I mean it has be a joke or a hyperbole but imagine how insecure you have to be to demand they not only don't try too hard but actively go out of their way to be unclean so that you feel good about yourself. Like please stand up my God that is an unbelievably fragile ego.
Id go work out before or go jogging or something and absolutely smell and look ugly as heck and if they complain about it id say "welllllll, it was in the rules."
as a slavic girlie… showing up to a friends birthday NOT dressed to the nines would be the insult, because you do not respect them and value their big occasion enough to dress up for them
That’s what the sentiment has been over on the western areas for a long time, I would feel awful not dressing to the nines for a special event that’s for my friend. I think TikTok has really messed up some of these younger peoples brains.
my ex best friend came to my first birthday party in years in a hoodie and didn't even bring a card, proceeded to make the entire thing about herself, there's a reason we're no longer friends lol
That was one of a few final straws when I cut off a friend - she invited me out to eat, ordered too much, tried to get me to pay for all of it, majority of it, then asked me to call my fiancé at the time to ask him to pay because "(other friend's name)'s boyfriend would pay..."
@@bxnvrr763 Ain't no way, I would NEVER do that to my best friend's boyfriend. If anything my friend and her family has once paid almost 1,000 dollars FOR ME ON MY BIRTHDAY (cause she took me to this tea place which was very nice, we drank some really good tea and had some really nice dessert and then they gave me a tiny cake for my birthday) AND BRO when I tell you how BAD I felt!! My mom actually gave me some money so that I could pay for my part cause she had already told me she was taking me out to eat but the place was a surprise and when I told her how to split it she said, "Oh no don't worry, me and my parents have it! It's our gift for you". I am honestly saving my money to take her to LA and spend the night there for her birthday cause I honestly feel SO BAD. I appreciate it a lot, but I felt so bad. Is anyone humble anymore?? Do they know what that word is??? This world is getting scarier all around.
It bothers me so much that those women expected that man to pay for everyone because "he was the only man at the table". And it also sounds like they only let him know that they expected him to pay, at the end of the dinner...?! Where is the communication? He's absolutely in the right here. He was prepared to pay for himself, his wife, and the birthday celebrant. That's it.
yeah and i dont even like the "the man should always pay" its such so sexist but i understand seperating the bill/ if someone offers then they can pay, they shouldnt have to pay for EVERYONE oh and when they said 700 DOLLARS. 700 DOLLARS. omg thats literally so much money and they're expecting one persont opay for it cause they;re a man, i got 100 dollars to spend for my own birthday gifts and 100 dollars to go out and eat, 700 dollars across 5 people is wildd
I dedicate a whole week to my bday but that’s because not everyone has the time to meet up on my actual day. So giving the week makes ppl in my experience feel way less guilty about not being able to attend to u on a specific day.
Fr, my family goes out to eat on a weekday. So we have more time to go to the mall and get some gifts. Most of my birthdays fall on a school day so that’s just what we do.
I used to do this when I was in elementary/early middle school. My birthday is right at the beginning of July, so we would celebrate right before school ended in May. That way I got to celebrate with my friends and not have to worry about missing them because of summer vacation. My actual birthday was spent with my immediate family and it was always at home, humble, and just nice vibes.
Where I am from its perfectly acceptable to celebrate your birthday late but not early (since wishing someone an early happy birthday/celebrating it early is seen as inviting bad luck) so most people whose birthday falls on a holiday/the middle of the week/simply an inconvenient day will just have a small family celebration on the actual day and than celebrate with their friends on the weekend/when ever most people are free.
_"No lashes done, no hair done, no make-up done, no taking a bath, no brushing your teeth, nails can't be done, don't try and outdress me"_ I'll break every single one of those rules
Better yet, break every rule and when the “friend” tries to go nuts about it with full confidence act like you stuck to the rules and you just woke up that good lol
I would be so embarrassed to expect someone to pay for something and them say no, but to continue arguing about it.... I would never show my face in public again
If someone offers to pay for me, I'll always communicate with them what I want, and if it's okay with them. Then, if I decide I want anything after that, then that extra food is on me.
Right like I would be SO embarrassed just at the fact that I assumed it was on them and was wrong… To find out that you assumed wrong and then insist that your assumption about someone else paying for you had to be correct… like damn that’s so rude, you should’ve been embarrassed already
Just because he’s the only man at the table doesn’t mean he’s supposed to pay for the whole table. His own. His wife. Maybe all or part of the birthday girl. Not for everyone else. He did not take them to raise.
If I was him in that situation I would have just left after being spoken to like that. So now they'd have to pay for MY meal. Beggars can't be choosers.
They just used that man as a credit card. That’s why they ordered the expensive food and figure “he has money. He can pay for it.” I seen this happen with men and women as victim to their “friends” because they have money. I would not argue and just pay for my stuff and what the birthday person had or at least part of it.
In my country if you want to have a celebration for your birthday, you have to take care of AALLL of the expenses. The restaurant reservations, the entertainment and anything extra along the way. The guests bring themselves and any gifts they can afford, which the person that is celebrated will open after the guests leave. Making the guests pay for anything is very rude and disrespectful, it also begs the question, why have a lavish, expensive celebration you cannot afford?
Totally agree. We are doing this as well in my country (Eastern Europe). It is extremely rude to invite guests to your celebration and then expect them to pay for the meal. The rule is simple: if you want people to come and celebrate smth about you then provide the meal and drinks for them.
Unfortunately, people here in America also have zero respect for the fact they aren't the ones paying. If you're not the one paying for the food, then rationally you should probably eat something less expensive to not burden the host, right? 90% of the time, people will take advantage of that and order something MORE expensive than they would normally eat instead, knowing it's rude but also knowing it's not their problem. That's probably what happened in the video. So a lot of people split checks and such here even during celebrations for that reason...
In my country we also do something where we celebrate indoors, and the guests have to bring a snack or drink to share, and gifts aren't mandatory for courtesy. Just showing up, having nice energy and bringing something to share, since we all are in an unstable economical situation is enough
As an East European currently living in the West, let me tell you that this is exactly why I was so shocked when I went to a birthday party and found out the hard way that people here actually pay for their own meals. They consider the birthday party to be just a get-together like any other, hence why people pay for their meals like they would normally when meeting up with friends, and the gifts are usually something symbolic rather than something more expensive that the host might need or want. But it's definitely not expected of one guest to pay for the whole table for whatever reason.
@@ngarcia103 i liked it in 2019 it was soooo normal now on tiktok people genuinely try to normalize telling people to kys and other crimes like sa it actually needs to be banned and tiktok gave me stikes on my account it might get banned, all because my comments were targeted at people talking about.. what liking kids? like how is that make any sense yk? needs to be banned asap
One time my ab*sive ex planned a birthday dinner for me. It was a surprise and she told me she invited all my friends to my favorite restaurant. Now, my favorite restaurant back then was wicked expensive and I'd go once a year just to celebrate completing another year of uni. She didn't want to plan a birthday dinner, she wanted to make it so that I was alone and isolated on my birthday. My best friend did end up showing up because he knew something was odd with her planning an impossible surprise. The next day my friends in the groupchat told me how my ex made everyone feel awful for not being able to afford my favorite restaurant and they all couldn't come. The good thing is a week later we all went out together for ramen and sushi (leaving the ex at home) to celebrate my birthday. I'm still friends with these wonderful people ten years later.
The correct thing would be to have a cheap but fun night out as a group and then the dinner at the expensive restaurant just the two of them for a special occasion. At least that's what I would have done for my boyfriend... :/
Man that's so beautiful... I'm so glad you never lost your friends due to the relationship. It's reaaaally hard to keep in touch because they make it near, if not impossible.
I'm so sorry. What a totally insane thing to do to someone. My partner that was older than me at 16, yes they were breaking the law and there was tortured abuse going on but she left me at home alone for my 16th birthday. I hate her guts.
It wasn't even that the birthday girl was his partner. You can see him indicating two different people when he says "I've got the birthday girl and my wife." They all expect the partner of a random member of the friend group to pay for them for no reason *but* the fact he's a man and they aren't.
In my country it's pretty common for people to pay for other's drinks or food when it's their birthday (though usually people will insist on covering some of the bill). But you can't force someone to pay for your order 😭 no real friends wants their buddy to go bankrupt because it's their birthday
One of my room mates is actually having a birthday week every single year and feels betrayed and offended if we're not hyping up her existence with gifts and favours for every single day in that week and it is exhausting. You're allowed to celebrate, but maybe accept that not everyone's life revolves around you...
Soooo........ This was a hard lesson learned for me. Never let anyone pay for you. Ever. I was 18. Went on a date with a guy. We were getting sonic. I had my own money and I ordered specifically what I could afford and be able to pay for my ticket to the movies. The guy kept insisting on paying for it. That was sweet and I'm like I have no problem. Then he was insisting on it. Okay. Fine. Maybe it's chivalry? So, I let him pay. We got the food. He was IN THE MIDDLE OF HANDING ME THE FOOD when he popped up with, "since I paid for your food, would you sleep with me and my buddy?" I didn't think. I immediately got out of the car, took off across the road and into the Walmart and hid there for a long ass while. Thankfully, he didn't come after me.... Or, I don't think he did. I don't know and don't want to. I never heard from him again (hallelujah!) and that instilled in me a lesson. No matter what, I would never let someone pay for me again, whether it's the same sex or not. I've had family members that have that kind of mentality. It was one of the first times I actually set a boundary and made that a hard, hard, HAAAAAAARD line to never be crossed. I'm in my 30s, still crazy, but no longer stupid.
exactly thats why i dont understand when people are like the man should pay for the date like wtf how do u not feel guilty when someone else is spending their hard earned money on you . i would never let anyone pay for me even if i am broke like that should be a basic rule and they are definitely looking for something in return if they are insisting to pay
@@danielle-bi3tk I think it depends on the people and what they are looking, I don't think its right to judge someone who wants to pay for their own stuff nor judge someone who doesn't want to pay for someone else. However it's just as weird and yucky in my opinion to judge people who do want to keep those traditional gender roles. Every guy I've ever gone out with has insisted on paying and not a single one has expected anything sexual in return for it. Some men out there genuinely just want to pay and it's not fair to make those men out to be creeps just because some are. do what you're comfortable with and go out with people you match your vibe but don't judge other people who don't have the same vibe as you.
not those stupid rules like no brushing one's teeth?! 😭😭 if i were that person's friend you bet my contrarian ass would show up at the party in a freaking ball gown solely out of spite lmao
i think it has to be satire. i really don't believe someone is that combo of perfect ridiculousness, it feels like someone was just ticking off boxes of what would be the most ragebaity.
That's very normal in Czechia. 😄 If you're inviting people for birthday/special occasion dinner and choosing the restaurant, you're the one paying for it, while others bring you gifts and also invite you to their parties in return. :) Like you're not going to a wedding expecting to pay for the food there either, so it's literally same here.
I’m from Serbia and here it would be rude to try to pay for yourself at someone else’s birthday , it a norm bday person pays for everyone, you bring a gift
Literally. The only time it was ever exceptional was when you were a child and invited... Either your parents paid or the birthday parents would have booked a table in advanced.
There are actually a lot of culture including my own where the birthday person has to pay for everything if they're having a party. The guests only get gifts. When I came to Canada I was really shocked by everyone paying for their own thing but I do it now too lol
14:55 this can’t be more true my friend had a birthday party at the forest and every one was so happy just running around playing tag not some over priced f*cking restaurant like, no.
Bro I always felt bad when my friends or family got me a gift at all AND THE FIRST GILR LITERALLY WANTS A GIFT OVER 100 DOLLARS GIRLY GET DOWN TO EARTH
I mean, I see your point, but please keep in mind that the people around you are giving you presents because they want to! Love, someone who gets giddy about getting others gifts :)
The whole idea, that he's the only man at the table and he should pay is so entitled to me. So...none of them work? None have their own money? Surely, the birthday girl should not pay and everyone else pays as its her birthday and her friends should, as a gift or a way to celebrate her pay their own food and not force onto a man, because of their gender and nothing else
Seriously!!! Like the whole reason that custom ever existed was because women werent expected to have high-paying jobs, if a job at all, especially in the context of “if we get married, i meed to know that you can provide for me staying at home.” Its not the 1950s ffs
In my culture if you invite someone out you’re the one paying, so if I were to invite two or three close friends out with my family they aren’t paying for anything. I’m not crazy about my birthday, I mean I didn’t even do anything except show up but if I can enjoy it with the people I love I expect nothing but their presence.
That 700 dollar bill one was insane! Expecting one person to cover that whole bill, instead of everyone paying for their own meal, is beyond foul. I'd be dropping those "friends"; probably save a lot of money that way
Americans, at a VERY young age are taught individualism. At grade school and up we're taught to be better than our classmates. A lot of our television is centered around people who are full of themselves. It's completely ingrained in our culture sadly. That and mixed in with just having a bad personality can create these kinds of people lol 😅
There’s absolutely nothing wrong with individualism, especially in relation to conformity. It breeds confidence and trust in oneself- the issue is that when it’s taken too far, it leads to self centeredness. There’s nothing wrong with individualism, just the extreme version of it can be dangerous. In my opinion, and individualistic society is much better than a society ran by conformity.
Americans really have an entitlement problem. I am American and dealing with some of the people here is crazy. Most of my experiences being from working fast food and retail. Its gotten reallly bad.
Yeahhhhh. I'm happy you as an American said it 😅 obviously not every American person is like this, but damn is becoming a social problem for a huge part of the population there
Splurging on a $70 dinner for your birthday is totally acceptable if you can afford it. Not letting the server know you’re splitting checks, and/or expecting people to pay the check is absurd. If anything, if you want an expensive and fancy birthday, you should be able to pay for all of it. Energy doesn’t match. It’s like having everyone else bring the decorations to your party.
these kinds of people are absolutely wild to me. i just had my 19th a few weeks ago and my two closest friends and i drove over to the grove and went to the giant barnes and nobles and hung out there for a while, then got cheesecake factory and at the end of the night we got cheap milkshakes and played Minecraft together and it was the best, we even matched each other with more alt clothes since i love that style and so does my friend
I’m from the Middle East and it’s crazy to me how Americans will defend how they don’t wanna pay bill when here we fight each other trying to grab it first so we can pay for the other person.
As an American, it’s shocking. I always pay my bill myself and if it’s a place I invited another out to I will try to pay for theirs as well. I think most Americans would say that what you saw in this video are the type of people we call cheap, inconsiderate, selfish types.
Bro in India too. We take pride in treating our friends for their birthday. And there is no thing like this, birthday girl or boy telling us to wear certain dress so that we don't out shine them. Most of time we dress up, go out and have a blast🤷♀️ The self obsession of some of these people is crazy.
Yeah Same, like if it was my friend’s birthday we always argue to make sure that the birthday girl didn’t paid bill even tho she always wants to pay for her birthday and this is a custom applied to close group of friends or family
I think it depends on which area of the USA you are. In rural towns, like where I live, I usually try to cover the bill/everyone is fighting TO pay the bill to treat their friends and family. In expensive areas like New York or LA you could be dropping 1K on a whole table depending on how many are there.
As a 14yro w no money, whenever I go out, my parents pay for me. But that's only because I don't currently have the option to pay for myself. Once I do, obviously I will because you can't just go throughout your whole life expecting people to pay for your shit. It's an extremely immature mindset, and if I, a literal child - that hasn't had much experience in the world - can see that, then I think it's on their side.
From what I know (please correct me if I am wrong) in a lot of Balkan/Slavic countries the birthday person is the one purchasing everything, the guests usually only bring a gift (or money sometimes instead of a gift, esp if you don't know the bday person that well or what they like) and NOBODY expects the guests to pay for their meals/drinks/etc.
That’s what it like. I’m a German living in Poland and I never paid for the birthday dinner as a guest. Not In Germany, not in Poland. You just bring a present.
ok thats fucked up, no restaurant should be charging anyone 40 to 60 dollars for a burger, thats just not right, what kinda dystopian world are we living in that burgers that used to be 1 to 5 dollars, are now 40 to 60 dollars. thats utterly insane, i'd be giving that place a negative 5 star review, and not buying anything.
Tbf, it sounds like one of those super-fancy sitdown restaurants where everything has always been way over-priced, but I hate fancy restaurants anyways lol.
Yeah, today’s $40-60 burgers were never yesterday’s $1-5 burgers. It’s a gourmet burger, it will be large, high quality, and cooked to perfection. But it’s not really about the cost of the actual burger… it’s the cost of the seat. No one goes to a fancy restaurant to order a $40+ burger, they go and order the burger because they didn’t choose the fancy restaurant and don’t want anything else. To keep a burger on the menu in a restaurant that doesn’t specialize in or even serve a lot of burgers, just so one or two people who don’t want to be there can have a burger, means losing money. For those reasons, the burger is almost always the most overpriced thing on a fancy restaurant’s menu.
It's so baffling as someone from the Balkans - here the birthday person pays for EVERYTHING, drinks, food, etc. On your birthday you're the one treating everyone else and spending money on them and they somewhat "pay you back" with a gift.
Bruh as an indian growing up in an arab country, people fight for the bill, come up with schemes n lies so that they can pay the bills 😭 I thought it was common courtesy to order the cheapest food or try to in a cheaper range when you're not paying, heck when i go out with my own family n dad pays, i keep my eyes on the price n try not to order expensive stuff cus him taking us out for dinner is an act of love not to rip the poor man's wallet apart (n FYI I'm not an adult nor have a job rn, but dad just u wait till i start earning, i aint letting u pay for shit 💀)
In balkans the person who is having a birthday is a host, therefore pays for everyone else. Doing a birthday party here is expensive only for the birthday person, everyone else is a guest. Yet we still do it. We want to be generous. Also we recieve sometimes nice gifts, sometimes little of them, but no one cares.
Bukv citam komentare nije mi dobro kad vidim kako ovi ljudi razmisljaju ? Kao nema smisla bukv znaci rodjendanac izabere neki restoran gde je skupo i ja sam moram i da donesem poklon i da platim sta sam jela i pila? Bukvalno sta? U mom drustu je normalno da odwmo na piće, poklon od 1000 dinara i popije max 3 pića i to je to
@@tinakim7460 nez mi uvijek slavimo tako da donese od poklona ko sta hoce, pare, pice il nesto trece. Ak se slavi kod kuce, onda slavljenik pripremi hranu i pice za uzvanike, tortu sam sebi ispece il ak se netko od frendova ponudi. Ako se ide van, slavljenik kupi koju bocu za stol, a uzvanici tu i tamo časte isto pićima. Nema puno filozofije sto se tice para. Svi smo svoji i nikad nema problema.
In Poland the same. But when we are having birthdays right now we will probably split the bill, because I'm in university and I'm broke 😅 We all choose the place, we plan it together and someones birthday is just an excuse to meet, but when I say „I invite you” then I'm paying.
As an American (California) this is so batshit insane to me. The expectation is always everyone paying their own or splitting evenly depending on if it’s something like K-bbq where we all shared. Usually one person pays the restaurant and we all Venmo them. Sometimes I will cover for someone if it’s a special occasion for them (or vice versa) but it’s not an expectation.
My friends and I have a similar thing where the expectation is usually everyone/every couple pays their own way. Unless someone's broke, in which case they say they're tight on money while we're planning, and someone usually offers to cover at a cheaper place. The favor gets repaid next time someone's tight; we don't keep tally. Also when we visit others' places, oftentime someone just buys everyone wings, pizza, taco meat, brisket, what have you. I would laugh in the ladies' faces expecting me to pay for them. No, ma'am! You're a grown adult and this isn't a date! Or are you all vying for me? Oh, just vying for my money? Hm. But I'm careful to choose good people, more or less. Ones that can communicate directly about such things.
i once went to an upperclass, home owning person's birthday party. they invited tons of people but this was when we were in like highschool that you pay for everyone attending's meal. when you are an adult you should probably pay for yourself or discuss it beforehand.
As an American, people here have gotten absolutely ridiculous! The entitlement is out of control! People are truly convinced everyone else owes them free everything, all the time! If you dare to tell them no, they completely lose their minds and play the victim. People need to grow tf up!
some people are so annoying over this stuff, i mean obviously its your special day but some people take it too far and expect too much imo Had a friend like this before, none of our parents had that kinda money so no one came to their bday dinner lmao
"It's your special day". No, it's just the day you were born. It's one thing to expect everyone to celebrate your birthday when you're 7 or 12. By the time you're 23 you should be a bit less self centered. "Today is the day I fell out of a vagina so that makes me super awesome" is ridiculous for an adult. If your friends and family want to acknowledge it then that's wonderful and your a** should be GRATEFUL. Demanding everyone drop what they're doing or getting upset because you're not the center of attention and everyone you know can't put their life on pause & drop their dignity or do whatever you want is some toddler sh*t. Somehow we've become a nation where half the adults have the emotional maturity & self involvement of a 3 year old & frankly, it's pretty disgusting.
I hope that everybody that went to the first girl’s party dressed up like they were going to the Met Gala. I mean I meet her requirements a lot of the time, but it would piss me off enough to put in all the effort.
FOR FUCK’S SAKE! 😂 When I invite people out for my birthday I only expect their presence. I’m not expecting drinks, expensive presents et al! I’ve had my friends buying me drinks for my birthday, but I’ve NEVER asked them to do that.
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My last bday was at a burlesque bar. Everyone bought their own ticket, I reserved the table and paid for everyone’s drinks and appetizers. We all got our own main courses. I was not about to make anyone else handle that big of a bill other than be responsible for themselves
I’m American. It’s 100% true… birthdays are SO so overblown here; & if you tell people you don’t want them to celebrate your birthday for said reasons then folks freak out & get mad you don’t ’appreciate it.’ Co workers are the WORST… they insist on getting a cake & making everyone sing happy birthday, & pass an envelope to collect $. GREAT VIDEO, new here & love them all!!💚💚
I am also from the US and have otherwise never really felt one way or the other about my birthday. And yeah, the pressure to feel and act a certain way is just absurd, especially when everyone gets so loud about it (I'm very sensitive to yelling for multiple reasons) and puts me in the spotlight when I really don't want it. I usually just get myself something really nice (a new video game, etc.), but really i just want a normal day to myself, or maybe with a friend or two, and have a movie marathon and eat takeout. I find it ironic that on the one day of the year that's supposed to be about me, my feelings are the only one that don't matter.
I don't know why people are like this, I can legitimately get a pair of socks for my birthday and be perfectly happy, not even themed either. These people are asking WAY too much, and I think they should be happy with whatever they get.
It's not always like this. My friends all pay for themselves and my partner will pay for me. We usually just go to all you can eat sushi for $20 a person. These people are just spoiled and entitled.
You invite them and they have to pay for themselves? 😂😂😂 If you are so poor, that you can’t buy a few meals, than prepare food at home and invite your friends there.
That's a normal request - when my friends and I went out for my bday we all.. paid for ourselves? I usually get kid meals so it was cheap for me anyway😅
Agreed. If you have people you really want to come to a birthday dinner, it’s necessary to include them in deciding the venue and offering to pay for them if they voice monetary concerns. There’s nothing wrong with wanting a specific restaurant for your own birthday, but you can’t expect everyone to have the same budget. Feelings will be hurt if it’s clear you didn’t consider that in planning, your own feelings and your invitees.
I may live in the US but I wasn’t born here and I never understood the disgusting greed and lack of self awareness and lack of understanding the value of a dollar 🤦🏻♀️ I’ve never had a bday dinner more than $20…. How can people be so mean and inconsiderate in this economy?!?! Wishing I could move home… but I’m disabled and unemployed and fighting for ssi so I can’t even afford the value menu at a drive thru…
I understand dude. me and my family are homeless and living in a shelter and trying to save every penny we can atm just to try to get a place of our own. but it's so hard because nothing in mass is affordable. everything here is like 3000 dollars or more just for rent. and all 3 of us are on ssi with a 2 year old at that. so I understand what ur going thru. we are going to teach her the value of money and to be kind and help ppl in need when she is a little older
It is sad to see. Unfortunately it’s the parents fault for not instilling better values and understanding when it comes to money and what’s important and what’s not. I hope you can get back home as soon as possible, it sounds like it’s trying to call you back
@@chuckyfan6696 I’m so sorry you’re going through this! I’ve been homeless twice in my life and it’s truly terrifying. So glad you have ssi but as we all know, as thankful as we are for having it for our disabilities of course, we’re in a cost of living crisis where more and more ssi people and disabled are suffering. You’re doing what you need to do for you and your family and that is all that matters! Stay close to them and if anything just repeatedly tell each other you love each other. That love will be your biggest strength ❤️
Lmao I'd be mortified to act like I'm so broke I can't pay for my own meal among friends. Unless that man said previously that he was buying, he has no obligation to pay for everyone
I have never heard of anything like this and I'm in the US. Maybe it's not normal where I live? Or maybe my crowd is just too old. My "rules" for a birthday dinner, if I have one at all, are simple: -No gifts. It makes me super uncomfortable and I'm not a stuff person. It also makes everyone else uncomfortable if they don't bring a gift. -If I pick somewhere out of your budget, don't worry. I'm aware. I want you there and I'm paying. If it wasn't in my budget to do so, I'd pick somewhere cheaper. -No embarrassing birthday cake thing with the singing waitstaff. It makes me so uncomfortable. -If I'm not planning the thing, don't forget I'm most comfortable dressed down. Nothing too fancy. That's it. Nothing crazy. I hardly ever go out, so on the rare occasion where I do, I don't want to bog it down with lots of expectations. That just ruins the night.
In my country the person which celebrates her/his birthday and takes out the guests pays for everything - so I personally didn't get the fuss about the second clip. If I invite you to my birthday, I'll pay and same goes for everyone I know around me haha.
That last one the friend legit sounds like "what do you mean you guys are all poor and you can't afford to go to this dinner and club cause you don't have money? Just get the money from your dad who's rich?". Cause can moneybags please stop assuming everyone else is a moneybag too? The out of touchness for rich people is fucking insane.
It’s def not normal for everyone. If I know someone else is paying for me, I try to get the cheapest thing possible. If I’m paying for myself then I MIGHT go for something a LITTLE more expensive.
In Greece we usually celebrate someone’s birthday at their house,and if we go out, usually the birthday person pays (it’s something like “I’ll give you treat for my bday” smth like that,but that’s for cultural reasons mostly). Also, if someone doesn’t come to the birthday looking their best, or at least apologise for their appearance, we are more likely to take this as an insult.
the restaurant situation feels so weird to me, because in my country it’s pretty much expected for the hosts to pay for all the guests at a birthday dinner. if you are invited that basically means they’ve got you covered. if someone can’t afford paying for everyone, they just don’t invite people to a restaurant, and instead celebrate at home
And to me it's weird because where i'm from, people take for granted they will pay for their own plate. They're invited to join the meal, not invited to a free meal. No one would argue so openly about getting "the only man" to pay for everyone. 😂
@@bleuumscarlett7977 yeah, it all depends on the context. as i said, here people often come to your birthday party with an equivalent of a few dollars in their pockets, so if you want them to pay, you should discuss it in advance. but demanding someone to cover the whole bill, just because he’s ‘the man’ is wild in either case
Understandable in your situation. In most places in America it is normal for the birthday person to get food paid for and everyone else pay themselves. I think if it's agreed upon before there is no problem with splitting a bill or with the host paying for everything (I've been to party's like that aswell) the biggest thing being communication.
I’m American and agree with you. That’s like charging people to eat at a birthday party thrown at home. If someone is inviting you to eat out, go to the movies, etc, the bill is on the inviter 🤷🏻♀️
I find this so insane. My boyfriend recently had his birthday and I invited him out to dinner and told him beforehand that I was going to pay for it. We are both in college and while I didn't necessarily have the money to go somewhere expensive we still had a super awesome time! The people in this video need to lower their expectations of others, it will make the time they spend together much more enjoyable
I can't imagine choosing an extremely expensive restaurant for your birthday dinner and expecting the person you invite to have to pay for it. I've definitely wanted to eat somewhere expensive for my birthday before, but I made sure to save up enough to pay for both me and my friend ahead of time because I knew it would be hundreds of dollars just for the two of us and would never expect her to pay that just to have dinner with me!
She speaks facts People pick up on quality of character If you try to dim another's light, you're only truly dimming your own Like drinking poison and hopping the other person dies
They’re two types of people in the world when it comes to extreme birthdays the ones who make it a month about them, and the one where they don’t want anyone to remember when their birthday actually is. I’m on that half I rather people forget about my birthday
Once went to a birthday dinner where three of the people at the table ordered multiple glasses of champagne, and two of them ordered dessert TO GO on a split check 😩 Never again 🙅🏼♀️
9:03 - Assuming this was a date, bringing your 18 friends with you on what should be a one on one night is already enough of a red flag, but expecting him to pay for ALL 19 OF YOU?!
Lol the confidence for celebrating an entire week???! I'm so socially anxious that I haven't celebrated my birthday in years even tho my friends explicitly ask for it. A birthday week is crazy How can some people feel that important??! T-T
as a Gemini, I’m very embarrassed of those girlies that act like that for their birthday, yes I’m excited but talking about it months before hand is CRAZY!
Shaving all your hair off in solidarity for your friends' Cancer would be noble. Having them show up to a public, possibly photographed celebration while dirty and unkempt just so you can have a foil to make yourself feel better is not friend behavior. Its narcissistic. If they were truly friends, you'd want them to look their best no matter the occasion and you wouldn't care that they outshine you. This is frenemy sh*t and they shouldn't be friends with her anymore. There's no telling what this girl would do, if she could find a way to justify it.
The person that made that list for their birthday party REEKS of jealousy, like you don’t want to shower or brush their teeth?!!! Seriously?!!!!, yet they’re still demanding an $100 dollar gift?!!! Like how do they know that maybe a $50 dollar gift was all they could afford to buy?!!!! And wouldn’t blame the friends if they refused to go
I’d happily skip the hassle of hair, nails and makeup, but there’s no way I’m going out without showering and brushing my teeth! Did she want her party to stink? Never mind, I don’t have $100 for a gift anyway!
4:13 as an American, I am very picky of my friends, I want ones just like my family, and thankfully almost my full class is like this. 1. Doesn’t judge others 2. Isn’t entitled 3. Doesn’t designate a whole month to their bday
I dunno, I’m disabled and have always been on a fixed income and was raising a child as a single parent. So, I never had money for “extras”. My friends and family have always still invited me to stuff, dinners, parties, etc. and they’ve always offered to pay for me to be included because they knew I couldn’t afford to go if I was invited? I never EXPECTED them to pay for me. I never ASKED them to pay for me. They just wanted me to be included too and knew that I didn’t have the ability to pay for that stuff like they did? But they also NEVER made me feel bad for not having the money? My company was more important to them than the $40-$60 they spent on my tab. However, I also ALWAYS did other things for my friends like free child care? I made decorative cakes for birthdays. I hosted parties at my house for their kids. I did things for them where I could for free. So, it was never like anyone was “keeping track” of who did what or paid for what or any of that stuff? We were all friends and did what we could for each-other. All this craziness of birthday rules and you have to pay for everyone and why didn’t you come to this expensive restaurant and what not? That’s NUTS to me. If someone couldn’t afford the dinner out in my friends group, we still invited them and payed their way no questions asked cause we love them and want them to be included? And as far as how someone came dressed? We CELEBRATED our beautiful girlies when they came slaying their looks or in sweats and a messy bun? Did not matter! We love YOU girl, not your clothes!
About the second clip, it can also depend on the culture. For example, in my country, if you invite people out to a restaurant or a bar on your birthday, it's expected you will pay for everyone. But yeah, I don't think that was the case in that clip. Either way, just wanted to share this :)
Yes, even in my culture if we are inviting people for our birthday it basically means we are paying. And not just for birthdays but for any occasion, if we are inviting someone somewhere, means we are paying.
my husband and i are mexican-american. our parents are from Mexico. my mother-in-law says that in Mexico, it is customary to pay for people if you invite them out. If that was the case here, i wouldn't be hanging out with anybody. In this economy? nuh uh.
It's the same in our culture too. But it is not compulsory to invite people. It's just that if we are inviting someone somewhere, that means we are paying. So this is kind of a culture shock to me.
In the slavic culture the bithday parties look diffrent. We have the host-birthday person who organizes the whole party. It can be in their home or a restaurant (but then they reserve a special room for parties like this). The guests don't chose food from the menu, the host do it before the party, while organizing it all and when the people come everithing is ready and the waiters just bring the plates (it can be that everyone has their on plate with a dish or they put food on their plates by their own from the bowls in the middle of the table). The guest have to bring a present (nobody says it directly, outloud, it's just a tradition and how it all works. If someone says it outloud it's treated as inappropriate) to "pay" for the party. People have to gues how expensive the present shoud be (or how much money give in the envelope) based on the "vibe" i guess? If it's in the restaurant you should give more, if at home- less. So for us it isn't strange that people assume that the host will pay for them, but in the same time you have to compensate it with the gift. And ofc some of the things showed in this video are inappropriate (for example that the man have to pay for all, it's just ridiculous), but the "you should always pay for yourself" isn't always the olny solution. Sometimes the "who pays" argument can be caused not because someone's a bitch but just bc of the culture differences. I'm not saying that all of the arguments in videos here are bc of an misunderstanding (cuz idk the whole story by just watching a 2 minutes tiktok, I won't juge here) but by this comment (yeah i know it's long) I just wanted to show that the culture is different in other countries (no shit sherlock) and people shoudn't assume in the first thought that someone do this things cuz they're mean or smth. Okay if you're here, congratulations and have a nice day bye
Man only thing more delusional is friends that expect that kind of money for their children’s birthday gifts. When your friend for example expects you to chose a gift from the Amazon wish list that starts at 80€ a gift. What’s up with that kinda crap?
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Asking someone to skip out on basic hygiene for a birthday party so they don’t outshine you is insane behavior
I mean it has be a joke or a hyperbole but imagine how insecure you have to be to demand they not only don't try too hard but actively go out of their way to be unclean so that you feel good about yourself. Like please stand up my God that is an unbelievably fragile ego.
It's was insane i mean do the birthday person want their guest to reeking all day,cause i can smell it just by reading the text
I think you meant “outshine”
I would plot with all the other friends to show up in prom dresses.
Id go work out before or go jogging or something and absolutely smell and look ugly as heck and if they complain about it id say "welllllll, it was in the rules."
why would they admit that all it takes to outshine them is taking a bath😭
as a slavic girlie… showing up to a friends birthday NOT dressed to the nines would be the insult, because you do not respect them and value their big occasion enough to dress up for them
That’s what the sentiment has been over on the western areas for a long time, I would feel awful not dressing to the nines for a special event that’s for my friend.
I think TikTok has really messed up some of these younger peoples brains.
Same but the person who invited everybody always pays (it's just custom to bring $ to cover + extra as the gift) lmao
As an indian girlie, same!
my ex best friend came to my first birthday party in years in a hoodie and didn't even bring a card, proceeded to make the entire thing about herself, there's a reason we're no longer friends lol
Same I cant imagine to come to someone's birthday party wearing casual clothes
The way she keeps saying "But you're the only MAN at the tabel!"
Ya my nigga call the police
Yeah what does that mean? A man always has to pay for any random women in his vicinity??
The entitlement of these girls is breathtaking.
I bet they all claim to be feminist as well 🤦🏻♀️
$700?! Nah I’ll stick to my local southern food and sweet tea.
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Samee
Literally 😭 my mom usually just grabs a cake from Walmart or Dairy Queen’s like Jesus. 700 dollars?? That could pay for my whole wishlist
Bro I thought I was rolling hard taking my mom sister and bf into Red Robin cause my family moved backed to my state 😂😂😂
i think the women only made the bill get that expensive because they didnt think theyd pay for themselves
I would end a friendship over them demanding my spouse to pay for them. Blocked in seconds.
That was one of a few final straws when I cut off a friend - she invited me out to eat, ordered too much, tried to get me to pay for all of it, majority of it, then asked me to call my fiancé at the time to ask him to pay because "(other friend's name)'s boyfriend would pay..."
I’d be frothing at the mouth like 😭😭😭
@@bxnvrr763 Ain't no way, I would NEVER do that to my best friend's boyfriend. If anything my friend and her family has once paid almost 1,000 dollars FOR ME ON MY BIRTHDAY (cause she took me to this tea place which was very nice, we drank some really good tea and had some really nice dessert and then they gave me a tiny cake for my birthday) AND BRO when I tell you how BAD I felt!! My mom actually gave me some money so that I could pay for my part cause she had already told me she was taking me out to eat but the place was a surprise and when I told her how to split it she said, "Oh no don't worry, me and my parents have it! It's our gift for you". I am honestly saving my money to take her to LA and spend the night there for her birthday cause I honestly feel SO BAD. I appreciate it a lot, but I felt so bad. Is anyone humble anymore?? Do they know what that word is??? This world is getting scarier all around.
IKR,how are they not embarrassed??
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“Do not try and out dress me”
*shows up in a suit of armor*
The correct answer.
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@@mayawilliams35 I thought your pfp was Raine Whispers from Owl House lol
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ah another man of culture...
finally our battle will be legendary!
It bothers me so much that those women expected that man to pay for everyone because "he was the only man at the table". And it also sounds like they only let him know that they expected him to pay, at the end of the dinner...?! Where is the communication?
He's absolutely in the right here. He was prepared to pay for himself, his wife, and the birthday celebrant. That's it.
Makes me wonder if they invited him for the sole purpose of sticking him with the bill!
@@Sweet_Dee It would not surprise me!
I hope he established that. No freeloading on the check! Some people I swear.
yeah and i dont even like the "the man should always pay" its such so sexist but i understand seperating the bill/ if someone offers then they can pay, they shouldnt have to pay for EVERYONE oh and when they said 700 DOLLARS. 700 DOLLARS. omg thats literally so much money and they're expecting one persont opay for it cause they;re a man, i got 100 dollars to spend for my own birthday gifts and 100 dollars to go out and eat, 700 dollars across 5 people is wildd
It's foul really, some people are so self entitled 😬
I dedicate a whole week to my bday but that’s because not everyone has the time to meet up on my actual day. So giving the week makes ppl in my experience feel way less guilty about not being able to attend to u on a specific day.
same!
Fr, my family goes out to eat on a weekday. So we have more time to go to the mall and get some gifts. Most of my birthdays fall on a school day so that’s just what we do.
That’s actually a good idea cause my b day is in December so most ppl are traveling for Christmas
I used to do this when I was in elementary/early middle school. My birthday is right at the beginning of July, so we would celebrate right before school ended in May. That way I got to celebrate with my friends and not have to worry about missing them because of summer vacation. My actual birthday was spent with my immediate family and it was always at home, humble, and just nice vibes.
Where I am from its perfectly acceptable to celebrate your birthday late but not early (since wishing someone an early happy birthday/celebrating it early is seen as inviting bad luck)
so most people whose birthday falls on a holiday/the middle of the week/simply an inconvenient day will just have a small family celebration on the actual day and than celebrate with their friends on the weekend/when ever most people are free.
the only rule i had for my 16th birthday was to show up in a halloween costume because i was having a costume party 💀
now thats a party
The only rule I had for my 17th was to dress gothic 😭😭 or at least all black since not all my friends + my boyfriend are goth
@@c0keslushy
Honestly, I’m not goth either, but I could pull together a goth look from my wardrobe.
_"No lashes done, no hair done, no make-up done, no taking a bath, no brushing your teeth, nails can't be done, don't try and outdress me"_ I'll break every single one of those rules
Better yet, break every rule and when the “friend” tries to go nuts about it with full confidence act like you stuck to the rules and you just woke up that good lol
Very off topic but you also have a fizzy pfp! I love it 😭❤️
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I'd break some of them because I don't wanna go to a wedding stinky and with messy hair!
how you gonna ask someone to not brush their teeth 😂
I would be so embarrassed to expect someone to pay for something and them say no, but to continue arguing about it.... I would never show my face in public again
If someone offers to pay for me, I'll always communicate with them what I want, and if it's okay with them. Then, if I decide I want anything after that, then that extra food is on me.
Lol me and my friend go out and try to pay something for eachother and we are like no , no , I owe you now , next time I am paying
@@ngarcia103 same!
@@louyou6614 Love that! Wholesome!
Right like I would be SO embarrassed just at the fact that I assumed it was on them and was wrong… To find out that you assumed wrong and then insist that your assumption about someone else paying for you had to be correct… like damn that’s so rude, you should’ve been embarrassed already
Just because he’s the only man at the table doesn’t mean he’s supposed to pay for the whole table. His own. His wife. Maybe all or part of the birthday girl. Not for everyone else. He did not take them to raise.
If I was him in that situation I would have just left after being spoken to like that. So now they'd have to pay for MY meal. Beggars can't be choosers.
Plus, what happens if only women showed up at their party? They dine and dash?
I'm pretty sure the birthday girl was his daughter too lol ofc he would for her but those aren't his kids lol
Right! Like I'd have to tell the host my budget sucks, and see what could be done for me. But that's being a damn adult.
They just used that man as a credit card. That’s why they ordered the expensive food and figure “he has money. He can pay for it.” I seen this happen with men and women as victim to their “friends” because they have money. I would not argue and just pay for my stuff and what the birthday person had or at least part of it.
In my country if you want to have a celebration for your birthday, you have to take care of AALLL of the expenses. The restaurant reservations, the entertainment and anything extra along the way. The guests bring themselves and any gifts they can afford, which the person that is celebrated will open after the guests leave. Making the guests pay for anything is very rude and disrespectful, it also begs the question, why have a lavish, expensive celebration you cannot afford?
Totally agree. We are doing this as well in my country (Eastern Europe). It is extremely rude to invite guests to your celebration and then expect them to pay for the meal. The rule is simple: if you want people to come and celebrate smth about you then provide the meal and drinks for them.
Unfortunately, people here in America also have zero respect for the fact they aren't the ones paying. If you're not the one paying for the food, then rationally you should probably eat something less expensive to not burden the host, right?
90% of the time, people will take advantage of that and order something MORE expensive than they would normally eat instead, knowing it's rude but also knowing it's not their problem. That's probably what happened in the video. So a lot of people split checks and such here even during celebrations for that reason...
Same
In my country we also do something where we celebrate indoors, and the guests have to bring a snack or drink to share, and gifts aren't mandatory for courtesy. Just showing up, having nice energy and bringing something to share, since we all are in an unstable economical situation is enough
As an East European currently living in the West, let me tell you that this is exactly why I was so shocked when I went to a birthday party and found out the hard way that people here actually pay for their own meals.
They consider the birthday party to be just a get-together like any other, hence why people pay for their meals like they would normally when meeting up with friends, and the gifts are usually something symbolic rather than something more expensive that the host might need or want.
But it's definitely not expected of one guest to pay for the whole table for whatever reason.
I felt so sorry for the girl at the birthday dinner who didn’t even get anything and was still expected to split the bill 💁♀️💁♀️💁♀️
Black woman be trifling
@@Beautylifestyle222”you don’t pay for a seat” that’s right girl!
@@Littlewulff lol
@@Beautylifestyle222racist
"You're the only man at the table" AND?? The entitlement is craaazy
Here we have another episode of “Why TikTok is making everyone insecure”…
TikTok needs to be banned
and this is another episode of “Why i will forever hate that app”
Every video of Drama Kween's helps justify why I never got (nor wanted to get) TikTok.
@@ngarcia103 i liked it in 2019 it was soooo normal now on tiktok people genuinely try to normalize telling people to kys and other crimes like sa it actually needs to be banned and tiktok gave me stikes on my account it might get banned, all because my comments were targeted at people talking about.. what liking kids? like how is that make any sense yk? needs to be banned asap
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One time my ab*sive ex planned a birthday dinner for me. It was a surprise and she told me she invited all my friends to my favorite restaurant. Now, my favorite restaurant back then was wicked expensive and I'd go once a year just to celebrate completing another year of uni. She didn't want to plan a birthday dinner, she wanted to make it so that I was alone and isolated on my birthday. My best friend did end up showing up because he knew something was odd with her planning an impossible surprise. The next day my friends in the groupchat told me how my ex made everyone feel awful for not being able to afford my favorite restaurant and they all couldn't come. The good thing is a week later we all went out together for ramen and sushi (leaving the ex at home) to celebrate my birthday. I'm still friends with these wonderful people ten years later.
Ramen and sushi bday dinner sounds amazing. And sounds like you've got some great friends!
The correct thing would be to have a cheap but fun night out as a group and then the dinner at the expensive restaurant just the two of them for a special occasion. At least that's what I would have done for my boyfriend... :/
I’m glad she’s an ex you sound wonderful and forgiving ❤ those are great friends!
Man that's so beautiful... I'm so glad you never lost your friends due to the relationship. It's reaaaally hard to keep in touch because they make it near, if not impossible.
I'm so sorry. What a totally insane thing to do to someone.
My partner that was older than me at 16, yes they were breaking the law and there was tortured abuse going on but she left me at home alone for my 16th birthday. I hate her guts.
The way I would’ve did the opposite and encourage EVERYONE to come bathed, clean, dressed up, makeup, hair and nails done. This is mental.
“birthday rules” is so insane like my only rule is maybe say hello to me when you get here other than that do whatever you gotta do to have fun 😭
It wasn't even that the birthday girl was his partner. You can see him indicating two different people when he says "I've got the birthday girl and my wife." They all expect the partner of a random member of the friend group to pay for them for no reason *but* the fact he's a man and they aren't.
The wife should've stood up for him
@@Spongebobswife-f3kwife is also entitled
@@Spongebobswife-f3kagreed
Yeah that’s pretty disgusting. I simply avoid these situations by not having a gender 👍
Every drama queen video gets angrier and angrier and I'm fucking here for it this is the best thing ever
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Fr her outraged "RAWRRSSSS" are so fucking funny to me (and also real af lmao)
SAME
I know right 😂
Even my channel has been kinda a rage bout for me too 😅
Someone even called me Xangry so I officially created a playlist 🫠
In my country it's pretty common for people to pay for other's drinks or food when it's their birthday (though usually people will insist on covering some of the bill). But you can't force someone to pay for your order 😭 no real friends wants their buddy to go bankrupt because it's their birthday
One of my room mates is actually having a birthday week every single year and feels betrayed and offended if we're not hyping up her existence with gifts and favours for every single day in that week and it is exhausting. You're allowed to celebrate, but maybe accept that not everyone's life revolves around you...
Soooo........ This was a hard lesson learned for me. Never let anyone pay for you. Ever.
I was 18. Went on a date with a guy. We were getting sonic. I had my own money and I ordered specifically what I could afford and be able to pay for my ticket to the movies. The guy kept insisting on paying for it. That was sweet and I'm like I have no problem. Then he was insisting on it. Okay. Fine. Maybe it's chivalry? So, I let him pay. We got the food. He was IN THE MIDDLE OF HANDING ME THE FOOD when he popped up with, "since I paid for your food, would you sleep with me and my buddy?" I didn't think. I immediately got out of the car, took off across the road and into the Walmart and hid there for a long ass while. Thankfully, he didn't come after me.... Or, I don't think he did. I don't know and don't want to. I never heard from him again (hallelujah!) and that instilled in me a lesson. No matter what, I would never let someone pay for me again, whether it's the same sex or not. I've had family members that have that kind of mentality. It was one of the first times I actually set a boundary and made that a hard, hard, HAAAAAAARD line to never be crossed. I'm in my 30s, still crazy, but no longer stupid.
Well I am so glad that you are safe lovely ❤
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exactly thats why i dont understand when people are like the man should pay for the date like wtf how do u not feel guilty when someone else is spending their hard earned money on you . i would never let anyone pay for me even if i am broke like that should be a basic rule
and they are definitely looking for something in return if they are insisting to pay
Tysm for this comment, I'll learn from it and won't let others pay for my dinner, or my stuff, in general.
@@danielle-bi3tk I think it depends on the people and what they are looking, I don't think its right to judge someone who wants to pay for their own stuff nor judge someone who doesn't want to pay for someone else. However it's just as weird and yucky in my opinion to judge people who do want to keep those traditional gender roles. Every guy I've ever gone out with has insisted on paying and not a single one has expected anything sexual in return for it. Some men out there genuinely just want to pay and it's not fair to make those men out to be creeps just because some are. do what you're comfortable with and go out with people you match your vibe but don't judge other people who don't have the same vibe as you.
not those stupid rules like no brushing one's teeth?! 😭😭 if i were that person's friend you bet my contrarian ass would show up at the party in a freaking ball gown solely out of spite lmao
I’m using the phrase ‘you bet my contrarian ass’ regularly now
it has to be a joke lol
i think it has to be satire. i really don't believe someone is that combo of perfect ridiculousness, it feels like someone was just ticking off boxes of what would be the most ragebaity.
im insanely depressed and dont shower or brush my teeth alot and id absolutely do both of those in an hour to spite somebody
Who the hell goes to somebody else's birthday and expects to have their food paid for? I would never see those people again
Also why aren't these people communicating before the dinner to see what the expectations are for the night!
That's the expectation in the part of Australia I'm in, although as a guest I insist I pay for my things.
That's very normal in Czechia. 😄 If you're inviting people for birthday/special occasion dinner and choosing the restaurant, you're the one paying for it, while others bring you gifts and also invite you to their parties in return. :)
Like you're not going to a wedding expecting to pay for the food there either, so it's literally same here.
I’m from Serbia and here it would be rude to try to pay for yourself at someone else’s birthday , it a norm bday person pays for everyone, you bring a gift
Literally. The only time it was ever exceptional was when you were a child and invited... Either your parents paid or the birthday parents would have booked a table in advanced.
There are actually a lot of culture including my own where the birthday person has to pay for everything if they're having a party. The guests only get gifts. When I came to Canada I was really shocked by everyone paying for their own thing but I do it now too lol
14:55 this can’t be more true my friend had a birthday party at the forest and every one was so happy just running around playing tag not some over priced f*cking restaurant like, no.
8:48 - you know for a fact they ran up the bill thinking that he'd pay for it.
Probably ordered the whole dessert cart and multiple cocktail each. These type of people deserve the friend dashing on them.
it's wild💀
Bro I always felt bad when my friends or family got me a gift at all AND THE FIRST GILR LITERALLY WANTS A GIFT OVER 100 DOLLARS GIRLY GET DOWN TO EARTH
Fr like she wants to be preppy with all the drunk elephant collection or smth 💀
fr i hope no one shows up to her party
Literally, I cried because my friends actually got me gifts for once and she’s mad over gifts under 100$??
I mean, I see your point, but please keep in mind that the people around you are giving you presents because they want to! Love, someone who gets giddy about getting others gifts :)
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The whole idea, that he's the only man at the table and he should pay is so entitled to me.
So...none of them work? None have their own money? Surely, the birthday girl should not pay and everyone else pays as its her birthday and her friends should, as a gift or a way to celebrate her pay their own food and not force onto a man, because of their gender and nothing else
fr that sentence came out her mouth and i was like… girl. wtf are you talking about?
That amn should have gotten up payed his part and went away leave them to their own misery
Seriously!!! Like the whole reason that custom ever existed was because women werent expected to have high-paying jobs, if a job at all, especially in the context of “if we get married, i meed to know that you can provide for me staying at home.” Its not the 1950s ffs
That POV would only make sense if he was their literal father 😂
In my culture if you invite someone out you’re the one paying, so if I were to invite two or three close friends out with my family they aren’t paying for anything. I’m not crazy about my birthday, I mean I didn’t even do anything except show up but if I can enjoy it with the people I love I expect nothing but their presence.
That 700 dollar bill one was insane! Expecting one person to cover that whole bill, instead of everyone paying for their own meal, is beyond foul. I'd be dropping those "friends"; probably save a lot of money that way
Americans, at a VERY young age are taught individualism. At grade school and up we're taught to be better than our classmates. A lot of our television is centered around people who are full of themselves. It's completely ingrained in our culture sadly. That and mixed in with just having a bad personality can create these kinds of people lol 😅
There’s absolutely nothing wrong with individualism, especially in relation to conformity. It breeds confidence and trust in oneself- the issue is that when it’s taken too far, it leads to self centeredness. There’s nothing wrong with individualism, just the extreme version of it can be dangerous. In my opinion, and individualistic society is much better than a society ran by conformity.
Americans really have an entitlement problem. I am American and dealing with some of the people here is crazy. Most of my experiences being from working fast food and retail. Its gotten reallly bad.
Yeahhhhh. I'm happy you as an American said it 😅 obviously not every American person is like this, but damn is becoming a social problem for a huge part of the population there
Yes the majority here are fucking entitled and it’s annoying! Its embarrassing even.
yeah working in the service industry you really see ALL sides of humanity, much of it is entitled
@@madd7e definitely! Ive met some of the kindest people, but also some of the most selfish. its just wild lol.
As a fellow American I highly agree with this comment 😂
Splurging on a $70 dinner for your birthday is totally acceptable if you can afford it. Not letting the server know you’re splitting checks, and/or expecting people to pay the check is absurd. If anything, if you want an expensive and fancy birthday, you should be able to pay for all of it. Energy doesn’t match. It’s like having everyone else bring the decorations to your party.
these kinds of people are absolutely wild to me. i just had my 19th a few weeks ago and my two closest friends and i drove over to the grove and went to the giant barnes and nobles and hung out there for a while, then got cheesecake factory and at the end of the night we got cheap milkshakes and played Minecraft together and it was the best, we even matched each other with more alt clothes since i love that style and so does my friend
I don’t mind celebrating all week/month bc I love treating myself 😭 but I’m not gonna make anyone hang out w me the entire time. Haha
I’m from the Middle East and it’s crazy to me how Americans will defend how they don’t wanna pay bill when here we fight each other trying to grab it first so we can pay for the other person.
As an American, it’s shocking. I always pay my bill myself and if it’s a place I invited another out to I will try to pay for theirs as well.
I think most Americans would say that what you saw in this video are the type of people we call cheap, inconsiderate, selfish types.
Bro in India too. We take pride in treating our friends for their birthday. And there is no thing like this, birthday girl or boy telling us to wear certain dress so that we don't out shine them. Most of time we dress up, go out and have a blast🤷♀️ The self obsession of some of these people is crazy.
Yeah Same, like if it was my friend’s birthday we always argue to make sure that the birthday girl didn’t paid bill even tho she always wants to pay for her birthday and this is a custom applied to close group of friends or family
I think it depends on which area of the USA you are. In rural towns, like where I live, I usually try to cover the bill/everyone is fighting TO pay the bill to treat their friends and family. In expensive areas like New York or LA you could be dropping 1K on a whole table depending on how many are there.
As a waitress in America seen more ppl fight over wanting to pay rather than not paying
As a 14yro w no money, whenever I go out, my parents pay for me. But that's only because I don't currently have the option to pay for myself. Once I do, obviously I will because you can't just go throughout your whole life expecting people to pay for your shit. It's an extremely immature mindset, and if I, a literal child - that hasn't had much experience in the world - can see that, then I think it's on their side.
I'm 13 nearly 14 I agree
I’m 12 almost 13 and I wholeheartedly agree
If even a bunch of middle schoolers can see that then yeah there's a problem lmao.
@@Ruby...X lol
im a 13 year old who DOES pay for herself which is crazy. these grown adults wont pay for their own burger but a 8th grader will
It is so upsetting how people don't seem to enjoy the small things in life like HAVING FUN instead of receiving a 100$ gift :(
Right I might tolerate such a request from a make a wish candidate, confirmed currently enrolled for that calendar year…
If someone gave me something small like nail polish or one shirt, I’d be happy.
From what I know (please correct me if I am wrong) in a lot of Balkan/Slavic countries the birthday person is the one purchasing everything, the guests usually only bring a gift (or money sometimes instead of a gift, esp if you don't know the bday person that well or what they like) and NOBODY expects the guests to pay for their meals/drinks/etc.
That’s what it like. I’m a German living in Poland and I never paid for the birthday dinner as a guest. Not In Germany, not in Poland. You just bring a present.
4:10 as a fellow American
I DONT KNOW EITHER 😭
ok thats fucked up, no restaurant should be charging anyone 40 to 60 dollars for a burger, thats just not right, what kinda dystopian world are we living in that burgers that used to be 1 to 5 dollars, are now 40 to 60 dollars. thats utterly insane, i'd be giving that place a negative 5 star review, and not buying anything.
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Tbf, it sounds like one of those super-fancy sitdown restaurants where everything has always been way over-priced, but I hate fancy restaurants anyways lol.
Yeah, today’s $40-60 burgers were never yesterday’s $1-5 burgers. It’s a gourmet burger, it will be large, high quality, and cooked to perfection. But it’s not really about the cost of the actual burger… it’s the cost of the seat. No one goes to a fancy restaurant to order a $40+ burger, they go and order the burger because they didn’t choose the fancy restaurant and don’t want anything else. To keep a burger on the menu in a restaurant that doesn’t specialize in or even serve a lot of burgers, just so one or two people who don’t want to be there can have a burger, means losing money. For those reasons, the burger is almost always the most overpriced thing on a fancy restaurant’s menu.
Burgers are still cheap that is just one from an overpriced, fancy restaurant
"no brushing teeth" is WILD
How rotten are their gums that they feel the need to say that 😭😭😭 that’s so disgusting
Ikr@@mikehock6784
I would rather die than looking overdressed af with everyone else in their pj's
It's so baffling as someone from the Balkans - here the birthday person pays for EVERYTHING, drinks, food, etc. On your birthday you're the one treating everyone else and spending money on them and they somewhat "pay you back" with a gift.
Bruh as an indian growing up in an arab country, people fight for the bill, come up with schemes n lies so that they can pay the bills 😭
I thought it was common courtesy to order the cheapest food or try to in a cheaper range when you're not paying, heck when i go out with my own family n dad pays, i keep my eyes on the price n try not to order expensive stuff cus him taking us out for dinner is an act of love not to rip the poor man's wallet apart (n FYI I'm not an adult nor have a job rn, but dad just u wait till i start earning, i aint letting u pay for shit 💀)
FRRRR I CANT WAIT TO WORK AND GET PAID JUST TO FIGHT OVER THE BILL😭
In balkans the person who is having a birthday is a host, therefore pays for everyone else. Doing a birthday party here is expensive only for the birthday person, everyone else is a guest. Yet we still do it. We want to be generous. Also we recieve sometimes nice gifts, sometimes little of them, but no one cares.
Bukv citam komentare nije mi dobro kad vidim kako ovi ljudi razmisljaju ? Kao nema smisla bukv znaci rodjendanac izabere neki restoran gde je skupo i ja sam moram i da donesem poklon i da platim sta sam jela i pila? Bukvalno sta? U mom drustu je normalno da odwmo na piće, poklon od 1000 dinara i popije max 3 pića i to je to
@@tinakim7460 nez mi uvijek slavimo tako da donese od poklona ko sta hoce, pare, pice il nesto trece. Ak se slavi kod kuce, onda slavljenik pripremi hranu i pice za uzvanike, tortu sam sebi ispece il ak se netko od frendova ponudi. Ako se ide van, slavljenik kupi koju bocu za stol, a uzvanici tu i tamo časte isto pićima. Nema puno filozofije sto se tice para. Svi smo svoji i nikad nema problema.
In Poland the same. But when we are having birthdays right now we will probably split the bill, because I'm in university and I'm broke 😅 We all choose the place, we plan it together and someones birthday is just an excuse to meet, but when I say „I invite you” then I'm paying.
@@tinakim7460ćao ćao balkanac ja sam iz cg
Now, reading similar comments i think its only American/Australian thing ??
As an American (California) this is so batshit insane to me. The expectation is always everyone paying their own or splitting evenly depending on if it’s something like K-bbq where we all shared. Usually one person pays the restaurant and we all Venmo them. Sometimes I will cover for someone if it’s a special occasion for them (or vice versa) but it’s not an expectation.
My friends and I have a similar thing where the expectation is usually everyone/every couple pays their own way. Unless someone's broke, in which case they say they're tight on money while we're planning, and someone usually offers to cover at a cheaper place. The favor gets repaid next time someone's tight; we don't keep tally. Also when we visit others' places, oftentime someone just buys everyone wings, pizza, taco meat, brisket, what have you.
I would laugh in the ladies' faces expecting me to pay for them. No, ma'am! You're a grown adult and this isn't a date! Or are you all vying for me? Oh, just vying for my money? Hm.
But I'm careful to choose good people, more or less. Ones that can communicate directly about such things.
i once went to an upperclass, home owning person's birthday party. they invited tons of people but this was when we were in like highschool that you pay for everyone attending's meal. when you are an adult you should probably pay for yourself or discuss it beforehand.
As an American, people here have gotten absolutely ridiculous! The entitlement is out of control! People are truly convinced everyone else owes them free everything, all the time! If you dare to tell them no, they completely lose their minds and play the victim.
People need to grow tf up!
some people are so annoying over this stuff, i mean obviously its your special day but some people take it too far and expect too much imo
Had a friend like this before, none of our parents had that kinda money so no one came to their bday dinner lmao
Thats unfortunate but i hope they enjoyful abt birthday dinner
Gatherings aren't necessarily my thing most of the time. So I usually don't expect to be there very long.
"It's your special day". No, it's just the day you were born. It's one thing to expect everyone to celebrate your birthday when you're 7 or 12. By the time you're 23 you should be a bit less self centered. "Today is the day I fell out of a vagina so that makes me super awesome" is ridiculous for an adult. If your friends and family want to acknowledge it then that's wonderful and your a** should be GRATEFUL. Demanding everyone drop what they're doing or getting upset because you're not the center of attention and everyone you know can't put their life on pause & drop their dignity or do whatever you want is some toddler sh*t. Somehow we've become a nation where half the adults have the emotional maturity & self involvement of a 3 year old & frankly, it's pretty disgusting.
I hope that everybody that went to the first girl’s party dressed up like they were going to the Met Gala. I mean I meet her requirements a lot of the time, but it would piss me off enough to put in all the effort.
me too😭😭😭
sameeee, i’d make lily gladstone’s oscars acceptance outfit look like child’s play just out of pure spite
FOR FUCK’S SAKE! 😂 When I invite people out for my birthday I only expect their presence. I’m not expecting drinks, expensive presents et al! I’ve had my friends buying me drinks for my birthday, but I’ve NEVER asked them to do that.
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My last bday was at a burlesque bar. Everyone bought their own ticket, I reserved the table and paid for everyone’s drinks and appetizers. We all got our own main courses.
I was not about to make anyone else handle that big of a bill other than be responsible for themselves
I was also the driver lol
I’m American. It’s 100% true… birthdays are SO so overblown here; & if you tell people you don’t want them to celebrate your birthday for said reasons then folks freak out & get mad you don’t ’appreciate it.’ Co workers are the WORST… they insist on getting a cake & making everyone sing happy birthday, & pass an envelope to collect $.
GREAT VIDEO, new here & love them all!!💚💚
Its something that stops in your later twenties. After that its just you and BFF or SO.
I am also from the US and have otherwise never really felt one way or the other about my birthday. And yeah, the pressure to feel and act a certain way is just absurd, especially when everyone gets so loud about it (I'm very sensitive to yelling for multiple reasons) and puts me in the spotlight when I really don't want it.
I usually just get myself something really nice (a new video game, etc.), but really i just want a normal day to myself, or maybe with a friend or two, and have a movie marathon and eat takeout.
I find it ironic that on the one day of the year that's supposed to be about me, my feelings are the only one that don't matter.
I don't know why people are like this, I can legitimately get a pair of socks for my birthday and be perfectly happy, not even themed either. These people are asking WAY too much, and I think they should be happy with whatever they get.
It's not always like this. My friends all pay for themselves and my partner will pay for me. We usually just go to all you can eat sushi for $20 a person. These people are just spoiled and entitled.
You invite them and they have to pay for themselves? 😂😂😂 If you are so poor, that you can’t buy a few meals, than prepare food at home and invite your friends there.
That's a normal request - when my friends and I went out for my bday we all.. paid for ourselves? I usually get kid meals so it was cheap for me anyway😅
@@katarzynaxx563my brother, how is that a problem?
Agreed. If you have people you really want to come to a birthday dinner, it’s necessary to include them in deciding the venue and offering to pay for them if they voice monetary concerns. There’s nothing wrong with wanting a specific restaurant for your own birthday, but you can’t expect everyone to have the same budget. Feelings will be hurt if it’s clear you didn’t consider that in planning, your own feelings and your invitees.
3:25 lmao damn girl! Metal vocals!
I may live in the US but I wasn’t born here and I never understood the disgusting greed and lack of self awareness and lack of understanding the value of a dollar 🤦🏻♀️ I’ve never had a bday dinner more than $20…. How can people be so mean and inconsiderate in this economy?!?! Wishing I could move home… but I’m disabled and unemployed and fighting for ssi so I can’t even afford the value menu at a drive thru…
I understand dude. me and my family are homeless and living in a shelter and trying to save every penny we can atm just to try to get a place of our own. but it's so hard because nothing in mass is affordable. everything here is like 3000 dollars or more just for rent. and all 3 of us are on ssi with a 2 year old at that. so I understand what ur going thru. we are going to teach her the value of money and to be kind and help ppl in need when she is a little older
It is sad to see. Unfortunately it’s the parents fault for not instilling better values and understanding when it comes to money and what’s important and what’s not.
I hope you can get back home as soon as possible, it sounds like it’s trying to call you back
@@chuckyfan6696 I’m so sorry you’re going through this! I’ve been homeless twice in my life and it’s truly terrifying. So glad you have ssi but as we all know, as thankful as we are for having it for our disabilities of course, we’re in a cost of living crisis where more and more ssi people and disabled are suffering. You’re doing what you need to do for you and your family and that is all that matters! Stay close to them and if anything just repeatedly tell each other you love each other. That love will be your biggest strength ❤️
@@keelyboulter1992 thank you so much. That means a lot.❤️
@@chuckyfan6696 you got this! And you’re gonna look back and realize just how strong your family is once you get into your new home 🏠 ❤️
Lmao I'd be mortified to act like I'm so broke I can't pay for my own meal among friends. Unless that man said previously that he was buying, he has no obligation to pay for everyone
I have never heard of anything like this and I'm in the US. Maybe it's not normal where I live? Or maybe my crowd is just too old.
My "rules" for a birthday dinner, if I have one at all, are simple:
-No gifts. It makes me super uncomfortable and I'm not a stuff person. It also makes everyone else uncomfortable if they don't bring a gift.
-If I pick somewhere out of your budget, don't worry. I'm aware. I want you there and I'm paying. If it wasn't in my budget to do so, I'd pick somewhere cheaper.
-No embarrassing birthday cake thing with the singing waitstaff. It makes me so uncomfortable.
-If I'm not planning the thing, don't forget I'm most comfortable dressed down. Nothing too fancy.
That's it. Nothing crazy. I hardly ever go out, so on the rare occasion where I do, I don't want to bog it down with lots of expectations. That just ruins the night.
I’m autistic and the singing waitstaff thing is sensory hell.
This my type of celebration. Just mundane, peaceful joy with the closest individuals.
I have basic birthday rules, but these are out of hand. I just ask that you’re polite and party! That’s it!! These rules are baffling
In my country the person which celebrates her/his birthday and takes out the guests pays for everything - so I personally didn't get the fuss about the second clip. If I invite you to my birthday, I'll pay and same goes for everyone I know around me haha.
As an American, I also don’t understand why they are like this.
Rules for my birthday-
No fighting, have fun
That’s it
same, also i dont want anyone throwing a fit and attention seeking
That last one the friend legit sounds like "what do you mean you guys are all poor and you can't afford to go to this dinner and club cause you don't have money? Just get the money from your dad who's rich?". Cause can moneybags please stop assuming everyone else is a moneybag too? The out of touchness for rich people is fucking insane.
4:53 “if we don’t jive, my money is staying in MY hive” 😂 love that
It’s def not normal for everyone. If I know someone else is paying for me, I try to get the cheapest thing possible. If I’m paying for myself then I MIGHT go for something a LITTLE more expensive.
In Greece we usually celebrate someone’s birthday at their house,and if we go out, usually the birthday person pays (it’s something like “I’ll give you treat for my bday” smth like that,but that’s for cultural reasons mostly). Also, if someone doesn’t come to the birthday looking their best, or at least apologise for their appearance, we are more likely to take this as an insult.
the restaurant situation feels so weird to me, because in my country it’s pretty much expected for the hosts to pay for all the guests at a birthday dinner. if you are invited that basically means they’ve got you covered. if someone can’t afford paying for everyone, they just don’t invite people to a restaurant, and instead celebrate at home
And to me it's weird because where i'm from, people take for granted they will pay for their own plate. They're invited to join the meal, not invited to a free meal. No one would argue so openly about getting "the only man" to pay for everyone. 😂
@@bleuumscarlett7977 yeah, it all depends on the context. as i said, here people often come to your birthday party with an equivalent of a few dollars in their pockets, so if you want them to pay, you should discuss it in advance. but demanding someone to cover the whole bill, just because he’s ‘the man’ is wild in either case
Understandable in your situation. In most places in America it is normal for the birthday person to get food paid for and everyone else pay themselves. I think if it's agreed upon before there is no problem with splitting a bill or with the host paying for everything (I've been to party's like that aswell) the biggest thing being communication.
I’m American and agree with you. That’s like charging people to eat at a birthday party thrown at home. If someone is inviting you to eat out, go to the movies, etc, the bill is on the inviter 🤷🏻♀️
@@raversfantasyhell no. You ask a friend if they wanna go get lunch and you pay for it because you asked?
I find this so insane. My boyfriend recently had his birthday and I invited him out to dinner and told him beforehand that I was going to pay for it. We are both in college and while I didn't necessarily have the money to go somewhere expensive we still had a super awesome time! The people in this video need to lower their expectations of others, it will make the time they spend together much more enjoyable
In Canada usually you stay in with your friends and get beer and takeout, maybe watch hockey or whatever. Not many people go out for big dinners
5:17 to be honest that's the norm for birthdays in my country.
If I invite you I will also pay
I can't imagine choosing an extremely expensive restaurant for your birthday dinner and expecting the person you invite to have to pay for it. I've definitely wanted to eat somewhere expensive for my birthday before, but I made sure to save up enough to pay for both me and my friend ahead of time because I knew it would be hundreds of dollars just for the two of us and would never expect her to pay that just to have dinner with me!
She speaks facts
People pick up on quality of character
If you try to dim another's light, you're only truly dimming your own
Like drinking poison and hopping the other person dies
They’re two types of people in the world when it comes to extreme birthdays the ones who make it a month about them, and the one where they don’t want anyone to remember when their birthday actually is. I’m on that half I rather people forget about my birthday
9:10 that's crazy!!! They all should've had a discussion about the payment cuz wtf
Once went to a birthday dinner where three of the people at the table ordered multiple glasses of champagne, and two of them ordered dessert TO GO on a split check 😩 Never again 🙅🏼♀️
9:03 - Assuming this was a date, bringing your 18 friends with you on what should be a one on one night is already enough of a red flag, but expecting him to pay for ALL 19 OF YOU?!
Also who tf has 19 friends lol
5:58 "Triggah warniiing: baybey exISTING" has me DYING--
Thats me xd every Day every where 😂
I’m not paying a months rent for one night out. At that point I’ll be like hey waiter I’ll pay separate and also not even talk to them people anymore.
Lol the confidence for celebrating an entire week???!
I'm so socially anxious that I haven't celebrated my birthday in years even tho my friends explicitly ask for it.
A birthday week is crazy
How can some people feel that important??! T-T
as a Gemini, I’m very embarrassed of those girlies that act like that for their birthday, yes I’m excited but talking about it months before hand is CRAZY!
Shaving all your hair off in solidarity for your friends' Cancer would be noble.
Having them show up to a public, possibly photographed celebration while dirty and unkempt just so you can have a foil to make yourself feel better is not friend behavior.
Its narcissistic.
If they were truly friends, you'd want them to look their best no matter the occasion and you wouldn't care that they outshine you.
This is frenemy sh*t and they shouldn't be friends with her anymore.
There's no telling what this girl would do, if she could find a way to justify it.
The person that made that list for their birthday party REEKS of jealousy, like you don’t want to shower or brush their teeth?!!! Seriously?!!!!, yet they’re still demanding an $100 dollar gift?!!! Like how do they know that maybe a $50 dollar gift was all they could afford to buy?!!!! And wouldn’t blame the friends if they refused to go
im filipino so we dont fight over who's paying the bill, we fight over who GETS to pay the bill. 😭
I’d happily skip the hassle of hair, nails and makeup, but there’s no way I’m going out without showering and brushing my teeth! Did she want her party to stink?
Never mind, I don’t have $100 for a gift anyway!
4:13 as an American, I am very picky of my friends, I want ones just like my family, and thankfully almost my full class is like this.
1. Doesn’t judge others
2. Isn’t entitled
3. Doesn’t designate a whole month to their bday
I dunno, I’m disabled and have always been on a fixed income and was raising a child as a single parent. So, I never had money for “extras”. My friends and family have always still invited me to stuff, dinners, parties, etc. and they’ve always offered to pay for me to be included because they knew I couldn’t afford to go if I was invited? I never EXPECTED them to pay for me. I never ASKED them to pay for me. They just wanted me to be included too and knew that I didn’t have the ability to pay for that stuff like they did? But they also NEVER made me feel bad for not having the money? My company was more important to them than the $40-$60 they spent on my tab. However, I also ALWAYS did other things for my friends like free child care? I made decorative cakes for birthdays. I hosted parties at my house for their kids. I did things for them where I could for free. So, it was never like anyone was “keeping track” of who did what or paid for what or any of that stuff? We were all friends and did what we could for each-other. All this craziness of birthday rules and you have to pay for everyone and why didn’t you come to this expensive restaurant and what not? That’s NUTS to me. If someone couldn’t afford the dinner out in my friends group, we still invited them and payed their way no questions asked cause we love them and want them to be included? And as far as how someone came dressed? We CELEBRATED our beautiful girlies when they came slaying their looks or in sweats and a messy bun? Did not matter! We love YOU girl, not your clothes!
About the second clip, it can also depend on the culture. For example, in my country, if you invite people out to a restaurant or a bar on your birthday, it's expected you will pay for everyone. But yeah, I don't think that was the case in that clip. Either way, just wanted to share this :)
Yes, in Lithuania we also pay for everybody else on on our birthday
Same in Thailand. When we throw a party and invite people, we will pay for everyone.
Yes, even in my culture if we are inviting people for our birthday it basically means we are paying. And not just for birthdays but for any occasion, if we are inviting someone somewhere, means we are paying.
Same here in South Africa
Americans are weird😭
I'm from the UK and this is a thing here too (at least it's a thing in my circle).
my husband and i are mexican-american. our parents are from Mexico. my mother-in-law says that in Mexico, it is customary to pay for people if you invite them out. If that was the case here, i wouldn't be hanging out with anybody. In this economy? nuh uh.
It's the same in our culture too. But it is not compulsory to invite people. It's just that if we are inviting someone somewhere, that means we are paying. So this is kind of a culture shock to me.
That would mean the birthday girl would have paid, not the man.
Why am I learning from Drama Kween that the meds I took for 7 years and got off of are the reason I can't drink, we love an informational kween
In the slavic culture the bithday parties look diffrent. We have the host-birthday person who organizes the whole party. It can be in their home or a restaurant (but then they reserve a special room for parties like this). The guests don't chose food from the menu, the host do it before the party, while organizing it all and when the people come everithing is ready and the waiters just bring the plates (it can be that everyone has their on plate with a dish or they put food on their plates by their own from the bowls in the middle of the table). The guest have to bring a present (nobody says it directly, outloud, it's just a tradition and how it all works. If someone says it outloud it's treated as inappropriate) to "pay" for the party. People have to gues how expensive the present shoud be (or how much money give in the envelope) based on the "vibe" i guess? If it's in the restaurant you should give more, if at home- less. So for us it isn't strange that people assume that the host will pay for them, but in the same time you have to compensate it with the gift. And ofc some of the things showed in this video are inappropriate (for example that the man have to pay for all, it's just ridiculous), but the "you should always pay for yourself" isn't always the olny solution. Sometimes the "who pays" argument can be caused not because someone's a bitch but just bc of the culture differences. I'm not saying that all of the arguments in videos here are bc of an misunderstanding (cuz idk the whole story by just watching a 2 minutes tiktok, I won't juge here) but by this comment (yeah i know it's long) I just wanted to show that the culture is different in other countries (no shit sherlock) and people shoudn't assume in the first thought that someone do this things cuz they're mean or smth. Okay if you're here, congratulations and have a nice day bye
Man only thing more delusional is friends that expect that kind of money for their children’s birthday gifts. When your friend for example expects you to chose a gift from the Amazon wish list that starts at 80€ a gift. What’s up with that kinda crap?