Whoa. Your message here shocked me. I can allow my body to exist without loving it. It feels like a much easier first step to take. It takes the wind out of the part of me that hates my body. Amazing message. Thank you!
I'm full of shame about my body and you have put into words the way I've felt for 20 years, in that I feel my body doesn't deserve to take up space. It's an exhausting place to be. Thank you for being the first person I've envountered who really understands, and thank you for sharing an alternative way of thinking. I will try this approach and although it will still be challenging I'm ever hopeful. Your honesty and sharing of your own vulnerabilities is much appreciated, thank you. 🙏🏻
Just found your channel the other day after I was about to quit intuitive eating and return to dieting. Thank you so much for your content. I’ve never found anyone so relatable with so much common sense that verbalizes my living experience better than I could. I had no idea so many of my thoughts around food and body are universal. Thank you for your content. I will try to learn from your courage and start doing many of the things I have been putting off. I hope your trip went well.
I've been binging (pun not intended) on Sarah's videos for days now and it just happened to me, too. poor body of mine and all the shame and hate and torture I inflicted on it. I do go to therapy and it helps, but it doesn't do magic of course. I'm not sure that I will ever be able to accept my body as it is, but maybe I can try to allow it to just..well..be.
I only found your channel a few weeks ago and since then have watched many of your videos. I’ve seen your sensitivity, professionalism, and excellent advice in a great many of them. But this one…this takes my breath away. Your words go straight to the core of my existence: I don’t have to accept my body, but I do have to allow myself, as is, to exist and to take up space in the world. I know that intellectually, but emotionally it’s a different story. I need to discover how to allow myself to be. Your words are profound. Thank you so very much.
This reframing of the words acceptance to allowance makes all the difference. It's like what I heard you mention when I first started following you (and this is a rough paraphrase), word things to fit where you are now and reassess later to either change words or stay. Baby steps to the goal. I can't wait to hear your feedback on your retreat. I know good will come from it. Do you realize how you've changed since starting these videos? I've seen you go from a bit timid but warm and haltingly funny to animated, confident, engaging, fully humorous, able to laugh out loud and deliver the intended message in a very real pointed way! It's been a pleasure seeing your growth in your endeavor to help others/me.
Ah thanks Lorri. Yeah, I look at my early videos and I think so look like a deer in the headlights! It’s not that I’ve changed, I’ve just become more relaxed and less self-conscious in front of the camera which has allowed the real ‘me’ to come through for y’all 🤣🤣
I would say that my body image problem is the bigger battle over food issues but definitely see their connectedness. I have achieved my goal weight 3x in my life. On the upswing now and each time has been different. Now dealing with menopause for more complexity. Anyway, my body felt so good those 3x. Thats the part I cant let go of.
Thank you for this video, you are extremely good at explaining things and concepts to us and giving helpful advice in a motivating way. Keep doing those helpful videos, especially body image and feeling your feelings.😊
May I please say that I write this comment with tears in my eyes. You and your videoes have been there for me for my darkest period of my life for the last three years. This video is literally what I needed - today I will pull my yoga mat and give it my best. Most respects madam, thank you for being the kindest person out there. If you hold so thing in New Delhi, I'd love to meet you. Rab rakka. Antra -(F, 38), New Delhi, India ❤🇮🇳🏳️🌈
Yes. I would like to see a woman in her 40s, with decades of binge/restrict, who has experienced anorexic tendencies and overeating, and over/under exercising, who has been 110lbs to nearly 300lbs, who’s finally in recovery for a couple years, with loose skin and flab as a result of all past behaviors, whose set point might be around 190lbs or so. I love Sarah’s content… but I haven’t seen that, regardless of age actually. That would help me. ❤️✨
I am 70 yrs old and have always felt my body is ugly. Suffered all my life. Bulimia I've had since youth.Always excised to extreme. Had a full gastric by pass 20 yrs ago and still struggling with weight. I went to slimming clubs all my life I finally gave up this year as why am I paying somebody to tell me I'm fat and only cares about How many bums on seats in club. This year I have tried to except my body I have the odd good day and more bad day excepting.
Sending you a hug. I understand,I have struggled my whole life as well and I have lost weight and gained weight so many times. I have done absolutely everything to lose weight. I have struggled with self loathing. I struggle to except my body but I am proud of you for trying to find a place of self acceptance,even with good and bad days you are trying. I wish you well on your journey xx
I love this video! I have started facing my binge eating and my body stuff after more than forty years of struggling. I love the concepts of intuitive eating. 'Body allowance' is a great way for me to keep getting fit for a tramp I want to do with my family in April next year. Thank you Sarah for your insightful, helpful material and sharing your personal experience.
You are a peach and I absolutely love peaches in all forms. Thank you. I'm comforted in knowing our paths have crossed. OK so sometimes technology is positive.
Thank you so much. I just discovered your channel. This makes so much sense as do your other videos, and is exactly my experience with IE. Your approach is a far better fit for me, using but tweaking and rewording the principles of IE. Your video on allowing all foods and permission to eat is so on the mark for me as well. I too need to have some structure and caveats with that idea. Again, thank you.
Thank you for this 💕. I am truly thankful for stumbling across your channel. I have been struggling with BED for a little over 20 years and purging the last 3-4 years of my life. I feel like I have stumbled across your channel and you for a reason. Thank you for what you do. I mean that wholeheartedly. I truly wish you the best. 💙💚
Thank you for sharing this Sarah! Allowance is definitley easier sounding than acceptance. If you can go to India in light of all this, I think can go on a family vacation next week (one of my many when/thens)! I look forward to taking your yoga class, whenever or wherever that will be 🙏🧘♀️💜
Thank you Sarah for doing this video inspite of what you are experiencing at the moment. I hope you are feeling well today. Sending you so much love! ♥️♥️♥️
Sarah, this video (and your others) are so wonderful. I hope you had a good time on the yoga retreat. The writer Kate Manne in her latest book Unshrinking has a similar idea to body allowance which she refers to as "body reflexivity". xx
Wow, that makes me choke up. I wish I could actually see you... After all these years of making progress, now dealing with a broken body (MS), constant pain and failing me, that is a really, really sore spot. I am angry with my body, because now I lose all the things that I used to do to get through triggers, no more walking through the forest [or walking period], no more writing to others or journaling, no more dancing and so on. But my belief in God is keeping me fighting, just wish it was not such a struggle...
Amen sister! Unsolicited advice alert: go to the yoga retreat, your life is now! Isn't everyone just thinking about themselves and how they look anyways? Go for Sarah the way Sarah is now. She is beautiful, smart and ultimately...am certain it'll provide new insights to provide to us on your channel here channel here ') for the rest of us. Thanks for the great video. Wish I could meet you in India and join you I would love it
OK, I kind of get it. But it's so complicated. Can you dumb it down, and be more succinct with your amazing helpful advice. Found you gals about 3-4 months back. Thank you so much.
❤ wow! So motivational! P.s. Sarah, I started to see a doctor a couple of weeks ago, and I showed him your book. He speaks english too but he asked me if your book is in spanish. I told him "I think is only in english version". Is it possible to find your book in other languages or only in english?
@@TheBingeEatingTherapist Well, he doesn't have any problem to read it because He knows english. I believe he asked about the spanish version because he was thinking about his other patients. Have a great week. 🥰
Hi Sarah, I would love to know what your thoughts are on treating binge eating like how one would treat an alcoholic. Whenever, I stay away from trigger foods completely, I do not binge. It's only when I allow myself a little bit of those trigger foods that I fall back into the binge eating cycles. There was a period of time that I was eating a ketogenic diet and I completely lost all my cravings for trigger foods.... however, I participated in a retirement party and had some cake and that was it....I fell back into my binge eating cycles.
This is possibly one of my favourite podcast episodes we’ve done and it’s on this very subject. Let me know what you think: th-cam.com/video/HmtkFgG8AnY/w-d-xo.html
@@TheBingeEatingTherapist thanks Sarah! I watched it and I understand where you are coming from as far as not promoting abstinence if it's not working... however, you can say the same thing about an alcoholic that keeps falling off the wagon and starts over again. It doesn't matter how often you fail, you get back up again and try the abstinence and next time you are more aware of the triggers and try to avoid them. For example, I found out that drinking wine with a meal triggers carb cravings for me. Now I stay away from wine as well as sugar and bread. It is not easy and definitely not socially accepted for one to not consume carbs but I have never binged on protein or fat.....so in my mind I think the enemy is the carb and I see myself as a carbaholic. However, I do think that everyone is different and what might work for one person will not work for another. I also want to mention that I totally agree with your opinion regarding body positivity. I have just started following your channel and I appreciate your content. Thanks!
@@RoyaDani That's an interesting point you make. I guess for me (and I appreciate that my personal experience creates a bias) I found that chasing abstinence made my bingeing worse than ever, because it kept triggering last supper eating. I would 'blow it' and then feel compelled to eat all the foods I could because I was always starting over. I had to undo this psychological loop in order to recover. My experience was that my bingeing calmed down a lot (didn't completely vanish) when I knew I could have the food again and I wasn't being triggered by perceived future deprivation. You are absolutely right though, people's experiences aren't the same and up for anything alternative approaches to this that brings people freedom and peace ❤
Maybe there is a different lesson to learn besides Yoga. God works like that , ya know.I’m from the USA and I have been to India. A friend of mine went to India and got a Yoga certification. She loved it. I really wasn’t a fan of India. I had culture shock bad! I hope you are like my friend and love it. The traffic was so scary to me.
@@lisaaamoun3520 Oh I think I learned some lessons!! I’m actually half Indian and have been to India before and still managed to get a massive culture shock. I did a couple of videos about it when I came back. If you are interested I’ll drop the links
@@TheBingeEatingTherapist I'm late to the party but only transphobes say that cis is an offensive term. Kind of like in the 90s when people said that they weren't straight they were normal.
Whoa. Your message here shocked me. I can allow my body to exist without loving it. It feels like a much easier first step to take. It takes the wind out of the part of me that hates my body. Amazing message. Thank you!
Exactly. I always felt like acceptance was giving up. I don’t want to give up I want to do better.
I'm full of shame about my body and you have put into words the way I've felt for 20 years, in that I feel my body doesn't deserve to take up space. It's an exhausting place to be. Thank you for being the first person I've envountered who really understands, and thank you for sharing an alternative way of thinking. I will try this approach and although it will still be challenging I'm ever hopeful.
Your honesty and sharing of your own vulnerabilities is much appreciated, thank you. 🙏🏻
Just found your channel the other day after I was about to quit intuitive eating and return to dieting. Thank you so much for your content. I’ve never found anyone so relatable with so much common sense that verbalizes my living experience better than I could. I had no idea so many of my thoughts around food and body are universal.
Thank you for your content. I will try to learn from your courage and start doing many of the things I have been putting off. I hope your trip went well.
When you said your body is allowed to take up space and be here, it made me cry. I need to work on this.
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I've been binging (pun not intended) on Sarah's videos for days now and it just happened to me, too. poor body of mine and all the shame and hate and torture I inflicted on it. I do go to therapy and it helps, but it doesn't do magic of course. I'm not sure that I will ever be able to accept my body as it is, but maybe I can try to allow it to just..well..be.
I only found your channel a few weeks ago and since then have watched many of your videos. I’ve seen your sensitivity, professionalism, and excellent advice in a great many of them. But this one…this takes my breath away. Your words go straight to the core of my existence: I don’t have to accept my body, but I do have to allow myself, as is, to exist and to take up space in the world. I know that intellectually, but emotionally it’s a different story. I need to discover how to allow myself to be. Your words are profound. Thank you so very much.
I feel very moved by your comment. I'm so glad my content is speaking to you in such a profound way ❤🩹
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just thank you
LAWD Sarah! That step closer to the camera just set me off! I'm in weeping !!!! Thank you thank you thank you for your work!
This reframing of the words acceptance to allowance makes all the difference. It's like what I heard you mention when I first started following you (and this is a rough paraphrase), word things to fit where you are now and reassess later to either change words or stay. Baby steps to the goal. I can't wait to hear your feedback on your retreat. I know good will come from it. Do you realize how you've changed since starting these videos? I've seen you go from a bit timid but warm and haltingly funny to animated, confident, engaging, fully humorous, able to laugh out loud and deliver the intended message in a very real pointed way! It's been a pleasure seeing your growth in your endeavor to help others/me.
Ah thanks Lorri. Yeah, I look at my early videos and I think so look like a deer in the headlights! It’s not that I’ve changed, I’ve just become more relaxed and less self-conscious in front of the camera which has allowed the real ‘me’ to come through for y’all 🤣🤣
@@TheBingeEatingTherapist ❤
That retreat sounds terrifying… you’re gonna do great :)
I've been not allowing myself to dress cute and feminine. Thank you so much for this discussion. ❤
I’m really glad I found your channel I’m not at the point of an eating disorder but a lot of what you say really resonates with me thank you
this just hits it on the nose for me. thank you so much❤️
Thank you 🙏 so relatable
Thank you so much for this video. It was what I needed to hear so badly.
I would say that my body image problem is the bigger battle over food issues but definitely see their connectedness. I have achieved my goal weight 3x in my life. On the upswing now and each time has been different. Now dealing with menopause for more complexity. Anyway, my body felt so good those 3x. Thats the part I cant let go of.
Yes. I hate when influencers talk about how really it wasn't great being thin and they weren't happy. Well I sure was happy and it was great!
This is what I needed. Thank you
Thank you for this video, you are extremely good at explaining things and concepts to us and giving helpful advice in a motivating way. Keep doing those helpful videos, especially body image and feeling your feelings.😊
May I please say that I write this comment with tears in my eyes. You and your videoes have been there for me for my darkest period of my life for the last three years. This video is literally what I needed - today I will pull my yoga mat and give it my best. Most respects madam, thank you for being the kindest person out there. If you hold so thing in New Delhi, I'd love to meet you. Rab rakka. Antra -(F, 38), New Delhi, India ❤🇮🇳🏳️🌈
Ahhh, hello to you in Delhi! I'm so glad my channel has been supportive to you. Did you know I'm half Indian?!!
Yes. I would like to see a woman in her 40s, with decades of binge/restrict, who has experienced anorexic tendencies and overeating, and over/under exercising, who has been 110lbs to nearly 300lbs, who’s finally in recovery for a couple years, with loose skin and flab as a result of all past behaviors, whose set point might be around 190lbs or so. I love Sarah’s content… but I haven’t seen that, regardless of age actually. That would help me. ❤️✨
Have an amazing time 💞
I am 70 yrs old and have always felt my body is ugly. Suffered all my life. Bulimia I've had since youth.Always excised to extreme. Had a full gastric by pass 20 yrs ago and still struggling with weight. I went to slimming clubs all my life I finally gave up this year as why am I paying somebody to tell me I'm fat and only cares about
How many bums on seats in club. This year I have tried to except my body I have the odd good day and more bad day excepting.
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Sending you a hug. I understand,I have struggled my whole life as well and I have lost weight and gained weight so many times. I have done absolutely everything to lose weight. I have struggled with self loathing. I struggle to except my body but I am proud of you for trying to find a place of self acceptance,even with good and bad days you are trying. I wish you well on your journey xx
Have a great trip .. you’ll do fine thank you for your transparency yes it helps❤
Your honesty really helps me. Thank you Sarah. Hope you enjoy your trip to India.
Great video ❤. Hope you have an amazing trip. Even without the qualification it sounds great!
Thank you for this message. Thank you for sharing your own story.
Im hoping that you have an amazing time in India.
I love this video! I have started facing my binge eating and my body stuff after more than forty years of struggling. I love the concepts of intuitive eating. 'Body allowance' is a great way for me to keep getting fit for a tramp I want to do with my family in April next year. Thank you Sarah for your insightful, helpful material and sharing your personal experience.
All I can say is thank you. This really moved and encouraged me. ❤
Thank you for being so honest and sharing your vulnerabilities, I know it’s not always easy. By the way you’ll kill that yoga school! 😊
Thank you for this wonderful video. I needed to hear this particular content at this particular time.
Perfect timing
Thank you, Thank you❤
omg will be looking out for a video with reflections from the trip and the training 🙏🏼rooting for you!
You are a peach and I absolutely love peaches in all forms. Thank you. I'm comforted in knowing our paths have crossed. OK so sometimes technology is positive.
Man, right in my face. Just what i needed 😄
I love your channel, thanks for the insight !
Thank you so much. I just discovered your channel. This makes so much sense as do your other videos, and is exactly my experience with IE. Your approach is a far better fit for me, using but tweaking and rewording the principles of IE. Your video on allowing all foods and permission to eat is so on the mark for me as well. I too need to have some structure and caveats with that idea. Again, thank you.
Have courage Sarah! I can’t wait to see what’s next for you.
wow this is really helpful, thank you
Thank you so much for sharing your own struggles.
Thank you for this 💕. I am truly thankful for stumbling across your channel. I have been struggling with BED for a little over 20 years and purging the last 3-4 years of my life. I feel like I have stumbled across your channel and you for a reason. Thank you for what you do. I mean that wholeheartedly. I truly wish you the best. 💙💚
Thank u so much
You are beautiful. Thank you so much for this❤❤.
Thank you for sharing this Sarah! Allowance is definitley easier sounding than acceptance. If you can go to India in light of all this, I think can go on a family vacation next week (one of my many when/thens)! I look forward to taking your yoga class, whenever or wherever that will be 🙏🧘♀️💜
Thank you Sarah for doing this video inspite of what you are experiencing at the moment. I hope you are feeling well today. Sending you so much love! ♥️♥️♥️
I can’t travel because I know I would be uncomfortable. Someday, maybe.
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I absolutely love your videos and they are a place I feel understood so thank you.
All the best with your yoga training, you'll be amazing ❤
Thank you
Sarah, this video (and your others) are so wonderful. I hope you had a good time on the yoga retreat. The writer Kate Manne in her latest book Unshrinking has a similar idea to body allowance which she refers to as "body reflexivity". xx
Very wise words, l hope the retreat turned out rewarding
Wow, that makes me choke up. I wish I could actually see you... After all these years of making progress, now dealing with a broken body (MS), constant pain and failing me, that is a really, really sore spot. I am angry with my body, because now I lose all the things that I used to do to get through triggers, no more walking through the forest [or walking period], no more writing to others or journaling, no more dancing and so on. But my belief in God is keeping me fighting, just wish it was not such a struggle...
Amen sister! Unsolicited advice alert: go to the yoga retreat, your life is now!
Isn't everyone just thinking about themselves and how they look anyways?
Go for Sarah the way Sarah is now. She is beautiful, smart and ultimately...am certain it'll provide new insights to provide to us on your channel here channel here ') for the rest of us. Thanks for the great video. Wish I could meet you in India and join you I would love it
Don't worry about the yoga retreat. Yoga is quite accepting of all bodies and it will also help you heal any back pains or anything you have
I just cant today😢 i just hate my body, hate myself and hate my entire existence
Thank you ❤
OK, I kind of get it. But it's so complicated. Can you dumb it down, and be more succinct with your amazing helpful advice. Found you gals about 3-4 months back. Thank you so much.
❤ wow! So motivational!
P.s. Sarah, I started to see a doctor a couple of weeks ago, and I showed him your book. He speaks english too but he asked me if your book is in spanish. I told him "I think is only in english version". Is it possible to find your book in other languages or only in english?
It’s only in English unfortunately 🧡
@@TheBingeEatingTherapist Well, he doesn't have any problem to read it because He knows english. I believe he asked about the spanish version because he was thinking about his other patients. Have a great week. 🥰
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Hi Sarah, I would love to know what your thoughts are on treating binge eating like how one would treat an alcoholic. Whenever, I stay away from trigger foods completely, I do not binge. It's only when I allow myself a little bit of those trigger foods that I fall back into the binge eating cycles. There was a period of time that I was eating a ketogenic diet and I completely lost all my cravings for trigger foods.... however, I participated in a retirement party and had some cake and that was it....I fell back into my binge eating cycles.
This is possibly one of my favourite podcast episodes we’ve done and it’s on this very subject. Let me know what you think: th-cam.com/video/HmtkFgG8AnY/w-d-xo.html
@@TheBingeEatingTherapist thanks Sarah! I watched it and I understand where you are coming from as far as not promoting abstinence if it's not working... however, you can say the same thing about an alcoholic that keeps falling off the wagon and starts over again. It doesn't matter how often you fail, you get back up again and try the abstinence and next time you are more aware of the triggers and try to avoid them. For example, I found out that drinking wine with a meal triggers carb cravings for me. Now I stay away from wine as well as sugar and bread. It is not easy and definitely not socially accepted for one to not consume carbs but I have never binged on protein or fat.....so in my mind I think the enemy is the carb and I see myself as a carbaholic.
However, I do think that everyone is different and what might work for one person will not work for another.
I also want to mention that I totally agree with your opinion regarding body positivity.
I have just started following your channel and I appreciate your content. Thanks!
@@RoyaDani That's an interesting point you make. I guess for me (and I appreciate that my personal experience creates a bias) I found that chasing abstinence made my bingeing worse than ever, because it kept triggering last supper eating. I would 'blow it' and then feel compelled to eat all the foods I could because I was always starting over. I had to undo this psychological loop in order to recover.
My experience was that my bingeing calmed down a lot (didn't completely vanish) when I knew I could have the food again and I wasn't being triggered by perceived future deprivation.
You are absolutely right though, people's experiences aren't the same and up for anything alternative approaches to this that brings people freedom and peace ❤
I can relate so much to the last supper mentality. Definitely something that happens to me when I aim for abstinence. 😢
Maybe there is a different lesson to learn besides Yoga. God works like that , ya know.I’m from the USA and I have been to India. A friend of mine went to India and got a Yoga certification. She loved it. I really wasn’t a fan of India. I had culture shock bad! I hope you are like my friend and love it. The traffic was so scary to me.
@@lisaaamoun3520 Oh I think I learned some lessons!! I’m actually half Indian and have been to India before and still managed to get a massive culture shock. I did a couple of videos about it when I came back. If you are interested I’ll drop the links
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You lost me at "cis". This is an offensive term. You are a great therapist, thank you for these videos.
Why is it offensive? I would genuinely like to know if I’m missing something.
@@TheBingeEatingTherapist I'm late to the party but only transphobes say that cis is an offensive term. Kind of like in the 90s when people said that they weren't straight they were normal.
I am allowed to take up space in this world. wow🥲
Thank you ❤️
Thank you