Today I am finally feeling proud for having the strength to leave a Narcissistic abusive relationshiT. I've been sad confused exhausted but after seeing this movie it gave me a huge pat on my back💪💪💪These abusive behaviors have a horrible ripple effect. I'm safe.
Whenever I see River at this age, I always think of "Stand By Me", one of the best movies about friendship ever. Another one gone too soon. What might have been . . . . . . . . ..
No one rests in peace unless they put their faith in Jesus, confessed that they were a sinner and sorry, and asked Jesus to forgive all their sins and save them. Then get baptized in Jesus name.
This movie was great,and the forgiveness and love rediscovered between the mother and daughter from past family abuse was truely inspiring. God bless Susan Sletten
As soon as she overheard her daughter wanting to put her into a home she all of a sudden remembers how she treated them... The entire movie she acted like she couldn't hear... Wow!
What a truly lovely film with tremendous performances by Geraldine, Tuesday, River and the young lady who played Addy. It touches me to see a family face their dysfunction and move past it. River is so beloved and a natural emoter. I mourn what could have been for him but thankful for what he left behind.
I can hardly watch the news LMN once you have grew up watching the old LMN it’s hard set and actually watch these new episodes! The acting back then we’re so superb and the writers actually cared about good and interesting material.
Ikr its all the same plot the cheating husband the seductress the crazy stalker man/woman lol ish ain't like it used to be I relish in movies like this it just feels so real and original❗️❗️
It's called GREED ! Years ago actors would play in the lifetime movies, today you only get no name actors because known actors will not touch a TV movie . You see a lot of the same actors on LTM as well now .
I grew up in this family...except I dont recall my grandmother being narcissistic. My mother spoke to her mother that way, no matter who was present. There was so much anger and animosity in our home, I have had to face my own demons in me carrying out much of that with my children/family. I realized years ago I had a choice, stay and be a part of the insanity or walk away and I chose the latter. To this day I have extremely limited contact and live across the country now. I have had the blessing of being open and honest with my sons, to apologize and ask forgiveness. Best of all is the opportunity to have healthier relationships today and even be involved in my grandaughters lives.
River Phoenix was just a boy here. He was so beautiful, like his brother, Joaquin. These old movies were the best. I used to love Tuesday Weld, it’s good to see her again.
this was a great portrayal of the passing down of hurt and violence. i identified with this in many ways that i wasn't expecting. my only wish is that my situation turned out in the end the way it did for the mother and the daughter (myself). thanks for the upload :-)
Mona Mika he was a phenomenal actor and performance artist. So he suffered from a drug addiction, doesn’t mean he was any less of a person . That attitude really enhances the stigma surrounding the disease. And he wasn’t a “drag” addict.
Yes! Especially after watching that Documentary on His life. River's parents were apart of a cult and all The horrible things he went through just to die so young.
Wow! Great movie! The whole problem was the old lady! Once she acknowledged her guilt and could ask for forgivance, the problem was solved and the vicious circle got broken. So sad to know that there are so many people out there hurting because of their parents who never could acknowledge their own guilt of breaking their children...
@@expired_goat_milk The "whole" movie was ruined? It's a character study. Just because there's parts revealed doesn't mean there's nothing else to the movie.
I agree with the OP. Both my parents were abusive. More mentally than physically although my mother would also hit me but my father never did. With him, it was all nastiness and mind games. My mother died almost 30 years ago and had stopped speaking to me and never came around. My father, now in his '90's never acknowledged it. He now has dementia and in in an assisted living because h needs professional care. I know at this point, he can't acknowledge what happened so I will never hear an 'I'm sorry' or for him to ask forgiveness.
I lived this unfortunately. My mother was a single mother of 5 children and my grandmother lived with us. My mom was terribly emotionally abusive to her. My grandmother was high maintenance, and the meaner my mom was to her - the more she shut down. She stopped bathing, eating doing anything. We kids didn't know any better and weren't the nicest to her either. I resented her because she was embarrassing. It makes me very sad now as an adult. This movie brings light to a very important issue.
@@deeesoirscegardner I'm ashamed to a point, but I was also a small child. I didn't understand the situation. Taking care of elderly people is hard on family. Especially when they stop doing anything for themselves. I also learned later that my grandmother had been abusive to my mother when she was younger as well.
@@jacktripper1130 She wasn't the nicest to my mother when she was little either. Almost let her die once because her crazy religion said no blood transfusions. Grandma loved putting metal pans in the microwave.
When the mother confronted her mother about her abuse and she denied it.....I remember when I tried to talk my mom about what she did to me and she denied it. It hurts and made me angry!!! It’s hard
My Mom did the same, abused me and later in life denied it. My Dad was her ultimate enabler, being too weak to confront her about the abuse, it was easier for him to just go along with it. One of my biggest wishes was for them to take ownership for it, but it just wasn't to be. In the long run I found it better to just forgive them and not carry around all that negative emotional baggage rest of my life.
I always read some comments before eventually wasting my time so here´s mine; agood film, surprising and interesting, exiting and absolutely worth seeing.
I really love older movies they are with nice actors they speak lovely old fashioned...even if i was born late 80's i wish i wasat least teenager in this era much better then today
Grandma has been in denial of her past mistakes and failure. Glad that she finally had the courage to admit her mistakes. That's first important step to her self healing and her daughter's healing. 💛
If anyone has that much animosity towards a parent, they shouldn't take them in. I have both my parents with me and I used to get whipped with the belt or slapped. I would never treat them with anything other than love, something neither of them were shown as kids themselves. It's called forgiveness and being thankful for the friends they became in my adult life. The grandma's friends failed her and should have called the police on her daughter.
I've clocked alot of movies lately and this was a pleasant surprise. River and I were about the same age when Stand by me came out. I had a crush on him. There's a place in my heart ❤️ and a River runs thru it.💖
Every one connected to this project had such courage; the writers, director, actors...Tuesday Weld never got the recognition she deserved. Everyone...bravo👏👏👏
Wouldn’t really say “courage” because they had nothing to fear making these kinda movies in the 80s & 90s. Television movies covered just about everything, & didn’t really get much pushback. It’s a great movie, great script, great actors, but just don’t think any of them needed to be “courageous”
I was born in 1986, the year this was made. I really miss the old movies from the 80’s & 90’s so much. I wish times & people were like they were back then in real life too.
You're so right about that, Sara. After my dad died, the one fear my mom had, was being put into a nursing home. She was so fiercely independent, that the thought of losing that, made her lose sleep. Her fear came true, though, at the age of 86, she could no longer care for herself and had to be put into a nursing home. She became very depressed and died within a year of moving. Her death surprised everyone because she wasn't gravely ill. I told my brother that she likely just gave up on life. One of my sisters had been with her that day, and just stepped out for a bite to eat. When she came back, mom was dead.
@@user-mj8nf2vp7q That's so nice of you to say, Justin. My older brother had power of attorney and it broke his heart to move her from her apartment. I nurse came to check on her and determined she could not take care of herself any longer, so she called my brother. She showed early signs of dementia. I'm glad my sister just happened to be in the same city, for a few days. The rest of us are scattered in different cities. Your comment is so lovely. You'll never know how much I appreciate your words. It's very comforting.
@@deedeegreen8338 It's not always easy to care for an aging parent. None of us knows how we will handle it until it happens. We're fortunate enough to live very near my Mom, but not all of us are that fortunate. Sadly, many women end up divorced or widowed and more dependent on their children as they age. We've had our share of ER visits and accompanying to Dr's. appointments, but Mom's still with us. We all worry about our aging parents, just as they worried about us as we were growing up. Our roles tend to reverse as we too grow older. God Bless!
@@user-mj8nf2vp7q So true after my mom died my dad had a series of strokes. It was hard having to look after him and take him to his appointments. The last four years of his life he had to go in a home. A few months before he died I did not recognise him anymore. It was very sad to watch him slowly decline.
It's always such a joy to see actor River Phoenix. ❤️🔥 I also really like watching his brother Joaquin Phoenix. But I wish the two of them would have had the chance to make a film together, with both being matured actors. I'm so sorry that River died and how he died. May he rest in peace and may his family find comfort in their wholesome memories. 🙏🏻
This hit so close to home for me my dad abused me growing up children services failed me the next day after children services came I tried to say something to my father and he said don’t even talk to me you’ve destroyed this family that hurt more than the abuse actually my father will take it to his grave that he never abused me at least that’s what he says I’ve never gotten a sincere apology from him I never will the good thing is I did have an angel by my side because my best friends mother took me in and got me out of the situation I’m forever grateful🥰
I’m sorry you went through that. He was evil. Thankfully you had your friend and her mom. I hope things got better for you. It’s so sad that someone can be so cruel to a child. This world lieth IN Wickedness. This is a fallen world. That’s why GOD ( who is A SPIRIT) put His Spirit IN the Son to Save ALL who believe IN Him. You must believe. John 4:24- GOD IS A SPIRIT and they that worship Him Must Worship Him In Spirit And In Truth 1Tim 2:5- THERE IS ONE GOD and One Mediator between GOD and men, the Man Christ Jesus 2Cor 5:19- to wit, that GOD WAS IN CHRIST Reconciling the world unto Himself 1Tim 1:17- Now unto the King, Immortal, Eternal, INVISIBLE, ONLY Wise GOD… Gal 3- A mediator is Not a mediator of One, But GOD IS ONE Mediator=2 beings Man( Flesh)- Jesus GOD ( SPIRIT)- JESUS Col 2:9- For IN him dwelleth All the Fulness of the Godhead bodily Jesus died for the sins of the world, was buried and on the 3rd day, GOD Raised him from the dead according to the scriptures (( GOD IS An Invisible SPIRIT that can NEVER DIE)) When you hear and believe this gospel, you Receive the Spirit of GOD to Live IN you!! HE IS ETERNAL LIFE!!!! It’s A FREE GIFT!! No Works, NO Rituals, NO Religion!! Just Believe it IN your heart!! 1Cor 3:16- Know ye not that ye are the temple of GOD and that the Spirit of GOD dwelleth IN you? Please believe and BE SAVED RIGHT NOW!!!!! ❤️ 🌳 ☀️ 🌸 🌈 👑 🎺 🐑
I'm sorry your dad treated you like that. My mom was the abuser when we were kids. I'm not really close with her now. I've forgiven her. But its never talked about.
My mom called me "a little shit" after children's services left.I can still hear that as clear as if it was yesterday.. I don't really remember much about my childhood but I do remember that.
I remember this film as a child not fully understanding it the way I do now. It used to play all the time on the '90s Astrad Sky. Watching it, I am shocked to discover that 'Chris' was played by River Phoenix. Tears... Hollywood: talent and death, too much.
Sadly, Geraldine Fitzgerald herself began to develop Alzheimer's/dementia in the late 80s and early 90s, which prevented her from working beyond that period. Her last work was a 1991 TV movie that was filmed in 89/90. She battled the disease for 15 years, before passing away in 2005. One of her first films was in 1939 with Bette Davis, they remained friends throughout until Davis's passing in 1989.
I had a mean ass gran mama. When she got old old she became sweet. It took all my life for her to accept me. She passed at 83. I miss her so much Who is still watching in 2020?
Grandma is a true manipulative person trying to pit emotions against her own daughter. Grandma tried to make the granddaughter a scapegoat but she wasn’t having it... proud of her for standing up to the grandma 🙏🏾
@@sofiedouglas757 It's very obvious that grandma DOES have the beginnings of dementia. Worse at night. It's called 'sundowning.' I saw it in my father.
U on the other side ur like the daughter trying to act like ur innocent forgotting she is old and fragile but like some kids who grows up they don't wanna take care of their parents , the daughter inst loving either and she said nasty things. This old woman is loosing her mind obviously. Her daughter abuse the mom she is toxic too they abused each other don t put ur hate all on the old woman
My mother used to sing 🎶 this song to me all of the time. Plus Little Jack the Wrangler and The Great Philadelphia Lawyer and many more of those songs. She was born in 1910. I’m 78 years old now and she’s been dead for quite a few years now. Many of those old songs will not be remembered now. Lost in memory like The Little Rosewood Casket ⚰️ and others. 😢😢😢😢😢😢
It's amazing how friends get the daughter help rather than call the police on her for elder abuse. Today's time she would be sitting in a jail cell. Glad mother and daughter recognize their faults and got the help they needed. Hopefully the abuse cycle will stop and it won't be passed down to the grandkids. Good movie.🙏❤👍
What a grate film! I 've made a discovery for myself that there are so many films based on real events that make you realize a lot about yourself and the world around you. They didn't come across to me before. now i only watch them
Ever notice how interactions with the elderly and with one's teenaged kids are identical? "Tell me what you did with the rest of the cigarettes!" "I told you, I DON'T HAVE ANY CIGARETTES!" Lol
Geraldine Mary Fitzgerald was an Irish actress and ranked number 30 on their list. I've seldom witness a better performance in my life. She was born in 1913. I wish that I could have told her how her acting was 100% realistic and almost frightening to behold. Wow ! She made her part totally believable at all times.
My sweet Mother in law did the same thing. She went out in 20 degree weather with just a very thin night gown, it scared me to death. We did find her and she was so cold.
having to take care of abusive parents is hard. I understand this woman very well. They deprived you of everything even of the basic things such as food, but you have to be there for them no matter what and whenever they say. Sometimes you have to do what is best for yourself.
you don't have to be there for abusive parents! Some times the best thing with toxic people is to cut them out of your life. No one deserves a lifetime of abuse and worry.
I used to work in a nursing home and this story is so true to life, children do not want to deal with their parents, so they DUMP them into a nursing home, rarely even visited them. Some people can not afford to take care of their parents, due to having to work, BUT, the ones that were rich or well-off just did not want to be bothered, then when they did FINALLY show up, they complained about a towel on the floor, #GUILT
This was a really great movie. Thank you for sharing it. It's wonderful they were able to work everything out in the end with love, understanding & forgiveness. THAT is the way to face problems in your life. God Bless You & stay safe.
If im not mistaken the lady singing when the saints go marching in is also the grandma who gets up and grabs a rose from Thomas Js casket in My Girl and starts singing
No her name was Jeanette Miller. The lady from My Girl is Ann Nelson. Also, that wasn't Thomas J's casket. That was an old man's funeral. Thomas J was still alive at that part of the movie.
My mom was abusive to me & my sister. It's how she was raised. It was a different time back then. I've forgiven her. Its never talked about. Thank God I never abused my boys. I've never told them how their Nana was. DSS finally took us from our parents when I was 3 and April(my sis) was 5. We went to our grandparents. My grandpa died when I was 12. We had to go back to our parents. Because my granny went to an older folks apartment complex. My mom then enlisted in the Army. We moved from the only place we've ever known in SC to Fort Hood TX. I'm sorry for writing a book.
What a great movie. It shows the manipulative antics of a narcissist and and the stress their victims go through. I know this all to well. I sew my own mother in the older lady.😬
Tuesday Weld's scene at the counselor was Emmy quality acting and breathtakingly natural. I can't imagine Peter Bonerz finding anyone anywhere as beautiful as Tuesday Weld though.
I miss my mother singing to me. We use to sing. Lovely as a tree. And you are my sunshine. Wow. I sing to my daughters all the time. And I remember when we didn't go to church my mother would play a miracle in Harlem. And her favorite song was. How I love Jesus
Very Passionately, I gave my Highiest RATE : Ten out of Ten { a100% } I always I LOVE the OLD MOVIES? Because, are REAL MOVIES LIFE. Perfect ACTING and DIRECTING!!!WOW and a very, very HUGE WOW. All the BEST.
I looked up the cast and saw that the kid who played Chris's friend Mark died the year after this movie came out. His name was Brad Lieberman. He was only 19. He had already been predeceased by 2 brothers who died very young, one of leukemia and one who was hit by a car when he was only 10. Brad was coming home from his brother's house on a Honda Elite and was struck and killed by a drunk driver. In this film I am not sure but I think he rides a Honda Elite. Anyway how very sad for his parents, 2 remaining siblings and other family and friends. River Phoenix of course died young also.
y’all can we please remember that river wasn’t only his looks? he was such a amazing actor and yes he made a mistake. but river was a sweet kind sensitive and amazing person
@@christmastree6817 he started hanging out with the wrong people who then taught him how to inject heroin into himself which is then what caused his drug addiction and eventually killed him
@@daughterbradley7708 I agree, he could sing and play guitar., and was a cute, handsome ,amazing actor gone too soon . I remember when River died , his brother Joaquin had posted a lyric that River wrote when he was 17 years old. It was River's favorite quote , he even had it put on pins to send back with reply letters to his fans . I love the quote, and it will possibly be a new tattoo for me in the future !! Just thought i would share ! The quote is Run to the rescue with love, and peace will follow !!
I wonder how they won't notice the smoke earlier. I can feel this awful smell when my neighbour smokes in his flat on 4th floor and I live on 7th. If someone smoked in another room, I'd just instantly notice the stink.
When I was a kid my mom was a single mom and would fly off the handle like this...I used to think I’ll never treat my kids like that. Now as a mom as two teenage boys I get it really life it’s harder than I ever imagined it would be
@@troywright359ofc the vast majority of parents will yell at their kids, & it obviously doesn’t make them bad parents BUT taking all your frustration out one your kids is horrible. She seemed to lash out at the son in particular, & that’s far from good parenting
This movie made me cry, this is how my grandmother mother was my grandmother and my mother, I thought I had broken the generational course with my daughter, doing thing soo different from them.But now 😢 my daughter acts like this. She tries to mental and physically abuse me and her 3 year old son.. She doesn't live with me and my grandson i have custody of him.. I'm working on relocating so I can keep my grandson from this circle of abuse.
Such quality in these movies. So authentic and the real McCoy. We don't get this kind of actors anymore. It was like real life and you could relate to everything these families went through.
Hard times living with my dad he was a rapist and My Mom knew it My Mom still forced us children to live with my dad the law didn't do anything about it and protected my Dad our justice system is not justice for us children
@MauricioVasquez I went threw the same thing but it was my cousins husband and I was 4. It kept happening until I was about 12. I have wished for many years that karma would visit him and I'd be able to watch. GOD is good and I've been living my life day by day in a positive way. I learned to forgive but never forget. Sorry it happened to you.
Even under the best of circumstances mothers and daughters living together late into adulthood can be extremely hard to do I loved my mother but my family and I once stayed with her for 10 days in between moves and by the 3rd day talk about tension! She had her way of doing things,I had mine and it was hard on both of us
@@shayhay2411 agreed and I kept that in mind yet it was still very draining on all of us at times including my mother I was tired of not being a wife or mom to my own family and I think she got a annoyed and irritated that her privacy was invaded after the 5th day Didnt stop us from loving each other though
A very raw, honest and emotional movie for the 80's. The actors did an amazing job. RIP River Phoenix.
Yes...River beautiful everywhere. 🦋
yes❤️ rip river
The grandmas annoying asf i don't blame the daughter..
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River Phoenix......what a sad situation.....so much talent just destroyed.
Today I am finally feeling proud for having the strength to leave a Narcissistic abusive relationshiT. I've been sad confused exhausted but after seeing this movie it gave me a huge pat on my back💪💪💪These abusive behaviors have a horrible ripple effect. I'm safe.
Congrats!!
👌👆❤
Good for you. Btw, I have to remember relationshit.😆
Good for you
Lola Pear so happy for you and I wish you all the best 😊👍🇦🇺
None of the new Lifetime movies can compare to these older tv movies from the 70’s - 90’s. Good stories, directors, and actors.
I agree.
exactly..im 26 n love old lifetime movies then the new one.
i come on here n look for many
Crystal Solaz new ones have crappy acting and camera work
Couldn't agree more. Not going 2 lie, just turned 40, the older movies, the actors out at the time. I agree
#Facts
Can’t believe I’m 28 years old watching life time movies from back in the days I miss watching these movies with my mom 😔 how times have changed
These movies are great aren't they? I am much older than you but LOVE to see them.
Wow River Phoenix would be turning 50 soon. Crying shame, a real talent and so young
He was Soo cute
Agreed.
I agree. He was such a A1 actor
Same age has me. I remember the day the news broke of the death of river Phoenix a phenomenal actor.
Yes! He was gonna b something good! Destined for great things! And a definite looker!😍😍
Grandma couldn't hear the TV on blast, but could hear her daughter whispering on the phone from down the hall. Come on grandma
That's selective hearing!
Mmhhmm grandma playing those games
@@wendyshepard2080 🍷😆 exact words that I hear in my house alot..'Selective hearing'!
Manipulation at it's finest, for sure!! Lol
Grandma is a sociopath.
Whenever I see River at this age, I always think of "Stand By Me", one of the best movies about friendship ever. Another one gone too soon. What might have been . . . . . . . . ..
Gallop4Me what's your fav scene?
xxyummyx xcremexx mines when he cried by the tree with Gordie (I know u didn’t ask me)
Nyasia Fagan that’s mine too x
Nyasia Fagan nice, mines literally any scene w/ gordie it's so heartwarming!
My favorite is Running on Empty,with Judd Hirsh.
The Quarantine blues got me watching old movies and pacing my floors LOL
I do that anyway lol lol
Same and I forgot about all these good old flicks ♡
@@neelysipes7793 me to
Yup, me too!
Me too!
This is such a great movie,thanks for uploading,Rest in Peace River...You are missed 🙏
What an amazing movie rest in peace River Phoenix.
No one rests in peace unless they put their faith in Jesus, confessed that they were a sinner and sorry, and asked Jesus to forgive all their sins and save them. Then get baptized in Jesus name.
@@debihester7284Amen
This movie was great,and the forgiveness and love rediscovered between the mother and daughter from past family abuse was truely inspiring. God bless Susan Sletten
Thank you for uploading this gem, they don't make movies like these anymore. Geraldine Fitzgerald & Tuesday Weld WOW! This has made my day 🎥 💎
As soon as she overheard her daughter wanting to put her into a home she all of a sudden remembers how she treated them... The entire movie she acted like she couldn't hear... Wow!
No, it was what her granddaughter said to her that woke her up real quick.
What a truly lovely film with tremendous performances by Geraldine, Tuesday, River and the young lady who played Addy. It touches me to see a family face their dysfunction and move past it. River is so beloved and a natural emoter. I mourn what could have been for him but thankful for what he left behind.
I can hardly watch the news LMN once you have grew up watching the old LMN it’s hard set and actually watch these new episodes! The acting back then we’re so superb and the writers actually cared about good and interesting material.
Ikr its all the same plot the cheating husband the seductress the crazy stalker man/woman lol ish ain't like it used to be I relish in movies like this it just feels so real and original❗️❗️
It's called GREED ! Years ago actors would play in the lifetime movies, today you only get no name actors because known actors will not touch a TV movie . You see a lot of the same actors on LTM as well now .
@@eastonfield2795 So are you are saying we got so use to abusive spousal movies that they are nothing original anymore . Lol. Sad , but true .
This was cbs
@@aspenrobinson8797 actually a lot of actors are in hallmark movies now
Why Lifetime can't make quality movies like this anymore? The majority they make now are down right awful.
tehagan37 I agree with you... I miss the older movies 🎥
tehagan37 this isn’t a lifetime movie. But I agree, the majority of what they come out with these days aren’t nearly as good as they used to be
tehagan37 amen smh
yea, the new lmn movies r shallow n crappy, thats why i always go back to the 80's or 90's cos theyre the best..
I won't watch anything made after the 90s
Who would give a thumbs-down to this movie? I cannot stop crying. I loved it!
I grew up in this family...except I dont recall my grandmother being narcissistic. My mother spoke to her mother that way, no matter who was present. There was so much anger and animosity in our home, I have had to face my own demons in me carrying out much of that with my children/family. I realized years ago I had a choice, stay and be a part of the insanity or walk away and I chose the latter. To this day I have extremely limited contact and live across the country now.
I have had the blessing of being open and honest with my sons, to apologize and ask forgiveness. Best of all is the opportunity to have healthier relationships today and even be involved in my grandaughters lives.
That’s sad. You are very lucky/ blessed to be forgiven and have the opportunity to be a part of grandchildren’s lives. I hope it continues
Well done - not easy to de-programme and stop cycle of deprivation...all the best x
How did you grow up n this family?
They are characters in a movie.
They probably mean a family like this.@@bobbyjenkinsjr.397
River Phoenix was just a boy here. He was so beautiful, like his brother, Joaquin. These old movies were the best. I used to love Tuesday Weld, it’s good to see her again.
How did he die ?
@@8213apice died in the gutter outside of a nightclub..Too much heroin that night
@@nickimillennium by
this was a great portrayal of the passing down of hurt and violence. i identified with this in many ways that i wasn't expecting. my only wish is that my situation turned out in the end the way it did for the mother and the daughter (myself). thanks for the upload :-)
This was a real good movie. Thank you for posting.
River was an angel who died too soon annd tragically . ..I miss him still. What an actor he would have become....
Nobody would've ever heard of Leonardo DiCaprio.
Mona Mika he was a phenomenal actor and performance artist. So he suffered from a drug addiction, doesn’t mean he was any less of a person . That attitude really enhances the stigma surrounding the disease. And he wasn’t a “drag” addict.
.River
Grateful
Yes! Especially after watching that Documentary on His life. River's parents were apart of a cult and all The horrible things he went through just to die so young.
Wow! Great movie! The whole problem was the old lady! Once she acknowledged her guilt and could ask for forgivance, the problem was solved and the vicious circle got broken. So sad to know that there are so many people out there hurting because of their parents who never could acknowledge their own guilt of breaking their children...
So true😢
Why would you ruin the whole movie
@@expired_goat_milk why read the comments before watching the movie? 🙄
@@expired_goat_milk The "whole" movie was ruined? It's a character study. Just because there's parts revealed doesn't mean there's nothing else to the movie.
I agree with the OP. Both my parents were abusive. More mentally than physically although my mother would also hit me but my father never did. With him, it was all nastiness and mind games. My mother died almost 30 years ago and had stopped speaking to me and never came around. My father, now in his '90's never acknowledged it. He now has dementia and in in an assisted living because h needs professional care. I know at this point, he can't acknowledge what happened so I will never hear an 'I'm sorry' or for him to ask forgiveness.
I lived this unfortunately. My mother was a single mother of 5 children and my grandmother lived with us. My mom was terribly emotionally abusive to her. My grandmother was high maintenance, and the meaner my mom was to her - the more she shut down. She stopped bathing, eating doing anything. We kids didn't know any better and weren't the nicest to her either. I resented her because she was embarrassing. It makes me very sad now as an adult. This movie brings light to a very important issue.
What a horrible mum you had shame on her
No offence, filmnoirfan, but if your grandmother was anything like that rotten grandmother in the film, your mum’s actions were justified.
U should be ashamed
@@deeesoirscegardner I'm ashamed to a point, but I was also a small child. I didn't understand the situation. Taking care of elderly people is hard on family. Especially when they stop doing anything for themselves. I also learned later that my grandmother had been abusive to my mother when she was younger as well.
@@jacktripper1130 She wasn't the nicest to my mother when she was little either. Almost let her die once because her crazy religion said no blood transfusions. Grandma loved putting metal pans in the microwave.
When the mother confronted her mother about her abuse and she denied it.....I remember when I tried to talk my mom about what she did to me and she denied it. It hurts and made me angry!!! It’s hard
Sorry thats too bad. Im sure that has effected ur life tramadicly.
A lot of parents are in denial. Some will even go as far as calling out your mental health issues, but won't ever admit to their own mental illness.
Yeah the good old narcissists and their favorite tool in their toxic toolbox, gaslighting.
My Mom did the same, abused me and later in life denied it. My Dad was her ultimate enabler, being too weak to confront her about the abuse, it was easier for him to just go along with it. One of my biggest wishes was for them to take ownership for it, but it just wasn't to be. In the long run I found it better to just forgive them and not carry around all that negative emotional baggage rest of my life.
I have the same experience, this year my gram passed. I made my mother listen and acknowledge her part in not protecting me, it was a big relief 😌
I always read some comments before eventually wasting my time so here´s mine; agood film, surprising and interesting, exiting and absolutely worth seeing.
I really love older movies they are with nice actors they speak lovely old fashioned...even if i was born late 80's i wish i wasat least teenager in this era much better then today
Thank you for this good quality movie. Happy Heavenly 50th Birthday River Phoenix.
Grandma has been in denial of her past mistakes and failure. Glad that she finally had the courage to admit her mistakes. That's first important step to her self healing and her daughter's healing. 💛
If anyone has that much animosity towards a parent, they shouldn't take them in. I have both my parents with me and I used to get whipped with the belt or slapped. I would never treat them with anything other than love, something neither of them were shown as kids themselves. It's called forgiveness and being thankful for the friends they became in my adult life. The grandma's friends failed her and should have called the police on her daughter.
I love these “old” movies. They don’t make them like they used to.
Are you real
Kisho K What do you mean?
@@maryminott2593 if u are real I'd like to acquaint you with that's all
Sorry if don't want
@@maryminott2593 are u gonna say it yes or no
Great Movie ! And beautiful River Phoenix.. May he rest in Peace .. never forgotten !
I've clocked alot of movies lately and this was a pleasant surprise. River and I were about the same age when Stand by me came out. I had a crush on him. There's a place in my heart ❤️ and a River runs thru it.💖
This was a beautiful movie as are movies in the 80's..they are so real..the cast is very talented especially the grandma
@Laquisha Lida thank you. Like you, I always read the comments as a mini review. Your comment certainly helped.
The grandma has the particular Alzheimer's face at times.
Love this movie one of my all time favorite classics Tuesday weld did such a good job in this movie!!
That's so realistic and relatable.... heartbreaking really, reminds me so much of my own family struggles
I'm in love with a person who has passed on. How is this possible? Miss you River. :(
I feel the same about Dino from H Town!
@@iamloveparadise I feel the same way about Dino from the Flinstones
Did you meet him? If not, you are not in love with him.
Creepy af. The celeb worship is next level.
Every one connected to this project had such courage; the writers, director, actors...Tuesday Weld never got the recognition she deserved. Everyone...bravo👏👏👏
Wouldn’t really say “courage” because they had nothing to fear making these kinda movies in the 80s & 90s. Television movies covered just about everything, & didn’t really get much pushback. It’s a great movie, great script, great actors, but just don’t think any of them needed to be “courageous”
i am glad that I found this movie. I agree with you!
A true to life story,full of emotion,it happens to anybody,have a good moral lessons,everybody must have a respect
Respect to whom ? Sociopath mothers ?
A true yes America became Orthodox
A true,just kidding of the sun are catholic dark other countries,hmmm
Beautiful, sad, and realistic movie. Shows the love of family but also the struggles.
I was born in 1986, the year this was made. I really miss the old movies from the 80’s & 90’s so much. I wish times & people were like they were back then in real life too.
I know right same here I agree !
Meeee2 same age 2024 now😂
Very good acting all round. Especially Grandma 😀
isn't she the grandma on poltergiest
@@lazyman2473 Yeah, part 2.
thank you
lazyman 24/7 I thought I recognised her from somewhere else lol 😂
A good movie!! Growing old is hard!! Not easy losing one's independence!! Love these movies! Thanks!
You're so right about that, Sara. After my dad died, the one fear my mom had, was being put into a nursing home. She was so fiercely independent, that the thought of losing that, made her lose sleep. Her fear came true, though, at the age of 86, she could no longer care for herself and had to be put into a nursing home. She became very depressed and died within a year of moving. Her death surprised everyone because she wasn't gravely ill. I told my brother that she likely just gave up on life. One of my sisters had been with her that day, and just stepped out for a bite to eat. When she came back, mom was dead.
@@deedeegreen8338 So very sorry to hear about your Mom. This makes me sad.
@@user-mj8nf2vp7q That's so nice of you to say, Justin. My older brother had power of attorney and it broke his heart to move her from her apartment. I nurse came to check on her and determined she could not take care of herself any longer, so she called my brother. She showed early signs of dementia. I'm glad my sister just happened to be in the same city, for a few days. The rest of us are scattered in different cities. Your comment is so lovely. You'll never know how much I appreciate your words. It's very comforting.
@@deedeegreen8338 It's not always easy to care for an aging parent. None of us knows how we will handle it until it happens. We're fortunate enough to live very near my Mom, but not all of us are that fortunate. Sadly, many women end up divorced or widowed and more dependent on their children as they age. We've had our share of ER visits and accompanying to Dr's. appointments, but Mom's still with us. We all worry about our aging parents, just as they worried about us as we were growing up. Our roles tend to reverse as we too grow older. God Bless!
@@user-mj8nf2vp7q So true after my mom died my dad had a series of strokes. It was hard having to look after him and take him to his appointments. The last four years of his life he had to go in a home. A few months before he died I did not recognise him anymore. It was very sad to watch him slowly decline.
It's always such a joy to see actor River Phoenix. ❤️🔥
I also really like watching his brother Joaquin Phoenix. But I wish the two of them would have had the chance to make a film together, with both being matured actors.
I'm so sorry that River died and how he died. May he rest in peace and may his family find comfort in their wholesome memories. 🙏🏻
This hit so close to home for me my dad abused me growing up children services failed me the next day after children services came I tried to say something to my father and he said don’t even talk to me you’ve destroyed this family that hurt more than the abuse actually my father will take it to his grave that he never abused me at least that’s what he says I’ve never gotten a sincere apology from him I never will the good thing is I did have an angel by my side because my best friends mother took me in and got me out of the situation I’m forever grateful🥰
When a victim is abused as a innocent kid. It's hard to imagine predator growing old & continuing his tendencies
I’m sorry you went through that. He was evil. Thankfully you had your friend and her mom. I hope things got better for you. It’s so sad that someone can be so cruel to a child. This world lieth IN Wickedness. This is a fallen world. That’s why GOD ( who is A SPIRIT) put His Spirit IN the Son to Save ALL who believe IN Him. You must believe.
John 4:24- GOD IS A SPIRIT and they that worship Him Must Worship Him In Spirit And In Truth
1Tim 2:5- THERE IS ONE GOD and One Mediator between GOD and men, the Man Christ Jesus
2Cor 5:19- to wit, that GOD WAS IN CHRIST Reconciling the world unto Himself
1Tim 1:17- Now unto the King, Immortal, Eternal, INVISIBLE, ONLY Wise GOD…
Gal 3- A mediator is Not a mediator of One, But GOD IS ONE
Mediator=2 beings
Man( Flesh)- Jesus
GOD ( SPIRIT)- JESUS
Col 2:9- For IN him dwelleth All the Fulness of the Godhead bodily
Jesus died for the sins of the world, was buried and on the 3rd day, GOD Raised him from the dead according to the scriptures
(( GOD IS An Invisible SPIRIT that can NEVER DIE))
When you hear and believe this gospel, you Receive the Spirit of GOD to Live IN you!! HE IS ETERNAL LIFE!!!!
It’s A FREE GIFT!!
No Works, NO Rituals, NO Religion!! Just Believe it IN your heart!!
1Cor 3:16- Know ye not that ye are the temple of GOD and that the Spirit of GOD dwelleth IN you?
Please believe and BE SAVED RIGHT NOW!!!!!
❤️ 🌳 ☀️ 🌸 🌈 👑 🎺 🐑
I'm sorry your dad treated you like that. My mom was the abuser when we were kids. I'm not really close with her now. I've forgiven her. But its never talked about.
My mom called me "a little shit" after children's services left.I can still hear that as clear as if it was yesterday.. I don't really remember much about my childhood but I do remember that.
RIP River Phoenix and Geraldine Fitzgerald
CeeCee Williams The Nubian Angel yessss
damn grandma out lived river by 10+ years
I remember this film as a child not fully understanding it the way I do now. It used to play all the time on the '90s Astrad Sky. Watching it, I am shocked to discover that 'Chris' was played by River Phoenix. Tears... Hollywood: talent and death, too much.
Thanks.. Am having a relaxed Sunday here in Iceland. Binge watching Lifetime Movies.. Love it!!
Check out the movie LIFTED 👍. You'll watch it again and again
Sadly, Geraldine Fitzgerald herself began to develop Alzheimer's/dementia in the late 80s and early 90s, which prevented her from working beyond that period. Her last work was a 1991 TV movie that was filmed in 89/90. She battled the disease for 15 years, before passing away in 2005. One of her first films was in 1939 with Bette Davis, they remained friends throughout until Davis's passing in 1989.
Wow I didn't know that.
I had a mean ass gran mama. When she got old old she became sweet. It took all my life for her to accept me. She passed at 83. I miss her so much
Who is still watching in 2020?
2023
June 2023❤
Good Question: What Made Her So Mean?
Corona have me watching all these 80’s flicks 😜😜😜
True, guess everything comes around full circle sooner or later. 🍷
Good times baby .... GOOD TIMES
I miss the Covid days. They were the best most carefree and relaxing days
A really good movie a must watch. Not cheesy good acting with morals to talk about.
Geraldine Page was in Hitchcock's films she is entertaining🙏😅👍👋💝‼️‼️
I meant Geraldine Fitzgerald🤦🙊😅😅😅🙏✔️💜🧡🗣️❤️
@@bergeronjoann1707 She was very good.
It's cheesy in a good way.🧀
Grandma is a true manipulative person trying to pit emotions against her own daughter. Grandma tried to make the granddaughter a scapegoat but she wasn’t having it... proud of her for standing up to the grandma 🙏🏾
@fucking idiot lol exactly... grandma was old and stiff, it was the daughter who could play mature but she started hitting the old lady.
Seems like my mother at times made worse by paranoia in dementia on top of narc
"I don't want you here grandma." 😆😂
@@sofiedouglas757 It's very obvious that grandma DOES have the beginnings of dementia. Worse at night. It's called 'sundowning.' I saw it in my father.
U on the other side ur like the daughter trying to act like ur innocent forgotting she is old and fragile but like some kids who grows up they don't wanna take care of their parents , the daughter inst loving either and she said nasty things. This old woman is loosing her mind obviously. Her daughter abuse the mom she is toxic too they abused each other don t put ur hate all on the old woman
That shit was hilarious when she said they made me wear low cut dresses and hustle drinks at the bar 😂😂😂😂😭 grandma was one of kind
My mother used to sing 🎶 this song to me all of the time. Plus Little Jack the Wrangler and The Great Philadelphia Lawyer and many more of those songs. She was born in 1910. I’m 78 years old now and she’s been dead for quite a few years now. Many of those old songs will not be remembered now. Lost in memory like The Little Rosewood Casket ⚰️ and others. 😢😢😢😢😢😢
It's amazing how friends get the daughter help rather than call the police on her for elder abuse. Today's time she would be sitting in a jail cell. Glad mother and daughter recognize their faults and got the help they needed. Hopefully the abuse cycle will stop and it won't be passed down to the grandkids. Good movie.🙏❤👍
If it happened today, they would most likely record her, then pretend to be holier than thou heros all over social media.
A WONDERFUL MOVIE FOR THE ENTIRE FAMILY TO WATCH.
OMG this is just what I needed today 🙌 River & The Grandma from Poltergeist YES!
Nice to see movie with a purpose,good script, good acting.With even an ending.Worth The Watch...
What a grate film! I 've made a discovery for myself that there are so many films based on real events that make you realize a lot about yourself and the world around you. They didn't come across to me before. now i only watch them
In a childs name with valerie Burtenelli is my favorite old lmn movie. These writers now a days suck the old lifetime movies are so much better.
Yes these new lifetime movies are not good at all
Totally agree. Early Elliot Stabler from SVU. One of my all time favories
I love her !
Agreed!!! That was an AWESOME movie!!!!!
Facts I said the same thing
Ever notice how interactions with the elderly and with one's teenaged kids are identical? "Tell me what you did with the rest of the cigarettes!"
"I told you, I DON'T HAVE ANY CIGARETTES!" Lol
Gail Yarbrough 😃🇦🇺
...Once an adult, twice a child.☺️
@@user-mj8nf2vp7q 😁 Ain't that the truth......Lol
😂😂😂
we are so blessed to get to see these old movies these days thank you good movie
Geraldine Mary Fitzgerald was an Irish actress and ranked number 30 on their list. I've seldom witness a better performance in my life. She was born in 1913. I wish that I could have told her how her acting was 100% realistic and almost frightening to behold. Wow ! She made her part totally believable at all times.
I recognise her from something. What other movies has she been in?
I agree. Her acting in this movie was superb!
The grandma walking in the rain hurt my soul. Alzheimer's patients do that, taking off at night no matter how cold or how late.
My granny did the same also use to try and jump out the window or leave the hose naked
@@angelbanks264 sorry
She took off cause she was hurt I would of too she was not sick at all her mind was right
@Linda Thrall I know I am a care giver for someone who is in a early stage of dementia
My sweet Mother in law did the same thing. She went out in 20 degree weather with just a very thin night gown, it scared me to death. We did find her and she was so cold.
The handsome River Phoenix RIP
I thought I recognised him.
And Geraldine Fitzgerald RIP
Gwen Moye yesssss
The movie..I Love You To Death he was Great in
He was just so beautiful
80s /90s movies was everything
I didn’t know River was in these movies. Until I saw the title. Thanks for the upload!!
having to take care of abusive parents is hard. I understand this woman very well. They deprived you of everything even of the basic things such as food, but you have to be there for them no matter what and whenever they say. Sometimes you have to do what is best for yourself.
I understand you
you don't have to be there for abusive parents! Some times the best thing with toxic people is to cut them out of your life. No one deserves a lifetime of abuse and worry.
Who said you have to be there for abusive parents no matter?! No you be there for your abusive parents! I don't have to and I haven't!
Gran - ‘You’ve inherited Gran’s incredible gift for music for sure’
*Gran fails to play single chord cleanly on granddaughter’s guitar
I watched one LMN movie now I’m getting recommended all of these hidden gems!!
This movie tackles some really dark subject matter. And does it so well.
The acting itself is simply brilliant. ❤
Nice movie,glad they resolved the within issue...thank you for the upload!
I used to work in a nursing home and this story is so true to life, children do not want to deal with their parents, so they DUMP them into a nursing home, rarely even visited them. Some people can not afford to take care of their parents, due to having to work, BUT, the ones that were rich or well-off just did not want to be bothered, then when they did FINALLY show up, they complained about a towel on the floor, #GUILT
This was a really great movie. Thank you for sharing it. It's wonderful they were able to work everything out in the end with love, understanding & forgiveness. THAT is the way to face problems in your life. God Bless You & stay safe.
That boy dancing! Brilliant!
Yessss...I was dancing along with him!
If im not mistaken the lady singing when the saints go marching in is also the grandma who gets up and grabs a rose from Thomas Js casket in My Girl and starts singing
No her name was Jeanette Miller. The lady from My Girl is Ann Nelson. Also, that wasn't Thomas J's casket. That was an old man's funeral. Thomas J was still alive at that part of the movie.
This was a really good movie worth watching! 👍
indeed.
My mom was abusive to me & my sister. It's how she was raised. It was a different time back then. I've forgiven her. Its never talked about. Thank God I never abused my boys. I've never told them how their Nana was. DSS finally took us from our parents when I was 3 and April(my sis) was 5. We went to our grandparents. My grandpa died when I was 12. We had to go back to our parents. Because my granny went to an older folks apartment complex. My mom then enlisted in the Army. We moved from the only place we've ever known in SC to Fort Hood TX. I'm sorry for writing a book.
Actually maybe you should (write a book). I’ve seen comments much longer than this that should be classified as essays!
Thank you for adding this r.i.p river phoenix
Amazing film. Wonderful ending and perfect acting. Thanks
What a great movie. It shows the manipulative antics of a narcissist and and the stress their victims go through. I know this all to well. I sew my own mother in the older lady.😬
Tuesday Weld's scene at the counselor was Emmy quality acting and breathtakingly natural. I can't imagine Peter Bonerz finding anyone anywhere as beautiful as Tuesday Weld though.
Seriously disagree with you here. She sounds like she's reading off a teleprompter. The emotion is artificial and comes across as unnatural
I miss my mother singing to me. We use to sing. Lovely as a tree. And you are my sunshine. Wow. I sing to my daughters all the time. And I remember when we didn't go to church my mother would play a miracle in Harlem. And her favorite song was. How I love Jesus
Very Passionately, I gave my Highiest RATE : Ten out of Ten { a100% } I always I LOVE the OLD MOVIES? Because, are REAL MOVIES LIFE.
Perfect ACTING and DIRECTING!!!WOW and a very, very HUGE WOW.
All the BEST.
I’ve been looking for this movie. Thanks for the upload.
Great acting on all cast! Having a senior age can put new stress on a family. But this outcome was nice. 😊
I looked up the cast and saw that the kid who played Chris's friend Mark died the year after this movie came out. His name was Brad Lieberman. He was only 19. He had already been predeceased by 2 brothers who died very young, one of leukemia and one who was hit by a car when he was only 10. Brad was coming home from his brother's house on a Honda Elite and was struck and killed by a drunk driver. In this film I am not sure but I think he rides a Honda Elite. Anyway how very sad for his parents, 2 remaining siblings and other family and friends. River Phoenix of course died young also.
y’all can we please remember that river wasn’t only his looks? he was such a amazing actor and yes he made a mistake. but river was a sweet kind sensitive and amazing person
And don't forget he also could sing and play the guitar
what mistake did he make?
@@christmastree6817 he started hanging out with the wrong people who then taught him how to inject heroin into himself which is then what caused his drug addiction and eventually killed him
@@daughterbradley7708 I agree, he could sing and play guitar., and was a cute, handsome ,amazing actor gone too soon . I remember when River died , his brother Joaquin had posted a lyric that River wrote when he was 17 years old. It was River's favorite quote , he even had it put on pins to send back with reply letters to his fans . I love the quote, and it will possibly be a new tattoo for me in the future !! Just thought i would share ! The quote is Run to the rescue with love, and peace will follow !!
I don't think anyone said it was just about his looks?
A young river Phoenix. Such a gorgeous human. A sad waste xx
god bless him
god rest hes soul
I'm glad you told us because I thought he looked familiar but didn't know it was River.
Nothing is a waste, lessons can always be learned from others mistakes.
I had a friend once I considered a brother. But river was the virtual one growing up in the 80's.
That would drive me nuts if someone kept smoking in bed I would probably loose my mind good movie thank you 👍
I agree
UGGH MY HUSBAND DOES IT 😡😤
I wonder how they won't notice the smoke earlier. I can feel this awful smell when my neighbour smokes in his flat on 4th floor and I live on 7th. If someone smoked in another room, I'd just instantly notice the stink.
My husband did it and there's holes all in the sheets from all the burn marks he constantly would nodd out no matter what I did.
Yeah I agree it does leave quite a smell
River Phoenix was so cute
He was!
He is !
I completely understand the mother's frustration and anger but damn, her poor children didn't deserve to always be shouted at
True. However I don't think if you ever shout at your kids then you are automatically a bad mother.
When I was a kid my mom was a single mom and would fly off the handle like this...I used to think I’ll never treat my kids like that. Now as a mom as two teenage boys I get it really life it’s harder than I ever imagined it would be
@@jamiemiller723 damn straight
Are feeling sorry for an old psychopath ? Read about narcissistic personality disorder and gaslighting. My God , Georgia is victims all over again . 😢
@@troywright359ofc the vast majority of parents will yell at their kids, & it obviously doesn’t make them bad parents BUT taking all your frustration out one your kids is horrible. She seemed to lash out at the son in particular, & that’s far from good parenting
thank you for uploading this ❤
This movie made me cry, this is how my grandmother mother was my grandmother and my mother, I thought I had broken the generational course with my daughter, doing thing soo different from them.But now 😢 my daughter acts like this.
She tries to mental and physically abuse me and her 3 year old son..
She doesn't live with me and my grandson i have custody of him.. I'm working on relocating so I can keep my grandson from this circle of abuse.
"I forgive you" is very powerful
37:14
"Perhaps I can manage to die after I've spent $5,999.00"
Lmmfao
Such quality in these movies. So authentic and the real McCoy. We don't get this kind of actors anymore. It was like real life and you could relate to everything these families went through.
Hard times living with my dad he was a rapist and My Mom knew it My Mom still forced us children to live with my dad the law didn't do anything about it and protected my Dad our justice system is not justice for us children
Sorry for your pain, I hope you have been able to heal
Just poison his food and everything will be fine
Or get any disease on him ✌️
i am so sorry for what you went through....i hope you were able to get over this (as much as possible)
Mauricio Vasquez very sad
@MauricioVasquez I went threw the same thing but it was my cousins husband and I was 4. It kept happening until I was about 12. I have wished for many years that karma would visit him and I'd be able to watch. GOD is good and I've been living my life day by day in a positive way. I learned to forgive but never forget. Sorry it happened to you.
Even under the best of circumstances mothers and daughters living together late into adulthood can be extremely hard to do
I loved my mother but my family and I once stayed with her for 10 days in between moves and by the 3rd day talk about tension!
She had her way of doing things,I had mine and it was hard on both of us
You were her guest. Her roost, her rules.
@@shayhay2411 agreed and I kept that in mind yet it was still very draining on all of us at times including my mother
I was tired of not being a wife or mom to my own family and I think she got a annoyed and irritated that her privacy was invaded after the 5th day
Didnt stop us from loving each other though
I miss River so .much
.he died when I was 16 ..broke my heart