Thank you for the shoutout, but even more so thank you for talking about Twyla's channel! I hadn't seen her content, and I just watched her video. It was so great, and I appreciate being connected to more folks that I fully understand! And I found it so incredibly interesting when you talked about how you overshared most when you were in a state of dysregulation. As someone with high support needs, I wonder if that plays a part in oversharing. I am a total oversharer, so this gave me so much to think about for my own channel and life.
Aww, you're more than welcome, Holly! Your channel deserves *all the attention*, as does Twyla's. It's so interesting that you're an oversharer, as I had wondered if you'd describe yourself in this way as someone with higher support needs. I find it incredible how much we're all learning from each other. I'm just so, so thankful for this community 🧡🧡🧡
@@heedmydemands Agreed! I've learned so much from other TH-camrs and have felt really connected. Without the online community, I'm not sure what autistic people would do.
I tend to overshare a lot, probably due I think to my feeling of uncertainty when talking to someone. So I feel very anxious at that moment and I just start blurting out stuff. It can be annnoying sometimes. I now have a list of topics (or actually several lists) I really don't want to discuss and that kinda works most of the time.
I'd noticed the figurines on the shelves behind you in your videos, but had no idea you'd made all of those yourself! I must have missed it if you've talked about them in other videos on this channel! 6:09 I just went and checked out your Clay Disarray channel and your work is absolutely amazing! I got the problem solving, trouble shooting, fixing things,..., gift of Autism and I am in awe of people like you who have the talent and gift of creating such incredible art!
Aww, thanks so much, Paul! I'm on a little bit of a hiatus atm due to some health stuff but I hope to crack open some clay again in the new year (I'm really missing it!) 👍
This is a topic I've thought about a fair bit since discovering I have an Autistic/ADHD brain. On one hand I've always been quite reserved with what I share with people, but on the other find I often talk open and freely when I've just met someone and then later think to myself "why did I talk about myself to that person I don't even know"!?! I think the part of my brain that trusts everyone to be a good person is out there first and then the part of my brain that remembers not everyone is good and shouldn't know all about my life comes along a bit later.
Thank you for this video lizzie. You made a lot of really good points about what is appropriate for us to share with others. I think that I have had a tendency to overshare long before I knew that I was autistic possibly because of my low tolerance for small talk. Most people that I know really don't want to hear me talk about my autism. I feel that my thoughts and experiences are much more appreciated in the comment sections of autism related TH-cam videos like your own. I like your suggestions about sharing.
Autisti content creators were and still are an integral part of my journey of self discovery ; people like you sharing their experiences, thoughts, ideas, and working hard to advocate for us is so vital. A vital element for any Autist navigating their existence and life
Lots of interesting interconnected elements here i.e. boundaries, oversharing, and self-awareness (/-esteem, etc.) Perhaps late diagnosis provides us, finally, with the certainty that there is something RIGHT about us after all, which then affirms for us the sense that our boundaries DO matter - they feel more grounded and certain somehow - and the opinions of others therefore matter less because they're so often hopelessly mis-/un-informed about us as autistic people. At last we can now identify what exactly it is about ourselves that others can't/don't understand; and yet that paradox is welcome in that we, at least, know ourselves better even as it marks us as Officially Other to many. As for oversharing at odd moments, that's relatable: I've noticed I'm often most likely to overshare when overstimulated/disregulated; I think at those times I just find the self-management functions of boundary maintenance pointless - when the house is on fire one doesn't worry about the correct way to set the table for dinner! - I just don't care how "appropriate" I am with others when what I'm feeling/experiencing is itself an affront to my own equilibrium.
Sharing information seems to be a method many autistics use to connect to each other. As we normally despise small talk and see it as a waste of time, we tend to go straight for the direct connection by sharing, what we think is, relevant personal information. NT social rules dictate that one should be at a certain level of social closeness before that is acceptable. Personally, I reluctantly share personal information because I'm not sure of what's appropriate. I've had friends, after knowing me for years, say they don't know much about me or get a little upset when they share a personal detail with me and I don't respond with a detail about myself.
Thank you for this video and insight. I actually resonate a lot with the idea of oversharing when near meltdown or shut down or dysregulated would probably be a better way in general, I was wondering can you recommend the links for a different levels and or talk about the different levels as you understand them in a new video
also, random (im watching it chunk by chunk throughout my day) I see all your little characters in the background and I always see you wearing stripes with your pigtails! Makes me wonder, do you put a lot of thought into your "character" in that way? Like a specific image you like to portray? I do this, but mine is constantly changing, it seems! But my brain LOVES to see consistency like this c': lol your thumbnails always look so clean! Great work! Just a funny little add-on I'd like to share since I've been pondering since discovering your channel a couple months ago
Thank you lizzie. I think that we need to have more acceptance and awareness of autism and keep making that happens. Thank you
Another interesting topic lizzie and I think you have a very sensible approach to what you share on your channel
Thank you - I may become a little more flexible in what I share as time goes on, but I'd much rather very slowly ease my way in 👍
Thank you for the shoutout, but even more so thank you for talking about Twyla's channel! I hadn't seen her content, and I just watched her video. It was so great, and I appreciate being connected to more folks that I fully understand! And I found it so incredibly interesting when you talked about how you overshared most when you were in a state of dysregulation. As someone with high support needs, I wonder if that plays a part in oversharing. I am a total oversharer, so this gave me so much to think about for my own channel and life.
Aww, you're more than welcome, Holly! Your channel deserves *all the attention*, as does Twyla's. It's so interesting that you're an oversharer, as I had wondered if you'd describe yourself in this way as someone with higher support needs.
I find it incredible how much we're all learning from each other. I'm just so, so thankful for this community 🧡🧡🧡
The more the merrier or maybe moreso the more knowledge and understanding we can all have
@@heedmydemands Agreed! I've learned so much from other TH-camrs and have felt really connected. Without the online community, I'm not sure what autistic people would do.
@@hollyoddly yes same here, I feel a lot more understood from even just watching videos of other autists
I tend to overshare a lot, probably due I think to my feeling of uncertainty when talking to someone. So I feel very anxious at that moment and I just start blurting out stuff. It can be annnoying sometimes. I now have a list of topics (or actually several lists) I really don't want to discuss and that kinda works most of the time.
I'd noticed the figurines on the shelves behind you in your videos, but had no idea you'd made all of those yourself! I must have missed it if you've talked about them in other videos on this channel! 6:09 I just went and checked out your Clay Disarray channel and your work is absolutely amazing! I got the problem solving, trouble shooting, fixing things,..., gift of Autism and I am in awe of people like you who have the talent and gift of creating such incredible art!
Aww, thanks so much, Paul! I'm on a little bit of a hiatus atm due to some health stuff but I hope to crack open some clay again in the new year (I'm really missing it!) 👍
This is a topic I've thought about a fair bit since discovering I have an Autistic/ADHD brain. On one hand I've always been quite reserved with what I share with people, but on the other find I often talk open and freely when I've just met someone and then later think to myself "why did I talk about myself to that person I don't even know"!?! I think the part of my brain that trusts everyone to be a good person is out there first and then the part of my brain that remembers not everyone is good and shouldn't know all about my life comes along a bit later.
Thanks for sharing, Paul - I think many of us will relate to this 👍
Thank you for this video lizzie. You made a lot of really good points about what is appropriate for us to share with others. I think that I have had a tendency to overshare long before I knew that I was autistic possibly because of my low tolerance for small talk. Most people that I know really don't want to hear me talk about my autism. I feel that my thoughts and experiences are much more appreciated in the comment sections of autism related TH-cam videos like your own. I like your suggestions about sharing.
Do you struggle with oversharing? 🧡
Yes. As a matter of fact, it's actually two extremes for me: I either under-share/don't say enough, or overshare/over-explain etc.
yes and i think its anxiety. I start talking. No telling whats coming out...oh wow! 😳
@freshasflowers yes, it can be a tricky balance for sure!
@DeniseODaniels I think anxiety has a big part to play 🧡
I always overshare and talk too much but lately I’ve been more conscious of it and try to control myself which I’m succeeding at.
Autisti content creators were and still are an integral part of my journey of self discovery ; people like you sharing their experiences, thoughts, ideas, and working hard to advocate for us is so vital. A vital element for any Autist navigating their existence and life
Lots of interesting interconnected elements here i.e. boundaries, oversharing, and self-awareness (/-esteem, etc.)
Perhaps late diagnosis provides us, finally, with the certainty that there is something RIGHT about us after all, which then affirms for us the sense that our boundaries DO matter - they feel more grounded and certain somehow - and the opinions of others therefore matter less because they're so often hopelessly mis-/un-informed about us as autistic people.
At last we can now identify what exactly it is about ourselves that others can't/don't understand; and yet that paradox is welcome in that we, at least, know ourselves better even as it marks us as Officially Other to many.
As for oversharing at odd moments, that's relatable: I've noticed I'm often most likely to overshare when overstimulated/disregulated; I think at those times I just find the self-management functions of boundary maintenance pointless - when the house is on fire one doesn't worry about the correct way to set the table for dinner! - I just don't care how "appropriate" I am with others when what I'm feeling/experiencing is itself an affront to my own equilibrium.
Great video and thanks for those video suggestions, those 2 creators r so cool
Sharing information seems to be a method many autistics use to connect to each other. As we normally despise small talk and see it as a waste of time, we tend to go straight for the direct connection by sharing, what we think is, relevant personal information. NT social rules dictate that one should be at a certain level of social closeness before that is acceptable. Personally, I reluctantly share personal information because I'm not sure of what's appropriate. I've had friends, after knowing me for years, say they don't know much about me or get a little upset when they share a personal detail with me and I don't respond with a detail about myself.
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Thank you for this video and insight. I actually resonate a lot with the idea of oversharing when near meltdown or shut down or dysregulated would probably be a better way in general, I was wondering can you recommend the links for a different levels and or talk about the different levels as you understand them in a new video
I appreciate the mention!! 🖤 and how appropriate 🫠 chronic over-sharer here! Can’t wait to watch this later c’:
also, random (im watching it chunk by chunk throughout my day) I see all your little characters in the background and I always see you wearing stripes with your pigtails! Makes me wonder, do you put a lot of thought into your "character" in that way? Like a specific image you like to portray? I do this, but mine is constantly changing, it seems! But my brain LOVES to see consistency like this c': lol your thumbnails always look so clean! Great work! Just a funny little add-on I'd like to share since I've been pondering since discovering your channel a couple months ago
"I got wood" IM DEAD you must've been using a bloody magnifying glass! TALENT! you rock, lady