What Not to do on a Date I Amsterdam
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 11 เม.ย. 2018
- It is no surprise that the Dutch say things the way they are... very bluntly.. and in this video they do just that about their dating preferences. This is an older video that I didn't put up on TH-cam right away but found it much later and figured I would post it. Sorry for the sound quality - I lost the audio attachment.
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At 3:50 I died from laughter.
When I first dated a Dutch guy he took me to a nice restaurant. I was impressed until he explained proudly that he will get 50% discount from Jumbo supermarket coupon. 😆
"I have a girlfriend" That´s OK, I will deal with that. HAHAHAH
"I have a girlfriend"
"That's okay, I will deal with that"
😂
"I am married"
So sorry for the audio everyone! I lost the audio clips so this is all coming from the camera and my horrible editing skills :( Thought the content was worth it anyways.
The audio is ok, no problem! :)
Dating Beyond Borders sure it was & sort of funny as well haha
Of all the videos you've made, I think this one is my favourite. It was funny and candid. That's my favourite style of film making of any sort.
Wow. So happy to hear! I do wanna start making them more candid as well
The thing is... Dutch people are really down to earth and they are sooooo simple. They don’t care about anything. And also they are really straightforward with everything.
"A thumb in the ass" ? Boy, it escalated quickly ^^
When going out with a Dutch man or woman, be open about your intentions , be honest and direct ( not too direct of course ) don't be afraid that you don't speak the language, English will work just fine. It's considered polite for the man to pay on the first date, but don't be surprised if you pay for your own food and drinks after that.
The Netherlands is very different from Amsterdam. In marketing, Amsterdam is taken as a separate cultural unit. Social cohesion and uniformity of opinion can be found everywhere in The Netherlands except Amsterdam.
uniformity of opinion sounds like N.Korea to me
I agree with that. Don’t be stereotypical... I actually study in Amsterdam and the reaction of some people were like red light district and weed etc... even I am a foreigner here, but it’s just not funny.
u doctor yet?
cronussful ?
Yinmin Li, talk to me when u doctor! (c) :)
Everyone is a foreigner in Amsterdam 🤣 i was born there and even i am .
😂😂😂😂😂 this was amazing, I had to rewatch the thumb in the butt part 2x, not gonna lie. Dutch ppl are hilarious and so laid back, I love it
Andrea Orbegozo whaaat? You must come from a really boring place
Damn is it me or the Dutch don't know what they want
They are asexual. They probably reproduce via artificial insemination
@Παναγιώτης Γεωργίου whuuuut? like actual rape? fuck man that sucks, did you tell the police
@Παναγιώτης Γεωργίου hahahaha, okay you're joking now, a psv tattoo? she must've been a lowlife then
@Παναγιώτης Γεωργίου Okey she dind't rape you you dellucional asfuck
Hahaha love it! More videos about Netherlands!!!
There are more then enough in all sorts of ways. Most foreign people find us very funny in some sort of way is my experience! XD I really don't know why but yeah haha
I've been to Amsterdam twice and honestly, its an amazing city. I'd love to take my friends there someday, if they could afford it
ginger psycho probably will never happen unless you buy their ticket
Usama Fayyaz a lot
I think 1600 euro will be enough for one week for one person. But it also depends on seasons and which hotel u r going to stay.
yeah, for sure, u can find good hotel 110-160 euro per night
That's not taking your friends is it, that's going with your friends. If you take them, you are paying
I'm skocked! They are very very direct!!!!
camila albuquerque are you serious ???
Yeah that's true, it's sometimes interpreted as rude, but we don't even notice it anymore 😄
Yeah traditional love is nice. But me as a Dutch man aren't really into playing games if it's about a hearts matter. Voila haha
They don’t have any manners, they grew up in a farm
Halil Alexander Zeverboom you’re not important. Nor funny or elegant, u know that? Stop mentioning Dutch man like if it was something special cus you’re not 😘
I think the tall muscalur guy has been through some things
Everybody is contradicting themselves...LOL!!!
Theres nothing better than dating beyond borders..thats where true love lies 😊😊
"Keep it plain" is probably the worst thing one can do in love, relationships, and life in general.
The video was about dating, which only the initial stage of getting to know each other, being the first couple of dates is considered as. The video is not about love, relationships and life in general.
I feel like the “macho man” who is very stereotypically passionate and romantic and treats the lady as a princess is good for short term. But for long term I think, for me personally, I like men who value equality. Like if I have a baby and say I get postpartum depression, he won’t dump all the chores and cooking on me and will be more open to share our feelings with each other’. Besides, these men are romantic once they know they’re serious about you vs. the other men who are romantic with everyone. While more traditional, overly macho men think their job is mainly just to make money. At least that the impression this channel has made on me, obviously these are just stereotypes though! There are always exceptions!
Very interesting and you are definitely onto something
Bascially alpha male VS cucky provider.
So being passionate and romantic means you think your partner is less than you. Do when girls do stuff for guys, is that bad? Is she demeaning him, no, she's simply being kind and showing that she cared. Women like to say chivalry is dead, but the only reason why it's dead is because they killed it. For example, the reason guys pay for the date is because they're the one who initiated it so they pay for their idea, but girls had this stupid idea that they should pay for a night where they were invited to come and enjoy themselves for free. If you invite your friend on a camping trip, you wouldn't make them pay for the expenses of the trip because you were the person who initiated it, but people want to typical male like being macho and helpful into a bad thing, "oh it's toxic masculinity" what about toxic feminity, no that doesn't exist because women are perfect. It's so stupid, men are inherently macho, it's doesn't harm anyone Ave women like men who are a little bit macho as long as they aren't arrogant or obnoxious. That's why women don't really go for beta men.
@@Almansur8 You caught that also!
The problem is that what you described isn't equality, you want him to help with *your* feelings, but in my experience when men actually show their emotional vulnerability women quickly start to think less of them (in one case I've even seen a girl get outright hostile when my friend shared his feelings, it was the truth and he was being very vulnerable, just not what she wanted to hear).
In the end I'd love a partner who I could treat like a true equal, but in the end women only want to be equal in ways that benefit them. You can say what you like in disagreement, but actions always speak louder than words, and it's rare to meet a woman whose actions match her supposed lofty ideals (though who knows, maybe that's rare with men too idk).
The point being, you can chat whatever shit you like, but it's meaningless until your deeds reflect your words
I admire the European forthrightness and open honesty, but Amsterdam has some weird, messed up stuff going on in this video. O.o
10/10 for staying composed through some of those moments!
not only on this video ;)
i died at the thumb one hahahaha
As a Dutch guy 'Going Dutch' aka 50/50 is a very common accepted and done thing. So for a first date this is a good start.
But like many have written here already we, the Dutch are very independant and differant on an individual lvl so do as you see fitting :)
What about boys pay this time and girls pay next time in order to avoid the split bills? I think you people can start with it.
Glad, what I don't want to date with dutch anymore) lol
I am a typical eastern European boy with pretty emphasised macho attitude. My girlfrend is Dutch and we are getting along very well. She doesnt have any problem with my macho behaviour. I have an impression that there are many Dutch women who like macho men, they are just not so loud about their preferences.
You should be with women of your own religion and ethnicity,what can possibly connect you with dutch woman except LUST
That tall bald guy made a generalization about Latin American women. That simply isn't true, they are not all girlie, girlie.
Alejandro Reyes I’m latín American and of course not everyone is like that but the mayority are . Isn’t fault of everybody, is just a cultural thing
Maria Alejandra Calderón I never said it was anyone's fault. But, to make generalizations about a culture or gender can get people in trouble. Communication is key, and it's important to think things through before saying anything.
Alejandro Reyes I think this channel is about generalizations so he is in an ok context.
Ferna The best I don't agree with you necessarily. One thing this channel does to post videos of a general idea of what it's like too date around world. Also give us a general idea of what it like date someone from Russia or Mexico with in your cultural landscape, I understand that. But for a randon person that isn't an actor on Marina's videos, to make a generalized statement on Latin American women being girlie girlie is wrong.
Alejandro Reyes Just let it go man. No not all are like that but the ones that arent like that are maybe part of the 20 or 30% of the countries population.
About that "don't wear too much make-up" comment, a lot of men might be surprised to know how make-up done well doesn't look like make-up at all. So when a girl hears "too much make-up" it can be taken as a slight against their skill as a make-up artist.
Thats how caribbean Dutch are different... We don't go direct on guys! We were raised by parents that the guy should make the move.
I wish they spoke in their native tongue. I feel like they couldn't describe what they were wanting to say properly.
Did you say no because you don't have a translator? Or did you want to connect with them?
The Dutch are some of the most fluent English speakers in Europe :)
Uchiha Hikaku I’m Dutch, en geloof me, Nederlanders spreken het beste Engels in heel Europa en ik denk dat ze geen probleem hadden met het uitleggen
Ok no problem guys. The pauses and stutters in their speaking made it look as if they weren't very articulate that's all.
@@uchihahikaku1630 They are articulate enough, they just have a relatively heavy accent
Dutch person here. We might be, but it is still very true that matters of the heart would often be best explained in your native tongue. I am certain these interviews would have been different if you had conducted them in Dutch. (good content tho, not complaining at all.)
WOW! Very different then my culture, I'm from Argentina and in my country the man usually pays for at least the first two dates! Also being a gentleman in my country actually gets you sex quicker then being a showoff or wannabe! A wannabe in my country is called a CHANTA! PEACE and CHEERS!!!
Ahahah this video is hilarious it makes me wanna go to Amsterdam
Don't pay the Bill. I learned that in the worst possible way HAHAHAHAHAHA
Great content, but please you need to do something with the audio! It isn't the first video where the audio is this bad. Also, sometimes the videos are very fast! I can barely keep up with what's happening.
Totally agree but this is why I have a Patreon page. Quality comes down to budget really. Any extra support helps me up the quality by a lot
This was so funny 😂😂
Holy shit !! Never knew that much number of dutch people speak english or any other language for instance ! Wish that many people here in Germany speak english, the germans need to learn from their dutch neighbours
Its because in Germany everything gets dubbed thats stupid in The Netherlands dubbing is never done its always subtitled
Dutch women are gentle ❤️.
Looking forward for one Dutch guy💕
Man I love the Dutch and KLM!
When is there going to be a Vietnamese one?
Direct is a good way to be. At least they wouldn't be bullshitting to you. You wouldn't have to worry about what they're thinking, they'd tell you. No mind games! I believe in sharing the meals. Why should a man always have to pay for a woman's meal. Good on you Dutch guys, tell it as it is! What you see is what you get! 👍👍👍
Very good points got to love those European cultures
Tall dude I'm the black t shirt wanted all that smoke 😂
What is Marina's ethnicity?
Do normal is pretty much the norm in the Netherlands...The Dutch are very nuchter, like that guy said....don;t overdo it.
South African coloured from capetown trolling to Amsterdam every year only Covid 19 stop me from going miss amsterdam
Hell goed
The girl at the 55 mark.........wow! pretty
Yeah i understand. When you go out on a date with girl of course it would be strange to tell her something like:
" Do you wanna go to watch half naked girls and then smoke pot ? "
INCREDIBLE...
The best possible piece of advice: don't have a date in Amsterdam. It's an overcrowded, overrated city and there are loads of more interesting places in the Netherlands.
Pls compare east europeans vs west europeans
Already did that :)
I love how the men who are taken actually stated that 😂 like yaass bitch the dutch are loyal
The girls are super pretty and seems to be nice.
Nicolas Nicolas They're not. I'm born and raised in the Netherlands, and I discovered their nature. Most of them are arrogant, awkward, rude, manly (not feminine) and golddiggers. The interesting one is that many of them have (secretly) hatred to men. And they use men as their slave or like "semen machine" only for getting children. Stay away from them, otherwise you'll get many troubles.. for more information check this TH-cam channel as follows:
th-cam.com/video/QhGp45_xRgU/w-d-xo.html
Same post on a different thread? Since when do MGTOW actively recruit, I thought you were going your own way, why do you need others to follow?
I'm very familiar with the MGTOW movement, I'm just asking why you're actively recruiting instead of just going your own way like you promised. But your childish swearing has pretty much answered my question.
Lilliath Of course you're familiar with it. One day (even very soon) there will be come that hundreds (maybe thousands) dutch men will choosing the way of MGTOW. Even we will get many attention by the media. Nowadays many men who lives in the Netherlands are opening their eyes, and it's just the beginning. Stop manipulating people around you (don't worry you can not manipulate us anymore. If you have still respect to yourselves, be fair to yourself). So do you think when men in the western society abused and persecuted by western feminazi women, do you think I'll be quiet?! Never! I'll expose the truth until my last breath. MGTOW is not a movement, but a philosophical community. Typically characteristic feature of a dutch woman. When they can't find a rational argument they immediately twists and attacks other men with insulting and useless responds. The end of " feminism" is near..
I hate feminism, stop making stupid assumptions about me. The MGTOW movement will never become big, that's delusional. I'm insulting? You just called me a stupid bitch, but I'm insulting?
You're not a MGTOW, you're an actual misogynist who's desperately trying to recruit other men to his cause. The MGTOW movement has good points and a part of it is respectable, you're not that part.
4:00 HAHAHAH
Is not funny. There’s nothing special about u. Go back to the farm, transgender
Do a video on Koreans please!
Marina how tall are you and how tall could be that tall guy ?
Avinash MN Who's Ivana?
Ale World
Ty for questioning me, Ivana is someone else
I am 5'5 :) I would say 6'1 😉
Dating Beyond Borders Marina what would be the next video about? Hehe
Dating Beyond Borders as you have done on NL, please finish this on NL women
I hate the dutch mentality of keeping it plain and being direct, there's no beauty in that. I don't want a girl to straight up tell me she likes me. Where's the fun in that?
I'm Indonesian but I go direct
I thought women would find it offensive if a man pays for the date in the Netherlands?
Not really I think. I (as a Dutch guy) found that they like the offer. Me (and most of my friends) offer to pay on the first date, if they decline ask if they are sure and if they decline a second time go 50/50. I think Dutch girls find it offensive if a man insists on paying for a date if a girl wants to go 50/50 because the man is then already deciding things for her.
It also goes the other way around. Most men are more than happy to pay on the first date, but if a girl expects the man to pay on the first date, it is a big turnof
@@hiddedeboer4411 well I would want a girl to pay for me.
So I guess “going Dutch” isn’t a thing on your first date anymore
Dutch girls totally not emancipated. They are very traditional in regard to sex and love and they never do first step. Can somebody tell me from Norway is the truth that girls pick up guys in Norway or its just myth.I have heard that norway girls are not emancipated at all and especially in film myth about gender equality in Norway. I saw in Russia girls pick up much more guys than in west countries although west countries allegedely invest much more in gender equality. So russian girls and east european girls are much more emancipated in regard to sex and love.
😂😂
What does he means with "south american girls being like a lady??"
Tall bald guy is very contradictory,he doesn't know what he talks about
isn't this advice universal ?
Goed of wat?
I don't get it, they say they don't like the macho men thing but they expect men to pay on the first date 🤷🏻♀
So cute. Dutch men
I want to meet a Florida or Brazilian Lady.. Should an advanced level relationship.I am very serious. Must have a different and thoughtful personality.She just has to be honest and educated. I'm a master graduate. You could be a master graduate or a doctoral student..etc..
I hope I can meet someone like you on earth.
Just because a few Dutch people are like this, doesn’t mean they all are. In every country the citizens aren’t the same and don’t share the same opinions. Don’t judge us based on the opinions of these people and think we’re all like them. And also don’t judge the Dutch people in this video, they’re having a hard time explaining themselves in English. You don’t know them and the answers to these questions don’t define them, so how can you know what kind of person they are? You can’t.
"Don't be too macho".."Don't be alpha male" That's the reason I could never date a dutch man. I am latina and in my culture women are proud to be women and men are proud to be men. We have our own gender roles. Women take care of the husband , kids and home and the men is the provider and protector of the family. And this way has always worked great in my culture. But since moving here about 5 years ago I find that it's the opposite with dutch society. Men behave more like women and the women behave like men. Most women can be very compatitive, care too much about degrees, are rude, don't want to get married and can't even cook. And the men they are hardworking but too soft, not masculine and will not even pay for a woman if they go on a date. After awhile I understood that dutch men see women as their "equal" so they think if she works , she can pay for her own. That's just a big no-no in my culture. Cause men paying for women shows he is masculine and a good provider. I just feel the Netherlands have taken this "gender equality" thing too far.
As a Dutch woman I agree that Dutch dating is very confusing since verybody has different expectations, which if not spoken about in advance can result in disappointment, offense, hurt, and so on.
I understand and respect that your culture is different. However, I believe woman should be educated and get degrees. I think independence is admirable and something everyone should learn to gain. I do not believe the Dutch culture has taken equlity too far. In fact, there is no such thing as taking equility too far. Equility is equility. I do not believe being more feminine makes you less a man then masculinity make you any less a woman. Both feminitity and masculinity are shrouded by stereotypes that are often untrue and puts pressure on both genders. I don't see anything wrong with people who follow gender roles, nor people who choose not to follow them. Some woman just are more masculine, and some men are more feminine. In the end, it is all up to a persons personality or innate nature. I feel that gender roles pressures individuals to act a certain way that is deemed proper in the eyes of Society. I think people should be free to be who they are and still be proud. As the modern world is progressing, we should learn to embrace equality more as a human race. The pressures of the old age are not the same anymore. As technology grows and changes, so can we. :)
@@karmicmaster420 I agree with you and Dutch women normally get their education ( I have a degree myself and would never have considered not getting one) and are equal on most every level. Don't misunderstand me. I think that's a good development. But since there are no specific gender roles anymore, since the options have increased so has confusion in the dating world. Both men and women often don't know what to expect from the other anymore and even if you discuss it there will most likely be awkwardness.
I will go to Netherlands to ........... buy some 🚲, am I a weirdo?
all of us (latinos) are romantics.. but we hate pay the bill ;)
Interesting question.. My answer depends if you are man or wmn...
Seems Mediterranean men are better and more manly. All a bit flat and lacks passion in these countries.. I thought English men were bad but maybe not the worst
I finally understand why all the 25-40 year old Dutch men I know(except for one) are dating non-Dutch women.
VoodooAngels Dutch woman not Men! Yes old 50+ dutch men likes young Thai girl!
🙄 big deception ... was waiting most... more different 😔
What not to do on a date in Amsterdam? Going to Amsterdam in the first place.
It is by far the worst place to visit the country. Not to mention, outside Amsterdam or even the whole Randstad area you will find much higher quality people who will defeat most stereotypes about the Dutch.
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So... they are just boring?
nah, they actually tell you what they want, no bs. I appreciate that.
I think is boring, no mystery. So straight forward. Also no gender roles that is not nice. That would make your significant other more like a friend than a date.
Not cool Netherlands. All though there were a few girls and the guy who said that had a girlfriend that were a bit more romantic type. So I’m hopping not everyone in Netherlands is so... “boring”
Ferna The best fuck gender roles, people do what they want and no mystery is sometimes best, especially with communication.
Jason Ducena I understand what you mean. But from time to time a little mystery is nice. Straight forward communication all the time is tiring, boring, it doesn’t allow romanticism nor corkyness which are crucial for a good relationship.
Gender roles are up to some point healthy and good for a relationship.
Don’t mean to stick to the rule of gender role at 100% but in general some of them are nice.
Dutch people are missing out of some of the fun
Ferna The best romanticism only works best in spades. Besides, just because you are upfront does not mean there is no romanticism. There comes a point where somoen rather just communicate than to have fun, because fun will not always last. Being honest will
Everything they said don’t do it Americans do it
faten Sham Yes, I was thinking the same thing! Reminded me of when the cast of Jersey Shore went to Italy and no one wanted to party with them!
I wish I had a dutsh wife building a family with her until the last day of my life
The „the guy has to pay“ thing is pretty sexist and outdated. It‘s a pity that is still goes like this in such a modern and equal country like the Netherlands.
It's true but don't worry, after the second date we usually split the bill or send eachother a request to pay the money back
I strongly agree, however its not just sexist or antiquated. In the context of a sexual- romantic love relationship, it means that one person in the relationship does not regard the other as a sex object or lover. Instead that one person is being exploited financially or materialistically based on their gender. Sexual romantic love relationships are based upon attraction, whether it be physical or mental qualities of each other.
You notice that in most countries they don't call it a sexual-romantic love relationship or some equivalent of that in their native language? Haven't you ever wondered why? Most countries will call it, romantic or sexual or love, but rarely ever a combination of all those.
What not to do on date in the Netherlands ? Be a polish man.
She shouldn't pay the bill? Well he sure isn't a real Dutch guy then! haha
For me as being Dutch:
- Don't wear too much make-up.
- Don't dive head first in to the paint, your natural hair color is more attractive to me then a faked hair color.
- On dates we do 50-50 with the bill, you pay whatever you ordered and I pay whatever I ordered. Don't drive up the costs as it is insulting. Claiming a man should pay for a date you are on as well is rather insulting as well.
- Allow me to be a man, don't try to change me into a woman.
- Sex on the first date is a no-go area, wait until we had at least 2 or 3 dates at least.
- Don't act or dress like a slut, bit of skin is no problem but I don't need to see the goods before even getting to that stage. Show some self respect, nothing wrong with that.
- If it ever comes to living together, don't think you are the only one to clean the house. We are living together in the same house and there for we share the cleaning!
- In case of kids, you don't get to hog them alone and scream how you do everything as that won't be working. You get kids together, then act together.
- Don't be selfish.
- Don't be a pain.
- Don't be a gold digger.
- Don't try to pose as being more important then me, we are equals regardless of whatever you can come up with.
- Drugs is a no-go thing, the relationship will end right then and there. No way back.
- Drinking alcohol is no problem, being drunk all the time is a serious turn down.
- I am not into sharing you, we do not go to some couples club or other sex place.
- Cheating is a serious problem, do that and I will dump you right away. I have zero respect for cheaters.
- Don't lie, it's seriously disrespectful. Be honest, it works a lot better n any relationship.
- Don't beat around the bush, be direct.
- Don't play hint games, if I want to play hints I will tell you.
- Don't forget that communication is key, a relationship will break if you do forget that.
- Don't expect a huge wedding, I seriously don't care for it and I rather spend money on the future then 1 day nearly bankrupting us both.
- Don't try to over do things, no need for that.
- Don't think you need to spread your photo's everywhere showing your body off. A healthy relationship can't use that and it's also a insult to me. If you want to be so badly on photo, I do photography so we can do a private thing if you really want to do something with that. (and no, things do not get leaked unless you do it yourself. Even if the relationship breaks I wouldn't spread photo's)
- Don't act like a princess, won't work on me. I rather drop you from my life if you do.
- What the guy at 3:56 says is true, don't stick a thumb up my ass. I am not gay and I only see that as a exit only.
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I bet you're one of the forever alone guys, with such a huge list of demands... 😅
@@moetocafe actually totally a typical dutch guy haha and they have partners most of the time with this attitudes even if its really weird for some of us, jusy they’re with similar kind of partners like direct and realistic not with people in drama hahaha so can say when there is something they disagree easier to break up and keep going with your own life bc time is the preciest thing
Yeah, 50-50 sounds about right for a dutch man. The dutch are soooo cheap.
Equal rights ;) sucks, doesn't it?
Now what about gay Dutch men? if I were to date a Dutch man should I just keep it simple and pay half of the bill? LOL
Paying for everything on a first date is for chumps unless you know she is really into you. But if meeting on a dating app, never pay 100%.