Omar Suleiman Says No Romance For Muslims?!
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- Omar Suleiman suggests that being single forever is fine if that's what Allah decides for you
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This month, I made the decision to leave Islam after realizing how much it obliterated my life. For 14 years, I embraced the religion, became a practising Muslim and entered into a marriage with a woman I deeply cared for. However, the restrictions imposed by Islam meant that our pre-marital interactions were limited, leading to a lack of understanding and compatibility, especially in our intimate relationship. Despite our deep love, this fundamental mismatch ultimately caused us to part ways. Additionally, the fact that she was circumsized according to the Shafii school, further complicated our situation and spilled over to other realms of our marriage.
As we navigate co-parenting without her knowledge of my departure from Islam, I am in the process of rebuilding and moving forward with my life. I really don't know what to do with my children and how it will devastate them that their dad doesn't believe anymore in what he taught them about Islam. God it's disheartening. Islam is indeed a religion of piece, because I am picking up the pieces of my broken self.
Wow, that's a lot. If you want to talk, email me at abdullah.adam@gmail.com.
Wishing you well
@@FriendlyExmuslimhey I know this is none of my business , but you already do a lot for the ex-muslim community. Please make sure you do not neglect yourself, your family and your new relationships. You are very charitable with your time
@@FriendlyExmuslimbro i have some questions for you
Curious to know, what are your beliefs now? What religion did you pick to be the
@@Shahzeb1988bro,they just left Islam. No one will immediately jump into a new religion after leaving another.
Everybody deserves to be happy. Nobody should be told that they should accept loneliness.
Everybody deserves to be happy? Who said that? People can do awful things in pursuit of their "happiness".
I left Islam aged 32, struggled to meet the perfect person because I was restricted to Muslim men only. After I left Islam it took me 2 weeks to find my perfect match after deciding to take dating seriously! Religion and culture are two of the biggest obstacles in your way to finding a partner nowadays! Especially if you live in the west as a Muslim minority group. It’s so easy to live life to the fullest when you let go of religious nonsense
Well done for you! Make sure you have support as an ex muslim. Never go back to Islam no matter how tempting it is.
I'm still looking, but I'm glad you found someone. Ill be making an effort to get out more.
True, and most of the dogma you are forced to follow in Islam doesn't make you a better person, and can even make you a worst person. Yes Islam has one or two good things , (the emphasis on charity) but they are greatly outnumbered by all the restrictive destructive dogma that just complicates your life and doesn't improve your ethics or morals.
Why is it that religious people always "know" what their god wants, needs, or thinks?
On the other hand, they believe god is unknowable. The contradictions are staggering.
I'm only speaking for Christians, the scripture tells us.
Islam is the only religion that proclaims that its god is unknowable.
@@VarnoSlimmHow exactly?
To make matters worse, they also don't teach people, men especially, how to foster a healthy marriage.
yeah. its all about what the women have to do for the men only
Well by Islamic standards, a woman exist to make the man happy so she just needs to follow instructions from her husband😢
Its even worse when you actually did find someone you love but you aren't allowed to marry them or let anyone know about it.
this is way more heartbreaking than not having anyone to start with. social barriers keeping lovers apart is so true nowadays.
@@ankitanandy6076 Yes! i’ve been with someone for 6 years now and he truly makes me happy. My parents would never accept this though because he’s not arab or muslim and it has to be arranged.
They say this forgetting that their prophet married 11 times!
Excellent point.
And he even owned sex slaves.
married 11 times is satanic lust.
In countries with polygamy, the powerful get many wives, the poor will need to wait for jana
The same could be said for the west where the top 10% of men get all the women and the rest are left behind all because of hypergamy.
Islam gave power to weak men and let them control women so it’s quite the opposite of this video in Muslim countries u have a high chance u will get married and pass ur genes cuz the religion is empowering men where in the west u will not because your too ugly or poor
You have to have money to maintain many wives and children. Young Muslim women want rich, successful, husbands...and a Gold Card...not broke men..
Polygamy is very unsocial and increases war risk.
Jannah is like a night club. A bunch of sex and drugs and prostitutes.
How many husbands do the women get?
What is the purpose of marriage in the afterlife? Islam has a worldly view of what heaven should look like, you would think being in a non-physical body a being what be above any physical needs or desires like food or sex. I personally don't think being in a relationship is for everyone, especially with the state of modern dating and marriage. But being denied a relationship by some made-up deity is strange.
I agree with you. Getting married is so physical and the soul does not need anything physical.
So what do you think goes around in Heaven? You gonna just hover around endlessly in your non-physical body???
@@keksi6844 hovering would be better cause your just existing in a higher form and reality like so called angels do. Food sex and drinking are needs and desires based upon human limitations and evolution. You shouldn’t have the same limits when you don’t even have the same body. I am a deist I think heaven or a higher dimensions could be possible but so far we are stuck with not knowing enough about this reality let alone a whole other dimension.
@@keksi6844whatever that is, is far from being in a physical need of the body
From a Christian perspective. No one will marry, but we will receive new physical bodies, eating will be for eating, you won't need the food.
The common view of the "afterlife" in Christianity has been erroneous. Many non-christians and Christians have a misunderstood view of what the religion actually says about it.
The cognitive dissonance of people in islam to instantly believe anything that an imam says along with an arabic background music. 🤷
The nasheeds make them feel guilty so they have to obey.
Love is haram for the religion of peace and love.
That's so saddening. I see so many Muslim single mothers living on their own for decades because they somehow think they can't date anyone and won't get married.
Exactly
I have been happily married and in love for over 50 years. But then I am not a Moslem.
Yes!
Jesus condemned the idea of heaven of Islam 700 years before it even started..
Every thing that Muhammad said they will do sin their heaven Jesus condemned it.,
Expecialy sexual activity ( fornification)
Hooris and prostitution activities like Islam whore house…
Allah is pimp.. Muhammad is pimp, Muslim men are pimps… pimp heaven!
Eh even for atheists love is rare mostly just cheaters out there
@@WhoWellOk yes
@@WhoWellOk if that's the case you're not choosing right or not seeing the red flags. Not saying it's the person's fault, I'm saying life and experience teaches you to be picky about the right things and not care about some of the little things
@@WhoWellOk Speak for yourself. Certainly not my experience.
I was raised as a Jehovah’s Witness and this hits home for me. I’ve been told multiple times that maybe I’ll just have to wait for paradise to find a husband…that is seriously the single most depressing and demoralising thing to say to someone who is already lonely.
Exactly
Because men don’t go to kingdoms halls only women do lmaooo
what a depressing religion.
It really is
@@ashleytheseeker8480 The good news is that more and more people are realizing it, and leaving Islam, , or at least dropping some of its worst aspects, and this is because more people than ever before have been shown the skills to think critically about Islam. yes Islam is the fastest growing religion, because of its high birthrate, but Muslims have a greater chance of becoming apostates than at any time in the history of Islam. Because people have now learn to think for themselves and they see that things don't add up .
Indeed
I've always wondered why so many of my Muslim classmates wanted to get married in the future as a first option, because it wasn't my goal and after i left islam i realized why, because men and women are seen as only being together for a relationship, no friendship or normal work relationship, and that's why they want to get married because in the work nature they won't have to be anxious when women or men talk to them, it wasn't a problem for me but I guess this oversexual view that Islam thought them about men and women made it really hard to even say hi to the opposite gender, not to mention even when they get married they don't even know each other.
No Romance... but you can rent a girl (not somebody's wife)= after satisfied with her , you can pay = it is halal
EXACTLY.
Thank you for sharing your reaction commentary to harmful messaging like this. I really appreciate it.
My girlfriend caught this on IG and sent it to me and we just had to!
I think religion should only be about making this life better and not speculate about a totally unproven hypothetical realm after death though I can empathize with certain people who have such a miserable existence that they look forward to bliss in another dimension. The slaves of the past must have often felt like that and probably explains why so many were attracted to Christianity and other belief systems.
Couldn't be happier to have left Islam
Thanks for the video.
"Allah got your back...in Jannah" That coy look you gave when saying that cracked me up. Dear Friendly Ex-Muslim I was eating, laughed and chocked a bit. But sex in the afterlife not something I ever desired.
I was actually just talking about Omar Suleiman yesterday as a person who had messages, and behaviors, I did not agree with when I watched his videos. And this morning, I did see a reddit post of a vegan gay Muslim lamenting the fact they wanted a relationship but have never had one and are very lonely.
Acknowledge people's feelings instead of telling them what to think. And the problem with reading the mind of pretend gods (gods really want you to be single...) is that you or other humans, not these gods fill in the blanks. And the single women commenters you mention, their sadness touches me and reminds me of my own loss. What a thing religion is and what damage it does to people.
Glad you enjoyed it
Thanks for the comment and hope you are okay after choking haha
Really bad therapy for anyone seeking help disappointing take from yakeen institution.Aisha and Mohammad’s wife’s were not allowed to re marry
Great video! We need more critical videos of this new Muslim superstar lol 😂.
This is what happens when your Sheiks play the role of a marriage counselor, psychiatrist, doctor, etc. I am sure he has heard the struggles of single women and men about not being able to find love.
Like you said, the social structure doesn't allow men and women to get opportunities to meet. Dating is haram. Men need exuberant money to get married. Women don't have the freedom to date and choose to marry whomever they love. Extramarital sex is haram. There is no release for both sexes who are sexually frustrated and unhappy. The Islamic system is not made for happiness and love to spread.
Dont u have 72 spouses upon death.....i dont think i could cope.....and Id be exhausted!
lol. only for martyr men
I wonder if omar believes his own bullshit 😂
Biblical contract: Unless you fully embrace and accept Jesus Christ as your lord and savior, you're going to hell.
Quranic contract: Unless you accept Muhammed as the last and final messenger and prophet of Allah, you're going to hell.
You aren't allowed to date in Islam, so why is romance even a topic of discussion? How do they expect to get to know someone and fall in love? Just by a dismal chance after getting an arranged marriage that the person you only met for 5 minutes / always in front of a guardian/mahram that you'll actually fall in love. Those who say that they did fall in love most likely have Stockholm syndrome or they're just forcing themselves to "love" that person, or they actually knew/dated the person in secret before getting engaged. Thinking about romance while being muslim is pointless and depressing.
I can’t help but feel it’s almost like he’s specifically targeting the message towards gay people, who aren’t allowed to marry in most Islamic communities.
That’s a good point. The conservative Christian message is the same, abstain and wait to be rewarded in paradise. Either that or they’ll try to pray the homosexual demon out of you.
In all not most
This guys is the same guy that said Moses was black and he meant it in all seriousness. Not that he thinks so, that he knows.
Would be funny if he saw a video about Mansa Musa and thought it was Musa/moses.
Lol what
Moses surely wasn't a white Ashkenazi jew
@@13bfc agreed. And he surely wasn’t as dark as a Nigerian or Zimbabwean. The problem is not with how Moses looked. The problem is with how the “sheik” claims to know and that it is not his opinion, and is fact.
He was probably brown in colour and Canaanite (Semitic) in ethnicity if he ever existed.
❤🎉 ExMuslims movement in India is great 🎉❤
Awsome work Abdullah
This stuff reminds me of what leaders inevitably have to say when polyamory is venetated but chasity is so strict on women, like the 'lost boys' problem in Mormonism. Theres gonna be a lot of young guys who have these exceptional standards for one to four 'pure girls' and wonder why theyre single.
As a queer exmuslim living in a Muslim country, accepting that I might never find love has been the hardest thing to deal with, I still have trouble accepting it, but its true ,there is just no love for me in this lifetime.
😔 Dont give up
Don't accept it! There are other LBGTQ ex-Muslims in your society, who are also looking for love. With care and effort you can find them. You have as much right to love as any straight person. Praying for you and wishing you the best.
@@FriendlyExmuslimover
Move out of that country ASAP
I’m pretty sure most Muslim communities are similar to Hindu communities that they’re full of busy body aunties and uncles who know exactly whose kids are unmarried and that network can be a pretty powerful thing in helping people find good relationships even if they aren’t the fairytale expectation of love.
Suleiman has to know this, so it makes me think there’s something kinda nefarious going on with him. Because one thing for sure - people disaffected and lacking meaningful relationships are much easier to radicalize.
There are single men who are poor and single women who are not pretty. Aunties don’t have much interest in them
@@sajibsjb I seen a lot of unattractive married folks. They can get it done.
@@sajibsjb☠️
I’m a little surprised. I had thought Muslims were pressured to get married and have as many children as possible for Allah.
But it seems I might be wrong.
They still are. Islam is contradictory
They are. It doesn't mean you'll actually be in love with the person you marry though.
yeah wait till your dead to find a partner = makes sense
Omar Suleiman did such a horrible job as an imam that the problem was caused by him. Omar won't take the blame.
This isn't fair to the arguments made here. It looks like you're making a personal attack rather than engaging with the actual argument here.
@@iiddrrii6051
Yes!
Jesus condemned the idea of heaven of Islam 700 years before it even started..
Every thing that Muhammad said they will do sin their heaven Jesus condemned it.,
Expecialy sexual activity ( fornification)
Hooris and prostitution activities like Islam whore house…
Allah is pimp.. Muhammad is pimp, Muslim men are pimps… pimp heaven!
@@iiddrrii6051 there we go again, Omar cannot be criticized. What about Omar praising Shaun King who tried profiting off of religion?
@@jamesc9853 sure, criticize. But it’s better to engage with the topic rather than the person
@@iiddrrii6051 the guy who makes it clear to the public every chance he can that he is on top of the situation in Gaza can be accountable for a problem he is causing. I can't help you with that if you cannot understand it.
Support you ❤
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Sameer I really love your content a lot, this topic just reminded me of a song "leave love behind" by Paul cook & chronicles, that says the same as you "if you ever give up on love, you are only making it worse for yourself! " there are definitely ways to deal with it but not ignoring it, I really loved your other reaction on a Muslim girl saying she struggled stopping listening to music! this kind of developing a cold heart in Islam is the reason parents feel no shame in hurting of forgetting their children for whatever religious or cultural reason! thank you.
Paul McCartney too wrote "for well you know that it's a fool who plays it cool, by making his world a little colder., "
@@BrunoRuti very true
Suileman looks creepy
All Abdools are creepy
People attach themselves to the opposite sex even when they hate them. This is because when you tell them they are supposed to find someone they start plotting to get anyone, they then abuse and hate them their whole lives unless the person leaves. The best advice is to tell them it's ok to be single, calm down, don't blow the whole place up, don't burn down the world because you didn't find someone
Stop telling them they MUST find someone, half of them don't even want someone, they just want to be accepted by society and not looked down on.
It's ok to be single!!!!!!!!!
I am not completely happy being alone a though I’m peaceful with it…… I never found love but I have taken what i could get
Why habibi it’s easy for you to find someone
My parents had planned a nikah(wedding contract) for me with a muslim girl while i was studying in Australia.But it was 1985 i met an aussie girl and we've been hapilly together for 39 years with 3 children.I'm an X muslim.Islam wouldn't agree with me marrying a christian girl who wouldn't convert.It worked for the best,blessing from Jesus who i follow now.Thank you for your great videos
Wonderful! Thanks for sharing.
May the LOVE OF OUR LORD BE A FOREVER BLESSING IN YOUR FAMILY
They bring predestination to explain away people not having good love life yet switch to freewill for other things. So imagine God was to eternally barbecue someone for not having a good romance life. It's the same as God barbecuing someone for not following his supposed only true religion : both were written 50,000 years before the creation of the heavens and the earth.
Oh 50,000 "years"? But time is Just a concept in our universe which didn't exist yet!
How can anyone believe all this bs from this Imam its laughable 😂
Awesome work
Thank you! Cheers!
honestly what is he gonna say? The actual advice that would help muslims would probably be against their jurisprudence
Just glad he didnt tell them to fast. I recall a hadith where momo said to fast to control your se*ual urges
Also Sameer if you could find the reference where women are prohibited from marrying people of the scripture that would be great. I have tried asking around for it but of course I have gotten shunned a lot. I don't see anything in the Quran that prohibits marriage to people of scripture for women. Not sure about the hadith though.
Its Quran 2:221 islamqa.info/en/answers/21380/can-a-muslim-woman-marry-a-non-muslim-man
That is for both men and women. They are forbidden from marrying non-Muslims that are not from the scripture. However the Quran clearly says that (Surah Maida 5:5)that men can marry women of the scripture. And, in the Quran, generally, whatever ruling is present for men the same applies for women unless stated otherwise. So why do men forbid women from marrying non muslims from the book. That is my question :)@@FriendlyExmuslim
@@ammarahsajid2457it’s to keep the children being Muslim instead of another religion
I need the reference. Everyone knows the mother has the most influence on the kids.
😂 Without lies Islam dies 😢
Thx for sharing your thoughts ❤
why is the m ohammmudun not speaking in arabic if m ohammuduns have to mandatorily know arabic?
In Islam your whole life and happiness, and potential is given over to Allah.
Maybe everyone should actually watch the full original video before forming an opinion and leaving a comment here.
Are you suggesting we are missing something significant from the original?
Before I found my special someoene , while I was never muslim, I was very lonely and depressed
Often I believed that there might not be anyone that would be interested in me ... and there were many times people would tell me to stop worrying or to work on myself first , or that you cant love someone until you love yourself first...
Thats all BS and terrible advice to someoene who is lonely and depressed , when the depression is CAUSED by the loneliness , and it never helps
Idk being with someone only because of loneliness doesn’t necessarily make anyone happy
Saw the video on my fyp TikTok and i could feel the sheer BS coming out of his mouth
First. 😅
You made my day by commenting on this video. 😊
Everything about him makes me cringe.. esp his smile... and all the things he said..
"Auzubillah Minashaitan Nirajeem”
Spit 3 times. 😂
I swear abdullah’s delivery when making a joke is too funny, good content
Haha thanks
Guess i just have to wait till I’m dead to find someone then 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
😂😂😂😂 unboxing tee shirt kill me
Match making single muslims is the worse thing one can do. I kind of agree with the sheik "be content with yourself" BUT I disagree with him saying that they can just wait for their spouse in heaven. Or just accept what Allah wanted for them instead of support them being comfortable with themselves first.
I always believed that Mariage is half of your Deen when you marry. I’m not Muslim anymore and I know the only reason I’m single is because I had do leave the man I loved and he loved me because my family would not accept him. I always had a problem imagining myself marrying a Muslim man. It’s hard to find someone, because every decision I will make will be hard.
Which Muslim country are you from?
then you dont have free will lol
Huh
How do these people have so many subs… also I didn’t know your ex Ismaili, same here bother.
Yep ex Ismaili ex Sunni
@@FriendlyExmuslim lmao dude which Ismaili were you, the kind that thought mola bapa was God in the flesh or that he just had the noor in him 🤣
@@A-man-in-the-boxhe was sunni
16:16 😂😂😂 yeah why even mention having to ask Mo a question 3 times ????? Is this suppose to make Mo seem more profound?😅
I am proud ex Muslim
I support Israel
Me too xmulim
Hallelujah!
16:53 so true 😂😂
haha ya
We must to Leave islam to save the world free from higab
Never heard such a load of garbage in this video FM. ..l can understand why you laughed...This woman who said she is waiting for jennah ....lady... the men are waiting for you ....manyyyyyy
If your "love story" hadn't occured it. It means it hasn't been "written" yet. Don't worry though. It'll be ready when you're 40 and your partner will be born. Just like our beloved prophet. Who is dEfInItElY a prophet for sure
That sheik took shadha from grifter Shaun King! Lol😊
There is no true love in Islam!! Only true lust!! I came across an old Muslim man pushing a baby stroller with an infant baby girl inside playing with a hanging doll! I politely asked the old Muslim man if that little baby girl is his granddaughter!! He was visibly upset and proudly responded!! NO!! She’s my 4th WIFE and daughter out of wedlock!!!😢😢😢
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Hey bro. I'm Muslim. I am so glad u made this video!!!!! I was thinking about exactly what u r saying. Exactly what u r saying
What happened to you complete half ur deen argument? Right out the window when its convenient and I can't stand the way Omar S smiles when he says ridiculous things
Interesting ,,,
Islam: marry upto 4 women
Also Islam: it’s okay to be single
Wtf !!!
Im om the aromantic spectrum myself so while I agree marriage and relationships arent for everyone. I can understand the pain of people who struggle to find love and telling people to just be fatalistic is the worst way to go about it. Obviously one should be learn to love themselves and be happy single because without being happy single its hard to be Happy married but never tell someone love just inst destined for them because that's extremely disrespectful
I think Omar Suleiman should rather deliver such a teaching as there being no guarantees in life. However he should deliver it as a message of hope in that Muslims should strive their utmost in all areas of their lives to maximise their chances of success. And if one doesn't succeed in one area of life,it doesn't mean one is a failure.
Jesu$. They're life doesn't suck because they are single. This (video) is disgusting honestly.
But it is true though, there are people who just live a life where they never found their partner. Many of them existed , exist and will exist it’s just realistic.
16:50 😂😂😂 GO GET SOME MONEY!
10:00 maybe they were gay 😂😂
Or Asexual
the entire construct is false, fake and counterfeit of true faith, that comes with life, living waters. and the next big celebration is next Sunday as to why that is.
Always love your work!
Thanks!
Could it be that a lot of them are from countries were only younger women are valued? I've lived in a few countries where it's not abnormal at all to be dating in your 30s and 40s
0:54 What about Mut’a omar??
You pay and you’re married. 🤭
What a braind dead video. Omar Suleiman is saying to not be depressed if you can't find true love. Not to stop pursuing it.
He's saying don't be depressed cus you'll have a spouse in paradise lol. Great message! 👏
@@FriendlyExmuslim No that is not it but even that is a far cry from the click-baitey title you used for your video where you insinuate that Omar Suleiman is declaring romance is Haram.
It’s a bit hard not to be depressed if you are one of the people Allah has decreed to be single in this life. Having a spouse in the next life is cold comfort especially if everyone gets one anyway even the happy couples. It’s just another consolation given for deficits in this life and for “tests”…”god didn’t want you to have it but don’t worry he will make it up to you”. Well sadly we have no real reason to think that’s really the case.
And what about the other 3 romances?
😂
I thought losing hope from God was a sin in Islam!
Too bad Muhammad disagreed with said advice...
17:18 Muad'Dib??? As it was written!!!
He can’t. Prove next life he just believe There is next life
Being single is not a tragedy
You missed the point
No, but you should not have to be single if that is not what you want.
Even for married Muslim couples?🤔🤔🤔
Married ones are ok
*laughs in Aromantic*
And I who thought they wanted high birth rates. Is it perhaps that He believes that perhaps too many children are born Or that there are too many children in Muslim society
They do! But they aren't solving the social issues and they are getting worse for women especially
Anas ibn Malik reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Whoever Allah provides with a righteous wife, Allah has assisted him in half of his religion. Let him fear Allah regarding the second half.”
Source: al-Mu’jam al-Awsaṭ 992
So if Allah denied you a spouse Allah denies you half of your entire religion, and still holds you accountable to the full religion.
Indeed Allah is the Best of Deceivers
Lol yeah
U r right
1:59 I am just laughing because you smile like cattle.
Curious to know, what are your beliefs now? What religion did you pick to be the one and why?
He is an atheist. He believes in no organized religion