanese and western PDA standards! And I'm looking forward to reading your book!
americanfairy Thanks for such a thorough reply~I completely agree. Seeing people kiss or make out or like sit on each others laps in public makes me feel uncomfortable
You guys are literally too cute! I can't help but smile and laugh whenever I watch your videos!
The way I feel about PDA is it's gross when it's obvious that the couple is just showing off, but if they're in their own little world, it's fine. My girlfriend and I don't censor ourselves, but we don't make out in public or anything.
It's been 2.5 years since you stopped uploading to TH-cam and this video was recommended to me again. It's amazing how the algorithm works. This is one of the subs I've had for years and will never let go of, even though the channel is inactive. :)
This is cuteness overlord!! OuO
I always thought in any country including north America you will have PDA conflicts
Overload *
SilentVoiceCrow Hahaha, thanks :)
You two make me laugh. We are headed to Japan in March from Oregon and we started watching you. Educational and funny, good times!
Cute couple!!! ^^ Best wishes!!! Thanks for the video/info! ^^
+Ferki The Werewolf Thanks!!
lol this guy is such a riot
The best PDA was the Palm Pilot. Apple Newton was good too.
Oh my gosh! You two are THE most adorable couple EVER! Love this video by the way! I already knew PDA in japan was 'taboo!' But this was just super cute and explained a bit more!
I'm half Puerto Rican and I grew up kissing everyone on the cheek to say hello and good bye . So when I moved from the east coast (USA) to the north west ( what to me was a really small town) people were like wtf r you doing? Lol
locrazychick10 Hahahaha, I can totally see that happening.
I totally agree with you people give me the craziest looks when i say hi with a kiss .. It's so normal in our culture 😂
ikr
You guys are absolutely adorable n goals! Loving one another goofy and all :3 Love you guys!
So in other words, someone from Japan should never date someone from Argentina or Brazil, as hugging and kissing is very common there.
so explain why there are so many mix brazilian/japanese?
LadyNikitaShark .... Opposites attract.
If opposites attract, then why do birds of a feather flock together?
Xerxesjc28 ... because they are birds... not humans. In other words, small-minded or simple-minded people need information-bias and opinion/perception-confirmation to feel good about themselves, and ergo feel comfortable around others.
So things like hobbies, political views, & demographics can put you on a different side of someone else, and yet you can totally like and respect that person.
The only things you really need in common, is when it comes to the things that matter, like morals, values, character, and strongly held belief systems... and your general attitude towards people and life.
But you can be different nationalities, have different political affiliations, have different native languages, be from different classes (rich vs poor), and even have completely different hobbies. But if you both care for one another, respect one another, and value each other's differences... then those differences will make life more interesting, and enrich your relationship. :)
Sorry, not sure if picked up on the joke I was making. I was making fun of the fact that idioms often contradict each other like if "opposites attract" then why do "Birds of a feather flock together? Or another example, why should "one look before you leap" if "he who hesitates is lost"?
LMFAO his face at like 5:40 omg he is hilarious! See, I knew I made a good choice in subscribing yesterday!
omg this was adorable! THe ending reminded me of several incidents where my Japanese teacher tried to speak Spanish and then French then accidentally spoke Italian. Ah...good times. Stay awesome!
afsmeg Thanks! :)
Hahahaha
I just wanted to say that you guys are so cute and this video is great and informative as to the difference between cultures. Thanks!
you two are so great together i'm always smiling and sometimes laughing watching your videos
I just bought all three of your comicbooks on kindle you guys are so cute!!! I rarely smile and I smiled through the whole video. My husband and I are super affectionate and we dream of coming to Japan one day so good to know these things so we do not make anyone uncomfortable. We PDA all over the place. LOL
+Sister Discordia Hahahah thanks! And I hope y'all have fun in Japan!!!
What about displays of affection between mothers and children? My son is severely Autistic and very sweet and affectionate with me. He is BIG now (a teenager), but he is still like a very little boy in his mind. He loves cuddles and hugs and kisses and he likes to smell me also. How would something like that go over in Japan since it's not a romantic type of PDA, but rather affection between mother and child? Thanks. Y'all are so stinking cute together. :)
That would be different for sure. Not an issue. They would probably think its sweet. Hope this helps
Does your son demand chicken tendies?
You two are so entertaining, I love hearing y'all talk about relationship differences! I hope y'all do similar topics in the future! Thanks guys!
Amanda Nanda Thanks! :)
You guys are HILARIOUS!!! So funny, I giggled for the whole video! ^_^
plyric Thanks :D
So I just subscribed to your channel and thumbed up your videos in order to help you out a bit, basically I really like listening to your relationship and just basically how everything goes with you guys. Maybe because I am an Irish / American male and my wife is Japanese. We have been married for 16 years and have 2 kids together as well. We do things a little different but same as well, it is fun to see others go through with what I do. Anyways looking fwd to your next videos, take care and have fun.
"Ryosuke's two older siblings are both married (with kids)" I fastly read and didn't pay much attention to what it really meant, so I first understood Ryosuke's siblings were married with children lol (but then, I understood they had children).
And Ryosuke is sooo funny with his faces XD
New sub and current Texan here! I adore you two! You both are so refreshing and wonderful to watch, a very awesome pick me up! Love your videos and everything about ya'll!
I am from America and I've never liked PDA in public. Its awkward most of the time.
I feel even more awkward when I see it in Japan (yes I live in Japan). I was standing in line waiting for a ride at Tokyo Disney Sea with my friend. The couple in front of us was a foreign couple and they were snuggling, holding hands, kissing at times, etc. I was so afraid the people around us thought we were with them because I was a foreigner too. So I actually tapped them on the shoulder and asked them as polity as I could to stop until the ride is over. They looked shocked and asked me why. I replied because your making everyone uncomfortable.
you guys are really cute together. I really loved the scenes where Ryosuke was trolling you. That was adorable!
you guys are super cute together
liviestar365 thanks :)
seriously, ya'll are so cute!! (fellow texan here!!!) your channel tandomly popped up in my feed with the tofu skin video and I'm so glad it did! :D ♡♡
I love the ending when he says "See I just proved I can't count."
FluffyCrimson He's adorable, right?
Texan in Tokyo So much! and like thanks for replying. :) Not many people do that you both are great!
It's so cute how he started playing with her hair at 4:12! X)
"We are cute, we are adorable HAA!" found that so funny xD
You guys are so freaking cute!! I've only recently come onto your channel, but you two are officially my favorite couple, I'm just in love with you guys haha. Seriously, just playing a video or two of you guys and my mood and day is instantly better.
my boyfriend (japanese) doesnt wanna do any PDA in front of someone he knows, but the moment theyre out of sight he doesnt have any problem with it. We kiss good bye and hello, hold hands and everything, but its also something that he got used to gradually. he definitely wouldnt be doing it if his girlfriend was japanese.
Diana Stefankova That makes sense. I think Ryosuke is the same way. And it took close to 1.5 years for Ryosuke to be ok with extended hugs in public...
Favorite late night food vendors you two enjoy. And great job on the video hahah it was a fun watch.
***** Thanks! :)
I think it's so cute that he was playing with your hair during the video :)
My husband is Taiwanese and I think it's definitely not as common as it is in the US. He doesn't like to kiss me in public but holding hands is totally okay. However, inside our house, we kiss like 15-20 times a day (maybe more actually haha).
When I studied abroad in Japan, I was dating a Japanese guy and while he wouldn't even hold my hand in public, when we separated on the train, he discretely blew me a kiss so my heart swooned. But that's as close as I got to any PDA in Japan, haha.
Anyways you two are so cute! I love your videos. Thanks for sharing your experiences :)
daichukiii Awww, that's really cute :) Hah.
I love this channel. It's cool learning about the culture and the differences from the perspective of another American living there. Also! Ryoksuke is hilarious! Such a cool guy and these two make such a cute couple!
I found out PDA is ok at NIGHT.. pretty much anywhere as long as it's not daytime. I honestly get more embarrassed than they do about the PDA) Not just at clubs or Shinjuku either, Ueno at night is a popular date/makeout spot for old and young people alike which threw me off guard my first night in Japan.
The guy I'm currently talking to tells me I'm too Japanese because I freak out about PDA, haha, he wants to hug and kiss in front of everyone - anytime/anywhere, even in front of parents. He's 29 so I don't think its an age thing, it's a personal choice thing.
Ya'll are so fun and adorable. I enjoy watching your interactions.Now I have to go check out your comic!
Malia000 Thank you :) I hope you like them!
Wow, I think my boyfriend and your husband might be twins... My boyfriend is the practical joker and constantly teasing me too, and when he laughs his face looks like he's laughing at the funniest joke in the world. Though he tries to tickle me forgetting I'm not ticklish but he's extremely susceptible then usually keeps yelling kusuguruttai till I stop.
As for PDA my partner adjusted very quickly to Australian style, and these days even I sometimes am embarrassed if he shows it too strongly. I was a bit worried about what it will be like when I move to Japan with him but you made my day when Ryosuke said "it's fine they think we're cute".
Melanie Hill Hahaha. Awwww, that sounds so sweet :)
Gha. I love jokers. It's tons of fun being married to one.
Hopefully it won't be weird/awkward when/if you move to Japan!
Hey guys, I just stumbled onto your channel and immediately subscribed- you two are freaking adorable!
Spooky thanks! :)
I think cuddling in line is kind of gross ?? (I'm from CA)... there's something about that comes off as "showing off" or exhibitionist. duno, it just seems sleazy to me euggh. i've read that hugging in Japan is considered a romantic/sexual act the same way kissing is, as opposed to ever being just platonic, so that may be a part of the reason, too?
SelphieFairy I think that's a very odd train of thought for an American. I figured you'd be desensitized. I guess it depends on the amount of cuddling for me. If I see a couple lying on top of each other on the ground, then that's uncomfortable. I don't sit on my partner's lap when people are around because I know some people find that uncomfortable to be around. But if a couple just has their arms around each other, then I don't think it's a big deal.
Miranda Pring well if it's just like... arms on the shoulders (or doing that side hug thing lmao), that's ok. but if they're facing each other like they're gonna make out or doing like really long hugging, it seems kind of too much.
SelphieFairy I love that you brought this up! It bothers me too! More often than not, though, it bothers me when it happens at the coffee shop where I work. I have to wait for people to stop cuddling/kissing in order to order their drink. It's gross and inconvenient/waste of time....couldn't they wait until they sat down to cuddle? hahaha
A family friend once said, "People who make out in public are the ones who usually cheat." That line will always make me laugh, but also think, because he also explained that those are the types who have to act like they have to prove they're in love in generic ways and show it off.
"This is why we can't have nice things" LOL!!
You guys are adorable and funny. Thank you for all your amazing videos, I love them.
Ryosuke's faces give me life
One word: ADORABLE! You two are undeniably and truly adorable
Wow you two are so cute together 😊
Ryosuke spanish was perfect! I understood everything "Uno, Dos, Tres" "Hola, cómo estás" LOL :D I love your videos. You're really cute together :)
YosoyMariana thanks :)
He tries~
YOU TWO ARE SO FREAKING CUTE!!!!
BlankPicketSign Thanks :D
Haha, i love the blogs with you two, you guys are so cute. And I ordered your book! Even though it was temporarily out of stock lmao.
Sozzzled Oh noooo~ Hahaha. Shoot. I hope it gets stocked soon!
"No, we're cute, were adorable" lol
Amethyst Kindle Exactly~
that was so cute, he didn't know what PDA was. i thought it was strange since someone told me it was more common for girl friends to hold hands rather than a couple to hold hands. very informative, nice little stories
***** thanks :)
PDA is different depening on the country, I guess.
Grace and Ryosuke= couple goals
you guys are adorable! :33 I'm going to japan this summer for 2 weeks and 2 weeks in korea for a study abroad !
you guys are sooooo adorable!!!💗💗💗
You guys are adorable/hilarious. This was an interesting video and Ryosuke had a good point about learning what is appropriate by watching TV shows!
I am not usually one to gush over couples, but you two are so damn cute. Had me smiling.
Sebastian Fangirl Awww Thanks~! I am glad we made you smile :D (Ryosuke)
Watching you I find myself with a great smile on my face.
3:22 Hahahaha this guy is awesome :')
Watching them together brings me joy
You guys are just the cutest couple!
Gemma Apps Awww Thanks :)
Love your videos And y'all's chemistry!! Such fun and informative topics :) hope to get your book soon! Best wishes from North Carolina
Mandab67 Hahahaha, awww Thanks :)
I hope you love the book!
I'm sorry Japan but my partner and I were PDA Offenders hahaha. We didn't know at first we thought a quick hug or kiss on the cheek was ok ( only did it when we thought people weren't around ) but for the most part we did hug and hold hands everywhere we went.
My wife who is Japanese and I'm American. We've been married a Year and been together as a couple for 10 years. Se moved here to Atlanta with me and we spend a lot of time in Japan (Tokyo) because of our business. She is very open and comfortable with PDA cuddling, holding hands, rubs on the back etc. She will even kiss me in public now. She was uncomfortable at first about kissing me hello or goodbye in public only in Japan, but she has no problem with it at all now. She loves the connection we are a very Lovey Dovey couple and she enjoys it and she doesn't care what others thinks we always say "It all begins and ends with us" Love your videos guys. Maybe Japanese men are more uncomfortable. Would be good to do a survey. Great job!!
keithandes1 Hah, that would be a fun survey. I've heard similar things from men who are married to Japanese women - as time progressed, their wife got more "into" PDA :)
It's really cute.
My boyfriend and I are white and when we were in Tokyo we were careful to keep our PDA to a minimum. Although I must say we are not very active anyway.
All my previous significant boyfriends and friend groups have been Asian American and there is no PDA there, so I got used to it. When you're in their parents' house you basically ignore one another.
Grace and Ryosuke I love you guys both : ) Bought your book Grace and I am going to give it to my 12 yr old niece. God bless you both and keep the videos coming.
This is really amusing! I really your videos guys ^_^ Ryosuke is so funny! making faces behind you Grace! well done guys and many greetings from Caracas~Venezuela...Muy bueno tu Esapañol Ryosuke :3
Nydia Díaz thanks :)He loves being silly in videos... hahaha
I noticed that >.
omg you guys are such dorks together i love it ;__; also the both of you are so lucky for each other
Hahahaha, Ryosuke is still so adorable x3 You're such a cute, lovely couple. I'm glad you know it :P (I started typing this comment before Ryosuke said it, haha.) Also, Ryosuke is a beautiful girl :B
"Are you still--?" "No." That was fast. XD
dakitticat thanks :)
We try~
I love you guys! I always have a great time learning with you.
I'm really starting to love this channel, so funny.
Spiffyman 30 awwww, thanks :)
I just found it like an hour ago too. Watching 6 tips for freelancing now.
Spiffyman 30 Oh yay. Enjoy~
Can you do a video on cultural family acceptances of one another? Like in American families I know when u marry someone else ur family is very accepting of ur husband/wife & will refer to them as daughter/son in law. What about in Japan? Do families come together as one, once a couple marries like they do in America? I hope I make sense : x
jessmayify Great idea! That would be a fun, future vlog!