Do You Know What Men Want in Women and Relationships?
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 28 ก.ค. 2024
- What Men Want in Women and Relationships - Relationship Advice for Women
For many women, trying to understand what men want from women or in a relationship can be a source of confusion and frustration. While everyone is unique and has individual preferences and needs, some common themes resonate with men across different cultures and backgrounds. Understanding these principles will provide greater insight and understanding for women seeking to build strong and fulfilling relationships with their partners.
CHAPTERS
00:00 Introduction
00:23 what men want in women
02:39 Understand Types of Men To Know What Men Want
06:35 Which Men You Are Dealing?
09:49 Conclusion
When it comes down to it, all men want is respect, specifically through the lenses of status and helping others. In the case of status, men may seek partners who support their career goals and ambitions and are willing to celebrate their successes with them. However, partners may also need to be mindful of the potential downsides of placing too much emphasis on status, where you end up using your partner as a means to an end.
In the case of helping others, men may seek partners who share their values of compassion, empathy, and altruism. Partners who support these values may connect with their partners on a deeper level and may be able to provide emotional support and encouragement when their partners feel overwhelmed or burnt out. However, partners may also need to be mindful of the potential downsides of placing too much emphasis on altruism and may need to encourage their partners to take care of themselves and maintain some strong boundaries with others.
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Respect is mutual. High value women demand respect and respect comes first in relationship. If you don't respect your partner theres no love
Respect is to be gained not demanded.
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@@lilis555 I get what you probably were going for, but no I believe that you are wrong. In the literal sense you can’t outright say “I demand respect!” and expect to obtain it…But respect for yourself is something that you have to demand for yourself. Just not in the way you may be picturing it. Demanding respect for yourself really means that you set boundaries and expectations on others respecting you. Whether you articulate that is up to you, but as a whole it means that if those internal boundaries or expectations are crossed, you demand respect for yourself by not engaging with people or situations that cross those boundaries. For example. I am in a loving relationship with my boyfriend. One boundary I have for myself that I haven’t shared with him is that if he were to ever do or say anything that would make me feel unsafe, I would leave…I’ve seen my step father do things in fits of rage, and I refuse to let violent men that ever enter my life stick around. I’ve never had that problem with my partner and never expect to…but if I did I’ve demanded respect for myself by promising that I will leave him even if I still love him if he were to ever try and hurt me.
A different example of demanding respect for yourself from him is a boundary that I have put forth to him verbally that he definitely is aware of. I’ve told him that for me it is okay to raise his voice when he gets upset…But under no circumstances is he to ever scream at me in anger or to call me fowl names. Again, not something we have had a problem with. And in fact, he intern showed both respect for me and himself during a tough period of our relationship. He respected himself my agreeing to uphold my boundary as long as I agreed to no longer fight through text messaging(a bad habit I’ve had to learn to grow out of). And he respected me by sticking by his promise not to yell at me during a time were he really wanted to…At close to one year in our relationship we had stumbled into a big difference in values in each other and it would impact any future children that we may choose to have some day depending on what route we agreed to take. It was very emotional for both of us and we both felt like our difference in our stances may be the end of our relationship because we were unsure if we could come to a reasonable compromise. Luckily we did and our relationship is better then ever, but after an hour or two of both feeling heartbroken and unsure what to do or say to each other the first day we sat down to discuss it, he asked me to leave because he was angry enough that he might break his promise to not yell at me. Despite not wanting to end the night on a cliffhanger I appreciated that he was willing to do so for my sake. I had respected waiting to talk in person about the problem instead of text fighting about it, and he in turn was choosing to take a step back as to also respect the boundaries I gave him….Man I’ve rambled on lol! POINT IS XD that yes you can AND SHOULD demand respect from other people where respect should be expected. And in the case of choosing a partner, if they do not meet your demand for respect you move on from them because demanding respect is more about what you choose to accept, and has nothing to do with what the world gives you.
@@legendoflex6881 , respect for yourself you demand from yourself, not from the others. It‘s your job to set boundaries and standards and it‘s your job to make those respected by the others. It‘s your job to choose the right partner, not to take anyone and demand anything. The other may have different standards.
Wow, you’re right. I’m a woman, and I think a fairly feminine woman by today’s standards (I say that because I have my competitive side also that comes out in academia). Anyway, I realized that I need to be respected by interested prospects as well. I was confused by this, as I thought respect was only something men wanted. Now I understand that since I respect myself, I expect to be respected by those I allow into my life as well.
“Status doesn’t mean respect”. I totally agree!
I was texting a man and most of the time he would end texts by sending love to my family. Then when we went for lunch as a group after my Baptisim after he’d finished eating and wanted to leave. He just walked of without saying thank you or offering to contribute to my parents inviting us to this restaurant. Don’t just take a man’s word for it, watch what he does.
Absolutely. Action speaks louder than words❤.
Most men don't know what they truly want.😅
Real man knows. 🙂
This is so important!! My mom would warn me and my sisters about men who isolate women from their families and I see now what she means. Prayers up to all the souls out their navigating relating to others in this world :)
In my 50’s now and had married the first type. Life is too short for all the bs he put me through. A real man and one to keep, who will always have your back and love you deeply is the second type. You gain a mutual respect and bond together.
Your information is right on point. ❤️
Mutual respect indeed. Thanks for sharing your story.
Yeah, they want respect BUT respect is earned through ACTIONS, through your morals your values! DO NOT expect me to respect you when you go lying and cheating, when you go talking to other women.
And this is what men want in reality.‘Respect me even when I am an asshole’😅
Im so so happy Narcissistic Abuse is now being addressed as you have just done. That was my past 30 yrs you just stated it all so for the young get out while you can or the basically, the Red Flags Ismeal has stated, look for the good man not the selfish all about me man..thank you Ismeal once again spot on❤
You seem to be a psychologically well-balanced man with good advice.
Listening the perspective of healthy men is important, I already subscribed, I wish you much success!
Thank you. I hope to keep providing valuable content to you.
There’s alot of truth in this video! Thank you for saying this out loud! I’d be interested in knowing how to gain and establish respect from a man during the talking stage, as well as how to keep him respecting you during the relationship.
*It's a two-way street, where both partners should nurture trust and respect. Let's celebrate the diversity of desires and work towards building relationships filled with love and understanding.*
Ismael you are the second type, by making these kind of videos you are working towards a goal and a purpose, leaving a legacy for other people, youtubers, next generations to know how women should be treated. Congrats! 😉
Thank you for sharing all these insights.
Thank you for being authentic and transparent. What u daid here reminds me of my ex, controlling, didn't qant me to help or get the recognition after helping. so on point. Thank yo u sir. Love your videos not too long, and to the point ❤
Glad I heard this. Was about to break up with a man who is the B type. The B type is actually better because he wants me to grow and not stunt my growth
Same here! He’s always pushing me to improve myself, and I was starting to think that he just didn’t think that I was good enough. That if he can’t accept me the way I am, then he doesn’t deserve an improved version of me. But I also had to be radically honest with myself and accept the reality that I truly was not in a good place and him wanting to see me be better was completely understandable and didn’t mean rejection. Once I started to genuinely improve myself and my life, I stopped feeling this way. Now that he’s seen my growth, and my willingness to change and work on my problems, I feel supported and encouraged and truly valued for who I am despite still needing a lot of healing and growth. I feel like he’s by my side cheering me on through my journey, and that he truly wants us to go through our journeys together.
Love your serious photo on the cover. Great topic! Thanks for your help! 💭😘
I’m glad I clicked on this video. Had I saw this ten years ago may have saved me some heartache. But in reality I probably wouldn’t have listened ten years ago anyways 😂
Wait you’re saying this video is not teaching women what they should do towards men and what men want but it’s another of those old, what men should do ??😂 why did he use that title then lmao.
@@salaahkhayr2398 no. I’m not sure what you are saying. I was saying me ten years ago could have used this advise but I wouldn’t have listened. His video matches the title.
Everything comes in right time for us. Don’t think about what could have happened 10 years ago 😉
Judge a man by his actions not his words.
You are so impressive in knowing a perspective of what we need to know.
I will respect him, clean and cook for him, but I want in return don’t cheat on me, no girl friends , respect me and provide and give me safety, then I will give him everything !
As simple as that , I did all this and still got cheated on. I know he loves me emotionally but doesn’t respect me and understands cheating on me puts me in danger and I’m in survival mode biologically
That’s not how it works. You will never get respect by just asking for it, let alone by cooking and cleaning.
@@Anastazka00 I’m from Middle East, that’s how I was raised.
It’s also important to not low yourself..
If he provide and respect and give me safety ,, why wouldn’t I clean and feed him?
@@Chris777. Its not about that. Of course you can cook and clean. But that won´t make him respect you. Not lowing yourself, respecting yourself and your boundries is the key to respect in my humble opinion. Wich in itself means you won´t be with a guy that does not respect you. I am just saying that cuz your comment kindda sounds like if you do everything for a guy, he will respect you back, while its usually the opposide.
@@Anastazka00 I’m not going to give him that,, without him showing me and give me what I want,, women receive,, and men give,,, then we can give back.
You got it right _respect is the most important quality of all, respect is the basis for everything else, first comes respect then trust then love
You got that right.
🥰 ty for this video, you are amazing, your video's have really helped me alot.
Men should find the respect (admiration of self ) from within.
Thank you for this !! 😊
You're very welcome Cheryl.
🎉🎉 Thanks a lot for sharing this, Ismael!
Thank you so much, your video are really inspiring and improving for man and women. uo're very smart , respectful and wise. thanks again! world need more man like you!
Absolutely agree!
I love your videos 👏🏼👏🏼
Thanks Ismael. Nice video
You're absolutely right! High standards vs respect, very different animals. Subscribed
Love all your advice from Philippines❤
Great...
True.
taking notes.
Very well said. Ismael. Gomez!! May. God bless you and have blessed. Merry. Christmas!! New Years 2024!!! 🎄⛄🎚️☕🥧🙏
Very good videos Very wise My philosophy is you should always scratch the surface snd see what you find People can be so boring eho only care sbout big houses and fast cars
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Beautiful
I’ve always known what I wanted from a man..but each time I get confused about what does he want? what a man wants?? I figured out the hard way that sexual needs aren’t the only thing a man desires I’ve been fooled the whole time..😅
I hope this video brought you some clarity.
I find men feelingsinteresting. This is exciting. Men want respect that's for sure because that is kind of obvious. So it works both ways
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Loyalty, respect towards a lady and kindness, plus manners that's what I as a woman would be looking for , not a lot of any of that about these days unfortunately.
I used to know someone whom I gave lots of respect but always received disrespect in return until one day I blocked that person
So why do some guys don't respond well to respect if that's what they want ?
If he's the first type of man that seeks respect through status, he may not have seen the value in you, hence he disrespected you in return. Imagine you give orange juice to someone who only enjoys soda, he'd probably spit it out. That's why it's also important to find men that are in alignment with you.
@@SaveTheMessengeryess my ex seeks respect through his status , he likes the outside validation of people seeing him as intelligent and put together. But I saw the real him and still respected that and stood my ground and I think it scared him away because I knew his flaws and though I didn’t see him as a trophy or someone special like the others outside did
Looking forward to your video how to gain a man’s respect
Don't forget about the narcissistic men & women that aren't even about "respect" I believe we all want respect, yet we also need to look at the control part/narcissistic part of why men/women cheat and how that's actually disrespect and can become abusive. If a man wants respect he should show respect by saying this is not the kind of relationship I want to be apart of and respect the women by telling her this. As a women I not only want respect yet I also want the respect from a man to not waste my time or his cause that's just toxic, and so forth. I've been in abusive relationships myself where I've confronted the man respectfully yet was still treated like shit. I'm grateful for all that though because of how it's helped me understand my worth more & also be more mindful of how & who I want to date or just allow access to me. Yes there's tons of bad advice out there because we only may focus on certain perspectives. Yet we need to look at all perspectives but I get that this is based on a man's perspective. Yet to respect a man, a women needs a man trust to be able to respect this man, (not just words but actions) Cause I'm not gonna have respect for anyone if I can't trust them. It goes both ways unless it's just my masculine energy coming out lol 🦁
Thank you for this video, very helpful and I love how you explained everything. Appreciate you!
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I could care less what men want in a relationship....
What about what God wants for relationships
Purity, love ,loyalty, respect, honesty, compassion, bravery, and honor and marriage.
As a woman, men want any excuse to dangle carrots as too what they want in a woman then be fickle, cheaters, liers, and abusers...and still trying to dangle carrots what they want ..which is sex not love and its sick keep telling us women what men want..Its sex without morals or marriage.
I dont care what men want i care about what God wants !!!!
I’ve never read a better comment in my Life!!!!!!! Ughhhhh this is Gold !!!
Beautiful 👌🏻👌🏻 pls post how to gain respect from man
I’ll make that one soon.
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Rationales sound plausible, but the brain gets wise. People are all fools when it comes to love and all we have are love songs to resonate with and other songs to help up muster up the courage to let go and date someone new.
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You seem so gentle and sweet
That's very sweet of you to say. Thanks.
I like you. 🥰❤️
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If the men are greedy, most likely it is the first type. Thank you for this I learned a lot, this is the first time I heard of this
My now ex husband definitely was the first type, that loses interest once he's extracted all he can get. Once I was no longer a source for fixing problems caused by his financially irresponsible choices, he was looking for a new woman.
I think there is a third type of man (also happens in women, but less frequently). This type is much rarer. This person is seized with an idea or inspiration that they can't put down. Their single-minded focus doesn't spring primarily from helping humanity. It is something that captures the very essence of their nature. They pursue this goal because they can't not pursue it. The goal may be very abstract, without a clearly definable outcome. I think this category encompasses many of the scientists, mathematicians, historians, artists, explorers, philosophers, etc., throughout history. Their efforts frequently advance the fronteirs of mankind, but that's not their motivation. Some may even have divine inspiration. They are not out for personal gain because they have no idea where their path may lead . They only know they have to follow it. Their personal relationships could be a nightmare. However, who of us has not had our lives enriched by knowing such a person?
I don't get it. If I was to say what women really wanted from men was admiration (the stated definition of respect on this video), wouldn't that be weird? If I said women liked admiration the most because it has helped them survive over the eons, does that make sense? I see you're trying to say something, but a deeper explanation is needed please? I can't respect (which means hold in regard, or value, to me) my partner needing my admiration more than my love (which I consider more valuable, as it this holds acceptance and care to me). I would just think admiration was about the ego, which I see as a lesser than people connecting and practicing care for one another. Please explain more if possible. I'm sure it has to do with the way men are raised by and grow with other men.
I am not your mama! Respect is not given, you have it if you have self-respect. You need to grow up.
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odd, his newest videos are not nasally...heavy accent in his newer videos.
Please tell me what is your zodiac sign
Take a guess...
That damn Andrew Tate... Jesus....
What’s his ethnicity? I’m curious.
Cuban
There is a guy At work that was interested in me but i didnt let him close to me because i decided to ignore him. He then went to another female at work and started dating her. He still looks at me and looks for me but i dont initiate a conversation because im not the gf. I dont want any problems. But what I dont understand is this dude has a gf why does he even try to say hi to me when he knows i dotn want to enage with him.
...isn't it normal to say hi to colleagues?
@@miteruppi I guess. Its just all my life man that have gf don't talk to me. So I find it weird. Probably because I haven't met a variety of people out there.
He is still interest in you and wants to see if you get affected like jealous by the fact he has a girlfriend
@@ruka939 yes i was and am jelous but im not willing to deal with a man that will use her or me for what ever it is
@@ashleym1849 good, cause that man has issues
It's not easy to understand...
This is quite sad younger men find me attractive lucky I didn't get married but I noticed interests work
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absolutely true that's already written in book of life which is Bible.
Is he worthy of respect, that is the question.... Not every man is respectable....
Men are created to need respect; God has shown this to be the case in Ephesians 5:33. It has nothing to do with evolution. It is always connected to his behavior and character (he is responsible for behaving morally and with honor).
Control.
They want control.
Oh please. Men are the most disrespectful people. You can be so sweet to your man and he’ll treat you like crap. It happened to me every time. More trouble than they’re worth.
Amen
Maybe you should change your taste in men.
Please don't generalize, I have met some wonderful, respectful men.
@user-ic3pf3fx7r: How can others respect you if you are not even respecting yourself? I can’t imagine being sweet to someone who threats me like crap. I would run. If you are tolerating their sh**, you are disrespecting yourself. Respect yourself and your boundries sister. I have seen the change in behaviour once they realized you are not willing to take it.
Bro not the AT refrences please 🤮
Ok, so is it the theory of evolution or God? 🤔
Oh my goodness....please, please, PLEASE do not quote from Andrew Tate! NOT if you truly are trying to advocate and educate women to respect and be respected and have healthy relationships. AT has been caught and prosecuted for sexual trafficking, abuse and coercion (with minors and not only), that on top of his numerous speeches, podcasts, seminars, etc. in which he is literally teaching men how to groom, seduce, abuse and pimp women. I am absolutely mind blown that you would include someone like him...there are other men who have achieved success without profiting off the sexual abuse of women, and who are not educating men on how to be successful by engaging in such acts. Just because he is a "multimillionaire" and has a following does not make him a role model and a decent human being.
Did you watch the whole video? The point of quoting him was to use his perspective as contrast to the other point I was making.
That's true , if you watch the whole video you'll see that he's an example of men who think status is respect, and was being used to show the difference
@@SaveTheMessenger I saw how you used it but Andrew Tate is a horrible misogynist, I wouldn’t have him in your video. It’s not helping…I’m still thinking about Andrew Tate and what a gross man he is that I’ve missed the rest of the video, but it would not encourage me to subscribe.
Men dont know what they want ,they are complex.even if you give them all they want they still cheat or walk out on you . Men are hunters when they get bored they ready to hunt again
You're describing the first type of man I depicted. Not all men are like that.
I respect him but he always humilates in the public, what kind of husband is he?Married over a decade now with 3 kids.He is practicing pologmy .We are not even settled as a couple.What can i do now???
Human trafficking, misogynistic Andrew Tate? Wow, that’s pretty ironic how I don’t respect that guy
The second one is my husband and coudnt express how lucky i was 💓🥹
Where are you from? @ismael
Cuba