Thank you so much Christian Life Centre, I'm a woman in her mid twenties and my current girlfriend is my first ever serious relationship partner. Our relationship was in crisis because I wasn't speaking her love language, which is physical touch, and I didn't even realise it! This video saved our relationship ❤️🎉
Physical touch is only needed and wanted by the person you are in a romantic connection with or are attracted to ...not the random Joe's out there. I don't want any random person or even friends or family members hugging me or touching me or sitting too close to me, that's awkward... I want the person who is the object of my affection to touch me.
That's actually quite a common trait of physical touch people. We don't actually like being touched by random folks, even ones we actually know. I know I don't. But when it comes to that special person or that crush holy shit!
Well everyone is different. But for some it starts as a child. I grew up in a touchy feely family and we weren’t afraid to show affection. It’s not solely sexual. It could be hugs, holding hands. A child who grows up without physical affection, struggles with it in the future with their own family.
To me physical touch is important but what makes it awful is that i need to comfort myself when ever i feel overwhelmed by something. Second thing that i've noticed is how much it matters that you need to feel comfortable around people. i don't talk about this to anyone and its difficult to bring up Enough about me, i hope that the person reading this is doing well. You're not alone. *Virtual hugs* ^^ have a nice day
My husband's love language is touch, but we're having a hard time with this. His anger forces more distance between us, and then he is angry if I don't touch him enough. (I'm also living with significant chronic pain and illness.) He does not ask for more touch nicely, but instead lashes out with criticism and anger toward me for not touching him enough. What can I do on my end to figure out how to meet his needs for touch, and how can I show him how to ask for touch nicely instead of just verbally attacking me for not touching him enough?
wow! maybe see a therapist or both of you read the 5 love language book if you haven't already. He shouldn't be verbally attacking you. What's your love language and is he fulfilling it?
He sounds like an narcissist. My love language us physical touch and if im not getting enough i politely ask for more. Its not hard. Im also have a severe chronic illness btw so I know how hard it is to get out of relationships, you think no one else will love you but being angry about something thats not purposly hurtful is not hoe people show love.
Explain to him that your love language is not touch and you don't perceive it the same way he does. But you really want to show him he's loved and want to touch him more to show that. However, you just can't sense it the way he senses it. So if he tells you kindly that he needs more touch whenever that's the case that would be very helpful to you and over time you'll probably learn do it with less saying. But for the time being you need his help and his guidance. Emphasis: You don't sense it the same way he does, you're blind to it, you really want to love him well, you need his help to do that, you need his kindness just like he needs your touch Also, does your chronis illness and pain make you a little averse to touch? That's something that I had when I had tougher periods with my colitis. When I felt veru uncomfortable with my gut, with or withoit pain but especially with pain ig bcs pain made it automatically more uncomfortable, I didn't like people wanting to hug with me and stuff because I had to sit in a different position than the one position I always have to find to feel more comfortable.
And don't whatever you do withhold physical touch from your partner to spite them if you're having the occasional inevitable relationship trouble. I recently got out of a relationship with a girl who tended to do that quite often. And yes, physical touch can and does include sex but it also means things like hugs, holding hands or, one of my absolute favorite things, hair play. I absolutely love having a girl play with my hair.
This is amazing! Whenever people hear "physical touch" they act weird. Like no I don't want to be fucked I want a hug.
Thank you so much Christian Life Centre, I'm a woman in her mid twenties and my current girlfriend is my first ever serious relationship partner. Our relationship was in crisis because I wasn't speaking her love language, which is physical touch, and I didn't even realise it! This video saved our relationship ❤️🎉
Definitely my love language and explained very well
I'm showing this too my whole school during our lesson. Thanks!!!!
Physical touch is only needed and wanted by the person you are in a romantic connection with or are attracted to ...not the random Joe's out there. I don't want any random person or even friends or family members hugging me or touching me or sitting too close to me, that's awkward... I want the person who is the object of my affection to touch me.
😂 right on
That's actually quite a common trait of physical touch people. We don't actually like being touched by random folks, even ones we actually know. I know I don't. But when it comes to that special person or that crush holy shit!
Well everyone is different. But for some it starts as a child. I grew up in a touchy feely family and we weren’t afraid to show affection. It’s not solely sexual. It could be hugs, holding hands. A child who grows up without physical affection, struggles with it in the future with their own family.
I appreciate how well you've explained this! Thanks!
This was really helpful! Thank you!
My no 1 love language
To me physical touch is important but what makes it awful is that i need to comfort myself when ever i feel overwhelmed by something.
Second thing that i've noticed is how much it matters that you need to feel comfortable around people.
i don't talk about this to anyone and its difficult to bring up
Enough about me, i hope that the person reading this is doing well. You're not alone. *Virtual hugs* ^^ have a nice day
My husband's love language is touch, but we're having a hard time with this. His anger forces more distance between us, and then he is angry if I don't touch him enough. (I'm also living with significant chronic pain and illness.) He does not ask for more touch nicely, but instead lashes out with criticism and anger toward me for not touching him enough. What can I do on my end to figure out how to meet his needs for touch, and how can I show him how to ask for touch nicely instead of just verbally attacking me for not touching him enough?
wow! maybe see a therapist or both of you read the 5 love language book if you haven't already. He shouldn't be verbally attacking you. What's your love language and is he fulfilling it?
@@biellaspointofview2054 this or divorce
He sounds like an narcissist. My love language us physical touch and if im not getting enough i politely ask for more. Its not hard. Im also have a severe chronic illness btw so I know how hard it is to get out of relationships, you think no one else will love you but being angry about something thats not purposly hurtful is not hoe people show love.
Explain to him that your love language is not touch and you don't perceive it the same way he does. But you really want to show him he's loved and want to touch him more to show that. However, you just can't sense it the way he senses it. So if he tells you kindly that he needs more touch whenever that's the case that would be very helpful to you and over time you'll probably learn do it with less saying. But for the time being you need his help and his guidance.
Emphasis: You don't sense it the same way he does, you're blind to it, you really want to love him well, you need his help to do that, you need his kindness just like he needs your touch
Also, does your chronis illness and pain make you a little averse to touch? That's something that I had when I had tougher periods with my colitis. When I felt veru uncomfortable with my gut, with or withoit pain but especially with pain ig bcs pain made it automatically more uncomfortable, I didn't like people wanting to hug with me and stuff because I had to sit in a different position than the one position I always have to find to feel more comfortable.
What??? left me wanting more lol
And don't whatever you do withhold physical touch from your partner to spite them if you're having the occasional inevitable relationship trouble. I recently got out of a relationship with a girl who tended to do that quite often. And yes, physical touch can and does include sex but it also means things like hugs, holding hands or, one of my absolute favorite things, hair play. I absolutely love having a girl play with my hair.
I have 3 love languages physical touch, quality time, affirmation
twin
so how do you touch them...
Hugs and hand holding mean the most :)
Adding on to Ava, I like having my shoulders and back touched.
pat on the head, rub on the back, sqeeze of the arm, lay on the shoulder, etc.
Haha sounds like me 😅 I just one people to hug or touch my face
SAME OMG