You know there are women who pull up to elementary schools and steal young boys… what people should be saying is children should be protected regardless of their gender
@Lucanious Petrenko Hun you missed my entire point. I KNOW FOR A FACT that everyone steals everyone but what I’m saying that if we raise ALL of our children to respect everyone (unless they disrespect you) and just be a good person in general. We wouldn’t need to protect them from stranger danger.
this is so true. ask them who the Uber is for, because if they’re not the real Uber, they won’t know your name. this is a good tip, I know this, and I wouldn’t have remembered to comment it, so I’m glad you did.
@@zr123m the asking way is not rocket science either. it’s pretty simple too, both ways work. also sorry if I sounded rude lol. but yes - both ways work
@@soulcraft6334 Samee I'm the oldest one and I don't have any older siblings. Sometimes we need someone to look up to but it's sad how people tell us to be mature and strong from a very young age
Also, don't be afraid to look weird. If you're alone at night and you think someone is following you, the best thing to do is act wild. Spin in circles, giggle at nothing, sing loudly, yell gibberish. You're no longer attractive to them if they think you've lost it. If it's a situation where you're alone, then the only ones who will see you are potential creeps, and your safety is more important than a moment of embarrassment.
And carry a fork. If they're still going after you after that display, hold it up, thank the Lord for the meal you're about to receive...and then charge with a smile on your face. Works surprisingly well. If that still doesn't work, a fork still makes a surprisingly good stabbing tool if you're aiming for the face.
I've got one that I shared with my daughter: Do not go to a party by yourself where they are drinking alcohol. Always have one or more friends, and no one should be left at the party by herself -- especially if she is drunk. . . . When I was in high school decades ago, a girl that I knew of -- she was in my Econ class -- passed out at a party where she was taken advantage of by five boys. . . . She was never the same in all the time I knew her. She went from a happy, vivacious girl to sad, sullen, and depressed -- every day.
@3243_ , yeah, I think about her from time to time. I hope she eventually recovered. . . . My daughter heeded my advice, she later told me. She and her friends looked after each other. No one ever got left behind.
@@lilypieeeeeee Yeah, but those are just the boys and men that talked about it. Men are told not to share things like that because it's "not manly" I feel bad for them. Women get a lot more support for this kind of stuff.
My personal tips from traveling alone as a woman: 1) to not be oblivious to your surroundings by listening to loud music with your headphones. Especially if there are a whole bunch of bushes in the area. I’ve heard stories locally of women getting snagged for that unfortunately and it was a very public park. 2) Also, always know that the thumb is the weakest part of the hand. If he grabs you by the wrist just pull against it. No matter how beefy the guy is he can’t hold onto that. You may have to twist around and be creative but he’ll either lose his grip or break his own thumb if you do it right. It was one of the first things my instructor taught me in Taekwondo. 3) if you know you are being followed just walk into the nearest establishment. Does not matter the type of office/store/restaurant. Just mention the situation and anyone would understand. 4) never look lost even when you are. 5) don’t acknowledge them if they are harassing you or look them in the eye. 6) keep your pimp hand strong. Don’t be afraid to go knuckles out. Always go for the family jewels, eyes, or their respiratory system if you have to fight back. Basically anything that slows them down. 7) because I see this a lot. Do not tuck your thumb into your hand when you punch. You will break your thumb. 8) last but not least. Always be vague with giving out personal details. Don’t mention you are alone and don’t mention where you are staying at.
@@mspotato4689 yep! Even if they don't have accessories, though, punching it or twisting it should also stun them for a moment as ears are pretty sensitive.
@@mspotato4689 Don't be scared to be brutal scream and be loud as possible, kick them in the balls HARD when there stun always I swear it hurts alot making them drop to there knees give you time to run blind them or stab them in the eye(no matter the object use anything), rip or pull accessory out there bodies like piercings If they have one bite, scratch A chunk of flesh has deep as possible to leave mark and dna in your nails Don't put weapon in purse cause men can be ruthless and fast have it easily accessable by a swift of your hands taser, pepper spray or loud alarm has accessories in like your phone or case to make it look like a regular item and your harmless or a loud police alarm speaker Act crazy and psycho, take a lipsstick or something to draw and smear/draw all over your face scream LOUD If being followed in crowd, ask someone fast to pretend to be your boyfriend That's all I have stay save
As a man teenager, this is one of the saddest things ever. I try to always offer to friends (which most are girls) if they need a walk or ride home or something
I had such a scary experience the other day... I went into a small phone repair store with my mom because she had dropped her phone and she had to get her screen replaced, while we were waiting in the store, I caught one of the employees first taking pictures of my face, and then of my body, at first I didn't want to say anything because I didn't know what would happen if I did, but I decided to tell my mom, she then asked the guy if he was taking pictures of me and asked to see his phone, but he deleted everything before he let her check... But even though he deleted everything, we still contacted the police and child protective services, the guy got fired, and they will be deporting him next week (he flew over from India and he lives here illegally, because he hasn't signed any papers or anything) please be careful out there and don't be afraid to use your voice❤️
I always remind myself to yell “fire” because more people are likely to run over and help. I also always walk with my keys between my knucles, even if I’m feeling like it’s a safe neighborhood. Bad guys can wander into a good neighborhood.
@@daninielleno, i think their point is, when you yell "FIRE!!" more people are going to come to where they heard the voice (and the voice came from you) so they will see you in danger or smth and are most likely to help
Didn’t realize how scary it must be to be a woman sometimes. I am a large man and I walk fast. One time I was walking at night at my usual fast pace and there was a woman ahead of me who kept looking back and then just booked it. it took me a minute to realize she probably thought I was a predator. A) this is depressing that this is the vibe I put out. And B) made me realize how scary it must be to be a woman alone at night. I bought my girlfriend some pepper spray. Situational awareness is key also and If you are on a date or something tell people where you will be and with who And always trust your gut if something feels off.
@@rose9266x I don’t blame your parents for being concerned. unfortunately bad people exist in the world but you gotta live your life. you just have to be aware of the people and situations around you. don’t keep your nose buried in your cell phone if you’re walking around by yourself. That is like having a big target on you even if someone is just looking to steal your purse or something. usually if you are paying enough attention you can get a sense of somebody’s body language and if someone seems like they’re watching you they may have ill intentions. Like my dad used to say there’s only two people in this world I trust. one of them is me and the other one is not you. Stay safe.
@Michael Roche okay I understand but usually I trust people easily. If someone is kind to me or a guy will say I am attractive I am like omg he is so kind. I think that's getting a problem. I can't reject people because I don't want to make others sad. Also I feel really insecure and I think I will never meet a good guy
@@rose9266x yeah I get it I’ve always been a people pleaser too but you have to know when to be nice and when to be not nice. if someone gives you a compliment but then starts making you uncomfortable you Gotta be assertive. you don’t owe anybody anything just because you got a compliment. It’s OK to want what you want and not what you don’t want. as for feeling insecure, everybody deep down feels insecure. I take comfort in knowing that everyone inside feels that way. The way to build confidence is to find your passion in life and what makes you happy and try to master those things. push yourself to try new things that take you out of your comfort zone. surround yourself with quality people and people that you admire that can help elevate your life. Once you find your path all the pieces just start falling into place. You start to understand who you are as a person and what you want in a partner. and usually when you’re not even looking is when you will find love. Be present and stay in the moment. I spent half my life worrying about things in the future that never came to be.
@Michael Roche yeah true I should'nt trust everyone but I am just so insecure that if I'll wait for the right guy to come, I will end up alone because I don't think I don't deserve a good guy. I believe in real love but I think I will never find my own real love because I just think I am disgusting and not worth it. I can't imagine a guy wants me as his girlfriend :(
It’s kinda sad that girls need this, few years back I was walking back from a lecture and it was dark and raining, I was in a rush to get back so I walked quickly past a girl, who I was walking behind, girl genuinely looked terrified, really kinda made me think about some of the stuff women go through
tip for ubers: if youre waiting for an uber and you think someone is claiming to be your driver, *DO NOT* ask "are you my uber" if they are trying do to something bad to you, they will say yes. instead say "who are you waiting for?" stay safe everyone
Girls walking alone tend to look down or pretend to be on their phone to avoid eye contact. Don't do that! Lift your head up! Look around, make eye contact with if you have to, it's better to know EXACTLY what is happening in your immediate vicinity than to try and be as unobtrusive as possible
No, ladies. Don’t tell them it’s your boyfriends apartment. Tell them it’s your Fathers apartment. Trust me, from my experience they want to ‘meet the boyfriend’, but if they think it’s your Dad, they’ll run a mile. Doesn’t matter if you don’t have a father, just say whatever you can to get these creeps away from you!
exactly. ive had guys still try to get me to ride their car even if im literally holding hands with my current partner at that time. there are really people who do not care whether youre taken or not.
Bingo! Also telling them “it’s my boyfriends apartment” could cause them to get very angry. You’re already dealing with someone who thought it was “okay” to FOLLOW you home. telling them you are also seeing someone else could definitely add more tension to the situation instead of diffuse it. I agree that saying it’s your fathers place is a much safer call.
As a girl who lives in a pretty bad part of town, I also have a tip that has saved me countless of times at night: street lamps are your closest friends. Sometimes, you might be a bit scared to check behind your back. Don't worry about it. If you still need to check, look at the shadows. If you see any shadow other than yours, enter any type of store. Some staff might be willing to help you. Look specifically for other women. Another thing that helps with this situation, but during the day, is sunglasses. If you feel like you're being followed, pretend to wipe/clean your sunglasses and then lift them up. In the reflection, you can see if you're being followed. If someone is behind you, they'll think you're just checking to see if the smudge came off.
@@zekybg that they have the potential to cause serious harm (because they do). There's no way to tell which men are predatory and which ones aren't, so women have to protect themselves the same way around all men.
As a male who was raped as a kid while walking home from school twice, I feel as though you should make it clear that this isn’t something that just girls should worry about. This is a problem that everyone can experience, not just girls.
this is completely valid, ik she said it for women n stuff bc of the fact it’s SO much more common, but there is no doubt that it happens to men as well. i do agree w what u said and i am soo soo sorry u had to go through that
See hears the thing, your feelings are completely valid, and men do unfortunately. the real problem is that 90% of women have probably been harassed or SA but not many men, but those who have, are still victims of SA even if they are men. This video was probably more so targeted to young girls because most younger girls are, on social media, AND are unfortunately more 'appealing' to predators. I am so sorry to hear that stuff like this has also happened to you, man or woman.
Your experience is valid and obviously any videos like this are free for you to view whether you're a woman or not. This is a woman's channel and it's geared towards women, even though anyone can take advice and inspiration from her videos.
I’m sorry to hear that. If you can, try to use anything you can find like keys, pens, books, to protect yourself. I don’t mean to be rude, but I think your mom should get educated about this and how can you possibly ignore your own safety?!? I hope you stay safe
Thank you for these! Im in my second year of middle school, (last year was virtual) and am supposed to walk to school now, I’ve been looking for safety tips just in case!
@@lightsummer-roblox6938 don't worry. It's the same for most people in this comment section. But they're just trying to act as if they're living in some action movie when in reality if you're aren't actually trained to kill someone you either going to run or get a critical and run.
@@lightsummer-roblox6938 1.you don't know your future if u might get kidnapped or not 2. Dont call yourself ugly, like come on girl u know better and no one is ugly just the people who are mean,selfish,fake,betrayed you,bully, just these people who have ugly personalities are the people who are ugly. I don't know u and never saw ur face but your not ugly u know the song the song YOU DONT HAVE TO CHANGE A THING, THE WORLD CAN CHANGE ITS HEART NO SCARS YOUR BEAUTIFUL Keep that in your head Stay strong and im out peace
Many tips are more dangerous than they're helpful as they'd need a good amount of luck and / or incredible skills to work but much more likely leading towards an escalation of the situation.
Controversial: 1. Carry a weapon (e.g. mace, pepper spray, knife, gun if allowed). 2. I know it can be used against you, but that's why #2 is regularly train with your weapon(s). For example, gun handling and safety classes.
I went to university in a fairly safe suburban neighborhood and I still occasionally had girls ask me to walk them home at night. The first time this happened I was like, "Sure, I guess, but this is a pretty chill neighborhood." To which the response from every girl in earshot was, "You're a guy, you wouldn't understand"
@@ShawtyGrim but the amount of women vs men who get SA'd is not comparable. Ofc men getting raped and harrassed is horrible and should be acknowledged as well, but women are being catcalled and assaulted way more because of sexism and teaching some young men that they have the right to do anything to women without facing any consequences.
For anyone who might get attacked: If you're not strong enough or feel like you can't escape, aim for the attacker's eyes or nose. It'll blind them for a while or as y'all know how bad it hurts when you even slightly get hit on the nose, letting you escape. I was taught this by my cousin who learns martial arts.
My cousin taught me to "high five" (i don't really know how to explain) the nose if someone is attacking you, so they're confused and in pain and you can escape, because it's really easy to do and works everytime
@@dandelionbrr3801 Yes, but it can be like a back-up in case the others don't work and even just the impact can make the man suffer some pain, it doesn't need to directly hit it
I live in a area with a high crime rate my house has been broken in to twice I always keep my blinds closed and my windows locked at night. I have a night light that has an alarm and a hidden camera in it. Be safe 💓
Not really because if someone was going to do this they'd probably put alot of research into it beforehand and easily could see this video and decide to wear eye protection when they go out effectively making this video harmful
@@buckslayer5612 I think that's a bad idea. There has been so many incidents where women especially have a gun on them for safety, only for it to be used to murder them. It's a free murder weapon in the wrong hands 🤷♀️ that's why safer, not fatal options like pepper spray are far better
For the boyfriend's apartment thing, I'd actually recommend saying it's your Dad's place. Someone will more likely be intimidated by your father than your boyfriend. As far as everything else, I absolutely agree!!! Stay safe ladies! ☺️💕
And also for boys like me who neither dress fem or wear makeup anything, yet I get targeted by men for having pretty features, I can't tell you how much I have been in trouble becouse of this it's scary , stay safe everyone
as a 14 year old girl, i was followed with two of my friends who were also 14. this guy was probably in his 50s. he turned around after we got on my high school campus, and idek why he was there in the first place. people are so fucking creepy
it's such a sad thing that people can't even go out at night without the fear that something or someone will harm them. i genuinely hope that the people who did experience such terrifying acts are safe and okay
More tips: •Being oblivious to your surroundings can get you into a dangerous situation. Don't be on your phone 24/7 in a public place! •If you believe that someone is following you, watching you, or is just making you genuinely uncomfortable, don't be afraid to act psychotic. Chances are, if you start acting crazy, they'll probably not want anything to do with you. •If you're in a new setting (such as visiting a different state alone for the first time, or traveling alone, or just staying somewhere such as a hotel alone), if someone asks "is it just you visiting", "are you new here", or any question related to being new or alone to an area, say no. Say your friends/family are meeting you there, and that you're not new to the area. What seems like small talk could lead to something terrible. •If you're on a first date with someone that's making you a bit uncomfortable, but you have to se the bathroom and don't want to leave your drink unattended, don't be afraid to ask a waiter, waitress, or even a bartender to watch your drink.
I wish they had a feature on the Uber app where you could request a female driver. I feel like that would makes me a lot more relaxed to be in an Uber with a women driver.
so yk how people are telling in the comments to ask who the driver is supposed to pick up? well that could also be in case someone wanted to kidnap you. don’t forget that a woman could also kidnap u! i get what u mean but be cautious. stay safe❤
I will literally *never* go out alone at night. My friend's mum once suggested to me that I walk home since my house was just around the corner.. it was 9pm and pitch black outside, my phone was dead. I had to convince these parents (that I barely ever interact with) and argue over it to get them to call my dad to pick me up
And if you see who is following, threaten to fing gouge their eyes out, I do do that to people sometimes to get them to leave me alone, it really works
As a guy, here are two: Don’t think that because you took a lesson of some self-defense class or watched a TH-cam tutorial that you’ll somehow be able to miraculously defeat some dude who is attacking you. The last thing you need is the delusion that you can take a fight or adequately defend yourself when you actually can’t. If possible, try not to keep your personal defense item (whistle, spray, firearm, etc) in your purse. If someone snatches your purse, you don’t have access to your defense item, and even worse, they now have access to it instead. Stay safe.
Yeah ty, and btw I take martial arts defence classes, so I could still defend myself if I’m on a higher belt like red/black belt and black belt, if I have more experience. And you could also use hair spray if you don’t have pepper spray to defend yourself, I heard hairspray hurts a ton more than pepper spray.
Another tip to add to the list: The ears are very fragile! Since they're made of cartilage and thin bones, if you are forced into a struggle, grab your attacker's ear and DROP YOUR WHOLE BODY TO THE GROUND as hard as you can. This can easily tear the ear from the head.
I would say definitely follow these, but I usually feel safest with my older brother or my best guy friend. They’re always around and I know they will walk with me when needed
My mom was so scared for my safety that she put me in karate since I was 5 and now I'm a black belt so my friends literally always tell me that they feel safer when I'm with all of them
My mom is scared for me soo much that she does not let me wear clothes I like (short,tight clothes) and only lets me wear stupid baggy one so guys dont stare at me:))
One key thing that is always served me well. No matter where you are, no matter if you're lost always, ALWAYS look like you know exactly where you're going. Don't look like a victim that can be preyed upon.
Even as a man I do many of these things. I am constantly aware of my surroundings and always ready to defend myself. People are jerks. Do everything in your power to be prepared for the worst.
As a girl I feel extremely sad and terrified that in modern day society we need safety tips like these just to be safe from creeps amd strangers and it's so unfair...:(
The best one I have from personal experience: make yourself be more trouble than you are worth. Fight, kick, bite. Whatever you do, fight back. Often times they are looking for an easy grab. Fighting back will likely save your life even if you don’t actually do that much damage
Fighting back most of the times end your life and not saving you. pls stop giving stupid advices like this. You risking peoples life with this advice. Why do you want them to die?
Tell your parents to accompany you....wherever you go....never let anyone gets too close to you....if you see someone walking behind you...keep some red chilli powder or pepper spray or powder....in your bag....use your phone....have fake conversation that your dad is near and you can see him....don't go to lonely places...find females around you...or any decent looking men...stay close to them....
With the “boyfriend’s apartment” one, I’ve used that multiple times and many times the driver or whoever has straight up told me “well if we kiss/hook up before you get there he’ll never know”, that’s when I get out at the next stop sign or light.
Also another big one is be very cautious of who offers you lifts late at night. If it's uber or lyft make sure the license plate in the app matches the real one and be wary of strangers who offer rides when u know they ask you to pay by cash. Esp 4 am in the morning.
Here is a tip from a 15 year old when i have to walk 20 mins to reach home at night: -Try to walk pass ANY SHOP you can find, try to stay in the light and not in dark areas. Street lights are your friend, but not as much as lights from shops. - Walk with confidence. Do NOT show that you are scared or anxious, it shows. -If someone touches you on the shoulder, especially in public, shout at them show your anger, that will get people's attention. - If they try and call you, ignore, simple ignore them. Never look back. - If you feel like you are being stalked, enter the nearest building you can find. It DOESNOT matter what it is, just enter, tell someone about it, call someone, preferably family members. -Always keep your phone on you.
Here’s a tip: if anyone grabs your or anything press ur finger hard on their neck, they wouldn’t be able to breath that much and it would also hurt them/cause pain.
Are we assuming the assailant will just let you do that tho? They will probably grab your hand or pull away. Just pressing your single finger against their neck, no matter how hard, would just get that finger broken tbh
That made me cry because I wish I knew some of those tips a long time ago to protect myself better. Thank you for sharing those tips with us! Safety is very important!
Amazing tips and it’s astonishing how much you can make a difference! ❤ but it’s sad that we need these tips just to walk down the street 😢 but it’s great to have girls like you who are helping 😊
I'm a guy and I follow these too lol. I never bring anyone to my home until I get to know them. My personal protection is a gun, but I was in the Army for 10 years and know how to handle and use it. Always avoid dark areas at night, have access to a phone and the number 1 thing for me is always always always be aware of whats going on around you. With the walking thing I would say don't be walking alone late at night, especially in an area you aren't familiar with. Great video.
I am a guy too and these advices are very useful for me too , I am not gay yet I am targeted and forced by alot of men in my life before for having pretty features . Ty for your service in army 😄
That’s stupid. That’s like saying “it shouldn’t be ‘lock your house doors’ it should be ‘teacher children to respect everyone’”. No matter what gets taught, there are always gonna be bad people.
@Taña Nii I kinda of agree everyone should respect each other but also proctect yourself because if you teach you child to respect everyone is good but the evil people does not always listen that's why they are called evil they don't litsen to other people so always try to protect yourself!
My neighborhood has a lot of creepy people and here’s a few things I learned over the years; 1) Walk confidently. Even when you have no idea where you’re going, walk like you do until you find a safe place (preferably a store) and then check your phone for guidance. This helped me navigate in cities while traveling alone 2) Try to carry something that could be used as a weapon in an emergency: an umbrella, keys, even a full water bottle will do. 3) In case you’re driving, keep the car lights off until the doors are locked and your car is ignited 4) even if you’re in a hurry, if you have to choose between a longer but safer way, and a shorter but more dangerous path, always choose the safest option
Why should you keep the car lights off? If it's dark, it'll be just as bad for you if you don't see anyone approaching. Or am I missing something? Edit: sentence framing
Another thing when travelling alone! Never, EVER, look like you’re unfamiliar with the place even if you are. Predators will take advantage of it and tell you to go a certain way (which probably to make u even more lost and they/ their pal can catch you), or even offer to show u the way themselves (DONT). If you need to ask for a direction, ask a security, a shop attendant, restaurant servers or people who doesn’t seem too chill. Always have your self-defense tool in your hand especially at night and don’t be afraid to hurt them.
@@liza003X nah most of the time if the lights are off there is no tell if you are man or a woman and if they are following you it's better if they don't see what's inside your car or if you are actually alone or not .
I am directionally challenged person and trust me walking confidently works. Never make it obvious that you are lost or unfamiliar with the place just walk until you see a crowd or a well lighted place. Be calm but vigilant.
Also - teach your sons as soon as possible about consent, respect and personal boundaries. It's important for future men to be better. ***So.. a lot of people jumping on my comment saying I'm "targeting men", I'm literally responding to a video about how women often have to take extra precautions in order to keep themselves safe (statistically, from men more than other women). My original comment wasn't a "dig" at men, it was an observation on how we can and should help future men to be better to others _and_ to themselves. Chill.***
My son is only 2.5 and I've already started saying when "someone says no, you need to respect that. If they say stop, you stop." It's usually to do with him being a rascal bum, but I'm hoping the lesson will sink into his subconscious and it'll translate into other things as he gets older.
This is what I'm trying to teach my son. He's only 7 months old but I've been teaching him about consent and boundaries since birth. And don't forget about teaching boys that they can consent, too. I know plenty of men and boys who have been SAd as well as women
@Eleanor Murgatroy ikr. I'm a pre-teen and there was a creepy guy in an underpass catcalling me and trying to grab my ankles. He then told my mother who was yelling at him he 'wants to marry me'
@@no_namegkjhfkashfkdshflkjdashf Yeah I'm the same with my son, he's 7 years old now but is very respectful and aware of others boundaries, as well as having strong ones of his own.
Here’s some of mine. 1. Make a necklace with a whistle on it. That way it’s easily accessible, and guys can’t see it from the back. 2. Wear strong shoes. Doc Marten boots/shoes are my personal favorite. You can run, but since they are also steel toed, if a man tries to grab you just kick him in the balls, it will hurt. 3. If it’s a sunny day, or you’re just able to see your shadow, look at it. Others shadows will come up to, and you can potentially see if someone is behind you or running up to you so if you don’t know them you have somewhat of a head start. 4. If possible, join the band. Like seriously. And get a trombone. These things are big, potential weapon cases, weigh you down so you’re harder to carry, plus you’re in a band and it’s fun to play. 5. If the unfortunate thing happens, and you know you’re about to get kidnapped, call 911. If you cannot talk, hide your phone anywhere possible no matter what. This will ping your local cell towers, making it easy to locate you.
hello, i have a question about number 5, so like, after I call 911, I'll just leave my phone somewhere as long as it's kinda close to me and the police will still find me?
@@iicaryin if you're too scared to talk just leave the phone on the lowest volume so you don't further aggravate the potential assailant and the operator can still hear a struggle and then send police to your location. You can also talk to the assailant while dropping hints about your location "so you think you can attack me in a park?" The operator can see your general location from the cell tower your phone is connected to and then they just look around for a park to get your location faster
For the boys: please avoid walking behind girls/women for a long period of time at night. If you notice that you’ve been walking behind somebody for a few minutes maybe just chill at the sidewalk for 2 or 3 minutes Edit: I just want to clarify, that I’m not telling anyone what to do. I just wanted to give other men who are willing to make small sacrifices for other people another way of doing that. Maybe my wording “please avoid[…]” was a bit wrong… sorry about that
@@miketurd6497 “being treated as criminals” is a bit exaggerated isn’t it. It’s not a huge problem to stay where you are for 2 minutes if you ask me. I mean I just think it would be nice if guys would avoid scaring women. Because women are scared of being raped and rightfully so. This whole thing is not about treating men like criminals - it’s about encouraging men to be more careful and maybe making just a small compromise for other people’s well being. I hope you understand
Dude i have this fear man. I can't walk behind girls. It's just like a weird feeling. I would walk faster and go pass them or I'll walk slowly. If they're slow too, I'd just wait for a few minutes
@@bobsaget338 I wasn’t trying to convince rapists, murderers, etc. to change, I’m just trying to raise awareness and make a little suggestion for people who are willing to do something for other people (even if it’s late at nights). “If you’re not one of them (for whatever reason) that’s also ok” is basically what I was trying to say with my last comment. As I said, it was just a suggestion.
also: try to learn how to do one good front kick / weak spots to hit someone in case of emergency. Diaphragm is right under ribcage, and that can knock the wind out of someone really easily.
This is great advice. I do a martial arts and punches are usually under the nose and above the mouth (between the nose and mouth) it may seem to not do much but that part is super sensitive and it’ll give you time to get help or call the police!
@@mrcobblepot1116 although this is Linda good advice as well, even if you just run they will just run after you. If you at least hit them then run you’ll have a better chance of getting away.
It's awful that girls need to hear this and need to know how to protect themselves because they should be safe but unfortunately there are bad people who don't agree with that so It's great that we have people like her who can help them know what to do/ how to avoid certain situations.
@@Rylanha I didn't mean that men didn't experience things like that, I just wanted to emphasise the fact that women are targeted more and aren't taken as seriously when they open up about things that have happened to them.
@Keep calm in the other comment section, you were calling someone paranoid, but now you’re annoyed that this video doesn’t include guys? make up your mind.
@@turtle7039 Actually I strongly disagree with your last point there. I feel like women are taken MUCH more seriously compared to men. I mean, unproven rape accusations have ruined countless mens’ lives simply because women are always taken seriously with accusations like that. Now I ask you, would you take it as seriously if a guy told you he got raped by a woman? Probably not.
@@erlingnesbakken9871 I absolutely would take it seriously, rape is not okay on any level, to any one, no matter what the circumstances. I'm not saying that things that happen to women are worse than men or vice versa, I was simply just saying that ad things happen to people who don't necessarily deserve it ( and the video was talking about women's safety, so that's how I worded it). I agree that it isn't just women who these things happen to and that men are shut down for opening up about those types of situations they've been in, but women are still put down for these things and told that they're over reacting (which doesn't just happen to them). I did word my comment generally gender neutrally, it was just that the video was about these incidents happening to women, so that's how I started it off. I hope that makes some form of sense?
I really wanna take self defence classes cause I dont feel safe walking at might but my mom is just saying I'm crazy for being scared and tells me just to wear something "safe"
My father’s a person with “no emotion’s” but once he said to his friend: “ I might have no emotions, but if someone even thinks of doing something to my daughters..”
I think that every situation is different and you can never be 100% prepared but the important thing is trying to make the best decision for you in that moment, my tips are : 1) Don't let people memorize your routine, always change it, if you are in school or you work don't always leave your house the same time and change road and sometimes take the bus, train, uber like don't be predictable. 2) avoid walking alone at night as much as you can, you see a group of people walking walk with them. 3) try to park close to where you are hanging out, the closer the safer and don't offer no ride to stranger even if they make you feel awkward, bcs most of the times girls don't say no bcs they are afraid of embarrassment or hurting that person's feelings, 4) don't be afraid to make a scene and if you can run just run don't look back cause you have the advantage that person doesn't know where you are running to, you can make a turn at anytime 5) my final tip is trust your gut believe me we feel it but most of the time we ignore it so be paranoid and safe better than act proper and be in hell, stay safe out there and also this happen to men too so everyone be safe out there
It's incredible that we have to do these things because someone wants to do something to you. Everyone says they want a better world and a safer place but they never say these things and many people have been through this and unfortunately many people have lost their lives. For example, a boy can go ALONE at night walking very calmly and WHY girls always have to be alert.
*People always say “protect your daughters” but don’t say “teach your children to respect everyone.”*
You know there are women who pull up to elementary schools and steal young boys… what people should be saying is children should be protected regardless of their gender
@Lucanious Petrenko Hun you missed my entire point. I KNOW FOR A FACT that everyone steals everyone but what I’m saying that if we raise ALL of our children to respect everyone (unless they disrespect you) and just be a good person in general. We wouldn’t need to protect them from stranger danger.
@@DKzCoolD2 If everyone was raised right we wouldn’t have to protect them from “stranger danger.”
@@HarryPotter-hd7dr agreed!
Monsters are gonna be monsters and we need to.accept that people are evil and learn how to protect ourselves
"Trust your gut"
My gut: Ayo- we should get some snacks.
Definitely trust it, then
@@dariadaniellemusic DIRECTIONER!?
@@bethabera5893 YES HBU
@@dariadaniellemusic I AM!!
@@Liz32 YES I'VE FOUND MY PEOPLE
When u get in an Uber don’t ask”are u my Uber”ask “Who are you picking up?”
this is so true. ask them who the Uber is for, because if they’re not the real Uber, they won’t know your name. this is a good tip, I know this, and I wouldn’t have remembered to comment it, so I’m glad you did.
instead check the Car number.
simple
@@zr123m the asking way is not rocket science either. it’s pretty simple too, both ways work.
also sorry if I sounded rude lol. but yes - both ways work
You shouldn’t have to ask if that’s you Uber driver…you need to confirm it is yourself by looking at license plate and car type…duh
@@endofquoterepeattheline7516 um?? read all the comments, not just the main one before commenting yourself.
She literally gives elder sister vibes I love her sm for this 💗
Yes
I don't got one I'm actually the oldest ☠️☠️☠️
I'm a guy
@@soulcraft6334 Samee I'm the oldest one and I don't have any older siblings. Sometimes we need someone to look up to but it's sad how people tell us to be mature and strong from a very young age
@@soulcraft6334 Same here I'm the oldest. No vibes on trouble.
I just enjoy her content. She is not a beauty
Also, don't be afraid to look weird. If you're alone at night and you think someone is following you, the best thing to do is act wild. Spin in circles, giggle at nothing, sing loudly, yell gibberish. You're no longer attractive to them if they think you've lost it. If it's a situation where you're alone, then the only ones who will see you are potential creeps, and your safety is more important than a moment of embarrassment.
✨✨😍 True.
Really a useful tip.
And carry a fork. If they're still going after you after that display, hold it up, thank the Lord for the meal you're about to receive...and then charge with a smile on your face. Works surprisingly well.
If that still doesn't work, a fork still makes a surprisingly good stabbing tool if you're aiming for the face.
Ah just act like jinx
I think barking at people is the best way.
Pick your nose and start puking. I've done it.
My big one - everyone who arrives together leaves together. Don't let your girl stay behind at a party or club
But guys are and are way more likely to be assaulted tho
@@micahkinggodgodself323 yeah, assaulted by other guys. 🤦♀️
but still all of these tips work for guys too
@@Bella-zn8nq Not the 1st one and she literally says it's for girls
@@Bella-zn8nq No somtimes it is girls too
@@micahkinggodgodself323 y los hombres que y los hombres que y los hombres que y los hombres que y los hombres que y los hombres que
I've got one that I shared with my daughter: Do not go to a party by yourself where they are drinking alcohol. Always have one or more friends, and no one should be left at the party by herself -- especially if she is drunk. . . . When I was in high school decades ago, a girl that I knew of -- she was in my Econ class -- passed out at a party where she was taken advantage of by five boys. . . . She was never the same in all the time I knew her. She went from a happy, vivacious girl to sad, sullen, and depressed -- every day.
Yes I agree. Atleast 5 people
I'm so sorry that happened to her (or anyone). May she be comforted and healed.
@3243_ , yeah, I think about her from time to time. I hope she eventually recovered. . . . My daughter heeded my advice, she later told me. She and her friends looked after each other. No one ever got left behind.
@@matthewmcdermit8744 I'm glad she heeded your advice.
CAN BE LEFT ALONE BY HERSELF ,BUT NOT AT ALL IF THEY ARE DRUNK
*people are like “protect your daughters!” When it should be like “teach your son manners!”*
Its should be "Protect your kids"
Men are 80% more likley to be assaulted.
@@alantennent6576I think you have your stats wrong tho. Sex trafficker survivors or 98% women and little girls and 2% boys and men
The armed robbers in Chicago won't care 🤣 they don't even get arrested anyway. Thanks Democrats.
@@lilypieeeeeeeWhat stats?💀 Little boys and men are way more assaulted
@@lilypieeeeeee
Yeah, but those are just the boys and men that talked about it. Men are told not to share things like that because it's "not manly" I feel bad for them. Women get a lot more support for this kind of stuff.
My personal tips from traveling alone as a woman:
1) to not be oblivious to your surroundings by listening to loud music with your headphones. Especially if there are a whole bunch of bushes in the area. I’ve heard stories locally of women getting snagged for that unfortunately and it was a very public park.
2) Also, always know that the thumb is the weakest part of the hand. If he grabs you by the wrist just pull against it. No matter how beefy the guy is he can’t hold onto that. You may have to twist around and be creative but he’ll either lose his grip or break his own thumb if you do it right. It was one of the first things my instructor taught me in Taekwondo.
3) if you know you are being followed just walk into the nearest establishment. Does not matter the type of office/store/restaurant. Just mention the situation and anyone would understand.
4) never look lost even when you are.
5) don’t acknowledge them if they are harassing you or look them in the eye.
6) keep your pimp hand strong. Don’t be afraid to go knuckles out. Always go for the family jewels, eyes, or their respiratory system if you have to fight back. Basically anything that slows them down.
7) because I see this a lot. Do not tuck your thumb into your hand when you punch. You will break your thumb.
8) last but not least. Always be vague with giving out personal details. Don’t mention you are alone and don’t mention where you are staying at.
The ears are a good target too.
@@mochiinuo yep if they have any accessories there, pulling it quickly and forcefully will rip it off and injure their ear badly.
@@mspotato4689 yep! Even if they don't have accessories, though, punching it or twisting it should also stun them for a moment as ears are pretty sensitive.
@@mspotato4689
Don't be scared to be brutal
scream and be loud as possible, kick them in the balls HARD when there stun always I swear it hurts alot making them drop to there knees give you time to run
blind them or stab them in the eye(no matter the object use anything), rip or pull accessory out there bodies like piercings
If they have one
bite, scratch A chunk of flesh has deep as possible to leave mark and dna in your nails
Don't put weapon in purse cause men can be ruthless and fast have it easily accessable by a swift of your hands taser, pepper spray or loud alarm has accessories in like your phone or case to make it look like a regular item and your harmless or a loud police alarm speaker
Act crazy and psycho, take a lipsstick or something to draw and smear/draw all over your face scream LOUD
If being followed in crowd, ask someone fast to pretend to be your boyfriend
That's all I have stay save
@@WinniePooh33 yep thank you,, u stay safe too
As a man teenager, this is one of the saddest things ever. I try to always offer to friends (which most are girls) if they need a walk or ride home or something
That's really nice of you ! Helping them avoid some serious problems
God bless you
Your a good man. Continue on your life good sir
We need more men like you. 👏👏👏
I’m sorry man I feel u
I had such a scary experience the other day... I went into a small phone repair store with my mom because she had dropped her phone and she had to get her screen replaced, while we were waiting in the store, I caught one of the employees first taking pictures of my face, and then of my body, at first I didn't want to say anything because I didn't know what would happen if I did, but I decided to tell my mom, she then asked the guy if he was taking pictures of me and asked to see his phone, but he deleted everything before he let her check... But even though he deleted everything, we still contacted the police and child protective services, the guy got fired, and they will be deporting him next week (he flew over from India and he lives here illegally, because he hasn't signed any papers or anything) please be careful out there and don't be afraid to use your voice❤️
thats a wild story
I always remind myself to yell “fire” because more people are likely to run over and help.
I also always walk with my keys between my knucles, even if I’m feeling like it’s a safe neighborhood. Bad guys can wander into a good neighborhood.
Why would they run to the fire?..
@@daninielleno, i think their point is, when you yell "FIRE!!" more people are going to come to where they heard the voice (and the voice came from you) so they will see you in danger or smth and are most likely to help
Didn’t realize how scary it must be to be a woman sometimes. I am a large man and I walk fast. One time I was walking at night at my usual fast pace and there was a woman ahead of me who kept looking back and then just booked it. it took me a minute to realize she probably thought I was a predator. A) this is depressing that this is the vibe I put out. And B) made me realize how scary it must be to be a woman alone at night. I bought my girlfriend some pepper spray. Situational awareness is key also and If you are on a date or something tell people where you will be and with who And always trust your gut if something feels off.
@Michael Roche I am not even allowed to go out alone at night. I think my parents are scared or smth even tho I am totally not
@@rose9266x I don’t blame your parents for being concerned. unfortunately bad people exist in the world but you gotta live your life. you just have to be aware of the people and situations around you. don’t keep your nose buried in your cell phone if you’re walking around by yourself. That is like having a big target on you even if someone is just looking to steal your purse or something. usually if you are paying enough attention you can get a sense of somebody’s body language and if someone seems like they’re watching you they may have ill intentions. Like my dad used to say there’s only two people in this world I trust. one of them is me and the other one is not you. Stay safe.
@Michael Roche okay I understand but usually I trust people easily. If someone is kind to me or a guy will say I am attractive I am like omg he is so kind. I think that's getting a problem. I can't reject people because I don't want to make others sad. Also I feel really insecure and I think I will never meet a good guy
@@rose9266x yeah I get it I’ve always been a people pleaser too but you have to know when to be nice and when to be not nice. if someone gives you a compliment but then starts making you uncomfortable you Gotta be assertive. you don’t owe anybody anything just because you got a compliment. It’s OK to want what you want and not what you don’t want.
as for feeling insecure, everybody deep down feels insecure. I take comfort in knowing that everyone inside feels that way. The way to build confidence is to find your passion in life and what makes you happy and try to master those things. push yourself to try new things that take you out of your comfort zone. surround yourself with quality people and people that you admire that can help elevate your life. Once you find your path all the pieces just start falling into place. You start to understand who you are as a person and what you want in a partner. and usually when you’re not even looking is when you will find love. Be present and stay in the moment. I spent half my life worrying about things in the future that never came to be.
@Michael Roche yeah true I should'nt trust everyone but I am just so insecure that if I'll wait for the right guy to come, I will end up alone because I don't think I don't deserve a good guy. I believe in real love but I think I will never find my own real love because I just think I am disgusting and not worth it. I can't imagine a guy wants me as his girlfriend :(
It’s kinda sad that girls need this, few years back I was walking back from a lecture and it was dark and raining, I was in a rush to get back so I walked quickly past a girl, who I was walking behind, girl genuinely looked terrified, really kinda made me think about some of the stuff women go through
We need more people like u
Ikr because of these things i can't go out even in the morning 😔
@Busch light I understand what you mean but you do realize that you accidently called the person who wrote this comment ugly lol 😂
@Busch light actually personally I’m scared of guys I find attractive too. Sometimes more than ugly guys. That might just be me tho
@Busch light no i don't think that's how it works bro💀
tip for ubers:
if youre waiting for an uber and you think someone is claiming to be your driver, *DO NOT* ask "are you my uber" if they are trying do to something bad to you, they will say yes.
instead say "who are you waiting for?"
stay safe everyone
Girls walking alone tend to look down or pretend to be on their phone to avoid eye contact. Don't do that! Lift your head up! Look around, make eye contact with if you have to, it's better to know EXACTLY what is happening in your immediate vicinity than to try and be as unobtrusive as possible
but then i’ll get kidnapped
No, ladies. Don’t tell them it’s your boyfriends apartment.
Tell them it’s your Fathers apartment. Trust me, from my experience they want to ‘meet the boyfriend’, but if they think it’s your Dad, they’ll run a mile. Doesn’t matter if you don’t have a father, just say whatever you can to get these creeps away from you!
exactly. ive had guys still try to get me to ride their car even if im literally holding hands with my current partner at that time. there are really people who do not care whether youre taken or not.
@@pterocardio ugh, gross! Some people honestly 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️
Bingo! Also telling them “it’s my boyfriends apartment” could cause them to get very angry. You’re already dealing with someone who thought it was “okay” to FOLLOW you home. telling them you are also seeing someone else could definitely add more tension to the situation instead of diffuse it. I agree that saying it’s your fathers place is a much safer call.
@@itscharliebee2307 thank u somebody that’s not brain dead
Thats a very smart thing cause fathers are loving but somtimes they can be the deadliest person not to mess with.
As a girl who lives in a pretty bad part of town, I also have a tip that has saved me countless of times at night: street lamps are your closest friends. Sometimes, you might be a bit scared to check behind your back. Don't worry about it. If you still need to check, look at the shadows. If you see any shadow other than yours, enter any type of store. Some staff might be willing to help you. Look specifically for other women.
Another thing that helps with this situation, but during the day, is sunglasses. If you feel like you're being followed, pretend to wipe/clean your sunglasses and then lift them up. In the reflection, you can see if you're being followed. If someone is behind you, they'll think you're just checking to see if the smudge came off.
Thank u for this, very helpful!
Great tips thank you!
i wear glasses, dont think this will work in the dark without much reflection
What the fuck do Girls think of Men
@@zekybg that they have the potential to cause serious harm (because they do). There's no way to tell which men are predatory and which ones aren't, so women have to protect themselves the same way around all men.
As a male who was raped as a kid while walking home from school twice, I feel as though you should make it clear that this isn’t something that just girls should worry about. This is a problem that everyone can experience, not just girls.
this is completely valid, ik she said it for women n stuff bc of the fact it’s SO much more common, but there is no doubt that it happens to men as well. i do agree w what u said and i am soo soo sorry u had to go through that
See hears the thing, your feelings are completely valid, and men do unfortunately. the real problem is that 90% of women have probably been harassed or SA but not many men, but those who have, are still victims of SA even if they are men. This video was probably more so targeted to young girls because most younger girls are, on social media, AND are unfortunately more 'appealing' to predators. I am so sorry to hear that stuff like this has also happened to you, man or woman.
Feel bad for u
@@user-hr5pt5dr8ilots of men are victim of SA as well. They just dont say it and society expects them to be happy with it💀
Your experience is valid and obviously any videos like this are free for you to view whether you're a woman or not. This is a woman's channel and it's geared towards women, even though anyone can take advice and inspiration from her videos.
My mom won’t let me have self defense weapons or be aggressive she tells me just to ignore it
I’m sorry to hear that. If you can, try to use anything you can find like keys, pens, books, to protect yourself. I don’t mean to be rude, but I think your mom should get educated about this and how can you possibly ignore your own safety?!? I hope you stay safe
Thank you for these! Im in my second year of middle school, (last year was virtual) and am supposed to walk to school now, I’ve been looking for safety tips just in case!
can relate to this, we appreciate her.
I agree I'm in third year
I’m in my first year 😀
@Tessa Aurora SAME BESTIE
same❤️
*i love this comment section so much, I'm learning a lot from you guys and its so wholesome to see people helping each other out!*
Idk i feel like I wouldn't get kidnapped unless its for me organs cuz I'm ugly-
@@lightsummer-roblox6938 don't worry. It's the same for most people in this comment section. But they're just trying to act as if they're living in some action movie when in reality if you're aren't actually trained to kill someone you either going to run or get a critical and run.
@@lightsummer-roblox6938 1.you don't know your future if u might get kidnapped or not
2. Dont call yourself ugly, like come on girl u know better and no one is ugly just the people who are mean,selfish,fake,betrayed you,bully, just these people who have ugly personalities are the people who are ugly. I don't know u and never saw ur face but your not ugly u know the song the song YOU DONT HAVE TO CHANGE A THING, THE WORLD CAN CHANGE ITS HEART NO SCARS YOUR BEAUTIFUL
Keep that in your head
Stay strong and im out peace
I mostly see people saying: just attack them.
Many tips are more dangerous than they're helpful as they'd need a good amount of luck and / or incredible skills to work but much more likely leading towards an escalation of the situation.
Controversial:
1. Carry a weapon (e.g. mace, pepper spray, knife, gun if allowed).
2. I know it can be used against you, but that's why #2 is regularly train with your weapon(s). For example, gun handling and safety classes.
I went to university in a fairly safe suburban neighborhood and I still occasionally had girls ask me to walk them home at night. The first time this happened I was like, "Sure, I guess, but this is a pretty chill neighborhood." To which the response from every girl in earshot was, "You're a guy, you wouldn't understand"
Uh... boys get sa too???
@@ShawtyGrim but the amount of women vs men who get SA'd is not comparable. Ofc men getting raped and harrassed is horrible and should be acknowledged as well, but women are being catcalled and assaulted way more because of sexism and teaching some young men that they have the right to do anything to women without facing any consequences.
@@trisglldld6634 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼so well said
@@trisglldld6634 true, I still think those girls are terrible people smh
@@dani_drawzz . - .
For anyone who might get attacked:
If you're not strong enough or feel like you can't escape, aim for the attacker's eyes or nose. It'll blind them for a while or as y'all know how bad it hurts when you even slightly get hit on the nose, letting you escape. I was taught this by my cousin who learns martial arts.
My cousin taught me to "high five" (i don't really know how to explain) the nose if someone is attacking you, so they're confused and in pain and you can escape, because it's really easy to do and works everytime
Also, if the attacker is a man, you can kick their balls if you can
Going for the balls may not work since this type of atttack is easy to predict and the man could have some protective pants or sormthing like that
@@dandelionbrr3801 yeah but I was talking about the eyes and nose. It might work since those are some delicate parts and hurts like hell
@@dandelionbrr3801 Yes, but it can be like a back-up in case the others don't work and even just the impact can make the man suffer some pain, it doesn't need to directly hit it
What I do 😭
1: Self defense
2: Self Defense is all I Need
I live in a area with a high crime rate my house has been broken in to twice I always keep my blinds closed and my windows locked at night. I have a night light that has an alarm and a hidden camera in it. Be safe 💓
I love how the comment section is filled with extra tips like thankyou so much ladies you're literally saving a life rn!!!!
Not really because if someone was going to do this they'd probably put alot of research into it beforehand and easily could see this video and decide to wear eye protection when they go out effectively making this video harmful
Extra safety tip get your concealed Cary license if your in America there is no reason not to be armed
@@buckslayer5612 I think that's a bad idea. There has been so many incidents where women especially have a gun on them for safety, only for it to be used to murder them.
It's a free murder weapon in the wrong hands 🤷♀️ that's why safer, not fatal options like pepper spray are far better
For the boyfriend's apartment thing, I'd actually recommend saying it's your Dad's place. Someone will more likely be intimidated by your father than your boyfriend. As far as everything else, I absolutely agree!!! Stay safe ladies! ☺️💕
but that doesn't work as well when you grow older
or your older brother’s
Fun fact, not only for young girls! As a boy (who loves to wear feminine clothing) these safety tips have saved me many times (◕‿◕)♡
cool, a femboy
And also for boys like me who neither dress fem or wear makeup anything, yet I get targeted by men for having pretty features, I can't tell you how much I have been in trouble becouse of this it's scary , stay safe everyone
as a 14 year old girl, i was followed with two of my friends who were also 14. this guy was probably in his 50s. he turned around after we got on my high school campus, and idek why he was there in the first place. people are so fucking creepy
it's such a sad thing that people can't even go out at night without the fear that something or someone will harm them. i genuinely hope that the people who did experience such terrifying acts are safe and okay
I'm always having this fear literally
Thats life cry about it
Bruh it's the night you want angels coming out greeting you?
@@thecatthatateaflyinduoling2513 LMAO nah I want human decency 💀
@@tencen7121 yeah probs santa will remember that next year 💀🤣
More tips:
•Being oblivious to your surroundings can get you into a dangerous situation. Don't be on your phone 24/7 in a public place!
•If you believe that someone is following you, watching you, or is just making you genuinely uncomfortable, don't be afraid to act psychotic. Chances are, if you start acting crazy, they'll probably not want anything to do with you.
•If you're in a new setting (such as visiting a different state alone for the first time, or traveling alone, or just staying somewhere such as a hotel alone), if someone asks "is it just you visiting", "are you new here", or any question related to being new or alone to an area, say no. Say your friends/family are meeting you there, and that you're not new to the area. What seems like small talk could lead to something terrible.
•If you're on a first date with someone that's making you a bit uncomfortable, but you have to se the bathroom and don't want to leave your drink unattended, don't be afraid to ask a waiter, waitress, or even a bartender to watch your drink.
I wish they had a feature on the Uber app where you could request a female driver. I feel like that would makes me a lot more relaxed to be in an Uber with a women driver.
so yk how people are telling in the comments to ask who the driver is supposed to pick up? well that could also be in case someone wanted to kidnap you. don’t forget that a woman could also kidnap u! i get what u mean but be cautious. stay safe❤
I will literally *never* go out alone at night. My friend's mum once suggested to me that I walk home since my house was just around the corner.. it was 9pm and pitch black outside, my phone was dead. I had to convince these parents (that I barely ever interact with) and argue over it to get them to call my dad to pick me up
Also- if a girl (or guy) walks up to you and starts talking like they know you, play along! They might be in danger!
And if you see who is following, threaten to fing gouge their eyes out, I do do that to people sometimes to get them to leave me alone, it really works
@@sandybeehives
As a guy, here are two:
Don’t think that because you took a lesson of some self-defense class or watched a TH-cam tutorial that you’ll somehow be able to miraculously defeat some dude who is attacking you. The last thing you need is the delusion that you can take a fight or adequately defend yourself when you actually can’t.
If possible, try not to keep your personal defense item (whistle, spray, firearm, etc) in your purse. If someone snatches your purse, you don’t have access to your defense item, and even worse, they now have access to it instead.
Stay safe.
Yeah ty, and btw I take martial arts defence classes, so I could still defend myself if I’m on a higher belt like red/black belt and black belt, if I have more experience. And you could also use hair spray if you don’t have pepper spray to defend yourself, I heard hairspray hurts a ton more than pepper spray.
@@posumau I hope that’s a joke. Pepper spray is way worse! Have you been sprayed in the eyes with either? Obviously not pepper spray. Wayyyy worse!
This is so important
@@86aidan31 what about dry shampoo???
@@posumau red belt? What
Thank you this helps cus my neighborhood can be a bit dangerous because lately I’ve seen fake school buses
“Where are you going?”
“My dads house.”
the way she talks to us makes me think she’s my older cousin/sister/mom or smthn- it’s so sweet 🥺💕
Older mom
Another tip to add to the list: The ears are very fragile! Since they're made of cartilage and thin bones, if you are forced into a struggle, grab your attacker's ear and DROP YOUR WHOLE BODY TO THE GROUND as hard as you can. This can easily tear the ear from the head.
Wait what- 😀
This is..... 🤒
Edit: some comments below are wild, proceed with caution-
That sounds like fucking hell
Wtf
Whaaaaaaaaat really?
“Protect your daughters” no, teach your sons
Doesn’t work like that. Messed up people don’t just learn
Yes teach ur sons
Or both.
GIRLS SHOULD LEARN TO PROTECT THEMSELVES
@@volgax2 Indeed! in reality the saying should be "protect your children" and "teach your children how to protect themselves".
I would say definitely follow these, but I usually feel safest with my older brother or my best guy friend. They’re always around and I know they will walk with me when needed
The fact that young girls need to hear this makes me very sad.
My mom was so scared for my safety that she put me in karate since I was 5 and now I'm a black belt so my friends literally always tell me that they feel safer when I'm with all of them
I wish my parents did this that sounds like such a good idea
@@hannahholford2250 you can still start, it's never too late :)
Love ittt
My mom is scared for me soo much that she does not let me wear clothes I like (short,tight clothes) and only lets me wear stupid baggy one so guys dont stare at me:))
@@hannahholford2250 same here
when i have kids when i’m older, no matter their gender, i WILL teach them to respect everybody and give help whenever needed.
it’s so sad we actually fucking need these to survive
One key thing that is always served me well. No matter where you are, no matter if you're lost always, ALWAYS look like you know exactly where you're going. Don't look like a victim that can be preyed upon.
and alongside this, STAY OFF YOUR PHONE while you’re walking!!!
Thank you for these, I’m 13 and I have had some traumatizing experiences
I'm sorry 💔
Hold up 13 and traumatic experiences that's crazy
@@mcdream7701 yup just the crazy reality
:(
@@mcdream7701 same!
Same girl 😭
I mean for most of these they are just good tips for anyone… doesn’t matter who you are, you should still be safe
Even as a man I do many of these things. I am constantly aware of my surroundings and always ready to defend myself. People are jerks. Do everything in your power to be prepared for the worst.
I also have one, never say “is this my Uber” instead say “who are you waiting for?” Trust me
thank you for this usually i’m really scared to go in ubers alone
Or say “where are you heading?” After you ask that question
Or verify the car, color of the car, license plate, uber driver using their picture using the info given on the app (for all the introverts out there)
Yea cause they could just be a kidnapper and be like 😐 yea
Just ask the driver for some sort of ID, real employees have to identify themselves
As a girl I feel extremely sad and terrified that in modern day society we need safety tips like these just to be safe from creeps amd strangers and it's so unfair...:(
Guys gotta learn it too though lol.
@@DKzCoolD2 Yeah but this mostly affects all girls so it’s pointed to girls. But it’s completely fine to learn things if you are a boy.
@@DKzCoolD2
Yeah ofc, but for a guy it's usually during the night times. But for a girl, creeps are active even during the day
@@mirroruniverse9331 nah. You are fine during the day. A catcall cant and wont hurt you.
@@DKzCoolD2 I've been molested in daylight, so was millions of other girls/women. Your point reeks of ignorance
Your honesty like a big sister like giving advice to strangers on the Internet yes 🙌
This girl needs more respect
The best one I have from personal experience: make yourself be more trouble than you are worth. Fight, kick, bite. Whatever you do, fight back. Often times they are looking for an easy grab. Fighting back will likely save your life even if you don’t actually do that much damage
You sound like you have experience or something 🧐🧐
@@scarce3336 they literally said from their personal experience
@@basundharabasumatary3880 oh I am f*cking blind
I feel like it also depends though, cos sometimes you gotta run but sometimes your situation would work
Fighting back most of the times end your life and not saving you. pls stop giving stupid advices like this. You risking peoples life with this advice. Why do you want them to die?
I’m an 11 year old girl that walks home and I’m so grateful that there’s good people in the world like her💖
Key tip also is don't stop to talk to anyone
Are you always alone?
Im 11 too turning soon to twelve
Tell your parents to accompany you....wherever you go....never let anyone gets too close to you....if you see someone walking behind you...keep some red chilli powder or pepper spray or powder....in your bag....use your phone....have fake conversation that your dad is near and you can see him....don't go to lonely places...find females around you...or any decent looking men...stay close to them....
Try not to look at your phone when walking alone, look at your surroundings. Stay safe, sweetheart, maybe you can have someone accompany you?
So off topic but you’re so pretty ❤❤😊😊
i dont have any older siblings, Spencer u are literally the older sister i never had ilysmm💗
With the “boyfriend’s apartment” one, I’ve used that multiple times and many times the driver or whoever has straight up told me “well if we kiss/hook up before you get there he’ll never know”, that’s when I get out at the next stop sign or light.
Say dad
I always say my father's hous
Or brother's
@@soumyabehl614 I guess I never think of those cuz I don’t have either of them 😅
Say it's your dad's house. Boyfriends aren't that scary to them, but dads are
Her: Ubers are more safe than walking home alone!
Killer Uber driver: well yes but actually no
Also another big one is be very cautious of who offers you lifts late at night. If it's uber or lyft make sure the license plate in the app matches the real one and be wary of strangers who offer rides when u know they ask you to pay by cash. Esp 4 am in the morning.
@@llcooldrockindahouse4631 Especially if they offer you a beer if you'll step into their car. Had one like that, brr...
kurt krunkle moment
Also send your current live location on an app like FB Messenger, and let people know your starting point/destination
You know that the vast majority of Uber drivers are NOT murderers. It’s stupid when people try to negate or discourage safety tips.
Omg this NEEDS to be spread
spencer has honestly given me so much confidence in my self its amazing
Here is a tip from a 15 year old when i have to walk 20 mins to reach home at night:
-Try to walk pass ANY SHOP you can find, try to stay in the light and not in dark areas. Street lights are your friend, but not as much as lights from shops.
- Walk with confidence. Do NOT show that you are scared or anxious, it shows.
-If someone touches you on the shoulder, especially in public, shout at them show your anger, that will get people's attention.
- If they try and call you, ignore, simple ignore them. Never look back.
- If you feel like you are being stalked, enter the nearest building you can find. It DOESNOT matter what it is, just enter, tell someone about it, call someone, preferably family members.
-Always keep your phone on you.
Thanks but live in a save place callt the netherlands
@@thatddlcgamer you are lucky
You are clearly from the suburbs lmaooo
Yes if someone runs at you show confidence and DONT LOOK BACK. You will get fucking jumped and raped but never look back
Or carry a knife
Spencer's like a big sister that gives tips to get you ready for life❤️
And the girl I met earlier this spring that lives in another country and is 2 years older than me is like the big sister I've always wanted.
I am glad this woman exists, she has made me feel so much better about myself,I am a little too confident 😂😂😂❤❤❤
Me who’s scared of being kidnapped by an Uber driver: ok
Here’s a tip: if anyone grabs your or anything press ur finger hard on their neck, they wouldn’t be able to breath that much and it would also hurt them/cause pain.
Eyes are better
i saw from another comment that pulling their ear as fast as you can and put all your bodyweight into that pull you can hurt or even rip their ear off
Are we assuming the assailant will just let you do that tho? They will probably grab your hand or pull away. Just pressing your single finger against their neck, no matter how hard, would just get that finger broken tbh
She is going to be such a good mom 😭✋🏻❤️
Ty for the likes!!
No her kids are going to be afraid of everything and are going to walk all over her
@@what9plus10_ umm no
What if she doesn’t want to be a mom?
@@what9plus10_ wtf is wrong with u. get help
@@vxnnnyx then why would she be giving out these tips and making a ton of vids my rules for when I’m GOING to BE a mom?
That made me cry because I wish I knew some of those tips a long time ago to protect myself better. Thank you for sharing those tips with us! Safety is very important!
The way Spencer cares for girls is just amazing. Literally the best woman of all society🩷
Amazing tips and it’s astonishing how much you can make a difference! ❤ but it’s sad that we need these tips just to walk down the street 😢 but it’s great to have girls like you who are helping 😊
my dads safety advice for me and my sister was "go for the knees and once they're down make sure they stay there" lmao
It's all about the knees
@@iialexiarxse2897 and balls LMAOOO
I went for the balls when I was a young girl. They went down hard. It takes them a while to recover so you can get away.
@@Sinderelleelostmyglasslipper66 that works to, on both genders actually lol
I'm a guy and I follow these too lol. I never bring anyone to my home until I get to know them. My personal protection is a gun, but I was in the Army for 10 years and know how to handle and use it. Always avoid dark areas at night, have access to a phone and the number 1 thing for me is always always always be aware of whats going on around you. With the walking thing I would say don't be walking alone late at night, especially in an area you aren't familiar with. Great video.
Thank you!
Thank you for your service
I am a guy too and these advices are very useful for me too , I am not gay yet I am targeted and forced by alot of men in my life before for having pretty features .
Ty for your service in army 😄
"Protect your daughters!?" NO "Teach your sons!!!" People need to respect everyone ❤
You’re so sweet i can’t even describe it
As a trans guy it really helped me. It shouldn't be "protect girls" it should be "teach children to respect
👏EV👏ERY👏ONE👏"
FOR THE TRANS RIGHTS!
I agree, also trans men are men too🏳️⚧️
That’s stupid. That’s like saying “it shouldn’t be ‘lock your house doors’ it should be ‘teacher children to respect everyone’”. No matter what gets taught, there are always gonna be bad people.
@@roseeli6191 it's a great example and it gets the point across
@Taña Nii I kinda of agree everyone should respect each other but also proctect yourself because if you teach you child to respect everyone is good but the evil people does not always listen that's why they are called evil they don't litsen to other people so always try to protect yourself!
My neighborhood has a lot of creepy people and here’s a few things I learned over the years;
1) Walk confidently. Even when you have no idea where you’re going, walk like you do until you find a safe place (preferably a store) and then check your phone for guidance. This helped me navigate in cities while traveling alone
2) Try to carry something that could be used as a weapon in an emergency: an umbrella, keys, even a full water bottle will do.
3) In case you’re driving, keep the car lights off until the doors are locked and your car is ignited
4) even if you’re in a hurry, if you have to choose between a longer but safer way, and a shorter but more dangerous path, always choose the safest option
Why should you keep the car lights off? If it's dark, it'll be just as bad for you if you don't see anyone approaching. Or am I missing something?
Edit: sentence framing
Another thing when travelling alone!
Never, EVER, look like you’re unfamiliar with the place even if you are. Predators will take advantage of it and tell you to go a certain way (which probably to make u even more lost and they/ their pal can catch you), or even offer to show u the way themselves (DONT). If you need to ask for a direction, ask a security, a shop attendant, restaurant servers or people who doesn’t seem too chill. Always have your self-defense tool in your hand especially at night and don’t be afraid to hurt them.
@@liza003X nah most of the time if the lights are off there is no tell if you are man or a woman and if they are following you it's better if they don't see what's inside your car or if you are actually alone or not .
@@liza003X if your lights are off they may think the car is empty
I am directionally challenged person and trust me walking confidently works. Never make it obvious that you are lost or unfamiliar with the place just walk until you see a crowd or a well lighted place. Be calm but vigilant.
"Boyfriends apartment" once saved my life.
Dang, I feel bad that you guys have to go through this. There are some bad people one the world.
Also - teach your sons as soon as possible about consent, respect and personal boundaries. It's important for future men to be better.
***So.. a lot of people jumping on my comment saying I'm "targeting men", I'm literally responding to a video about how women often have to take extra precautions in order to keep themselves safe (statistically, from men more than other women).
My original comment wasn't a "dig" at men, it was an observation on how we can and should help future men to be better to others _and_ to themselves.
Chill.***
My son is only 2.5 and I've already started saying when "someone says no, you need to respect that. If they say stop, you stop." It's usually to do with him being a rascal bum, but I'm hoping the lesson will sink into his subconscious and it'll translate into other things as he gets older.
This is what I'm trying to teach my son. He's only 7 months old but I've been teaching him about consent and boundaries since birth. And don't forget about teaching boys that they can consent, too. I know plenty of men and boys who have been SAd as well as women
@Eleanor Murgatroy ikr. I'm a pre-teen and there was a creepy guy in an underpass catcalling me and trying to grab my ankles. He then told my mother who was yelling at him he 'wants to marry me'
@@brinabeeful Me too ever since my son was able to talk and understand, I've been teaching about consent (no means no)
@@no_namegkjhfkashfkdshflkjdashf Yeah I'm the same with my son, he's 7 years old now but is very respectful and aware of others boundaries, as well as having strong ones of his own.
Here’s some of mine.
1. Make a necklace with a whistle on it. That way it’s easily accessible, and guys can’t see it from the back.
2. Wear strong shoes. Doc Marten boots/shoes are my personal favorite. You can run, but since they are also steel toed, if a man tries to grab you just kick him in the balls, it will hurt.
3. If it’s a sunny day, or you’re just able to see your shadow, look at it. Others shadows will come up to, and you can potentially see if someone is behind you or running up to you so if you don’t know them you have somewhat of a head start.
4. If possible, join the band. Like seriously. And get a trombone. These things are big, potential weapon cases, weigh you down so you’re harder to carry, plus you’re in a band and it’s fun to play.
5. If the unfortunate thing happens, and you know you’re about to get kidnapped, call 911. If you cannot talk, hide your phone anywhere possible no matter what. This will ping your local cell towers, making it easy to locate you.
hello, i have a question about number 5, so like, after I call 911, I'll just leave my phone somewhere as long as it's kinda close to me and the police will still find me?
@@iicaryin yes
Also: gouge out the eyes of you can. It sounds awful but it will do the job and also make your attacker more identifiable.
@@iicaryin if you're too scared to talk just leave the phone on the lowest volume so you don't further aggravate the potential assailant and the operator can still hear a struggle and then send police to your location. You can also talk to the assailant while dropping hints about your location "so you think you can attack me in a park?" The operator can see your general location from the cell tower your phone is connected to and then they just look around for a park to get your location faster
@@iicaryin yes. As long as it’s near.
No cap one of your other vids abt personal safety helped me when someone guys started catcalling me and yelling out to me u r a legend
Honestly these tips are life saving but at the same time it’s so sad to think that on earth we actually need them to survive☹️
For the boys: please avoid walking behind girls/women for a long period of time at night. If you notice that you’ve been walking behind somebody for a few minutes maybe just chill at the sidewalk for 2 or 3 minutes
Edit: I just want to clarify, that I’m not telling anyone what to do. I just wanted to give other men who are willing to make small sacrifices for other people another way of doing that. Maybe my wording “please avoid[…]” was a bit wrong… sorry about that
@@miketurd6497 “being treated as criminals” is a bit exaggerated isn’t it. It’s not a huge problem to stay where you are for 2 minutes if you ask me. I mean I just think it would be nice if guys would avoid scaring women. Because women are scared of being raped and rightfully so. This whole thing is not about treating men like criminals - it’s about encouraging men to be more careful and maybe making just a small compromise for other people’s well being. I hope you understand
Dude i have this fear man. I can't walk behind girls. It's just like a weird feeling. I would walk faster and go pass them or I'll walk slowly. If they're slow too, I'd just wait for a few minutes
@@bobsaget338 that’s pretty selfish but I you can do what you want. Main thing is you don’t ACTUALLY hurt someone
@@bobsaget338 I wasn’t trying to convince rapists, murderers, etc. to change, I’m just trying to raise awareness and make a little suggestion for people who are willing to do something for other people (even if it’s late at nights). “If you’re not one of them (for whatever reason) that’s also ok” is basically what I was trying to say with my last comment. As I said, it was just a suggestion.
@@bobsaget338 men like you clearly love making women fear you. Disgusting.
also: try to learn how to do one good front kick / weak spots to hit someone in case of emergency. Diaphragm is right under ribcage, and that can knock the wind out of someone really easily.
This is great advice. I do a martial arts and punches are usually under the nose and above the mouth (between the nose and mouth) it may seem to not do much but that part is super sensitive and it’ll give you time to get help or call the police!
Also the groin
Nooooooooooooo
Never be a fucking hero in any situation unless you want to escalate it and actually f*** up an already f**ked up situation. Just run away
@@mrcobblepot1116 although this is Linda good advice as well, even if you just run they will just run after you. If you at least hit them then run you’ll have a better chance of getting away.
tysm for ur advise I didn’t know all these things again tysm!
Thank you for these tips. These might prove useful in the future.
It's awful that girls need to hear this and need to know how to protect themselves because they should be safe but unfortunately there are bad people who don't agree with that so It's great that we have people like her who can help them know what to do/ how to avoid certain situations.
It’s awful that this happens everywhere and I’m not aware of it as much since it’s super super safe where I live.
@@Rylanha I didn't mean that men didn't experience things like that, I just wanted to emphasise the fact that women are targeted more and aren't taken as seriously when they open up about things that have happened to them.
@Keep calm in the other comment section, you were calling someone paranoid, but now you’re annoyed that this video doesn’t include guys? make up your mind.
@@turtle7039 Actually I strongly disagree with your last point there. I feel like women are taken MUCH more seriously compared to men. I mean, unproven rape accusations have ruined countless mens’ lives simply because women are always taken seriously with accusations like that. Now I ask you, would you take it as seriously if a guy told you he got raped by a woman? Probably not.
@@erlingnesbakken9871 I absolutely would take it seriously, rape is not okay on any level, to any one, no matter what the circumstances. I'm not saying that things that happen to women are worse than men or vice versa, I was simply just saying that ad things happen to people who don't necessarily deserve it ( and the video was talking about women's safety, so that's how I worded it). I agree that it isn't just women who these things happen to and that men are shut down for opening up about those types of situations they've been in, but women are still put down for these things and told that they're over reacting (which doesn't just happen to them). I did word my comment generally gender neutrally, it was just that the video was about these incidents happening to women, so that's how I started it off. I hope that makes some form of sense?
When she said “where is your phone” I looked around for it the remembered it was in my hand 😭
I really wanna take self defence classes cause I dont feel safe walking at might but my mom is just saying I'm crazy for being scared and tells me just to wear something "safe"
I saw something on the news once about how a girl was r@ped by an Uber driver. It’s better to call someone you know and trust then a stranger
Actually in Singapore where I live, it's super safe and lesser to worry about these things happening. But I rlly appreciate those tips! Ty
Omg sameee
I was planning to go out tommorow in a cosplay, knowing that there are alot of dudes that are.."into cosplay" this really helped me thanks!
My father’s a person with “no emotion’s” but once he said to his friend: “ I might have no emotions, but if someone even thinks of doing something to my daughters..”
Thank you these are going to save my life one day I just know it
I think that every situation is different and you can never be 100% prepared but the important thing is trying to make the best decision for you in that moment, my tips are :
1) Don't let people memorize your routine, always change it, if you are in school or you work don't always leave your house the same time and change road and sometimes take the bus, train, uber like don't be predictable.
2) avoid walking alone at night as much as you can, you see a group of people walking walk with them.
3) try to park close to where you are hanging out, the closer the safer and don't offer no ride to stranger even if they make you feel awkward, bcs most of the times girls don't say no bcs they are afraid of embarrassment or hurting that person's feelings,
4) don't be afraid to make a scene and if you can run just run don't look back cause you have the advantage that person doesn't know where you are running to, you can make a turn at anytime
5) my final tip is trust your gut believe me we feel it but most of the time we ignore it so be paranoid and safe better than act proper and be in hell, stay safe out there and also this happen to men too so everyone be safe out there
I cant believe we have to live like this wtf😭
It’s so sad that we actually need to know and be aware of these things
EXACTLY my thought :(
That is very true
Sadly bad people are gonna be bad people...nothing you can really do about it
It's incredible that we have to do these things because someone wants to do something to you. Everyone says they want a better world and a safer place but they never say these things and many people have been through this and unfortunately many people have lost their lives.
For example, a boy can go ALONE at night walking very calmly and WHY girls always have to be alert.
The older sister i never knew i needed