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- A gritty drama of three interweaving stories of women of various backgrounds and ages whose marriages are complicated by spousal abuse at the hands of their husbands.
Starring: Karen Grassle, LeVar Burton, Mike Farrell, Chip Fields, Diana Scarwid, Gloria Stuart, Virginia Leith, Joan Blondell
Directed by: Peter Werner
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Speaking as somebody who grew up in an abusive family, you're much better off with no family than an abusive one.
That is the truth and nothing but the truth 😢!!!!
I walked away from mine ,so much better for it 😊
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There's the family that you're born into and then there's the one you make! You walked away from your own family so that you can build a better one when you find the right person to have a child\ children with. Now you know what to do and what not to do. That is the first lesson in life that anyone can ever teach you. A wise man learns from the mistakes of others are fool learns from his own.
Well mine isn’t abusing
We often thinks being alone is the worst thing in life , no , wrong , being trapped in an un💔ing cold abusive relationship is far much worse , than being alone
I was in a very abusive marriage. I'm so much happier with my cat, dog 🐕 and beta 🐟 fish! MY best friends! Unconditional LOVE!!!!!!!!
I completely agree. I was. And I’m free now.
Wow it’s funny I was thinking how sad I was today because I have been alone and never married no kids ❤. I guess by choice I have been picky then my mom passed away I took care of her and my dad. But seeing this movie and reading comments. I think GOD knows what he’s doing to give me crap 💩. I think I am better the way that I have been. In case GOD feels he should bring me a Christian man I won’t object to that ❤❤❤.
@@Sexygirl31ify I'm a senior citizen, two failed marriages because both were abusive (one verbally/emotionally, one physically). Divorced for many years now (THANK YOU, JESUS!!!). Believe me, NOTHING is worse than being married to a cold & heartless person with no empathy & caring for others! God bless you, take care.
@@repentjesusiscomingsoon1529 well it’s OVER thank GOD you are here and in peace ✌️ by the grace of GOD 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
This film had a lot of triggers for me. The meories of those days will prob haunt me until im in my grave. But im a survivor ,with Gods help. Amen
Prayers for you friend
T s so great to see that someone else knows here our help truly comes from. I pray that you continue to keep the faith. Peace, love and blessings to you..
Me too
Me too, Sweetie. Me too. God has sheltered me through the darkest time.
I’m a survivor also. Triggers suck. I have them daily. God Bless all of you 🥰😊🙏🙌
My second time watching this movie and still angers me. That phrase "I'm Sorry " "I won't do it again " is the biggest piece of bull I've ever heard.
This problem doesn't discriminate it's widespread throughout all demographics.
Abuse is Abuse. Don't stand for it. They don't change. 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🇦🇺🇦🇺
yeah, the I will never do it again rang in my ear...how many times have I heard that? The men cajoling and guilt tripping the wives, Is there a book of those sayings out there? One that triggered me was the rich guy rationalizing how they had to get the big car but could not afford her schooling...the old gas light bait and switch, I had one counselor agree with my ex on doing that!!! This was one session...my ex pulled the old I am the nice guy she is violent drunk crap, and the counselor bought it. So much of this still goes on today, it makes me sick
Yes it is, through all demographics INCLUDING women, who physically abuse their partners far more than we know. I'm pretty sure a good friend of mine is being abused, but he won't permit ONE WORD about his wife. She's a master manipulator, always keeping the gaslight on high.
We think it's bad for chicks in our society? Think of the shame abused guys live with, man. I will include all in my prayer tonight; may our heavenly Father enfold the used and abused with special warmth and strength.
Sometimes people grow up in unhealthy homes so they want to mean it when they say I’m sorry I do it again that doesn’t mean that it’s okay to do things like that but when you grow up that way that kind of behavior is second nature to those people and to the people who grow up around it so it’s not that simple just to tell people to not to put up with it my point is that often people want to stop that kind of behavior but they don’t know how to
MOVIES LIKE THIS BRINGS BACK FLASHBACKS I WAS MARRIED TO MAN WHO TRIED TO KILL ME I THANK GOD 🙏🏽 I'M AM FREE OF HIM GOD DOES ANSWER PRAYERS KEEP ON PRAYING 🙏🏽 AND WATCH WORK .
Right but maybe the woman believes her husband gonna change and she deserved it..Why ? Maybe she was abused as a child ..no one knows..
The best thing about this film is that it portrays three different families in different subcultures. There by my it is showing that domestic violence knows no one culture, it reaches into all culture or subculture.
How 'bout using the term "demographic"? "Sub-culture" is condescending and also incorrect, in these cases.
@jenniferwilcox9759 I'd like to point out that there are subcultures though. You could consider the black community a culture. And the first hip hop artists were a subculture of the black community. They were not negative and had many positive messages. Nothing condescending about that. IMHO
And economic levels since Mike Farrell and his wife were well off
IF THEY HIT YOU AND GET AWAY WITH THEY WILL CONTINUE DOING DON'T IN A RELATIONSHIP WHERE YOU ARE ABUSED LIFE IS TO BE ENJOYED NOT BE HURT AND ABUSED 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
OMG it was hard watching this movie. This is an older movie but not too much has changed with abusers.
Nope. I was in an abusive relationship where I almost died. I didn’t press charges. But I never saw him again. I regret not pressing charges.
Exactly what I said
They always stay the same. Its almost like there's some secret book they all read and follow the same steps
It's sick
Some men should just stay single they should never be in a relationship. And ofc,some women too !!!
Zero tolerance to domestic abuse, once is one times more than enough.
Classic 70s tv movie. They really knew how to make decent tv movies back then.
I agree but this film dreadful the acting is awful the burning bed 1984 farrah fawcett was better true story to way better than this rubbish
And don't forget "A Cry For Help The Tracy Thurman Story w/Nancy McKeon 1989." Another good one I highly recommend is "Stranger In My Bed 2005 w/Jamie Luner.
@@bidenwearstrumpscrappypamp1829 A cry for help was a good movie and an insane story! Crazy that it actually happened like that!!!
@@bidenwearstrumpscrappypamp1829your name!!!😂😂😂😂😂😂
@@rachaelhogan7850eh, it is what it is. Many of us enjoyed this free movie!🤷🏾♀️
I took the yelling,the name calling, the slaps and the beatings for far too long but then he was going to punch our 10 year old son in the face, closed fist. Then was it. The next day we packed our bags and never looked back. There is a light at the end of the tunnel
Good for you, Darleen, you are such a brave woman! All best wishes for you and your son!!! :)
So glad for you.
This movie shows that not all women have supportive “I’ll kill you if you hurt my daughter” parents. So true and part of the reason why it’s not always so easy to leave.
The opening scene was proof of that💔
Especially back then. Fewer options for women, as many did not work or have college degrees. If they had kids on top of that, they were really in trouble. I was surprised that there was even a domestic violence shelter then.....they weren't as commonplace as today.
True. Some parents would even pressure you to stay saying its a sin against God and you will get punished and how Jesus suffered on the cross so you have to take the beatings too and suffer.... Talking about my parents
@@hannahsareur4823I'm sorry to hear that. They were wrong.
Well yeah cause DAD was a wife beater too, he can't very well call out his son-in-law when he's putting hands on his wife also
Yes, this definitely had triggers for me. My husband didn't start beating on me untill I got pregnant with our first and only child. It continued untill one night he slapped the bottle out of her mouth. I never believed in blind rage until that night. Don't remember what happened but when I realized I was on top of him with a broken broom handle. He was missing teeth and had a broken nose I was still in a rage. Took him to the hospital Both of us were black and blue . Back then there was no DV unless the person wanted to press charges. On the way home I told him to sleep with one eye open and if he ever raised his hand to me or my Daughter again, I'd kill him. Next day he moved back with his parents and I filed for divorce. Haven't seen him since and still single to this day.
You're a good mother.
You're a very BRAVE woman to stand up to that asshole like that, so many women let their kids become victims too. You should be applauded for having the courage to fight back for her.
God brought me through my abusive marriage. Horrible abuse. I still have nightmares of being choked. And slapped. Everything. I'm so glad I'm not married ENYMOORE. I just have pets. A 🐕 and 🐱 they're a lot better than that abusive prick
Remember, no matter what happens, what you did or said, he has absolutely no right to touch you. Do not accept violence, not even once !
Once is one times more than enough.
Leave, run, seek protection, never go back !
Don't listen to his reasons, that's his problem, not yours. Your sole concern is your own safety.
True
He says if I ever hit you or push you again, I’ll move out. He might kill her then. What he should have said was if I feel like I want to hit you or push you again, I’ll move out.
Yes...i could not believe the black girl went back...what a RISK!!!! You can NEVER Trust people like this who Hit you so badly - never!!
I just found this movie and it definitely triggered memories for me. I was married to this proverbial great guy who was wonderful to everyone else but me. The beatings started after we moved in together. I was so embarrassed because I had always said if some man ever put his hands on me I'd have him arrested. Yet I allowed him and for about 5 years he continued. I'd leave and go back and it was horrible. I finally had enough and by this time. I had 2 son's. That gave me the strength to say no more and have him arrested.
stephanie, you sound like me, we could have been married to the same man. Only, he always came back to me. He was the one to always go back to momma. But, when he came back, I thought it was because he loved me, that wasn't it, and lie. Being arrested only makes them meaner. That last 11yrs. I see the comments are same as what we have written, and this was back in 1978, 45 yrs ago, seems like yesterday. How are these men raised to be men?
So sorry for you both, but you seem to be tough women by the grace of GOD you guys are fine. GOD bless
You both ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Good thing I have never been married lol
This is exactly what I experienced.
I finally left and divorced him.
@@doristserkezis998 Good for us. Don' kid yourself it took a lot of guts to do this! ❤❤
@@doristserkezis998 Do you find yourself still affected by it? I had some guy intimidating me the other day and I just stood there. I hate that and need to get my voice back.
May all abuse victims and their children's find the strength 💪& support to leave in one peace.🫂❤🙏🏾Thx alot for this 👌🏿 🎬 .
A very well done movie !!!! Three different scenarios and three different outcomes....1. Death 2. Concilliation by counseling 3. Divorce Every case involved abuse. Great movie. Thank you for sharing it.😌
Karen Grassel, lovely as ever. She's still alive and looks great.
1:01:28 Why do so many women say they're afraid of being alone....when they have KIDS?? If they have kids, they aren't alone.
Get out you can do it I had to leave and myself and children out it was hard but my God's grace it is over
God cares for the orphans and widows
When you fight back he will think twice before he hit you again!! It worked for me never ever take abuse verbal or physical a man that abuses a woman or child is a sick coward!! Angry 😡
They are all cowards.
1978...and nothing has changed... Well. Except for now we have Andrew tate telling men this is ok.
This is hands down, one of the Best, most dramatic, and accurate portrayals of Alcoholism, Addiction, and violent physical abuse. Extremely well done movie. 🎆
I too am a survivor as I thought I made the right prince in my life. He was my one and only. The problem lied in too many faces and too many single men who deny they re alcoholics. I couldn t stop the chain of men I met through the years that were alcoholics. Why did Hof put these men in my path? I learned to function on my own. I don t need a man . They pick me and when I saw the social drinking and parties he wanted to attend I found my husband adoring women who had money. All three men were good men and each were a of church goers. We were involved in church activities,but it was the women he worked with who he partied with while I was at home with our four children..They each started coming home on time then later and later. Yes there was always another pretty face. I was beaten and he told me "You re lucky that I don t put your head between that door and the wall, like the rest of the men do at my job. Did you see the gals I work with? They wore sunglasses to cover up their two black eyes,well that could be you." That did it after three beatings I suffered and going back home. Ieft after going to my 3rd YWCA Battered women classes. I tried two other marriages and I quit! I m done with any man with no more dates . They re all the same kind of men. I too was put in he mental institution. The directors tested me in groups and decided I was a target for the men I chose and all five psych doctors apologized to me. In fact they were going to send me to college free on the rehab program to be their Activity director. I could live at the center and teach the others what I d experienced as an Iowa Farmer s Wife my profession for 14 years. I left happy till I met another gold digger. I was beat up by him and left,no more me for me as I m alone and help my grown adult children. I m a butterfly and I don t have to be told what to do anymore..
🧀❤️😂🤳🎊.
This and The Burning Bed 👌
@@britgirl4814 37:33 why is he acting like this?..
@@shirleyfunte3063 Abuse is so wrong no matter what type it is!
@Peanut Butter 🤭🤭🤭
This movie was good, I felt bad for the wives that suffered, no man should be allowed to hit or beat their wives, the elderly couple; he beat his wife until he killed her, he should've gone to prison, Holly and her husband; he was a liar, he did mean to hurt her and the neighbor was right he is a wife beater, last but not least Susannah and her husband; he was a bastard and not to mention he tried to prevent her from going to school, the divorce was worth it.
Allowed*
I know right. And from 1:13:03 to 1:13:04 where he said, "She's my wife and it's none of your business," I would say "When you're beating up on your wife all the time, it is everybody's business."
Ladies be careful!!
U date, marry your
abuser first . There are signal while dating be
Watchful ask God to
Help u in everything
Believe me he will
Abusers are slick as oil
Most times 2 personal
Ities. One for observers
One for u. Leave don't
Look back. Live for
self and your children
That's one love is yours
Son/daughter. No man
can be yours that's
abusive knows nothing
Of Godliness. Love u all Pray. By the way
this movie is old, laws
Are different now. There is help!!!
Stand firm stay away
Mommy does not want
To be hurt anymore.We
will be alright.
I am not sure an abuser wants to ever quit.They want that surge of power. So sad.
The black woman is Kim Fields real mom. Tootie from Facts of Life
Really? Wow. I never knew that was Tootsies mom!!
She looks just like her.
I knew she seemed familiar
Wow they look alike
"How I'm gonna kill him and no one knows it was me" I so remember that feeling!
one has to leave after the first battering... no looking back- get out
This brought back some dark memories for me, from childhood to young adulthood. I swore I would never take the abuse again, not of any kind.
It takes a lot of courage and determination to escape an abusive partner. xx
A tough situation for women all over the world to be controlled and manipulated and beaten by their friends or husbands
I've Chosen to stay single because I was an abuser.... And the funny not so funny thing is... I tried to get help and they just laughed! 😒 they like there's help you should. NOT put up with THAT. I said no... Madam I am the violent one and I could hear them laughing their butts off! The police laughed at my fiancee when his mom took him to report me.... I'm glad that now violent females are getting arrested and prosecuted... Because it's very very hard for a man to report. I will stay single because I absolutely do NOT trust myself... I'm not saying that works for anyone else BUT I'm strong in my faith and I have reached out to the ones I've hurt and told them I am truly sorry for putting my hands on them and I had no right to do so unfaithful or NOT.... They were shocked! And thanked me. I also asked them not to allow what I did affect them in their new relationships. I grew up in Martial Arts so trust me i can be lethal.... It was no hair pulling.. It was not a laughing matter! Everyone I pray none of you are going through this and if you are? GET OUT BEFORE THEY CARRY YOU OUT.
This is still happening today, maybe even worse than it ever was.
That's a lie. Ppl don't even get married as much. Spousal abuse is not common anymore.
@@trawlins396 Are you nuts? LOL it's gotten even worse! escalating to so many murders especially in the United States
I think Trump is a prime example of a wife abuser. I think that is why he picks women from Eastern Europe. Even Ivana said in the 90's that trump raped her, she had to withdraw that comment as he perhaps refused to give her a penny if that was still in the air. I remember that statement from her very clearly.
@@CrissyRed I think 3 women a day die from spousal abuse in this country. Lockdown was worse.
@@trawlins396 You don't know what you're talking about. You're the liar. A person doesn't have to be married to be an abuser...or be abused. Spousal abuse isn't even a term that's used any more. It's either called domestic abuse or family violence. Stop spreading misinformation.
I was as very young married to a violent psychopat, I was 18 and pregnant, this was 1969. Then after some years though I divorced him he didn’t leave me alone, I was afraid of him and moved to another country in the 70’s. When I heard 2016 he had died it was a relief even though I hadn’t met him in decades 🥰
Thank goodness, that new laws were passed. Now, if you were hit, a police does not have to witness it to get your husband or boyfriend arrested. Most, abusers do not change. I sat, get out, and don't look back.
Wide: I’m pregnant.
Husband: Who’s is it?!
GROUNDS FOR IMMEDIATE FILING FOR DIVORCE
“ but he didn’t do anything! I love him so much!”
🙄
Oh man my childhood of Reading Rainbow is ruined 😆. No offense it's just a joke I didn't mean no harm in that I do apologize
Once an abuser ;an abuser till they die. ( my father died at age 80-alone, after 7 female relationships-they all left him.
Throwing a woman down the stairs, is not love.
Acting as though nothing happened.
Both are in denial.
He setts traps.
Says all the right things
He is full of crap
And she is naive
Beating a random woman or ones wife should be treated the same. Beating is illegal. Simple. If a woman is in fear for her physical safety that fear should be removed from the home. End of discussion.
My name is Isabell and I'm a 61 yr old Hispanic lady in Tucson Arizona. I remember when I used to get beaten up by my two ex husband's and I thought it was normal. I've been alone for years now, I never knew what love was without being hit. My scars are inside and out. Nowadays men just kill their partners,bury them..
Hi Isabell, I'm so sorry to hear that. That must have been such a hard and scary time. I wish for you that you can heal some of these scars and lead the happy life that you deserve, with or without a husband.
So many people go through what you're describing. You're certainly not alone. I'm 40 and had two ex's who were abusive. The first one got custody of my only son, because he got someone to lie on the witness stand. Years later, I had a daughter, but unfortunately her father was abusive also. In a different way, but, still. My daughter is four years old now. But at least I still have her. I am getting ready to go back and fight for my son, though it won't be easy, as my son's father is very, very aggressive, and I don't have much money. But, my son deserves to know his mom still loves him. ❤ I will pray for you, if that's okay. God bless!
I'm so sorry, Gabriel.
if the partners don't kill and bury them first nowadays
I'm so sorry that happened to you. I'm glad that you are safe now; I had two previous boyfriends that were abusive. Most of it was verbal, but they hurt me terribly even with their words. I have been single for many many years now & it is wonderful to have my own peace AND my own thoughts. I do miss having a man...period....at times, but if I ever choose someone again....I will look HARD for the red-flags & end it quickly.
Her mom really said "let him go. No harm done" with all kinds of harm being done...
Right!
1:07:00
I talked to a therapist and they told me that you want to be treated like a human being.
Wtf 😳 🤬 🤔
Main character should have put a plug on her son from the very beginning!
Yelling at her, asking where she’s been, making demands, etc.
Hell no!
I was abused for thirty years until I finally got “discarded” for an internet girlfriend. She ended up being pushed down the stairs by him. I could be dead. Thank God I’m alive.
OMG. You are lucky! 💖💖
You stayed for 30 years???
The same thing happened to me he left finally for my neighbor...he beat in her so much until she had to have back surgery
@@denicebrookssingsprobably hard to get out...she says he eventually left.
I remember hearing about my great grandma and great aunties being abused. Then I remember seeing my mother go thru the same thing when I was a child. I promised myself that I would never go thru the same thing. I promised myself my daughter would know that it is unacceptable for a man to put his hands on her.
How many times has a battered women or man has heard Iam sorry, it will never happen again, I dont know why I do it. Get out the first time they put their hands on you.
Ever seen the burning bed? Based on a true story about a woman who set a bed on fire killing her abusive husband.
Farrah fawcett played the abused woman in the movie, the burning bed. From Ms. Harper Stacey.
Good movie
Yes, The Burning Bed is on Tubi. Another I recommend is "A Cry For Help, The Tracy Thurman Story." With Nancy McKeon. I also recommend "Stranger In My Bed." With Jamie Luner.
Yes, that’s a terrifying movie. Good one to see, though.
I remember watching that film, several times. One of the toughest watches ever. I also read the book by Francine Hughes. While I cheered when she was acquitted, the story does not end there.....nor did it really end all that happily, to my surprise. Francine did go on, eventually, to become an LPN I believe....but she actually married another abusive man! Not like Mickey, by all accounts, but not a very kind man either. But here is the part that shocked me: FRANCINE allegedly was arrested for beating her youngest daughter Nicole! She reportedly blackened both her eyes. Also Francine for all her haughtiness about drinking......developed an issue with alcohol herself. But then, I didn't always admire her in the book either. She had MANY chances to have a new life, when she had actually escaped Mickey! So when this child-hitting allegation appeared.......So, I lost all sympathy for her when I read that. I even threw out her book. If she could go through all she did, get acquitted for killing her husband when few women nowadays would.....& go on to act like that?? She was horrid too.
I was in a ten year abusive relationship with my kids father and I got out of it
You're one of the few who do. I hope you're doing well and your kids too. 😊
@@septembersapphire347 ten years is two long but am happy for you
You got learning difficulties?
@@robwilton9539 That's mean of you!!
@@sharoncox4776 Cruel to be kind maybe Sharon. Others reading this will hopefully get out of abusive relationships asap.
I grew up in a home where my dad would beat up my mom terribly. It made me a nervous child all my life and I never wanted to get close to a man. I got married but never totally surrender myself to him.
And?
I've seen SO MANY MEN be abuser's to women in my family it definitely had me nervous I recall one day going to Ralph's in San Diego cashier had two black eyes a bruised cheek and a split lip it had faded but it was still very prominent.... And she was at work whoever that man was beat the hell out of her I was staring but I didn't mean to and she hung her head I felt so bad so so bad for her 😢😢😢
I grew up in a home where my father beat my mum this movie brought some dark memories I later developed anxiety and depression
Did your husband ever you?
This movie made me cry. I went thru a lot of abusive relationships. Also saw my dad beat my mother and my brother and myself. It was awful. I’m glad the ending was good. Except for the older lady. I wanted to hug them all
I'm so sorry you went through that. I hope life is better for you now...
Something interesting about Chip Fields other than being Kim Fields mother is that in 2 episodes of the TV show Good Times, she was the abuser.
I. Knew I recognized her face!!
I totally remember that she beat up Penny all the x
Wow! Idk she was Kim Fields' mother...wow but I definitely rmbr her as the abusive mom to Penny! That dam iron scene😢
Wow! I never knew that even in the 70's no one did anything to protect these women. The one woman had a bruised face and the officer said they had to witness him hitting her? I was in my 20's in the 70's and thankfully never experienced any kind of abuse so wasn't aware of how little support they received.
Women leave that man the minute he raises his voice at/to you ...it's not worth it ...life goes on without having waking up next to that.... a burden in everyway....it's just wrong....
Nice to see Karen Grassle in something other than Little House. Shes a great actress. Im surprised she did not do more movies. And how cool to see the woman who played Hester Sue on Little House as the neighbor in the apartment
True. From what I remember reading, Grassle wanted a short break from LHOTP and wanted to play a different role. And she even spoke about the headaches from having to wear her hair tied up so tightly and for so long for the show.
This is the best movie ever on battered women's. It showed all three stories at once. Great movie.
The little girl asked for water NOT lemonade.
I'm still crying. I got sick angry at the men. I wanted to beat them down. I was never physically abused. But I've been emotionally abused my whole life.
Until a year ago. What I know now, I can never go back.
I remember in the 70s when my mom would get beat by my step father, neighbors would call the police. The police told my mom the same thing. The police would have to see him beat her before they could do anything.
I suppose this is why I was never hit. Saw her go through it & get out of it. But the emotional abuse I experienced. Which is worse due to nothing the law can do. No marks on the outside. No proof right? Grrr
What does it mean we have to see him beat you? Couldn’t they see the red, purple, and blue colors on her face? What did they think? She walked into a door?
I agree. I remember wondering the same thing. But it was true: Police were literally NOT ALLOWED to arrest abusers unless they physically saw the abuse taking place, which naturally seldom tended to happen. It was only in recent decades that this changed at all. In my state of Connecticut, it wasn't until Tracy Thurman was almost killed by her brutal husband & sued the police department that they instituted The Thurman Law. The law stats that here the police have to arrest the accused abuser regardless of 'proof'...note this applies to both men & women. The other catch: The police are only required to hold the abuser for 24 hrs....enough time for you to pack up & leave at least. Its so sad that it took this attack on this poor woman & her court case to create the law! Worst: Their son grew up & was arrested for domestic violence! :( I would be soooo furious with my son for that. @@Macias8200
I married one of those... like a nightmare I couldn't wake up from. I divorced him......after 17 years.....
No husband should read a Playboy magazine. That scene really upset me. All these stories were very sad. The old lady in particular.
I always thought it a bit weird that men (or women)looked at nudie-magazines if they were married. But now that I am an adult, I guess I can see its pretty normal to just be curious...BUT NOT TO DO IT RIGHT BEFORE YOU MAKE LOVE WITH YOUR SPOUSE! That guy was brutal, holding the magazine right in front of his wife, indicating he needed it to get turned on!
Great movie. It was comforting to see all sides, the laws and the help. It has gotten better, but still has a long-long way to go.
It's so hard to picture karen Grassle (Caroline Ingalls)other than Michael Landon (Charles Ingalls)😀👍🏾 However,I know the show must go on!Rip 🙏🏽🙏🏽❤️
With anyone other than Michael Landon 🙏🏽❤️
It was good to see Ketty Lester in this movie as well. She played Hester-Sue along side Karen Grassle in Little House on the Prairie. Ketty has a beautiful singing voice.
OMG!!! That's who THAT IS.... 😆 I went to school with the cousins of the real ingiles....
She was recently interviewed by Megyn Kelly about working with Michael Landon. She is still beautiful in the interview. You can find it on TH-cam.
@@jviarruel That's really cool!
47:38
“For your safety and your kid’s safety, it’ll be better if you work on your marriage?”
Translation: stay in the same house with your abuser and put your kids at risk too.
47:38
47:38
Said she could handle her spouse.
Then proceeds to get beaten to death .
1:14:51
Good movie something different to watch 😊
Over 20 years later, the law still works the same. The mentality is the same.
I’m fortunate that I got away and have moved on. Others are not so lucky.
Stop lying! The law is much more favorable to women now than it was back then!
@@trawlins396 Tf are you ON this thread for? Are you in jail? Should you be?
@@robyndismon394 I'm on this thread because this is a FREE country and TH-cam is a PUBLIC platform. I've never been in jail. Have you?
I also don't buy into that "all women are poor victims" nonsense. It's a blatant lie.
@@robyndismon394 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
In my opinion the law regarding husband's beating wives should be simple. If that man were to hit a female stranger in the street, the police would not ask her to forgive him, date him, but they would arrest him. Hitting ones wife or a random female is no different.
If only that easy millions of young old ladies suffering in silence nothing's changed
Not true at all.
Had 3 out of 4 husbands that "abused me,it was by "The Grace of God that got me out of spousal abuse," Praise always to God the Great Creator of Heaven and Earth and the Universe💝"
Good for you! 🙂
Why didn't you stop me? What the hell kind of gas lighting is that?? And on her death bed?....needs no answer people...its your life.
Yep! Gaslighting at its best. I couldn't believe that guy saying "Why didn't somebody stop me??" You had MULTIPLE chances to get your ass some counseling or better yet.......STOP HITTING YOUR WIFE. Its not like he had no control.
So glad things r different in 2023. Those poor women & children back in the 70s ☹️
No im still in abusive family. Its 2024. 😢
This is sensational movie and not a bit dated. It should be aired on TV at least once every few months.
39:43
That means if she kills him, she can’t get arrested if the cops don’t see her do it.
I would rather be alone. I seen what my mother want thru for 15years
1) My sister was hit by her then husband soon after marriage and that's it, she left and never went back.
We all should have dignity and respect for ourselves, man or woman. Don't ever let anyone take that away from you, once is more than enough. Never go back to your abuser.
2) No second chance, you don't owe an abuser a second chance.
Amen, THEY DO NOT CHANGE!! THEY ONLY GET WORSE!!
Your Sister was right..congratulations and i wish the Best for her..
Good 4 her Excellent!
Your sister was emotionally stable. Unfortunately many are not.
Very realistic movie,about abuse & psychological abuse and the consequences of it.
The police never can fully understand what it's really like,
The true plan is shelters, which will help you to get back on your feet.
Once beaten...Always beaten.
Remember that !!!!!!
I despise how people can't see that they coddle and encourage addicts to be abusive by NOT holding them accountable for their destructive behaviors.
My brother maliciously assaulted me!
I wish I could show pics!!!!
Put my left eye out & it was bleeding 🩸
Broke my nose, Brain Bleed & knocked teeth out!!!! I am 63 years old!!!!! It really upsets me when people ask what did I say to cause it 🤬🤬🤬 !!!! NOT A DAMN THING!!!! HE JUST WENT APE 🦍 SHIT & started Beating me in the head as hard as he could with both fists
😡😡😡😡😡😡😡. Of course our mom upholds him!😡. Common Wealth got him for
FELONEY
@@ritaelswick937 I am so sorry. To be the victim and still be blamed for an assault perpetrated against you is a travesty and it needs to stop. Nothing can excuse such behavior. Everything is so warped. But it happens more than you know...like all the time. I'm sad to say that. I've had my own experiences and the thought is the victim must have done something to deserve it. It's sick....really sick.
@@nagrabagra4924 I didn’t do anything & had no idea he would go to such extreme!!!! He is
facing felony charges!!!
@@ritaelswick937 I'm glad to hear that he is having to face up to his despicable actions.
My husband & all of my friends said
NO ONE SHOULD BE BEAT LIKE THAT!!!!!
To be in a relationship where fear is present is not healthy. It's no way to exist. Get out immediately whenever you feel fearful of a partner's rage.
I love some of the fashions in this film.. Karen Grassle looks beautiful in this.
She's always beautiful.
I agree
@@cherylwebb8340
This is the most realistic movie about domestic violence I've seen. I love how, even though there are three vignettes, they tie them all together. Well acted! 😊
the only thing I would criticise is that it blames alcohol squarely on abuse, and not the underlying reasons. I get it was the 70s, it was cutting edge for its time, but there was the theory that the bottle made the violence, not the man. Love seeing Karen Grassle in another light, and as a writer I sense she must have brought some of her own experience to the table
In most cases alcohol is the prime reason for abuse. My partner was the kindest person there was until he drank alcohol....then he became unrecognizable and did a Mr. Hyde . So yes, drinking was the trigger.
@@elizabethpeterson455 I agree, but some men can be just plain mean while cold sober, too. Sad.
I am afraid I would have to kill somebody, really hard to look at this
The burning bed is very good
You got to have courage. Believe in yourself. Being alone is not that bad. I have been for 22 years
Covert gaslighting narcissist lawyer
I pray i never get into a relationship like this
A reboot of this movie needs to be made reflecting the lives of abused men.
It’s so sad how families & police dealt with this in the old days
I agree. It still floors me that the police needed to WITNESS the abuse before they would even take the abuser away. What did the lawmakers think...that the victims all hit THEMSELVES?!! You don't need to prove that a stranger hit you & its an automatic arrest if they do....so why does a spouse get a pass?
Classic made for tv movie like Sarah t portrait of dawn
If this is remade, would like to see 3 stories of a man on woman violence, woman on man violence, and a man on man or woman on woman violence (since abusive relationships do happen in the LGBTQ community as well)
I dealt with this once. Except it was more verbal and emotional. Once he started breaking shit that was it. Took my son and never looked back.
Good on you, so glad you escaped! It would have doubtless moved into physical abuse if he broke stuff! It escalates! Starts out with him putting you down, making ugly remarks and comments about you...then escalates to start screaming at you, verbal abuse...THEN IT GETS PHYSICAL! You definitely want to LEAVE when you see the beginning signs! I've heard people say that if they start verbally abusing you, 99% of the time, it WILL eventually get physical. NEVER LET SOMEONE WHO'S SUPPOSED TO LOVE YOU, DISRESPECT YOU!
This was one of the best movies because it shows "all people" (regardless of race or ethnicity) can be in this type of situations.
Exactly. It also showed that income/lifestyle, education or intelligence doesn't change the possibility of having an abuser.
Classic narcissistic men. Never change
I related to these women .. the “I promise I won’t drink anymore “ to “I’m sorry I hit you I was drunk “ to “I want you dead as my things were smashed “ and having my children endure it all ! 30 years of his booze , drugs , gambling , womanizing and mental and physical abuse I finally woke up to I can do this with God leading the way … I filed for divorce 4 years ago and have never looked back … the red flags were there less then a year into the marriage.. I ignored them and prayer for strength to help him get well .. God told me over and over “ THIS is not your fight LET GO “ my stubborn self did not for 30 years ! What a waste of time and my life .. water under the bridge I go forward happy feeling free to hold Gods hand and guide me each day 🙏
Amen, God does NOT want us abused and mentally tortured and treated like garbage!!! No, I don't think people should divorce lightly but ABUSE IS ANOTHER ISSUE ENTIRELY! I don't believe for a second God would want that for anyone! God bless you, you were most certainly right to leave!
I'm so glad you're free now! God bless you ❤️
Interesting. Hollywood never depicts the children in this situation correctly though. The Burning Bed was close to how my parents were of my parents aside from the ending, but the kids were written very inaccurately compared to experience.
I love that Karen Grassle was one of the writers and actors. Nice to see her out from being cheery Ma Ingalls of Little House fame...This movie was ahead of its time
This movie shocked and scared me.
I pray for the children involved in this madness and the men and women who can get away.
Great movie! It was good seeing Esther Sue and Caroline Ingalls.
Yes..so nice to see Ma Ingalls outside of "LHOP"...especially after some things she has shared in her new book. Cool to see "Hester Sue" in a different role as well!!
@@VintageRose75 I love Little House on the Prairie. I need to read that book. Have a great weekend
@@VintageRose75 Ah it was Hester Sue I wondered why I recognized her.
Yes it was, And I'm still watching Lhotp episodes as we speak 😃👍🏾👍🏾❤️
@@beverlywaits7663 me too I watch it every day. And The Golden Girls too if I get the chance. Have a great weekend
What's really sad is there still is no protection for women and men who are abused until they are dead 😞
I know right. And at 50:04, when the older lady told her daughter that she can handle her abusive husband, well, she thinks she can handle him but she can't and I think she was making a big mistake by thinking that she can handle her abusive husband when she really can't.
it's pretty easy to get a restraining order, especially now that everyone is online all the time and the violent people are often dumb enough to make threats over the phone or social media...
What do you think the better solution would be, to have a 24/7 police escort? That's just not feasible.
The best protection you can have is a gun, that's really it. There's plenty of services and places to go, and plenty of info on how not to be found. It's actually pretty easy to get away, unless you're being locked in and watched 24/7.
It's just up to the victim to make the decision to go..
There's only so much that can be done, a gun is the only thing that can put them on even ground.
Court System often fails us …when I hear women get locked up for deleting their abusers , in self defense …restraining orders doesn’t help enough, system protect criminals more than real victims….best to leave, go underground with our children, rather than result in hospitals /dead, or in prison for self defense later.
Yep, there aren't stern enough consequences for batterers. I knew a woman whose internal organs were ruptured, her ribs broken, busted eardrums, concussions. But the guy is out free as a bird. Barely a slap on the wrist.
Oh I thought there was, they have these places I thought for women and their children to go.
I was married to alcoholic. ( It's like
Living w good, the bad
& The ugly ) He traumatized me Emotionally cause he
Said it was my fault 🙄🤣🙄 I went to a
Therapist for help .
I divorced him . At first
Was hard financially
It got better, and had
A peace of mind ❤️🎵🎶🎶🎵
This move tells it from the women side and I lived it to where it went from me to the children . Then it went from the children back to the husband . It all stopped when I deceived to pull a knife on him no I didnt kill him but I think it's sad that it took something like that for it to stop . you can use all the stupid excuses to hit someone but it dosent mae it right .
I know right. There is no excuse for what the husbands of these women in this movie did to them. These women in this movie are much smarter than this and I think they would be making a big mistake by thinking that they can change them. I think these women in this movie were embarrassed about their husbands beating them. Believe me, I understand about sacrifices but I would rather sacrifice my marriage than my body or my spirit.
You know, not much has changed. At least in the mentally ill realm. You have to state that your life has been threatened or that they are a threat to. Themselves or the police can't do anything. You are stuck with the craziness. Sorry, restraining orders aren't enough
This is a well-done movie specially for people who have gone through abuse. I couldn't stop crying and this is after almost 40 years of my experience so I think that it can help to heal wounds that are still there hidden. Thank you!
so you were in an abusive relationship for 40 years? I am so sorry 😢
Can it help cure the abuser as well?
As a victim of abuse it is so hard to watch and listen to this movie; much misinformation given out from those on authority. Leave, it does not get better or be ready to die. Love does not hurt.
this movie is so sad that women didn't have any rights and even though the police come on time they still didn't have any rights, abuse is a disease that spreads from the root and grows like ugly weeds with painful thorns.that even if you take them out the pain is still there.
Chips fields I know she was from the Spider-Man TV series in the 70s I recognize her