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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 14 ต.ค. 2024
- The issues with a toxic mother in law need to be resolved via someone who is arbitrating the situation. A lot of other factors and responsibilities of each individual come into play when we speak about toxic people.
Shariah needs to be followed seriously and everyone should be clear about the role they are playing in their family. Pick and choose your battles, everything doesn't have to be an issue. Take preventative measures.
Shaykh Omar Suleiman answers and explains...
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My husband doesn't set boundaries with his mom and she takes advantage of us. She has done some questionable things to me and my husband had a talk with her about it and she will not apologize and expects me to play forgive and forget. She drops laundry off at our house when she is capable of doing her own laundry/ going to the laundry mat to get it done but expects us to do it knowing we work long hours and are under a lot of stress. She complained that her new washing machine cant get hooked up because of covid19 and that she ''feels bad'' that we have to do her laundry. I said to her that we work long hours and are under a lot of stress and have our own laundry and cleaning to do and that it's frustrating that you continue to drop laundry off at our house or expect my husband to go pick up your dirty laundry to bring it back to our house to wash than turn around and deliver it back to you when it's done. You are more than capable to go to the laundry matt and do your own laundry. It went right over her head and she feels like she is not in the wrong. This is what happens when husbands don't set healthy boundaries with their mothers disrespect!
Whoever is watching they have tried everything obviously then they end up looking for more guidance
Asalamwrwb Sheikh. Thank u for ur wise advice. May Allah SWT reward u n ur whole family with Aafiyat ameen thumma ameen
Assalamu alaikum
My mother in law wants to go for Umrah with me and my Husband. But the problem is that my mother in law is quite problematic and I want to do Umrah peacefully without any arguments and quarrel since it is a big ritual which has to be performed very sincerely. Though I respect her.I told my husband about this he also knows this very well. That's why I am afraid to go along with her so as to avoid problems that can arise afterwards. Please Suggest.
Your family maybe go another year without your mother in low.
Is that true that son has to follow order from his mother, ever after his son is married and have new family?
He does need to obey his mother as he is her son but if his mother is trying to put him against his wife or make him ignore any injustice/abuse his wife is going through just because his mum said so, that's not OK, he, like everyone else has a right to different people in his life he can't let one of them abuse or harm the other, there should be some sort of balance, if that makes sense
I have a question with the word, “order”. Are we talking about an “order” similar to one given to a soldier by his commanding officer? If so, that is problematic. Of course a mother has certain rights and should be honored/respected. However, a son has certain rights as well. He should be respected and honored as a man not a child. Mothers should not be ordering her adult sons and abuse Islamic traditions. Of course, a mother can advice and she can request for her son to do something. Yet, the mother should also acknowledge that her adult son is no longer a child. He should not be “ordered” in any way especially if she wants to maintain peace & harmony in the family as well as in his marriage.
Sheikh Suleiman as usual tiptoeing around the issue 🙄🤯
exactly
How to deal with toxic (sons) wife
Don't live with her under one roof. Let her live in her own home and this will minimize contact and friction.
Take here out alot with your wife this womens had been trough alot and didnt feed up how to handle also them horrible husbands who tooks six wifes also not know better 😬🧚♂️🧚♀️
My mother in my is super toxic. Non of her children are close with her. Worst, my father in law will always join in and blindly side with her.
I distance myself from them. Almost seen like i am severing ties. Many things happened when they crossed the line.
this video caption is how to deal with MIL. but this guy didn't say anything helpful 😮. don't waste our time like this.