Hi I'm an infj and just wanted to say thank you so much for this life lesson. I'm 15 and I've been feeling like I have to be this person who waits for people to recognize her by being quiet and shying away from my true self. I guess I started feeling this way after seeing how people including my mom and grandma treat my enfj friend. I always get compared to her and she was born as an ophan of sorts and they always shove it in my face how she does everything right. I felt like I was supposed to be the sidekick and not even have my own story in my life. my parents always compared me to any friends I had, cousins, or kids and teens on the news. I just stopped expressing myself and clammed up to make harmony around everyone and my friend because I was scared of more judgement from my family. I eventually stayed in the shadows behind my friend to keep everyone happy. I thank you for teaching me that I shouldn't feel like a bad child for actually wanting to do something for my life. I want to try to wake myself up from this sleep and take a chance to embrace what I want to do for my life and be who I always envisioned. thank you and please wish me luck!
Fellow INFJ here! You're amazing and beautiful, inside and out. Your fire and determination really shines throughout this video, and your voice has been an echo of my own reverberations in my soul. I hope you're doing well, and stay affixed to what you know is right in your heart!
You are excellent at analysis. I am an INFJ but only 1% F. I do focus on others too much and there are things i want to do in the world but do not act on it and procrastinate. I have a lot of ideas and dreams that never happen because i focus on relationships instead of myself and my dreams. We are always there for other people, but nobody is there for us because we don't ask for help and we do feel lost a lot of the time. CONTENT WITH NO POSITIVE EMOTIONS - That is exactly what my problem is and being addicted to success and accomplishment for recognition, instead of living an epic life, which is what INFJs are made to do.
WOW!!! three years and 9 months ago I was in rehab in Thailand....literally soul dead....i´m so glad I found your channel as I feel it´ll solidify my journey back to myself...I never knew about being INFJ until about 4 months ago...understanding more will help me reach the goal that I am actually touching....just needs a bit of luck and i´ll make it...wonderful..thank you
One of my pep talks today! I needed this reminder!!!!!!! I can not convey what this messsge has done for me today. Thank you Wenzes for sharing your truth.
I'm reviewing this video. It was easy for me to identify with your attitude and passion for making an impact for good in this wor:ld. I feel this way about my teaching. I'm certified 1st through 6th grade bilingual (Spanish and English) and for health reasons and also that I'm not 21 anymore, I have been doing substitute teaching, going to any place I'm needed, and I love it. I know that I've helped many young lives. Good feeling'. I was able to identify with your enthusiasm about finding your life purpose. You're very much into what you're doing and it shows.
Great video, thank you. It's so true, it is difficult to keep our focus on ourselves! I think because we sponge others feelings and have continuous awareness of how to help others, we neglect ourselves very easily. I experience it as 'losing myself' and forgetting my own goals and intentions. I have begun sticking to a daily routine whereby I try to include certain simple things in my day that remind me of what I'm trying to achieve. I'm still learning how not to ditch my routine at the drop of a hat from having being used to making myself freely available to people in the past. I'll get there! Also just think, we could be benefitting from giving ourselves all that love we have to give from attending to 'self' first.
You're amazing and inspiring! I's been such a spiritual and financial struggle as an INFJ. I pu everyone else prior to myself and worry too much about society's view of me so I think "am I making the right decision, will anyone accept and embrace my brilliant enterpernuer ideas?" I write all my thoughts and ideas then feel crazy to share them with anyone in fear of being judged.
+Michelle Mascarenhas The first step is that you recognize that you are supressing a part of yourself, which you already do...at some point you will just have to 'do it' and not care about feedback but do it because you know it is the right thing to do!
Its the least I can do ...after all the lift i just received has confirmed that even though life´s been a struggle recently because I enabled a certain person to energetically vamp me.
Thank you for your amazing video. You are an inspiration for me. The problem with me is that i usually feel powerless to pursue my dreams. I feel i am powerless to control anything happening in my life and the fact that many people don't like me really gets to me. My social skills are bad. I guess I feel a little bit depressed right now. I don't know.
Don't worry, i was so depressed the last year and if you watch some of my earlier videos you see how much stronger I seem now...just because I accepted myself. I realized what I want and that I have to fight people who come my way, no matter if you understand them or not. Somebody thinks that they are better than you? Then show them that you are strong enough to stand alone...as long as you can be yourself. You have no idea what kind of rejection I have experienced in the past. People completely pretending I didn't exist. Whoever puts you down for being yourself is below you and it is time you show them that. In honor of your comment I will create the next video on: finding our power. You are with us now! So forget the rest.
Wow! Thank you so much! I really needed this video at this time in my life. You are doing wonderful, amazing work! I think INFJ's (and maybe other NF"s too) really need to unite for support. There should be INFJ conventions and associations in geographic areas for example. Historically, we were the wise women or wise men, but modern society does not value us as they should, and rather waiting for validation and being fearful, we should go out there and inspire others, exactly as you said. There are a lot of days when I dream of living in an NF utopia, but since that doesn't exist, we need to simple be strong and powerful in the world we live in. Thank you again for the inspiration!
The first video I've seen of you that I could truly and completely connect with. (most are a bit on the technical side I've found). Thank you for making this (and others). You're really inspiring.
Hi Wenzes, Thank you so much for how much of yourself you put into your videos! They have been motivating and inspiring me so much. I feel that I'm starting a new chapter in my life and you've helped me to get a better perspective on how I usually think and act as an INFJ. Thank you!
my dream is to be the best free flowing artist i can..every piece i do comes from my heart and i never had any training..as I did not want to be corrupted....the little photo on the left is called ´Desert of Wildflowers¨....its as big as my vision...!!!
Hello there. that was a powerful video! I could feel you throughout the video because that's exactly the transformation I'm going through right now. I have known all along that the way I'm living is not how I wanted to but I've always suppressed my dreams convincing myself that they unworthy and unrealistic. basically the fear of losing face by doing something dumb and stupid is what stopped me. But now at age 21, I realise it JUST DOESN'T MATTER. I guess we all come to that realisation sooner or later. Also, what you said about power, I have been breathing that thought for quite some while now- a relationship has people and that includes Me, and is made successful by the exchange of power between them. you don't Have power,you don't Give power to the r'ship. :) I'm happy to know there's people out there like you who share their stories so people like me (suckers for validation, lol) feel like we are humans too and it's okay to be us :) Btw, I am an INFP.
I love this so much. And i think being a INFJ ive had this exact same thought about how i tend to other people befofe myself. im sure we all KNOW what we are doing, its just a matter of when we decide to start the walk down our own road.
You are SO vibrant in this video ! I can totally relate to not having boundarries,not feeling good enough, putting people needsabovemy own needs etc But this is gonna change, like you say I want to 'fight the fight.'
I just found out I'm INFJ. It's amazing how this can change your whole direction in life. I have a website www.lifestylesensei.com that I really need to sort out and finish, this definitely motivates me. Thanks again. Ebook, app idea too half done 🤷🏻♂️👌🏼😉
Hey. I'm a stranger to this world of personality types and stuff. But it's amazing how others' words resonate much to me. You can talk btw! you are good. Thanks for opining up and sharing what already in my (our) mind
Good morning Wenzes! I was just watching your videos. And I thought, have you talked abour the infj "Door Slam" yet? I started seaching your page then I saw your message, so I just decided to ask you directly.
Hi Ronnie...yeah, I have talked about the doorslam quite often...just look for the older videos on the topic of 'boundaries' and being assertive...there the topic is more present.
I've watched some of your videos ( and Of couuuuuuuuuuuurse I am also planning to watch the rest :D ) and they are very very helpful...but the energy you give off in this video..how you're talking with your whole body ( I don't know if I expressed my point well :p) but I mean how you're soo into what you are saying..how much you believe in what you are saying..and how much your sincerety is apparent ..and how much you want us (INFJs) to stand up for ourselves ..is just powerful..and beautiful...and makes-me-feel-motivated-and-good .. (so many ands X'D ) I hope you got my point :3 Until now, among the videos I've watched..I think this one is my favorite :D
I'm watching your videos from the beginning. This is my favorite so far.its very inspiring. But I hate your first video I could tell you weren't in a good place.i hated seeing you like that!
I am glad you can tell :) I have some viewers who just don't seam to see the difference...but it was important to start and in a way it's good that it's documented...that way the transformation is documented as well :)
@@Wenzes my favourite thing about your channel actually! I can see where you started and your whole journey and that reminds me I can do it too. So thank you for keeping all the videos up🙏♥️
Hi I'm an infj and just wanted to say thank you so much for this life lesson. I'm 15 and I've been feeling like I have to be this person who waits for people to recognize her by being quiet and shying away from my true self. I guess I started feeling this way after seeing how people including my mom and grandma treat my enfj friend. I always get compared to her and she was born as an ophan of sorts and they always shove it in my face how she does everything right. I felt like I was supposed to be the sidekick and not even have my own story in my life. my parents always compared me to any friends I had, cousins, or kids and teens on the news. I just stopped expressing myself and clammed up to make harmony around everyone and my friend because I was scared of more judgement from my family. I eventually stayed in the shadows behind my friend to keep everyone happy. I thank you for teaching me that I shouldn't feel like a bad child for actually wanting to do something for my life. I want to try to wake myself up from this sleep and take a chance to embrace what I want to do for my life and be who I always envisioned. thank you and please wish me luck!
Hey :) of course I wish you luck! And being that far mentally at 15 already is a huge thing. My father also always compared me to others...so I know how hurtful and frustrating that can be. Try not to take it personal...don't allow it, tell them that this is making you angry but don't do anything for their approval..they will accept you for who you are once you really don't tolerate anything else. I hope we stay connected you keep me updated! All the best to you, I am sure you will make your life a great adventure.
Hi I'm an infj and just wanted to say thank you so much for this life lesson. I'm 15 and I've been feeling like I have to be this person who waits for people to recognize her by being quiet and shying away from my true self. I guess I started feeling this way after seeing how people including my mom and grandma treat my enfj friend. I always get compared to her and she was born as an ophan of sorts and they always shove it in my face how she does everything right. I felt like I was supposed to be the sidekick and not even have my own story in my life. my parents always compared me to any friends I had, cousins, or kids and teens on the news. I just stopped expressing myself and clammed up to make harmony around everyone and my friend because I was scared of more judgement from my family. I eventually stayed in the shadows behind my friend to keep everyone happy. I thank you for teaching me that I shouldn't feel like a bad child for actually wanting to do something for my life. I want to try to wake myself up from this sleep and take a chance to embrace what I want to do for my life and be who I always envisioned. thank you and please wish me luck!
Fellow INFJ here! You're amazing and beautiful, inside and out. Your fire and determination really shines throughout this video, and your voice has been an echo of my own reverberations in my soul. I hope you're doing well, and stay affixed to what you know is right in your heart!
You are excellent at analysis. I am an INFJ but only 1% F. I do focus on others too much and there are things i want to do in the world but do not act on it and procrastinate. I have a lot of ideas and dreams that never happen because i focus on relationships instead of myself and my dreams. We are always there for other people, but nobody is there for us because we don't ask for help and we do feel lost a lot of the time. CONTENT WITH NO POSITIVE EMOTIONS - That is exactly what my problem is and being addicted to success and accomplishment for recognition, instead of living an epic life, which is what INFJs are made to do.
WOW!!! three years and 9 months ago I was in rehab in Thailand....literally soul dead....i´m so glad I found your channel as I feel it´ll solidify my journey back to myself...I never knew about being INFJ until about 4 months ago...understanding more will help me reach the goal that I am actually touching....just needs a bit of luck and i´ll make it...wonderful..thank you
So happy my videos are helping you on your yourney Anthony 👍👍 keep pushing 💪 life can be wonderful ❤️
You're on fire here and it's very empowering. Thanks for bringin' it and challenging us all to do the same! ❤
One of my pep talks today! I needed this reminder!!!!!!! I can not convey what this messsge has done for me today. Thank you Wenzes for sharing your truth.
thanks for your feedback Brittany :) much appreciated and glad the video was helpful 😊
I'm reviewing this video. It was easy for me to identify with your attitude and passion for making an impact for good in this wor:ld. I feel this way about my teaching. I'm certified 1st through 6th grade bilingual (Spanish and English) and for health reasons and also that I'm not 21 anymore, I have been doing substitute teaching, going to any place I'm needed, and I love it. I know that I've helped many young lives. Good feeling'.
I was able to identify with your enthusiasm about finding your life purpose. You're very much into what you're doing and it shows.
One of the best videos i’v ever watched in my life and I actually am with tears right now.. Wenz I’m so so proud of you!!
glad it inspired you! ❤ You have the power to take full control of your life as well
Wenzes: absolutely Wenz! I’v had to go back and listen to your older vids as they are extremely potent💥
Great video, thank you. It's so true, it is difficult to keep our focus on ourselves! I think because we sponge others feelings and have continuous awareness of how to help others, we neglect ourselves very easily. I experience it as 'losing myself' and forgetting my own goals and intentions. I have begun sticking to a daily routine whereby I try to include certain simple things in my day that remind me of what I'm trying to achieve. I'm still learning how not to ditch my routine at the drop of a hat from having being used to making myself freely available to people in the past. I'll get there! Also just think, we could be benefitting from giving ourselves all that love we have to give from attending to 'self' first.
You're amazing and inspiring! I's been such a spiritual and financial struggle as an INFJ. I pu everyone else prior to myself and worry too much about society's view of me so I think "am I making the right decision, will anyone accept and embrace my brilliant enterpernuer ideas?" I write all my thoughts and ideas then feel crazy to share them with anyone in fear of being judged.
+Michelle Mascarenhas The first step is that you recognize that you are supressing a part of yourself, which you already do...at some point you will just have to 'do it' and not care about feedback but do it because you know it is the right thing to do!
You're right! I wasn't created to hold back my giftd. Thank you for your encouragement and wise words! 😁💕
needed this - thank you for posting this!
From one mentally intense & powerful person to another - thank you, thank you thank you!!!
Thanks so much for your feedback Morgan :) much appreciated
I re watched this after a week.....and will listen every morning .....its truly inspiring and conveys the energy I want to exist in....thanks again
That makes me very happy 😊 thank you for telling me ☺️
Its the least I can do ...after all the lift i just received has confirmed that even though life´s been a struggle recently because I enabled a certain person to energetically vamp me.
❤️
Thank you for your amazing video. You are an inspiration for me. The problem with me is that i usually feel powerless to pursue my dreams. I feel i am powerless to control anything happening in my life and the fact that many people don't like me really gets to me. My social skills are bad. I guess I feel a little bit depressed right now. I don't know.
Don't worry, i was so depressed the last year and if you watch some of my earlier videos you see how much stronger I seem now...just because I accepted myself. I realized what I want and that I have to fight people who come my way, no matter if you understand them or not. Somebody thinks that they are better than you? Then show them that you are strong enough to stand alone...as long as you can be yourself. You have no idea what kind of rejection I have experienced in the past. People completely pretending I didn't exist. Whoever puts you down for being yourself is below you and it is time you show them that. In honor of your comment I will create the next video on: finding our power. You are with us now! So forget the rest.
Wow! Thank you so much! I really needed this video at this time in my life. You are doing wonderful, amazing work! I think INFJ's (and maybe other NF"s too) really need to unite for support. There should be INFJ conventions and associations in geographic areas for example. Historically, we were the wise women or wise men, but modern society does not value us as they should, and rather waiting for validation and being fearful, we should go out there and inspire others, exactly as you said. There are a lot of days when I dream of living in an NF utopia, but since that doesn't exist, we need to simple be strong and powerful in the world we live in. Thank you again for the inspiration!
thanky you for your feedback Corrine :)!
The first video I've seen of you that I could truly and completely connect with. (most are a bit on the technical side I've found). Thank you for making this (and others). You're really inspiring.
Hi Wenzes,
Thank you so much for how much of yourself you put into your videos! They have been motivating and inspiring me so much. I feel that I'm starting a new chapter in my life and you've helped me to get a better perspective on how I usually think and act as an INFJ. Thank you!
Thank you so much for your feedback Ali..it truely means alot to me...
This helps TONS! THANK YOU. I feel inspired, I can vibe off your energy.
Thank you very much for your response. You are so kind. It feels amazing to be understood. Thank you. You gave me hope.
The passion! its so evident. Undeniable INFJ truth. Thank you.
thanks :)
Right on point! I remember the exact moment I realized this. Thanks for the videos!
my dream is to be the best free flowing artist i can..every piece i do comes from my heart and i never had any training..as I did not want to be corrupted....the little photo on the left is called ´Desert of Wildflowers¨....its as big as my vision...!!!
👏👏👏 love it
wow. Thanks so much. I really needed this.
Thanks for the feedback Tonna :) much appreciated
Hello there. that was a powerful video! I could feel you throughout the video because that's exactly the transformation I'm going through right now. I have known all along that the way I'm living is not how I wanted to but I've always suppressed my dreams convincing myself that they unworthy and unrealistic. basically the fear of losing face by doing something dumb and stupid is what stopped me. But now at age 21, I realise it JUST DOESN'T MATTER. I guess we all come to that realisation sooner or later.
Also, what you said about power, I have been breathing that thought for quite some while now- a relationship has people and that includes Me, and is made successful by the exchange of power between them. you don't Have power,you don't Give power to the r'ship. :)
I'm happy to know there's people out there like you who share their stories so people like me (suckers for validation, lol) feel like we are humans too and it's okay to be us :)
Btw, I am an INFP.
Also, it felt great to see you smiling and excited because it doesn't usually show in your other videos :D
Thanks Ankita for the feedback!
infp inspired
you are so right about the story thing. Great advice Im gonna watch your other vids now...THANKS
Beautiful! Thank you!
I love this so much. And i think being a INFJ ive had this exact same thought about how i tend to other people befofe myself. im sure we all KNOW what we are doing, its just a matter of when we decide to start the walk down our own road.
Exactly! Thanks so much for your feedback LeRoy! Much appreciated
Hey, thanks for all of your videos. I don't know who you are but I love you. You should be in TED Talk or something like that.
thank you so much Anisha...I hope to do a TED talk one day :)
You are SO vibrant in this video ! I can totally relate to not having boundarries,not feeling good enough, putting people needsabovemy own needs etc But this is gonna change, like you say I want to 'fight the fight.'
Thanks so much!!! We have to motivate each other to keep going :)
Great vid Wenzes, I think every INFJ will benefit from this 👌🏼 thanks gorgeous. Best of luck.
Thanks Martin 😊👍 much appreciated
I just found out I'm INFJ. It's amazing how this can change your whole direction in life. I have a website www.lifestylesensei.com that I really need to sort out and finish, this definitely motivates me. Thanks again. Ebook, app idea too half done 🤷🏻♂️👌🏼😉
I love you. Thank you so much for your videos! How do we go about being stronger in ourselves?
Thanks Crystina :) I think pretty much 85% of my videos are about being being a stronger version of ourselves, just look around the channel.
Keep pushing!
"My life matters!"
Hey. I'm a stranger to this world of personality types and stuff. But it's amazing how others' words resonate much to me. You can talk btw! you are good. Thanks for opining up and sharing what already in my (our) mind
Great video! A very inspiring message.
thank you :)
Good morning Wenzes! I was just watching your videos. And I thought, have you talked abour the infj "Door Slam" yet? I started seaching your page then I saw your message, so I just decided to ask you directly.
Hi Ronnie...yeah, I have talked about the doorslam quite often...just look for the older videos on the topic of 'boundaries' and being assertive...there the topic is more present.
Great! Thank you for sharing :))
I've watched some of your videos ( and Of couuuuuuuuuuuurse I am also planning to watch the rest :D ) and they are very very helpful...but the energy you give off in this video..how you're talking with your whole body ( I don't know if I expressed my point well :p) but I mean how you're soo into what you are saying..how much you believe in what you are saying..and how much your sincerety is apparent ..and how much you want us (INFJs) to stand up for ourselves ..is just powerful..and beautiful...and makes-me-feel-motivated-and-good ..
(so many ands X'D )
I hope you got my point :3
Until now, among the videos I've watched..I think this one is my favorite :D
thanks so much! Glad I am able to reach you! That is all I am hoping for, all the best, Wenzes
Wow it gave me so much motivation. Thanks a lot Wenzes. Much love for you😇😊💜💜🌈
thank you
This is so damn helpful.
+Nikolai Rogich Thank you for your feedback :)
Why can't you live in my head?
I love you :')
+Gary
INFJ:BelowtheRadar-AbovetheSystem
This is all very helpful, you're doing great work here! Thank you ^^
I'm watching your videos from the beginning. This is my favorite so far.its very inspiring. But I hate your first video I could tell you weren't in a good place.i hated seeing you like that!
I am glad you can tell :) I have some viewers who just don't seam to see the difference...but it was important to start and in a way it's good that it's documented...that way the transformation is documented as well :)
@@Wenzes my favourite thing about your channel actually! I can see where you started and your whole journey and that reminds me I can do it too.
So thank you for keeping all the videos up🙏♥️
Hi I'm an infj and just wanted to say thank you so much for this life lesson. I'm 15 and I've been feeling like I have to be this person who waits for people to recognize her by being quiet and shying away from my true self. I guess I started feeling this way after seeing how people including my mom and grandma treat my enfj friend. I always get compared to her and she was born as an ophan of sorts and they always shove it in my face how she does everything right. I felt like I was supposed to be the sidekick and not even have my own story in my life. my parents always compared me to any friends I had, cousins, or kids and teens on the news. I just stopped expressing myself and clammed up to make harmony around everyone and my friend because I was scared of more judgement from my family. I eventually stayed in the shadows behind my friend to keep everyone happy. I thank you for teaching me that I shouldn't feel like a bad child for actually wanting to do something for my life. I want to try to wake myself up from this sleep and take a chance to embrace what I want to do for my life and be who I always envisioned. thank you and please wish me luck!
Hey :) of course I wish you luck! And being that far mentally at 15 already is a huge thing. My father also always compared me to others...so I know how hurtful and frustrating that can be. Try not to take it personal...don't allow it, tell them that this is making you angry but don't do anything for their approval..they will accept you for who you are once you really don't tolerate anything else. I hope we stay connected you keep me updated! All the best to you, I am sure you will make your life a great adventure.