I think at any age you have to be careful. I keep everything locked, and if someone that l dont know knocks on my door, l dont answer it. Unless it's post master but then they let you know your delivery is coming. Remember just because someone, knocks on your door does not mean you have to answer it. Remember that ❤
I’m in my 60s and have had home maintenance professionals take advantage … asking me who else lives in the house, refusing to leave, performing shoddy work because they think I don’t know better. I’ve become quite good at flushing the water heater,changing the filters, winterizing the AC, mowing the lawn and applying chemicals. Life today can be risky
Bought a house in small town Midwest America. The yard was big and not fenced . I had zero peace from neighbors commenting about noticing my car was gone for few days and where I had been. Always wanting to see the upgrades I put in and around the house . I should have known when two diff neighbors actually came over during my home inspection to lend their 2 cents. That was just the start. I fixed the place up and sold it after one year thankfully and did ok with it financially. Lesson learned and I am 58 single male .
1. I have not lived like this at all. This is wisdom I will have to meditate on and apply. I've looked at my house as a means of gaining friends and supporting the less fortunate of the neighborhood. I've been scammed and taken advantage of many times because I opened my home to exploitive people. I've even been hospitalized and jailed twice by disgruntled roommates taking revenge on me for setting boundaries. I'm now seeking legal means to extricate a couple squatters I let into my home as temporary guests until they could find another place to live. I'm trying to get a restraining order because they have been abusing me for over a year since I asked them to leave. What a scary life it has been just trying to provide a safe place for needy people. I have done this to my own neglect, putting myself and my home in imminent danger every time. I've got to learn to become my own best friend and cherish the time and space I have alone.
Now that I’m in my early 70’s I no longer “take care not 8:06 to offend”. A women in the elevator the other day told me “You look tired”. I immediately replied “So do you!”. She WASN’T pleased!🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣My attitude now is TFB!
Careful who you actually open the door to.. My disabled 82 year Mom simply answered her door one evening .. . Almost died from the beating and left on the grass at night in midwinter in just her nightie. Be very wary folks.. If you know an elder please help them with security. Financial abuse is also a serious matter, Never be afraid to ask police for help..
My parents became ill and had both passed away, they were active members of a local church and was always available to help, when they passed some of them were so eager to move in, family members were also ready to move in, don't trust anyone!
Beautifully put! Our home is indeed a sanctuary filled with memories and reflections of who we are. As we grow older, it's important to protect this space, not just physically but emotionally too.
My Husband’s wonderful 90+ parents hired helper for dad. He was dying & mom getting chemo. Helper took great care of him. They paid her well. At the same time she was stealing so many things. 1 method was taking an item & sub’g with inferior crap. After Mom better she noticed it all & told us but didn’t want to lose his care. They got a 2nd helper who did the same. Evil betrayer taking advantage of helpless senior is lowest of the low.
I am now 63, and I don’t trust anyone and keep to myself! Also, I’m finding out that especially “men” can be rude and condescending about a woman’s age! Men keep reminding me I’m old now!
They are stupid , and will suffer when they get old …. That’s the payback…. Good men stay with their wives and age with them. The others are assholes .
After my dad passed away one neighbor … husband and wife … especially the wife were Constantly !!! showing up … Unannounced at my moms door !!! And they were younger than my mom and as she got older it got a bit tougher for her to get up out of her favorite chair … This PIA neighbor (women) actually started answering my moms phone !!!!!!!! I got my mom a cell phone to keep in her pocket …. And I unplugged the landline phone and stored it in the basement !!!
And this is why no one should ever be put into a nursing home against their will! They lose everything, a lifetime collection of possessions they love, their sanctuary, their privacy and independence, sometimes their safety, and their respected place in the world.
My Sis-in-law in Nashville Tennessee needed "professional visiting nurse home health care" ordered by her dr. The first "professional" brought her 3 yr old daughter to the visit. My sis-in-law complained to the home health service company & her dr. Second & third "professional" visits by a new person went as they should. Fourth visit is where things went bad quickly. The 2nd "professional" was driven to the visit by adult son who came into sis-in-law's house & gave himself access to fridge for a bottle of water then took a tour of her house!!!! Sis-in-law told him to leave & he refused "til his mom was done with sis-in-law's check up!" Sis-in-law dialed a 911 & the couple left, immediately. And she has refused any visits from "Home health professionals" & changed doctors. Trust NO ONE!!!!!
I don't blame her.my decease husband had one nurse that took it upon herself to get some vaseline and put it on my husband not even asking me nor did she know that if it was his or not or even if he was allergic to it. But i call the agent and told them and they ask me did i talk with her and i told them that i call them frist and i will call her.and i did and told her that i didnot appreciated what she did.cause i was in my kitchen kill some little ants.so i told her how can i trust you in my house with my husband. NOW ONE TIME SHE DID ASK ME ABOUT PUTTING SOME VASLINE ON MY HUSBAND AND I TOLD HER NO! THAT I WILL.ANYWAY IT WAS AROUND EASTER TIME SHE TEXT ME and wish us Happy Easter and ask if i wanted other nurse? I told her no cause it was alomost for her time to run out so i let her finish out her time.But when it was time for this agent to send their nurse back i told them i didnot want her or some more people's that i did not want in my house.and eventually I change the company until he pass away. So yes! Becareful who you let in your house and wstch them like a hawk.
This is good advice even for young people. I have learned to never invite anyone into my house and never answer my door unless I am expecting someone. However, I don't agree that it is normal for older people to loose their memory. A person has to work memorizing things just as a younger person. Number 5 on setting boundaries is very good. A person needs to be cautious and have boundaries with family members also.
Such a thoughtful and timely reminder! As we grow older, our home becomes more than just a physical space - it’s our sanctuary filled with memories and hard-earned peace. Being friendly is important, but knowing where to draw the line and protect our boundaries is essential for maintaining that peace. Thank you for sharing these powerful stories and insights; they truly resonate. It's a reminder that protecting our space and peace is a form of self-respect.
I'm elderly tho I usually never admit it in comments. I can testify to this as to being true. I had neighbors across the street and one next door. There's one woman I can't walk to my mailbox without her calling me names and one next. Word to the wise please please don't trust neighbors 😢
I never allow anyone in my house without my being there. Even then I let only a couple of people I trust in. I live in an apartment building. They need to inspect from time to time. They say I don't have to be home, they're coming anyway. But I insist on being home. Nobody gets in unless I'm here. It's such an invasion of my privacy.
1. Thank You. Everything you've said in this video is true. I was robbed by an employee a few years ago. I have to be aware of people around me, because I'm disabled. Seniors are targeted by people that mean them no good.
❤❤ My home is so precious to me. A collection of memories over the years is housed in my space, a sanctuary of happiness and peace. It's my comfortable zone and let's me explore the qualities and boundaries of my true friendships among the people I choose to allow in my life ❤❤
Many older/retired folks, such as myself, may have part-time employment to ease expenses. The same thoughts expressed in this video should also be applied to coworkers. Never give out personal to those you work with. Trust me on this one. As always..."1".
This really spoke to me!!! I live in an apartment, and have to allow access to managers and maintenance workers as a condition of my lease. I keep valuables hidden. That's the best I can do. It was helpful to read others' comments. #1
I lived in Japan for a few years it’s very comfortable from the point of view of respect and especially peoples boundaries since I came back to live in Ireland my home country I’ve learned the hard way that people can so easily disrespect my boundaries and take advantage as if it is their right to take it’s like their entitled to take over a persons life I’m shocked at the rudeness and disrespect people have I live alone and I’m now very cautious about my boundaries and privacy though at times it’s lonely and I do miss the safety of life in Japan Ireland was a very safe country to live in when I was growing up people were very friendly and trusting of each other but unfortunately and sad to say it has all changed thank you for your informative video I enjoyed it very much
At an advanced age, we have to trust somebody sooner or later. So early in life, establish relationships that can last without any commitment or responsibility. We have to take a risk, and pray that we made the right choice, whether as a spouse or a friend to hold hands with.
I don’t let anyone in either and when I meet someone new I put my boundaries up right on the get go, I tell them I don’t want druggies or alcoholics around and I also tell them I don’t answer the door to anyone so don’t even bother to show up.more recently I won’t even disclose where I live, even if I’m asked. It’s my observation that when someone says they want to help, it usually means they want to help “ themselves “ never, never let your guard down, there’s some really slick cons artists out there
So true! I once viewed the World through rose coloured glasses and was taken advantage of by friends, family and neighbours! I was taught a valuable lesson that serves me well now in my old age!
It's important to be extremely careful if you're using an agency to hire a caregiver for your elderly loved ones. They are strangers who your loved one will have to live with and will be at their mercy.
This voice sounds real and soothing. Great topic, very helpful. I have a Do Not Disturb sign on my door for a reason. However, I see evidence that my manager came inside, while I was away. She was checking on the emergency cords, but I felt odd about it. I do keep my valuables well hidden. I recently "heard"that she is not trustworthy. I hope it's a rumor. I mentioned this to a wise family member who advised me to say nothing.
Seniors, ask yourself why a neighbor is interested in you. You are older, probabaly quiet and live in your home alone. and are probably a little boring. Of course they want your house and money and not your company. Our 91 years old friend Rolly had another long term "Christian" friend named Bob. Rolly asked Bob to be his executor and in exchange Bob requested that Rolly sign over the contents to his house. Bob even had a contents list made up with a line for Rollys signature. Luckily I saw this list and told Rolly not to sign it. Unbeknownst to Bob I purchased the house for the going market rate and arranged to have the locks changed if Rolly became incapacitated or in hospital which is what happened. Guess who immediately tried to get into the house with his key? Bob. Guess whos key did not work? Bob's. I kicked Bob off of my property. Trust no one!!
@ awwww, that’s sad , I’m a 72 year old widow and my best most trusted friends are from my Pentecostal church. They got me through my husbands traumatic death from Covid . We meet 2 times a week besides at church . One meeting at a coffee shop, one in the church auditorium for prayers . We don’t go to each others homes much, once in a while we have a potluck at either my house or one of the other ladies, that’s because our kitchens are big. Once a month we go for a posh lunch together . It really is a great support, we are all of us over 60. I know what you mean though, not all Christians are the genuine article .
True! At 70, I am now very careful not to let just anyone in. I don't even want my sister-in-law in anymore. Recently, I have been excluding her from entering, when I found her to be controlling and greedy. I don't invite my neighbors in, and will demand the first and last name of all apartment person- nel from now on. It will take a special person to be willingly invited in.
I've never let neighbours into my home people think there being friendly plus they start gossiping about this one and that one and they will start gossiping about you aswell. Two faced hypocrites probability with skeletons in there cupboards trying to find out your business . Ever heard the term class houses plus in society they throw all the masses into housing estates where people are living almost on top of each other with no room to breathe . There are some people that can afford to buy homes in the country where there are no neibours about . I have always been a private person and would tell my family the same . So from my perspective that's how I see it.
I found your video very interesting and needed to watch this. I had a similar situation with a woman I met. She wanted to know everything about me, but I knew no specific details on her. I eventually had to tell her questions were intrusive. This was the last I saw and heard from her. It has bothered me but now I see it all in a different light.
Thank you for such a meaningful video! The advice about protecting our peace and setting boundaries as we age is invaluable. A truly important message-much appreciated!
Isn’t this theory inviting self-imposed isolation? Just be discerning of the character of the neighbor. If red flags show up, stop any association with with said neighbor. Learn to say “no”.
This is absolutely right. I had these neighbors who said they were really concerned about me and wanted to help me.They practically invited themselves into my house because they said they wanted to help clean up. They seemed to be coming over all the time. One would sit with me in the kitchen and talk with me while the other one cleaned up. I started to notice a lot of my things were missing. Even the clock I had by my bed. When I told the neighbors a lot of my things were missing they said somebody is stealing from me and that is terrible. They told me somebody was probably coming into my house while I was out grocery shopping and taking things. They kindly volunteered to come in my house and watch when I had to go out. The only trouble is I noticed more of my things were missing when these neighbors were watching my house. A lot of my clothes starting disappearing then one day I came home and my TV set was gone. I asked the neighbors where is my TV set and they said they didn’t know. Then I told them I didn’t want them coming over anymore. They said they were deeply hurt. Now no more of my things are missing. I just wish I had my wife’s jewelers back that went missing.
When I moved into my present house, I had the locks changed immediately as I always do. My next door neighbour was visibly upset at this and told me that I “must give him a key” (in case I got locked out). Of course I did not, and I soon discovered that the previous occupants HAD given him a key and he had made good use of it! His initial “friendliness” quickly became intrusive and I cut off all contact with him.
Even family member states come to your home to see what you've got and they I don't like to you be better than them they get jealous see them by time goes by
A 25 year old young woman moved into a room on our street and encroached upon the seniors for resources like free rides. She can't take UBBERS because she might get killed she said. I said to my wife she probably plans to sue us so no more rides.
I bought a duplex i have to share now with noisy neighbors in a bad neighborhood. My mistake.My neighbors were nice when i moved in. Now i realize it was fake.I lived right next to a drug dealer and went through hell. Constant people and cars and smells so bad.I have learned the thieves are everywhere.
If someone strange to me knocks on the front door, i go to the back, check outside. Making sure it's only ONE stranger. If i want to engage, i go out the back and approach the knocker from a surprise direction in the front yard. Full view of neighbors. I catch them off guard. It's most often a solicitor.
1 my mother in law had a “friend” who I used to notice every time she came over was taking inventory with her eyes of my MIL stuff. When my MIL died this woman was the first on at her home after the funeral taking stuff she said my MIL “wanted” her to have.
Well! Everyone is not like that there are some good people who do want to help! You out without getting anything in return like me I am a helper and never want anything in return.But if you want to Trust someone TRUST IN GOD! CAUSE HE will never FAIL YOU!
I am telling you I do not give a hoot about my neighbors. I had a special-needs child when I first moved into a beautiful upper Chris community 25 years ago. I thought I was going to have a dream life of stay at home mothers eaten bonbons boy did that dream dry up they didn’t want any part of me and my daughter. I won’t get into the details of how she behaved, but evidently she was just too loud and too much trouble to be around. We were shunned to say the least! I was a true and blue loyal friend. I am the kind of friend that would show up on your doorstep with flowers and a cake on your birthday. I did absolutely absolutely everything right for many many years. We are going on 33 years of happy marriage we are still in the same house 25 years down the road when many of these people have picked up and already left many of them divorced Now they realize that we were very nice people and they actually trying to befriend us. I literally go down my neighborhood and scream, bitch jerk. It’s my little bit of satisfaction when I pass their homes. They were very very cold. I am talking having a party and inviting every single mother with their children and leaving me home with my little baby on the swingset alone very very hurtful I got over it since then, but I have no interest in making friends and I’ve also cut off most of my family, they are also jealous people mostly my in-laws I stick to myself. I pray to God for hours a day. I have very limited contact with people because I have since found out that I am a chosen one through my spirit, awakening and most chosen people do not need a lot of people around, but as for neighbors, it would be hard-pressed to get into my house on any given day I do not open my door for anyone!
I flew to the moon on a mars bar a few years back. I met a cat named Simon who told me his hovel was infested with gummy bears. Well let's just say I didn't invite him over for Christmas dinner.
Just a piece of advice, i think u have been going in circle after the 10 mins mark. You should keep it short and sharp and to the points. Otherwise it is very painful to listen and i wouldn’t want to listen to your next clip
Wisdom from artificial intelligence read by the voice of an artificial speaker began to appear more and more often and in different languages. What is it? Is there a person behind it or is AI doing it on its own? This is a strange new phenomenon that I do not understand yet.
How sad that you feel so distrustful of neighbours. Don’t judge people by your own actions, you might need them one day. Make friends or you will live a very lonely life.
@@ShelikestocookandgardenYes & not all people are nice - including the church goers & the very clergy.History old for centuries & recent will attest.Be watchful of your intuition , peoples lack of good character & other red flags.
I will not get too old .I dont want it. Whats the point ? Why suffer while modern medicine forces me to live beyond what my body can take ? I know where I.m going.
unwatchale after 14 seconds .. most people can read more than one word at a time and it is very tedious .. one line at a time .. one paragraph at a time .. or just speak clearly .. no captions needed
I think at any age you have to be careful. I keep everything locked, and if someone that l dont know knocks on my door, l dont answer it. Unless it's post master but then they let you know your delivery is coming. Remember just because someone, knocks on your door does not mean you have to answer it. Remember that ❤
Your sharing is wonderful, thank you very much
I do the same
THANK U DIANA! EXCELLENT REMINDER. WELL DONE! CHUK IN TEXAS.
I’m in my 60s and have had home maintenance professionals take advantage … asking me who else lives in the house, refusing to leave, performing shoddy work because they think I don’t know better. I’ve become quite good at flushing the water heater,changing the filters, winterizing the AC, mowing the lawn and applying chemicals. Life today can be risky
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You go girl! Good for you.
Nothing wrong with being friendly and a good neighbor. But always remember that they aren't your friends, they're your neighbors.
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Bought a house in small town Midwest America.
The yard was big and not fenced . I had zero peace from neighbors commenting about noticing my car was gone for few days and where I had been. Always wanting to see the upgrades I put in and around the house . I should have known when two diff neighbors actually came over during my home inspection to lend their 2 cents. That was just the start. I fixed the place up and sold it after one year thankfully and did ok with it financially.
Lesson learned and I am 58 single male .
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Good fences make good neighbors.
@@bud5084 PRIVACY FENCES EVEN BETTER!
1. I have not lived like this at all. This is wisdom I will have to meditate on and apply. I've looked at my house as a means of gaining friends and supporting the less fortunate of the neighborhood. I've been scammed and taken advantage of many times because I opened my home to exploitive people. I've even been hospitalized and jailed twice by disgruntled roommates taking revenge on me for setting boundaries. I'm now seeking legal means to extricate a couple squatters I let into my home as temporary guests until they could find another place to live. I'm trying to get a restraining order because they have been abusing me for over a year since I asked them to leave. What a scary life it has been just trying to provide a safe place for needy people. I have done this to my own neglect, putting myself and my home in imminent danger every time. I've got to learn to become my own best friend and cherish the time and space I have alone.
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I've been I your shoes...I'm sorry people took your kindness for weakness.😢
Now that I’m in my early 70’s I no longer “take care not 8:06 to offend”. A women in the elevator the other day told me “You look tired”. I immediately replied “So do you!”. She WASN’T pleased!🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣My attitude now is TFB!
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😅😅 Good one. You shut diwn something potentially bad?
Careful who you actually open the door to.. My disabled 82 year Mom simply answered her door one evening .. . Almost died from the beating and left on the grass at night in midwinter in just her nightie. Be very wary folks.. If you know an elder please help them with security. Financial abuse is also a serious matter, Never be afraid to ask police for help..
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I have cameras front and back.
Ask police for help ????🤔🤣🤣🤣OKAY.
Do not open door unless it's someone you know and expecting.
My parents became ill and had both passed away, they were active members of a local church and was always available to help, when they passed some of them were so eager to move in, family members were also ready to move in, don't trust anyone!
Beautifully put! Our home is indeed a sanctuary filled with memories and reflections of who we are. As we grow older, it's important to protect this space, not just physically but emotionally too.
Your sharing is wonderful, thank you very much
My Husband’s wonderful 90+ parents hired helper for dad. He was dying & mom getting chemo. Helper took great care of him. They paid her well. At the same time she was stealing so many things. 1 method was taking an item & sub’g with inferior crap. After Mom better she noticed it all & told us but didn’t want to lose his care. They got a 2nd helper who did the same. Evil betrayer taking advantage of helpless senior is lowest of the low.
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Thank you very much ❤❤❤
Not only was this content informative, I really really appreciate no robot voice, thank you!
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Like Melatonin. 😂
I am now 63, and I don’t trust anyone and keep to myself! Also, I’m finding out that especially “men” can be rude and condescending about a woman’s age! Men keep reminding me I’m old now!
As if a young woman would find them attractive. Lol !! They 're losers !
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They are stupid , and will suffer when they get old …. That’s the payback…. Good men stay with their wives and age with them. The others are assholes .
Yes men don't age only women do. They don't see the potbelly, the bald head, the double chin, and the wrinkles😂
@pathader4839 LOL. So true
Don't trust anyone, but yourself.
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I think so, too
Amen 🙏🏾
Great advice 😊
❤
After my dad passed away one neighbor … husband and wife … especially the wife were Constantly !!! showing up … Unannounced at my moms door !!! And they were younger than my mom and as she got older it got a bit tougher for her to get up out of her favorite chair … This PIA neighbor (women) actually started answering my moms phone !!!!!!!! I got my mom a cell phone to keep in her pocket …. And I unplugged the landline phone and stored it in the basement !!!
Your sharing is wonderful, thank you very much
And this is why no one should ever be put into a nursing home against their will! They lose everything, a lifetime collection of possessions they love, their sanctuary, their privacy and independence, sometimes their safety, and their respected place in the world.
Your sharing is wonderful, thank you very much
My Sis-in-law in Nashville Tennessee needed "professional visiting nurse home health care" ordered by her dr. The first "professional" brought her 3 yr old daughter to the visit. My sis-in-law complained to the home health service company & her dr.
Second & third "professional" visits by a new person went as they should.
Fourth visit is where things went bad quickly. The 2nd "professional" was driven to the visit by adult son who came into sis-in-law's house & gave himself access to fridge for a bottle of water then took a tour of her house!!!!
Sis-in-law told him to leave & he refused "til his mom was done with sis-in-law's check up!"
Sis-in-law dialed a 911 & the couple left, immediately.
And she has refused any visits from "Home health professionals" & changed doctors.
Trust NO ONE!!!!!
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I don't blame her.my decease husband had one nurse that took it upon herself to get some vaseline and put it on my husband not even asking me nor did she know that if it was his or not or even if he was allergic to it. But i call the agent and told them and they ask me did i talk with her and i told them that i call them frist and i will call her.and i did and told her that i didnot appreciated what she did.cause i was in my kitchen kill some little ants.so i told her how can i trust you in my house with my husband. NOW ONE TIME SHE DID ASK ME ABOUT PUTTING SOME VASLINE ON MY HUSBAND AND I TOLD HER NO! THAT I WILL.ANYWAY IT WAS AROUND EASTER TIME SHE TEXT ME and wish us Happy Easter and ask if i wanted other nurse? I told her no cause it was alomost for her time to run out so i let her finish out her time.But when it was time for this agent to send their nurse back i told them i didnot want her or some more people's that i did not want in my house.and eventually I change the company until he pass away. So yes! Becareful who you let in your house and wstch them like a hawk.
This is good advice even for young people. I have learned to never invite anyone into my house and never answer my door unless I am expecting someone. However, I don't agree that it is normal for older people to loose their memory. A person has to work memorizing things just as a younger person. Number 5 on setting boundaries is very good. A person needs to be cautious and have boundaries with family members also.
Your sharing is wonderful, thank you very much
Such a thoughtful and timely reminder! As we grow older, our home becomes more than just a physical space - it’s our sanctuary filled with memories and hard-earned peace. Being friendly is important, but knowing where to draw the line and protect our boundaries is essential for maintaining that peace. Thank you for sharing these powerful stories and insights; they truly resonate. It's a reminder that protecting our space and peace is a form of self-respect.
The religious sect called the Mennonites had a saying "Good fences make good neighbors". Try it.
I'm elderly tho I usually never admit it in comments. I can testify to this as to being true. I had neighbors across the street and one next door. There's one woman I can't walk to my mailbox without her calling me names and one next. Word to the wise please please don't trust neighbors 😢
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I never allow anyone in my house without my being there. Even then I let only a couple of people I trust in. I live in an apartment building. They need to inspect from time to time. They say I don't have to be home, they're coming anyway. But I insist on being home. Nobody gets in unless I'm here. It's such an invasion of my privacy.
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1. Thank You. Everything you've said in this video is true. I was robbed by an employee a few years ago. I have to be aware of people around me, because I'm disabled. Seniors are targeted by people that mean them no good.
Your sharing is wonderful, thank you very much
❤❤ My home is so precious to me. A collection of memories over the years is housed in my space, a sanctuary of happiness and peace. It's my comfortable zone and let's me explore the qualities and boundaries of my true friendships among the people I choose to allow in my life ❤❤
Your sharing is wonderful, thank you very much
@@WiseAdvice93 Thank you for your lovely comment 😊
Many older/retired folks, such as myself, may have part-time employment to ease expenses. The same thoughts expressed in this video should also be applied to coworkers. Never give out personal to those you work with. Trust me on this one. As always..."1".
Your sharing is wonderful, thank you very much
This really spoke to me!!! I live in an apartment, and have to allow access to managers and maintenance workers as a condition of my lease. I keep valuables hidden. That's the best I can do.
It was helpful to read others' comments. #1
Thanks for sharing!!
Thank You very much for reminding me of boundaries and trust ❤️.
I needed that 😊!
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I lived in Japan for a few years it’s very comfortable from the point of view of respect and especially peoples boundaries since I came back to live in Ireland my home country I’ve learned the hard way that people can so easily disrespect my boundaries and take advantage as if it is their right to take it’s like their entitled to take over a persons life I’m shocked at the rudeness and disrespect people have I live alone and I’m now very cautious about my boundaries and privacy though at times it’s lonely and I do miss the safety of life in Japan Ireland was a very safe country to live in when I was growing up people were very friendly and trusting of each other but unfortunately and sad to say it has all changed thank you for your informative video I enjoyed it very much
At an advanced age, we have to trust somebody sooner or later. So early in life, establish relationships that can last without any commitment or responsibility. We have to take a risk, and pray that we made the right choice, whether as a spouse or a friend to hold hands with.
Your sharing is wonderful, thank you very much
I don't let anybody in my house.
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Me too.
I don’t let anyone in either and when I meet someone new I put my boundaries up right on the get go, I tell them I don’t want druggies or alcoholics around and I also tell them I don’t answer the door to anyone so don’t even bother to show up.more recently I won’t even disclose where I live, even if I’m asked.
It’s my observation that when someone says they want to help, it usually means they want to help “ themselves “ never, never let your guard down, there’s some really slick cons artists out there
Not just when you grow old.
Snakes don't age discriminate.
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So true! I once viewed the World through rose coloured glasses and was taken advantage of by friends, family and neighbours! I was taught a valuable lesson that serves me well now in my old age!
It's important to be extremely careful if you're using an agency to hire a caregiver for your elderly loved ones. They are strangers who your loved one will have to live with and will be at their mercy.
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This voice sounds real and soothing. Great topic, very helpful. I have a Do Not Disturb sign on my door for a reason. However, I see evidence that my manager came inside, while I was away. She was checking on the emergency cords, but I felt odd about it. I do keep my valuables well hidden. I recently "heard"that she is not trustworthy. I hope it's a rumor. I mentioned this to a wise family member who advised me to say nothing.
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Seniors, ask yourself why a neighbor is interested in you. You are older, probabaly quiet and live in your home alone. and are probably a little boring. Of course they want your house and money and not your company. Our 91 years old friend Rolly had another long term "Christian" friend named Bob. Rolly asked Bob to be his executor and in exchange Bob requested that Rolly sign over the contents to his house. Bob even had a contents list made up with a line for Rollys signature. Luckily I saw this list and told Rolly not to sign it. Unbeknownst to Bob I purchased the house for the going market rate and arranged to have the locks changed if Rolly became incapacitated or in hospital which is what happened. Guess who immediately tried to get into the house with his key? Bob. Guess whos key did not work? Bob's. I kicked Bob off of my property. Trust no one!!
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You did a good thing ! I’m a Christian and I know full well how wolves hide in the church !
If someone told me they were a “Christian” they would be the LAST person that I’d ever allow in my house.
@ awwww, that’s sad , I’m a 72 year old widow and my best most trusted friends are from my Pentecostal church. They got me through my husbands traumatic death from Covid . We meet 2 times a week besides at church . One meeting at a coffee shop, one in the church auditorium for prayers . We don’t go to each others homes much, once in a while we have a potluck at either my house or one of the other ladies, that’s because our kitchens are big. Once a month we go for a posh lunch together . It really is a great support, we are all of us over 60. I know what you mean though, not all Christians are the genuine article .
@@alicesamuels3937 Eyes wide open for all involved when it comes to money and property.
You’re absolutely right at [3:42], just changing our perspective can make life so much more positive. This video is truly valuable!
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True! At 70, I am now very careful not to let just anyone in. I don't even want my sister-in-law in anymore. Recently, I have been excluding her from entering, when I found her to be controlling and greedy. I don't invite my neighbors in, and will demand the first and last name of all apartment person- nel from now on. It will take a special person to be willingly invited in.
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I've never let neighbours into my home people think there being friendly plus they start gossiping about this one and that one and they will start gossiping about you aswell. Two faced hypocrites probability with skeletons in there cupboards trying to find out your business . Ever heard the term class houses plus in society they throw all the masses into housing estates where people are living almost on top of each other with no room to breathe . There are some people that can afford to buy homes in the country where there are no neibours about . I have always been a private person and would tell my family the same . So from my perspective that's how I see it.
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In my house ONLY the Dogs and my husband. NOBODY ELSE, EVER!
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I found your video very interesting and needed to watch this. I had a similar situation with a woman I met. She wanted to know everything about me, but I knew no specific details on her. I eventually had to tell her questions were intrusive. This was the last I saw and heard from her. It has bothered me but now I see it all in a different light.
It’s good you set boundaries-it’s not always easy but so important. Glad the video brought you clarity!
Thank you for such a meaningful video! The advice about protecting our peace and setting boundaries as we age is invaluable. A truly important message-much appreciated!
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Isn’t this theory inviting self-imposed isolation? Just be discerning of the character of the neighbor. If red flags show up, stop any association with with said neighbor. Learn to say “no”.
THIS IS A REALY GOOD VIDIO,VERY HELPFUL.
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My Papa used to tell me TRUST NO ONE BUT GOD !! AMEN !!!❤
Did he work for a 3 letter agency ?
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Thank you for this wonderful and timely advice. God Bless your work.
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This is absolutely right. I had these neighbors who said they were really concerned about me and wanted to help me.They practically invited themselves into my house because they said they wanted to help clean up. They seemed to be coming over all the time. One would sit with me in the kitchen and talk with me while the other one cleaned up. I started to notice a lot of my things were missing. Even the clock I had by my bed. When I told the neighbors a lot of my things were missing they said somebody is stealing from me and that is terrible. They told me somebody was probably coming into my house while I was out grocery shopping and taking things. They kindly volunteered to come in my house and watch when I had to go out. The only trouble is I noticed more of my things were missing when these neighbors were watching my house. A lot of my clothes starting disappearing then one day I came home and my TV set was gone. I asked the neighbors where is my TV set and they said they didn’t know. Then I told them I didn’t want them coming over anymore. They said they were deeply hurt. Now no more of my things are missing. I just wish I had my wife’s jewelers back that went missing.
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When I moved into my present house, I had the locks changed immediately as I always do. My next door neighbour was visibly upset at this and told me that I “must give him a key” (in case I got locked out). Of course I did not, and I soon discovered that the previous occupants HAD given him a key and he had made good use of it!
His initial “friendliness” quickly became intrusive and I cut off all contact with him.
You handled that situation wisely. Setting boundaries is so important, and it’s empowering to take control of your space.
Even family member states come to your home to see what you've got and they I don't like to you be better than them they get jealous see them by time goes by
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A 25 year old young woman moved into a room on our street and encroached upon the seniors for resources like free rides. She can't take UBBERS because she might get killed she said. I said to my wife she probably plans to sue us so no more rides.
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I highly appreciate the contents of this video and thanks a lot for your invaluable advice ! It's all about the art of living in today's world !😊
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greed is what i see here. Trust no one
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I never trusted anyone as I got older..its a pity,I have to keep to myself..😏
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Spot on. Learn this lesson early in Life or Learn the hard way.
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We like our privacy.
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I bought a duplex i have to share now with noisy neighbors in a bad neighborhood. My mistake.My neighbors were nice when i moved in. Now i realize it was fake.I lived right next to a drug dealer and went through hell. Constant people and cars and smells so bad.I have learned the thieves are everywhere.
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If someone strange to me knocks on the front door, i go to the back, check outside. Making sure it's only ONE stranger. If i want to engage, i go out the back and approach the knocker from a surprise direction in the front yard. Full view of neighbors. I catch them off guard. It's most often a solicitor.
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1 my mother in law had a “friend” who I used to notice every time she came over was taking inventory with her eyes of my MIL stuff. When my MIL died this woman was the first on at her home after the funeral taking stuff she said my MIL “wanted” her to have.
If there’s any doubt, check the will or what your mother-in-law left behind to avoid misunderstandings and conflicts.
Well! Everyone is not like that there are some good people who do want to help! You out without getting anything in return like me I am a helper and never want anything in return.But if you want to Trust someone TRUST IN GOD! CAUSE HE will never FAIL YOU!
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People don't need to be in all the rooms of your home. In fact, I dont have anybody in my home but my grown kids.
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I am telling you I do not give a hoot about my neighbors. I had a special-needs child when I first moved into a beautiful upper Chris community 25 years ago. I thought I was going to have a dream life of stay at home mothers eaten bonbons boy did that dream dry up they didn’t want any part of me and my daughter. I won’t get into the details of how she behaved, but evidently she was just too loud and too much trouble to be around. We were shunned to say the least! I was a true and blue loyal friend. I am the kind of friend that would show up on your doorstep with flowers and a cake on your birthday. I did absolutely absolutely everything right for many many years. We are going on 33 years of happy marriage we are still in the same house 25 years down the road when many of these people have picked up and already left many of them divorced Now they realize that we were very nice people and they actually trying to befriend us. I literally go down my neighborhood and scream, bitch jerk. It’s my little bit of satisfaction when I pass their homes. They were very very cold. I am talking having a party and inviting every single mother with their children and leaving me home with my little baby on the swingset alone very very hurtful I got over it since then, but I have no interest in making friends and I’ve also cut off most of my family, they are also jealous people mostly my in-laws I stick to myself. I pray to God for hours a day. I have very limited contact with people because I have since found out that I am a chosen one through my spirit, awakening and most chosen people do not need a lot of people around, but as for neighbors, it would be hard-pressed to get into my house on any given day I do not open my door for anyone!
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People taking advantage of kindness
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I'm a good neighbor but I'm not over friendly. I don't trust anyone.
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Trust in The Lord and those that don't fear him should not abide in it.
Trust in the Lord you can't go wrong
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I don't let in my house I have no friends I have no family I trust nobody
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I only trust Jesus.
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Don't even let your grown adult children into your house, especially your children.
That's sad..... My adult children & 3 gr children are the only people I trust 100%!!!
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My children are welcomed in my house anytime. I reserve extra caution when it involves neighbors, certain relatives, or strangers. Very good advice.
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I flew to the moon on a mars bar a few years back. I met a cat named Simon who told me his hovel was infested with gummy bears. Well let's just say I didn't invite him over for Christmas dinner.
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Evil people look for easy targets
That's a pathway to loneliness fear 😱
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A path to safety.
Just a piece of advice, i think u have been going in circle after the 10 mins mark. You should keep it short and sharp and to the points.
Otherwise it is very painful to listen and i wouldn’t want to listen to your next clip
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Wisdom from artificial intelligence read by the voice of an artificial speaker began to appear more and more often and in different languages. What is it? Is there a person behind it or is AI doing it on its own? This is a strange new phenomenon that I do not understand yet.
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These AI generated videos are designed to undermine the traditions of our culture and instill bizarre psychological issues in people.
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Please don't use the word old it has so many negative connotations. Just say older.
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@@WiseAdvice93 you are an abysmal fake, you say the same thing over and over .
How sad that you feel so distrustful of neighbours. Don’t judge people by your own actions, you might need them one day. Make friends or you will live a very lonely life.
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Not all neighbors are good people!!
@@ShelikestocookandgardenYes & not all people are nice - including the church goers & the very clergy.History old for centuries & recent will attest.Be watchful of your intuition , peoples lack of good character & other red flags.
I will not get too old .I dont want it. Whats the point ? Why suffer while modern medicine forces me to live beyond what my body can take ?
I know where I.m going.
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@@WiseAdvice93say something besides the same thing every time . If not, you are not real and why should I trust the advice of A.I .
Paraphrase upon paraphrase. Tedious.
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It's only stuff. Don't sweat it.
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Makes me want to trust androids ,robots that look exactly like human beings to look after elderly family
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Those need to be developed.
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Please don't ask me to subscribe to your channel when I've heard only one minute of your message!
unwatchale after 14 seconds .. most people can read more than one word at a time and it is very tedious .. one line at a time .. one paragraph at a time .. or just speak clearly .. no captions needed
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It’s totally fake .
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Get A no 👎 Solicitation sign 🪧 Trust No One have emergency number and Family you trust Only
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