always cracked me up how for years Betty called Dan 'asshole'and 'faggot' but let her get insulted and she yet again goes for the 'victim' card. she loved to dish it out but obviously had trouble with the payback.
I did time with this lady in Chino. She stood in front of me in the mail line. She gets special treatment, her own cell, talks nonstop bullshit and gets tons of fan mail. What a piece of work, let me tell you.
Betty strikes me as a rare example of a person who is completely irredeemable. No matter how much her husband and family attempt to keeps things amicable and make things right, all she could do was destroy and rage. I doubt a gathering of all of the greatest head doctors in the world could have ever made her right again. Sad.
@@erenjinchuriki does it really? Not only is there no evidence of cheating, but she actively drove her hisband away with the constand verbal and physical abuse. Calling her a victim in any sense of the word would be giving her far more credit than she deserves.
I can’t get over the fact that she brought a gun into her ex-husband’s house which she entered illegally, went to their room, killed them both and only got 2nd degree murder. That was clearly premeditated and deserved a first degree charge
This is a testament to how far money gets you, with the American justice system. Paying for a good lawyer means a GUARANTEE that they talked down the charge, from first degree murder-and this lawyer HAD to be expensive. He objected to just about everything that could further incriminate her. 😂
@@nataliaspamer1107 why read the comments if you haven't finished the videos if you don't want a "spoiler" (btw, this is a real crime with real people, not a TV show LMAO)
Betty's eldest daughter is the one that I feel sorriest for. She left her keys on her mother's kitchen counter. Betty snatched them up and hid them. That night, Betty used those keys to get into her husband's house in the middle of the night. The last time I saw family members interviewed, she still carries the heaviest burden of guilt, while actually she did nothing wrong.
Oh damn! Poor thing! I wish I could tell her, “Girl you’re mom is batshit & you can’t kick yourself. She was so determined that if not your keys she would have found a way in, she was on a mission.”
@@EMurph42 right! Her lawyer asked her "what would you have done if you didn't have a key" and Betty said "I would have gone through a window, or something, I would have found a way in anyway"
@@HelgaGrace2007 exactly. i always crack up when she attempted the "I went over there to talk to them" bit. that's why she took a refresher course in firearms training so she could improve her speech.
@@haintedhouse2990 "I was just going to hold them hostage and if they didn't do what I wanted, make them watch me splatter my brains in their house. That's all. Shooting two people 5 times was an accident. "
That phone call between her & her own son broke my heart.. She exposed her true character right there. Imagine manipulating your own kid in such a harsh cold hearted manner as you hear them crying on the other end of the phone. That hurt.
That recording of her son is one of the most heartbreaking things I've heard in any of these cases. He was being 1000 times more mature than his own mom :(
agreed. the 4 kids deserve medals for witnessing and surviving the adults in their lives behaving like evil toddlers. what kind of mother talks to her 11 year old son like that??
My parents went through a very similar divorce. Luckily, I told my own mother (who told me she hated my guts for defending my dad) that if I ever found out my dad had been shot, the police wouldn't have a chance to arrest her. She's calmed tf down real quick after that and stopped harassing him. I'm just thankful her fear of me outweighed her hatred of my dad. My husband used to think I was nuts for how I would talk to my mom on the phone sometimes. Then he got to see first hand how f@%king psychotic she can be. Now a days she's calmed down TREMENDOUSLY and even invited my dad to our Christmas last year so he could see their granddaughter (my baby) together. Its been so much better. I still get emotional over the things she's said and done to me growing up, but I've promised myself I would never do that to my child. My daughter will grow up with parents who love her and each other, even if we were to divorce for some reason.
reminded me of my Mom. People like this make their own misery and they really don't have to. Just mean to everyone around them instead of even trying to be happy.
It's textbook narcissism. She doesn't see the people in her life as individuals. They're merely there to orbit around her. Especially her kids. To her, they are extentions of her and nothing else. I'm glad that as a society, we are not feeling obligated to keep toxic family members in our lives.
When she said "I wish dan was here to tell you the truth" then smugly grinned. I felt literal chills run through my body. What a cold, callous woman. Holy moly
agree. after the prosecution played the tape of her profanity-laced phone conversation with her 11 year old son, Betty's response was "that wasn't that bad." she's disgusting
@@haintedhouse2990 you're disgusting, you must not know everything, that man put her through... do some research before judging something you know nothing of....🤷🤷🤷🤷
I used to understand her a bit, thought of her as being used and provoked, especially after watching a season of Dirty John. But now she seems a bit manipulative.
Well, he was making 1.5 million dollars per year. So 16k monthly was actually not a lot. It is a lot of money but it was not fair at all of course. He would not have gotten away with that amount, if he did not know all the judges.
@@liou1369 if she couldn't survive off 16 g a month and people out here surviving off less then 1,200 she has major spending problems she was and is a narcissist and a gold digger nothing would have ever been good enough for her even if it was a million dollars she wouldn't have been happy because she wanted him dead period
@@liou1369 you kidding that’s a full salary for some people. All she had to do was not be an abusive vitriolic person and she would be living the life. Her getting anything at all is more than fair
Cheating sucks, but she is seriously trying to argue that it justifie stalking, harassing and then murdering this couple in their sleep. This lady is crazy
They only began the affair because she had been harassing them both for years. At some point, you think "if I'm going to be punished for something I didn't do, may as well actually do it and have some fun"
I’m currently going through being cheated on & I do not want to kill anyone. I want to distance myself & fall back in love with myself, Betty is exactly where she belongs.
Wow, I really can’t believe she just said “I wish he were here to tell you the truth” and the prosecutor said “yes, me too” and then she just laughed. I cannot believe this. That seems like it’s literally out of a TV show
Not premeditated?!?! She broke in to the house with a gun while they slept!!! If this was a man that did this to a woman he would've gotten life without parole 99 out of 100 times. Man these cases like this one and the popcorn murder one I am so upset and frustrated that after watching for 3+hrs only to find out they got off with the lightest sentences when Ray Charles and Stevie Wonder could see they were guilty as hell. Very sad for both families!!
The recording of her sweet son. Oh, so heartbreaking. I lived in a home a lot like this. Being more mature than your parents is super hard. I hope these children are at peace in their own lives now.
They all are still in touch with her and have brought their own children to visit her in prison. 😢 In 2010 they were divided on whether she should get parole and they testified on different sides to the parole board. They’re reportedly close with one another though, which is good to hear.
@@Campfire30 I wonder WTF is going thru THEIR heads still wanting to give her benefit of the doubt considering all the mentally and physically abusive ish she did to them. I get the familial bond thing but sometimes I think people are socially conditioned into acting that way outwardly when they don't really think it. Betty doesn't deserve whatever love they give her and I certainly wouldn't blame them if they walked out of her life permanently. They have every right to.
@@Campfire30 Poor children - still searching for humanity in a void. They still don't geth that the core of a cluster B - any type of Cluster B is a black hole.
@@SurelyYewJest They are still gaslighted by her - they need time to resolve the cognitive disonance and to see thru the BS. Than they will see the void.
Her psychopathic smirk make me sick + hearing her poor son wine and begging her to stop being abusive when she goes borderline style evil after him - 🥶🥶🥶 - how can't some people in the comment section still not realise. Her smugness and arrogance in the court - 🥶🥶🥶🤢🤮
😂 she said she didn’t know how to use it & didn’t remember hearing the clicking, right after she said she heard the clicking. These word salads & compulsive lying are mind blowing!
Righr!? She blatantly purgered herself in TWO back to back sentences. How could any jury have a hard time with this deliberation? I would find her guilty of contempt or purgeryon the spot if i were that judge. @PaperclipProphets
When u hear someone describe THEMSELVES as the "perfect mommy and perfect wife" .... you know you've encountered an absolute narcissist 😢 Those poor kids 😢😢❤
Betty may be narcissistic but let’s remember that could be a cry for help from someone doing EVERYTHING they can to please their partner while having no help raising their child. I can easily imagine someone absolutely at rock bottom crying to themselves that they’re the perfect wife-because their husband is abusing them and doesn’t see the perfection.
@@asmrtpop2676 Narcissists don't do everything to please their partner. And evidence was presented in court she was lying about it. She didn't even grow her hair out like she claimed she did to please him. That you are trying to relate to the narcissist in so many posts is rather concerning.
@@jenniferyule8786 you feel sorry ONLY for betty? how sad. the true victims in this situation are the poor children that had to endure all the trauma and abuse that they suffered from. Dan wasn’t perfect but he did not deserve that. murder is not karma. you completely misused that word. betty will receive her own karma for choosing to take a life.
Thank goodness Betty took the stand. Her arrogance landed her in prison, otherwise she bafflingly may have gotten another hung jury and gotten away with first degree murder. Who the hell "feels threatened" by someone who's asleep?!
@@annacostello5181 Or OJ. I was just a kid when that went down, but why didn't they say they were deadlocked? Why did they keep going for MONTHS until the ones that had more than a room temperature IQ and knew he was guilty gave up and just said innocent so they could go home?
As a child of two narcissists, thank you so much for your work on this video. They are masters at playing the victim and it requires a lengthy, detailed breakdown to expose their behavior. Thank you, thank you, thank you for this. Now people can have a real life example of how manipulative they can be.
Yes and often even if you expose their behavior you’re wiped out, and were not believed for so long before that it just exhausts you. I’ve learned to just cut off narcissists from my life now with no explanation to anyone.
@@asmrtpop2676 I’m struggling with this now! At this point, I only deal with my mom because I’m the only person she has left in her old age. And I have to deal with her on my terms with LOTS of boundaries, that I still have to constantly correct. It’s so exhausting!
Also a child of narcissists. I have recently finished my therapy and have successfully managed to get rid of most the poison and venom they both left in me. I am still terrified of the amount of manipulation and self-victimization they both used against me for over 30 years. I am also unfortunately forced to look after my father (the real monster of the pair) and he still plays the victim in the most blatant ways possible. I hope you are in a better place both mentally and physically, it can be done!
Hearing that little boy crying on the phone really hurts. It reminds me of my little brother when we were growing up in a fucked up situation. It also reminds me of myself telling my mom why she should stop drinking.
A narcissist will never admit that they are wrong. Any failure is a coincidence. If coincidence doesn't fit, they will find someone to blame. It's never their fault, in their mind.
The Narcissist's Prayer: That didn't happen. And if it did, it wasn't that bad. And if it was, that's not a big deal. And if it is, that's not my fault. And if it was, I didn't mean it. And if I did, you deserved it.
hell even when narcissists are wrong & they admit it, they'll rephrase it as a "learning experience" or something. act like they're immune to being flawed
Yeah that didn't happen, and if it did..it wasn't that bad. But if it was, that's not a big deal. And if it is, that's not my fault though. And if it was, I didn't mean it, sooo.. And if I did, you deserved it.
I feel so bad for Betty. Can you imagine only spending $37,000 on clothing in 1986?!? Also, she had a landscaper, pool boy and maid, but she was so destitute because of her divorce that she did not have a personal chef, personal assistant, live-in masseuse, personal stylist or make-up/nail artist! I mean, the house sounds like an embarrassing nightmare too. Ugh. Poor Betty. 🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮
I know. I was thinking just how unbearable it must have been. Just $37.000 .. That's enough to buy clothes in a thrift store. What a horrible man to degrade her like that! 😉👍
Ummmm actually this store doesn't ONLY sell clothes so she might have had to split $37000 between clothes AND linen... she doesn't actually remember so if you say it was clothes, if you BELIEVE it was clothes, then sure it was... but she might have also bought linen.
I wish the California courts would release all the tapes in their possession of Betty talking to her kids - I think people would be far less sympathetic if they could hear Betty’s parenting for themselves.
Just that short clip that was played here is a enough to see how controlling and cruel she was. She didn’t care that she was upsetting her son at all. She just wanted to hurt him and his father as much as possible to make her feel justified.
They wont fell any less sympathetic because to them she's a hero, they literally feel a cheating husband deserves to die. That is thier entire thought process and any foul behavior from Betty they vehemently believe that it is because of the cheating selfish man husband. They are projecting and incapable of reason, nothing more nothing less. They can't and will refuse to even consider that Dan may have cheated and left BECAUSE Betty was a vile person. They will not even take into account other witness testimony that Betty was vile and volatile. All they see is, cheating husband on perfect wife after wife suffers years of 'abuse'.
She is not well and resorted to using her kids....I know, they are horrific....she lost it. No right for her to kill him and if she was not so spiteful she would have had a good attorney and 16,000 a month is about over 50,000 a month. It was NOT money....she is not well and should not get out of jail. If you shoot a gun for the first time, it is NOT easy to shoot in the way she shot the to victims as well. Murder was her choice, she chose to mruder the father of her kids, that is horrific.....not her losing it on her kids when she was unstable.
When I was a teenager, my parents divorced because my dad is a chronic adulterer and pathological liar. I didn’t know that until I was an adult because my mom NEVER talked shit about my dad even though I’m sure no one would have blamed her for being bitter and angry. She never stopped me from seeing him (he decided he was done with me because I didn’t fit into his “new” life) because despite what happened between them, she didn’t want it to affect my relationship. That’s what a good parent does. I’m sure it wasn’t easy for my mom but I eventually realized on my own that my dad isn’t a good person.
I had a similar situation growing up. My biological father went to prison when I was 6, and served about 15 years, for SA of a minor (a friend of mine). Prior to his arrest, he cheated on my mom constantly, and was very manipulative and abusive - not physically, but certainly emotionally and verbally. Of the 6 years of my childhood that he wasn't in prison, he probably only spent maybe 3 of them actually in the home with his family. My mother never, ever, EVER spoke badly about our dad. Ever. She told us the age appropriate truth if - and only if - we asked directly, she allowed phone calls until I asked them to stop, and she allowed letters and cards. I remember they were always open when she would give them to us, and at the time I didn't think anything of it, but as an adult I realized that she read them before giving them to us. But she never made a big deal out of it. If my mother could raise two children and never once say anything negative or cruel about a man who lied, cheated, and committed just about the worst crime there is, then no one has the excuse for badmouthing their ex to their children. Period, end of discussion. Talk nasty about your ex to your therapist or your adult friends when your children are not in the same building to your hearts content, but there is zero excuse to say anything directly to your kids.
@@ndawn90 Frankly I find that odd. This person SA'ed your underage friend on top of other things. Irregardless of the relationship, he was dangerous. Not exactly a person that should have his poor morality brushed under the rug.
@@Ashley-vs8nu 💯 If Dad's dangerous, he's dead to us. Been there, and done that- through the courts. I get that talking negatively about kids father is terrible for kids self esteem, but you can absolutely not allow kids visitation with a psychopathic parent
This is the best break-down of this case I’ve seen. I worked in La Jolla, CA several years before the murders, when Betty was still married to Dan, and while I didn’t know her personally, saw her on many occasions. She seemed very brittle and would be laughing gaily with her friends or someone she bumped into, but the minute the others left, her face would drop the smiles like someone had flipped a switch. Emotionless and almost grim. Another saleswoman I worked with who waited on Betty said whenever she came in, it was guaranteed she’d drop at least $1000. Even 30 years later, that’s still a bundle. Maybe the most telling incident as to how unhinged she was becoming, and how she was spinning her narrative was when 3 ladies came into the department store where I worked. They saw her, but she hadn’t spotted them yet. They whispered to each other, “Let’s go get a coffee and come back later.” And quietly backed out of the store. It seems she had major behavioral disorders, exacerbated by building her married life on suppositions of what was ‘supposed’ to be, rather than on what actually was. Dan was painted to be an emotionally abusive jerk who took her kids away from her, but the truth is, she was emotionally draining to be around, and the kids did not want to live with her. They definitely loved her, but as anyone who’s lived with a mentally unstable person can attest, they are awful to live with. Thanks for such a careful analysis of this very complex case that the press has never fairly reported.
i believe you, sounds accurate. i never bought the 'June Cleaver' bit she tried to sell on the stand. i can't understand the support she gets - she had more than enough chances to get it together and move forward - a decent financial settlement, a beautiful ocean-front home and a new live-in boyfriend (where do I sign up?) - so she chooses murder, prison and leaving her kids without parents. for someone who always claimed her children meant everything to her, murdering their father is a funny way of showing it.
@@haintedhouse2990 The support she gets comes from Dan's efforts of twisting the blade. they would send her wrinkle cream ads and file unnecessary motions that would drain her in court on purpose. It's a situation where everyone is the asshole.
@@PandaMonium92827 All 3 behaved more like angry toddlers than adults but Betty steals the show with her over-the-top dramatics resulting in double homicide. can't imagine her 4 kids witnessing that horror show
When you write "it seems she had major behavioral disorders exacerbated by building her married life on yadda yadda yadda" -- it makes me wonder how you came up with that diagnosis. Yes she had mental health problems but there could be many reasons for that, including her life with her husband and family, her background, whether she ate that day -- I mean, none of us are static, we're all different versions of ourselves at any given time. To make a declarative statement -- and especially such a cruelly dismissive one -- about a person you don't know is very strange. When you shared the part about her personality changing when her she was left alone or her friends backing away from her, it actually made me think about how isolated she was. She really was losing everything.
The call between Betty and Rhett was awful to hear... she doesn't care about anything but herself. What a narcissist. And then it got WORSE when the nanny told about Rhett cutting his hair off to get the pain out of his head. That just ripped my heart out... Poor kids. I hope they grew up ok after this.
No one seems to be commenting on how very many times she mentions she "couldnt get control" or "couldnt have control" when discussing things she wanted from her ex husband.
I picked up on that as well. She mentioned control a lot during that interview. Not only that, I would be unsurprised to find out she had some sort of anger/rage disorder. She is so full of anger, vitriol, rage it is P A L P A B L E.
The series on Netflix about this case made Betty look like a victim and Dan the bad guy. Watching the actual footage shows how much of a narcissistic evil woman she is. This was a rollercoaster.
If you fear for your life from someone who is abusive, you don’t constantly insert yourself in positions or situations where that person is or lives. Betty was the abuser in this family dynamic and she eventually went mad because she lost control of her victims.
Bingo, yes! The perfect distillation right here. She could have been given Bill Gate’s money, but the image of her husband being happy, finally, broke her in two.
That's not necessarily true. She has borderline, meaning she would get extremely emotionally dysregulated to the point of potentially risking her own life. My partner has borderline and does plenty of things that could be fatal when upset. And I've known several women with borderline who genuinely had dangerously abusive partners but would still escalate fights with them bc they basically couldn't help it due to how upset they were. Not saying that's everyone with borderline; lots of people are internalizers and extreme people pleasers who barely dare to disagree with their partners, but not everyone can keep it all in.
@Anonymous but then her claims of them having a perfect marriage until Linda came along and refuting any of the chaos that was clearly present in their relationship doesn't add up either, because while no relationship is perfect a relationship with someone who is borderline is even less perfect. But she won't admit to that, as she's borderline with narcissism thrown in there too. I'm BPD with aspergers, I typically don't shy away from arguments with my partner or anybody in general but when its reaching a certain point I will retreat, assess and back down just for the situation to be over regardless of whos right or wrong. Betty doesn't seek capable of admitting any wrongs on her part
"Eventually went mad" sounds like she was just a victim of mental illness. Not that I think you meant that! I just found it interesting how those words... felt
Right?? Kind of insane to me tho that he decided to do all of that instead of just calling the police when she breaks into his home and destroys his shit, or when she rams her freaking car into his front door. He allowed this to happen. I feel for him, but also he is an idiot in some ways lmao. I would have turned her ass in immediately
WHY BOTHER TO GET MARRIED TO A MAN WHO HAS TO WEAR A BULLET PROOF VEST? HE HAD 4 KIDS . HE HAD A UNPREDICTABLE EX WOFE, HE HAD TO PAY THIS EX ALOT OF MONEY. HE IS SO SKEERED HE HAS TO WEAR BULLET PROOF VEST>> LINDA MUST HAVE BEEN DESPERATE FOR MONEY TO BE WITH DAN!
Yes. It was vile and disgusting the way she was talking to her son on the phone. She hurt everyone around her. I hate the way she was talking to her children.
@@clairelopez9167 unbelievable eh? And Betty objected to the fact that Dan had a full Catholic funeral service. She's tried to play her Catholic card but stayed silent about the two elective abortions she had. I'm not judging, but I know the Catholic stance on abortion. Apparently Betty does not.
Dang 25k a month!? With no kids in custody? I woulda have carried my butt home and let bigons be bigons and lived my best life! (Although personally I would want to see my kids. But for her motivations, it seems like that would have been everything she wanted). That goes to show how hatred and revenge and bitterness can ruin your life and let you do irrational things. I think anyone else would have been very happy with 25k a month.
for real. obviously money doesn't heal all wounds but her ass could have afforded therapy and to not work whike she healed from stuff. but that would have required she actually was a victim rather than an entitled abuser
@@ags9267 LOL THANK YOU. I couldn't figure that out, like my best guess was "farts." I saw words like "my butt" and "let" and figured "bigons" might be slang for "big ones", so maybe with so much money a person could give up all effort to be attractive or polite, just go home and enjoy things like letting farts rip, big ones. I mean that is one of the things I would do. 😆
It’s absolutely mind boggling how cruel she is. Just so delusional that she really didn’t believe she was wrong. She don’t care about her children at all. Some people should never have kids. They’re just too selfish. She had a man who loved her and tried so hard to give her what she demanded, but she couldn’t just be happy. She could have done whatever she wanted with her life and she chose to be a monster. She didn’t have to put her family through any of that. She’s miserable because she hates herself. Narcissistic people like that really don’t see themselves as better, they are constantly looking for a reason to steal others joy because they’re so unhappy. It’s scary.
love the way she sniffles with the shaky voice, wiping her eyes with not a tear in sight, then cops an attitude with the prosecution - a terrible actress.
I rolled my eyes at this woman on the stand so many times that my eyes detached from their retinas. How she got only 2nd degree is absolute insanity to me.
This woman is horrible. Especially all the abuse she put her children through. She's not a victim, she's not a good person. I hope her children will be able to heal. Thank you again Dreading for pointing a spotlight on this case. I had no idea how demented this woman was. Happy Holidays.
They're both at fault. She worked as the breadwinner in the beginning and he used her to pay for school. Then he was a work a holic and ignored his family. Toxic relationship overall.
@@arfriedman4577 how could you say he used her when she agreed to pay? You do things for people you love because you love them, not because you expect something back. Not only that. He payed her back so what is your point? Sure he was toxic for cheating but are you fr? He literally became a workaholic just to pay her back all those years because clearly she kept pestering him about it for some reason. Again I’m not taking responsibility away from him but none of the points you listed make sense when she was the root cause for all of them 😭
@@ellie1903 She was the root cause ?!!! He became workaholic to pay her back ??!'' This is just ridiculous.He became workaholic cos he loved the money and social position , and everuthing else money can buy. She is also a deeply troubled woman . Well , he was incapable to balance things and she was overpowering him. Hence she thought she was entitled to whatever . She is sick in her head .... etc Very smat woman , and very competent though. Shame it all escalated to that crime... 😢
@@angelarogoveanu304 I’m sure he liked the status but he literally went to school for years so he earned it. Also, it literally says in the video that he felt indebted to her and that one of the primary reasons he worked so much was to provide everything she needed because he felt as though he needed to pay her back. Maybe she’s not the root cause but she’s definitely the biggest one. No one is solely at fault but she’s the ridiculous one for making herself out to be the victim. I suggest you watch the video because he gives a lot of good info and brings nuance into this topic that had been covered so poorly before.
Betty's narcissism is so overwhelming that i don't think she could ever be happy. Her continually feeling that what she had wasn't enough simply disallowed her from ever actually feeling happy, thankful, content, etc. It is no surprise that she then resorted to making sure no one else would get to be happy either
yep, she had a beautiful beach-front home, cash coming in and a new boyfriend so she chooses murder, prison and leaving her kids orphans. as you said she had it right in front of her and chose chaos instead. what a freak.
Did we watch the same video? Her husband was a piece of shit that took advantage of and abused her. Everything she did was justified. Your misogyny is showing.
28:15 Dear God. What kind of mother talks like this to her kid... the distress in that little boys voice. Parents like her rip a childhood away from a child. No doubt Betty herself was denied a childhood looking after her siblings, thus the vitriol she feels when others seemingly 'do what they want'. I hope her kids are in a good place.
That call broke my heart. She was clearly a terrible mother, and like so many terrible parents, she claimed to be fantastic at it. That poor boy sounded so hurt and frustrated, to a point where he couldn't even fully articulate his pain because he was too young to know what she was doing wrong, only that he was suffering from her choices. And she's so dismissive and won't take responsibility for her role in any of this. Disgusting.
Considering how many nursemaids her family had the claim that she was responsible for her younger siblings is likely a gross exaggeration, it's much more likely that she was emotional abusive and controlling towards them.
I do not believe a word out of that woman’s mouth. I highly doubt she EVER “took care” of anyone but herself. She’ll say anything to be perceived as the victim.
A bad childhood isn’t an excuse, it’s more incentive to not repeat what happened to you. In other words give your kids a better life. So sorry for the kids, I hope their doing much better today.
If you ever feel some semblance of sympathy for this woman just remember she has been denied parole 3 times! Betty has had years to gain some insight into what she did to Dan and Linda, and her children, but she is incapable of doing so. She’s not remorseful or repentant because she feels completely justified in killing them while they slept.
that's why i'm still baffled by the support she gets. she sounds like a truly horrible person who was under the disguise of a dedicated wife and mother for San Diego's elite. i'm convinced she never loved Dan and i doubt she loved her children or she would've never killed their father.
“I felt really demoralized at being cheated out if the life I was promised by my family, my religion, and my ex-husband, and felt like I had been left with nothing.” 🤔 Okay… I can understand how she would feel that way… “So I rammed my car through his front door.” 😨 Wait. What?
I watched this with my husband and I was like if you ever divorce me and I got custody and you I got $20,000 a month (even not adjusted for inflation) I would be your best friend. How could there have been a hung jury? How can she claim that he left her destitute? She could literally hire a nanny with that much money if she did not to feel like she was taking care of all the children by herself. Rich people and their problems... 🤨🙄
Exactly. She got everything she wanted and she still couldn’t just be a mother and be happy. Her poor kids. I had parents who fought a lot but not like that. I’m glad. That’s horrific to live through.
@@alynsak Where I live, I could live well on $5,000 a month with my children and not even have to work.... I can't remember now, but did this happen awhile back? Because her hair gives my 90s vibes. lol $20,000 was probably way more back in those days if this happened in the past.
@@Gokce-Aysunyes it was the’90’s!!! What an entitled bitch! “He paid my bills out of that $9000. I didn’t see even half of that.” Dang! Give me half that amount now in 2023. I’ll pay my bills and still be happy. Rich people problems indeed
I mean, my full time pay's around $22K/year, not overly sympathetic of her "destitution". I'd still say the one thing she had a point about was the financial unfairness of it all. His way of calculating her contributions to his wealth were bullshit, always will be. Society is unfair to many on a lot of levels, and it's ok to resent whenever it's unfair to you. I just do not sympathize here coz a) bitch murdered 2 ppl & b) she never cared about systemic unfairness and like, other, greater victims of it... she was raised w/ a shitload of bigotry and instead of questioning it she doubled down on the parts that supported her case. If she'd been capable of putting her own level of exploitation into some perspective, think a little broader about fairness, she would've cut her losses.
The book Until the Twelfth of Never does a good job of showing both sides while not excusing Betty one bit. She was a narcissist whose identity was centered around being the wife of a wealthy man, and when he left her, no one grasped that her entire identity was in shatters or that her reaction would be one of such abusiveness and anger. The book notes the heavy-handed tactics Dan used, but also quotes those damning voicemail messages, which showed the true Betty. Unfortunately, Dan primarily saw her as pathetically unhinged rather than dangerously so.
Agreed. The Twelfth of Never, to me, showed the only victims in this case were the children as the adults had numerous opportunities to stop their poor behavior, yet chose otherwise.
Betty: "There was a loud noise and then clicking" Lawyer: "Do you remember the clicking?" Betty: "No...." Earlier in the case: Betty: "I screamed NOOO and the gun went off and I know that I must have done that" Lawyer: "Do you remember pulling the trigger?" Betty: "No" There really is so many contradictions in her story, I am glad she took the stand.... really dug herself into a hole here.
If I was a juror and I saw a defendant being so uncooperative, condescending, and cold to the prosecutors during questioning it would be such a red flag.
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Listening to that poor little boy bawl and beg his mommy to be "good" and "stop using bad words" rips my heart apart. I just wanna hold that boy and hug him. Children should never have to go through this let alone even be apart of an adult conversation like that. Their minds are not developed enough to understand. I was traumatized by this very thing, kids shouldn't be exposed to adult problems. So very heartbreaking. I pray they have peace now I really do
I had to stop listening for a sec because of how sad that little boy sounded. It is heartbreaking to her him try to guide his mom towards a more understanding and accepting viewpoint and she continues to ignore him and belittle him and his father. Crazy how much more mature he sounds than her.
@@heathernikki5734 Sooo.. are you a troll or did you not listen to anything here? Because even ignoring any claims from dreading, that call alone shows that is most definitely not true.
I don't get how people thought she was justified for murding them. The phone call to her son alone just broke my heart. She was so angry and mean. To him, to the children, and for her to act like she was a victim
I think the era had a lot to do with it. America was a different time and it was easy to bend the facts to make her look like the thrown away loyal wife. Look at the Amber Heard case, if that happened 5 years ago Depp would most likely have loss.
Yeah I'm inclined to agree. No justifiable reason for murder in the slightest. If an intruder broke into my house and then claimed he or she was in fear of their life so they started shooting, that makes zero sense. She has no right to be in their home after breaking in then claiming she was scared for her own safety.
I am only 38 minutes into this and I must say that Betty is AN ACTUAL NIGHTMARE! To whoever reads this, if someone screams at you and can’t let go of there anger, you gotta let them go. If someone says “I’m going to kill you”, believe them and protect yourself
I’m only 16 minutes in and feel the same. This woman is a nightmare! Destroying everything of his… he was trying to salvage clothing and items that she burned and covered in paint?? - I feel terrible for him. Awful
she is a disgusting person. She has no remorse. She continued to hate on Dan through the whole trial even being so petty as to insult him house keys " I used a funny looking key to enter Dan's home, only he had funny looking keys." She doesn't take accountability and not seeing that no matter what happened in that bedroom, She should not have been in their home with a gun- therefore its her fault, period. She said she lives in prison and its "like a retirement community". She is snidely insinuating that she is not suffering in the least bit. Keep this trash locked up forever!
“I mean did I have a villa at the beach with a pool boy, maid and gardener? Sure, but the inside was just so sub par, nay, destitute!” 😔 So she expected him to bring home millions a year but also be home and spend time with his family but also she belittled and physically assaulted him but also she disliked her kids. Did I sum that up alright? OMG what a vile woman. Delusional, cruel woman. The phone call with her little boy was gut wrenching.
I know, right? "I might have bought that, but did I pay for it?" Argh. Trying to be rich and better-than-you but poor and woe-be-gone at the same time. Ridiculous.
And thankfully, she's exactly where she needs to be. So many greedy, heartless men and women just like her walk among us, looking down on everyone around them
I worked 8 years for Family Law attorneys and except for the murder, this kind of severely contentious divorce is so common. People will use possessions, money, even their children, as weapons, and like ole Betty here, NOTHING is their fault. By the time 8 years was over, I was done with people. Too bad she didn't get the death penalty.
Isn't their lack of self-awareness just bewildering? If you're willing to use your own kids against their other parent, you are definitely not in the right, no matter what has occurred between you as a couple.
@@sirbuffaloyes, the way she treated her children was appalling. Leaving them at Dans front door and driving away, swearing at them on the phone etc etc. Even painting the walls of their home with cake and muck & driving into their front door. What?
I’ve never seen someone so committed to being the victim in every single little detail of her life. Every single tiny little piece, the world was just out to get her. Poor Betty and those guns that empty the clip on their own
Guess u never met a protected class then. Some ppl especially wives are victimized. Often in every detail because those that abuse will do anything and everything they can.
Betty broke into her Ex Husband's home and said the 2 sleeping people startled and scared her so she had to shoot them both to death. I thought only a cop could get away with something so ridiculous 😂😂😂
Damn good way to put it . This story was slanted the first few years it was told . I actually felt like she was driven crazy by her husband .I did not realize what a narcissist she truly was . Had to be a handful to be wed to her .
I'm not even half way through, but I have to say this. Betty is absolutely insane. She is exactly where she belongs. Also, how could those two jurors think firing six shots into two sleeping people wasn't premeditated manslaughter at the very least?! 🤯
Speaking as a gunsmith and competition shooter, a revolver does not go off multiple times accidentally or from a jump scare. Single-action revolvers have to be manually cocked before each shot. Double-action revolvers have long, heavy triggers that are not easy to pull once, much less repeatedly. Firing either kind of revolver multiple times is a deliberate action. Her story about being surprised, never mind why the gun was drawn and pointed at Dan and Linda, simply doesn't make sense.
I’ve followed this case for years. I have struggled to sympathize with any of the adults in this situation, only the kids. I hope they are all doing well.
@@BostonBori92 he failed to protect his kids by failing to protect himself. he was too lenient with her when she was obviously a threat to him & his kids lives, she literally rammed her car into the front of his house & he didn’t even press charges. yes he got a restraining order against her, but the things she did way before murdering him should have landed her in jail. the kids weren’t physically harmed, thank goodness, but they’re definitely carrying deep emotional trauma from the whole situation that i feel, had the dad truly seen the mom for the violent threat that she was, maybe wouldn’t be there or quite as deep.
Betty is unhinged and shows no remorse for what she did. She is a horrible vile evil woman and I pray she's never released from prison. My prayers are with the victims and especially her children.
If you go to videos of Bettys children giving testimony people are saying horrible things about them in the comments section. THE CHILDREN! What they went through and to have people say they 'betrayed' their mum is insane. The fact that people can disregard the emotional abuse Betty put her children through, yet sympathise with the 'abuse' Betty went through just blows my mind.
those are fellow narcissists seeing this POS as a hero. I cant imagine thinking that cheating and not paying enough attention to your spouse is something that deserves death. even if somehow someone can mental gymnastics their way into thinking Dan deserved it, Linda didn't! And neither did her kids losing both parents.
People are unfathomable. And everybody whining about Amber Heard needs to stuff it. That woman is not remotely in the same league as Betty Broderick, and she was definitely abused.
This is exactly the opposite story from the one the media sold us. I remember watching the Meredith Baxter-Birney movie and the Law & Order episode. I cried for Betty. Disgusted with the media.
See how easy the media can twist things…. Terrifying that they can make a whole population feel however they want them to feel on nearly everything they cover. It’s beyond sickening
Literally waiting after listing all the payments without court orders for the prosecution to ask, "at what point do you describe hundreds of thousands of dollars as broke?"
I agree, she certainly treated her poor children with contempt, she killed their father and their step mother who they loved and spoke and yelled and cursed to them, drove her car into the front door of their house, burnt things, wrote on the walls and spread cake and food on the beds. It went on and on. Amazing how guns….just go off.
She should never get out of prison. You can see her fighting back smiling during her entire testimony, dupers delight. Complete narcissist who should have been found guilty of first degree murder. To this day she shows zero remorse and she never will.
Yep. it really sucks to see some women taken in enough by her poor struggling ex wife bs enough to hang the jury on murder and settling for murder 2 when theres clear premeditation involved
i appreciate this video bc Betty was clearly nuts long before Linda entered the picture & if anything her husband was victim of her abuse not the other way around the way most reporting says. she was a sociopath and narcissist & cared more about being getting back at Dan than her own children. idk how anyone seeing this can feel sympathy for her. she definitely premeditated those murders
I don't think Betty ever truly loved Dan. She was attracted ONLY to his future earnings potential and so married him. Betty's a greedy, narcissistic, sociopathic kil**r. Truly a monster. Why on earth wasn't she given a de**h sentence?
Seeing a Dreading episode that's over an hour is like freaking christmas for me! Taking shots of these well written, respectful, informative videos 3 hours at a time straight to the vein 🖤
I love how the lawyer keeps checking her she gets so smug and rude so it’s satisfying to watch her get frustrated and not be able to ramble. It honestly makes her insufferable the way she gets smart . That smirk makes me so angry
I live in the south. I recognized the "bless your heart" look immediately. If I had been on that jury, I would have noticed all of her smirks, looks, looking down her nose, laughter, all of it, and saw her for the narcissist that she is.
Never bad mouth the other parent in front of kids. My mother divorced my dad before I was born and the only thing she would say about him is that he's a drunk asshole. That scarred me for life. Fast forward many years and my deadbeat ex husband deserves every bad name in the book . but I've never bad mouthed my son's absent father in front of him. It just hurts the kids.
As a kid with a bad dad, i just wanna say thank you. My mother was the same. She wouldnt bad mouth my father, but she wouldnt lie to me about the things he did. And she was even very supportive of me when i wanted to visit him regularly. She went so far as to set up official visitation through the courts. Its an EXTREMELY healthy thing to do for your child. And its just wonderful, i hope they grow up to appreciate it.
There are comments defending her?! Wow. I haven't seen any yet but if I do I'll make sure to tell them how awful their judgement about who to defend is.
@@agneau777 hmm that imo indicates what type of people they are - the equivalent of $50k per month?! That's more than many families have at their disposal to support their entire family. And, these people saying that ought to realise that in no case in the history of the world ever has anyone got away with murdering two people based on the fact that one of the victims was paying them $0.5m a year... I'm pretty sure Betty's defense didn't incorporate the idea that Betty committed double, highly aggravated homicide, because her ex husband wasn't giving her enough alimony. Ugh... I know i shouldn't get so triggered by such things but it's absolutely terrifying to me that those comments were made by people who, during the course of their lifetimes, may very well be called to sit on a jury and that such ridiculous viewpoints DO skew people's decision making process. It shouldn't be the case but it absolutely is. Whether the ridiculous biases are directed toward the defendant or not could very easily ensure an innocent person is sent to prison or a guilty person is set free. Unbelievable! 🤯
@@WakeyWakeyEggsandBakey I haven't seen any supportive comments under this vid yet. But, I'd never heard so many details that Dreading provided here so I went to Reddit. Huge mistake. Sooo many ab*se apologists. The common theme was something along the lines of 'I know she pulled some crazy stuff, but he pushed her to it'. Made me pretty sick. I cannot believe how one sided most of the coverage is about Betty but it has heavily influenced the court of public opinion on Betty.
Listening to that phone call between her and her son was heartbreaking.. also gave me flashbacks to my childhood. My mom was a lot like Betty.. She loved drama and loved talking shit about my dad to me and my siblings.. She always wanted to be the victim and it wasn't until I was older that I realized she was the one in the wrong. She was emotionally manipulative and had a victim complex. She loved to claim that she was an amazing mother but it was my dads fault that she never got to see me. Before they got a divorce and she lived at home with me she'd spend most of the day doing meth with her friends. Sorry but that doesn't sound like a good mother to me.
It's really hard growing up with a parent like that--gives you a really skewed view of yourself and other family members after having to listen to endless rants about how "I'm the *real* victim here." I hope you, your dad, and your siblings are doing all right now.
I'm so sorry for what your mom put you through. That phone call was so hard to listen to... she was more interested in arguing with her son than comforting and consoling him. It breaks my heart that any child should be treated that way. ((hugs))
This woman called another woman a gold digger after settling for a guy that she knew was on his way to making a ton of money. Then when he’s making $8M a year she wasn’t happy.
The media portrayed this as the classic tale of a beautiful woman marrying a guy in the blush of her fleeting youth, supporting him as he got his education and started his career, losing her looks gradually over time as she gave him children, and then, when she’s middle aged and dumpy, him leaving her for a younger woman when he became successful. In reality Betty was abusive toward her husband and children, and the marriage was unhappy long before he met the other woman. Dan was certainly not a very sympathetic victim - he handled the end of his marriage poorly, cheating and then behaving vindictively during the divorce, but the situation was a lot more nuanced than the media portrayed it. Betty was in many ways the architect of her marriage’s unraveling, and she was not blameless in losing custody of her kids.
@@aliceschmid9697 Sure, he was no Saint. But in the end, he was murdered and his ex wife is the killer. He's ultimately the victim and so is Linda. Cheating is wrong, but you have no right to kill someone.
Years ago, I felt so bad for her. I felt like she had been traded in for the younger model. I felt like she had been psychologically, abused, and basically snapped, but I have to say that my thinking has definitely changed. There is no excuse for what she did. She should’ve showed her children what a strong woman was, and as hard as it was, to just move on.
Yeah, it was really easy to feel sorry for her when all we had was her side of the story. And to think, she got a healthy divorce settlement that meant she would’ve lived very, very comfortably without ever having to lift a finger, she had a loving boyfriend, and she threw everything away, abandoning her children, because she couldn’t handle no longer having control over Dan, couldn’t handle the thought of him being happy with somebody else.
she had a new boyfriend and plenty of money. no clue why she got so mad. she was annoyed she wasnt able to perform the narcissistic discard on him he got her first
“Right I would have said that probably, sure” she is physically incapable of answering yes or no. It’s scary how bad a narcissist needs to be in control at all times.
The absolute gall of this psychotic woman, wanting to be the one who plans her own victim's funeral when she's the murderer. It's like the bank robber wanting to be the manager of a bank.
it's because she thought that she owned Dan. Taking his life and then wanting to take his death as well. Straight up not even living on this planet type of unressonable
she's not psychotic technically...but she's definitely buying into her own delusions afaict. you might could say she's psychopathic👀 as someone who is lucky enough to have lovely folks in their life who happen to deal with psychosis, i feel a duty to make that distinction and push back against the loose usage of that term😅
Holy shit, I just realized the reason I’ve found her to sound so familiar throughout the video is because she talks exactly like Diane Downs. Same exact tone and cadence in her speech, same long, run-on sentences, same singsong voice to make herself sound more innocent, same narcissistic & psychopathic behavior.. It’s crazy, if Diane Downs wasn’t still alive this would convince me of reincarnation
This woman is so frustrating to listen to. It’s amazing to me that anyone saw her as a legitimate victim and not an abusive, narcissistic murderer. I feel so sorry for her children.
Same, but even with how she was portrayed in the show I stopped feeling bad for her after the phone call with her son Side note: seeing her on the stand made me realise how great the actress was. She got her voice and mannerisms down to the T
@@Hrmn042 the series was so far off with Betty - she was a foul-mouthed terrorist who used her kids as pawns, she never loved them like she claimed otherwise she wouldn't have murdered their father.
I felt relieved when you explained how the coverage was skewed to Betty's narrative. Because I remember I was in college when I saw some lifetime movie about it and actually felt sympathy for her, that she 'lost it' because Dan had shoved her over for a younger model or something. Idk just how the movie played it, like she was justified. I was young and not well informed. She was/is a monster, and a manipulator.
"He told I was fat [..]"
"At that time WERE you fat?"
That made me laugh lmao she felt personally attacked
🤣
always cracked me up how for years Betty called Dan 'asshole'and 'faggot' but let her get insulted and she yet again goes for the 'victim' card. she loved to dish it out but obviously had trouble with the payback.
That was a good blow for sure 😂😂
Her lawyer was a jerkm
Lolll! I couldn’t BELIEVE he asked that 😂😂😂 It was a very different time!
I did time with this lady in Chino. She stood in front of me in the mail line. She gets special treatment, her own cell, talks nonstop bullshit and gets tons of fan mail. What a piece of work, let me tell you.
She gets fan mail? Holy crap.
Wow, no kidding?? Anything else you can tell us about her? Anything of note, or particular behaviors that are interesting?
@@datashtho I can believe she would get fan mail...not everybody disliked her.
Tell us more, please
Probably not only fan mail. But, mail from journalists, TH-camrs and Podcasters wanting her story and information.
"no judge, you don't understand, I threatened to kill him all the time" is an absolutely wild defense
Lol sounds like me
And she calls everyone f*g so that's ok
No it's not! 💅🏽
To be fair, my mom once got out of a speeding ticket when she told the officer, "But I always go this fast on this road!"
@@gunderalex which is also an absolutely wild defense
Betty strikes me as a rare example of a person who is completely irredeemable. No matter how much her husband and family attempt to keeps things amicable and make things right, all she could do was destroy and rage. I doubt a gathering of all of the greatest head doctors in the world could have ever made her right again. Sad.
shes clearly not rare enough when the first jury couldnt decide on murder
The thing is, “amicable” still forces her to take the brunt of the damage and let things slide. In cheating, someone is always bound to lose.
@@erenjinchuriki big deal Take the thousands of dollars per month in alimony million dollar house multiple cars and go off and live a great life
@@erenjinchuriki she brought the damage on herself. classic sociopath - does her damage then blames the world cause nothing was ever Betty's fault
@@erenjinchuriki does it really? Not only is there no evidence of cheating, but she actively drove her hisband away with the constand verbal and physical abuse. Calling her a victim in any sense of the word would be giving her far more credit than she deserves.
I can’t get over the fact that she brought a gun into her ex-husband’s house which she entered illegally, went to their room, killed them both and only got 2nd degree murder. That was clearly premeditated and deserved a first degree charge
SPOILER ALERT!!!!!!!
@@nataliaspamer1107 um this is a crime that happened in the 80’s, there’s been numerous movies and a tv show about it on Netflix. Spoiler what?
This is a testament to how far money gets you, with the American justice system. Paying for a good lawyer means a GUARANTEE that they talked down the charge, from first degree murder-and this lawyer HAD to be expensive. He objected to just about everything that could further incriminate her. 😂
@@brokentoast378 true but not everyone knows about this case. I can’t be the only one who didn’t know about it until this video.
@@nataliaspamer1107 why read the comments if you haven't finished the videos if you don't want a "spoiler" (btw, this is a real crime with real people, not a TV show LMAO)
Betty's eldest daughter is the one that I feel sorriest for. She left her keys on her mother's kitchen counter. Betty snatched them up and hid them.
That night, Betty used those keys to get into her husband's house in the middle of the night. The last time I saw family members interviewed, she still carries the heaviest burden of guilt, while actually she did nothing wrong.
Oh damn! Poor thing! I wish I could tell her, “Girl you’re mom is batshit & you can’t kick yourself. She was so determined that if not your keys she would have found a way in, she was on a mission.”
@@EMurph42 right! Her lawyer asked her "what would you have done if you didn't have a key" and Betty said "I would have gone through a window, or something, I would have found a way in anyway"
@@HelgaGrace2007 exactly. i always crack up when she attempted the "I went over there to talk to them" bit. that's why she took a refresher course in firearms training so she could improve her speech.
@Erin Murphy she probably would've just driven through the house again
@@haintedhouse2990 "I was just going to hold them hostage and if they didn't do what I wanted, make them watch me splatter my brains in their house. That's all. Shooting two people 5 times was an accident. "
That phone call between her & her own son broke my heart.. She exposed her true character right there. Imagine manipulating your own kid in such a harsh cold hearted manner as you hear them crying on the other end of the phone. That hurt.
He didn't want to be there Either . He told mom he was having a Horrible time there 😢 We can't come back . Because you wont shut your mouth.
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It's just awful. Brought me back to hearing my little brother crying through the wall when my mom would do the same thing over the phone.
Awful
@@hollis1996 same!! my mum did the same to me. it was really shocking as it brought me right back to being a kid and feeling so awful
27:00 “ I was a perfect mommy and a perfect wife.” A true conversation with a narcissist. Breaks my heart.
💯narcissist at their finest. I feel so badly for her children & the victims 😢
And don't admit to any wrongdoing.. She plays victim like the narcissist she is.
That recording of her son is one of the most heartbreaking things I've heard in any of these cases. He was being 1000 times more mature than his own mom :(
That poor baby 🥺
He was not being mature.He was acting like an asshole and a jerk like his father.I hate that brat Danny Jr
agreed. the 4 kids deserve medals for witnessing and surviving the adults in their lives behaving like evil toddlers. what kind of mother talks to her 11 year old son like that??
My parents went through a very similar divorce. Luckily, I told my own mother (who told me she hated my guts for defending my dad) that if I ever found out my dad had been shot, the police wouldn't have a chance to arrest her. She's calmed tf down real quick after that and stopped harassing him. I'm just thankful her fear of me outweighed her hatred of my dad. My husband used to think I was nuts for how I would talk to my mom on the phone sometimes. Then he got to see first hand how f@%king psychotic she can be. Now a days she's calmed down TREMENDOUSLY and even invited my dad to our Christmas last year so he could see their granddaughter (my baby) together. Its been so much better. I still get emotional over the things she's said and done to me growing up, but I've promised myself I would never do that to my child. My daughter will grow up with parents who love her and each other, even if we were to divorce for some reason.
reminded me of my Mom. People like this make their own misery and they really don't have to. Just mean to everyone around them instead of even trying to be happy.
The way she was relentlessly talking to and hurting her little child... it broke my heart into a billion pieces...
It's textbook narcissism. She doesn't see the people in her life as individuals. They're merely there to orbit around her. Especially her kids. To her, they are extentions of her and nothing else. I'm glad that as a society, we are not feeling obligated to keep toxic family members in our lives.
11 years old. That was such a brave little boy. He definitely paid attention to his parents going back and forth.
Strong child❤
He supports her and visits her in prison. He was on the Oprah show saying she was a good person.
He clearly loved his mom so much.
When she said "I wish dan was here to tell you the truth" then smugly grinned. I felt literal chills run through my body. What a cold, callous woman. Holy moly
Absolute sick lady
agree. after the prosecution played the tape of her profanity-laced phone conversation with her 11 year old son, Betty's response was "that wasn't that bad." she's disgusting
@@haintedhouse2990 you're disgusting, you must not know everything, that man put her through... do some research before judging something you know nothing of....🤷🤷🤷🤷
I love that you wrote "holy moly"! I use that all the time, but never saw it in writing. Good comment too!
I used to understand her a bit, thought of her as being used and provoked, especially after watching a season of Dirty John. But now she seems a bit manipulative.
She was getting 50k a month in today’s money!?! Damn I would be a model ex wife for 50K.
Right 😭
fr! you wouldn’t hear a peep out of me 😂
Well, he was making 1.5 million dollars per year. So 16k monthly was actually not a lot. It is a lot of money but it was not fair at all of course. He would not have gotten away with that amount, if he did not know all the judges.
@@liou1369 if she couldn't survive off 16 g a month and people out here surviving off less then 1,200 she has major spending problems she was and is a narcissist and a gold digger nothing would have ever been good enough for her even if it was a million dollars she wouldn't have been happy because she wanted him dead period
@@liou1369 you kidding that’s a full salary for some people. All she had to do was not be an abusive vitriolic person and she would be living the life. Her getting anything at all is more than fair
Cheating sucks, but she is seriously trying to argue that it justifie stalking, harassing and then murdering this couple in their sleep. This lady is crazy
They only began the affair because she had been harassing them both for years. At some point, you think "if I'm going to be punished for something I didn't do, may as well actually do it and have some fun"
@@WobblesandBean she’s a bad woman for what she done but I believe the affair was going on before that
She is no ‘lady’.
I’m currently going through being cheated on & I do not want to kill anyone. I want to distance myself & fall back in love with myself, Betty is exactly where she belongs.
So many people believe her though. The comments on her interview videos are wild.
Wow, I really can’t believe she just said “I wish he were here to tell you the truth” and the prosecutor said “yes, me too” and then she just laughed. I cannot believe this. That seems like it’s literally out of a TV show
Betty thinks she’s acting in Dynasty.
@@Herewearenowentertainus 🤣
Not premeditated?!?! She broke in to the house with a gun while they slept!!! If this was a man that did this to a woman he would've gotten life without parole 99 out of 100 times. Man these cases like this one and the popcorn murder one I am so upset and frustrated that after watching for 3+hrs only to find out they got off with the lightest sentences when Ray Charles and Stevie Wonder could see they were guilty as hell. Very sad for both families!!
@Juicy Ribbeye if this was a guy, they would've given him the death penalty.
100% a man would have gotten life or the death penalty
The recording of her sweet son. Oh, so heartbreaking.
I lived in a home a lot like this. Being more mature than your parents is super hard. I hope these children are at peace in their own lives now.
They all are still in touch with her and have brought their own children to visit her in prison. 😢 In 2010 they were divided on whether she should get parole and they testified on different sides to the parole board. They’re reportedly close with one another though, which is good to hear.
@@Campfire30 I wonder WTF is going thru THEIR heads still wanting to give her benefit of the doubt considering all the mentally and physically abusive ish she did to them. I get the familial bond thing but sometimes I think people are socially conditioned into acting that way outwardly when they don't really think it. Betty doesn't deserve whatever love they give her and I certainly wouldn't blame them if they walked out of her life permanently. They have every right to.
@@Campfire30 Poor children - still searching for humanity in a void.
They still don't geth that the core of a cluster B - any type of Cluster B is a black hole.
@@SurelyYewJest They are still gaslighted by her - they need time to resolve the cognitive disonance and to see thru the BS.
Than they will see the void.
Her psychopathic smirk make me sick + hearing her poor son wine and begging her to stop being abusive when she goes borderline style evil after him - 🥶🥶🥶 - how can't some people in the comment section still not realise.
Her smugness and arrogance in the court - 🥶🥶🥶🤢🤮
"Is that one of those guns where you have to pull the trigger?" Nah, its one of those telepathic guns
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lol hilarious. Betty's disassociation with the part she played in the crime is record breaking
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😂 she said she didn’t know how to use it & didn’t remember hearing the clicking, right after she said she heard the clicking. These word salads & compulsive lying are mind blowing!
Righr!? She blatantly purgered herself in TWO back to back sentences. How could any jury have a hard time with this deliberation? I would find her guilty of contempt or purgeryon the spot if i were that judge. @PaperclipProphets
When u hear someone describe THEMSELVES as the "perfect mommy and perfect wife" .... you know you've encountered an absolute narcissist 😢
Those poor kids 😢😢❤
Exactly. Neither of those things exist.
Betty may be narcissistic but let’s remember that could be a cry for help from someone doing EVERYTHING they can to please their partner while having no help raising their child. I can easily imagine someone absolutely at rock bottom crying to themselves that they’re the perfect wife-because their husband is abusing them and doesn’t see the perfection.
@@asmrtpop2676 Narcissists don't do everything to please their partner. And evidence was presented in court she was lying about it. She didn't even grow her hair out like she claimed she did to please him. That you are trying to relate to the narcissist in so many posts is rather concerning.
I feel sorry only for Betty. She is amazing. Poor woman, loyal to that piece of garbage, so up himself. Oh well. karma got him in the end.
@@jenniferyule8786 you feel sorry ONLY for betty? how sad. the true victims in this situation are the poor children that had to endure all the trauma and abuse that they suffered from. Dan wasn’t perfect but he did not deserve that. murder is not karma. you completely misused that word. betty will receive her own karma for choosing to take a life.
Thank goodness Betty took the stand. Her arrogance landed her in prison, otherwise she bafflingly may have gotten another hung jury and gotten away with first degree murder. Who the hell "feels threatened" by someone who's asleep?!
And in a house she broke into... knowing they were there!!!
@@kddicks5115 I will never understand why the first trial couldn't convict her.
@@WobblesandBean the jury was split on pre-meditation. Better to mistrial than to find her not guilty. She’d be like Casey Anthony
@@ItsMeBarnaby She's like Diane Downs in that aspect. All I can say is, good. May she never see the light of day.
@@annacostello5181 Or OJ. I was just a kid when that went down, but why didn't they say they were deadlocked? Why did they keep going for MONTHS until the ones that had more than a room temperature IQ and knew he was guilty gave up and just said innocent so they could go home?
As a child of two narcissists, thank you so much for your work on this video. They are masters at playing the victim and it requires a lengthy, detailed breakdown to expose their behavior. Thank you, thank you, thank you for this. Now people can have a real life example of how manipulative they can be.
Same, it’s why I watch these. Some of the things she says sound very familiar. Cheers.
Yes and often even if you expose their behavior you’re wiped out, and were not believed for so long before that it just exhausts you. I’ve learned to just cut off narcissists from my life now with no explanation to anyone.
@@asmrtpop2676 I’m struggling with this now! At this point, I only deal with my mom because I’m the only person she has left in her old age. And I have to deal with her on my terms with LOTS of boundaries, that I still have to constantly correct. It’s so exhausting!
Also a child of narcissists. I have recently finished my therapy and have successfully managed to get rid of most the poison and venom they both left in me. I am still terrified of the amount of manipulation and self-victimization they both used against me for over 30 years.
I am also unfortunately forced to look after my father (the real monster of the pair) and he still plays the victim in the most blatant ways possible. I hope you are in a better place both mentally and physically, it can be done!
Same, my mother even pretended to have cancer. I'm a lot happier far far away from her.
Hearing that little boy crying on the phone really hurts. It reminds me of my little brother when we were growing up in a fucked up situation.
It also reminds me of myself telling my mom why she should stop drinking.
hope youre doing okay now :(
A narcissist will never admit that they are wrong. Any failure is a coincidence. If coincidence doesn't fit, they will find someone to blame. It's never their fault, in their mind.
You nailed it! 👍😎
Ja inderdaad je heb 100% gelijk het is nooit maar dan ook nooit hun schuld 😢
The Narcissist's Prayer:
That didn't happen.
And if it did, it wasn't that bad.
And if it was, that's not a big deal.
And if it is, that's not my fault.
And if it was, I didn't mean it.
And if I did, you deserved it.
hell even when narcissists are wrong & they admit it, they'll rephrase it as a "learning experience" or something. act like they're immune to being flawed
Yeah that didn't happen, and if it did..it wasn't that bad. But if it was, that's not a big deal. And if it is, that's not my fault though. And if it was, I didn't mean it, sooo.. And if I did, you deserved it.
I feel so bad for Betty. Can you imagine only spending $37,000 on clothing in 1986?!? Also, she had a landscaper, pool boy and maid, but she was so destitute because of her divorce that she did not have a personal chef, personal assistant, live-in masseuse, personal stylist or make-up/nail artist! I mean, the house sounds like an embarrassing nightmare too. Ugh. Poor Betty. 🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮
I know. I was thinking just how unbearable it must have been.
Just $37.000 .. That's enough to buy clothes in a thrift store.
What a horrible man to degrade her like that!
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How did she manage to spend so much and look so crap? I guess clothing was just status symbols to wear.
I just looked it up, in 2022 dollars that is a clothing budget of $100,504.63.
@@emcdonald496 WOW! That is more than my husband and I make combined annually in medical and law enforcement. For shame.
Ummmm actually this store doesn't ONLY sell clothes so she might have had to split $37000 between clothes AND linen... she doesn't actually remember so if you say it was clothes, if you BELIEVE it was clothes, then sure it was... but she might have also bought linen.
I wish the California courts would release all the tapes in their possession of Betty talking to her kids - I think people would be far less sympathetic if they could hear Betty’s parenting for themselves.
She wasn't on trial for CA and neglect. A lot of the tapes weren't even allowed in court.
Just that short clip that was played here is a enough to see how controlling and cruel she was. She didn’t care that she was upsetting her son at all. She just wanted to hurt him and his father as much as possible to make her feel justified.
@@alynsak the jury was visibly disgusted by the tape, Betty's response was "that wasn't that bad" what a witch
They wont fell any less sympathetic because to them she's a hero, they literally feel a cheating husband deserves to die. That is thier entire thought process and any foul behavior from Betty they vehemently believe that it is because of the cheating selfish man husband.
They are projecting and incapable of reason, nothing more nothing less.
They can't and will refuse to even consider that Dan may have cheated and left BECAUSE Betty was a vile person.
They will not even take into account other witness testimony that Betty was vile and volatile.
All they see is, cheating husband on perfect wife after wife suffers years of 'abuse'.
She is not well and resorted to using her kids....I know, they are horrific....she lost it. No right for her to kill him and if she was not so spiteful she would have had a good attorney and 16,000 a month is about over 50,000 a month. It was NOT money....she is not well and should not get out of jail. If you shoot a gun for the first time, it is NOT easy to shoot in the way she shot the to victims as well. Murder was her choice, she chose to mruder the father of her kids, that is horrific.....not her losing it on her kids when she was unstable.
Omg that smirk she does on the stand. Shes insane.
When I was a teenager, my parents divorced because my dad is a chronic adulterer and pathological liar. I didn’t know that until I was an adult because my mom NEVER talked shit about my dad even though I’m sure no one would have blamed her for being bitter and angry. She never stopped me from seeing him (he decided he was done with me because I didn’t fit into his “new” life) because despite what happened between them, she didn’t want it to affect my relationship. That’s what a good parent does. I’m sure it wasn’t easy for my mom but I eventually realized on my own that my dad isn’t a good person.
I had a similar situation growing up. My biological father went to prison when I was 6, and served about 15 years, for SA of a minor (a friend of mine). Prior to his arrest, he cheated on my mom constantly, and was very manipulative and abusive - not physically, but certainly emotionally and verbally. Of the 6 years of my childhood that he wasn't in prison, he probably only spent maybe 3 of them actually in the home with his family.
My mother never, ever, EVER spoke badly about our dad. Ever. She told us the age appropriate truth if - and only if - we asked directly, she allowed phone calls until I asked them to stop, and she allowed letters and cards. I remember they were always open when she would give them to us, and at the time I didn't think anything of it, but as an adult I realized that she read them before giving them to us. But she never made a big deal out of it.
If my mother could raise two children and never once say anything negative or cruel about a man who lied, cheated, and committed just about the worst crime there is, then no one has the excuse for badmouthing their ex to their children. Period, end of discussion. Talk nasty about your ex to your therapist or your adult friends when your children are not in the same building to your hearts content, but there is zero excuse to say anything directly to your kids.
@@ndawn90 Frankly I find that odd. This person SA'ed your underage friend on top of other things. Irregardless of the relationship, he was dangerous. Not exactly a person that should have his poor morality brushed under the rug.
Sorry bro 😞
@@Ashley-vs8nu 💯
If Dad's dangerous, he's dead to us. Been there, and done that- through the courts. I get that talking negatively about kids father is terrible for kids self esteem, but you can absolutely not allow kids visitation with a psychopathic parent
I’m sorry this happened to you.. i hope you’re happier now.
This is the best break-down of this case I’ve seen. I worked in La Jolla, CA several years before the murders, when Betty was still married to Dan, and while I didn’t know her personally, saw her on many occasions. She seemed very brittle and would be laughing gaily with her friends or someone she bumped into, but the minute the others left, her face would drop the smiles like someone had flipped a switch. Emotionless and almost grim. Another saleswoman I worked with who waited on Betty said whenever she came in, it was guaranteed she’d drop at least $1000. Even 30 years later, that’s still a bundle. Maybe the most telling incident as to how unhinged she was becoming, and how she was spinning her narrative was when 3 ladies came into the department store where I worked. They saw her, but she hadn’t spotted them yet. They whispered to each other, “Let’s go get a coffee and come back later.” And quietly backed out of the store.
It seems she had major behavioral disorders, exacerbated by building her married life on suppositions of what was ‘supposed’ to be, rather than on what actually was. Dan was painted to be an emotionally abusive jerk who took her kids away from her, but the truth is, she was emotionally draining to be around, and the kids did not want to live with her. They definitely loved her, but as anyone who’s lived with a mentally unstable person can attest, they are awful to live with.
Thanks for such a careful analysis of this very complex case that the press has never fairly reported.
i believe you, sounds accurate. i never bought the 'June Cleaver' bit she tried to sell on the stand. i can't understand the support she gets - she had more than enough chances to get it together and move forward - a decent financial settlement, a beautiful ocean-front home and a new live-in boyfriend (where do I sign up?) - so she chooses murder, prison and leaving her kids without parents. for someone who always claimed her children meant everything to her, murdering their father is a funny way of showing it.
I appreciate your observations ✨
@@haintedhouse2990 The support she gets comes from Dan's efforts of twisting the blade. they would send her wrinkle cream ads and file unnecessary motions that would drain her in court on purpose. It's a situation where everyone is the asshole.
@@PandaMonium92827 All 3 behaved more like angry toddlers than adults but Betty steals the show with her
over-the-top dramatics resulting in double homicide. can't imagine her 4 kids witnessing that horror show
When you write "it seems she had major behavioral disorders exacerbated by building her married life on yadda yadda yadda" -- it makes me wonder how you came up with that diagnosis. Yes she had mental health problems but there could be many reasons for that, including her life with her husband and family, her background, whether she ate that day -- I mean, none of us are static, we're all different versions of ourselves at any given time. To make a declarative statement -- and especially such a cruelly dismissive one -- about a person you don't know is very strange. When you shared the part about her personality changing when her she was left alone or her friends backing away from her, it actually made me think about how isolated she was. She really was losing everything.
Thank you for bringing all those interesting cases to our attention!
How does the $50 thing work?
@Newsbender II unnecessarily rude lol. The commentor probably doesn’t understand how to make the donation and you’ve definitely helped
How generous! Well done you!
@Newsbender II BARK BARK BARK BARK!! RUFF RUFF GRRRRR
@@trueCrimeGuruYes below the video there’s a heart symbol with a $ sign that says Thanks
her annoyed sigh when getting cross-examined is so infuriating
Sign of a true narcissist
Her “Bless Your Heart” smiles to the prosecutor kill me!
@@cassy_c omfg I know..like you are not in the position to be making that face ma’am
The call between Betty and Rhett was awful to hear... she doesn't care about anything but herself. What a narcissist. And then it got WORSE when the nanny told about Rhett cutting his hair off to get the pain out of his head. That just ripped my heart out... Poor kids. I hope they grew up ok after this.
Betty: "The gun was clicking."
Attorney: "Did you hear the gun click?"
Betty: "I don't remember the gun clicking."
Yeah. Makes perfect sense.
Just heard that bit😦she lies *so much* she can't even remember what she just said
@@kateg5448 prosecutor Kerry Wells said "there's more holes in her story than a strainer"
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she lies nonstop
No one seems to be commenting on how very many times she mentions she "couldnt get control" or "couldnt have control" when discussing things she wanted from her ex husband.
I picked up on that as well. She mentioned control a lot during that interview. Not only that, I would be unsurprised to find out she had some sort of anger/rage disorder. She is so full of anger, vitriol, rage it is P A L P A B L E.
Complete narcissist!
Good point.
@@casabonita2702 She is BPD - it's borderline rage.
Abusers are ALL abaut controle.
Her face after saying she wishes Dan was there to tell the truth regarding HER ABUSE is truly terrifying
She is clearly a deranged and narcissistic maniac
I don’t think he would
That was definitely creepy 😬
Betty is the Queen of the “Bless your heart” face, with all its saccharine rage. Thank you for calling it out.
The series on Netflix about this case made Betty look like a victim and Dan the bad guy. Watching the actual footage shows how much of a narcissistic evil woman she is. This was a rollercoaster.
She a disgusting evil narcissist
What’s the series called ?
@@ohsnapitsjen6253 it’s the second season of dirty John
Hahaha of course it was Netflix. Fuckin Netflix...
@@SomeLonelyShmuck they’re honestly the worst from that show to the jeffrey dahmer one smh
If you fear for your life from someone who is abusive, you don’t constantly insert yourself in positions or situations where that person is or lives. Betty was the abuser in this family dynamic and she eventually went mad because she lost control of her victims.
Bingo, yes! The perfect distillation right here. She could have been given Bill Gate’s money, but the image of her husband being happy, finally, broke her in two.
Totally.
That's not necessarily true. She has borderline, meaning she would get extremely emotionally dysregulated to the point of potentially risking her own life. My partner has borderline and does plenty of things that could be fatal when upset. And I've known several women with borderline who genuinely had dangerously abusive partners but would still escalate fights with them bc they basically couldn't help it due to how upset they were. Not saying that's everyone with borderline; lots of people are internalizers and extreme people pleasers who barely dare to disagree with their partners, but not everyone can keep it all in.
@Anonymous but then her claims of them having a perfect marriage until Linda came along and refuting any of the chaos that was clearly present in their relationship doesn't add up either, because while no relationship is perfect a relationship with someone who is borderline is even less perfect. But she won't admit to that, as she's borderline with narcissism thrown in there too. I'm BPD with aspergers, I typically don't shy away from arguments with my partner or anybody in general but when its reaching a certain point I will retreat, assess and back down just for the situation to be over regardless of whos right or wrong. Betty doesn't seek capable of admitting any wrongs on her part
"Eventually went mad" sounds like she was just a victim of mental illness. Not that I think you meant that! I just found it interesting how those words... felt
The fact that my man felt the need to wear a bullet proof vest under his tux at his own wedding just shows the level of bat-shit crazy this woman was.
Right?? Kind of insane to me tho that he decided to do all of that instead of just calling the police when she breaks into his home and destroys his shit, or when she rams her freaking car into his front door. He allowed this to happen. I feel for him, but also he is an idiot in some ways lmao. I would have turned her ass in immediately
WHY BOTHER TO GET MARRIED TO A MAN WHO HAS TO WEAR A BULLET PROOF VEST? HE HAD 4 KIDS . HE HAD A UNPREDICTABLE EX WOFE, HE HAD TO PAY THIS EX ALOT OF MONEY. HE IS SO SKEERED HE HAS TO WEAR BULLET PROOF VEST>> LINDA MUST HAVE BEEN DESPERATE FOR MONEY TO BE WITH DAN!
Sounds like he should have kept it on.
makes you wonder why they got married. There was no love there. All of this is tragic.
@@Kandirocks He wore the vest to his second wedding. He most likely didn't know she was crazy when he married her.
Man listening to the phone call at 28:00 is so sad. I feel so terrible for this woman’s children.
Ikr ... She's the worst Mother of the year
Yes. It was vile and disgusting the way she was talking to her son on the phone. She hurt everyone around her. I hate the way she was talking to her children.
😭😭😭
How the world did your comment come out 10 days ago when the vid came out today. Weirdest thing I've seen today lol
I hope the kids got the help they need after this terrible woman's actions
Unbelievable that Betty was pissed that she couldn't attend Dan's funeral. In her world all murderers attend their victims funerals! She's nuts.
not just that, she wanted to plan the funeral arrangements lmao
@@clairelopez9167 unbelievable eh? And Betty objected to the fact that Dan had a full Catholic funeral service. She's tried to play her Catholic card but stayed silent about the two elective abortions she had. I'm not judging, but I know the Catholic stance on abortion. Apparently Betty does not.
🥶🥶🥶 freaking psycho - it's all abaut controle and power.
@hughhaefner3317 and the whole, you know, murder of two adults
@@johnmcmanus2447 yeah John. Double homicide.
Dang 25k a month!? With no kids in custody? I woulda have carried my butt home and let bigons be bigons and lived my best life! (Although personally I would want to see my kids. But for her motivations, it seems like that would have been everything she wanted). That goes to show how hatred and revenge and bitterness can ruin your life and let you do irrational things. I think anyone else would have been very happy with 25k a month.
Bygones
for real. obviously money doesn't heal all wounds but her ass could have afforded therapy and to not work whike she healed from stuff. but that would have required she actually was a victim rather than an entitled abuser
@@ags9267 LOL THANK YOU. I couldn't figure that out, like my best guess was "farts." I saw words like "my butt" and "let" and figured "bigons" might be slang for "big ones", so maybe with so much money a person could give up all effort to be attractive or polite, just go home and enjoy things like letting farts rip, big ones.
I mean that is one of the things I would do. 😆
@Audrey Muzingo lol 😆 😂
It would be around $56,000 a month today. She could've had a great life.
It’s absolutely mind boggling how cruel she is. Just so delusional that she really didn’t believe she was wrong. She don’t care about her children at all. Some people should never have kids. They’re just too selfish. She had a man who loved her and tried so hard to give her what she demanded, but she couldn’t just be happy. She could have done whatever she wanted with her life and she chose to be a monster. She didn’t have to put her family through any of that. She’s miserable because she hates herself. Narcissistic people like that really don’t see themselves as better, they are constantly looking for a reason to steal others joy because they’re so unhappy. It’s scary.
That condescending smile she does throughout cross-examination says everything.
It is so creepy its damning. Sociopath much?
@@lydialynagh3309 she's a malignant narcissist. This personality disorder is very hard to treat because these individuals have no insight.
God it's fucking infuriating. I use these videos as background noise but every time I look at the screen I want to punch her in the face
I remember reading about this as a child. I remember having mixed emotions. IE my brain wasn’t fully developed. Happy Holidays to you and yours.
Thank you happy holidays to you too. Happy new year 🥳
I did too… and still do at times.
To say she is unlikable on the stand is an understatement! Thank you for all the hard work on this.
Not always she’s n the stand for days.
Check out Anthony Todt. What he did is BEYOND abhorrent and then to behave the way he did on the stand. Absolutely vile and despicable.
love the way she sniffles with the shaky voice, wiping her eyes with not a tear in sight, then cops an attitude with the prosecution - a terrible actress.
~were you fat?~
*"I didn't think so"* 😊
Only rivaled by Sarah Boone! I believe the 2 most unlikable women
I rolled my eyes at this woman on the stand so many times that my eyes detached from their retinas. How she got only 2nd degree is absolute insanity to me.
This woman is horrible. Especially all the abuse she put her children through. She's not a victim, she's not a good person. I hope her children will be able to heal. Thank you again Dreading for pointing a spotlight on this case. I had no idea how demented this woman was. Happy Holidays.
100%. Coincidentally, I like your avatar! 😉
They're both at fault. She worked as the breadwinner in the beginning and he used her to pay for school. Then he was a work a holic and ignored his family. Toxic relationship overall.
@@arfriedman4577 how could you say he used her when she agreed to pay? You do things for people you love because you love them, not because you expect something back.
Not only that. He payed her back so what is your point? Sure he was toxic for cheating but are you fr? He literally became a workaholic just to pay her back all those years because clearly she kept pestering him about it for some reason.
Again I’m not taking responsibility away from him but none of the points you listed make sense when she was the root cause for all of them 😭
@@ellie1903 She was the root cause ?!!! He became workaholic to pay her back ??!'' This is just ridiculous.He became workaholic cos he loved the money and social position , and everuthing else money can buy. She is also a deeply troubled woman . Well , he was incapable to balance things and she was overpowering him. Hence she thought she was entitled to whatever . She is sick in her head .... etc Very smat woman , and very competent though. Shame it all escalated to that crime... 😢
@@angelarogoveanu304 I’m sure he liked the status but he literally went to school for years so he earned it. Also, it literally says in the video that he felt indebted to her and that one of the primary reasons he worked so much was to provide everything she needed because he felt as though he needed to pay her back. Maybe she’s not the root cause but she’s definitely the biggest one. No one is solely at fault but she’s the ridiculous one for making herself out to be the victim. I suggest you watch the video because he gives a lot of good info and brings nuance into this topic that had been covered so poorly before.
Betty's narcissism is so overwhelming that i don't think she could ever be happy. Her continually feeling that what she had wasn't enough simply disallowed her from ever actually feeling happy, thankful, content, etc. It is no surprise that she then resorted to making sure no one else would get to be happy either
They call it "depression" now.
@@mjanny6330 try not to be so obtuse it’s not a good look
yep, she had a beautiful beach-front home, cash coming in and a new boyfriend so she chooses murder, prison and leaving her kids orphans. as you said she had it right in front of her and chose chaos instead. what a freak.
Did we watch the same video? Her husband was a piece of shit that took advantage of and abused her. Everything she did was justified. Your misogyny is showing.
@@lilithdvs13 sure, just one thing isn’t adding up. What about misogyny justifies crashing a car into someone’s house and trying to kill them?
She really pretended to cry for over 2 hours without shedding a single tear
exactly. she was just wiping make-up from her eyes - lousy actress
Hearing about Dan quietly trying to salvage his clothes broke my heart.
Yes! This detail really stuck out to me. So sad.
Same. Despite having the money for new clothes, it makes him seem very grounded
Lol
Not sure why that part made me cry
The part where he left with his secretary and the whole office knew about it gave me a similar feeling
28:15 Dear God. What kind of mother talks like this to her kid... the distress in that little boys voice. Parents like her rip a childhood away from a child. No doubt Betty herself was denied a childhood looking after her siblings, thus the vitriol she feels when others seemingly 'do what they want'. I hope her kids are in a good place.
That call broke my heart. She was clearly a terrible mother, and like so many terrible parents, she claimed to be fantastic at it. That poor boy sounded so hurt and frustrated, to a point where he couldn't even fully articulate his pain because he was too young to know what she was doing wrong, only that he was suffering from her choices. And she's so dismissive and won't take responsibility for her role in any of this. Disgusting.
Considering how many nursemaids her family had the claim that she was responsible for her younger siblings is likely a gross exaggeration, it's much more likely that she was emotional abusive and controlling towards them.
I do not believe a word out of that woman’s mouth. I highly doubt she EVER “took care” of anyone but herself. She’ll say anything to be perceived as the victim.
A bad childhood isn’t an excuse, it’s more incentive to not repeat what happened to you. In other words give your kids a better life. So sorry for the kids, I hope their doing much better today.
aha you hit the nail on the head.
If you ever feel some semblance of sympathy for this woman just remember she has been denied parole 3 times! Betty has had years to gain some insight into what she did to Dan and Linda, and her children, but she is incapable of doing so. She’s not remorseful or repentant because she feels completely justified in killing them while they slept.
She is perpetually stuck back in the eighties. She will never get out of them.
For real man, she’s evil
that's why i'm still baffled by the support she gets. she sounds like a truly horrible person who was under the disguise of a dedicated wife and mother for San Diego's elite. i'm convinced she never loved Dan and i doubt she loved her children or she would've never killed their father.
@@haintedhouse2990she's purposely hijacking the support we give to battered wives That's why
@@Nick_Valentine2702so was Dan.
“I felt really demoralized at being cheated out if the life I was promised by my family, my religion, and my ex-husband, and felt like I had been left with nothing.”
🤔 Okay… I can understand how she would feel that way…
“So I rammed my car through his front door.”
😨 Wait. What?
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I watched this with my husband and I was like if you ever divorce me and I got custody and you I got $20,000 a month (even not adjusted for inflation) I would be your best friend. How could there have been a hung jury? How can she claim that he left her destitute? She could literally hire a nanny with that much money if she did not to feel like she was taking care of all the children by herself. Rich people and their problems... 🤨🙄
Exactly. She got everything she wanted and she still couldn’t just be a mother and be happy. Her poor kids. I had parents who fought a lot but not like that. I’m glad. That’s horrific to live through.
@@alynsak Where I live, I could live well on $5,000 a month with my children and not even have to work.... I can't remember now, but did this happen awhile back? Because her hair gives my 90s vibes. lol $20,000 was probably way more back in those days if this happened in the past.
@@Gokce-Aysunyes it was the’90’s!!! What an entitled bitch! “He paid my bills out of that $9000. I didn’t see even half of that.” Dang! Give me half that amount now in 2023. I’ll pay my bills and still be happy. Rich people problems indeed
I mean, my full time pay's around $22K/year, not overly sympathetic of her "destitution". I'd still say the one thing she had a point about was the financial unfairness of it all. His way of calculating her contributions to his wealth were bullshit, always will be. Society is unfair to many on a lot of levels, and it's ok to resent whenever it's unfair to you.
I just do not sympathize here coz a) bitch murdered 2 ppl & b) she never cared about systemic unfairness and like, other, greater victims of it... she was raised w/ a shitload of bigotry and instead of questioning it she doubled down on the parts that supported her case.
If she'd been capable of putting her own level of exploitation into some perspective, think a little broader about fairness, she would've cut her losses.
He’s a millionaire that she helped make…. What’s 20k??? His emotional betrayal was painful enough
The book Until the Twelfth of Never does a good job of showing both sides while not excusing Betty one bit. She was a narcissist whose identity was centered around being the wife of a wealthy man, and when he left her, no one grasped that her entire identity was in shatters or that her reaction would be one of such abusiveness and anger. The book notes the heavy-handed tactics Dan used, but also quotes those damning voicemail messages, which showed the true Betty. Unfortunately, Dan primarily saw her as pathetically unhinged rather than dangerously so.
Agreed, such a great book, meticulously researched..
Your comment was so well written and sounds like a Dateline show opener.
Agreed. The Twelfth of Never, to me, showed the only victims in this case were the children as the adults had numerous opportunities to stop their poor behavior, yet chose otherwise.
@@jucxoxu dummy. Dan was a victim . That girl was a victim. Fucking dummy. Listen anyone who has sympathy for this cum bucket is exactly that
Going to read that book. Thanks for the recommendation.
Betty: "There was a loud noise and then clicking"
Lawyer: "Do you remember the clicking?"
Betty: "No...."
Earlier in the case:
Betty: "I screamed NOOO and the gun went off and I know that I must have done that"
Lawyer: "Do you remember pulling the trigger?"
Betty: "No"
There really is so many contradictions in her story, I am glad she took the stand.... really dug herself into a hole here.
Gun just went off! Five times. And shot two people in vital organs. After she practiced at the shooting range. Tragic accident.
the selective memories of narcissists are always so interesting.
She's on the stand "crying" but there's no moisture.
Her poor children. Children should not need to beg their mother to act like a parent. That phone call was heart breaking
If I was a juror and I saw a defendant being so uncooperative, condescending, and cold to the prosecutors during questioning it would be such a red flag.
Thank you for the time & effort you put into this channel!
thank you for supporting his channel!!! i love the content and care he puts into his videos but i cant afford to pay yet as my dad is sick so seeing others see the value in this stuff makes me so happy bless your soul :") genuinely so kind
I love that you mentioned the “Bless your heart face” …. I was raised in the south and know exactly what you mean. 😂
Listening to that poor little boy bawl and beg his mommy to be "good" and "stop using bad words" rips my heart apart. I just wanna hold that boy and hug him. Children should never have to go through this let alone even be apart of an adult conversation like that. Their minds are not developed enough to understand. I was traumatized by this very thing, kids shouldn't be exposed to adult problems. So very heartbreaking. I pray they have peace now I really do
Because NARCISSIST DAN was driving Betty insane and driving her away from her kids.
I had to stop listening for a sec because of how sad that little boy sounded. It is heartbreaking to her him try to guide his mom towards a more understanding and accepting viewpoint and she continues to ignore him and belittle him and his father. Crazy how much more mature he sounds than her.
@@heathernikki5734 is this bait lol because Betty is a fucking bitch
@@heathernikki5734 Sooo.. are you a troll or did you not listen to anything here? Because even ignoring any claims from dreading, that call alone shows that is most definitely not true.
@@heathernikki5734 Betty dat you? We see you 👀👀👀
I don't get how people thought she was justified for murding them. The phone call to her son alone just broke my heart. She was so angry and mean. To him, to the children, and for her to act like she was a victim
Thank modern day feminism. It’s always the man’s fault.
@hsharma3933 this was back in the 80s....
I think the era had a lot to do with it. America was a different time and it was easy to bend the facts to make her look like the thrown away loyal wife. Look at the Amber Heard case, if that happened 5 years ago Depp would most likely have loss.
after the tape of the phone call to her son was played in court Betty was heard making the comment "that wasn't that bad" what a warped woman.
Yeah I'm inclined to agree. No justifiable reason for murder in the slightest. If an intruder broke into my house and then claimed he or she was in fear of their life so they started shooting, that makes zero sense. She has no right to be in their home after breaking in then claiming she was scared for her own safety.
I am only 38 minutes into this and I must say that Betty is AN ACTUAL NIGHTMARE! To whoever reads this, if someone screams at you and can’t let go of there anger, you gotta let them go. If someone says “I’m going to kill you”, believe them and protect yourself
I’m only 16 minutes in and feel the same. This woman is a nightmare! Destroying everything of his… he was trying to salvage clothing and items that she burned and covered in paint?? - I feel terrible for him. Awful
You made it to 38?!
I was 30 minutes in and thinking I've already seen enough of her.
Tearing and burning 🔥 clothes is huge red flag of her capacity for violence. For future reference
@@TomTheOwl68 That's EXACTLY where I had enough.😂
she is a disgusting person. She has no remorse. She continued to hate on Dan through the whole trial even being so petty as to insult him house keys " I used a funny looking key to enter Dan's home, only he had funny looking keys." She doesn't take accountability and not seeing that no matter what happened in that bedroom, She should not have been in their home with a gun- therefore its her fault, period. She said she lives in prison and its "like a retirement community". She is snidely insinuating that she is not suffering in the least bit. Keep this trash locked up forever!
Right, I saw a prison interview with her, years later, she still doesn't think she did anything wrong.
“I mean did I have a villa at the beach with a pool boy, maid and gardener? Sure, but the inside was just so sub par, nay, destitute!” 😔
So she expected him to bring home millions a year but also be home and spend time with his family but also she belittled and physically assaulted him but also she disliked her kids. Did I sum that up alright?
OMG what a vile woman. Delusional, cruel woman. The phone call with her little boy was gut wrenching.
I know, right? "I might have bought that, but did I pay for it?" Argh. Trying to be rich and better-than-you but poor and woe-be-gone at the same time. Ridiculous.
She´s just so full of herself! What a mean Karen!!
And thankfully, she's exactly where she needs to be. So many greedy, heartless men and women just like her walk among us, looking down on everyone around them
She was a trailblazer, unfortunately many, many women are like her these days, and they usually make a good living online from it too.
I just hope their kids turned out ok.
I worked 8 years for Family Law attorneys and except for the murder, this kind of severely contentious divorce is so common. People will use possessions, money, even their children, as weapons, and like ole Betty here, NOTHING is their fault. By the time 8 years was over, I was done with people. Too bad she didn't get the death penalty.
Isn't their lack of self-awareness just bewildering? If you're willing to use your own kids against their other parent, you are definitely not in the right, no matter what has occurred between you as a couple.
Amen! I was done with people after my parents divorce- feel bad you saw so much.
@@sirbuffalo yes!
@@sirbuffaloyes, the way she treated her children was appalling. Leaving them at Dans front door and driving away, swearing at them on the phone etc etc. Even painting the walls of their home with cake and muck & driving into their front door. What?
California doesn’t have the death penalty
I’ve never seen someone so committed to being the victim in every single little detail of her life. Every single tiny little piece, the world was just out to get her. Poor Betty and those guns that empty the clip on their own
Exactly.
wont someone please think of the poor millionaire housewife?
Guess u never met a protected class then. Some ppl especially wives are victimized. Often in every detail because those that abuse will do anything and everything they can.
@@joec4997he was a millionaire after her paying for years and years of freeloading
@@jhoughjr1 the wife here was the victimizer not the victim
Betty broke into her Ex Husband's home and said the 2 sleeping people startled and scared her so she had to shoot them both to death. I thought only a cop could get away with something so ridiculous 😂😂😂
Your comment made me chuckle. I suppose that's the only way we can handle the most ugly of truths.
😂😂😂😂 Snap ‼️
She is a pathetic monster.
Damn good way to put it . This story was slanted the first few years it was told . I actually felt like she was driven crazy by her husband .I did not realize what a narcissist she truly was . Had to be a handful to be wed to her .
Poor Betty...what an awful job to do but....she got it done,
In her testimony, you can watch the emotion melt off her face as she listens to her lawyer asking her questions. It's terrifying.
I'm not even half way through, but I have to say this. Betty is absolutely insane. She is exactly where she belongs. Also, how could those two jurors think firing six shots into two sleeping people wasn't premeditated manslaughter at the very least?! 🤯
Because they're fucking idiots.
Speaking as a gunsmith and competition shooter, a revolver does not go off multiple times accidentally or from a jump scare.
Single-action revolvers have to be manually cocked before each shot. Double-action revolvers have long, heavy triggers that are not easy to pull once, much less repeatedly.
Firing either kind of revolver multiple times is a deliberate action. Her story about being surprised, never mind why the gun was drawn and pointed at Dan and Linda, simply doesn't make sense.
Premeditated man slaughter doesnt exist as a charge. It's either pre-med murder or manslaughter
@mikehat whoops, you're right, I heard intent, and my brain went to premeditated.
@@nerium.nerium still crazy anyone would would judge in her favor for manslaughter against sleeping people in their own home
I’ve followed this case for years. I have struggled to sympathize with any of the adults in this situation, only the kids. I hope they are all doing well.
So because Dan possibly cheated which is about the worst thing he did he doesn't deserve sympathy for being shot in his sleep innocently
what the fuck did Linda and Dan do apart from have an affair?
@@BostonBori92no, he failed as a father to protect his kids from a psychotic woman as well.
@@howdysophie How did he fail to protect his kids?
@@BostonBori92 he failed to protect his kids by failing to protect himself. he was too lenient with her when she was obviously a threat to him & his kids lives, she literally rammed her car into the front of his house & he didn’t even press charges. yes he got a restraining order against her, but the things she did way before murdering him should have landed her in jail. the kids weren’t physically harmed, thank goodness, but they’re definitely carrying deep emotional trauma from the whole situation that i feel, had the dad truly seen the mom for the violent threat that she was, maybe wouldn’t be there or quite as deep.
Betty is unhinged and shows no remorse for what she did. She is a horrible vile evil woman and I pray she's never released from prison. My prayers are with the victims and especially her children.
If you go to videos of Bettys children giving testimony people are saying horrible things about them in the comments section. THE CHILDREN! What they went through and to have people say they 'betrayed' their mum is insane. The fact that people can disregard the emotional abuse Betty put her children through, yet sympathise with the 'abuse' Betty went through just blows my mind.
those are fellow narcissists seeing this POS as a hero. I cant imagine thinking that cheating and not paying enough attention to your spouse is something that deserves death. even if somehow someone can mental gymnastics their way into thinking Dan deserved it, Linda didn't! And neither did her kids losing both parents.
They probably support Amber Heard too...sick as all hell.
Of course they are. No matter how much our parents abuse us…. kids who defy their parents get put in the wrong by society, not the parent.
People are unfathomable. And everybody whining about Amber Heard needs to stuff it. That woman is not remotely in the same league as Betty Broderick, and she was definitely abused.
This is exactly the opposite story from the one the media sold us. I remember watching the Meredith Baxter-Birney movie and the Law & Order episode. I cried for Betty. Disgusted with the media.
See how easy the media can twist things…. Terrifying that they can make a whole population feel however they want them to feel on nearly everything they cover. It’s beyond sickening
The media lies about everything. Whatever narrative they push, you can count on the opposite being true
Literally waiting after listing all the payments without court orders for the prosecution to ask, "at what point do you describe hundreds of thousands of dollars as broke?"
As I read the comments, I am glad to see that Betty has few sympathizers here. Betty was a sick and arrogant woman who ruined so many lives.
I can't believe she actually had supporters. Vile crazy murderer and abusive mother.
I agree, she certainly treated her poor children with contempt, she killed their father and their step mother who they loved and spoke and yelled and cursed to them, drove her car into the front door of their house, burnt things, wrote on the walls and spread cake and food on the beds. It went on and on. Amazing how guns….just go off.
I really don't understand how she has or has had sympathizers at all she is LITERALLY crazy coco nutso
She's a bloody terrible person in every way, vile to her core
Narcissist lying murderer
She should never get out of prison. You can see her fighting back smiling during her entire testimony, dupers delight. Complete narcissist who should have been found guilty of first degree murder. To this day she shows zero remorse and she never will.
I wonder if the Behavioral Panel did anything on her.
She smiled every time she lied
Yep. it really sucks to see some women taken in enough by her poor struggling ex wife bs enough to hang the jury on murder and settling for murder 2 when theres clear premeditation involved
Hearing what people (specifically her children) around her said about her makes me so mad that the media can make that awful woman look sympathetic.
NBC tried it with Amber Heard. They failed as well. The general public needs access to these trials.
I know and this was the 80’s this sounds like a typical night in my home lol 😂 ❤
Her children were brainwashed by Dan
Who made her look sympathetic? I was a teen when this case was in the media. Everyone painted 🎨 her in a murderous light🤷🏻♀️
@@beautyonabarnbudget I felt a little sympathy off that Netflix show. I wasn't alive and didn't even know it was based off a real person.
i appreciate this video bc Betty was clearly nuts long before Linda entered the picture & if anything her husband was victim of her abuse not the other way around the way most reporting says. she was a sociopath and narcissist & cared more about being getting back at Dan than her own children. idk how anyone seeing this can feel sympathy for her. she definitely premeditated those murders
I don't think Betty ever truly loved Dan. She was attracted ONLY to his future earnings potential and so married him. Betty's a greedy, narcissistic, sociopathic kil**r. Truly a monster. Why on earth wasn't she given a de**h sentence?
Thanks for all your hard work, dedication and superb content
Seeing a Dreading episode that's over an hour is like freaking christmas for me! Taking shots of these well written, respectful, informative videos 3 hours at a time straight to the vein 🖤
Yes! Give me ALL of the details! Hook it up to an IV
I love how the lawyer keeps checking her she gets so smug and rude so it’s satisfying to watch her get frustrated and not be able to ramble. It honestly makes her insufferable the way she gets smart . That smirk makes me so angry
She's an insufferable beeyatch.
I live in the south. I recognized the "bless your heart" look immediately. If I had been on that jury, I would have noticed all of her smirks, looks, looking down her nose, laughter, all of it, and saw her for the narcissist that she is.
As someone that was pitted against my dad by my mom, that call between Betty and Rhett is so hard to listen to.
Never bad mouth the other parent in front of kids. My mother divorced my dad before I was born and the only thing she would say about him is that he's a drunk asshole. That scarred me for life. Fast forward many years and my deadbeat ex husband deserves every bad name in the book . but I've never bad mouthed my son's absent father in front of him.
It just hurts the kids.
As a kid with a bad dad, i just wanna say thank you. My mother was the same. She wouldnt bad mouth my father, but she wouldnt lie to me about the things he did. And she was even very supportive of me when i wanted to visit him regularly. She went so far as to set up official visitation through the courts.
Its an EXTREMELY healthy thing to do for your child. And its just wonderful, i hope they grow up to appreciate it.
Betty's opinion: "I deserved much more then I got!"
The Jury: "She deserves much more then she got."
56:55 “He thought-he said I was old, fat, ugly, boring, and stupid”
“At that time, were you fat?” 😂 💀
I know! 💀
That made my jaw drop! 😮
What was that about?
Yeah, clips of this trial was all over the place on tv....it was one of the trials that got me & tons of others hooked on true crime/court tv.
😂
It's eerie to see her faces in the courtroom and how similar they are to my narcissistic mother's expressions.
You can tell she’s lying. I can’t believe how many comments here seem to be defending her. What a horrible mother and person
There are comments defending her?! Wow. I haven't seen any yet but if I do I'll make sure to tell them how awful their judgement about who to defend is.
'Buuuuttt Dan sucked!' and yet this bimbo didn't leave him. Every choice she made led to her downfall.
@@WakeyWakeyEggsandBakey there's actually ppl here saying she should've gotten more alimony money 😒so messed up
@@agneau777 hmm that imo indicates what type of people they are - the equivalent of $50k per month?! That's more than many families have at their disposal to support their entire family. And, these people saying that ought to realise that in no case in the history of the world ever has anyone got away with murdering two people based on the fact that one of the victims was paying them $0.5m a year... I'm pretty sure Betty's defense didn't incorporate the idea that Betty committed double, highly aggravated homicide, because her ex husband wasn't giving her enough alimony.
Ugh... I know i shouldn't get so triggered by such things but it's absolutely terrifying to me that those comments were made by people who, during the course of their lifetimes, may very well be called to sit on a jury and that such ridiculous viewpoints DO skew people's decision making process. It shouldn't be the case but it absolutely is. Whether the ridiculous biases are directed toward the defendant or not could very easily ensure an innocent person is sent to prison or a guilty person is set free.
Unbelievable! 🤯
@@WakeyWakeyEggsandBakey I haven't seen any supportive comments under this vid yet. But, I'd never heard so many details that Dreading provided here so I went to Reddit. Huge mistake. Sooo many ab*se apologists. The common theme was something along the lines of 'I know she pulled some crazy stuff, but he pushed her to it'. Made me pretty sick. I cannot believe how one sided most of the coverage is about Betty but it has heavily influenced the court of public opinion on Betty.
I think, even if Dan did not cheat and wanted to just leave her, she would have acted the same, I think Dan was dead either way.
same!!!
I could have more sympathy if so
Listening to that phone call between her and her son was heartbreaking.. also gave me flashbacks to my childhood. My mom was a lot like Betty.. She loved drama and loved talking shit about my dad to me and my siblings.. She always wanted to be the victim and it wasn't until I was older that I realized she was the one in the wrong. She was emotionally manipulative and had a victim complex. She loved to claim that she was an amazing mother but it was my dads fault that she never got to see me. Before they got a divorce and she lived at home with me she'd spend most of the day doing meth with her friends. Sorry but that doesn't sound like a good mother to me.
It's really hard growing up with a parent like that--gives you a really skewed view of yourself and other family members after having to listen to endless rants about how "I'm the *real* victim here." I hope you, your dad, and your siblings are doing all right now.
It just shows how truly self involved this wide cow was 😣…
Sounds a lot like Sherri Papini.
I'm so sorry for what your mom put you through. That phone call was so hard to listen to... she was more interested in arguing with her son than comforting and consoling him. It breaks my heart that any child should be treated that way. ((hugs))
That phone call is like looking in a mirror to my childhood
This woman called another woman a gold digger after settling for a guy that she knew was on his way to making a ton of money. Then when he’s making $8M a year she wasn’t happy.
The media portrayed this as the classic tale of a beautiful woman marrying a guy in the blush of her fleeting youth, supporting him as he got his education and started his career, losing her looks gradually over time as she gave him children, and then, when she’s middle aged and dumpy, him leaving her for a younger woman when he became successful. In reality Betty was abusive toward her husband and children, and the marriage was unhappy long before he met the other woman. Dan was certainly not a very sympathetic victim - he handled the end of his marriage poorly, cheating and then behaving vindictively during the divorce, but the situation was a lot more nuanced than the media portrayed it. Betty was in many ways the architect of her marriage’s unraveling, and she was not blameless in losing custody of her kids.
I actually think Dan and Linda are always painted as pure and saintly. He was a total A-hole. A LAWYER, for God's sake.
she was 30 not middle aged
@@aliceschmid9697 Sure, he was no Saint. But in the end, he was murdered and his ex wife is the killer.
He's ultimately the victim and so is Linda. Cheating is wrong, but you have no right to kill someone.
He was a narcissist if you ever lived with one it can drive a person crazy
@@aliceschmid9697 yesssss ty , I saw it too.
I love how you can see on her face she’s trying her best to not react to being constantly owned by that prosecutor
Years ago, I felt so bad for her. I felt like she had been traded in for the younger model. I felt like she had been psychologically, abused, and basically snapped, but I have to say that my thinking has definitely changed. There is no excuse for what she did. She should’ve showed her children what a strong woman was, and as hard as it was, to just move on.
Yeah, it was really easy to feel sorry for her when all we had was her side of the story.
And to think, she got a healthy divorce settlement that meant she would’ve lived very, very comfortably without ever having to lift a finger, she had a loving boyfriend, and she threw everything away, abandoning her children, because she couldn’t handle no longer having control over Dan, couldn’t handle the thought of him being happy with somebody else.
@@valerierodger7700 he was a torturing her , trying to get kids to hate her , she was a creep he was so psycho .
she had a new boyfriend and plenty of money. no clue why she got so mad. she was annoyed she wasnt able to perform the narcissistic discard on him he got her first
@@pinkpugginz I think that’s exactly it. He beat her to the punch and she was pissed off.
@@giuliapiperea no he was a bit creepy she was a psycho of the 2 she the worst
“Right I would have said that probably, sure” she is physically incapable of answering yes or no. It’s scary how bad a narcissist needs to be in control at all times.
One thing that made me laugh that demonstrated that was the judge saying "yes or no" and her replying "maybe"
The absolute gall of this psychotic woman, wanting to be the one who plans her own victim's funeral when she's the murderer. It's like the bank robber wanting to be the manager of a bank.
That was to think I caught on too!! She's on a completely different planet!
it's because she thought that she owned Dan. Taking his life and then wanting to take his death as well. Straight up not even living on this planet type of unressonable
she's not psychotic technically...but she's definitely buying into her own delusions afaict. you might could say she's psychopathic👀
as someone who is lucky enough to have lovely folks in their life who happen to deal with psychosis, i feel a duty to make that distinction and push back against the loose usage of that term😅
yeah i couldn't believe it. just more examples of how Betty was satisfied as long as everything went her way.
That took some gall...how does a mind like that work?
A 3 hour vid? My boyyyyy, youre the best.
Thank you for all that you do for the victims as well. Always respectful.
Holy shit, I just realized the reason I’ve found her to sound so familiar throughout the video is because she talks exactly like Diane Downs. Same exact tone and cadence in her speech, same long, run-on sentences, same singsong voice to make herself sound more innocent, same narcissistic & psychopathic behavior.. It’s crazy, if Diane Downs wasn’t still alive this would convince me of reincarnation
Omg you're right! She DOES sound like Diane!
More like the same Demon inside them both.
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@@deborrastrom8559Exactly 😞💔💯
She also eerily acts just like Nancy Brophy, especially when the prosecutor cuts her off and she leans back and crosses her arms.
This woman is so frustrating to listen to. It’s amazing to me that anyone saw her as a legitimate victim and not an abusive, narcissistic murderer. I feel so sorry for her children.
She's both a victim and a abusive, narcissistic murderer. Her ex treated her like garbage, though this obviously doesn't excuse her crime.
Man, Dirty John had me fooled. I'm glad i sat and watched this for 3 whole hours.
Same, but even with how she was portrayed in the show I stopped feeling bad for her after the phone call with her son
Side note: seeing her on the stand made me realise how great the actress was. She got her voice and mannerisms down to the T
agree. Dirty John re-wrote Betty's character as too saintly. I can see what the real Betty was like from this clip.
I like the show but definitely shouldn’t have made her appear so innocent
@@Hrmn042 the series was so far off with Betty - she was a foul-mouthed terrorist who used her kids as pawns, she never loved them like she claimed otherwise she wouldn't have murdered their father.
I felt relieved when you explained how the coverage was skewed to Betty's narrative. Because I remember I was in college when I saw some lifetime movie about it and actually felt sympathy for her, that she 'lost it' because Dan had shoved her over for a younger model or something. Idk just how the movie played it, like she was justified. I was young and not well informed. She was/is a monster, and a manipulator.