No woman in her right mind will be ok with her man cheating! You may can try and fight your feelings or try to act like you don’t care, but you do care! Every woman wants a man to herself.
Poly relationships are on the rise in our community and it literally disgust me because black men are taking advantage of the fact that black women out number them significantly. Women are getting so desperate that they are just going along with it. Even when they are unhappy because “half a man is better than none.” 🥴
Chile when I tell you I don’t even stress dating or these so called men’s choice in women anymore. What’s for me is for me. God will let me know when it’s my time, because dating in the end times is GHETTO lol
A lot of these men don’t even respect their bodies, and have the nerve to say they want someone whom is kept, I thinks not. I do not want no empty “so-called” man, that does not usurp self control and believes he has to try every grown girl out. Lust has a never ending appetite, that’s what people fail to realize, I’m not a ride or die chick for a man unless he doing it for God.
So true. Its easy to fool many that think they have a real entitlement. Anyone can lie who has low esteem for themselves. That isn't love. How you get them is how you lose them. Everyone has a name. And ain't always great. The dumber the easier, the loner the better to use and leave when done with no attachment. It won't last. They keep fools to trick and use. Not really date or have a real relationship. Ha! But, its a price to pay sometimes. Your ego would make you lose it all and happiness. You'll get stuck with something you don't want. Be safe and protected too. Or just don't do it at all.
I'm not going to LIE, I often feel like they are winning. Because some of them do have good men and are in relationships and married. Thanks for the encouragement though Mr Tony. I'm keeping the faith
A lot of men like women who present a challenge they are not boring to them..but these women are not getting 100% of a whole real man but they have a big diamond on their left hand. And I know personally that a O married a virgin man and he got hooked and tied to her because she was his first and now she sleeps with who she wants and he stays true to her😕 You right some O's seems to be winning😕
These men are getting with what ever is attractive and willing . I see women who think that man is hers and doesn't realize he's making making hotel reservations and calling another woman from the airport to sleep with her
One of those women broke up my marriage. I always thought they were winning, too. Then I realized the silly little girl did me a favor in taking that old fool off my hands. I almost wanted to thank her. I'll be single from now on. This is another great message!!! I'm loving your content, Mr. and Mrs. Gaskins!!!! Keep it coming!!
“If he don’t have character Ani’t nothing you can do to keep him”. TG. Wow. That’s deep. You will be just another notch on his belt even if you have character. He’s trying to sleep with you to test your character. A woman with character will walk away and not take the bait. He will then go on and find him a woman without character which he knows he can sleep with. Then he leaves her because it was too easy. Then when he’s done he will try to get back with you! You are so right Tony. It happens just like that! Watch out for these types. Get to know a man’s character first. Character means so much.
You are absolutely right, because my ex keeps calling my phone private and not saying anything, before I didn’t know. Now when no one says anything I just hang up, but a few of my calls have showed up (unknown name) I have to get that checked out. But for the most part it’s him when no one says anything.
has nothing to do with character, oftentimes it’s about strenth, about she is not strong enough. Too many women with a past of abuse, may it be in childhood or later, can’t stand for their boundaries. Not because they would want this but because they simply can’t. They have to learn this in painful years or decades and maybe never come out of this cycle because they again and again have to heal, then go for the same trap. Too many of them don’t even know from where their problems come. Me 40+ survived dark things in childhood and slowly building healthy defense mechanisms. Going additionally to Kickboxing to never my boundaries are violated again. Many have the character but we never learned how to react in those situations. The brain simply can’t process and react properly to what we should have done then, for example stop the guy and push him away. But you can learn in therapy and fighting sports. There are far more women and men who struggle with the consequences of sexual abuse, or other abuse in general, than you can imagine
A male friend told me they go with these women because they have no choice and I keep telling my friend but he had me if he married me and discussed with me..my legs and home are closed until marriage ..lol..and he told me OK he simply doesnt want you..and I go ok but he looks at me on the street and checks my site ..You cannot know if its him..I said I know but saw some pattern..but anyway yeah he just ghosted me after I poured my love to him at first sight and my friend told me..Its very good that you did that and was 100% clear and told him you wanted him..and he d be silent when I say maybe he has no character..No he just maybe is in love and want to see where it goes and marry later..after some years..but he is way older than me and never married..YEah but no yeah but no my male friend told me..Its not about the fact your legs are closed until marriage..but maybe yeah it is a part of it..and t hat you want marriage..LOL
Men are choosing these damaged women and ignoring good women who they could be happy with then complain that all women are bad. Smh, the best women are NOT the ones men love to complain about. They are the ones moving in silence waiting for a king.
We just cannot please a broken grown boy! That’s just facts! We are winning by keeping God first and our legs closed! Period! Thank you Tony keep bringing it!!!🙏🏾💯😊
This whole upload is a good reminder to all of us with standards waiting for the right one from God- God recently told me- “DO NOT ENVY ANYTHING THAT DOES NOT HAVE MY BLESSING OR COVERING ON IT- IT WILL NOT PROSPER” - psalm 127:1-“ unless the Lord builds the house they labor in vain who build it”
O's are miserable....ppl who think otherwise are lacking understanding. I grew up with aunties who looked happy but were sad and treated so badly by these men. Changed my life watching them sell their souls for money, clothes and rent.
When you feed lust, the lust gets stronger. I did "bedroom double monkey flip, pole..." to please and keep him, 3 years, his abuse got worse and worse. On my money, physical and emotional abuse. He cheated during lock down and left. Left me heart broken. Still healing today. Well said, wish I knew this 5 years ago when I met him. thanks Tony.
Yes! backflips and singing on the microphone does not keep a man faithful . Media loves feeding us lies that you have to have experience or be a rockstar in bed but that is all just lust. Lust can never be sastified but love can.
If he abused you , look up videos on narcissim. If you watch enough you may heal faster and recognize behaviors. Much love and wound healing your way beauty ❤💚
This is so spot on!! That’s why I truly don’t understand this hot girl epidemic. Women DO NOT desire this lifestyle organically. So that’s why I don’t believe any of them! Plus Tony pulled out the purse on us Lmaoooo! Get Well Soon 😆
The “hot girl” mentality comes as a reaction to how men treat women now. 🐱 is literally one swipe away so men don’t take women on dates anymore and they don’t desire relationships. 🤷🏿♀️ “So if you can’t beat em join em?” Now they want to complain about women who always have there hands out but it’s really just a reaction to how most men treat women.
Your worth is not measured by money or material things. Some of the best things in life are free, we as women sometimes lose ourselves just to become everything for a man. That's not true love, its not the Lord will.
Did y'all just see that! God sent this man wife in the middle of discussion to show the level of commitment this man has as it relates to his wife, you have to be spiritual and in alignment to understand what just happened
Becoming a “good thing” while being obedient to God will get you your mate from God. God can not lie- he promises to give us the desires of our heart when we seek him first (meaning follow his word, such as a wife is a good thing). Blessings
You are so correct Tony I was good to my husband we made love at least once a day he still cheated on me he was very lustful so it doesn't matter they will never be satisfied.
As a hairstylist I hear the stories also and I tell them this all the time... they’re not winning, it’s the “basic” chicks that’s really winning. Less really is more.
Thank you so much for making this video because it seems like a lot of men are choosing women that are all out there. It makes you feel like you have to overstep your boundaries to get their time and attention.
It’s like we have to lower our standards to date because we have to keep up with the women that’s throwing they selves at men it’s so hard to date now the men don’t even wanna take you on a date without sleeping with you first I’m sooo tired of men…
@@shandratucker9070 I’m not going to lie it’s been very frustrating! I naturally like to take my time and watching Tony’s videos has put me on another level. However, it’s like with the men I encounter, they seem interested, but then they avoid me like the plague as time goes by for a woman that will do the most for them 😤
I agree. I am facing the same problem in dating. Either they don't date or if you go on some dates and say you want it further wait out the sex part, they will ghost you. So tired of going through these challenges.
I want a man who practice self control over his body and mind.....however men are visual and they think if it looks good, it’s good! Wrongggggg Spirit mixing is not Gods way, unless he sanctioned that relationship!
It's a fight to avoid being sucked into this mentality. As the years go by and witnessing others seem to progress further and appear to have the life you dream for, I've felt this way often. I keep telling myself that as long as I am alive, delayed doesn't mean denied. I know a lady who allowed another into her marriage bed. Her husband divorced her and married the other woman. She's newly divorced, again, but seems to have met a great guy. Third time may be a charm. (Don't know if I will ever look at fudge the same way again though.)
I love the gospel according to Tony. No one knows men better than another man. Keep up the good work Tony. We appreciate it and a lot of us are living by it.
Yes I got a 10k braclet from my now ex husband, then I found out he was sleeping with high end escorts at the same time. Gross. And I never allowed strip clubs. If he wants to do it, he will no matter what. We all have temptations but we are not animals at the end. We chose.
Yes! Had a male colleague eagerly telling me about his wife not minding him cheating with his ex colleague...I knew it was an invitation! No thank you!!!!
Tony, in the words of my aunt: Mix you some honey, lemon, apple cider vinegar & ginger in a mason jar & sip on it then rest your voice. 🤗 What it looks like to me is Black women want acceptance from Black men. Instead of leaving them all the way alone and exploring better options, as we should, we're doing any & everything we can to please them, to no avail. At the end of the day, we can't win when so many odds are stacked up against us. It seems no matter what we do/say or who we are, they don't want to act, be, or do right, but we're still waiting and waiting and waiting...and not holding them accountable for their wicked ways, non-sense & foolishness. Waiting for change. Now, we're here. It ain't comin'. Pause. Another quote from my aunt: "You can't do wrong & expect to get right." I've wasted SO much time waiting on a grown boy to "build," I'm *almost* embarrassed to admit it. I'm doing me, per usual, and these *TH 0'se* & their dusty male counterparts can have each other & this rigged, twisted game. Flag on the field. I'm out lol smh no way 🙅🏾♀ Keep your dignity. Love who loves you back. That's that. Hope you feel better soon!
There used to be this video game I play and when you defeat the soldiers he stood there with a white flag and surrendered I'm totally there as far as love goes I'm loving myself and these dusties and pick mes can have each other
Oh and black men aren't the ONLY men that do wrong can't do right men comes in all colors including white Hispanic and Asian so don't buy that only black bull that's just a tactic to keep from bringing more black people in the world and division
@@pianotnt I agree but I think most of Tony's followers are BW. I am noticing more and more the whole male crew is super messy. They can have all of it!
Some years ago Shaunie O'Neal was on the radio out here in So. Cal. Her and Shaq had split a few years before that. She was on there ready to launch Basketball Wives and she was doing promo. She said when he took the trade to Miami and bought a big mansion, the women used to buzz the gate looking for him. It wasn't always so full frontal. But that's how it goes, it just gets more and more disrespectful.
Not the BUZZER!! He definitely allowed them feel it was okay to disrespect her in that way. Men have a responsibility to check these women IMMEDIATELY, if they give them inch they will take a mile.
It really is demonic. I know it takes your mind to more perversion it’s scary if you don’t stop and catch yourself. some people’s lust and perversion runs so deep they have to cause someone physical pain or even death to feel sexual pleasure it’s satanic! even ted bundy didn’t start off that way . It’s so important to run from lust!
This was a good video. You have some women that have morals and standards. They have been waiting and working on themselves but are miserable, frustrated and unhappy.
Omg I was literally searching for a video that I can listen to whilst cleaning my kitchen, and Tony dropped one ☝️ god is good 👍. So happy 😀 Thank you sir
hey Tony, thank you for your videos it have helped me with my first experience with a boy in my life, and my first heartbreak by a 'grown boy'. I am 19 years old, and watching you helped motivate me to put myself first, I've realized the "grown-boy games" he put me through, and I know what to do & look out for with red/green flags. Thank you so much, right now, I'm happy in a good spot with school, myself, and my confidence. Watching you have made me realized how I am a good women and I'm too mature for my age (a lot of people have told me how mature I am, and I don't act like most teens, but have a wise adult mindset), and one day my husband will find me and love me for me. thanks again
He said he wanted a relationship with me, but it was a lie. He was mostly focus on taking my virginity (we did do some sexual things, but I didn't have sex w/ him) or talking about how "fine or sexy" my figure was, it was one-sided, we always had to do thing on his time. He wouldn't inmate dates/spend time, wouldn't text/talk to me for hrs, so much bread-crumbing, only face-timed once and that was before he ghosted me and he was so hot & cold. It was hurting me and I confronted/ told him a couple of times but he would punish me with silent treatment, stone-walling, or leaving me on seen or lying about how he was 'sorry or understand'. It bothered and hurt me so bad I couldn’t concentrate or show up for work, I lost my appetite, I got emotionally exhausted, my skin was breaking out n my hair was terrible.Mind you I didn't know what bread-crumbing, stone-wall, hot & cold was but the feeling was familiar. Everytime I wanted to leave he would string me along, with mixed feeling. He didn't keep his word about anything, and I ignored some flags, but because I was so inexperienced some of the flags I didn't notice or understand at all, but I had this feeling of intuition but didn't get what it was I didn't't understand. The more he treated me like that, the more I lost interest, doubtful of him, I cried so many times, was frustrated and pissed. He didn't realize the most he would ignore me and his 'grown-boy games, the more I realized my worth, and finally had the confidence to let it go in July, after dating for 4 months. I gave him a 2nd chance and he treated me worse than when he ghosted me the 1st time for no reason (we only talked for 4 days & got ghosted). Tbh while dating him, I was very skeptical, and didn't believe most of the stuff he said. He would tell me “that I’m amazing person & that he doesn’t deserve me”. One day I was complimenting him & expressing how he was making me happy and you lovely things and he told me “stop…my emotions” and that he feels that he’s being loved and he doesn’t need that”. That hurt me cuz I was confused & didn’t understand. When I confronted him about it he said he promise that it has nothing to do with me. I had this feeling he was using me, and I knew while dating, but I didn't have the confidence to leave, I had a fear of abandonment due to an abusive childhood with my father & other trauma. But I had enough and I'm glad I made that decision. I realized the boy I dated was a resemblance of my father (an abusive narcissist), the same, and if I would've stayed it would've been worse. After ended things he texted me a few times, and I tried to be cordial but he was still playing his games for ego, loneliness or boredom. One time he hit me up out of no where asking me to go to barnes & nobles, and when I asked y, he said he "wanted good company" and I said no I Was too busy, since he would give me the same excuse. He's ungrateful, selfish, and heartless because I didn't judge him for loosing his Job, not driving, not being in school, or having a job, instead I was very supportive, always helped him with his insecurities, helped motivate him to find another job, nvr emasculated him, I paid for food everytime we hangout. Supported him with his daddy issues also. I told him that I wanted him for him not to use him, his money, or to waste his time. I also told him if he wants to waste his time with those girls who wouldn't even give him the time of the day because he lack not driving, in school, etc go ahead because the grass isn't greener on the other side. That this is nothing but a lesson to be learned, and he'll get his karma, I'll leave the rest to god because god loves me, and he don't play around with me cuz the lord knows how good of a person I am and how I have a big heart.
I thought a GOOD one found me 🥺🤦🏾♀️. Caught him in the silliest lie and it came right on time. I was just starting to settle in to the insecure role. I quickly got out of that and broke up with him. I miss him and am disappointed but it’s what’s best for my heart ❤️. I always give too much too soon, but not anymore thanks to Tony and his wise words!!!
"Whenever someone continues to cheat, and pull the old "bate and switch" games trying to placate his intentions are less than honorable. "The intentions get old at some point, especially the man makes the woman being cheated on, its her fault. Its his "mo" making believe she's not good enough, whether its in the bedroom, cooking and began chipping away at her self-worth. She is on a path going no where in the fake relationship, meaning its run the course of time. Its not going anywhere but down and out.
Welcome to Michigan. Coats, boot, long johns, gloves, scarves. Dig it back out. My daughter went to MIT. Yes he will get the opportunity. Thank You for reporting live from the other side.
I'm stunned how much truth there is in the aspect of a "spirit" on these people living in lust. Once you heart is open and protected by God you can see it clear as day.
Or it could be they just settle because they don't want to be alone and actually have to do the self work they need! Some women will compromise their values just to say they have a man! These women really make it hard to find a good man because when a good woman holds him to a higher standard, he runs to a woman who doesn't!
Awesome news about your son...congratulations! Tony God is certainly using you for such a time as this. He will continue to bless you and your family because you continually seek and live for Him. May the messages you bring continue to touch more men and women to come to Christ. Thank God and thank you!🙏🏽
Everything you saying is correct!! I feel like this guy I use to deal with so many years ago has a seducing spirit... he always wants to come over but I decline..politely! Plus I told him I don't allow ppl other than blood relatives in my household.. so now he said I can come to his house in the am..I'm 30 with a 7yr young daughter he's 30 with 2 girls & 1 boy his oldest is 9. Plus I haven't been physical with a guy since May 2020 which was w. My daughter's biological father...smh big mistake.. I avoid him he's highly abusive emotionally, mentally & psychologically.. he even tried to trickle the down to my daughter last year. I disconnected my phone! God revealed to me what he's capable of when it comes to my daughter.. My mom which was violated at a young age told me to not ever let my daughter be alone w. Him... & it's been tht way ever since. He let his bm use his phone to disrespect my daughter now all of a sudden she a grown woman because she now has a girl by him...but the dream I had of him...glad he's no longer in our lives because that dream was devastating! Gotta have Discernment
Tony, you are so right! I don't think men understand that if they invite a 3rd party in the relationship, the women could actually end up leaving for another women. Sometimes it's not even about protecting you from them, It can be about protecting them from you! 3rd party ANYTHING = bad idea.We are all human and all capable of doing wrong, which is why it is important to hold each other accountable. You can't give into what a grown boy "thinks" he wants. Spot on!
A man's not even willing to hangout with you or take you out on a proper date if you don't promise him something. Like he's gonna get some or at least do something sexual
You can take the horse 🐎 to the water, you can't make it drink. Value your life, Be blessed so the people who love you, you love can be blessed Tony his life is the example of God's protection and favor 🙏
Tony .. congratulations to your son and your wife .🎉. 🎉. 🎉 ...that is so awesome ...I hope the students are able to document the experience. 🎉 🎉 🎉 **another great video .. Thank you Sir 💕💕🙏🏾.
God bless you Tony 🙏family, viewing. When your bed is undefiled, Ordained by God, the romance, is going to be fulfilled, The household blessed, Especially your children One of my best friend married over 30yr she testify along with her husband. God does bless. Wait upon God Pervertion of this world destroys lives.
OMG, There was a couple who did what u speak of. The wife brought in a gay girlfriend & the husband ended up loving the gay girlfriend! They been together for years and he buys her everything. She dont even work. The wife had to go about her business. Crazy!
Beware young women who decide to shack up with men and later learn in their older years that there will not be any commitment and the desire to seal the deal with marriage. What is given freely loses its value and importance.
That’s why I always say that getting a husband is not a prize, getting a GOOD husband is the real prize, and they are few and far between.
A good man is a cultured man! who likes to go to museums for example
@@irlandaise5631 Depends, there are lots of cultured narcissistic & abusive a**holes. It’s more about character & values.
@@rmercedes971 yes you are right in fact, pseudo cultured with lack of morals, character and values..the most important is the character and values.
I speak a good God fearing husband into my life sooner than later. He will be an amazing lover, provider, protector and leader. Glory be to God.
@@pinnakal1 Amen 🙏🏽
No woman in her right mind will be ok with her man cheating! You may can try and fight your feelings or try to act like you don’t care, but you do care! Every woman wants a man to herself.
Grl say it again for the ppl in the back ✋
Poly relationships are on the rise in our community and it literally disgust me because black men are taking advantage of the fact that black women out number them significantly. Women are getting so desperate that they are just going along with it. Even when they are unhappy because “half a man is better than none.” 🥴
True dat..you want to feel safe concerning your body and health first and foremost!😰
I’m very Territorial. My husband told me his mistress isn’t going nowhere. Imagine how I’m feeling
@@puru4504 I am so sorry to hear that! Uggh!
Chile when I tell you I don’t even stress dating or these so called men’s choice in women anymore. What’s for me is for me. God will let me know when it’s my time, because dating in the end times is GHETTO lol
I know that’s right!!! What god has for me it is for me 💯
lol and that's on Mary had a little lamb
And scary to say the least. I can literally see demons at work
@@ARighteousLife exactly. I want no parts
Yessss so true!! Be you
A lot of these men don’t even respect their bodies, and have the nerve to say they want someone whom is kept, I thinks not. I do not want no empty “so-called” man, that does not usurp self control and believes he has to try every grown girl out. Lust has a never ending appetite, that’s what people fail to realize, I’m not a ride or die chick for a man unless he doing it for God.
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You said it best , honey! Want a man who has self control over his body!!!
Amen sister..diddo
So true. Its easy to fool many that think they have a real entitlement. Anyone can lie who has low esteem for themselves. That isn't love. How you get them is how you lose them. Everyone has a name. And ain't always great. The dumber the easier, the loner the better to use and leave when done with no attachment. It won't last. They keep fools to trick and use. Not really date or have a real relationship. Ha! But, its a price to pay sometimes. Your ego would make you lose it all and happiness. You'll get stuck with something you don't want. Be safe and protected too. Or just don't do it at all.
Ain't that the truth!
I'm not going to LIE, I often feel like they are winning. Because some of them do have good men and are in relationships and married. Thanks for the encouragement though Mr Tony. I'm keeping the faith
Right that’s what I’m saying! I’ve seen good men with the most conniving, mean spirited, toxic women!
@RaAja his point exactly. He said a good man wont end up w that type of woman. He may appear suave but its his mindset
A lot of men like women who present a challenge they are not
boring to them..but these women are not getting 100% of a whole real man but they have a big diamond on their left hand. And I know personally that a O married a virgin man and he got hooked and tied to her because she was his first and now she sleeps with who she wants and he stays true to her😕 You right some O's seems to be winning😕
@@gwendolynbradford707 , this is the
exception. He will get tired. Everyone has a breaking point. I guarantee it.😂😂🤣🤣
These men are getting with what ever is attractive and willing . I see women who think that man is hers and doesn't realize he's making making hotel reservations and calling another woman from the airport to sleep with her
One of those women broke up my marriage. I always thought they were winning, too. Then I realized the silly little girl did me a favor in taking that old fool off my hands. I almost wanted to thank her. I'll be single from now on.
This is another great message!!! I'm loving your content, Mr. and Mrs. Gaskins!!!! Keep it coming!!
Same. I felt the same way. I'm like, good luck. It ain't love. She a fool and nothing. He stupid to lose it all. I'm good
If he cheats on her...she didn't win😂
@@gwendolynbradford707 she lost either way because he's no good.
He’s going to do her the same way.
@@gwendolynbradford707 👏👏👏
“If he don’t have character Ani’t nothing you can do to keep him”. TG. Wow. That’s deep. You will be just another notch on his belt even if you have character. He’s trying to sleep with you to test your character. A woman with character will walk away and not take the bait. He will then go on and find him a woman without character which he knows he can sleep with. Then he leaves her because it was too easy. Then when he’s done he will try to get back with you! You are so right Tony. It happens just like that! Watch out for these types. Get to know a man’s character first. Character means so much.
You are absolutely right, because my ex keeps calling my phone private and not saying anything, before I didn’t know. Now when no one says anything I just hang up, but a few of my calls have showed up (unknown name) I have to get that checked out. But for the most part it’s him when no one says anything.
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has nothing to do with character, oftentimes it’s about strenth, about she is not strong enough. Too many women with a past of abuse, may it be in childhood or later, can’t stand for their boundaries. Not because they would want this but because they simply can’t. They have to learn this in painful years or decades and maybe never come out of this cycle because they again and again have to heal, then go for the same trap. Too many of them don’t even know from where their problems come. Me 40+ survived dark things in childhood and slowly building healthy defense mechanisms. Going additionally to Kickboxing to never my boundaries are violated again.
Many have the character but we never learned how to react in those situations. The brain simply can’t process and react properly to what we should have done then, for example stop the guy and push him away. But you can learn in therapy and fighting sports.
There are far more women and men who struggle with the consequences of sexual abuse, or other abuse in general, than you can imagine
A male friend told me they go with these women because they have no choice and I keep telling my friend but he had me if he married me and discussed with me..my legs and home are closed until marriage ..lol..and he told me OK he simply doesnt want you..and I go ok but he looks at me on the street and checks my site ..You cannot know if its him..I said I know but saw some pattern..but anyway yeah he just ghosted me after I poured my love to him at first sight and my friend told me..Its very good that you did that and was 100% clear and told him you wanted him..and he d be silent when I say maybe he has no character..No he just maybe is in love and want to see where it goes and marry later..after some years..but he is way older than me and never married..YEah but no yeah but no my male friend told me..Its not about the fact your legs are closed until marriage..but maybe yeah it is a part of it..and t hat you want marriage..LOL
“A man does not appreciate a woman who does not love and respect herself.” TG
Men are choosing these damaged women and ignoring good women who they could be happy with then complain that all women are bad. Smh, the best women are NOT the ones men love to complain about. They are the ones moving in silence waiting for a king.
Agree 100%. But don't forget we overlook good men too!
Never heard it like this but I like the way you put it
Yes , why does our husband love us so much .. repeat 🔁 daily it is done ✅
Some of us does that also
Spirit of lust and the spirit of rejection out here strong and ppl none the wiser. Thank you Tony for these lessons on spiritual warfare.
We just cannot please a broken grown boy! That’s just facts! We are winning by keeping God first and our legs closed! Period! Thank you Tony keep bringing it!!!🙏🏾💯😊
That part...😂
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Period. 💯👏🏾
This whole upload is a good reminder to all of us with standards waiting for the right one from God- God recently told me- “DO NOT ENVY ANYTHING THAT DOES NOT HAVE MY BLESSING OR COVERING ON IT- IT WILL NOT PROSPER” - psalm 127:1-“ unless the Lord builds the house they labor in vain who build it”
Wow!!! That's deep and nothing but the truth!! Thanks for sharing that nugget! I will ponder that for a ling time. 🙏❤
PREAAACH!!!!!
Wow!! You HIT THE NAIL ON THE HEAD--- If the Lord doesn't build the house, they build in vain". Right out of the Bible!!!
O's are miserable....ppl who think otherwise are lacking understanding. I grew up with aunties who looked happy but were sad and treated so badly by these men. Changed my life watching them sell their souls for money, clothes and rent.
In order to get respect you have to respect yourself. Self-love is the key to having real love. It starts with you!
Amen!!!
YES 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰
Yessss Tony! Ladies, if it doesn’t feel right to YOU, just don’t do it with a man.! Your sanity is more important than a man or a relationship. 🙏🏻🙏🏻
When you feed lust, the lust gets stronger. I did "bedroom double monkey flip, pole..." to please and keep him, 3 years, his abuse got worse and worse. On my money, physical and emotional abuse. He cheated during lock down and left. Left me heart broken. Still healing today. Well said, wish I knew this 5 years ago when I met him. thanks Tony.
Yes! backflips and singing on the microphone does not keep a man faithful . Media loves feeding us lies that you have to have experience or be a rockstar in bed but that is all just lust. Lust can never be sastified but love can.
Yesss yessss this is true
If he abused you , look up videos on narcissim. If you watch enough you may heal faster and recognize behaviors. Much love and wound healing your way beauty ❤💚
You're at the right place thanks for sharing
This is so spot on!! That’s why I truly don’t understand this hot girl epidemic. Women DO NOT desire this lifestyle organically. So that’s why I don’t believe any of them! Plus Tony pulled out the purse on us Lmaoooo! Get Well Soon 😆
The “hot girl” mentality comes as a reaction to how men treat women now. 🐱 is literally one swipe away so men don’t take women on dates anymore and they don’t desire relationships. 🤷🏿♀️ “So if you can’t beat em join em?” Now they want to complain about women who always have there hands out but it’s really just a reaction to how most men treat women.
@@k0k01 😂😂😂
@@k0k01 Demonic possession isn’t gender sensitive….jezebels
I missed that purse. lol
I recently found out today that women who tend to have higher sex drives are also said to have more testosterone. Testosterone increases sex drive.
That MIT thing is huge. MIT is the leading university in tech in the whole world. That’s big, congrats to him.🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Your worth is not measured by money or material things. Some of the best things in life are free, we as women sometimes lose ourselves just to become everything for a man. That's not true love, its not the Lord will.
Well put
Whoa!!! “If he don’t have character ain’t nothing you can do to keep him” can we please get this on a shirt?!
“You can’t win when you don’t have standards.”
Did y'all just see that! God sent this man wife in the middle of discussion to show the level of commitment this man has as it relates to his wife, you have to be spiritual and in alignment to understand what just happened
Okay right
If that man doesn’t have character, that luxury lifestyle will come with a price!
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U better know it will.....👍
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Character is KEY! Many women overlook that key aspect.
Thank you.. I am single and I do get discouraged at times however I have boundaries and standards...just praying for my mate from God.. 🙏🏽🙏🏽
Becoming a “good thing” while being obedient to God will get you your mate from God. God can not lie- he promises to give us the desires of our heart when we seek him first (meaning follow his word, such as a wife is a good thing). Blessings
Keep praying, sista! God is going to come through for you!! 🙏❤
You are so correct Tony I was good to my husband we made love at least once a day he still cheated on me he was very lustful so it doesn't matter they will never be satisfied.
As a hairstylist I hear the stories also and I tell them this all the time... they’re not winning, it’s the “basic” chicks that’s really winning. Less really is more.
I’m a basic chick 🙌🏼
@@pinnakal1 winning... 🥰
The spirit of lust is a bottomless pit.
Thank you so much for making this video because it seems like a lot of men are choosing women that are all out there. It makes you feel like you have to overstep your boundaries to get their time and attention.
It’s like we have to lower our standards to date because we have to keep up with the women that’s throwing they selves at men it’s so hard to date now the men don’t even wanna take you on a date without sleeping with you first I’m sooo tired of men…
@@shandratucker9070 I’m not going to lie it’s been very frustrating! I naturally like to take my time and watching Tony’s videos has put me on another level. However, it’s like with the men I encounter, they seem interested, but then they avoid me like the plague as time goes by for a woman that will do the most for them 😤
It really does.....its a shame
@@shandratucker9070 I thought I was the only one struggling! I can’t even get a date before a man wants to “come through” “pull up” or “chill” 🙄
I agree. I am facing the same problem in dating. Either they don't date or if you go on some dates and say you want it further wait out the sex part, they will ghost you.
So tired of going through these challenges.
I believe this 100%. Like my dear mom told me, Everything that shine ain't gold.
I want a man who practice self control over his body and mind.....however men are visual and they think if it looks good, it’s good! Wrongggggg
Spirit mixing is not Gods way, unless he sanctioned that relationship!
It's a fight to avoid being sucked into this mentality. As the years go by and witnessing others seem to progress further and appear to have the life you dream for, I've felt this way often. I keep telling myself that as long as I am alive, delayed doesn't mean denied. I know a lady who allowed another into her marriage bed. Her husband divorced her and married the other woman. She's newly divorced, again, but seems to have met a great guy. Third time may be a charm. (Don't know if I will ever look at fudge the same way again though.)
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Stay strong my sista! The race is not for the swift but who can endure.
Salute King! I agree keep your standards high and the right man will meet them. If his standards are low, then he got to GO!
Straight up!! 👀😒
Keep your standards!🙌🏾
That's right
I love the gospel according to Tony. No one knows men better than another man. Keep up the good work Tony. We appreciate it and a lot of us are living by it.
Yes I got a 10k braclet from my now ex husband, then I found out he was sleeping with high end escorts at the same time. Gross. And I never allowed strip clubs. If he wants to do it, he will no matter what. We all have temptations but we are not animals at the end. We chose.
Sorry to heartland that. How did you find out? I want to know what to look for since sex work seems to be more public & available now.
Quavo and Saweetie. Now look at them. Done! Money can’t buy character.
Or class.
Yes! Had a male colleague eagerly telling me about his wife not minding him cheating with his ex colleague...I knew it was an invitation! No thank you!!!!
Tony, in the words of my aunt: Mix you some honey, lemon, apple cider vinegar & ginger in a mason jar & sip on it then rest your voice. 🤗 What it looks like to me is Black women want acceptance from Black men. Instead of leaving them all the way alone and exploring better options, as we should, we're doing any & everything we can to please them, to no avail. At the end of the day, we can't win when so many odds are stacked up against us. It seems no matter what we do/say or who we are, they don't want to act, be, or do right, but we're still waiting and waiting and waiting...and not holding them accountable for their wicked ways, non-sense & foolishness. Waiting for change. Now, we're here. It ain't comin'. Pause.
Another quote from my aunt: "You can't do wrong & expect to get right." I've wasted SO much time waiting on a grown boy to "build," I'm *almost* embarrassed to admit it. I'm doing me, per usual, and these *TH 0'se* & their dusty male counterparts can have each other & this rigged, twisted game. Flag on the field. I'm out lol smh no way 🙅🏾♀ Keep your dignity. Love who loves you back. That's that. Hope you feel better soon!
Honey lemon ginger mix very good idea!👍
Your Aunt was so wise.
There used to be this video game I play and when you defeat the soldiers he stood there with a white flag and surrendered I'm totally there as far as love goes I'm loving myself and these dusties and pick mes can have each other
Oh and black men aren't the ONLY men that do wrong can't do right men comes in all colors including white Hispanic and Asian so don't buy that only black bull that's just a tactic to keep from bringing more black people in the world and division
@@pianotnt I agree but I think most of Tony's followers are BW. I am noticing more and more the whole male crew is super messy. They can have all of it!
That’s right I’d rather have my peace of mine. Then deal with a man and his toxicity ways.
Amen
Yep
Why does my husband love me soo much ❤️❤️❤️
I’m 17 and wow thank you for this I never had a dad tell me this before god bless you Tony 🙏
Tony your son is brilliant. Kudos to him. You and your wife should be very proud. Blessings.
Love is of God, lust is of the devil. Know the difference between the two. Soul ties are real! Be discerning of who you date.
Some years ago Shaunie O'Neal was on the radio out here in So. Cal. Her and Shaq had split a few years before that. She was on there ready to launch Basketball Wives and she was doing promo. She said when he took the trade to Miami and bought a big mansion, the women used to buzz the gate looking for him. It wasn't always so full frontal. But that's how it goes, it just gets more and more disrespectful.
Not the BUZZER!! He definitely allowed them feel it was okay to disrespect her in that way. Men have a responsibility to check these women IMMEDIATELY, if they give them inch they will take a mile.
Thank you Tony for the message, we appreciate you! Praying you feel better, we know you serve it’s your calling, blessings to you and the Queen 🙏🏾
The level of lust being described in this video is demonic and scary
It really is demonic. I know it takes your mind to more perversion it’s scary if you don’t stop and catch yourself. some people’s lust and perversion runs so deep they have to cause someone physical pain or even death to feel sexual pleasure it’s satanic! even ted bundy didn’t start off that way . It’s so important to run from lust!
Wow Tony is keeping it TOO real with this one 💯
This was a good video. You have some women that have morals and standards. They have been waiting and working on themselves but are miserable, frustrated and unhappy.
Super congrats to you and Sheri’s baby & his school grant! MIT, wow!
Omg I was literally searching for a video that I can listen to whilst cleaning my kitchen, and Tony dropped one ☝️ god is good 👍. So happy 😀
Thank you sir
Yesss they be right on time!!
Uncle Tony preaching the good word. Rags and water ministries. People we gotta clean up the streets.
Congrats to Tony Jr. So proud of him.
Love the way Tony speaks and looks at the Queen. Can't fake that!!
Thank you Tony for being so real👌🏾👏🏾👍🏾
Come on MIT Grant. Praise God
hey Tony, thank you for your videos it have helped me with my first experience with a boy in my life, and my first heartbreak by a 'grown boy'. I am 19 years old, and watching you helped motivate me to put myself first, I've realized the "grown-boy games" he put me through, and I know what to do & look out for with red/green flags. Thank you so much, right now, I'm happy in a good spot with school, myself, and my confidence. Watching you have made me realized how I am a good women and I'm too mature for my age (a lot of people have told me how mature I am, and I don't act like most teens, but have a wise adult mindset), and one day my husband will find me and love me for me. thanks again
He said he wanted a relationship with me, but it was a lie. He was mostly focus on taking my virginity (we did do some sexual things, but I didn't have sex w/ him) or talking about how "fine or sexy" my figure was, it was one-sided, we always had to do thing on his time. He wouldn't inmate dates/spend time, wouldn't text/talk to me for hrs, so much bread-crumbing, only face-timed once and that was before he ghosted me and he was so hot & cold. It was hurting me and I confronted/ told him a couple of times but he would punish me with silent treatment, stone-walling, or leaving me on seen or lying about how he was 'sorry or understand'. It bothered and hurt me so bad I couldn’t concentrate or show up for work, I lost my appetite, I got emotionally exhausted, my skin was breaking out n my hair was terrible.Mind you I didn't know what bread-crumbing, stone-wall, hot & cold was but the feeling was familiar.
Everytime I wanted to leave he would string me along, with mixed feeling. He didn't keep his word about anything, and I ignored some flags, but because I was so inexperienced some of the flags I didn't notice or understand at all, but I had this feeling of intuition but didn't get what it was I didn't't understand. The more he treated me like that, the more I lost interest, doubtful of him, I cried so many times, was frustrated and pissed. He didn't realize the most he would ignore me and his 'grown-boy games, the more I realized my worth, and finally had the confidence to let it go in July, after dating for 4 months. I gave him a 2nd chance and he treated me worse than when he ghosted me the 1st time for no reason (we only talked for 4 days & got ghosted). Tbh while dating him, I was very skeptical, and didn't believe most of the stuff he said. He would tell me “that I’m amazing person & that he doesn’t deserve me”. One day I was complimenting him & expressing how he was making me happy and you lovely things and he told me “stop…my emotions” and that he feels that he’s being loved and he doesn’t need that”. That hurt me cuz I was confused & didn’t understand. When I confronted him about it he said he promise that it has nothing to do with me. I had this feeling he was using me, and I knew while dating, but I didn't have the confidence to leave, I had a fear of abandonment due to an abusive childhood with my father & other trauma. But I had enough and I'm glad I made that decision. I realized the boy I dated was a resemblance of my father (an abusive narcissist), the same, and if I would've stayed it would've been worse.
After ended things he texted me a few times, and I tried to be cordial but he was still playing his games for ego, loneliness or boredom. One time he hit me up out of no where asking me to go to barnes & nobles, and when I asked y, he said he "wanted good company" and I said no I Was too busy, since he would give me the same excuse.
He's ungrateful, selfish, and heartless because I didn't judge him for loosing his Job, not driving, not being in school, or having a job, instead I was very supportive, always helped him with his insecurities, helped motivate him to find another job, nvr emasculated him, I paid for food everytime we hangout. Supported him with his daddy issues also. I told him that I wanted him for him not to use him, his money, or to waste his time. I also told him if he wants to waste his time with those girls who wouldn't even give him the time of the day because he lack not driving, in school, etc go ahead because the grass isn't greener on the other side. That this is nothing but a lesson to be learned, and he'll get his karma, I'll leave the rest to god because god loves me, and he don't play around with me cuz the lord knows how good of a person I am and how I have a big heart.
Don't forget the 3 B's I wish I learned that at your age
Tony you really be speaking a word and you really are funny 😄 . Ain’t no rest for the weary lmbo
Telling no lies!!!
Liked even before listening
Congratulations to your son on his accomplishment! That's awesome!
Tony's words of truth are like a soothing balm. I pray God rains blessings over you and your family always.
Love this Tony! I was told by a guy that the reasons ho es winning because they make phone calls LOL🤦🏽♀️ Lord help us all.
Hot mess!
He thinks you’re supposed to be chasing him.
I thought a GOOD one found me 🥺🤦🏾♀️.
Caught him in the silliest lie and it came right on time. I was just starting to settle in to the insecure role. I quickly got out of that and broke up with him. I miss him and am disappointed but it’s what’s best for my heart ❤️. I always give too much too soon, but not anymore thanks to Tony and his wise words!!!
When Tony grabs his purse 🤣🤣🤣 makes my day every 👏🏽single👏🏽time 👏🏽
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"Whenever someone continues to cheat, and pull the old "bate and switch" games trying to placate his intentions are less than honorable. "The intentions get old at some point, especially the man makes the woman being cheated on, its her fault. Its his "mo" making believe she's not good enough, whether its in the bedroom, cooking and began chipping away at her self-worth. She is on a path going no where in the fake relationship, meaning its run the course of time. Its not going anywhere but down and out.
Lack of boundaries and respect were the main reasons I ended my last relationship. Those are just as bad as cheating in my opinion.
True...
Needed this message. Easy to think o’s winning. Going thru a pandemic single, in an onlyfans and social media era that Glorifies loose women.
Welcome to Michigan. Coats, boot, long johns, gloves, scarves. Dig it back out. My daughter went to MIT. Yes he will get the opportunity. Thank You for reporting live from the other side.
People also like to accuse pretty women of being “those”, when some of us are God fearing women who simply look good!
I'm stunned how much truth there is in the aspect of a "spirit" on these people living in lust.
Once you heart is open and protected by God you can see it clear as day.
Or it could be they just settle because they don't want to be alone and actually have to do the self work they need! Some women will compromise their values just to say they have a man! These women really make it hard to find a good man because when a good woman holds him to a higher standard, he runs to a woman who doesn't!
Congratulations to your son's school for winning. God Bless you and the Queen keep doing what you do Tony Gaskins keeping God first always. 🙏🏾
Awesome news about your son...congratulations! Tony God is certainly using you for such a time as this. He will continue to bless you and your family because you continually seek and live for Him. May the messages you bring continue to touch more men and women to come to Christ. Thank God and thank you!🙏🏽
Everything you saying is correct!! I feel like this guy I use to deal with so many years ago has a seducing spirit... he always wants to come over but I decline..politely! Plus I told him I don't allow ppl other than blood relatives in my household.. so now he said I can come to his house in the am..I'm 30 with a 7yr young daughter he's 30 with 2 girls & 1 boy his oldest is 9. Plus I haven't been physical with a guy since May 2020 which was w. My daughter's biological father...smh big mistake.. I avoid him he's highly abusive emotionally, mentally & psychologically.. he even tried to trickle the down to my daughter last year. I disconnected my phone! God revealed to me what he's capable of when it comes to my daughter.. My mom which was violated at a young age told me to not ever let my daughter be alone w. Him... & it's been tht way ever since. He let his bm use his phone to disrespect my daughter now all of a sudden she a grown woman because she now has a girl by him...but the dream I had of him...glad he's no longer in our lives because that dream was devastating! Gotta have Discernment
Peace of mind is priceless. Get well soon Tony.
Congratulations!!! God will bless our offspring when we live right!!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Thank God for the spirit of discernment.
Tony, you are so right! I don't think men understand that if they invite a 3rd party in the relationship, the women could actually end up leaving for another women. Sometimes it's not even about protecting you from them, It can be about protecting them from you! 3rd party ANYTHING = bad idea.We are all human and all capable of doing wrong, which is why it is important to hold each other accountable. You can't give into what a grown boy "thinks" he wants. Spot on!
A man's not even willing to hangout with you or take you out on a proper date if you don't promise him something. Like he's gonna get some or at least do something sexual
Lol this is what pisses me off about men these days.
They always ask ro hang out instead of going on a date.
@@keyairaspivey5093 lol they can't afford to date most likely
@@smiles9599 Which is sad.
@@keyairaspivey5093 I know lol pure ratchetness.
You can take the horse 🐎 to the water, you can't make it drink. Value your life, Be blessed so the people who love you, you love can be blessed Tony his life is the example of God's protection and favor 🙏
Moses had allergies in there with Pharaoh! Tony drops jewels and jokes!!!
Once that "box" is open there is no closing it.
Tony .. congratulations to your son and your wife .🎉. 🎉. 🎉 ...that is so awesome ...I hope the students are able to document the experience. 🎉 🎉 🎉
**another great video ..
Thank you Sir 💕💕🙏🏾.
And apparently the people really living for God are winning 🏆
Congratulations on your son & his school winning that opportunity!
Congratulations to you both for your son’s opportunity 🎉🎉🎉🎉✨🎊!
Get well soon .mr.gaskins
God bless you Tony 🙏family, viewing. When your bed is undefiled, Ordained by God, the romance, is going to be fulfilled, The household blessed, Especially your children One of my best friend married over 30yr she testify along with her husband. God does bless. Wait upon God Pervertion of this world destroys lives.
Thank you Tony, feel better. You and your family stay BLESSED!!!!
Can I also have the TG t-shirt that says "mill yens." Lol at the pronunciation...I laugh every time..too funny.
The scriptures says we need to “rest” so be easy and take care of your body so we can keep getting this knowledge 💕
While you we're speaking the Holy Spirit gave me a writing, a movement, something, but it has struck my heart strings.😢
OMG, There was a couple who did what u speak of. The wife brought in a gay girlfriend & the husband ended up loving the gay girlfriend! They been together for years and he buys her everything. She dont even work. The wife had to go about her business. Crazy!
well tony your helping people god is helping you and your family . wishing your sons reach many great heights amen
🗣To God be the Glory 🙌
Hey Tony and everyone God bless you guys 💙💙💙
Only American culture makes rest a negative thing. It's very important Tony. Stay strong 💪.
I agree, lust can never be satisfied.
Congratulations to your son on his wonderful accomplishment!!! 🎈🌈✨🎈
MORALS VALUES and STANDARDS… that’s right - That’s my type. That’s my type. Thx! TG. 👍🏽
Congratulations 🎊 to your son! That is quite an accomplishment and opportunity to excel!❤️
Thanks for video and congrats to your son on MIT
Beware young women who decide to shack up with men and later learn in their older years that there will not be any commitment and the desire to seal the deal with marriage. What is given freely loses its value and importance.
Yes that's true
Sweet Jesus you hear the blessings that connected to this family?!
Be blessed, I hope you feel better.
Every man doesnt cheat. Most do, but there are some who remain faithful.