FTM Transgender: What Transitioning Won't Do
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 27 ส.ค. 2024
- Transitioning is great, but it won't do everything
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I was born male but I've been told I walk like a woman and that I'm flamboyant
It's personality not gender so ignore what others say and just be yourself
lol I was born female but heard that I'm pretty masculine. greetings, other side of the spectrum o7 heh.
but yeah you're right. its just rules made up by someone else.
@@oxycuntin2059 ♫ and the rules are there to be broken ♫
@@oxycuntin2059oml same sis ❤❤
You got your mother's traits and the other has her father's traits
I am a transgender teen (13 years old) and you help me so much. I go by Skylar now and use male pronouns (Just haven't changed my yt) and I didn't think it would feel this amazing. Wearing more masculine clothes makes me feel super happy, and idk if this is normal but when I put on feminine clothes I just feel weird and awkward and when I put on masculine clothes I feel happy and free. Being trans is basically living a double life and that's the hard part (minus the dysphoria)
I'm almost 14 and I'm very similar except I do like looking like a femboy and sometime still masculine I just perfor be called he even if I still look a little fem
I'm 18 and just realized 💀 i go by Yuri now
Heyo! I came out as trans to my family 2 years ago. I go by lewis now but my family still missgender and dead name me. But no matter what the world throws at you, your amazing and valid!
Hi it's your friendly neighborhood Pansexual trans boy who's name is Kai :)
hey how are you now? i hope you are doing good!
"i used to be so self conscious about how i speak with my hands so much"
me, an italian: am i joke to you?
me, another italian: same
... Honestly my first impression of Jamie was I just thought he was a gay guy
Me who has Italian in my blood but was born in America yet uses hands to talk alot: Am I a joke to you?
One thing I notice the more I start living as a boy is my personality is changing. Im still pre T, but I was super shy as a girl.
Maxon Messer same
SAME. I think it’s a confidence issue that goes along with living in the wrong body
At least for me
Disiajjskdksje me too
As a trans girl,the same happened to me
This is actually helpful because I’m getting my first shot in a couple days!!!
Congrats!
hey congrats on two years on T :3
hey, how you doin? t been good? :3
Congrats!!
2 years damn 😺 I wanna transition so badly ‼
With those big dark eyes, the way you talk with your hands I'd just assume you had an Italian grandfather. 😂
shhagahaghgahahahahabjahajhg yes😂
And the mústàche lol
Omg yes HAHAHA for some reason I always do 🤌🤌 when I talk 💀💀
A lot of this still rang true to me as a cis gay person. I thought coming out would be that "magic wand" you referred to. It was a huge weight off my shoulders and I was super elated for a while.. until all my previous anxieties snuck back up on me, crushing me. It was completely disheartening to think I didn't need to worry about them anymore and then have them sneak up on me. I'm still trying to dig myself out, but I'm learning it's okay to not get there overnight.
Your hair looks like Newt Scamanders hair :D
Mari H yas chald
:0
omg is does :DD
Your words about the hand gestures actually really helped. I feel like I'm way too feminine with them. I'm worried if I come out people will call me fake. What if I was wrong this entire time and I'm actually just a girl? That thought scares me because I know I'm not but I can never explain why I'm trans. But anyways, I feel way more confident now that you've said that. Thank you.
I feel the same way, and I have no idea how to explain it
I know I’m self conscious about my weight, and I want to exercise but my chest kind of prevents me from doing that, so I feel once I can get top surgery I can finally have the confidence to start working out. I feel like I could start working on myself.
Omfg youre so cute! Like im a trans girl and my biggest fear is that a transition wouldnt be convincing or whatever but thankyou for giving some hope :)
Me being me, I’m trans and want to at the least feel a little better before I’m 18. I’m gonna ask my dad if I can cut my hair when my bro goes to the hairdresser. I’m also gonna work out and hope to get a more masculine look. I would also really like to go to High school as male. I have no idea why I’m mentioning this, I just wanted to.
Would recommend Hamza, although he is conservative I bet if you're a fan of an insane amount of discipline, then go for it.
@@dexter8225i agree. even though i don't believe in some of his principles that are conservative, i do believe that overall he is a good resource for becoming more masculine, outgoing, and confident.
I was thinking... Could you do a video on what you miss about presenting as a girl? Often, the moment you show an implication of being the opposite gender, trans people get told they're fake (not true). I know I miss being very touchy-feely with my friends or much of the fashion/style. Of course, I could totally do all of that now, but I'll easily be read as a female and I'd sacrifice style over being dysphoric. What about you?
Maximus Brooks nice suggestion for a video topic :) that'd be very interesting
I miss Bathroom Chatter, hahaha. Y'know when you go into the women's bathroom at a club and end up taking 45mins because you just made 5 new best friends all having a great tipsy chat at the sinks? I loved that! You'll never find anyone as outrageously supportive, open, and loudly affectionate as drunky women in the club bathrooms at 1am 😂
Yeah sometimes I kinda miss being read as part of the female population. I feel like women are more careful around me now that they see me as a guy? And I totally understand that but I also think it's super sad
Boy, I got a pregnancy ad before this.
Yoooo! Another Gerard Way account!! Nice! 💖💕
I don’t even like mcr but like, he’s so fineee
I remember in my early childhood seeing a story on TV about a trans people (specifically trans kids) and it caught my attention. I found myself watching TH-cam videos about ftm transitions and learning as much as I could. To this day I have been told I have masculine mannerisms, that I think like a boy, I’ve been told I look like a boy and that I have a very solid almost masculine build (I’m tall for my age and chubby), hell I even got a pixie cut then I was 5. I have always felt so uncomfortable in my body and I have recently decided to stop ignoring this fact, but the problem is idea of fully transitioning scares me, I love it but my brain tells me I’m going to regret it (mainly because I don’t alway hate being feminine) and it’s all so confusing.
Anyways rambled finished
I just wanna say your videos helped me a lot when I was younger and I want to thank you, and hopefully I’ll be able to figure out my gender and accept myself. Once again,
Thank you
I'm three months on T and I've noticed that I'm getting more confident in general but in anxiety inducing moments I'm still the same. Weight gain has been a good thing to me. I've gained about 7 kg and am not underweight anymore :)
How are you now?
Feminine and masculine traits have nothing to do with gender at all :)
Mari H arguable about entirely linked, but no link whatsoever?
Yeah, but a man can have feminine sides, and a woman can have masculine sides. It doesn't define their gender.
Mari H so there is no link whatsoever between masculinity and men and femininity and women?
No, I'm saying that men can be feminine, and women can be masculine, but it doesn't define their gender.
Mari H yeah your first comment kinds threw me off, I viewed more to find this explanation lol.
And yeah I have a gay friend who fucking LOVES makeup and jewelry etc. He's a dude through and through. But he's not a woman because like you said it doesn't define gender. I'm ftm and I have masculine looks and stuff. It relates more to my gender more than my gay friends expression does.
It's all super fickle and changing a lot when it comes to expression and feminine and masculine traits.
Your such a kind lad and you have a heart of gold and approach things in a way that most people don’t see you can put a light spin on and your videos just brighten up my days, I’m not trans or anything I just find you a really kind guy and it puts a smile on my face every Wednesday and Sunday knowing I’m gonna get to see a bit of you :) keep it up coz you help people more than you may realise and you deserve more credit than you get so if you see this I just really want you to know that your a really genuinely lovely guy and you don’t get many of those so keep it up not that I’m great with words or anything but you know what I mean buddy keep it up :)
Most beautiful birds nest hair I've ever seen 😊
Adorable! Also, good information for the mom of a woman in the early stages of transitioning. Thank you so much!
Thank you for this. I'm in the process of experimenting with social transitioning and it does worry me how much it would really help. But the best part of this video for me was when you said your body language and mannerisms don't determine your gender or sexuality because I don't actually want to change my body language or mannerisms because then I feel I wouldn't be presenting as my true self... And since I view transitioning as me showing my true self it would take away the whole perpose for me if I had to change these things 😊
You're such an inspiration Jamie!! You're one of my favourite youtubers at the moment and you have helped me a lotttt
whenever i watch you videos i feel inspired to make my own channel but... I'm only out as trans to my friends, mum and dad ALSO i am a SOCIALLY AWKWARD TURNIP. maybe one day i will start one
also thank you so much jamie, i watch all your videos and they have all helped me even though i havent started my transition yet. Thanks to you i know what im doing know. KEEP MAKING VIDEOS FOREVER BECAUSE I DONT KNOW WHAT I WOULD HAVE DONE WITHOUT YOU
If you choose to come out and transition, good luck to you! I hope you can come out in the future and at least one person you know will be accepting. Also your profile pic is amazing. Have a good day!
Ive never had someone subscribe to me before lol
If you want to stay anonymous, you could always start a blog (whether that be on Tumblr, Wordpress or Blogger). It could very well help others. When you are ready, you can transition to vlogs and TH-cam in general.
I am not even starting transitioning yet, but this video helped alot. ❤️
I like that you brought up body type issues, cause' I think that effects -everyone-. As of now, I hate being fat. Even after I transition, I'm still probably gonna be fat. That's just something I gotta accept! It's like...I gotta either accept it or go to the gym, lol. (Gross. I hate exercise.)
My favourite wrestler never keeps his hands still while talking and it makes him no bit less of a man in fact it just makes him more attractive in my eyes :D
I personally don’t give a shite about mannerisms, I do whatever, one day I HOPE I can take T and hit the gym. Become the *man* I’ve always dreamed of being.
Im 2 months from turning 70 and a transguy. I totally get this video. Cheers
I'm 4 years on T and let me tell you, when I was just 2 months on T I felt things I never experienced before. I didn't realize I only had two emotions pre T. Anger and depression.
Once I was 2 months on T I felt a wave of new emotions such as joy, excitement, wonder, etc. It really helped me.
That being said, transitioning doesn't affect everyone the same way, this is just how it affected me.
As someone who is about to transition FTM (approved through therapy and have my endo referral) I just want to thank you for sharing and being you. You are an inspiration and have given me strength I didn't know I had. ❤
The more i transition the better my mental health gets. I went from constant stress tic attacks, full dissociation 24/7,apathy, depression never sleeping more then 5 hours to slight dissociation and depression/anxiety
getting referred to a trans healthcare place when i’m 17 :) really excited and nervous to start transitioning :’)
About the anxiety thing, my therapist think it exists because of multiple aspect of my life.
The first thing could be because i am trans and i have body dysphoria, so im not confident and cant present myself how i want to people.
The second is because kids harrassed for seven years straight and i wasnt realising it back then.
The third is because i haf a child trauma involving my parents, i thought they would leave me, i wasnt used to get around others until 7...etc
My therapist think that the fact im transgender is a big side of my anxiety, but with my anxiety trust issues comes along and my trust issues arent related that much to my trans identity aparently. S
Just telling that it depends on people, maybe your identity have nothing to do at all with your anxiety, maybe its the only thing that cause you anxiety, maybe its one of the thing, maybe its the big part, the small part...etc its different for everyone.
But if you struggle with dysphoria and anxiety, please go see a therapist, find one that fits you, i did and now i know what is linked to what and we can finally see how to work things out.
Thank you for posting this ! I greatly appreciate your videos and they help me greatly 💙
I could never tell that you used to have a female body i'm new to the channel and you look like you've always had a male body!
I hade really bad anxiety last year but then I got my hair cut ( and I have a really masc face , jawline , shoulders ) I started being refered to a male by cashiers and to be fare I loved it so I came out to my best friend and she used my preferred pronouns and helping my bind so all I can say is it gets better so survive I almost didn’t.
This is so helpful
*this isn't really relevant but I still wanna say it*
Coming out and transitioning did a lot for me emotionally, it just took a while (we're speaking like a year, which was when I changed schools and got a fresh start AS A GUY). I'm still really shy and socially awkward, but as a "girl" I only spoke to close friends or family members and would occasionally say a sentence or two to a classmate but RARELY spoke outside my home, I also went days saying barely anything anything and when I did it was quiet and I stuttered - speaking was a physical and emotional struggle unless I was 100% comfortable with the person I was around. That changed after I socially transitioned and people started seeing me as a guy (I still stutter a bit but it's barely noticeable, most people don't even notice unless I point it out). Communicating is much easier now and I can even order food and things like that (still get nervous about phone calls though). Now I'm looking forward to starting T, which will probably happen within a year or two ^^
I have no idea if anyone else has a similar story, but if you do, hey, now you know you're not alone with that!
Love you person my friend told me to sub to.
The Milk they're a good friend
I've been lucky, my body language and my looks have always been masculine, i'm pre T and have never been misgendered in public, I'm also a gay trans male so being feminine only accentuates my sexuality lol
Wish this sort of stuff was around when I was a teen. At least I can make this change now, even at 40.
Tbh a problem about transitioning in my sense (gonna hopefully start T in the next couple of months yeet) is that my first encounter of an "official person" was at CAMHS. CAMHS is awful, try Young Minds, or literally any other organisation for mental health related issues. Just see your doctor, situation permitting. Anyway:
CAMHS kept trying to say that my anxiety and depression were because I was trans, but I know that they are separate issues, especially the depression. Part of the anxiety does come from how I will be percieved in public. But say I am percieved correctly; I'm still terrified of those social situations. I also just get struck by random anxiety attacks. If they were because I'm trans there'd be an identifiable stressor, therefore it would be a panic attack instead.
And yeah, I'm sad that I can't magically right now have the effects of T and top surgery. But that isn't why I can't get out of bed in the morning, or get dressed, or shower, or feed myself. The reason for that is because I'm depressed, and I need help to get myself steady again.
Sometimes it's not just the people who are transitioning that need to know what it can't change, it's also the people potentially enabling the transition, those in the position of power.
Thank you for yet another video Jamie, your perspective is always refreshing ^ - ^
I agree with a lot of this but for me I saw changes socially, mainly because I felt more open after I came open
holy shit this is so important
This was such a good video! I wish I would've seen it earlier in my transition, but now 2 years + into it, I can totally relate
Super useful video! Thank you for making it, it's good to keep it real and know that, while transitioning is a fantastic thing, there are problems it can't solve and aspects of it which may work differently for different people. For example I see a lot of people who've been on T for a while and have fantastic beards, but there's no guarantee I'm gonna have one too! Same goes for the psychological/social side of transitioning: some people may not experience depression after transitioning, but others definitely do. Anyway, thanks again~
Since discovering your channel a few weeks ago I've been binge watching a lot, your videos have answered a lot of questions and are really helpful and chill
I'm cis but I'd imagine it would be really cool when you first meet sb that only knows you after coming out. People you knew before (it seems) often struggle with new pronouns and/or names
So I just watched 1 of the older vids and was wondering what happened to the dog?
I feel like you knew what I was going through now. I had NO IDEA that this was JUST put up. Ma boi. Hooowwww?!?!?
Thank you so much 💖
You're such a good person. 😊💕
i love your hair
Last time i was this early i still hated myself
Oh wait, i still do
Night Crawler sameee
Night Crawler well I love you so ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Maybe Yall never really wanted to be another gender. Maybe you just didn't feel accepted or comfortable in your old situation. I'm so sorry you guys did all this just to find out the only way to true happiness is TRUE self love.
@@jadeacampbell5206 i actually have zero clue wtf you are on about
I just started to transition.
This was a great video!
You are my favorite ftm / advice youtuber. I actually thought you were a boy until I came across your Ftm videos.
XxTheOnlyMarkusxX well, he /is/ a boy (I know what you meant but it sounded unconsciously transphobic...)
Oh I didnt mean to put it that way. Me being trans myself, I most certainly dont want anyone else to feel that way. Sorry!
Maybe for next time you could say you thought they were biological males or Cis men ? Possibly I don't know thought I'm not transgender so can't speak for what they're comfortable with
Though*
Well, Im sure he knows what I meant, if he saw this. And, quotes 'were' as in past tense. I thought he was born a boy, because he looks so much like one now! Hes lucky, I must say. Not all trans men have that advantage.
Watching a live stream or a TH-cam video while being able to scroll on Twitter!
thanks for this, i have my injections just gotta get labs then i can use em
hope transphobes won't come in the comment section
anyway my gender is librafeminine and i am transfeminine (libratransfeminine?)
I hate how I was taught to sit 'like a girl'
Jamie is soooo cute
I just thought your left eyebrow is kind of connected to your hair or something xD looks pretty funny ^^
"Let's just jump straight in"
I'm always so close to making a joke cus... Straight...
But then I realised that you're straight so I'm like... Well... You can actually jump straight in... Imma jump in circles then maybe...
Ok goodbye. Imma leave...
Hes bi, not straight:)
you should make a packing video!! ive never packed before and i really need help or if you've made one you should link it 0:
Keydon Dehn - Check our uppercaseCHASE1 ! He makes a bunch of reviews of packers and stps and what to wear them in!
Jamie has said he doesn't pack, so definitely check out who the person above mentioned
Does T make you taller?
Being trans be like:
🎯🎯
I'm trying to understand the process of the female to male transition, because I myself want to be a boy. I just want to know how you got an adam's apple?
Transitioning doesn't change ur genitals?
You can get surgery to change them but some people don't because the results aren't very good
I'm first....*shit think of something clever to say*
Victory Mark you're not though. xD Probably spent too long thinking of something to say. c:
Manz Not Hot Darn it. I threw away my shot
Victory Mark LAURENS NO
Aly Melody Alexander, you're the closest friend I've got
@@Scintillate9 laurens... do not throw away your shot
I’m new to your channel, but I’m wondering if you think that starting T at 13 is bad. I’m currently 13 years-old and my mom is considering getting me on T. For the past few years I’ve been wanting T and haven’t changed since. So do you think I would be okay???
Honestly, the sooner the better (as long as your mom is okay with it and your doctor knows their stuff) because you want to prevent your body's natural puberty as much as possible. It seems like you're very sure that this is what you want and that's the most important thing. Good luck to you!
Cassidy Farrar my puberty has already started and I can’t do anything to prevent it. I’m also fearful of the response from my school...
Percy Woods your school should be supportive. Just ask your mom to arrange a meeting with your head of year or something to ask for a name on record etc. You do you! X
I'm early???
do u think its okay for enbies to transition into the opposite gender??
I only have viewed you as male.
First
Any one who will get agree to me ask jamie to buy makeup for shaaba nd shaaba has to wear tht makeup.
Is not it a great nd fun idea? .. guys plz come nd tell ...
With whole procedure... buying makeup to appling it... it would be a great fun video..
you are so lovely :)
You didn't link the Testosterone video you said you were going to :/.... I'm trying to find it.
ChukchiCatori th-cam.com/video/LfA6sxATzZk/w-d-xo.html that's one of the videos ☺
Oops, thanks for reminding me, done it now!
Can ftm get pregnant often?
Yup cause their not dudes .
@@loaded.357 we are men. also, getting pregnant on hrt/testosterone is more difficult because of the lack of estrogen, so you're wrong anyway
I’m not trans but this guy did the transition right.
Can you start T at 13?
You can't and it sucks! I'm also ftm and it's really difficult to realize that I can't do it now and I have to wait for so long. From what I've learned, you have to be at least 16 to start hormones
You cannot, I think it would be dangerous due to puberty (I'm not entirely sure). You can go on hormone blockers though.
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Lads...if a chick transitioned into a hardcore knacker..and wanted to hang around and do drugs...what would you say???
Ugh..cant..doing me hair..soz..