It's probably his insecurities, after all, it sounds like Dad had a great career and a great relationship with his daughters, he's probably jealous. I hate to be mean, but I would be leery of this new sibling situation, they may be expecting a free babysitter, erase Dad and load OP up with "family responsibility".
In this story the step parent was definitely over stepping. a step parent should try to bond with the step child in a healthy way but it up to the step child to want to build that bond. The goal of it should never be to replace the other parent but be a support for the child
The AI or the writer messed it up at the end. "Aunt Sarah revealed that Mom and Thomas had been seeing each other for months before Dad died." Umm they'd been divorced for more than a decade at that point so big deal, and it'd already been established that her and Thomas were together a full year before the dad even got sick. This shouldn't have been a surprise to anyone but suddenly the last two minutes become an affair story?
Thomas was waaaay out of line for what she said. Mom as well. Thomas is insecure. Op already had a father. He wasn't perfect. But he was hers. Thomas is just her mom's husband. What a moron.
50/50 my parents have been divorced for 20 years my mom still thinks they will get back together and it's not as if emotions just automatically switch off after a divorce especially since it wasn't a blowup like both of them having affair partners so emotions can still exist for the other one and an Ex dying would probably stir something again.
It's the fact that they'd hidden the relationship. It sounds like the relationship took off right as dad was getting worse, and judging by how highly OP speaks of her dad, she would have taken it the wrong way.
Thomas wasn't in her life at all until Op was around 15-17 years old, so the comments from him and Ops mother are way overboard about fatherhood. They are definitely control freaks that aren't liking what they can't control, which is Ops relationship with her now deceased father.
all this shit about dad's working too much and not having time for family, I swear to god if someone was working hard to provide for me and so to get me a better life I will be soo glad and will appreciate him I will make sure to tell him that I'm sorry he had to work that much for my sake, these females as soon as their husband stop working and the money situation gets tight they will start bitching about the man not working enough, to give you a conclusion his wife already checked out of marriage and just wanted a reason to leave that it it.
All party's are TA. OP doesn't know the extent of their mom and dad's relationship and seems to have no empathy towards their mother. And the mother has no empathy towards OP's grief. They shouldn't go to the wedding 1. It shouldn't be forced on someone 2. It seems like OP wasn't ok with the relationship from the start
Your mother and Thomas is wrong!!! He is your mother's husband you can give him the title if you wish stepfather because legally that's what they call it!! But he will never be your father and he should accept that as well as your mother!! You don't have to attend their wedding you can go stay with a friend if she wants the phone in the car if you can get along without it go for it if not go to the wedding but I will let her and Thomas know as long as you two stay on this Earth my father will always be my father and I don't appreciate you talking down about it nor will I tolerated I will come back at your neck every time you disrespect my father!!
The fact her parents divorced 13 years ago but she thinks her mom owes it to her dad not to move on, not to live her life etc and that it's all about her needs shows how immature she is and Thomas was right not to apologize. He might've been wrong about things he thought but if he apologized she would thinker weird a** way of thinking was okay and continue to expect them to bow down to her.
Op said she was happy for her mom to move on, and for her to find someone. It was her mom's boyfriend's attitude about OP's father was the issue. He was hitting the ground, wanting to replace her father and bad-mouthing him.
7:36 Sure I'll give her that, OP doesn't know everything about their relationship. They are not talking about the relationship between husband and wife. They are supposed to be talking about father and child. OP's mom has no input on her child's feelings towards their dad.
The mother and Thomas should not have tried to force either daughter to accept him in a father`s role. Both girls had clear memories of their bio dad and were old enough that they did not require a `Daddy` replacement. Understandably, the mother did discuss the reasons for her divorce with him but negative comments about the late father should have remained unspoken by Thomas. It did not reflect well on him when he spoke ill of the dead and about events in which he was not involved. That being said, OP`s grief for her father was fresh. Hopefully in time she will develop a more balanced outlook on this situation. Her upset over her mother marrying so soon after the father`s passing was misplaced. The divorce was initiated just after her 4th birthday, 13 years! In her eagerness to remember the good things about their family life, she has overlooked the negative aspects, especially as experienced by her mother. The repeated last minute cancellations of family plans, late hours at the office and basically having to live as single parent. When someone is a workaholic, they are neglecting the whole family, not just the spouse. In some ways, OP`s rose coloured view of her dad is understandable but she should eventually acknowledge that dad was only around two weeks in the summer and every other weekend. Anyone can be a superstar for approximately 62 days out of a year. It was the mother who held down the home front and raised the daughters. For that reason alone, both daughters should have supported the mother and attended the wedding.
This is such a bad AI story, no correlation with time: divorced for more than a decade, the mother's boyfriend saying he was there all these past years and now OP says her mother was seeing her boyfriend a few months before her father died and let's not forget her saying she was alone with her mom and SUDDENLY an older sister appears in the story like if she was always there. Seriously reddit users should report those fake AI stories.
Demanding apologies is a sucker move which has victimhood written all over. It's just words, be thankful there is a new man for your mother who doesn't hate your guts and wants to be there for you. Spoiled little princess doesn´t want her step father to be her father, so be it.
The mom should be grateful that her ex's children weren't there at her wedding with her new husband. It would definitely be more awkward if they were there, intruding on the impression that she's moving forward with a new family. The new husband's family would definitely feel displeased at seeing them there, for one thing, and they'd badmouth even the mother because her ex's children are unruly. OP and her sister are old business, and as far as the mother is concerned, she's done with them the moment her ex died. Considering it's America, OP can probably find a way to live well even without the support of her mom and step-dad; she just has no choice but to leave. PS: While it would be better for the new husband to just not badmouth the old husband so as to give the impression that we're focusing on a new beginning here, it would probably not be that bad for him to badmouth anyway. Sure, he might be petty, but at least he's promising that he'll be the better choice. He's the reason why the wife still didn't give up the idea of married life; he stepped up. Now that the cat's out of the bag, that the mom and stepdad had an affair when her ex got sick, things can only get more toxic. OP can be painted in court as trying to brainwash the child of her mom and stepdad into being against them. It really is best for OP to just leave and make her own life, "unburdened by what has been". I'm just trying to critique a drama show, that's all.
1. The mom had every right to date- they had been divorced for years. 2. The daughters should have attended the wedding- some times you have to take one for the team. 3. As soon as the step dad talked S*** about the deceased parent- they had every right to leave the wedding if they had attended. The step dad has the sensitivity of a dead snail. Overall, i think this story is fake.
I don't think so because I know way too many people that age who think the world should bow down to them. WHile Stepdad was wrong for how he handled it mom did admit to saying bio dad was basically a flake and not a good dad. Step parents usually take that as the kid even as adults need a parental figure in their life. My mom used to do the same thing when she chased my dad off when she was dating someone so they wouldn't see what a good dad he was
I think it’s fake because they were already divorced for years when the father became sick so who cares if the mom was dating or not. She had no loyalty to him. Also, before she said that Thomas was present during the time her father was sick so the later part doesn’t make any sense.
"2. The daughters should have attended the wedding- some times you have to take one for the team. 3. As soon as the step dad talked S*** about the deceased parent- they had every right to leave the wedding if they had attended." But he was "talking s****" before the wedding which is why they refused to attend. If they'd have "every right to leave the wedding as soon as the step dad talked S**** about the deceased parent" then logically they have every right to just not attend in the first place for the same reason.
1: the had an affair while she was stll with the dad, "even if not phycial" is what they said. 2: never attend a wedding someone is forcing u to got or guilting u to goto especially if u dont like the step parent. 3: dont have kids because u have poor judgement like this mom who cheated, bad mouthed her ex, let her new man try to take control and be mean. if u support any of what they did then u are trash and i will say it directly to ur face too
OP has a very unrealistic view of her father. HE WAS NOT A GOOD FATHER! She only saw him two weekends per month! He of course was the fun dad who always did fun stuff with her! But he never took her to dr and dentist appointments. He was not there for everyday life! She has developed a really warped view of her father. And she has let that attitude destroy her relationship with the people who have ALWAYS been there for her! Mom is allowed to hate Dad because he was never there!! Mom doesnt have to beg forgiveness from OP because she was treated badly by OPs dad. OP needs therapy to get her head on straight. She has painted this unrealistic picture of her dad because of her grief!
Eh, I disagree. Forgive me while I break this down: You say that OP has a very unrealistic view of her father, and that he was a terrible parent, and that he was the fun parent that never had to physically raise OP. -- That is a valid point. He was in his daughter's life for two weekends a month, and he never went through the harships of parenting two children. Mom is well within her rights to be hurt and angry. However, I wonder how much a month he paid in child support and whether or not she got spousal support. You say that she has an attitude that is destroying her relationships with the people who love her -- I don't agree with his. Mom's attitude is what ruined their relationship. She let her bitter feelings toward her ex ruin what could have been a wonderful moment for all three of them. Again, mom is well within her right to be upset, however, trying to make your child forget their father even existed because of what he did TO YOU is reprehensible. Then, to add insult to injury, she let Thomas speak to her child however he wanted. My mother would NEVER hear from me if she let her boyfriend speak to me like Thomas did to OP. Mom is well within her rights to hate dad too, however, that DOES NOT MEAN she should force her children to do the same, that's gross and incredibly immature. -- Mom should most definitely apologize to OP, which she did, for letting the hate she feels for her ex cloud her judgement. Even if I loathed my baby daddy's guts, the relationship he has with me IS NOT the same one that he has with the kids, and it shouldn't be. I can hate him for personal reasons, but my ire shouldn't pass onto my children. You say OP needs therapy to help get her head on straight and see her dad wasn't that stellar, and I agree. OP needs some sort of counseling to help with grief. -- However, mom also needs therapy because, like it or not, that man gave her two children whom she loves deeply. She let her resentment of her ex get the better of her, and she needs to learn better coping mechanisms than trying to scrub his existence from OP and Jena's life. OP needs counseling to help with the loss of her dad. Dad was absent, sure. But mom shouldn't be doing what she did.
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Thomas has no right trying to be her father. He is not her father. Step parents must stop this nonsense!
It's probably his insecurities, after all, it sounds like Dad had a great career and a great relationship with his daughters, he's probably jealous. I hate to be mean, but I would be leery of this new sibling situation, they may be expecting a free babysitter, erase Dad and load OP up with "family responsibility".
In this story the step parent was definitely over stepping. a step parent should try to bond with the step child in a healthy way but it up to the step child to want to build that bond. The goal of it should never be to replace the other parent but be a support for the child
@@stormtrooper1096 Absolutely!
The AI or the writer messed it up at the end. "Aunt Sarah revealed that Mom and Thomas had been seeing each other for months before Dad died." Umm they'd been divorced for more than a decade at that point so big deal, and it'd already been established that her and Thomas were together a full year before the dad even got sick. This shouldn't have been a surprise to anyone but suddenly the last two minutes become an affair story?
Thomas was waaaay out of line for what she said. Mom as well. Thomas is insecure. Op already had a father. He wasn't perfect. But he was hers. Thomas is just her mom's husband. What a moron.
Anyone who needs to make themselves look good by knocking down others don't care about anyone but themselves..
Woah… hold on a minute. I’m betting the ex wife eagerly cashed the child support and alimony without any problem.
What, they divorce like a decade ago. It doesn't matter if her ex is sick, she can date....
Yeah this makes the least sense, it genuinely confused me. Feels like an AI story where something didn't get coded right.
50/50 my parents have been divorced for 20 years my mom still thinks they will get back together and it's not as if emotions just automatically switch off after a divorce especially since it wasn't a blowup like both of them having affair partners so emotions can still exist for the other one and an Ex dying would probably stir something again.
I think it's the fact that the relationship was hidden for months
It's the fact that they'd hidden the relationship. It sounds like the relationship took off right as dad was getting worse, and judging by how highly OP speaks of her dad, she would have taken it the wrong way.
@@adamkaufman724yup
Thomas wasn't in her life at all until Op was around 15-17 years old, so the comments from him and Ops mother are way overboard about fatherhood. They are definitely control freaks that aren't liking what they can't control, which is Ops relationship with her now deceased father.
Did she say that they divorced 10 years ago this girl is lying I don’t understand this girl
OP’s family need to get better educated on the grieving process.
She has been divorce for many years! Why can't she has someone?
Why can't she has someone? Speak clearly dude
The daughter lost her father, why does she have to put up with a father figure being imposed on her?
This is not about the mom, it's about OP
all this shit about dad's working too much and not having time for family, I swear to god if someone was working hard to provide for me and so to get me a better life I will be soo glad and will appreciate him I will make sure to tell him that I'm sorry he had to work that much for my sake, these females as soon as their husband stop working and the money situation gets tight they will start bitching about the man not working enough, to give you a conclusion his wife already checked out of marriage and just wanted a reason to leave that it it.
I don't see the problem with her being a new guy when the dad was dying because they were already divorced
All party's are TA. OP doesn't know the extent of their mom and dad's relationship and seems to have no empathy towards their mother. And the mother has no empathy towards OP's grief. They shouldn't go to the wedding 1. It shouldn't be forced on someone 2. It seems like OP wasn't ok with the relationship from the start
Family should come first?...maybe...but we are all different so what's good for one person may not be good for another person.
Why would their half sibling care about THEIR dad? Their siblings dad is Thomas not “Herb” or whatever their dad’s name was.
Call step-dad by his name. Get therapy. Wish mom happiness, but you're not dealing with their crap about the wedding anymore!😮
Sounds like Mom made a dirty bed and then didn't want to sleep in it.
If you love your father that much they should not try force you forget your father he showed you how much he loved you and sister
Your mother and Thomas is wrong!!! He is your mother's husband you can give him the title if you wish stepfather because legally that's what they call it!! But he will never be your father and he should accept that as well as your mother!! You don't have to attend their wedding you can go stay with a friend if she wants the phone in the car if you can get along without it go for it if not go to the wedding but I will let her and Thomas know as long as you two stay on this Earth my father will always be my father and I don't appreciate you talking down about it nor will I tolerated I will come back at your neck every time you disrespect my father!!
Way to go, OP.
The fact her parents divorced 13 years ago but she thinks her mom owes it to her dad not to move on, not to live her life etc and that it's all about her needs shows how immature she is and Thomas was right not to apologize. He might've been wrong about things he thought but if he apologized she would thinker weird a** way of thinking was okay and continue to expect them to bow down to her.
100% agree.
Op said she was happy for her mom to move on, and for her to find someone. It was her mom's boyfriend's attitude about OP's father was the issue. He was hitting the ground, wanting to replace her father and bad-mouthing him.
@@d.wayneharbison8691exactly! That dude was a jack ass. And her mom was a shitty person.
NTA FIND SOMEONE local & MOVE OUT
7:36 Sure I'll give her that, OP doesn't know everything about their relationship. They are not talking about the relationship between husband and wife. They are supposed to be talking about father and child. OP's mom has no input on her child's feelings towards their dad.
Ummmmm.... i thought the op was an only child..... 🤔
Um...weren't they already divorced when the dad was sick? Oh yeah. BS AI writing. Insert eye roll here.
The mother and Thomas should not have tried to force either daughter to accept him in a father`s role. Both girls had clear memories of their bio dad and were old enough that they did not require a `Daddy` replacement. Understandably, the mother did discuss the reasons for her divorce with him but negative comments about the late father should have remained unspoken by Thomas. It did not reflect well on him when he spoke ill of the dead and about events in which he was not involved.
That being said, OP`s grief for her father was fresh. Hopefully in time she will develop a more balanced outlook on this situation. Her upset over her mother marrying so soon after the father`s passing was misplaced. The divorce was initiated just after her 4th birthday, 13 years! In her eagerness to remember the good things about their family life, she has overlooked the negative aspects, especially as experienced by her mother. The repeated last minute cancellations of family plans, late hours at the office and basically having to live as single parent. When someone is a workaholic, they are neglecting the whole family, not just the spouse. In some ways, OP`s rose coloured view of her dad is understandable but she should eventually acknowledge that dad was only around two weeks in the summer and every other weekend. Anyone can be a superstar for approximately 62 days out of a year. It was the mother who held down the home front and raised the daughters. For that reason alone, both daughters should have supported the mother and attended the wedding.
This is such a bad AI story, no correlation with time: divorced for more than a decade, the mother's boyfriend saying he was there all these past years and now OP says her mother was seeing her boyfriend a few months before her father died and let's not forget her saying she was alone with her mom and SUDDENLY an older sister appears in the story like if she was always there.
Seriously reddit users should report those fake AI stories.
Come on man be consistent when make a make believe story
Story had to many contradictions to be interesting.
I'll be real your mom is trifling for marrying somebody who disrespect her husband
Nope
Demanding apologies is a sucker move which has victimhood written all over. It's just words, be thankful there is a new man for your mother who doesn't hate your guts and wants to be there for you. Spoiled little princess doesn´t want her step father to be her father, so be it.
The mom should be grateful that her ex's children weren't there at her wedding with her new husband. It would definitely be more awkward if they were there, intruding on the impression that she's moving forward with a new family. The new husband's family would definitely feel displeased at seeing them there, for one thing, and they'd badmouth even the mother because her ex's children are unruly. OP and her sister are old business, and as far as the mother is concerned, she's done with them the moment her ex died. Considering it's America, OP can probably find a way to live well even without the support of her mom and step-dad; she just has no choice but to leave.
PS: While it would be better for the new husband to just not badmouth the old husband so as to give the impression that we're focusing on a new beginning here, it would probably not be that bad for him to badmouth anyway. Sure, he might be petty, but at least he's promising that he'll be the better choice. He's the reason why the wife still didn't give up the idea of married life; he stepped up. Now that the cat's out of the bag, that the mom and stepdad had an affair when her ex got sick, things can only get more toxic. OP can be painted in court as trying to brainwash the child of her mom and stepdad into being against them. It really is best for OP to just leave and make her own life, "unburdened by what has been".
I'm just trying to critique a drama show, that's all.
1. The mom had every right to date- they had been divorced for years. 2. The daughters should have attended the wedding- some times you have to take one for the team. 3. As soon as the step dad talked S*** about the deceased parent- they had every right to leave the wedding if they had attended. The step dad has the sensitivity of a dead snail. Overall, i think this story is fake.
I don't think so because I know way too many people that age who think the world should bow down to them. WHile Stepdad was wrong for how he handled it mom did admit to saying bio dad was basically a flake and not a good dad. Step parents usually take that as the kid even as adults need a parental figure in their life. My mom used to do the same thing when she chased my dad off when she was dating someone so they wouldn't see what a good dad he was
I think it’s fake because they were already divorced for years when the father became sick so who cares if the mom was dating or not. She had no loyalty to him. Also, before she said that Thomas was present during the time her father was sick so the later part doesn’t make any sense.
"2. The daughters should have attended the wedding- some times you have to take one for the team. 3. As soon as the step dad talked S*** about the deceased parent- they had every right to leave the wedding if they had attended."
But he was "talking s****" before the wedding which is why they refused to attend. If they'd have "every right to leave the wedding as soon as the step dad talked S**** about the deceased parent" then logically they have every right to just not attend in the first place for the same reason.
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1: the had an affair while she was stll with the dad, "even if not phycial" is what they said.
2: never attend a wedding someone is forcing u to got or guilting u to goto especially if u dont like the step parent.
3: dont have kids because u have poor judgement like this mom who cheated, bad mouthed her ex, let her new man try to take control and be mean.
if u support any of what they did then u are trash and i will say it directly to ur face too
OP has a very unrealistic view of her father. HE WAS NOT A GOOD FATHER! She only saw him two weekends per month! He of course was the fun dad who always did fun stuff with her! But he never took her to dr and dentist appointments. He was not there for everyday life! She has developed a really warped view of her father. And she has let that attitude destroy her relationship with the people who have ALWAYS been there for her! Mom is allowed to hate Dad because he was never there!! Mom doesnt have to beg forgiveness from OP because she was treated badly by OPs dad. OP needs therapy to get her head on straight. She has painted this unrealistic picture of her dad because of her grief!
Eh, I disagree. Forgive me while I break this down:
You say that OP has a very unrealistic view of her father, and that he was a terrible parent, and that he was the fun parent that never had to physically raise OP.
-- That is a valid point. He was in his daughter's life for two weekends a month, and he never went through the harships of parenting two children. Mom is well within her rights to be hurt and angry. However, I wonder how much a month he paid in child support and whether or not she got spousal support.
You say that she has an attitude that is destroying her relationships with the people who love her
-- I don't agree with his. Mom's attitude is what ruined their relationship. She let her bitter feelings toward her ex ruin what could have been a wonderful moment for all three of them. Again, mom is well within her right to be upset, however, trying to make your child forget their father even existed because of what he did TO YOU is reprehensible. Then, to add insult to injury, she let Thomas speak to her child however he wanted. My mother would NEVER hear from me if she let her boyfriend speak to me like Thomas did to OP. Mom is well within her rights to hate dad too, however, that DOES NOT MEAN she should force her children to do the same, that's gross and incredibly immature.
-- Mom should most definitely apologize to OP, which she did, for letting the hate she feels for her ex cloud her judgement. Even if I loathed my baby daddy's guts, the relationship he has with me IS NOT the same one that he has with the kids, and it shouldn't be. I can hate him for personal reasons, but my ire shouldn't pass onto my children.
You say OP needs therapy to help get her head on straight and see her dad wasn't that stellar, and I agree. OP needs some sort of counseling to help with grief.
-- However, mom also needs therapy because, like it or not, that man gave her two children whom she loves deeply. She let her resentment of her ex get the better of her, and she needs to learn better coping mechanisms than trying to scrub his existence from OP and Jena's life. OP needs counseling to help with the loss of her dad.
Dad was absent, sure. But mom shouldn't be doing what she did.
@@Brit626- Well said. 👌