This is about him thinking he does not deserve his current gf & still being traumatised by the damage his ex did to him. I agree with James, that he has associated love with drama & toxicity. He needs to go to therapy! And kick the memories of his ex to the seven depth of hell.
I used to be like this person until my toxic ex came back and rocked my core again and then I woke up from my trauma and never had contact with them ever again
Man’s just grew accustomed to the crazy and found some peace in it. Think Stockholm syndrome but milder. Lot of people go through it, the feeling passes but you can’t act on it. Peaceful love can be very boring lol eventually you learn you don’t need all that. Detoxify over time
Dude I had a narc as a boyfriend for years. Long distance. Turned out he was married and had kids and SEVERAL other women. Long story short - it’s not only men who grew accustomed. I think there a good people and bad ones. And it’s men and women all alike… I’m traumatized still.
Don’t tell her you miss your ex. Tell her your past relationship trauma is starting to rear it’s ugly head in this current one and it’s really bothering you and you want to work on it.
Had a similar experience. Therapist told me that my feelings weren’t anything more than having a trauma bond to the girl and her saying that helped me see the situation and my feelings for what they were. Hope this brother is well and safe.
People become accustomed to toxic, low-vibrational scenarios in relationships, so when they land one that's normal and healthy, they're bored. It's a personal issue that needs to be worked through in therapy and healing sessions. And if I was his current gf, I'd take a break until he figured out why he was still longing for someone who made him feel suicidal.
No cap. No other podcast makes me burst out in uncontrollable laughter meanwhile you mans got me cramping up on a regular basis. Sometimes I want to not laugh but I can't bruv, I'm literally incapable 😂
That sounds like self sabotage. Some people don’t like to be happy, so they sabotage their life without knowing it. He’s happy in his relationship and doesn’t know what to do next 🤷🏽♀️
8:00 if my guy told me that, truth be told..... if be out. You say you're suicidal over her?...... yeah nah. Soz my guy. Sort yourself out and when she's out of your system, if I'm still free, we can try again. I'm good for you, but you clearly aren't good for me.
Shadow work is what we all need to do, face what makes you miss what hurts you and start to heal so the next person can’t traumatize you or seek you out to hurt you.
Wonder how many couples got done watching this and dudes didn’t even want to look at their girls because they felt that gaze burning through their heads thinking they were thinking about that ex…RIP weekend….
Obsessed with y’all’s podcasts 😂 and I never saw myself as a podcast person, pretty sure I forced everyone I know to listen to you guys, y’all give me vibe when I’m studying, just the amount of laughs I need 😂 #5starshit
Idk if I could be understanding if my partner thst is in a relationship with me, comes to me and tells me they miss someone else. That would break my heart. That ur looking me in the eyes but your not thinking of me ,ur thinking of her. That's the type of stiff they be talkin about in heartbreak songs
He's not a bad person. He's just not over his ex and that's a rough realization but at least he's self aware. Toxic ppl = trauma = brain won't let go until you've dealt w/it, them, the situation. Hope he figures it out. Sounds like he's on the right first steps.
Instantly thought see a therapist. Trust me I’ve been there and I reached out and I started spiraling down and I started self destructing. I associate love with pain and I’m seeing a therapist and I’ve been seeking Jesu and it’s been helping. It gets hard but it eventually gets better ❤
I love the way you guys explianed it. Men who fall in love with toxic are like heroine addicts who went vold trukey and are having withdrawals. Crazy to think it works that way.
From the moment I saw the title, I just knew it was going to crack me up!! 🤣🤣 🤣🤣 I love the fact that you told him to be honest. Come clean brother 🤣 we'll get you the help you need 🤗
My former roomate is addicted to his toxic ex. He can't live without her. She breaks into his house and steals from him. Went to prison for armed robbery and abuses him. Humiliates him in public but when he got into a peaceful relationship he felt that woman was boring and a doormat and ended up cheating on her w that toxic ex... Some men are really messed up.
Therapy yes but also there are two apps that are amazing!!! To help with this, one is called Fabulous and one is called Calm. Both are paid but if you can commit yourself to 3 months of each, I guarantee you, you will keep going with it. They help you retrain your brain to love yourself and take care of yourself so that you can take that and find healthy love with some. 😊💖 also helps with sleep, weight or eating, as well as any bad habits you want to stop and healthy habits you want to start.
Nothing wrong with missing your ex, it’s part of healing. At the end of the day, she was a part of your life. You had a whole relationship with your ex, regardless of what happened or how you perceive her now. The opposite of love is indifference so having strong feelings toward your ex simply means you still feel something, strong feelings at that. And you need to address that. You may love your current gf and but feeling overly guilt just about dreaming about cheating on her then having thoughts about your ex is not it. Seems like the two thoughts live off one another. Address what you’re feeling, not saying act on your feelings but get to the bottom of why you feel so deeply. There’s no wrong answers but don’t let those feelings become your demons.
What's crazy is the fact that I'm going thru that right now, what's even crazier is that Fuhad could be his brother, yall look so much alike it's wild, same complexion, similar eyes similar build, he just has locs and golds in his mouth, ain't nothing like that off limits, toxic sex jeeeeeez
Yeah, it's normal to miss toxic abusive people, cos sometimes they were nice to you, if they were toxic from the go, you would have never been with them from the beginning. That's how you get trapped. So forgive yourself, but never go there choose healing instead
I think he should tell his girlfriend so that she can make a decision on what she wants to do, stay and work through it or move on and let him work through his own issues. I’d want to know, especially if it’s something so serious as even mentioning suicidal thoughts.
My ex is toxic and used to mentally abuse me like a 5 she lives too far away. Knowing if she lived closer, I'd be in the cheeks every other night cheating on my current.
Trauma has a way of re-emergence . The minute he feels that he does deserve his current girlfriend, it means the trauma has literally convinced him that he needs trauma to feel alive .
That man is severrrrwly traumatized....I agree with James; seek professional help a.s.a.p!! I commend you for being honest doh, sending tiiiiight hugz to you man 🤗🤗🤗🤗
Wow I think this was actually really spot on advice you know, and it made me buss up as well, could appreciate satire xD Initially unsure if I should click this one cos oftentimes I'm disappointed in the encouragement of toxicity, and the mockery can feel quite insensitive but this one reminded me why I continue to watch your videos 👌🏾
imagine my man listened to suicidal by ynw melly whilst going through that, sidenote that toxic girl trait is being diagnosed as a personality disorder now
I love how the mandem joked around at first, then got the meat of the matter bout the yout who misses his toxic ex. Bredda.........u have demons. And u need to sort that out and leave that poor girl who u datin. If u love the ex so bad. Get back with her and go be toxic in a corner somewhere. Ur not a bad person bro, but u need to step back and really pree ur life, and mentality.
As someone who is an emotional masochist I've spent 14 years addicted to a person who was my own version of heroin. Being broken makes those lives so hard to break
Fam, I have been there with the toxic ex! Shit I suppose I still am since I literally dreamt of his toxic ass a few nights ago. And he doesnt even bang me right like my partner does. Its fucki g venom is right
This is about him thinking he does not deserve his current gf & still being traumatised by the damage his ex did to him. I agree with James, that he has associated love with drama & toxicity. He needs to go to therapy! And kick the memories of his ex to the seven depth of hell.
I used to be like this person until my toxic ex came back and rocked my core again and then I woke up from my trauma and never had contact with them ever again
@@marsiimel Girl, same. I never got back together with an ex before. This psycho has me wrapped. I hope you find the love you deserve 💖
🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
James: you need to see someone
Fuhad: see a few people
😂😂
Man’s just grew accustomed to the crazy and found some peace in it. Think Stockholm syndrome but milder. Lot of people go through it, the feeling passes but you can’t act on it. Peaceful love can be very boring lol eventually you learn you don’t need all that. Detoxify over time
Stockholm by proxy
It's called a "trauma bond" haha
Dude I had a narc as a boyfriend for years. Long distance. Turned out he was married and had kids and SEVERAL other women. Long story short - it’s not only men who grew accustomed. I think there a good people and bad ones. And it’s men and women all alike… I’m traumatized still.
FAAAAAAAAAAACTS..peaceful love can be truly boring 😮
‘TELL YOUR GIRL HOW MUCH YOU MISS YOUR EX’ Excellent advise 😂👏 RIP my man
Exactly. Do not tell her.
Writing that man a ticket to hell. Lmao!
Don’t tell her you miss your ex. Tell her your past relationship trauma is starting to rear it’s ugly head in this current one and it’s really bothering you and you want to work on it.
@@nickelpennybanksbingo! Still tell her something,just like you said, just don’t say he’s missing his ex cause it could backfire and she leave.
Had a similar experience. Therapist told me that my feelings weren’t anything more than having a trauma bond to the girl and her saying that helped me see the situation and my feelings for what they were. Hope this brother is well and safe.
The heroin addict scenario took me OUT OUT 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I LOVE listening to you guys 🫶🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾 all the way from South Africa 🇿🇦
I'm from SA as well and this is the best podcast compared to that dreadlocks guy
🇿🇦the missing my toxic ex.... danko🇿🇦
I wouldn't say South Africa is that far from England tbh
😹😹😹I know all South Africans are toxic .... all outchea relating to this super bad.
Why are we like this😩😭🤣🤣🤣🇿🇦🇿🇦
Trauma bonding is an awful thing! Iv been there!
People become accustomed to toxic, low-vibrational scenarios in relationships, so when they land one that's normal and healthy, they're bored. It's a personal issue that needs to be worked through in therapy and healing sessions. And if I was his current gf, I'd take a break until he figured out why he was still longing for someone who made him feel suicidal.
No cap. No other podcast makes me burst out in uncontrollable laughter meanwhile you mans got me cramping up on a regular basis. Sometimes I want to not laugh but I can't bruv, I'm literally incapable 😂
I love how much you guys play into the story. Hilarious😂
"See a few people" sent me!!! 🤣😂🤣😂🤣
She had me su!cidal when she said it's overrrrrr, damn all these beautiful girls 😎🤣🎶🎶🎶
This the first thing i thought abt frrrr😭😭😭
So I’m not the only one 😂
I've found my people! 🤣
Literally singing this in my head while they we’re talking 😂😂😂😩🤦🏾♀️🗣️😂😂
I couldn't even read it without singing out loud🎶😂😂
‘TELL YOUR GIRL HOW MUCH YOU MISS YOUR EX’ Excellent advise 😂👏
Sometimes we are so used to the toxic that we start to question something that is healthy.
That sounds like self sabotage. Some people don’t like to be happy, so they sabotage their life without knowing it. He’s happy in his relationship and doesn’t know what to do next 🤷🏽♀️
This podcast reminds me of that movie “think like a man” I take notes on how not to be that overbearing girl ahaha love it 😂😂
8:00 if my guy told me that, truth be told..... if be out. You say you're suicidal over her?...... yeah nah. Soz my guy. Sort yourself out and when she's out of your system, if I'm still free, we can try again.
I'm good for you, but you clearly aren't good for me.
Congrats on 100k boys❤️love the content, keep it up👍🏾💯
Shadow work is what we all need to do, face what makes you miss what hurts you and start to heal so the next person can’t traumatize you or seek you out to hurt you.
I made the jump! Signed up to patreon just to support you guys! More videos to binge on! That’s my weekend sorted hahaha 🤣
Congrats on the 100k subscribers Guys. Yall are thee number one podcast...period
Wonder how many couples got done watching this and dudes didn’t even want to look at their girls because they felt that gaze burning through their heads thinking they were thinking about that ex…RIP weekend….
ngl this use to happen to me 😅 didn’t even understand it myself 🤦🏻♀️ but it really is like an addiction.
I did it finally after making the jump from TikTok I have made the jump to Patreon, super excited to be part of the Thursday gang!
Obsessed with y’all’s podcasts 😂 and I never saw myself as a podcast person, pretty sure I forced everyone I know to listen to you guys, y’all give me vibe when I’m studying, just the amount of laughs I need 😂 #5starshit
Idk if I could be understanding if my partner thst is in a relationship with me, comes to me and tells me they miss someone else. That would break my heart. That ur looking me in the eyes but your not thinking of me ,ur thinking of her. That's the type of stiff they be talkin about in heartbreak songs
Just recently started listening this podcast and absolutely love it 😂😂 always making me laugh 😂
Congratz on 102k guys!!! Well done
I have no business laughing this hard 😅😅 Love from Kenya 🇰🇪♥
Hata Mimi
Same
tuko
I love that they role play with random stories and comments and they take it and run all the way to hell with it 😂😂
He's not a bad person. He's just not over his ex and that's a rough realization but at least he's self aware. Toxic ppl = trauma = brain won't let go until you've dealt w/it, them, the situation. Hope he figures it out. Sounds like he's on the right first steps.
Instantly thought see a therapist. Trust me I’ve been there and I reached out and I started spiraling down and I started self destructing. I associate love with pain and I’m seeing a therapist and I’ve been seeking Jesu and it’s been helping. It gets hard but it eventually gets better ❤
Oh my days, I only recently found ye and my god ye actually make my day, crack me up. Been watching ye every day sins.
THANK YOU! This one helped me realize a LOT of things
Oh god, were you the suicidal one, or the heroine
You guys crack me up man 😂🤣 but fr you gave really good advice, couldnt have said it better myself
Awful advise mate, DON’T tell ur girl !
@@h2611 exactly! I’d go get help etc but DONT tell your girl!
I thought so too
Listening to you guys give advice is my fav part ❤️
“See a few people” 😂😂😂😂
🤣🤣 "that unblock button's looking juicy" 😂 I dieddd lol
That boy need therapy and is used to drama
"After I'm done missing her", Lads... we know what that means
James said quackhead 😂😂😂 I love y’all
I caught that too 🤣
I love the way you guys explianed it. Men who fall in love with toxic are like heroine addicts who went vold trukey and are having withdrawals. Crazy to think it works that way.
The back and forth is killer😂
The analogies are killing me😂😂 bro said heroin 💀💀💀 SEEK HELP FAM
I love when yaw say, "I neeeed itt!"🤣🤣🤣
I need to hear your voices before I go to sleep! I started saying some of your sayings lol I told my friend that’s a you problem 😂
and "that's jokes"😂😂😂😂
Also "that is butters" and "bear" 😂
Lol, "see someone" and your bratha says "see a few people" 😆 lawd I don't think I want a relationship anymore!!!
😂😂 some how we can all say we know this feeling 😂😂😂😂😂 toxic relationships have some sorta grip on us.. James that fade though hoooh 🔥
I’m SCREAMING. Mans is fighting DEMONS! 😂
I had to watch this video like 3 times and I'm laughing so hard like every single time like it's the first time ...#ImDead #SNG #Dwl #withdrawal
From the moment I saw the title, I just knew it was going to crack me up!! 🤣🤣 🤣🤣 I love the fact that you told him to be honest. Come clean brother 🤣 we'll get you the help you need 🤗
My former roomate is addicted to his toxic ex. He can't live without her. She breaks into his house and steals from him. Went to prison for armed robbery and abuses him. Humiliates him in public but when he got into a peaceful relationship he felt that woman was boring and a doormat and ended up cheating on her w that toxic ex... Some men are really messed up.
congrats on 100K!!
You men don't know tht 3pounds is actually R53.39 (Rands) in South Africa🇿🇦. I'm a student cuz😩.
Greatest conversation/advice ever this was brilliant
Probably the analogy I have ever heard in my life 😂 genius!!
You guys make my whole week
Therapy yes but also there are two apps that are amazing!!! To help with this, one is called Fabulous and one is called Calm. Both are paid but if you can commit yourself to 3 months of each, I guarantee you, you will keep going with it. They help you retrain your brain to love yourself and take care of yourself so that you can take that and find healthy love with some. 😊💖 also helps with sleep, weight or eating, as well as any bad habits you want to stop and healthy habits you want to start.
I dated someone who used to tell me how toxic his ex was but I think he got bored with me coz I had no drama
Nothing wrong with missing your ex, it’s part of healing. At the end of the day, she was a part of your life. You had a whole relationship with your ex, regardless of what happened or how you perceive her now. The opposite of love is indifference so having strong feelings toward your ex simply means you still feel something, strong feelings at that. And you need to address that. You may love your current gf and but feeling overly guilt just about dreaming about cheating on her then having thoughts about your ex is not it. Seems like the two thoughts live off one another. Address what you’re feeling, not saying act on your feelings but get to the bottom of why you feel so deeply. There’s no wrong answers but don’t let those feelings become your demons.
What's crazy is the fact that I'm going thru that right now, what's even crazier is that Fuhad could be his brother, yall look so much alike it's wild, same complexion, similar eyes similar build, he just has locs and golds in his mouth, ain't nothing like that off limits, toxic sex jeeeeeez
Definitely some pretty solid advice
OMG Fuhad being honest at 8:30 is exactly how I'd like my partner to talk with me, that's real af
He is addicted to the negativity of the ex.
It sounds like he has literal trauma from his previous relationship #ptsd💔
That's some raw PTSD man 🤣😂
The herion excuses are speakin to my soul😭😭😭😭😭
Yeah, it's normal to miss toxic abusive people, cos sometimes they were nice to you, if they were toxic from the go, you would have never been with them from the beginning. That's how you get trapped. So forgive yourself, but never go there choose healing instead
I think he should tell his girlfriend so that she can make a decision on what she wants to do, stay and work through it or move on and let him work through his own issues. I’d want to know, especially if it’s something so serious as even mentioning suicidal thoughts.
The FIRST thing he needs to do is go to therapy. Idk if he even needs to say anything to his gf. Sometimes disclosure can cause more harm.
All I heard was Baby Please!!!!
“The venom is in you now” 😂😂😂
My ex is toxic and used to mentally abuse me like a 5 she lives too far away. Knowing if she lived closer, I'd be in the cheeks every other night cheating on my current.
you should tell your ex! Telling her will give you even more responsibility on not acting on your feelings so another person won't be hurt.
The heroin u knw🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣I can't speak,😭🤦🏾♂️I'm right back in there🤣🤣🤣🤦🏾♂️
Trauma has a way of re-emergence . The minute he feels that he does deserve his current girlfriend, it means the trauma has literally convinced him that he needs trauma to feel alive .
That man is severrrrwly traumatized....I agree with James; seek professional help a.s.a.p!!
I commend you for being honest doh, sending tiiiiight hugz to you man
🤗🤗🤗🤗
"See a few people"
Wow I think this was actually really spot on advice you know, and it made me buss up as well, could appreciate satire xD
Initially unsure if I should click this one cos oftentimes I'm disappointed in the encouragement of toxicity, and the mockery can feel quite insensitive but this one reminded me why I continue to watch your videos 👌🏾
this was mad insightful
I’d show her this video before the conversation but he definitely should see someone to help him
This reminds me of S*x/Life on Netflix
imagine my man listened to suicidal by ynw melly whilst going through that, sidenote that toxic girl trait is being diagnosed as a personality disorder now
I love how the mandem joked around at first, then got the meat of the matter bout the yout who misses his toxic ex. Bredda.........u have demons. And u need to sort that out and leave that poor girl who u datin. If u love the ex so bad. Get back with her and go be toxic in a corner somewhere. Ur not a bad person bro, but u need to step back and really pree ur life, and mentality.
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Notifications on 10000!! 🇹🇹✨
This is the best advise you guys have given lololololol
Notification gang💁♀️
That’s a trauma bond!
This was some real advice, he needs to listen !
Sounds more like PTSD than addiction
That toxic pum pum making him cray cray...he’s addicted to her and he knows that she’s toxic...(Britney Spears - Toxic - re-edit) 🤪🤪🤪🤪🤪🤪🤪🤪
As someone who is an emotional masochist I've spent 14 years addicted to a person who was my own version of heroin. Being broken makes those lives so hard to break
The first scenario is crazy...people need to learn self respect
They are so dramatic with every scenario 😂😂😂
Just go sling it into the ex and be done with it! 🤣🤣
Somehow i cant focus properly bc of grey sweatpants hahahaha
Just straight up tell that man to go to therapy
Fam, I have been there with the toxic ex! Shit I suppose I still am since I literally dreamt of his toxic ass a few nights ago. And he doesnt even bang me right like my partner does. Its fucki g venom is right
Didn't Patrice O'Neil say something about having to hate someone just a little in order to have the best sex?
Andrew Schultz had the same opinion that she (Amber) had to have the strongest Gluck Gluck in the universe, his pod is lit too 🔥