STRANGERS | Omeleto
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 10 ธ.ค. 2020
- Two elderly women are found in bed together.
STRANGERS is used with permission from Jamieson Pearce. Learn more at jamiesonpearce.com.
Two elderly residents at a nursing home are found in bed together, naked and in an embrace. The family of one of the women, Lillian, is called in by the home's authorities, who must figure out what to do.
But as the discussion ensues, long-simmering familial tensions arise, revealing fractures between the siblings trying to decide the fate of their mother. At heart is the question: is it love, or is it the muddled delusions of a mind caught in dementia?
Writer-director Jamieson Pearce's beautifully aching drama intertwines a love story with a family story about aging, parents and children, capturing the reversal of power that encroaching mortality creates in a familial unit and asking questions about the relationship between love, memory and self.
The atmosphere of the film, from the visuals to the writing to the performance, is gorgeously muted, rooted in the subtle but remarkable visuals. The lovely, melancholic cinematography and graceful camerawork create a sense of time and self suspended, particularly in the opening sequence: all that exists for Lillian is the touch and tenderness between her and her lover Mary. It's a fragile yet frank scene, and it hangs over the rest of the film, framing the drama with profound philosophical questions.
The look and feel seem almost elegiac as if the film itself is a moment becoming a memory even as it unfurls in the present tense. Each image is composed with care and precision, with a genuine delicacy of touch. As a result, the story is both poetic, with visual details often taking on an almost talismanic weight and significance.
But the writing and performances have their moments of spikiness and conflict, especially as the characters' perspectives and agendas unfold. The dialogue teases out great moments of irony and humor, particularly in how exasperating families can be, and in unraveling revelations of the past. Actors Angie Milliken and Jo Turner portray brother and sister with a palpable connection and the worn-in thorniness specific to siblings with a history of love, disagreements and grievances between them.
But overall, as the discussion unfolds, we slowly become aware not only of the history between this family, but the way Lillian herself is an object of conversation -- one increasingly treated almost like a child, or an object, with little discussion of her as a person with free will and complexity of history and psychology. A significant question for the family that emerges is whether or not the love between Lillian and Mary is real, or if this is a case of an addled mind acting inappropriately, or lost in the past.
The answer, of course, is both simpler and more complicated than it seems, perhaps because the assumptions underlying the question are themselves too simplistic, though the situation may demand a concrete answer. STRANGERS itself doesn't offer an easy solution or interpretation, preferring instead to remind us of the human being whose fate is being decided. Lillian has spent most of the film receding from consciousness as a complex human presence -- a character talked about instead of experienced.
But the final remarkable sequence of STRANGERS restores her primacy, both to the film's consciousness and the viewer's awareness. With a gentle, steady sense of portraiture -- and economical but remarkable performance by actor Melissa Jaffer -- the arresting final shots of Lillian are both haunting and soulful, striking up a remarkable chord of empathy and creating a mute but eloquent appeal -- if not to be understood, then to be fully seen in all of her humanity. - ภาพยนตร์และแอนิเมชัน
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Historians be like "they were just best friends for a very long time"
r/sapphoandherfriend
some might call them roommates
It's more like her "travel and work companion" as they used to say back in the day.
They portrayed the opening scene so sweetly. Their simple innocent affections should not be condemned as debauchery. At this time in their life as in anytime in their lives, love should not be shunned. They are adults.
Life is too short.
I hope people don't make this into a gay rights issue.
Because honestly from my perspective, this well made-it short film, is about the loneliness our widowed seniors face.
Edit: love is not sexual, especially with how things just don't work the same when you're that age. Is simply being held, touched, and wanted
@@melbell5157 yes ♡
my issue is someone with dementia cant give or ask for consent :/
@@mysweetpepper they can ask for consent
@@mysweetpepper How do YOU know if they have or have not? As the son asked, did she hurt her? If there's no harm done, nor complained about ... how can you tell?
I am a dementia specialist nurse in the UK. This film is touching and well made. Anyone who is a resident in a care home is still a human being, with all the emotional needs that we all have, despite having a dementia diagnosis. My hope is that this film will show this. ♥️
Sending all my recpect and best wishes to a brave lady
That's so lovely. Thank you for what you do
Thank You for being you 🥺❤
is it really in nursing homes the way that staff tries to meddle in friendship and love affairs of their residents? That sounds awful ... like a prude totalitarian dictatorship
How do you handle the issue of consent?
I wish tf a nursing home would call me on some BS like this. My mom can do wtf she wants between two consenting adults; she grown. PERIOD! Mind you’ll mf business.
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 girl you got me lls
Not if the have dementia
LOL same. Especially when she’s this age- yeah I’ll be shocked but leave me alone. She’ll tell me when she wants to, IF she wants to.
Elderly people: *try to retain some sense of humanity*
Nursing Homes: "we dont do that here"
For real. HELL HOLES
I agree, they are hell holes. But I worked at one nursing home right out of school that acknowledged and allowed sexual interactions between the patients. Gave them privacy and made sure it was all good and consensual. It should be allowed.
A GOOD nursing home worker would simply have backed quietly out and closed the door.
The reason I quit this field.
that isn't it. If she has dementia and thinks someone else is Bebe, then there isn't consent. Someone can take advantage of her. Especially since she is calling that someone Bebe and they know they are not Bebe.
How sweet that they have each other. And awful to take that away.
This is a problem in America for sexually active people in assisted living. I see no reason why two consenting adults shouldn't be able to have their privacy. It's a home, not a hospital.
A very good point
Because they are ill, have problems in their brain with memory. They are like drunk adults, can't give consent appropriately.
they cant give consent if they have dementia........
@@mysweetpepper Yes, they can and do. I have dementia and I am on the internet, I know right from wrong -- and NONE of what I've seen is wrong here. Quite lovely!
@@AnuvabAhmedApurno Yes, they can and do. I have dementia and I am on the internet, I know right from wrong -- and NONE of what I've seen is wrong here. Quite lovely, in fact.
If you are younger or even middle aged please listen. I am now just passed what could reasonably be thought of as middle aged and the most shocking thing is that I think and feel no differently than I did in my 20's. This, I now know is unlikely to change. It breaks my heart now to know this because I, like most younger people rolled my eyes at my elders and/or invalidated the importance of their thoughts, opinions, and desires simply because of their age. I am already being treated differently. It scares me and makes me very sad. I am still attracted to the same age and types of people as before, still like hearing new music, still like concerts, all of the same things, maybe a bit more empathetic to the situations of others but I am watching live while I am slowly ceasing to be relevant to others because they assume my age makes my person less valid. It happens to us all. It doesnt have to. Please keep in mind that it will happen to you too. Its so cruel to assume that elderly people dont need physical contact and/or deny them simply because they cannot live alone. Such an important thing should never be stripped from someone. Keep this in mind the next time you interact with an older person. Thank you
As a man in his 30s, thank YOU for this absolutely wonderful, insightful comment. You made me tear up. I’m gonna remember and treasure your words.
❤🙏🏿
@@TucksonFever 🤗
@@EvonneLindiwe
I’m 68. I lived a life, that could give so much, yet even my daughter, who I thought was my best friend ever, treats me like an idiot. Maybe I should write that book. Yet here I am, just shaking my head, knowing these stories, these truths, shall not be heard.
Shocking how two elderly woman embracing lovely is approached like it’s as bad as a murder. How sad. They’re treating them like toys.
lol
You are looking at it wrong. If she has dementia and thinks someone else is Bebe, then there isn't consent. Someone can take advantage of her. Especially since she is calling that someone Bebe and they know they are not Bebe.
Her son should sue the nursing home for homophobia.
Yeah free money for hurting your feelings.
@@phillipstracner7909 it’s not hurting feelings it’s being bigoted.
@@rayy__7630 oh is that what they called it these days.
@@phillipstracner7909 bigotry was around in the 1700’s when Africans were enslaved. Bigotry was around when Jews were slaughtered during the holocaust, and bigotry exists today in homophobes.
@@rayy__7630 And real folks dealt with it and worked for their money. They didn't get paid $ every time the was offended. Take care.
The ladies are happy, they should be left alone. The woman running the place should see the situation as a learning opportunity, for all her staff, rather than a difficulty for her. The staff from different cultural backgrounds should be given compulsory training in Duty of Care. And the family members should be offered counselling.
Well, It starts with the woman running the place because it was her that was uncomfortable, but she made it to be about the staff.
People should be happy they found love
I love how they made they’re moms business such a big deal. Like chile granny gay now move along🙈
For real
Well said
Well technically she always was. During her room scene, "mom" spoke about having an hour before the husband came home. She was having an affair with Bebe the nanny. I believe Bebe was and is the mother's true love. That's why she calls her new companion Bebe. Since they both have dementia Mary is ok with that. That's what makes this film beautiful and sweetly innocent.
@@libratude9595 I know
🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂
Why is this even anyone’s business? They should have apologized for interrupting, closed the door and moved on.
Policy.
@Gold Rose They looked more than OK to any normal human being. The worker should have just closed the door and walked away.
When you're in the care of others, you are no longer a free person. Everyone gets treated equally in a nursing home, they can't make exceptions. And if something negative were to happen, they'd be held accountable for knowing about it.
The desire to be loved, to be held never dies.
We all would be lucky to experience a love like that in a lifetime.
@Connor wilson during a time where coming out would sometimes get people killed. She didn't have much of a choice and was forced into marrying a man, and we also don't know the details.
So true. Still seeking that at age 37 🐈🌈☮️☺️
The sons heart was in the right place
Her daughter just isn’t connecting the dots, clearly her mom had some stuff going on with the baby sitter- it’s clear the sitter was around for more than the kids..
Right, had a babysitter back when women were stay at home moms and wives 🤣🤣🤣 the husband should have noticed too
She sneaky as hell, they had no clue
Alot of things weren't accepted when granny was growing up...so she had to be on the low about alot of things.
@@takingitonedayatatime7851 and cheat on the guy she married?
@@rodriguezelfeliz4623 Yes but I never said it was right but that's what they did to appear "normal." If you didn't you were considered an outcast. And a target.
If I was the mum I would be proud to have a son like Stu.
Ikr, it's so refreshing to see a dude as such.
That's a prime example of what masculinity should be about. Open, firm, direct, pragmatic and caring ❤❤❤
@@AnnaPxx it has nothing to do with gender rolea. Any person can be open, firm, direct and caring.
So society is willing to deprive these old ladies of what could be the only and last moments of happiness for the sake of decency. Cruel and pathetic.
What a good son he just wants his mom to be happy.
I'm a good son, but I have no interest in my mother's orgasms.
We begin being treated as children and what's best for us and we end up being treated as children and what's best for us. I knew an old straight guy who spent 50 years married to a woman he loved deeply and had the most wonderful life with, but he kept a secret from her. It was only when she died that he started to dress as a woman and finally express a part of him that was a piece of the puzzle of his inner identity. He had no regrets, and wouldn't have changed anything in his life. He just felt a sense of resolution at the end. He died a year after his wife passed away.
Oh, yeah! Just because someone's married, they automatically fall into the straight column.
I know a man who is married to a woman for 25 years and has a family...but he ain't straight lol. Once he drinks ha.
@@steelstreet3765 He's probably bisexual or even a closeted gay man.
@@cahidijoyoraharjo7833 he told me this stays between us!! Shame on him right! Naughty man!
@@steelstreet3765 Don't play with fire, you'll get burned!
@@cahidijoyoraharjo7833 he started it feel bad for the wife. No more !
I don't believe there was any sexual act or malice other than two people taking stroll through the valley of death together. A love that transcends what most will never understand until it is to late. Beautiful with thanks.!
Geez, at this stage in their lives, just let them be.
The opening scene was like poetry. Beauty and wisdom and letting go.
That woman spent her whole life in the closet and at the end of it she still can't get to live her truth. 😔
Shes bi
@@nedwards6975 Don't think so.
The acting skills in this film are great
As a nurse who worked in a care facility, I can say this is very accurate. The only thing they omitted is the fact that medications are routinely used to suppress sexual desires in anyone who shows them. It is for the purpose of protecting the facility from legal repercussions. It is so sad that as a society we don't acknowledge that seniors are still adults with normal needs and desires. Instead we drug them or transfer them.
that isn't it. If she has dementia and thinks someone else is Bebe, then there isn't consent. Someone can take advantage of her. Especially since she is calling that someone Bebe and they know they are not Bebe.
Wow...unbelievable. I learn so much from the comments and watching these short films.
I've worked in a care home....its unfortunate mostly this is the case. Older adults are not treated like humans....they are treated like locked up individuals, almost like it's a jail. 😢
I "love" how the nursing home is supposed to have the best interest of the elderly in mind but in this case their "best option" is to ship her away
Mom is gorgeous.
She truly is!
Mom is beautiful
Yeah
What an amazing son!!! 🥰 He just wants his mom to feel affection and love. So sweeet
I'll be honest, the opening scene made me uncomfortable. It only highlights my issues and the fact at some point I may live to be in my 70's, 80's, even 90's and still need a connection. Even if the connection is done through the sadness of dementia.
Applause to the writer / writers.
intense scenario,the movie that must have rewarded.
Aw, leave them alone and let them have some happiness!
no u
My mum's mum we call her nan lived to a ripe age of 87. Her husband died of a heart attack at the age of 52, so young. She moved across the road from us and so we saw her a lot. She was kind and it was said she was shy. She went to church and went away every now and again baby sitting for extended periods. She enjoyed her freedom. Later on in life she gave money to her son to build a granny flat on their property and she was isolated out there on a partial farm so she grew the most beautiful roses. She apparently was going through a habit of leaving the stove on and they decided to put her in a care facility where she had her own room but would join others in the dining room for meals and other outings. She met a fellow resident there. He would smoke and so she would go outside and took up smoking herself! He gave her a ring and she was proud of this. She told me it was the best thing that ever happened to her by going to this place. His family apparently were upset and angry with this. He had Altzeimers Disease and believe it got to the point where he no longer remembered her. She said he reminded her of her former husband. Such judgement in life is cruel.
My eyes teared up at the opening scene, to have that is to be lucky!
We must treat our elderly population with the same respect we demand.
I'm only 37 seconds in and I'm already crying
It's funny how women are being judged at every age and in every society and sometimes by their own family members.
Truly awful.
Not just woman either. Men are judged harshly aswell.
Yes,
people are always so judgmental..... which is actually a judgmental comment.. just proves my point :P
human beings NEED touch; we NEED love. Who cares as long as they aren't hurting anyone! The son is very sensible
On all the comments about why they can’t let two “consenting” old women have some happiness before they die, the movie is depicting a predicament. You could face a situation like this where Mary’s children think she’s being abused sexually by your mum without consent (@5:55). How else do you expect an elder care home to deal with it? Lilian’s children’s reactions hardly seem cruel, but more like verifying the claims of the care center with their mum. They don’t at all seem judgmental of their mum being lesbian, just a little surprised and unraveling their thoughts. It’s a sad situation, but we don’t know Mary’s mental state or her ability to provide consent, so we can’t rush to judge her children either.
I think the daughter and sons (and other family) reaction was pretty realistic. It is an issue when she could be being abused. If you’re not in your right mind frame, is it consent... but the staff however handled it with NO grace at all. They were in fact punishing her. They even tried to justify it with the ignorance and homophobia presented by the staff of different backgrounds... ew.
It seemed like this was always her true self. Admitting to an affair with a woman and then using bebes name as answer b.
Why’d you put “consenting” in quotes? Are they not consenting lol
@@papasscooperiaworker3649 I think the reason why consenting was in quotes is because if one (or both) are experiencing a neurodegenerative disease, then they can’t truly consent
All anyone would need to do is quietly observe them and their interactions with each other. You could clearly see the love and deep friendship on both of their faces at the end in the TV room. Dementia or not, they very obviously cared deeply for each other.
@@alharrington4189 Says who? At what stage of dementia is love forbidden? I can think of none.
Hmmm I'm wondering if the mum was faking dementia to be able to end her days with Bebe. She seemed pretty sharp in the end.
I could feel the love through the screen during the first minute. It was beyond beautiful. Thank you for this.
This was beautiful, the elder lady is such a great actress. Great film!
Seems like an extension of the other short film with the nanny. Girl and a boy, and the husband wanted to get rid of the nanny
It’s actually very normal for older women to seek a female companion and even live together.
Of course, she finds comfort in her.
Normal in countries where they are shipped off to old folks homes is no surprise
Beats having a lazy overbearing husband.
I seek a female companion since I was 15 lol
Cute old lesbians ✨ love is love
A reverse Brokeback Mountain. She had kids, lived the life that was expected of her but her real love is with her in her mind now.
@Gucci Potter okay and what about that?
the was fuqin weird
@Gucci Potter of course brother/sister, she’s old you can’t blame her, but they’re in love, and we can’t judge her.
She will find it herself, it’s between her and allah, and we can’t judge her for it but leave them alone.
And this comment is pretty rude but I understand.
@Gucci Potter hey remember when allah said not to judge? yeah..
If loving you wrong, I don't wanna be right (song)
That pop up in my head
One of the best song in 1972 by Luther Ingram. I was 15 years old.
And just you mentioning it, made me remember those days.
Stay safe Greetings from Puerto Rico 🇵🇷
@@evaperez4139
Its means as well
Greeting to you as well my friend 🇺🇲
Be safe 😷💯
Man these films are so GOOD
She surly doesn't have dementia or Alzheimer's...as she remembers everything and wat she want...it's not disease, it's wat she born with her inner voi6... Bravo guys...love it...
long term memory can be retained. so she can still have dementia
@@mysweetpepper she is in life's that stage where she don't want to have any regrets...so she is behaving without thinking about anyone else...
Damn so you’re telling me they had the opportunity to play that very same song, strangers in the night, at the end credits, and they didn’t?!?! Unfortunate, but the bureaucracy makes everything difficult
It's implied.
maybe copyright?
Children reporting to school summoned because of their mothers bad behaviour ???? Old people are still people with needs ,that should be respected ,consensual of course!
'mom are you a lesbian' 😁 luv this and wonderfully acted - thank you ❤
It saddens me that society thinks it's "extremey regretful" when two older adults seek and find intimacy. Does no one think of themselves getting older? Should all their desires die when they start needing help for some of their care? Do they stop being humans? Ridiculous.
We should all be so lucky to find happiness at the end of our lives
Stewart is absolutely correct. Surely consensual intimacy can't be bad.
Let them cuddle ffs
I believe she had experiment in her youth days she might be bisexual but had to hide it from everyone til now. At least she has a partner now. Nobody wants to be alone. As long as its consensual.
They are gorgeous 🌱
I wish I could find this kind of love as a 30 year old lesbian myself. The love of my life. Cheated on me and left me for a man and married him. She rubbed it in my face and made fun of me. I cried for nearly a year. As she told me she would make fun of me how she cheated and boasted how good she was at destroying me. She said she was trying to get me to kill myself. And to start self harming again ( I did not do it) she is the most evil vile person I've ever met.
Whenever id tell her I know she is cheating I can feel it. She would tell me "you are sick in the head. You need to be hospaltized. You're delusional. You are a mental person" I started to believe her and question my sanity.
Screw her, you're beautiful
@@kermitthefrog2881 Thank you so much. I appreciate that. I still think and dream of her to this day. But I don't love her anymore. I just don't understand why she still haunts my dreams.
Please dont harm yourself. You are worth of love. Words matter a lot but not more than what you tell yourself . Find love in the smallest things around you . This tough time shall surely pass away.
With love a fellow human being❤
I'm really happy you know you don't love her anymore, after all the sh*, what you listed is waaay too insane. So sorry you had to meet this person 🙏 sending love your way! 💚💚💚
@@r2Gt06 Thank you for the kind words. I am glad too I was able to get over her. The things I have listed she has done worse so much worse that I did not know a human was capable of or could ever think of doing to someone just so they could get them to kill themselves so she could have me out of her way without having to leave me herself. Until she noticed I wasn't gonna kill myself. She just up and left. Very evil person.
Wow that was brilliant! I've seen onions with less layers. Very thought provoking. Excellently executed, well done.
Does anyone else find the last line very interesting?
Yupp!
Why deny someone with such little time?
Underrated films
What a great short film about an important subject!! 💕💕
We love to see it!
It is love what can be wrong? beautifull scenario!
Never thought I could cry and scream at the same time
the opening shot was incredible.
Just BRILLIANT! Let me say u post THE BEST content on utube. Thank you so very much. I can't stop if I start. Most shows are quite short- but I watch for hours.🐾
Find love when you can!
Hello Allan thank you so much for all your short films
This opening scene has me in tears.
Isn't it a surprise that those of us in our golden years can still be human and have real feelings!!
No words can describe what the human touch can do.
Aw the intro is absolutely beautiful ❤️
This is beautifull, emagine finding Love so late in Life.
This is so sad and so beautiful and I’m gonna cry
Beautiful, powerful little film❤️
This was so beautiful I can't thank you enough ❤️
Beautiful film.
Aw, the old farts were hugging. So what? How's anybody going to break a hip? The other residents, if they even notice, won't even give a flip. I bet there's a lot more going on in there that the administration doesn't realize. The staff knows and doesn't care, they probably think it's sweet. Because it is. Leave them alone, let them be.
This whole thing is so ridiculous.
Old farts....you wait.
@@sicooper4230 I'm 64. I AM an old fart so take that!
And I live in a Supportive Care Facility, so I know what goes on. This place is a soap opera!
@@littlemrpinkness295 i always hear this! Coupled by the fact stds are rampant in some care homes. I think when you pass 60, you should be allowed to do whatever the heck you want haha
@@littlemrpinkness295 How do you like it? I'm 64 and thinking of moving into one nearby. I am SO lonely here in Alaska!
The woman who plays the mother also played Noranti on Farscape.
ah thanks for pointing that out, I thought she seemed familiar!
Someone else mentioned she played a role in Mad Max, too. Or was it Farscape? Cant remember!
@@TerryReedMiss Both.
Treating them like they’re in jail. Let them be happy if it’s not hurting anyone!
Hi.
@@johnsongerrardb9650 Hi 👋🏻
@@everevelyn1094 oh thanks for your reply , so where are texting from .,.. Evelyn
@@johnsongerrardb9650 Pennsylvania USA, you?
@@everevelyn1094 oh nice , Ohio , nice meeting you here!!
How is it that no one is asking what Mary thinks of it
This is an Australian production !!!
I loved this! MORE!
When someone has dementia go with the flow. Let people do what they want in safety. My mum had dementia for twenty years. I celebrated any friendship and intimacy she had. Anything to give her some happiness. What the past was goes out the window. Just keep loving and caring for that person. Even if they don't know who you are. None of that is important. Put yourself and what you think is normal aside.
There is no premise for this to exist. Two women who care for each other are doing just that. This needn't exist. They act like crime occurred.
Scandal! Lol! Yeah, grandma is getting it onnnn!
Beautiful, and very sad😢 very sad. 😔 it's actually scary to think at that age, your no longer thought of as human with the same normal human desires. Still loved this so much tho 👍👍👍💕
Imagine the casting for this.
This is great.
I don't think it's anyone's business if Lillian likes women or men. Frankly, if Lillian and Mary are happy, butt out.
just beautiful!
Imagine if it was two elder men instead.
And? So? How would it be different?
well done! 👏👏👏
It has nothing to do with sexual desire. It's about filling the void that loneliness causes and finding the companionship and love to fill the void.
All humans need contact and communication to survive. Babies will not survive without being held. Touch is one of our main senses. Everybody needs a hug and needs to feel needed in order to be healthy in mind for the body to be healthy.
Oh that is lovely 😻
They're so happy together, I hope they let them be.