Oh man... This mama who lost her little boy made me cry. I am the daughter born 8 months after her parents lost a toddler in a hard way. I thank God they kept putting one foot in front of the other for the rest of us. And I recognize that the loss made them different from what they were before. But their best was enough. Prayers for this young family to have peace after loss.
I know I know. Don’t read the comments. But I am amazed (though not surprised) at Dr Delony’s kindness and compassion and human capacity for connection. I hope he feels the positive energy in his life and with his family that he gives his audience.
My heart goes out to Ann and any mother going through this. I can always find helpful advice in any of Dr. John's videos. I am the ride-or-die for a close friend, who lives in a different state, and is going through a separation. His advice to ask that friend in need "have you eaten today?" is so helpful. Sometimes we don't want to continue to talk and talk about whatever the issue is. Just a simple text to make sure that person has eaten or is sleeping, goes a long way.
Ann my friend...close your eyes and feel my hug..i too lost a baby at 3 years old. It happened 23 1/2 years ago and it still hurts today. Be ok my friend, just be ok.
I feel the 2nd callers pain I lost a baby boy from SIDS. I found a group through the local hospital that have lost a child. It is so difficult to get thru. I couldn't even bring myself to put his clothes away for almost a year.
Being honest is hard enough in life and if you do open up to someone that you know will always always always condemn you instantly it's even harder to do
5:25 - John I think she was saying she is more sensitive to the addiction aspect of it, and through that job she has learned to be empathetic to people struggling with addictions, not that she reacts “sensitively” in a bad way, like that she freaks out or something lol.
Dr. John, I don't know what it was but when you were talking to Ray about yo-yo dieting and how your body's saying that you're not enough or you're not good enough. I literally had a break down in my work van because that's me to a tea and I don't know why. Thank you for doing you brother
Oh momma. 😢 my condolences to you and your family. I lost my pregnancy at 5 months. When inwent to my first ultrasound i was told my fetus had no heart beat anymore 😢. I couldn’t understand what happened. My plasenta was growing byt baby measured smaller meaning my baby had more beat for couple of weeks. I still cant wrap my head around that. I had nooo symptoms of miscarriage. Last dr appt heartbeat was strong doing well. Im still recovering from that pain of loosing my pregnancy. This was 1 yr ago. Im sobbing here listening to your story just wishing i can hug u and tell u ur not alone. Please stay strong for ur kids and new baby to come. Please try to stay in peace ur baby fetus can feel all your emotions. Stay strong mama. Xoxo to you
There is a phrase that could be used to help regain trust in your relationship: Trust, but verify. This is what you do on internationally to verify treaties. So can also be used to restore trust in your relationship. The trust is first, but you have to continue to verify that the person is not lying to you.
It is hard to give up your drugs for a relationship when you have an addictive relationship w/ it. AND also, if someone is a drug user before they meet you them quitting drugs for you will certainly not last a lifetime and probably not even that long at all.
I’m probably going to call when I get off work. I have major family issues and I could really use some advice. Child custody case and the mother is making it impossible and expensive for me to get access to my kids when she was the one who screwed up our family
Praying for you friend, im on the other side and it nearly bankrupt me but I got 5050 custody and thats all i cared about. A special place in hell for parents that use the kids as pawns.
Whatever you do … record everything you can in writing. Communicate via email and text and take photos of your communications. Text and emails are legal. Also, do not make an agreement in email or text unless you are certain because that is legal. I’m not an attorney… but I used to do paralegal work for family law attorney. And many attorneys will give you a free consultation. Many will also require a hefty retainer… just be prepared.
How did she not know her husband well enough to know he’s a pot head? Jeez. Like get to know your partner before you marry them! Now she’s stuck with a guy with big issues.
John should ask the question "Are you safe to be honest too" to more women. In my experience women teach men to lie. Every girlfriend I've had taught me to lie to her. I'm not even talking about things like cheating, or anything that's normally considered a deal breaker, but anytime I told her something she didn't like she'd withdraw her affection. That told me if I wanted her affection I had to keep things from her.
@@annaelisavettavonnedozza9607 I don’t see how it’s toxic. If anything the whole cycle is. He does things that she doesn’t like which makes her upset and thus withdrawing affection. Nobody wants to show affection when they’ve been led to feel disrespected, or hurt. Him hiding things from her instead of not doing the things that make her upset proves he’s lying and hiding things from her and they shouldn’t be together if there is no honesty.
Can a person who is 60 start over financially. I took care of my elderly parents. They both had COPD. My father died in 2020. I started to look for work in 2022 but got no call backs after the first interview. I gave myself a break in October 2022 and wondering if it is still worth looking for a job at my age and if it is too late.
If you want Dr. John to answer this, you need to call the number for the show. It's probably in the episode description. I also lost my dad in 2020 to COPD. I'm sorry you also went through that.
Wow Ann, my wife and I went through a similar NICU visit after a normal pregnancy and emergency c-section. There were tests outside of the normal range for my baby girl and we went through the craziest form of treatment i've ever heard of, "Therapeutic Hypothermia for Neonatal Hypoxic-ischemic Encephalopathy". Praise the Lord there is no long term affects, so I can't totally relate to your situation. I can't imagine the heartbreak you have gone through. I pray for your upcoming blessing!
If the second caller checks the comments, as a state employee you, you probably qualify for Public Student Loan Forgiveness, and could get credit toward forgiveness even if you haven't been on an income-driven repayment plan up to now. You need to apply for PSLF, get the maximum amount of qualifying payments toward your forgiveness, and that balance could be gone in not more than 10 years. And because you'd be on an income-driven repayment plan you wouldn't have to overpay beyond your means while you wait. I know the Ramsey team will never recommend this but it is a legitimate program that has forgiven so much debt for public service workers in the last year alone. Check it out and make your own decision.
@@summersalix I don't know anything but I can say where I am not is a reflection of what worked/ did not work from the past so as far as I can tell there is no such thing as a fresh start...
She is totally not able to see a difference between recreational use and drug abuse based on working with drug addicts in the past. Weed is super lame, but it's not worse than alcohol. Lying to a spouse is pretty bad, but this would be like a wife lying about giving up her junk food stash and gaining 40lbs after the altar. Mountains out of molehills.
@@jeradkiester698 Although I agree lying about giving up junk food and gaining weight is also bad that doesn't justify lying about smoking if they had an agreement. People are alwayssss saying smoking weed is no big deal but everyone I know who smokes it is addicted to where they are literally financially broke over it and losers in life. Not to mention if they don't have it they become angry people. I've never seen anyone financially broke over candy lmao but I do agree that's also really bad. Taking care of yourself is not just good for you but the people around you and lying is unacceptable
Oh man... This mama who lost her little boy made me cry. I am the daughter born 8 months after her parents lost a toddler in a hard way. I thank God they kept putting one foot in front of the other for the rest of us. And I recognize that the loss made them different from what they were before. But their best was enough. Prayers for this young family to have peace after loss.
Me too
I know I know. Don’t read the comments. But I am amazed (though not surprised) at Dr Delony’s kindness and compassion and human capacity for connection. I hope he feels the positive energy in his life and with his family that he gives his audience.
"Safe to be honest with," ...wow. what an enlightening statement
I was thinking the same thing. Great question to ask for a deeper level of self awareness!
My heart goes out to Ann and any mother going through this.
I can always find helpful advice in any of Dr. John's videos. I am the ride-or-die for a close friend, who lives in a different state, and is going through a separation. His advice to ask that friend in need "have you eaten today?" is so helpful. Sometimes we don't want to continue to talk and talk about whatever the issue is. Just a simple text to make sure that person has eaten or is sleeping, goes a long way.
Ann my friend...close your eyes and feel my hug..i too lost a baby at 3 years old. It happened 23 1/2 years ago and it still hurts today. Be ok my friend, just be ok.
Are you a safe person to be honest with? That is a great great question. More people need to ask themselves that question about themselves
I feel the 2nd callers pain
I lost a baby boy from SIDS. I found a group through the local hospital that have lost a child. It is so difficult to get thru. I couldn't even bring myself to put his clothes away for almost a year.
Once the trust is broken, it’s done. Your body will always be anxious. You never fully trust again.
Being honest is hard enough in life and if you do open up to someone that you know will always always always condemn you instantly it's even harder to do
5:25 - John I think she was saying she is more sensitive to the addiction aspect of it, and through that job she has learned to be empathetic to people struggling with addictions, not that she reacts “sensitively” in a bad way, like that she freaks out or something lol.
I needed to hear this episode when i did, thank you Dr. John.
Thank you for sharing this.
Dr. John, I don't know what it was but when you were talking to Ray about yo-yo dieting and how your body's saying that you're not enough or you're not good enough. I literally had a break down in my work van because that's me to a tea and I don't know why. Thank you for doing you brother
Oh momma. 😢 my condolences to you and your family. I lost my pregnancy at 5 months. When inwent to my first ultrasound i was told my fetus had no heart beat anymore 😢. I couldn’t understand what happened. My plasenta was growing byt baby measured smaller meaning my baby had more beat for couple of weeks. I still cant wrap my head around that. I had nooo symptoms of miscarriage. Last dr appt heartbeat was strong doing well. Im still recovering from that pain of loosing my pregnancy. This was 1 yr ago. Im sobbing here listening to your story just wishing i can hug u and tell u ur not alone. Please stay strong for ur kids and new baby to come. Please try to stay in peace ur baby fetus can feel all your emotions. Stay strong mama. Xoxo to you
There is a phrase that could be used to help regain trust in your relationship: Trust, but verify. This is what you do on internationally to verify treaties. So can also be used to restore trust in your relationship. The trust is first, but you have to continue to verify that the person is not lying to you.
It is hard to give up your drugs for a relationship when you have an addictive relationship w/ it. AND also, if someone is a drug user before they meet you them quitting drugs for you will certainly not last a lifetime and probably not even that long at all.
I’m probably going to call when I get off work. I have major family issues and I could really use some advice. Child custody case and the mother is making it impossible and expensive for me to get access to my kids when she was the one who screwed up our family
Praying for you friend, im on the other side and it nearly bankrupt me but I got 5050 custody and thats all i cared about. A special place in hell for parents that use the kids as pawns.
Whatever you do … record everything you can in writing. Communicate via email and text and take photos of your communications. Text and emails are legal. Also, do not make an agreement in email or text unless you are certain because that is legal. I’m not an attorney… but I used to do paralegal work for family law attorney. And many attorneys will give you a free consultation. Many will also require a hefty retainer… just be prepared.
The SIDS baby death hit so hard! God bless that mama. Lord, have mercy.
amen
How did she not know her husband well enough to know he’s a pot head? Jeez. Like get to know your partner before you marry them! Now she’s stuck with a guy with big issues.
If he goes to a doctor to talk about his weight they’re just going to give him the same BMI chart number he found on the internet.
John should ask the question "Are you safe to be honest too" to more women. In my experience women teach men to lie. Every girlfriend I've had taught me to lie to her. I'm not even talking about things like cheating, or anything that's normally considered a deal breaker, but anytime I told her something she didn't like she'd withdraw her affection. That told me if I wanted her affection I had to keep things from her.
That is so…incredibly…toxic. I’ve never heard of any woman I know doing that, & I’m sorry you experienced that
@@annaelisavettavonnedozza9607 I don’t see how it’s toxic. If anything the whole cycle is. He does things that she doesn’t like which makes her upset and thus withdrawing affection. Nobody wants to show affection when they’ve been led to feel disrespected, or hurt. Him hiding things from her instead of not doing the things that make her upset proves he’s lying and hiding things from her and they shouldn’t be together if there is no honesty.
Did it start with your girlfriends or did it start with your mother?
That’s craziness, I wouldn’t want to have a man like you who blames the lying on anyone else but himself.
@@Midnightblue19444 No worries, I would F you with someone else P.
You don't lose weight to get healthy, you get healthy to lose weight.
-Dr Berg
Can a person who is 60 start over financially. I took care of my elderly parents. They both had COPD. My father died in 2020. I started to look for work in 2022 but got no call backs after the first interview. I gave myself a break in October 2022 and wondering if it is still worth looking for a job at my age and if it is too late.
If you want Dr. John to answer this, you need to call the number for the show. It's probably in the episode description. I also lost my dad in 2020 to COPD. I'm sorry you also went through that.
It's never too late to start again
Bless you dr d ❤️
Wow Ann, my wife and I went through a similar NICU visit after a normal pregnancy and emergency c-section. There were tests outside of the normal range for my baby girl and we went through the craziest form of treatment i've ever heard of, "Therapeutic Hypothermia for Neonatal Hypoxic-ischemic Encephalopathy". Praise the Lord there is no long term affects, so I can't totally relate to your situation. I can't imagine the heartbreak you have gone through. I pray for your upcoming blessing!
Its horrible that they did that to dogs.
I was not prepared to hear that 😞😒😞
Yeah. Its so cruel.
If the second caller checks the comments, as a state employee you, you probably qualify for Public Student Loan Forgiveness, and could get credit toward forgiveness even if you haven't been on an income-driven repayment plan up to now. You need to apply for PSLF, get the maximum amount of qualifying payments toward your forgiveness, and that balance could be gone in not more than 10 years. And because you'd be on an income-driven repayment plan you wouldn't have to overpay beyond your means while you wait. I know the Ramsey team will never recommend this but it is a legitimate program that has forgiven so much debt for public service workers in the last year alone. Check it out and make your own decision.
Seconded! And commenting to boost; hopefully they see this 🙂
Is there a delony discount for the Lane Nortin app?
This marriage is over. This is not all he his hiding. When he decides to cheat, he wont tell you about that either.
Because he smoked weed? Lol
@@melissabrock4114 That's intelligent
@@elainenilsson5472 there's nothing wrong with smoking weed once in a while over the age of 25.
Let the husband have some bodily autonomy. Let him smoke or vape if he wants. I really wish we would get both sides to a story.
Carbon is a game changer. Stick to it, its magic.
What is the exact name of the app?
Oh noooo like omg pot is so scary
Ray needs to extend some grace to himself.
No the past is always going the effect the future!!!! There are very few do overs.....
The past isn’t even real bro. We can Free ourselves.
@@hopet201 I'd love to hear more about what u stated. Can u share more?
@@summersalix I don't know anything but I can say where I am not is a reflection of what worked/ did not work from the past so as far as I can tell there is no such thing as a fresh start...
Good god, let the guy smoke weed and stop trying to change him. Be grateful he isn't a boozer.
An entire fake episode lol
Yes it's me. Deniah, that's hilarious
There was a lot of product placement in this one lmao
Just let the man smoke smh
It's not about whether or not smoking is a morally right thing to do That's not the issue here The issue is they had an agreement not to
@@SandraStachowiczLtd that's a dumb ass agreement shouldn't have even been an issue in the first place
Some women just drive their men to drink or drugs, due to their incessant intolerability.
She is totally not able to see a difference between recreational use and drug abuse based on working with drug addicts in the past. Weed is super lame, but it's not worse than alcohol. Lying to a spouse is pretty bad, but this would be like a wife lying about giving up her junk food stash and gaining 40lbs after the altar. Mountains out of molehills.
@@jeradkiester698 Although I agree lying about giving up junk food and gaining weight is also bad that doesn't justify lying about smoking if they had an agreement. People are alwayssss saying smoking weed is no big deal but everyone I know who smokes it is addicted to where they are literally financially broke over it and losers in life. Not to mention if they don't have it they become angry people. I've never seen anyone financially broke over candy lmao but I do agree that's also really bad. Taking care of yourself is not just good for you but the people around you and lying is unacceptable