It's funny, I listen to Bill Burr's podcast every Monday and Thursday and I always end up thinking "Man, what a great fucking life this guy must have being such a great talker and being so funny. He's enjoying the hell out of his job, his wife is a perfect match for him, and he has millions of listeners all ready to listen to him." But then, whenever you get a glimpse of his life, of who he is, and how hard he worked to get where he is now, I get this immense feeling of inspiration. I can relate so much to Bill and I keep thinking "If he made it, I can make it too". Bill Burr is my fucking hero.
Survivorship bias, or survival bias, is the logical error of concentrating on the people or things that "survived" some process and inadvertently overlooking those that did not because of their lack of visibility.
You're a fucking idiot. He loves his wife, they're a great match. Dead dog? It was given away because they were having a baby. This is something most normal parents would do if their dog was a pit bull. Raising a child that isn't his? He doesn't put pictures up because he wants privacy. Bill has always been about privacy if you ever listened to him. His wife is a perfect match because she confronts him and can riff with him. Could you imagine Bill being with some YES woman? I couldn't because he'd be bored of her. His ADD loves the silly arguments they get into. It keeps him entertained.
Exactly my thoughts and I commented the same, then I saw you had already said it. Sending you positive vibes whoever and wherever you are. You will make it and so will I :)
He told this story on Paper Tiger. I think it’s a huge milestone for him to make this story one that he can laugh at now. One of his best specials imho.
chimp man right, but his point is that Bill has taken traumatic things from his life and is now able to laugh at them. John is pointing out the wholesomeness of the special
@@dashman8499 Oh I agree, just don't like that he changed the story. Like which way did it happen? How he told it here or in the special. It's not like Bill to be disingenuous
As soon as he started his story, I knew exactly where this was gonna go. The thing he didn't mention was how much it sucks when YOUR people, the people you choose to bring into your life, start to doubt YOU. Like that "what you talking about - your father is awesome" bit. That's the shit that hurts new as start to realize that people don't believe you. You get nervous because you don't want your people to fall into a trap, but you kind of wish they would see your father/mother as they actually were. After enough of this, you might even start to wonder if maybe you did kind of remember things worse than they were.
100% this type of situation happened with my last gf and was one of the reasons why shit didnt work out. My parents acted so different when I first introduced them. It was like damn I look like a hater or a spoiled brat or both. Anyways they have always trampled on my self esteem growin up and if i ever got upset I was being “defensive’, I was considered the dumb one always gettin into stupid shit and so being called defensive I allowed it and played along and laughed and kinda played the part. I was the court jester that no one really supported or believed in they used their support in times when i got into trouble as times of aiding me. But would never support me in something I wanted to do On a good day.
Its a lot about inteligence, the more inteligent you are, the deeper your insight is and you know that things not always wear as they realy are, my father was also my enemy through my life, mother was depresive and also kind of toxic, I felt unsave, uncomprehended, my whole childhood was stressfull, I have never trust in my parents, and it create a buble for rest of your life, how you gonna percieve world.
God fucking damnit. This guy kept me smiling and laughing my ass off for hundreds of hours, he the one person I listen to when I'm driving around feeling down and seeing him in this clip and the way his voice cracks breaks my damn heart. Love ya Bill...
When you are a father yourself, have enough experience and smart enough you will understand he did what was best for him. Bill even said that after he became a father himself he started to understand why his father acted like that, it wasn't out of anger or spite, but because of love. And considering Bill his dad sacrificed his relationship with him to make him a good person and man. That's the ultimate sacrifice a father can do and most people will never even understand it.
This can be seen as a duality; I think just as many good things it may have benefitted Bill for having his father treat him like that whilst raising him, it had an equal negative effect. You can say yeah it made me who I am today and maybe I'm even proud of who I am, but it also develops into negative deficiencies in a boy becoming a man. I understand the father may had made that sacrifice, (perhaps not even knowing it, but just by the nature of being himself) but Bill clearly has pain inside and again seems it could be a good thing in the end but never either a great nor bad, there is equal good and bad things that come of that kind of childhood. Not all people who saw the silver lining later in manhood and thanked their father for being a dick, not all take it and form it into success. It can be very detrimental or maybe (at least in Bills case) he was strong enough to overcome this detriment and fed into the good more than bad. But there is both. Kids shouldn't really have much of a choice because their mind isn't fully developed and prepared for adulthood, so as long as what you do is for the greater good, perhaps that's just the nature of things, to show them what it's like to be human and a man. It can't really benefit them till later anyways, when their mind is stronger. But, it can still cause a demise in people. Not communicating with your father later on is also bad in a way because it doesn't allow you to rectify anything or try to get closure and reconcile things. That in turn makes the difficulty even harder to adapt and make use of the good (the good that came of his father's actions) His father still made mistakes and perspective is just as relevant as to reasoning the logic behind being that type of father.
Everyone loves, not everyone makes a good dad. Demeaning a kid is no way to raise them. My own dad was the same way, depressed with his life but still loved the kids. He acted out, demeaned us, and the family had to walk on eggshells around him. As an adult now, I can empathize with his condition, but that doesn't mean he was a good dad.
I am a father and I don't think emotionally abusing my sons would yield positive results. I'm not adverse to discipline and being stern with your children. But calling them a faggot and buying them dolls as a cruel Christmas present isn't a catalyst for them being a better people other than knowing what not to do. It's a lot easier just teaching them respect by example.
Wow. How fucking brave was that. Most people cant even speak in front of a crowd, and here he is, sharing some of the most intimate secrets with us. Making us feel better about the dark little holes that we have in our own past. Its great to see that we can all be better than where we came from. It only takes one link to break the chain.
Its interesting. I just saw Arnold doc and he had awful home too and his brother died while drink driving. Arnold kept saying he just wanted away and got fixation on bodybuilding and getting to usa. Arnold had a drive too and is extremely successful. But what about his brother? How many people fail in life because abusive parents?
This makes me feel better about my dad. My father was just like this so it's comforting to be reminded that I'm not the only one who went through this.
Same here man, my father was abusive, controlling and unable to show love for the whole of my childhood. And a fucking cunt to my mother, who is also a piece of work. I tried to kill myself when i was 22, and it was broadly down to being abandoned and being told I was worthless since a young age. Funny thing is now I've forgiven him and we get on. Felt like the only way I could take control of the situation- he's actually an okay guy, but a terrible father. Stay strong, and believe in yourself- your past is not your present.
My Dad could be a prick at times and especially to me because I was the only boy from 4 kids. Sometimes he seemed to enjoy being cruel to the extend that like Bill's Dad in the story, it actually took a bit of thought and planning to come up with some of the shit he did too. And he was Irish too but the real McCoy and not generation Irish, so I got the full fat version.
I think he meant to go into much deeper detail when his voice cracks there but thought it was too difficult for the time and just gave a very abridged straight-to-the-point version of it.
MrDeadSea777 Hey man, I usually don't do this but I feel I got to tell you this. Don't hold on to that hate. Don't forget what they did and why you've removed them from your life, but don't let it hold you down. Hate sets us back. It clouds our minds. Clarity and prosperity, my friends.
My mom was more like Bills dad, she always cursed/yelled at me and tried to humiliate me every chance she got. She was cold and neglectful. Never cooked or showed motherly affection. She totally destroyed my self confidence and self worth because of her I was always desperate for female attention and affection and that is actually counter productive to being able to attract women.
Same here bro. I'm 30 yo now and still can't figure out how to get rid of all the nervousness, anxiety and lack of self confidence that he caused me when I was just a little boy. I feel like I don't hate him at all though, I know I'm old enough, so it's my responsibility now. it's just I wished I knew how to get rid of it
Imagine how twisted you'd have to be to do something like that. The dad presumably didn't tell the mom he was going to do that, so that means he went to a toy story on his own, and paid for the doll himself. He probably saw the doll, immediately thought of the contempt he had for Bill, and though "fuck it, this will teach him". Then wraps the gift, and addresses it specially to Bill. There is so much time for him to back out of it, but he didn't. He wanted Bill to know this is what he thought of him. It's pretty sick.
The pain he displays and turns it around to true comic genius! His real life and the genuinely awesome human being he’s become shows the true magic that therapy that becomes comedy results in!! Humanity at its Best!!
+juan ruiz I mean no disrespect to Bill, but i have alway had that mentality towards things that occur in life and nothing about that makes you a badass.
Bill is a great person, but that wasn't a 'badass' moment. When he said 'it is what it is', he didn't mean it in a 'I don't give a fuck' sort of way, but rather 'There's nothing I can do about it now'. It was a moment of him showing his vulnerability for once. Which he admitted is a very difficult thing for him to do.
Fucking sad story. This is how a father can Fuck up his children. It's interesting how Bill understands how bad his parent behavior influenced Him in a negative way.
My heart breaks because how this lives inside you forever ... the embarrassment having to relive it in front of a crowd of people. But wanting to let it go... heart goes out to all the kids like bill and like me who grew up with a dysfunctional fucked up family
I have a same(probably worse) father. Thing about abusive people like Bill's and my father is they HAVE NO IDEA what kind of permanent damage they did to their kids. Granted, if you survive that type of environment, it makes you mentally tough as shit(and fucked up as well). It makes you functional psycho. He is one hilarious, kind hearted but struggled to show it, gifted, high functioning psychotic comic. Much respect Mr. Burr.
Just randomly clicked on this vid hoping for a good chuckle but I did not expect to be in tears by the end. Holy shit Bill’s story just brought up some deeply buried traumas I still have from my dad. I’m so happy that Bill’s come a long way since then and now he’s got a wife and 2 kids. He’s gonna be the father he never had.
Wow. This was really deep. I felt like I saw Bill transform into his younger self as he recalled those memories. Now I'm beginning to think that Bill is using F is for Family to try and deal with some of those painful memories. Turn something painful into something good. Deal with it somehow - I came from a very dysfunctional family .. My mom was Bills dad. I think having one parent can be hard, but as a child the parent of your same gender basically tormenting you in a way is extremely damaging and quite a mind fuck. He doesn't seem like he has issues with men and I think he has his brothers and Boston background to thank for that. Anyway.. I hope in the future Bill opens up more because it makes people like me and others feel like there is hope to be a functioning adult despite being partially damaged. You can be funny, admirable, tender, successful, etc. Thanks bill-
My dad has always been one of those super angry guys as well. He never did anything that was intentionally cruel, and for the most part he's always been a pretty nice guy, we would go camping together and go on walks and we bonded over mutual interests a lot. But his extremely short temper really made him difficult to like a lot of the time. Similarly to what Bill said about his dad, if he was trying to teach me something, even when I was a little kid it would only take like one or two failed attempts on my part before he really started to freak out and raise his voice, usually until the point that I cried and he stormed off. He would also have insane freak outs infront of my friends too, I lost count of the amount of times where he went completely crazy at me for a ridiculously minor thing infront of my friends. I remember one time myself, my dad, and two of my friends were going camping and about 10 minutes into the drive I thought I'd forgot my waterproof boots and when I told him he immediately pulled over and looked back at me as I sat in the back with my two friends and he just started shouting at the top of his voice to the point where spit was flying out of his mouth and he was red in the face, this went on for about a minute straight and I could just see my friends looking so shocked afterwards as we sat in silence. What made it even worse was when we got back to the house to get the boots I realised I had them all along hahaha. Ultimately though, when he isn't angry he's great guy, kind, polite, thoughtful and funny. I can tell that his short temper is nothing but a source of embarrassment for him and if he could change it he would so I try not to hold it against him or resent him for it.
That is a very healthy way to look at it. My dad is still alive. I can't let it go yet. I wish I could. I would be a much happier person. But I cannot.
@@scottanderson7793 I hear ya. Not talking to my Dad. When I try he always reminds me why I didn't try in the first place. What a fucked up generation.
I relate to your story, Kaliben. It was weird - my dad was always there for the family, he was a good provider, and he could be fun, but his childhood was really abusive and when he gets upset he just hits the roof and starts screaming. He’s 76 now and he’s slowed down a lot. About ten years ago we had a terrible fight and I didn’t talk to him for almost a year. After that we never really had a fight again and we’re much closer now. Hope that you and your dad can find some place together in this life, sounds like you have compassion for him.
Many of us can relate. Especially having a father that GREW up in the Soviet Union his whole life. He wouldn't and still doesn't let anyone have their breath in the house. Always angry. Narcissistic as Hell and treats my mother like a psychological experiment to ignore, not eat when she makes him food and he's mad about something or other shit. Beat me till I started high school. Hasn't touched anyone physically since-- but he now plays psychological games. Don't get me wrong. I love my old man more than anything. I'd take a bullet for him. He just got his MS diagnosis. Poor guy is losing his touch. I just hope he finds his way. I also hope all of my brothers and sisters, especially my mother can forgive him. Now. All I do is read Bukowski books, Ham on Rye (more relating content) and swear to my future wife and children that I would NEVER put them through a house hold like that. Thank you for reading.
ALL CAPS Me and alot of other young men can relate to your story, know that you matter and I hope you find peace in your future and with your loved ones
I decided not to talk to my father again. Being belittled, harshly judged and always blamed for everything doesn't work for me anymore. Some people should just not have kids. Bill's story makes me feel my choice makes sense!
This kind of thing is why he’s the father he is today in a good way. He took the shit and said “I’m not doing that to my kids.” When people don’t recognize it, they end up mirroring their parents. His modern version of the doll story is funny because he got over that shit.
I just realized what a brilliant, not just comedian, he's a storyteller. Because men/women arguments are SOOOOOO passe, but he's so fucking funny and such a good storyteller, he makes it work beautifully.
I love his vulnerability. I hope he can reconnect with his father because he seems like he's just a broken man. His father acting all cordial when the girlfriend came by is his way of showing he loved his son, as messed up as that is. At the end of the day, he cared enough to make the effort. But this made me want to give Bill a big hug. Yes his difficult childhood is not ideal and there is no justification for his dad taking his aggression out on his family but I honestly believe that pain made him the honest comedian he is today. Bill has a lot of empathy it seems, which is why his humour is so relatable.
When I watch this I think of my brother who took his life three years ago. My brother simply couldn't take it anymore because he was suffering from PTSD due to my brother who sexually abused not only him but myself when we were children. When he starts crying, I began to ball because Bill Burr is so damn honest and real here about his father. My real father was the same way growing up, especially towards my Mother. This is how some abusive people are sometimes, they will always act like a completely different person around others, but with you, you will see them for who they truly are. My father abused my Mom so badly and I'm so glad she got away from him in the end and he got arrested in the early 90's for SA. Only I miss my brother so much and I wish I could have told him that none of the abuse was his fault. RIP Peter Maturi
Bill is same age as my mom. She went hungry frequently as a child and had an equally horrible Dad. She turned it around bringing us 6 kids up and so has Bill with his kids. Love you Bill. Frequent podcast listener from the Black Country, UK
This was very powerful, he was sharing what probably was the most painful defining moment of his life, his disfunctional relationship with his father. It kindda annoys me some of the people giggling in the back expecting him to be funny like they just didnt get how privileged they were by having someone opening up about deep repressed feelings, cant be easy and takes a lot of courage. I hear you Bill, your surely a very entertaining guy, and an even more interesting person
i can relate to this, my whole childhood my father never spoke to me, unless he was yelling and screaming, and sometimes he dragged me around by my hair. and now that im in my twenties my mother told me he wants a better relationship with me, and it pisses me off, i dont need that fucking guilt. fucking asshole could have spoken to me in my childhood if he wanted to know his son.
I love that he got to terms to his dad because he tells the story about getting the doll for Christmas again on "Paper Tiger" and it's completely different.
I doubt he’d resolved that completely by then. I think a story like that is either very funny or very humiliating depending on what face you wanna wear when you tell it.
And the worst part is .. you live your life telling yourself to man the fuck up .. you push it down as deep as you can .. and you go through life with things like that in the back of ur head .. until someday something happens and brings back all those feelings .. and you feel the pressure of those shit again and u wanna release for someone u trust .. and bam .. they give u the look of stop exaggerating or we all went through this shit don't make a big deal of it .. that weighs on u more the stuff u were suppressing all ur life .. and u cant really blame the trusted person you shared this with and let u down .. how can they feel u if what u been through never occurred to them or to anybody they know .. this shit makes u feel lonely .. i envy bill on how he could talk about shit like that and be understood .. somehow
Daaaaaaaamb add militant Christianity and you got my family. Especially the thing about how they act when they meet other people. Bill seems like he's been a lot stronger about it, or less bitter. Or maybe he just keeps it down deep there somewhere better than me.
Makes me appreciate my dad more cuz he had more sense and patience, still had moments but when you get older you understand the humanity in parents and feel a little easier...Bill fucking Burr
My dad was exactly like bills dad.. we called him the maniac.. he was trying to argue with people on the street in McDonald’s, everywhere .. when he taught me to drive he just screamed louder and louder ..
I think there's a big pressure on the father's shoulders to raise boys. Not excusing Bill's dad but neither many of our dads had got the education to raise us.
One time my dad beat the shit out of us because I was sick and my mother asked him to take me to the doctor. He wouldn't even tell me not to do something he would just beat the shit out of me first time for things like using the lights or playing with a fucking ball. He always said that it's pointless to beat a child after they break something so you should beat them before they break something so they don't break it. One time a teacher told him I was been bullied in school and then he got mad and told me if he see me dead on the street he wouldn't pay for my grave, I was 11. He hit the only friend I had in my life because he saw me with him on the street and told him to never talk to me because I wasn't allowed to be out side the house that kid hated me after for the next 6 years we had to go to school together. He never bought me anything like toys or cloths even though he was making money off me. He is 85 years old (had me in his 60's) and still alive and the last time I talked with him he called me a slob because I complained about not having enough money to take care of my mother and little brother while going to collage.
Just so you know, you are not obligated to keep a relationship that's toxic in your life. It's the same reason I stopped talking to my father. It's freeing to know you choose who is and is not allowed to be in your life.
This reminds me of the time Bill was on Conan and Patrice O’Neal came up for the fundraiser for his girl after he died. Bill came close to breaking down and crying just like at 5.24 in this video where he had to stop and exposed how emotional he really is behind the angry guy perception he has that just fuels his anger. Makes you respect him and connect with him as a person rather than just some other “funny guy” comedian This is just a therapy session really. And I always come back and watch it every now and again.
I had exactly the same problem at home, the difference is that it was with my mother. And the same situation was repeated, when I took someone home, she became an angel. She was a demon with only family members
felt like he was talking about my father in the first part of The video. Word for word. I’m inspired by you bill, if you can make it, I can, and I will.
He told this story in Paper Tiger but he shortened it up so he wouldnt bring the audience down but this would’ve been perfect especially now that he’s more widely known
'Ol billy emotional scars ova there!
+johnny3400 oh jeeeeeeeeeeeesus
Haha
@@hypnos2794 scaaahs*
OH with the tears!
Nigel Low Big tears big tears
That logo takes me back to good times
Lol. I recognized that reference.
And give me a goddamn beer . Oh with the teaaaars
LMFAO!!!
It's funny, I listen to Bill Burr's podcast every Monday and Thursday and I always end up thinking "Man, what a great fucking life this guy must have being such a great talker and being so funny. He's enjoying the hell out of his job, his wife is a perfect match for him, and he has millions of listeners all ready to listen to him."
But then, whenever you get a glimpse of his life, of who he is, and how hard he worked to get where he is now, I get this immense feeling of inspiration. I can relate so much to Bill and I keep thinking "If he made it, I can make it too".
Bill Burr is my fucking hero.
Survivorship bias, or survival bias, is
the logical error of concentrating on the people or things that
"survived" some process and inadvertently overlooking those that did not
because of their lack of visibility.
"is wife is a perfect match for him" laughing-whores.jpg
You're a fucking idiot. He loves his wife, they're a great match. Dead dog? It was given away because they were having a baby. This is something most normal parents would do if their dog was a pit bull. Raising a child that isn't his? He doesn't put pictures up because he wants privacy. Bill has always been about privacy if you ever listened to him. His wife is a perfect match because she confronts him and can riff with him. Could you imagine Bill being with some YES woman? I couldn't because he'd be bored of her. His ADD loves the silly arguments they get into. It keeps him entertained.
Suck it out your ass
Exactly my thoughts and I commented the same, then I saw you had already said it. Sending you positive vibes whoever and wherever you are. You will make it and so will I :)
He told this story on Paper Tiger. I think it’s a huge milestone for him to make this story one that he can laugh at now. One of his best specials imho.
John Douglas LaBerge paper tiger is really great. Right when people say he’s softened up he just goes after everyone. Love Bill so much
But the story was different on paper tiger
chimp man right, but his point is that Bill has taken traumatic things from his life and is now able to laugh at them. John is pointing out the wholesomeness of the special
@@dashman8499 Oh I agree, just don't like that he changed the story. Like which way did it happen? How he told it here or in the special. It's not like Bill to be disingenuous
chimp man I mean comedians will always tweak things to make the audience laugh. That’s the point haha
As soon as he started his story, I knew exactly where this was gonna go. The thing he didn't mention was how much it sucks when YOUR people, the people you choose to bring into your life, start to doubt YOU. Like that "what you talking about - your father is awesome" bit. That's the shit that hurts new as start to realize that people don't believe you. You get nervous because you don't want your people to fall into a trap, but you kind of wish they would see your father/mother as they actually were. After enough of this, you might even start to wonder if maybe you did kind of remember things worse than they were.
Sooooo true
100% this type of situation happened with my last gf and was one of the reasons why shit didnt work out. My parents acted so different when I first introduced them. It was like damn I look like a hater or a spoiled brat or both. Anyways they have always trampled on my self esteem growin up and if i ever got upset I was being “defensive’, I was considered the dumb one always gettin into stupid shit and so being called defensive I allowed it and played along and laughed and kinda played the part. I was the court jester that no one really supported or believed in they used their support in times when i got into trouble as times of aiding me. But would never support me in something I wanted to do On a good day.
He has said that his parents were supportive of his career when he just started and the times he was struggling
Its a lot about inteligence, the more inteligent you are, the deeper your insight is and you know that things not always wear as they realy are, my father was also my enemy through my life, mother was depresive and also kind of toxic, I felt unsave, uncomprehended, my whole childhood was stressfull, I have never trust in my parents, and it create a buble for rest of your life, how you gonna percieve world.
That's the worse part for me.
God fucking damnit. This guy kept me smiling and laughing my ass off for hundreds of hours, he the one person I listen to when I'm driving around feeling down and seeing him in this clip and the way his voice cracks breaks my damn heart. Love ya Bill...
When you are a father yourself, have enough experience and smart enough you will understand he did what was best for him. Bill even said that after he became a father himself he started to understand why his father acted like that, it wasn't out of anger or spite, but because of love. And considering Bill his dad sacrificed his relationship with him to make him a good person and man. That's the ultimate sacrifice a father can do and most people will never even understand it.
This can be seen as a duality; I think just as many good things it may have benefitted Bill for having his father treat him like that whilst raising him, it had an equal negative effect. You can say yeah it made me who I am today and maybe I'm even proud of who I am, but it also develops into negative deficiencies in a boy becoming a man. I understand the father may had made that sacrifice, (perhaps not even knowing it, but just by the nature of being himself) but Bill clearly has pain inside and again seems it could be a good thing in the end but never either a great nor bad, there is equal good and bad things that come of that kind of childhood. Not all people who saw the silver lining later in manhood and thanked their father for being a dick, not all take it and form it into success. It can be very detrimental or maybe (at least in Bills case) he was strong enough to overcome this detriment and fed into the good more than bad. But there is both. Kids shouldn't really have much of a choice because their mind isn't fully developed and prepared for adulthood, so as long as what you do is for the greater good, perhaps that's just the nature of things, to show them what it's like to be human and a man. It can't really benefit them till later anyways, when their mind is stronger. But, it can still cause a demise in people. Not communicating with your father later on is also bad in a way because it doesn't allow you to rectify anything or try to get closure and reconcile things. That in turn makes the difficulty even harder to adapt and make use of the good (the good that came of his father's actions) His father still made mistakes and perspective is just as relevant as to reasoning the logic behind being that type of father.
Everyone loves, not everyone makes a good dad. Demeaning a kid is no way to raise them. My own dad was the same way, depressed with his life but still loved the kids. He acted out, demeaned us, and the family had to walk on eggshells around him. As an adult now, I can empathize with his condition, but that doesn't mean he was a good dad.
I am a father and I don't think emotionally abusing my sons would yield positive results. I'm not adverse to discipline and being stern with your children. But calling them a faggot and buying them dolls as a cruel Christmas present isn't a catalyst for them being a better people other than knowing what not to do. It's a lot easier just teaching them respect by example.
I can see all the themes in F is for Family in this one story
The scene with Frank talking to Kevin about his dad at the end of season 3 is definitely based on this
And Frank's dad is going to be in season 4, and it seems like dad has gone from a monster to a total sweetheart.
Wow. How fucking brave was that. Most people cant even speak in front of a crowd, and here he is, sharing some of the most intimate secrets with us. Making us feel better about the dark little holes that we have in our own past. Its great to see that we can all be better than where we came from. It only takes one link to break the chain.
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Bill used the pain of his childhood as fuel to become such an honest and brilliant comic. Great respect and love for this man.
Its interesting. I just saw Arnold doc and he had awful home too and his brother died while drink driving. Arnold kept saying he just wanted away and got fixation on bodybuilding and getting to usa. Arnold had a drive too and is extremely successful. But what about his brother? How many people fail in life because abusive parents?
Yet another show of why bill burr is my favorite comedian of all time.
This makes me feel better about my dad. My father was just like this so it's comforting to be reminded that I'm not the only one who went through this.
Bad Hombre same here
Yeah man this was tough to listen to
dude, this is literally me
Same here man, my father was abusive, controlling and unable to show love for the whole of my childhood. And a fucking cunt to my mother, who is also a piece of work. I tried to kill myself when i was 22, and it was broadly down to being abandoned and being told I was worthless since a young age. Funny thing is now I've forgiven him and we get on. Felt like the only way I could take control of the situation- he's actually an okay guy, but a terrible father. Stay strong, and believe in yourself- your past is not your present.
My Dad could be a prick at times and especially to me because I was the only boy from 4 kids. Sometimes he seemed to enjoy being cruel to the extend that like Bill's Dad in the story, it actually took a bit of thought and planning to come up with some of the shit he did too.
And he was Irish too but the real McCoy and not generation Irish, so I got the full fat version.
dude with the guitar looks like a hologram
two years later, but i'm pretty sure that's Seth Morris
Holy sh!t you're right!
@@Very_Okay THANK you. Couldn't think of his name!
I think he meant to go into much deeper detail when his voice cracks there but thought it was too difficult for the time and just gave a very abridged straight-to-the-point version of it.
yeah he seems a bit nervous
Can someone timestamps when that is for me? I missed it I think
I think they meant from 5:24 when he needed some time to compose himself.
This is single-handedly the most relatable piece of comedy that I have ever heard in my life.
I wouldn’t even call this comedy, it’s like a therapy session. It’s good to see him today doing much better.
Shit I really relate to this. My dad was the biggest asshole growing up. It killed my confidence as a kid and made me a nervous wreck.
MrDeadSea777 Hey man, I usually don't do this but I feel I got to tell you this.
Don't hold on to that hate. Don't forget what they did and why you've removed them from your life, but don't let it hold you down. Hate sets us back. It clouds our minds.
Clarity and prosperity, my friends.
My mom was more like Bills dad, she always cursed/yelled at me and tried to humiliate me every chance she got. She was cold and neglectful. Never cooked or showed motherly affection. She totally destroyed my self confidence and self worth because of her I was always desperate for female attention and affection and that is actually counter productive to being able to attract women.
Tyler: Thanks for that. I totally understand what you mean. That really hit home man thanks
My dad too. Finally cut both my parents off last year.
Same here bro. I'm 30 yo now and still can't figure out how to get rid of all the nervousness, anxiety and lack of self confidence that he caused me when I was just a little boy. I feel like I don't hate him at all though, I know I'm old enough, so it's my responsibility now. it's just I wished I knew how to get rid of it
Ole Billy Red Eyes telling a great story ova HEAAAHHHHHHH
+Afistnu LOL
Imagine how twisted you'd have to be to do something like that. The dad presumably didn't tell the mom he was going to do that, so that means he went to a toy story on his own, and paid for the doll himself. He probably saw the doll, immediately thought of the contempt he had for Bill, and though "fuck it, this will teach him". Then wraps the gift, and addresses it specially to Bill. There is so much time for him to back out of it, but he didn't. He wanted Bill to know this is what he thought of him. It's pretty sick.
Clips like this really show how F is for Family was a cathartic exercise for him.
the greatest comedians are the ones who suffer the most in Life. i was not expecting this when i clicked the video. this video came in the right time
That's a rough one, lemme tell ya
The pain he displays and turns it around to true comic genius! His real life and the genuinely awesome human being he’s become shows the true magic that therapy that becomes comedy results in!! Humanity at its Best!!
I always come back to this video and re watch it over and over. Its the last part that gets me “why the f couldn’t you be like this 20 years ago”
Wow The balls he had to say that I would tears up too bill
fuck. bill is a badass. 'i guess it is what it is"
+juan ruiz I mean no disrespect to Bill, but i have alway had that mentality towards things that occur in life and nothing about that makes you a badass.
mini beep im not gonna even try with that one...
Spruce Moose
you dont need to. they are allready dead :)
Bill is a great person, but that wasn't a 'badass' moment.
When he said 'it is what it is', he didn't mean it in a 'I don't give a fuck' sort of way, but rather 'There's nothing I can do about it now'.
It was a moment of him showing his vulnerability for once. Which he admitted is a very difficult thing for him to do.
sounded a bit like an aa meeting. but shows why he can win a crowd. people will always listen to him paint a story
He'll go down as one of the greatest if he hasn't already
dave chapelle has it forsure
This is one of those things where if you know bill's stuff, it comes as zero surprise, but goddamn does it still suck to hear.
Fucking sad story. This is how a father can Fuck up his children.
It's interesting how Bill understands how bad his parent behavior influenced Him in a negative way.
a minha admiraçao por esse cara acaba de aumentar.
Cool to see that side of him
+MegaFiveIron Charming.
+MegaFiveIron lol thanks!
Lil Billy Vulnerability
That camera trick that Bill mentions is ironically called a “Double-Dolly” shot
My heart breaks because how this lives inside you forever ... the embarrassment having to relive it in front of a crowd of people. But wanting to let it go... heart goes out to all the kids like bill and like me who grew up with a dysfunctional fucked up family
Its not embarrassment you loser..to you probably..
@Haley Campbell i grew up liie this. And no: embarrassment is the last thing on my mind here. Its called opening up and being vulnerable.
I have a same(probably worse) father. Thing about abusive people like Bill's and my father is they HAVE NO IDEA what kind of permanent damage they did to their kids. Granted, if you survive that type of environment, it makes you mentally tough as shit(and fucked up as well). It makes you functional psycho. He is one hilarious, kind hearted but struggled to show it, gifted, high functioning psychotic comic. Much respect Mr. Burr.
Well said. It’s like scar tissue in your mind. But yes it makes you incredibly mentally strong if you don’t repress the memories.
Just randomly clicked on this vid hoping for a good chuckle but I did not expect to be in tears by the end. Holy shit Bill’s story just brought up some deeply buried traumas I still have from my dad.
I’m so happy that Bill’s come a long way since then and now he’s got a wife and 2 kids. He’s gonna be the father he never had.
Wow. This was really deep. I felt like I saw Bill transform into his younger self as he recalled those memories. Now I'm beginning to think that Bill is using F is for Family to try and deal with some of those painful memories. Turn something painful into something good. Deal with it somehow -
I came from a very dysfunctional family .. My mom was Bills dad. I think having one parent can be hard, but as a child the parent of your same gender basically tormenting you in a way is extremely damaging and quite a mind fuck. He doesn't seem like he has issues with men and I think he has his brothers and Boston background to thank for that.
Anyway.. I hope in the future Bill opens up more because it makes people like me and others feel like there is hope to be a functioning adult despite being partially damaged. You can be funny, admirable, tender, successful, etc. Thanks bill-
I watched this without knowing it was Bill. Today i watched another podcast in which he talked about him styling his daughter's hair
This is fuckin sad. Seeing someone who never shows sadness actually sad is heartbreaking.
this (backs up from Mic) LAAADYYYYYY
Seeing Bill talk about this on Paper Tiger shows how much he's grown and developed emotionally since he first talked about it in this video.
I stopped by here to say the same thing. It was a nice easter egg for the older burr fans
@@mr.anderson8211 Indeed. I immediately came here after I heard it because I recognized that bit.
My dad has always been one of those super angry guys as well. He never did anything that was intentionally cruel, and for the most part he's always been a pretty nice guy, we would go camping together and go on walks and we bonded over mutual interests a lot. But his extremely short temper really made him difficult to like a lot of the time.
Similarly to what Bill said about his dad, if he was trying to teach me something, even when I was a little kid it would only take like one or two failed attempts on my part before he really started to freak out and raise his voice, usually until the point that I cried and he stormed off. He would also have insane freak outs infront of my friends too, I lost count of the amount of times where he went completely crazy at me for a ridiculously minor thing infront of my friends. I remember one time myself, my dad, and two of my friends were going camping and about 10 minutes into the drive I thought I'd forgot my waterproof boots and when I told him he immediately pulled over and looked back at me as I sat in the back with my two friends and he just started shouting at the top of his voice to the point where spit was flying out of his mouth and he was red in the face, this went on for about a minute straight and I could just see my friends looking so shocked afterwards as we sat in silence. What made it even worse was when we got back to the house to get the boots I realised I had them all along hahaha.
Ultimately though, when he isn't angry he's great guy, kind, polite, thoughtful and funny. I can tell that his short temper is nothing but a source of embarrassment for him and if he could change it he would so I try not to hold it against him or resent him for it.
That is a very healthy way to look at it. My dad is still alive. I can't let it go yet. I wish I could. I would be a much happier person. But I cannot.
@@scottanderson7793 I hear ya. Not talking to my Dad. When I try he always reminds me why I didn't try in the first place. What a fucked up generation.
I relate to your story, Kaliben. It was weird - my dad was always there for the family, he was a good provider, and he could be fun, but his childhood was really abusive and when he gets upset he just hits the roof and starts screaming. He’s 76 now and he’s slowed down a lot. About ten years ago we had a terrible fight and I didn’t talk to him for almost a year. After that we never really had a fight again and we’re much closer now. Hope that you and your dad can find some place together in this life, sounds like you have compassion for him.
Shut up dummy and get to the point
I've never seen him tell a story so calmly before.
This video still makes me fkn cry...
Being that real, open and honest on stage for a comedy act takes real balls. Bravo Bill Burr!
This shit never goes away.
Many of us can relate. Especially having a father that GREW up in the Soviet Union his whole life. He wouldn't and still doesn't let anyone have their breath in the house. Always angry. Narcissistic as Hell and treats my mother like a psychological experiment to ignore, not eat when she makes him food and he's mad about something or other shit. Beat me till I started high school. Hasn't touched anyone physically since-- but he now plays psychological games.
Don't get me wrong. I love my old man more than anything. I'd take a bullet for him. He just got his MS diagnosis. Poor guy is losing his touch. I just hope he finds his way. I also hope all of my brothers and sisters, especially my mother can forgive him.
Now. All I do is read Bukowski books, Ham on Rye (more relating content) and swear to my future wife and children that I would NEVER put them through a house hold like that.
Thank you for reading.
ALL CAPS Me and alot of other young men can relate to your story, know that you matter and I hope you find peace in your future and with your loved ones
This man is a REAL man. He is so honesty in a world of hypocrites and fakes! I respect him so much!
I decided not to talk to my father again. Being belittled, harshly judged and always blamed for everything doesn't work for me anymore. Some people should just not have kids. Bill's story makes me feel my choice makes sense!
Billy red nuts getting emotional. This is why we love him, he is real!! God bless you Bill
Bill, you'll never see this, but thank you.
This kind of thing is why he’s the father he is today in a good way. He took the shit and said “I’m not doing that to my kids.” When people don’t recognize it, they end up mirroring their parents. His modern version of the doll story is funny because he got over that shit.
I just realized what a brilliant, not just comedian, he's a storyteller. Because men/women arguments are SOOOOOO passe, but he's so fucking funny and such a good storyteller, he makes it work beautifully.
I love his vulnerability. I hope he can reconnect with his father because he seems like he's just a broken man. His father acting all cordial when the girlfriend came by is his way of showing he loved his son, as messed up as that is. At the end of the day, he cared enough to make the effort. But this made me want to give Bill a big hug. Yes his difficult childhood is not ideal and there is no justification for his dad taking his aggression out on his family but I honestly believe that pain made him the honest comedian he is today. Bill has a lot of empathy it seems, which is why his humour is so relatable.
My dad is like that , around other people hes the nicest , sincere guy I ever seen but when he’s at home dude is maniac lol
When I watch this I think of my brother who took his life three years ago. My brother simply couldn't take it anymore because he was suffering from PTSD due to my brother who sexually abused not only him but myself when we were children. When he starts crying, I began to ball because Bill Burr is so damn honest and real here about his father. My real father was the same way growing up, especially towards my Mother. This is how some abusive people are sometimes, they will always act like a completely different person around others, but with you, you will see them for who they truly are. My father abused my Mom so badly and I'm so glad she got away from him in the end and he got arrested in the early 90's for SA. Only I miss my brother so much and I wish I could have told him that none of the abuse was his fault. RIP Peter Maturi
Yep. Eddie Haskell syndrome. From LEAVE IT TO BEAVER. They have 2 selves. One for the public to see. One behind closed doors.
Bill is same age as my mom. She went hungry frequently as a child and had an equally horrible Dad. She turned it around bringing us 6 kids up and so has Bill with his kids. Love you Bill. Frequent podcast listener from the Black Country, UK
Que pesado cara, quase chorei aqui.
@👍👍Bill burr I absolutely love this guy, beautiful human being 🙏🙏
This was very powerful, he was sharing what probably was the most painful defining moment of his life, his disfunctional relationship with his father. It kindda annoys me some of the people giggling in the back expecting him to be funny like they just didnt get how privileged they were by having someone opening up about deep repressed feelings, cant be easy and takes a lot of courage. I hear you Bill, your surely a very entertaining guy, and an even more interesting person
i can relate to this, my whole childhood my father never spoke to me, unless he was yelling and screaming, and sometimes he dragged me around by my hair.
and now that im in my twenties my mother told me he wants a better relationship with me, and it pisses me off, i dont need that fucking guilt. fucking asshole could have spoken to me in my childhood if he wanted to know his son.
Krestian Kvart I agree. I got this with my eldest brother. Fuck em.
I love that he got to terms to his dad because he tells the story about getting the doll for Christmas again on "Paper Tiger" and it's completely different.
I doubt he’d resolved that completely by then. I think a story like that is either very funny or very humiliating depending on what face you wanna wear when you tell it.
And the worst part is .. you live your life telling yourself to man the fuck up .. you push it down as deep as you can .. and you go through life with things like that in the back of ur head .. until someday something happens and brings back all those feelings .. and you feel the pressure of those shit again and u wanna release for someone u trust .. and bam .. they give u the look of stop exaggerating or we all went through this shit don't make a big deal of it .. that weighs on u more the stuff u were suppressing all ur life .. and u cant really blame the trusted person you shared this with and let u down .. how can they feel u if what u been through never occurred to them or to anybody they know .. this shit makes u feel lonely .. i envy bill on how he could talk about shit like that and be understood .. somehow
This was literally my childhood man, its crazy.
This is a great video. I hope it never goes down.
this make me love Billy even more, wanna hug him so bad. Love youuuu Bill!!
I understand this. This really hits home with me. Your strong bill love ya man keep it pushing
Seeing ol' Bill getting emotional gets me every time
My dad was a bastard so much of the time. This hits home.
Way to go Bill Burr! I really like your comedy work. Sometimes life pain can make you really funny!
Daaaaaaaamb add militant Christianity and you got my family. Especially the thing about how they act when they meet other people. Bill seems like he's been a lot stronger about it, or less bitter. Or maybe he just keeps it down deep there somewhere better than me.
Peter DeWitt He unleashes his frustration through comedy.
Wow, reminds me of my dad somewhat.
Fuck this hits way close home
Porra, muito bom.
Mesmo não tendo piada nenhuma, já foi melhor que todo o show do Rafinha Bastos
Depois desse vídeo percebi que o Danilo Gentili é um babaca mesmo
Makes me appreciate my dad more cuz he had more sense and patience, still had moments but when you get older you understand the humanity in parents and feel a little easier...Bill fucking Burr
I'm telling ya, Bill's ol' man is fucking brudal!
even with a serious story he can make it funny
My dad was exactly like bills dad.. we called him the maniac.. he was trying to argue with people on the street in McDonald’s, everywhere .. when he taught me to drive he just screamed louder and louder ..
emocionante
Ele já era um bom contador de historias essa época
you're gonna be a great father billy boy!
Big tears, big tears
I think there's a big pressure on the father's shoulders to raise boys. Not excusing Bill's dad but neither many of our dads had got the education to raise us.
One time my dad beat the shit out of us because I was sick and my mother asked him to take me to the doctor. He wouldn't even tell me not to do something he would just beat the shit out of me first time for things like using the lights or playing with a fucking ball. He always said that it's pointless to beat a child after they break something so you should beat them before they break something so they don't break it.
One time a teacher told him I was been bullied in school and then he got mad and told me if he see me dead on the street he wouldn't pay for my grave, I was 11. He hit the only friend I had in my life because he saw me with him on the street and told him to never talk to me because I wasn't allowed to be out side the house that kid hated me after for the next 6 years we had to go to school together.
He never bought me anything like toys or cloths even though he was making money off me.
He is 85 years old (had me in his 60's) and still alive and the last time I talked with him he called me a slob because I complained about not having enough money to take care of my mother and little brother while going to collage.
lol
Hope you are doing better now..
Just so you know, you are not obligated to keep a relationship that's toxic in your life. It's the same reason I stopped talking to my father. It's freeing to know you choose who is and is not allowed to be in your life.
Should have put him in a coma at 18 dude, it will help
He probably knew you were gonna turn out to play League of Legends (I also play)
This reminds me of the time Bill was on Conan and Patrice O’Neal came up for the fundraiser for his girl after he died. Bill came close to breaking down and crying just like at 5.24 in this video where he had to stop and exposed how emotional he really is behind the angry guy perception he has that just fuels his anger.
Makes you respect him and connect with him as a person rather than just some other “funny guy” comedian
This is just a therapy session really. And I always come back and watch it every now and again.
This is the basis for F is for Family.
Right in the FEELS hrnnnnnng
I had exactly the same problem at home, the difference is that it was with my mother. And the same situation was repeated, when I took someone home, she became an angel. She was a demon with only family members
In a sarcastic way "awwwwwww"
felt like he was talking about my father in the first part of The video. Word for word. I’m inspired by you bill, if you can make it, I can, and I will.
It seems something changed. He talked way more positive about his dad around when "F is for Family" got out.
onpsxmember
Perhaps it was forgiveness
He became a father himself
He told this story in Paper Tiger but he shortened it up so he wouldnt bring the audience down but this would’ve been perfect especially now that he’s more widely known
This is more like a therapy.
His father is just like my mother
same
Both my parents hated me but my mother hated me more than any other person ive known
Eu achei que era um show de comédia, mais o Bill é foda
que triste :c acho que ele só queria desabafar mesmo
pois é
e me fez chorar
gets me every time
This is a great video , should give everyone the motivation that they can make it!
Lagrimas!
BIG TEARS, BIG TEARS!!! lmao 😂😂 luv ya ole' Billy long nutz.
A good emotional story. i like it :)
Damn! I love this guy!