Thank you to Sosa Henkoma for taking part in this episode. Sosa draws on his lived experience as a public speaker and coach to raise awareness of grooming and child criminal exploitation. He advocates for the unheard through his work as a mentor with young people You can follow him on Instagram here: instagram.com/sosa_est/?hl=en And find out more on his linktree: linktr.ee/sosa_est
The father never came to look for him or fight in court for him? So the wife was arrested for abuse finally and he's put in the system. ... He was failed by SO many adults
Poverty is a factor, you can’t watch one video and decide that this is the only way to be groomed into a gang; it’s not one or the other. Many factors together make someone vulnerable usually, and all cases are different.
Thank you, Sosa. No child deserves any of what you went through. I am glad you made it through the gang life alive. I hope your future includes wonderful people and places. Your volunteer work will pay itself back tenfold. Thank you for helping children that have no voice, no safe adult, no safe place to lay their head at night. I know what you touched on was just the tip of the iceberg as to the horrible things done to your body and mind. You're incredibly strong, and I'm touched that you teach children not to give up, to let the weight of the sorrow and pain pull them into a hole they can't get out of.
Started at 17 now I’m 20 bout to eat up my first sentence next week shit his different hearing a story from next man makes you feel like you aren’t alone
@@xxii7605 Just stop while you’re young, dude I promise you it’s not worth it. I’m 23, and last 3 years has been shit. Been clean and everything’s been good for a year now, only wish I did that sooner.
Oh Sos! You make me endlessly proud! Bawling watching that. I feel privileged to be the lady you trusted. That was captivating, eloquent, trauma informed, vulnerable, educational and inspiring. How far we have come and we have only just begun. Thank you for trusting me, thank you for believing your life could be different. Thank you for fighting every day to make that change, and most of all, thank you for you. I feel blessed to have you in my life. Love you endlessly. Well done kidda 💪🏼💚💚💚💚💚💚💚
I’m sorry your role models, parental figures and society failed you at such a young age, you’ve put in the hard work to make yourself the man you want to be, no one will ever appreciate what you had to go through and the effort that took as much as you, no one can take that away from you, stay strong brother and keep up the good fight!
I was in jail with this guy when we was 15, he really has come a long way! People think the road life is easy but truth is when you’re forced into it from young it’s hard to find a way out.
I definitely rehabilitated with the right help, 16 started working for the youth offending service, 19 done a cooking apprenticeship then 21 went to do business at uni & 27 now I co-own a catering business. A lot of my friends never rated me when I stopped trapping and got a 9 to 5 but now a lot of them are looking for a job or want my help to leave that life. It’s funny how life changes. I wish the best for everyone from a deprived background and hope you learn from our mistakes. It’s just not worth it!
Wow, thank you Sosa - this is extremely educational. My heart goes out to little Sosa. What an evil step mother you had. Your father doesn't sound like he was very present because he was always working. Hearing how you were shot at at such a young age is shocking - it obviously happens more frequently than what mainstream media reports. Sosa, if you're reading this, well done for turning your life around. I'm sure some days aren't easy as trauma doesn't just disappear. I can absolutely relate to you when you talked about trauma and not relating it to yourself. When you're child, you know no better because you're just surviving in a dissociative state which feels pretty normal. Thanks for sharing a snippet of your story - would love to know more. Best of luck in everything you do ❤
Hi Sosa, I am incredibly touched by your story. You should be proud of yourself for managing to get out of such difficult and traumatic circumstances. Thank you for also being open about your experiences with a psychologist and exploring trauma; this is a big issue in our community, especially with young people having to deal with unresolved issues. You’ve got a bright future ahead of you and your work will not go unnoticed! May God be with you and protect you
Sosa is incredible. Thank you for sharing your story. I admire Sosa's courage and strength. No child deserves to go through county lines .I am proud of how Sousa is trying to help and support children who might get groomed . I wish Sousa health and happiness. I wish Sousa all the best for the future ❤
Heavy stuff. Drug gangs got my mates and me working for them in our early teens by giving us free heroin when we was only trying to buy hash. That's just one reason I think weed should be legal.
If weed wasn’t illegal I wouldn’t: -know any illegal drug dealers -offered other hard drugs -access to jobs that involve crime for money I would be just some law abiding person who doesn’t drink but smokes after work (legal work)
@jaymichael6617 ❤️ yea man , if the Germans can get over being racist and legalise it why can't we ? If weed wasn't illegal I would have no record and I would have joined the army and had a normal home and family. But what is worse. The uk drug zar who keeps it illegal her husband has the biggest cannibis growing license in the uk and makes multi millions per year exporting weed around the world. I find that truly disgusting and sickening.
He seems like such a smart and sweet person. It must be horrifying to have no one listen to or help you when you’re a child. I hope he is thriving now, and is surrounded by love.
Lots of stuff goes on in the background that we don't hear about! Sometimes we need people like this to come forward as a voice for the unheard. You could probably help lots of youngstas out there that need somebody to talk to and have found themselves in these shit situations through no fault of their own.
What a life this young man has lived😓 Even without knowing you personally, I'm so proud of your strength to still be smiling, to tell your story and thr strength and integrity it took to turn yiur life around❤ What a King 👑✊🏾
This story is why peeps should not judge others, as a peep might look dodgy and live in substandard circumstances, but these things don't make them a second-class person, as one never knows what really is going on in a peeps life, one should think about putting themselves in the other peeps shoes before judging... I wish you good karma Sosa in the future as I think you deserve it... all the best!🙂
If you are well and able, never leave your child with the dad full time - even if he’s a great father to be honest. Men usually entrust their children with their new woman a lot, and you will have no say as to what kind of person that woman is. Kids need their mother, especially during the childhood stage.
It’s vice Versa. Women do the same also. Don’t act like it’s only men because I can give multiple articles of children being killed by their step father you’re a whole clown for that statement. It’s also funny u didn’t mention his mother leaving him alone when he was an infant. And let’s not bring up the stats of the amount of black men in jail who had a single mother. Please
I have heard this story before, many times, until parents are brought to account then boys/men girls/women as per this story may go through the passage and the experience that has happened here. Children need discipline and parents are the root of it. My Dad was missing in my life and it unfortunately took me until my 30s to realize how I should act as a human that is a positive to my family and friends and not a negative to society. I was 12 when I got into drugs, by 15 it was speed, E's and Opium and Hash, I came across so many bad scenarios and people during that time that I am lucky I made it to where I am now.
Honestly I feel sorry for this guy........what kind of parents are they......yeah it is child abuse and it also makes your child suffer from things like PTSD and stuff like that!!!!!!
It's a shame social services were apparenlty naive to exploitation of children in London when you spoke to them and didn't believe what was happening . I personally find it incredible they didn't do more but what do they know in the big scheme of things, very little it seems? . What they should have done, is kept you safe. 19:30. I am sure the Met police would have been aware of these gang cultures at the time and how they function. Nothing worse than being a child asking for help and being disbelieved. Keep up the good work ok. Let the gangs war upon each other if they so wish but let's invite them to follow a code. No women no children! Many diasdvantaged groups are ignored in such situations. It's time all step up to the plate!
I was a former cell mate of this man, I’m so happy and proud to see how far you’ve come. Always knew you was bigger than your struggle now everyone will see what I’ve always known. God bless you sosa🙏🏽💙.
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Thank you to Sosa Henkoma for taking part in this episode. Sosa draws on his lived experience as a public speaker and coach to raise awareness of grooming and child criminal exploitation. He advocates for the unheard through his work as a mentor with young people
You can follow him on Instagram here:
instagram.com/sosa_est/?hl=en
And find out more on his linktree: linktr.ee/sosa_est
The father never came to look for him or fight in court for him? So the wife was arrested for abuse finally and he's put in the system. ... He was failed by SO many adults
Exactly
A lot of fathers are the downfall of their children
What about the mother that abandoned him?
@@AkinolaWilliams Don't mind them, they will blame everything on the men
@@Mkhl4Sure FR
This man needs a full length interview. What a story!
100%!!🙌
Type his name in TH-cam . 2 just came up when I did . One for 25mins , one for 50 min
right he can talk very clear even with grills on 😂
This is how ,most gangs start .'NOT POVERTY ".
It's an escape from "MISERY OR TO FIND A SENSE OF BELONGING"
Hell no 🤣🤣
Poverty is a factor, you can’t watch one video and decide that this is the only way to be groomed into a gang; it’s not one or the other. Many factors together make someone vulnerable usually, and all cases are different.
Thank you, Sosa. No child deserves any of what you went through. I am glad you made it through the gang life alive. I hope your future includes wonderful people and places. Your volunteer work will pay itself back tenfold. Thank you for helping children that have no voice, no safe adult, no safe place to lay their head at night. I know what you touched on was just the tip of the iceberg as to the horrible things done to your body and mind. You're incredibly strong, and I'm touched that you teach children not to give up, to let the weight of the sorrow and pain pull them into a hole they can't get out of.
Sosa Henkoma I'm so relieved you have found peace and purpose in life. Look after yourself and stay positive. Legend.
What a raw story brudda, I feel u bro it’s exactly how it be. I started at 15 got out 23.
Fair play for getting out. Be well brother.
same here, started at 15 i’m now 23 and out from this shit
Started at 17 now I’m 20 bout to eat up my first sentence next week shit his different hearing a story from next man makes you feel like you aren’t alone
@@xxii7605 Just stop while you’re young, dude I promise you it’s not worth it. I’m 23, and last 3 years has been shit. Been clean and everything’s been good for a year now, only wish I did that sooner.
@@xxii7605 you aren’t alone! Just like you, or Sosa there’s more out there! And support. I hope you do get out, good luck!
im proud of you , you made it out , you did it , thank you for sharing Sosa
Oh Sos! You make me endlessly proud! Bawling watching that. I feel privileged to be the lady you trusted. That was captivating, eloquent, trauma informed, vulnerable, educational and inspiring. How far we have come and we have only just begun.
Thank you for trusting me, thank you for believing your life could be different. Thank you for fighting every day to make that change, and most of all, thank you for you. I feel blessed to have you in my life. Love you endlessly. Well done kidda 💪🏼💚💚💚💚💚💚💚
Bro sounds extremely intelligent it’s a shame he went through everything he’s gone through
I’m sorry your role models, parental figures and society failed you at such a young age, you’ve put in the hard work to make yourself the man you want to be, no one will ever appreciate what you had to go through and the effort that took as much as you, no one can take that away from you, stay strong brother and keep up the good fight!
I was in jail with this guy when we was 15, he really has come a long way! People think the road life is easy but truth is when you’re forced into it from young it’s hard to find a way out.
I hope you're life is way better now too.
I definitely rehabilitated with the right help, 16 started working for the youth offending service, 19 done a cooking apprenticeship then 21 went to do business at uni & 27 now I co-own a catering business. A lot of my friends never rated me when I stopped trapping and got a 9 to 5 but now a lot of them are looking for a job or want my help to leave that life. It’s funny how life changes. I wish the best for everyone from a deprived background and hope you learn from our mistakes. It’s just not worth it!
That bit where he didn't realise he was groomed, very common with trauma victims 😭 and now he's turned his life around, impressive 👏🙏❤️👏
You’re so right, it’s unbelievably common 😭 so sick of this narrative of ‘how could they not know’!!
Wow, thank you Sosa - this is extremely educational. My heart goes out to little Sosa. What an evil step mother you had. Your father doesn't sound like he was very present because he was always working. Hearing how you were shot at at such a young age is shocking - it obviously happens more frequently than what mainstream media reports. Sosa, if you're reading this, well done for turning your life around. I'm sure some days aren't easy as trauma doesn't just disappear. I can absolutely relate to you when you talked about trauma and not relating it to yourself. When you're child, you know no better because you're just surviving in a dissociative state which feels pretty normal. Thanks for sharing a snippet of your story - would love to know more. Best of luck in everything you do ❤
Hi Sosa, I am incredibly touched by your story. You should be proud of yourself for managing to get out of such difficult and traumatic circumstances. Thank you for also being open about your experiences with a psychologist and exploring trauma; this is a big issue in our community, especially with young people having to deal with unresolved issues. You’ve got a bright future ahead of you and your work will not go unnoticed! May God be with you and protect you
Sosa, it’s never easy reliving your past but you are a force to be reckoned with for change ! I’m so proud of you 🙏🏼💫❤️
His story sounds like a series or book, especially when the younger kids started fighting with the elders!
It will actually make a good story/series
This is deep and insightful
A witch foor a stepmother... And she wonders why she wasn't Blessed with her own whilst abusing someone else's!
Sosa much appreciation for sharing your story! You are a beautiful, kind-hearted man and I hope all is and stays well with you❤ much love to you
Great interview. He answers many questions that I think most of us wonder about. ❤❤❤
Im so glad he spoke about the trauma young teens go through because it is overlooked!
Sosa is incredible. Thank you for sharing your story. I admire Sosa's courage and strength. No child deserves to go through county lines .I am proud of how Sousa is trying to help and support children who might get groomed . I wish Sousa health and happiness. I wish Sousa all the best for the future ❤
Help me Abigail
Hie never had a childhood this is so sad
Man said singing Acapella😂😂
what a fantastic interview this guy is awesome ...!!!
This hot so close to home, I moved to Uk, got neglected by my parents went thru similar shit and just barely made it out. Bless you bro, we feel you
A lot of young kids on the streets have been failed by their parents and the system. Before you judge remember this story.
Poor bloke , feeling for him hope hes ok. Dont like to hear these scumbags do that to these young people
I'm glad he made it through and didn't allow anything to stop him going forward
I wanna give him a cuddle 😭
Was just thinking the same thing 🥺
BBC
wow have times changed since i was a kid
respect to the fella for turning his life around
Heavy stuff. Drug gangs got my mates and me working for them in our early teens by giving us free heroin when we was only trying to buy hash. That's just one reason I think weed should be legal.
Weed isn’t bad. It doesn’t kill people as long as it isn’t laced.
If weed wasn’t illegal I wouldn’t:
-know any illegal drug dealers
-offered other hard drugs
-access to jobs that involve crime for money
I would be just some law abiding person who doesn’t drink but smokes after work (legal work)
@jaymichael6617 ❤️ yea man , if the Germans can get over being racist and legalise it why can't we ? If weed wasn't illegal I would have no record and I would have joined the army and had a normal home and family. But what is worse. The uk drug zar who keeps it illegal her husband has the biggest cannibis growing license in the uk and makes multi millions per year exporting weed around the world. I find that truly disgusting and sickening.
Well done Sosa, great interview!!
This is a powerful video, I feel similar in some ways after getting out of online cyber crime after being groomed into it
He seems like such a smart and sweet person. It must be horrifying to have no one listen to or help you when you’re a child. I hope he is thriving now, and is surrounded by love.
this is a very sad story some parents or so called parents are so evil!
Well done. So proud of you 👍🏾
Lots of stuff goes on in the background that we don't hear about! Sometimes we need people like this to come forward as a voice for the unheard. You could probably help lots of youngstas out there that need somebody to talk to and have found themselves in these shit situations through no fault of their own.
Sorry this happened to you, your story matters ❤
We need a book from this man.
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He's ALWAYS brilliant!!!!!
What a story. Netflix could easily jump on this. Big respect Sosa 👏
This made my heart hurt - thinking about 3 sons, this is so scary! 😢
What a life this young man has lived😓 Even without knowing you personally, I'm so proud of your strength to still be smiling, to tell your story and thr strength and integrity it took to turn yiur life around❤
What a King 👑✊🏾
Fair play Sosa, Turning ur life around and now helping others
They need to retitle this and put it out again, what a story!
This is so sad, guy never had the love and care at home. Could have gone on to do good thing
He’s gone on to do a lot of good things now! But it should never of had to happen in the first place tho!
This guy needs a movie
he should write a book, very intelligent and well spoken guy.
This story is why peeps should not judge others, as a peep might look dodgy and live in substandard circumstances, but these things don't make them a second-class person, as one never knows what really is going on in a peeps life, one should think about putting themselves in the other peeps shoes before judging... I wish you good karma Sosa in the future as I think you deserve it... all the best!🙂
We really need to stop failing our children
If you are well and able, never leave your child with the dad full time - even if he’s a great father to be honest. Men usually entrust their children with their new woman a lot, and you will have no say as to what kind of person that woman is. Kids need their mother, especially during the childhood stage.
Agreed!
It’s vice Versa. Women do the same also. Don’t act like it’s only men because I can give multiple articles of children being killed by their step father you’re a whole clown for that statement.
It’s also funny u didn’t mention his mother leaving him alone when he was an infant. And let’s not bring up the stats of the amount of black men in jail who had a single mother. Please
The London accent has changed dramatically. Great story and video. Very honest and hard hitting.
guy is a star
I have heard this story before, many times, until parents are brought to account then boys/men girls/women as per this story may go through the passage and the experience that has happened here. Children need discipline and parents are the root of it. My Dad was missing in my life and it unfortunately took me until my 30s to realize how I should act as a human that is a positive to my family and friends and not a negative to society. I was 12 when I got into drugs, by 15 it was speed, E's and Opium and Hash, I came across so many bad scenarios and people during that time that I am lucky I made it to where I am now.
Madeyouthinkuk brought me here
This is so sad shem
He was failed so badly 😔
Honestly I feel sorry for this guy........what kind of parents are they......yeah it is child abuse and it also makes your child suffer from things like PTSD and stuff like that!!!!!!
Thank you
Idk why this popped up at 12 seconds.
There’s so many more questions that could’ve been asked
wtf is going on in our country
You would think he would be safer in UK 😮😮😮😮😮
Gang warfare is rife in inner city UK, which particularly exploits immigrants and the working class
Unfortunately, in the UK grooming / child criminal exploitation is very common, and so many people are unaware of it😭
Sosa i feel so sorry for uuuuu
Life is a movie
I remember this guy he used to chill in Woolwich
What was he doing around there? What would he be doing
@@ldnr4442 there were his from in south east
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It makes you wonder what's going wrong with Africa, why is it so bad?
This is in the UK.
@@EducatingBetterOutcomes yeah I know, he mentions differences between the Europe and Africa that's what I was talking about.
Dislike using an overused buzzword like "groomed" in the title.
what else would you call it 🤦♂
It is a known term that’s internationally recognised to classify exactly what he was victim to. It’s fitting.
@@a.m.3567
No. He was recruited. Pure and simple.
@@orc001Yeah but these guys are usually groomed into this lifestyle by older men idk why you wanna act dense
@@orc001 No, he was manipulated in by adults, so groomed
It's a shame social services were apparenlty naive to exploitation of children in London when you spoke to them and didn't believe what was happening . I personally find it incredible they didn't do more but what do they know in the big scheme of things, very little it seems? . What they should have done, is kept you safe. 19:30. I am sure the Met police would have been aware of these gang cultures at the time and how they function. Nothing worse than being a child asking for help and being disbelieved. Keep up the good work ok. Let the gangs war upon each other if they so wish but let's invite them to follow a code. No women no children! Many diasdvantaged groups are ignored in such situations. It's time all step up to the plate!
Children in gangs grow up to be adults in gangs. I don't think anyone 'wishes' for that life, it's all a trauma response.
“LIKE… I WOULD SAY”
“SO, FOR ME…” 😂😂😂
?????
@@blackstarlet1223 You not heard how many times homebody repeats those phrases
They are js filler words which everyone uses
singing acapella hahahaha
I was a former cell mate of this man, I’m so happy and proud to see how far you’ve come. Always knew you was bigger than your struggle now everyone will see what I’ve always known. God bless you sosa🙏🏽💙.
i’m so happy he’s safe and healing from this, bless him
Love this and this young man
Bless you my brother. I endured the same upbringing too. I'm in my 50's now and it still effects me. ❤🤍💚