It hurts us when disappointment comes in the form of a person. I got associated with that person and the thing didn't work out as per my expectation. That hurts. That hurts. That hurts because that is very obvious. The proof is very sensual, very large, very undeniable. You see that you got into a relationship, and you got into a relationship with a person. Why is it that we get into relationships, often into a series of relationships? Is it because those persons are extremely important or attractive? Or is it because we have a tendency to get related? Is it about them or about us? And if we have a tendency to quickly get attached or associated with somebody, then we will find some object from somewhere irrespective of the worth of the object. The one who gets attracted and attached to a man is probably also the one who has several other teeny-weeny attachments and identifications in her life. But because they are small, they don't get noticed. If you are dependent even on one small thing, rest assured that that tendency to be dependent, will make you dependent upon much larger things and many other things. Some of those things could be men, be cautious. If you are cautious on these matters, then you won't have to suffer in the so-called big matters. Before you crave for something, or in the middle of that craving, ask yourself "Is the thing really so important?" This question is miraculous. The moment you ask this question, you discover that nothing is really as important as we allow it to be. In other words, everything is only as important as we allow it to be. Value is not absolute. Not only is value relative. The more valuable something outside of you becomes to you, the more you have declared yourself to be desperately poor. If you cannot live without that thing, it only means that inside there is a big hollow. Catch these things when they exhibit themselves in small matters. Do not be particular of this or that. Do not say "I wear only red on Fridays" If you say "I do only this on that day, it is only a matter of discipline" It is more a matter of dependance. Do not let your inner welfare be conditional. If your inner sense of welfare is dependable of favorable external conditions, then it is a very sorry state to be in, no? Because conditions are never under our control. And I am saying "I will allow myself to feel allright only upon the fulfilment of such-and-such conditions." It is the nature of conditions to change. Conditions will fluctuate without your permission. And then what happens to your inner welfare? Its gone.And one feels so much at the mercy of the world. Instead of inner strength, one finds herself in a state of inner helplessness. And it is no good to live in a weak or debilitated way. The fundamental of all wisdom is to know that you are the totally in yourself. Indivisible totality. Non-dual totality. A relationship of dependence cannot be a healthy relationship. A relationship, in which the other becomes central to your well being, is not a welcome situation. In fact, the other that has become central to your well being, is he even worthy of offering you that wellness? Chances are that he might be seeking that wellness from you or from elsewhere. Do not let it become a deep rooted habit with you to get attached, to get identified, to obsess, to own, to posses. Live lightly through life. How could you stop the other from departing when you could not prevent even your old own self from departing. Remember your old self? The self that was 5, 10, 15, 20, 30, 45? Where are all those selves? They all left you. It was a breakup. They are all gone. And you could not stop them, so how could you stop the other? That's the nature of the physical universe. Nothing here can be stopped. No point trying.
Do we get into relationships because we find people so attractive or because we have a tendency to relate? Take care of your tendencies in small matters, so no big disappointments happen.
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It hurts us when disappointment comes in the form of a person. I got associated with that person and the thing didn't work out as per my expectation. That hurts.
That hurts. That hurts because that is very obvious. The proof is very sensual, very large, very undeniable. You see that you got into a relationship, and you got into a relationship with a person.
Why is it that we get into relationships, often into a series of relationships? Is it because those persons are extremely important or attractive? Or is it because we have a tendency to get related?
Is it about them or about us? And if we have a tendency to quickly get attached or associated with somebody, then we will find some object from somewhere irrespective of the worth of the object.
The one who gets attracted and attached to a man is probably also the one who has several other teeny-weeny attachments and identifications in her life. But because they are small, they don't get noticed.
If you are dependent even on one small thing, rest assured that that tendency to be dependent, will make you dependent upon much larger things and many other things. Some of those things could be men, be cautious. If you are cautious on these matters, then you won't have to suffer in the so-called big matters.
Before you crave for something, or in the middle of that craving, ask yourself "Is the thing really so important?" This question is miraculous. The moment you ask this question, you discover that nothing is really as important as we allow it to be.
In other words, everything is only as important as we allow it to be.
Value is not absolute. Not only is value relative. The more valuable something outside of you becomes to you, the more you have declared yourself to be desperately poor.
If you cannot live without that thing, it only means that inside there is a big hollow.
Catch these things when they exhibit themselves in small matters. Do not be particular of this or that. Do not say "I wear only red on Fridays"
If you say "I do only this on that day, it is only a matter of discipline" It is more a matter of dependance.
Do not let your inner welfare be conditional. If your inner sense of welfare is dependable of favorable external conditions, then it is a very sorry state to be in, no? Because conditions are never under our control.
And I am saying "I will allow myself to feel allright only upon the fulfilment of such-and-such conditions." It is the nature of conditions to change. Conditions will fluctuate without your permission. And then what happens to your inner welfare? Its gone.And one feels so much at the mercy of the world. Instead of inner strength, one finds herself in a state of inner helplessness. And it is no good to live in a weak or debilitated way.
The fundamental of all wisdom is to know that you are the totally in yourself. Indivisible totality. Non-dual totality.
A relationship of dependence cannot be a healthy relationship. A relationship, in which the other becomes central to your well being, is not a welcome situation.
In fact, the other that has become central to your well being, is he even worthy of offering you that wellness? Chances are that he might be seeking that wellness from you or from elsewhere.
Do not let it become a deep rooted habit with you to get attached, to get identified, to obsess, to own, to posses. Live lightly through life.
How could you stop the other from departing when you could not prevent even your old own self from departing.
Remember your old self? The self that was 5, 10, 15, 20, 30, 45? Where are all those selves? They all left you. It was a breakup. They are all gone. And you could not stop them, so how could you stop the other?
That's the nature of the physical universe. Nothing here can be stopped. No point trying.
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Very well defined. Focused on minute details which are very essential
Very rightly said acharya ji ❤️❤️🙏 blessed
Thank you, Acharya Ji.
No words Acharya ji .🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
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Heart is beating outside of u, 💡
hats off to you sir🙏
Nothing and nobody has an absolute value on its own.
Do we get into relationships because we find people so attractive or because we have a tendency to relate? Take care of your tendencies in small matters, so no big disappointments happen.
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