If he continually cycles between hot and ice cold in his pursuit, he might adore you but is not emotionally available. For your own sake, walk away and keep it moving.
How do males and females bond with each other? I don't see how men and women can bond (especially romantically) with each other. I heard that women can build incredible friendships and become very close to each other in a way men can't bond, and I heard that science shows that women can bond very well with each other. I heard that generally, women are even more social than men are. After something bad happens, a woman quickly rushes to talk to all of her female friends to get support, whereas a male can isolate himself and grief alone. I also heard that women tend to be more emotional, more caring, more empathic, more compassionate, more affectionate, more loyal, more nurturing, more sympathetic, more sensitive, more kind hearted, more peaceful, more calmer, more gentle, more expressive, and more outward than men are, and thus bond more with other women in a special way that they can’t with men. Men, on the other hand, are not that emotional, and thus can’t bond with other men in a special way. I also heard that women are more comfortable being around with other women than they are with men. They have a type of bond that usually men with women won’t really have, or with men and men. I also heard that most women like to do affectionate things with their female friends like cuddling with them, while most men would never do affectionate things with their male friends (especially not cuddling with them). Men are usually much lonelier than women are. Men don't often talk about their personal problems with their male friends like how women do with their female friends. I also heard that females produce a lot more oxytocin than males do. And that's a reason why girls tend to hug a lot more and be a lot more physically affectionate than guys do. I also heard that women are very unique creatures, and women feel a lot safer in general with other women than they do with men if either is alone with each other, and it is easier for women to trust other women more than it is to trust a man. I also heard that women are very sociable with each other, so if something goes wrong, they like to speak about it to each other. This is a way to develop trust among women. Women often relate their problems with other women, which makes them feel more connected in a way. I also heard that most daughters have a very strong bond with their mother, while they don’t have one with their father, and most sons don’t have that strong of a bond with neither their mother nor their father. I also heard that most females have a very strong bond with their sisters, while they don’t have one with their brothers, and most males don’t have that strong of a bond with neither their sisters nor their brothers. I also heard that the bond that two females have with each other is the strongest bond of them all, and that's one of the reasons why sayings like “girls always have to stick together” exist. And I also heard that the friendship of males and females can hardly be as good as a female to a female relationship from a woman’s point of view. So if those things are true (which I am not sure at all), then how can a man and woman have a special strong type of bond with each other if women have a special strong type of bond with each other while men don’t have one with each other? Also, men and women are both mentally and physically different from each other (which is true), but would that at all effect the bonding between a male and female?
Seriously, what’s the worst that could happen? She says no? Pfff I’d rather hear no than always wonder. Pain heals with time. Wondering lasts a lifetime.
So he's obviously talking about crushes. Let's see: Choice no. 1: become friends with someone first and just invite them out somewhere without admitting a crush, which would cause the immediate, unnecessary expected reciprocation. Choice no. 2: approach a woman the first time by shoving a dozen flowers in her face and tell her you love her. Discuss...
there's nothing more attractive and good about guys who're straight forward like if you like some girl tell her direct, i swear girls respect that even though they don't like you back but still they'll respect it..
i have told a couple guys i liked them before and one of them was like "that was very sweet of you but unfortunately i can't return your feelings at the time" (is that correct english? sounds wrong) and i think that was pretty respectful. didn't hurt that much :)
I’m a female... I always hide my feelings towards guys I’m attracted to. Cause I don’t think they’ll like me back or want to date me. They’d probably be grossed out and think “ew” if they knew. I suppose it’s the fear of rejection and it just feels safe if they don’t know. ☹️😔 I guess I have confidence and self esteem issues... which actually are big turn-offs. I always hear confidence is sexy, and it’s true.
I'm the same way and I never used to be like that. I used to have a lot of people persuing me and I had a ton of confidence. Then I got into a very bad relationship and it changed me. I have confidence in general, but when it comes to romantic relationships, my confidence and self esteem are now very low around that, and I think it's mostly a protective mechanism so I don't feel vulnerable or get hurt. I have a lot of negative self talk happening, like why would someone want to be with me or desire me, I don't have anything to offer. When in reality I have a ton to offer and I'm a really great partner. Negative self talk is not true, it's just a lie to keep us from growing.
Definitely don't tell them your feelings because they will play games and hurt you. I'm in my 40s and me and my best friend say as soon as they feel they run away
You fail to realize that good hearted shy people who are not well articulate with less talking (but more doing) do exist. And you also fail to realize that in this post MeToo world, its getting dangerous for men to approach and expres interest. Men get shame for it
If some guy said this to me I’d notice how he’d diverted the conversation away from the subject being talked about into a conversation that’s all about him. I don’t think I’d think he was trying to impress me, I’d think 💭 hmm 🤔 no narcissistic tendencies there!!! 😂😂😂
lesson learned too! they will act their way through the other 3 because they've studied how to manipulate. The key is boasting OR over-complementing you, if they start sharing a painful past specifically to get your empathy (looking for manipulatable person), moving too fast or hot & cold - any inconsistent behavior, or any comments that put other people down.
Undercover Narcissists use empathy or false modesty to see how you react. It’s like reverse psychology, they will put themselves down to see if you will correct and compliment him. Covert narcissists are indeed masterful Players and are secretly manipulative. They come across as self effacing, humble, timid, shy etc to make you make the first move, to make you put in the effort, to make you react. They are secretly pulling the strings so they can secretly get you to do what they want. All under the guise of a “ Nice “ guy which is A Wolf in sheep’s clothing. Pay attention to inconsistencies in their words and actions, and trust your gut. Listen to your Intuition, the body never lies but “Nice” people do.
This is very cute to me...but guys wait too long and sometimes the right moment will pass you by...or someone else with guts will take that person away from you..be shy but don't be to shy about it...everyone is nervous at first...practice in the mirror and go for it.....love the video
Reading comments bellow: most about how this is waste of time reading someone’s signs and not to waste time on someone like that. That is what is happening with dating and relationships these days, people give up so easily and so soon. If your gut feeling tells you she/he is the right one for you, he or she is worth fighting for. As someone shy like myself I wish people would give us a chance to open up and let us express ourselves.
Its one thing to be shy and socially awkward. This i can live with. However its another thing to express ur interest and then not reciprocate that interest. Im sick of men who say they are interested yet make no effort to keep a concersation flowing. To me if a conversation doesnr flow then neither will effective communication in a relationship. I dont have time for that. When u dont reapond with the same effort i give to you. Im pulling back whether its 2 days in getting to know your or 6months down the line.
Well if you men care enough you'd express yourself directly and intentionally and not steal our time, make us wait all the time, leaving us in the dark. But the truth is men like that DONT care and love enough! To invest and wait and go for a man with that character is actually SETTLING. Why should we freakin fight for a man to develop a great character? Fight for yourselfs to become an authentic human being. And then come with that to the table. Nobody should be fighting for a guy to develop. No you fight when you actually love eachother and somewhere something went wrong and you fight! But other than that... good people don't make you put up with toxic stuff and ask you to fight for them. Why not just function properly so no one needs to fight to make somebody be a good partner. What the heck!
Shiizaa Kerushii right? Like why do I need to decode and make first moves? If a man is truly interested, he should ask to spend time, not play stupid games and make us guess. Men like to say women are hard to understand but i find many of them to be much harder to know.
@@j.r.2674 because each person thinks there's some kind 'code' the opposite gender uses, which isn't true at all. Its all actually just sexism and untrue stereotypes. People act like each sex/gender is a different species and it makes absolutely no sense whatsoever.
@@vampiraJ then those people are not healthy. Healthy people don't act like that. It doesn't matter the gender. Also, people try way too hard and over complicate it. 🤦♀️ People let their fears and insecurities get in the way when they should just be. 🤷♀️
Hmmm ... none of these sound like things a healthy man would do. Seems more like what manipulative, insecure men do. Healthy men are authentic & vulnerable.
Don't lie! Authenticity is generally good yes, but you already know there's nothing more unappealing than vulnerability when it comes to choosing a partner. If you really believe that then you're very disconnected from nature. Vulnerable fighting age men who failed to adequately safeguard their egos used to be food for rival tribesmen and on a quite real level, still are, unfortunately or not. Nothing kills the mood more than romancing or lying down with a marked man, I imagine. Note: I apologize already for any awkward punctuation here. I am not a grammar major.
Jerrell Lawrenceberg Em... most men. Don’t live in tribes now a days.... I understood what you meant though. But most women are looking for a guy who can be honest with her and real/authentic. Which is hard. Guys at first will probably have there guard up. They should eventually let it down though and be real... if not they have extreme trust issue and no one wants that.... at least not me..
@@Heather-hv7me I don't judge people on weather the have trust issues or not. At the end of the day it's about emotional connection. If you like a no good two faced psycho then I say listen to those instincts and don't feel pressured by society to cut him off. Same goes for plucky boy scout types. I was pointing out that weak men are unacceptable though. When I heard her say "vulnerable" I already knew that meant a pussy. Crying in front of friends and loved ones, for example, that makes you a pussy. Letting you wife cheat on you for fun, that also makes you a pussy.
Jerrell Lawrenceberg Kk that is something I can agree with you. Sorry if was a long night. So I misinterpret your comment a bit. Hope you took no offense 👌 Thanks for clearing it up and have a good day 😝😊
@@llunavermella_bloodmoon I wrote it 4 years ago. I stopped acting like a duck a while ago because I can't even feel emotional attraction to anyone anymore. That's why I am now the duck itself. I don't act . (Sad LOL)
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣Exactly what I'm going through with my current partner... 1. Plans 2. How he loves children 2. How he checks on me and my son. 3. How he asked if I still want to have another child 4. He sweat like hell, 😂😂😂😂 5. How he told me that his heart beat very fast when he is with me. 6. How he ask me what to eat for lunch. Even my 5 year old said "Mama this guy love you, but he is afraid to tell you" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣. And I do love him as well..
Loved this vid.. 1. Give plenty of information in just some sentence. 2. Act like a duck act like cool but inside pedaling. 3. Nervous but hiding 4. Trying to make you laugh 5. He don't know where to stare and then he see at all the place 6 he make excuses to get close to you.
I have recently experienced exactly what you are relaying. This man was secretly in love with me for 17 yrs. I just realized it. There are Pages, Knights & Kings. I have always been with a King (he passed away). After you've been with a King, it's nonsense being with a Knight. A King loves his mate no matter what. There are no games, he is mature & he loves strongly with a whole open heart. I didn't know what a Knight was until I saw this video. Thank You 💕
I have had men secretly in love . One was my best friend. He didn’t say i love you he showed me he loved me . He was my king. Even tho he didn’t come out and say it. Many women get mad when they say it and not show it. Well he showed it and didn’t say it. He passed away on Easter this year.
He’s using tarot card references ......I’ve not even watched the video I’ve been reading comments.. pages are messengers,knights are in and out of your life and kings are there forever......
This is very insightful! I've observed all of these behaviors from men. They try to let you know how they're doing in life (their job, that they invest, the car they drive, that they go on vacations, own a home, etc). Truly noble men "produce more than they consume" so a good guy wants to let you know he can take care of business.
Men are not complicated at all, Please. They are like toddlers that never grow up. And they always say we are complicated. We are Indeed more mature and accepting. According to science. Much love 🙏💕🦋⚜️😇
When men talk about those "benefits" they have to offer, it seems like ego to me, and is a big turn-off. I am attracted to modesty not bragging. I guess it takes time to evaluate?
I think there's a big difference between an insecure guy bragging & a secure guy who mentions a few subtle modest "benefits". Although the example of benefits in this vid wasn't the best tbf & did come off as annoying lol
Can't believe how above and beyond all the other dating coaches you are! Your tips are so insightful, logical, and perceptive than the other, more obvious advice out there. Yours are the best videos on dating I've ever found. Thank you so much for doing them!
I just made the exact comment almost word for word on another one of his videos. He seriously has the most insightful relationship content on all of TH-cam.
🙈 ive done that too. But i feel like even when not drunk ive been pretty foward telling him how much i like him and want him. My mom always says that babys and drunks never lie 🤣. Maybe i need to get mine drunk and see if he opens up 🤣
LOXE 365 okay I had my crush right where I wanted him but since he were hiding his feelings I got confused and I just went crazy with him being emotionless so I pushed him away 😔 match his energy
Yeah, it is very easy... it’s called walking away. If they can’t express themselves while dating or being your friend, it would be impossible to be in a relationship with them.
You fail to realize that good hearted shy people who are not well articulate with less talking (but more doing) do exist. Yea.. so very mature of you indeed... And then there's another category of men who fear being accused of harassment especially in the post METoo world where its getting extremely dangerous for men to approach and express interest
@@your-username-here2308 exactly. Let her let walk away from men who genuinely cares for her just because her brain is wired like this. Walk away instead of fighting for each other. Good, and she will settle down with a fat ugly heifer becos of the number of good suitors she walks from
You fail to UNDERSTAND that good hearted shy people who are not well articulate with less talking (but more doing) do exist. Yea.. so very mature of you indeed...
But not every guy is the bold/confident type. I'm shy, too, so I tend to give guys a chance. I will even instigate a group activity to give us a chance to spend time together and get to know each other a bit. However, if he and I have been talking long enough for him to get comfortable with me and he still doesn't have the courage to ask me out, I tend to back away. I won't cut the guy off completely, but I friendzone him and start looking for somebody else to date.
Thank you for adding that you are talking about good guys with good intentions. I see so many comments bringing up narcissists, and yes they're out there. They aren't the only abusive people though so I'm not sure why they get mentioned almost exclusive to any other abusers. And, to put it in my crude manner. Crazy doesn't count.
This hits hard aside from #1. I try to compliment on my crush's personality and traits she has. Make her feel better when her mood is down or offer suggestions. Most of the time, i just offer an ear for her to vent or complain cuz i know some ppl just want someone to listen to them.
I know a man that didn't do anything of that, literally nothing of that But all his friends told me he talks a lot about me and his sister told me that he talked to his parents about me and said he really wanna marry me not just be in a relationship with me Then dear girls, men are more tricky to understand than u think. These signs are really specific but it's general and fundamental. To each their own way of showing attraction and love they're not the same.
Boy,you totally made my night!!!I think I have noticed all of these behaviours in him,and though I was feeling he liked me,his behavior made me think he didn't like me...confused,but if you say they are to cover the feelings,then...
This is really funny!! I had no idea guys were trying so hard took into our eyes or make us laugh. They definitely aren't the player I thought. It's really cute, how hard they try!!❤
Yes Brian, Love,what you give out in your videos! You are Very perceptive. Men often say women are hard to understand and in some ways I have found men do have 'linear' behavioural patterns BUT my Man can be very hard to read! Thankyou for this video it is so true! Lesley xx
“Brian” I don’t watch your channel much but every video I’ve seen of yours seems completely accurate. When I do watch your videos it’s because I find it encouraging to see another man who gets it. Thanks for speaking out!
He did all that and then asked me whether I have feelings for him. I said I have positive, warm feelings for him and he said that that's the problem because he's not interested. Later, he added that he has a gf (I still dont believe he had) and admitted that he might have sent encouraging signals. lol I wasn't really into him because I barely had talked with him in real life (we normally chatted) and he's significantly younger but it annoyed the hell out of me. A friend sent me this video because it reminded her of the whole incident because she considers the guy "devoid of tact and common sense" and that he goes against his own very best interests xD
Great video! I constantly missed these signals way back in High School. Nice guys told me they had wanted to date me at reunions. I’ll pay better attention now!!!
Aight, I'm officially dating myself. I'm upfront, funny, and I stare at myself for long periods of time EVEN in the morning.
😅🤣
Me too! 😄
Haha hugs🤗
I do too...Especially in the morning! 😂
Lolololol u just made me laugh .
I hate guessing if a guy is interested. Just be confident and get to the point. Women respect that.
Ikr i hate mind games
Farhiya A exactly lol
Omg YESSS!!
@Ratna's Informative Diary y i think u right! Cuz they won't being hurt again🍂
@Jennifer Boehm horseshit.
If he continually cycles between hot and ice cold in his pursuit, he might adore you but is not emotionally available. For your own sake, walk away and keep it moving.
BKLNHobo that is a great point.
Define "adore".
BKLNHobo so true currently experiencing this
Is playing hot and cold a manipulative game an immature guy plays? I think his heart is closed and has walls up..!
@@BraveSoul979 For some it's a game. Others are legitimately unbalanced people.
And men aren’t “complicated”... 😒
They aren't. If they like you, they'll hangout with you.
Right.
Right..so annoying
How do males and females bond with each other? I don't see how men and women can bond (especially romantically) with each other.
I heard that women can build incredible friendships and become very close to each other in a way men can't bond, and I heard that science shows that women can bond very well with each other.
I heard that generally, women are even more social than men are. After something bad happens, a woman quickly rushes to talk to all of her female friends to get support, whereas a male can isolate himself and grief alone.
I also heard that women tend to be more emotional, more caring, more empathic, more compassionate, more affectionate, more loyal, more nurturing, more sympathetic, more sensitive, more kind hearted, more peaceful, more calmer, more gentle, more expressive, and more outward than men are, and thus bond more with other women in a special way that they can’t with men. Men, on the other hand, are not that emotional, and thus can’t bond with other men in a special way.
I also heard that women are more comfortable being around with other women than they are with men. They have a type of bond that usually men with women won’t really have, or with men and men.
I also heard that most women like to do affectionate things with their female friends like cuddling with them, while most men would never do affectionate things with their male friends (especially not cuddling with them). Men are usually much lonelier than women are. Men don't often talk about their personal problems with their male friends like how women do with their female friends.
I also heard that females produce a lot more oxytocin than males do. And that's a reason why girls tend to hug a lot more and be a lot more physically affectionate than guys do.
I also heard that women are very unique creatures, and women feel a lot safer in general with other women than they do with men if either is alone with each other, and it is easier for women to trust other women more than it is to trust a man.
I also heard that women are very sociable with each other, so if something goes wrong, they like to speak about it to each other. This is a way to develop trust among women. Women often relate their problems with other women, which makes them feel more connected in a way.
I also heard that most daughters have a very strong bond with their mother, while they don’t have one with their father, and most sons don’t have that strong of a bond with neither their mother nor their father.
I also heard that most females have a very strong bond with their sisters, while they don’t have one with their brothers, and most males don’t have that strong of a bond with neither their sisters nor their brothers.
I also heard that the bond that two females have with each other is the strongest bond of them all, and that's one of the reasons why sayings like “girls always have to stick together” exist.
And I also heard that the friendship of males and females can hardly be as good as a female to a female relationship from a woman’s point of view.
So if those things are true (which I am not sure at all), then how can a man and woman have a special strong type of bond with each other if women have a special strong type of bond with each other while men don’t have one with each other?
Also, men and women are both mentally and physically different from each other (which is true), but would that at all effect the bonding between a male and female?
@@icysnow57cold64 one thing's for sure, you do hear loads of stuff!
I feel men are more complicated that women😂😂
P.S I've never observed this amount of likes😂🙌🏽
Maybe because it rubs off
Absolutely
These days, the men ARE the women 🤣
It seems like somehow, someway, the roles have all shifted
A lot , I'm a women and can't never understand them 😓
They are not.
He’s gonna stealth his way into being an audience member at my wedding, keep playing 😑
best comment ever lol
🤣😂😂💀
Lol...best response ever 😂
Yes 👏🏾 that’s what I say also.
yooooo most underrated comment 😂😂😂
Why do we have to look for signs😒. Just come out and say it
Sometimes it's not that easy, especially if you're a shy person
Seriously, what’s the worst that could happen? She says no? Pfff I’d rather hear no than always wonder. Pain heals with time. Wondering lasts a lifetime.
Exactly. These type of men should just stay away. Cant be trusted
So he's obviously talking about crushes.
Let's see:
Choice no. 1: become friends with someone first and just invite them out somewhere without admitting a crush, which would cause the immediate, unnecessary expected reciprocation.
Choice no. 2: approach a woman the first time by shoving a dozen flowers in her face and tell her you love her.
Discuss...
I tried that a few days ago my court date is coming up
there's nothing more attractive and good about guys who're straight forward like if you like some girl tell her direct, i swear girls respect that even though they don't like you back but still they'll respect it..
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@@itachithegoatg6803 get out of your own head. OP spoke straight facts.
i have told a couple guys i liked them before and one of them was like "that was very sweet of you but unfortunately i can't return your feelings at the time" (is that correct english? sounds wrong) and i think that was pretty respectful. didn't hurt that much :)
That’s hypocritical because the vast majority of women wouldn’t do the same. Don’t expect men to be upfront and make the first move if you won’t.
I think it has to do with you, whether you like to do it or not, it's not about the other person.
Einstein's theories are easier to read... 😂😂😂
Oh flipping yas!
😂🤣🤣🤣
Damn right
But not to understand
@@nareshkumar4207 You'd be surprised, but I'm quite smart and the time relativity theory is easier for me to understand than men...
I’m a female... I always hide my feelings towards guys I’m attracted to. Cause I don’t think they’ll like me back or want to date me. They’d probably be grossed out and think “ew” if they knew. I suppose it’s the fear of rejection and it just feels safe if they don’t know. ☹️😔 I guess I have confidence and self esteem issues... which actually are big turn-offs. I always hear confidence is sexy, and it’s true.
I’m exactly the same, I’m scared of rejection and I normally push away that way I don’t get hurt. I know I need to change.
Same
I'm the same way and I never used to be like that. I used to have a lot of people persuing me and I had a ton of confidence. Then I got into a very bad relationship and it changed me. I have confidence in general, but when it comes to romantic relationships, my confidence and self esteem are now very low around that, and I think it's mostly a protective mechanism so I don't feel vulnerable or get hurt. I have a lot of negative self talk happening, like why would someone want to be with me or desire me, I don't have anything to offer. When in reality I have a ton to offer and I'm a really great partner. Negative self talk is not true, it's just a lie to keep us from growing.
Definitely don't tell them your feelings because they will play games and hurt you. I'm in my 40s and me and my best friend say as soon as they feel they run away
But sometimes shy people are cute too.
Someone will appreciate you even if you don't show how confondent you are
Honesty. No manipulation. No games. That's what evolved people like.
You fail to realize that good hearted shy people who are not well articulate with less talking (but more doing) do exist. And you also fail to realize that in this post MeToo world, its getting dangerous for men to approach and expres interest. Men get shame for it
“Good men with good intentions” I wonder if this category actually exists!
Nobody claimed they’re perfect
@Ghada Malkawi 🤣 this made me laugh cause it sounds like something I would say. Feels that way sometime for sure!
If it does and they don't do anything, they need to grow a "good" pair and man up.. all this BS could be avoided by just being real.
They do! Like a needle in a haystack but I’ve found a few! Have to kiss a few frogs to find the prince though!
@@cn1976 LoL.. is it worth kissin' if it's not the one though ☺️
Your voice is so relaxing.
PaNdeM0niuM I agree!!
Ikr...i totally chill while i listen
It would be nice if you worked out & gain a little weight. Babyyy!!!
YES!!
Yes it is but the standing isn’t lol
He is describing Jim, from the office, before he proposed to Pam.
Ha! Reminds me of Jim & Pam, too!
Awwww ♡♡
I LOVE the office. Jim proposed to Pam outside a store
I'm scared because the first thing that hit me was Jim
LMAO "Ohyou like spaghetti that makes me think of the time I was working for NASA" I'm dead lmao
If some guy said this to me I’d notice how he’d diverted the conversation away from the subject being talked about into a conversation that’s all about him.
I don’t think I’d think he was trying to impress me, I’d think 💭 hmm 🤔 no narcissistic tendencies there!!! 😂😂😂
That is SOOOOOO my "friend!"
Hahaha. This part was so funny.
Exactly, I thought I was the only one dying of laughter when he said that!!! 😂😂😂
HILARIOUS!
No one should have to hide their love!
Say that to people who judge me for being in love with someone 29 years older than myself!
it‘s the fear of rejection...
Fear of abandonment..
But some have anxiety issues and are afraid of rejection.
Sometimes you have to
Wait... My husband likes me? I married him. Why doesn't he just go for it?
Preach!
Lol
I thought I’m the only one
Same here...
😂😂
Careful not to confuse his honest salesmanship w narcissistic love bombing and grandiose behavior.
Exactly. I was just thinking the same thing.
Great point
lesson learned too! they will act their way through the other 3 because they've studied how to manipulate. The key is boasting OR over-complementing you, if they start sharing a painful past specifically to get your empathy (looking for manipulatable person), moving too fast or hot & cold - any inconsistent behavior, or any comments that put other people down.
Yep, some guys just like bragging.
Undercover Narcissists use empathy or false modesty to see how you react. It’s like reverse psychology, they will put themselves down to see if you will correct and compliment him. Covert narcissists are indeed masterful Players and are secretly manipulative. They come across as self effacing, humble, timid, shy etc to make you make the first move, to make you put in the effort, to make you react. They are secretly pulling the strings so they can secretly get you to do what they want. All under the guise of a “ Nice “ guy which is
A Wolf in sheep’s clothing.
Pay attention to inconsistencies in their words and actions, and trust your gut.
Listen to your Intuition, the body never lies but “Nice” people do.
What if he doesn't do anything, yet says he loves you... Probably lying
This^ spot on
Same , frustrating
DEFINITELY lying
Oh, yes.
This is very cute to me...but guys wait too long and sometimes the right moment will pass you by...or someone else with guts will take that person away from you..be shy but don't be to shy about it...everyone is nervous at first...practice in the mirror and go for it.....love the video
And that is reality!!! You cruise, you lose!!
This!!
Thats always me. But im a female
I mean it doesn’t need to be the guy that makes the first move.
Reading comments bellow: most about how this is waste of time reading someone’s signs and not to waste time on someone like that. That is what is happening with dating and relationships these days, people give up so easily and so soon. If your gut feeling tells you she/he is the right one for you, he or she is worth fighting for. As someone shy like myself I wish people would give us a chance to open up and let us express ourselves.
Its one thing to be shy and socially awkward. This i can live with. However its another thing to express ur interest and then not reciprocate that interest. Im sick of men who say they are interested yet make no effort to keep a concersation flowing. To me if a conversation doesnr flow then neither will effective communication in a relationship. I dont have time for that. When u dont reapond with the same effort i give to you. Im pulling back whether its 2 days in getting to know your or 6months down the line.
Guts can deceive, there are many dead women to prove it. Time and evidence of consistency of decent character are better indicators.
Ah no. You waste your time taking it slow only to find out he was never interested anyway and you were just hoping in nothing.
Agreed 100%!!
Well if you men care enough you'd express yourself directly and intentionally and not steal our time, make us wait all the time, leaving us in the dark. But the truth is men like that DONT care and love enough! To invest and wait and go for a man with that character is actually SETTLING. Why should we freakin fight for a man to develop a great character? Fight for yourselfs to become an authentic human being. And then come with that to the table. Nobody should be fighting for a guy to develop. No you fight when you actually love eachother and somewhere something went wrong and you fight! But other than that... good people don't make you put up with toxic stuff and ask you to fight for them. Why not just function properly so no one needs to fight to make somebody be a good partner. What the heck!
I'm tired of these stupid games. It's either you are for me or not.
Shiizaa Kerushii right? Like why do I need to decode and make first moves? If a man is truly interested, he should ask to spend time, not play stupid games and make us guess. Men like to say women are hard to understand but i find many of them to be much harder to know.
It goes both ways. Women find it hard to understand the actions of men, and men find find it hard to understand the actions of women.
@@j.r.2674 because each person thinks there's some kind 'code' the opposite gender uses, which isn't true at all. Its all actually just sexism and untrue stereotypes. People act like each sex/gender is a different species and it makes absolutely no sense whatsoever.
@@vampiraJ then those people are not healthy. Healthy people don't act like that. It doesn't matter the gender. Also, people try way too hard and over complicate it. 🤦♀️ People let their fears and insecurities get in the way when they should just be. 🤷♀️
Gabrielle Bragg
I don’t think that, but I definitely think both genders can be confusing at times in their own ways. It’s just part of being human.
Hmmm ... none of these sound like things a healthy man would do. Seems more like what manipulative, insecure men do.
Healthy men are authentic & vulnerable.
Don't lie! Authenticity is generally good yes, but you already know there's nothing more unappealing than vulnerability when it comes to choosing a partner. If you really believe that then you're very disconnected from nature. Vulnerable fighting age men who failed to adequately safeguard their egos used to be food for rival tribesmen and on a quite real level, still are, unfortunately or not. Nothing kills the mood more than romancing or lying down with a marked man, I imagine.
Note: I apologize already for any awkward punctuation here. I am not a grammar major.
Authentic & vulnerable. True. Unfortunately Not many of those types exist anymore 😔
Jerrell Lawrenceberg Em... most men. Don’t live in tribes now a days....
I understood what you meant though. But most women are looking for a guy who can be honest with her and real/authentic.
Which is hard. Guys at first will probably have there guard up. They should eventually let it down though and be real... if not they have extreme trust issue and no one wants that....
at least not me..
@@Heather-hv7me I don't judge people on weather the have trust issues or not. At the end of the day it's about emotional connection. If you like a no good two faced psycho then I say listen to those instincts and don't feel pressured by society to cut him off. Same goes for plucky boy scout types.
I was pointing out that weak men are unacceptable though. When I heard her say "vulnerable" I already knew that meant a pussy. Crying in front of friends and loved ones, for example, that makes you a pussy. Letting you wife cheat on you for fun, that also makes you a pussy.
Jerrell Lawrenceberg Kk that is something I can agree with you. Sorry if was a long night. So I misinterpret your comment a bit. Hope you took no offense 👌
Thanks for clearing it up and have a good day 😝😊
This video tells me that no one is interested in me.
Bro same
The duck example was so good. I always feel like duck when i am around someone i like
@@llunavermella_bloodmoon I wrote it 4 years ago. I stopped acting like a duck a while ago because I can't even feel emotional attraction to anyone anymore. That's why I am now the duck itself. I don't act . (Sad LOL)
You impersonation of a guy trying to impress a girl within 3-4 sentences ending by Anyway, do you like dogs? had me laughing out loud (IRL).
Me too😂😂😂
Me too😂😂😂😂
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🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣Exactly what I'm going through with my current partner... 1. Plans 2. How he loves children 2. How he checks on me and my son. 3. How he asked if I still want to have another child 4. He sweat like hell, 😂😂😂😂 5. How he told me that his heart beat very fast when he is with me. 6. How he ask me what to eat for lunch. Even my 5 year old said "Mama this guy love you, but he is afraid to tell you" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣. And I do love him as well..
Loved this vid..
1. Give plenty of information in just some sentence.
2. Act like a duck act like cool but inside pedaling.
3. Nervous but hiding
4. Trying to make you laugh
5. He don't know where to stare and then he see at all the place
6 he make excuses to get close to you.
Thanks for taking your time to write it 😊
Reshma Panjwani , thank you for the list 🙏💕🦋🥰
Welcome !!
He’s going around like a duck 🤣🤣 One of the funniest analogies I’ve heard to date
So funny!
I have recently experienced exactly what you are relaying. This man was secretly in love with me for 17 yrs. I just realized it. There are Pages, Knights & Kings. I have always been with a King (he passed away). After you've been with a King, it's nonsense being with a Knight. A King loves his mate no matter what. There are no games, he is mature & he loves strongly with a whole open heart. I didn't know what a Knight was until I saw this video.
Thank You 💕
Great
Best of luck
Karon Schilling omg 17 years
Still waiting for my King!!
I have had men secretly in love . One was my best friend. He didn’t say i love you he showed me he loved me . He was my king. Even tho he didn’t come out and say it. Many women get mad when they say it and not show it. Well he showed it and didn’t say it. He passed away on Easter this year.
He’s using tarot card references ......I’ve not even watched the video I’ve been reading comments.. pages are messengers,knights are in and out of your life and kings are there forever......
Ok, now I'm convinced I'm a man :D
best comment lol and me too sis.
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I said the same thing while listening!!!! 😭😭😭
This is very insightful! I've observed all of these behaviors from men.
They try to let you know how they're doing in life (their job, that they invest, the car they drive, that they go on vacations, own a home, etc). Truly noble men "produce more than they consume" so a good guy wants to let you know he can take care of business.
This guy sounds like he's speaking of teenage to early 20 guys. I don't see this behavior in older confident MEN!
Men are not complicated at all, Please. They are like toddlers that never grow up. And they always say we are complicated. We are Indeed more mature and accepting. According to science. Much love 🙏💕🦋⚜️😇
Correct
These 4 behaviors would be red flags to me. Narcissists are real !!
Tess W yes they are indeed. You R so right.
SO TRUE OMG
Right!
Women get freaked out by these things,the man looks needy and weak
He is hiding from himself. I see him shaking, tripping and staring.
I could listen to you talk about, literally anything. Very engaging, sincere, and confident. You definitely chose the right profession!
Guys who hide their feelings and give mixed messages are just plain immature🙄
He acts nervous 😂 his voice even cracks, he tries to make me laugh 😂 he randomly walks past my house 🏡 he “tries” to act calm.
"JE SUIS CALM" in Taylor Swift voice
Haha
Shelly Shellz , message me back when you go on a date. Ask him out.... 🙏💕🦋
When men talk about those "benefits" they have to offer, it seems like ego to me, and is a big turn-off. I am attracted to modesty not bragging. I guess it takes time to evaluate?
Next time this happen, tell yourself this is a sales pitch of a guy who sees me as worth the sale.
I think there's a big difference between an insecure guy bragging & a secure guy who mentions a few subtle modest "benefits". Although the example of benefits in this vid wasn't the best tbf & did come off as annoying lol
@@Musicalsoul22 I agree. But most masculine alpha men don't talk, they do.
@@iknowwhatsup2880 ?? You've lost me. Im not sure what masculine & alpha had to with the comment i made...feel free to elaborate
@@Musicalsoul22 a alpha man words don't sell him, his actions do. His life is his words.
Can't believe how above and beyond all the other dating coaches you are! Your tips are so insightful, logical, and perceptive than the other, more obvious advice out there. Yours are the best videos on dating I've ever found. Thank you so much for doing them!
Oh yes!
You’d probably enjoy this podcast on here called Brunch with the Boyz it’s like a funny relationship channel
I just made the exact comment almost word for word on another one of his videos. He seriously has the most insightful relationship content on all of TH-cam.
He sounds as if he's speaking of teenage guys or early twenties. Real MEN don't act as he says.
If I keep judging a guy, how do I enjoy his company, the best advice is to have the best time with him by being honest and open
This guy at my work does this all the time. He's really cute and responsible. I hope it works out for us. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
When he is drunk he says he loves me and then pretends that nothing ever happened 😂
🙈 ive done that too. But i feel like even when not drunk ive been pretty foward telling him how much i like him and want him. My mom always says that babys and drunks never lie 🤣. Maybe i need to get mine drunk and see if he opens up 🤣
@@marial3650 hahaha now we moved on and he says it even when he’s not drunk
This just happened to me 😅
I really enjoy your calm and explicit way of describing their feeling and actions. Thank you for your insights. And sharing them.
This guy makes me laugh so much! Tells the truth but the examples are hilarious and on point!
You're voice is so calming and relaxing. I love that hint of an accent that I hear.
So my Crush is actually in love with me but he’s just hiding it.👀👀👀
Adore Noirkai same question 😭
Maybe 🤣
Hahaha so my crush really liked me then
Damnnn🤣💙💙
LOXE 365 okay I had my crush right where I wanted him but since he were hiding his feelings I got confused and I just went crazy with him being emotionless so I pushed him away 😔 match his energy
"I designed the rocket 🚀 while eating that spaghetti"... 😂Love it!
Yeah, it is very easy... it’s called walking away. If they can’t express themselves while dating or being your friend, it would be impossible to be in a relationship with them.
That makes no sense.
You fail to realize that good hearted shy people who are not well articulate with less talking (but more doing) do exist. Yea.. so very mature of you indeed... And then there's another category of men who fear being accused of harassment especially in the post METoo world where its getting extremely dangerous for men to approach and express interest
@@your-username-here2308 exactly. Let her let walk away from men who genuinely cares for her just because her brain is wired like this. Walk away instead of fighting for each other. Good, and she will settle down with a fat ugly heifer becos of the number of good suitors she walks from
Adult people don't play stupid games. Adult people are emotionally mature. If someone hides feelings, that's their problem, not mine
You fail to UNDERSTAND that good hearted shy people who are not well articulate with less talking (but more doing) do exist. Yea.. so very mature of you indeed...
If he doesn't have the "courage" to speak his heart what should I waste my precious energy to solve his puzzle!😐
I so agree!
That is so true!
For me I'd rather talk to him first about his shyness. But he ig still doing the same again better leave him ASAP.
The rejection button is always in the background
But not every guy is the bold/confident type. I'm shy, too, so I tend to give guys a chance. I will even instigate a group activity to give us a chance to spend time together and get to know each other a bit. However, if he and I have been talking long enough for him to get comfortable with me and he still doesn't have the courage to ask me out, I tend to back away. I won't cut the guy off completely, but I friendzone him and start looking for somebody else to date.
What if he flat out says he doesn’t love you, but his actions say otherwise? It’s the craziest thing...
testing you to see what he can get from you for the least amount of effort.
@@juliaw146 elaborate
@@juliaw146 This!!!
@@juliaw146 yep 💯
Translation: GHOST him…!
Wow! Food for thought...just when I was about to throw in the proverbial towel. Thank you!
I haven't laughed so much for ages. I 💓the way you present this. And yes a good friend acts just like this around me.
I have a friend that acts exactly like this , what should I do , I also like alot
Thank you for talking about the truth I've been looking for in a humorous, yet honest way!
Thank you for adding that you are talking about good guys with good intentions. I see so many comments bringing up narcissists, and yes they're out there. They aren't the only abusive people though so I'm not sure why they get mentioned almost exclusive to any other abusers. And, to put it in my crude manner. Crazy doesn't count.
This hits hard aside from #1. I try to compliment on my crush's personality and traits she has. Make her feel better when her mood is down or offer suggestions. Most of the time, i just offer an ear for her to vent or complain cuz i know some ppl just want someone to listen to them.
Great start. Now ask her out directly.
Just love the concise, educational and straight to the point Bryan Nox provides.
Always do well done and always appreciated.
Ru
He’s not lying ladies..
I love how you talk Brian!
Omg!! This is so true!! About men hidding their feelings!!..They get jealous if they think u have a boyfriend!!..And play little games!!..
I seriously laughed loud enough to wake the neighbors while watching this...great video
"In case you should accidentally have some dogs running around..." You are HILARIOUS. I could not stop laughing.
Oh I love his jokes and the funny images he creates while speaking so seriously!
I know a man that didn't do anything of that, literally nothing of that
But all his friends told me he talks a lot about me and his sister told me that he talked to his parents about me and said he really wanna marry me not just be in a relationship with me
Then dear girls, men are more tricky to understand than u think.
These signs are really specific but it's general and fundamental.
To each their own way of showing attraction and love they're not the same.
Watching this to confirm if I’m being mysterious enough
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That really gave me a whole new perspective on someone I really like a lot! Thank you so much!
Boy,you totally made my night!!!I think I have noticed all of these behaviours in him,and though I was feeling he liked me,his behavior made me think he didn't like me...confused,but if you say they are to cover the feelings,then...
I never experienced that. Never will. But that is okay. I have 2 cats that love me.
Better a truly loving animal being than a dishonest human being as a companion!
Massuma Quraischi 😹😹that's it oo
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You can have it if you want it :)
If I could find a man that loved me like my cat "Mister" I would be the happiest woman in the world.
He never opened up his feelings towards me..
Same
same
Same
yea same
Then he doesn't deserve you, please don't waste your time
LOL!!! This is happening to me! I like him a lot too. We are both playing hard to get.
There nothing worth getting on your side lol
Then both of you are stupid, what is the point of playing hard to get. Being together is better.
Syssy99 Syssy99 stupid is a strong word. So over the top.
@@melissaslade9652 Sorry but if you genuinely want each other, playing games is a stupid thing to do...
@@SyssySyssy agreed.
Your information is so good and you present it With so much subtle wit. It’s all round a brilliant watch
😂 😂 🤣 😂 🤣... You my favorite relationship coach
... Hands down 😂❤️.
Oh geez. I have a duck
😂😂 really!🤦 nothing cute about that at all!
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“Release your angry dogs if you accidentally have some running around...”
This is really funny!! I had no idea guys were trying so hard took into our eyes or make us laugh. They definitely aren't the player I thought. It's really cute, how hard they try!!❤
Yes Brian, Love,what you give out in your videos! You are Very perceptive. Men often say women are hard to understand and in some ways I have found men do have 'linear' behavioural patterns BUT my Man can be very hard to read!
Thankyou for this video it is so true!
Lesley xx
Your opening my eyes i never thought about it this way before.
This is so cute. Especially the duck. Also to know some guys are able to be emotional like this.
Omygosh Brian you are too funny and very cute! Thank you for your direct and gentle, straightforward and humorous, very useful advice💕
I absolutely love listening to his videos. He is so fantastic! I love what he has to say and the way he delivers his advice is so fun
Thank you soooo much!!! For confirming what I knew and felt! He displays all 4 ♥️
Same
“Brian” I don’t watch your channel much but every video I’ve seen of yours seems completely accurate. When I do watch your videos it’s because I find it encouraging to see another man who gets it. Thanks for speaking out!
Einstein theories are A LOT EASIER TO READ AND PROCESS THAN TRYING TO KEEP A GOOD MAN( if they even exist...) 😑
At 41 how have I been so clueless? 🤷
Don't feel bad. I was even more clueless at 56 because I spent my life taking care of children, very little dating.
He did all that and then asked me whether I have feelings for him. I said I have positive, warm feelings for him and he said that that's the problem because he's not interested. Later, he added that he has a gf (I still dont believe he had) and admitted that he might have sent encouraging signals. lol I wasn't really into him because I barely had talked with him in real life (we normally chatted) and he's significantly younger but it annoyed the hell out of me.
A friend sent me this video because it reminded her of the whole incident because she considers the guy "devoid of tact and common sense" and that he goes against his own very best interests xD
Ugh! I love this guy and love how he explains it all and give examples😂😂😂😂😂🥰🥰🥰
Some men are as hard to read as some of Einstein‘s theory’s..i love it!!!
You’re doing great Brian. You’re making me laugh!!! You’re presentation is awesome! Thank you. Easy to look at too!!
it's just so true. You're doing a really good job, Brian.
Mahalo Brian! I enjoyed watching this video as much as you liked making it! I Love and appreciate your sense humor! 😂😂😂😂
Finally. Someone who has helped my self doubt. Thank you
Thank you so much. I needed to hear this today. Yep he loves and adores me . Lol . Looking forward to more of these videos from you .
You are the most humorous relationship coach ever! I love it 😄😄😄🥰
I agree!
This was an endearing video... for the honest and sweet guy out there.
Brian...you are delightfully entertaining and genuine in your truths
Baby I laughed and truly enjoyed this....THANK YOU
I dont want to hide my true feelings i have for her...
Well please say it. Sometimes women just dont know.
Never open up to a woman, hang out smoke weed drink wine play music hook up. Stop masturbating about your "feelings"
@@gilbertrobert439 lmao masterbating to ur feelings? Tf? Loool
Right he’s speaking from experience 😂
Great video! I constantly missed these signals way back in High School. Nice guys told me they had wanted to date me at reunions. I’ll pay better attention now!!!
Thank you for giving clarification, I still can't believe this is really happening to me