You Know You're Dating a Dutch Woman When...
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From Tikkie to brutal honesty to gezellig-ness, this is what it's like to date a Dutch woman.
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Ein wirklich lustiger stream.
There is nothing more annoying and disrespectful than forcing people to read the text on TH-cam.
Just remember that in the Netherlands we boast about things that we got really cheap instead of really expensive
"Nice shirt you have there!" "Omg thanks, It was only five euros!" 😋😂
Best comment. So true!!! Lollol
I always do this and never knew it was a thing! XD
This made me laugh. That is the most accurate thing I've ever heard.
That's awesome. Celebrate practicality.
You know that you’re dating a Dutch woman when:
She’s taller than you
exactly the first thing came out in my head
Alfred Claimor same 😉👍
Oh really?
kirk vj yup 👍
Exactly! Me? 5'6"
My Dutch ex? 5'10"
We were quite the oddball sight, especially when she wore heels! 🤣🤣🤣
As a dutch person, I would like to remark that sending a "tikkie" without prior agreement is incredibly rude.
True
I'm American so I'm not familiar with tikkie. Why would it be considered rude? Just curious.
@@frankiecharles5420 Tikkie is used if you want to split the bill. You can share the bill equally, each paying half, or you can calculate what each of you have consumed and pay exactly that. But to arrange something in that way without having consulted the other first, is considered rude. The other must have a say as well in how the bill is going to be paid.
I'm not even Dutch but I can imagine
If you say " I got it " you got it
Especially if it's something cheap
the prior agreement is.. "I send you a tikke ok?" and there is no negotiation :P
I’m Italian, my girlfriend is Dutch the only thing I can say is: surviving with the sandwiches is a real struggle😂 gezellig
United States of Smash exactly 😂
What do italians eat for lunch?
Suzanne pasta 😂 everyday
Hahahahha
Which country do you prefer.. Italy or netherlands?
5:32 No way this is true. Two Dutch people talking Dutch in front of a Non-Dutch speaker would be considered extremely rude in Holland. They would immediately switch to English to include him in the conversation as the Dutch are multilingual and are typically very capable of talking English
I have lived 2 years in the Netherlands and I disagree. In an informal context it's not uncommon to be surrounded by dutchies speaking dutch despite internationals are present in the group. And honestly I think there is nothing wrong with that because if you live in the Netherlands you should be expected to learn the language a little bit.
As an expat I disagree with this as well, a lot of time people will speak Dutch to me when I speak English, even one on one. :p
I disagree I had Dutch classmates in the UK and they were very curt to put it lightly. You tried to initiate conversation and they answer that question or give a short response and then continue to speak in Dutch with other Dutchies without even looking or acknowledging your presence. Atleast for me, they were very 'exclusive'. None of the other international *and* UK classmates spoke to them either after *repeated attempts*. Honestly I don't understand why they come to study in diverse countries like the UK if they don't want to interact with atleast the UK people. The Dutch should learn some common courtesy and manners, because at some point it isn't being direct but rather about using that as an excuse to be rude and dismissive.
Please don't come at me for stating my experience.
Regrettably not true. Even at family dinners with my bf I find myself suddenly zoning out coz they have been speaking Dutch for like half hour and im like 🤡🤡🤡 and also at work. My colleagues would speak Dutch and not translate to me; but I would stay because of the free beers 🤣
@@LauraS657 Rude people
1) No fake niceties - me: that sounds so refreshing
2) Plan things well in advance - me: that sounds so fantastic!
3) Not into food culture - me: I knew it was too good to be true.
Easy solution: when dividing the workload, you say "Babe please, let me take care of the food, for the love of (any whom-/whatever you love)" She'll love you even more after a good meal.
@@opperbuil Still didn't solve the issue.
We don't have much Dutch food specialties, but for dinner in the evening we are more then happy to cheat and cook food from all kinds of cultures ;)
@@stephanyvanderzee3931 Oh yes, we'll cheat to make any dish cheap. Replace the cod with some coalfish and yay saved another euro.
If I move to the Netherlands, I'll definitely try my damndest to sharpen up my cooking skills, especially with Italian food (my favorite).
I almost fell of my chair laughing about this, this is so very much true.
As a Dutch Girl I can confirm
hagelslag on almost everything :-)
Nightmare girls.
@@sahhull Hagelslag? Thanks good reminder i should go buy some again soon, it's been a while since i have
But they are cute
@@MARKINAU8 Cool that you think so :)
The planning casual Friday nights, two weeks in advance is definitely accurate 😂 When we're trying to meet up with a group, a lot of people even use an app for that
It's not a female thing either, I'm now planning for a nice evening with friends a month in advance, because we have plans up to that point, it's the Dutch way, planning for everything.
Heh it's called Meetup.com
@@jonathanbush6197 Nope, it's not. It's called "datumprikker"
Weirdo
You guys have apps for everything? So much planning, organization would be suffocating for me. I like spontaneity
Bro my gf is Dutch and the first time we hooked up in Amsterdam she brought me home on her bike and I am a former college athlete and I was like "hell no you are bringing me on the back of your bike lol"...10 mins later I am on the back of her bike embarrassed as hell lol
Thank you for the good laugh, man!
I'm pretty sure Dutch women aren't that insensitive and cold when a guy spends hours in the kitchen to prepare a meal :D
Yes, I would never be so rude. And don't think any of my female friends would be either 😅
I'd probably say it in a different order but I would. Just so he won't keep cooking this meal I "love" and it isn't true
I now they way say if they don’t like it.
Yes they are
Source: Dutch women
V0r4xiz depends on who you’re talking to I’ve met lots of Dutch people who are rude
You know you re dating a Dutch woman when she carries the whole fridge upstairs alone.
😅 😅 😅 😅 😅 😅 😅
😂
NorthWind i mean.. yeah
I’m chinese girl, I do that by myself as well
😂😂😂
Didn't realize driving my drunk boyfriend home on the back of my bicycle was considered a typical Dutch thing. Then again if that isn't typical Dutch I don't know what is LOL
Great channel name 👍
@@I_Have_The_Most_Japanese_Music thanks!
You as well, lol!
@Brandon Graham damn, the internet really brings out the worst in people
My rule is: The heaviest one should do the cycling. Also I think many women prefer to cycle because then at least you know you're being careful rather than holding on for dear life on the back of the bike when the man cycles like a maniac
So true! And don't try to impress her with money, status or bragging about your job. That might work outside of our borders but not here 🇳🇱😊
@@ХариПотъра Internet troll from one of Russias Troll factories.
Ow lord, they are everywhere nowadays.
I reported you 😄🐗
It'sGio Official sry for speaking truth
Agreed @itsgio ! Never could impress them with that, just if you be yourself and know how to make them feel comfortable ✔✔
@@Creamz_020 👏🏽
It'sGio Official it’s depends on the person/individual not the country, with data maybe most girl in Netherlands not like that but it’s not 100%
I really liked the Dutch people that I met. They are refreshingly honest.
I love Dutch people and their culture, can't wait to visit!
Did you find it a “cold” honesty or more kind but honest approach?
@@dgill441 I would say honesty. It seemed like they were being realistic and not so much cold. Pragmatic honesty.
@@steventaylor6212 ok gotcha! Thanks 🙏
While I was a high school exchange student in the Netherlands, and adapting to their higher level of directness, I had some misunderstandings. The best was being approached, at lunch, by 3 or 4 friendly male classmates - all of whom I had first met 2 weeks ago - when the first thing one of them said (in English) was, "How long are you?". I'm sure the pause that followed must only have been 2-3 seconds, but it felt much longer to me. I was processing just how personal a question that was, but this was a culture where they boys and girls used the same changing room for physical education. Deciding to go along with it, I was in the middle of converting inches to centimetres in my head, when the same guy thought he should re-frame the question, "For example, Pieter-Jans, he is nearly two metres long!". It was then that I reasoned it was less likely that Pieter-Jans worked as an oddity in a travelling German sex circus, and more likely the Dutch used the same word for both horizontal and vertical dimensions. It was a great ice-breaker. :)
"Lekker Ding" Lol, I thought it was just slang only in Afrikaans🇿🇦. Ons gebruik dit ook.😂
Haha got taught this by my Dutch ex
De boeren where originally Dutch people other european people came and took over but the language is for a large part old Dutch
Tommaso Famularo It’s not dirty Dutch. The Dutch in the Netherlands is the branch that evolved in The Netherlands, Afrikaans is the branch that evolved in South Africa. The source is the same, but they have different histories. So both are equally fine and none are superior (I am Dutch by the way).
Ek het lief vir die Afrikaners en die Afrikaans taal
@@SuAva Baie dankie Suzanne vir jou vriendelike woorde. Dutch klink vir my baie snaaks en moeilik. Daar is 'n Nederlandse TV channel in Suid Afrika en ek verstaan so bietjie wanneer hulle Dutch praat.
I love this channel. It is not only about dating. It is about culture. Amazing! Warm regards from Brazil!
Yes definitely, all these videos reveal so much about cultural differences in general. It's so cool
Eae. Brs >>>>>
Hi Brazil 😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘
Love South American Culture, my brother out of law is from Chile and he is the one of the funniest, kindest and most intelligent individuals I have ever met.
That's nice, can I have your email please
Hey everyone! Happy Valentine's Day :) Just to let you know, I was very excited to film this video but as you can probably tell, the quality is very different from what I generally put out there. This is because I worked with a different videographer this time around (my partner Jason is in Canada and I'm in Europe). Hope you enjoyed it anyways.
What ever happened to the dutch man version? Can't find it anywhere.
The quality is in the acting, humor, and indie feel of your work. It has the same heart and playfulness that you've always had. :)
Either way, you never disappoint me Marina. Feliz dia de San Valentin mi morena de mi corazon 💘🥰
Do about the peruvian women and men ;)
@@RetroAmbie I have taken it off. I feel like it is not the best representation of Dutch men and I will remake it very soon :)
Wow, Marina! Your choice of actors is impeccable as always!
P.S. The Dutch Woman is gorgeous!
Literally every single video on the series: "She can take care of herself"
Haha, true
@Prussian Revivalist That, my friend, is the alpha male attitude. Keep it that way my friend and be different from the rest of soyboy feminist guys.
It's a Marxist feminazi propaganda.
No, but I have a ducthie and she is practically like that, if things doesn't happen according to planning, she sits on my head
Prussian Revivalist but of course the real prize is the friends we made along the way
Years ago dated a Dutch woman while she was working here in texas.
Her blunt honesty was refreshing and delightful.
My Dutch friends definitely have that direct communication style. They even call it their Dutch side, and say it makes everything much more clear. And it definitely does, I enjoy it. Greets from Belgium.
Are there any differences between Dutch people in Netherland and Dutch people in Belgium? Thank you 😊
There are definitely cultural differences between Dutch-speaking Belgians and the Dutch.
Historically Belgians are catholics, and the Dutch protestants, which was a driver in the 19th century for the Belgian independence movement. The Dutch have a relatively long history of self-governance and economic power, while Dutch-speaking Belgians live in a territory that has historically been under the governance of people who didn't speak Dutch.
Belgium has been on the border of Germanic and Latin culture for ages, and so this nudged Germanic-focused Dutch-speaking Belgians a bit to a more South-European style of doing things. The result is that you can hear the Dutch say of Dutch-speaking Belgians that they are more 'Bourgondic', while Belgians would call the Dutch more 'business-minded'.
Overall the differences are relatively small though, given that both share an uninterrupted language territory and millenia old intensive trade relations.
@@AloysioWisnu yes they have some other words but belgium have a bit more words that are french the reason why cuz belgium has 2 sides Vlaanderen is the dutch and Walonië is the french side you also have a little place where they speak german and in Brussel they speak Dutch and french
@@Andreonika_ Amai!
My grandma was Dutch and I have that trait also (not sure if it’s called that also don’t really care) but anyways it can be a great thing to have and also be a bad thing to some people. Especially where I’m from.
My wife is Dutch. A lot of this is true! I always know if she doesn’t like something because I’ll usually hear, “No. That’s stupid.”. It’s good to know she’s always real, at least 😂.
I was surprised by the planning bit, but noticed she can’t stand vague plans with friends/family. She thought that was unique to her.
She is embarrassed by the lack of food culture and makes fun of her parents for bringing peanut butter or cheese sandwiches wherever we go.
Also, as mentioned in other comments, they are tall. She’s 5’10” and I’m 6’6”, so it works for me!
Just stfu we get it you a have a wife unlike us. Being tall doesnt mean shit. You will have back problems for being too tall and harder to gain muscle mass 👌😊
@@147-f3i why are you so mad? is everything okay at home?
@@yamads6515 no. Im single forever
@@147-f3i dutch women r pretty racist bro. just move country
@@147-f3i woah, salty. He was just sharing a funny comment bro, not attacking ur personnal issues lmao. U really feel frustrated don't you?
Well my Dutch wife is direct up to the point of being insulting without her really being aware of that.
She loves it when I "macho up on her" and say I'll take care of whatever problem we encounter.
Cooking and eating out is definitely a thing in our home.
Planning is absolutely a good thing in our busy lives.
We take checks at random when eating out, usually I pay at fancier restaurants.
I would never allow her to give me a lift on her bike because I weigh too much for that. She'd never think about giving me a lift either.
I actually know your wife! We used to work together :)
@@alisar.6958 I knew her too; she is very good in bed,.
I'm marrying a Dutch woman for 15 years. Yeah, she's always direct about my spending habits, cooking and appearance (wearing and buying the same clothing design and colours and always tells me to cut my hair when it gets too long) and she's way taller than me xD. oww and btw marrying a Dutch woman you are officially marrying the best financial advisor ever xD so be prepared to get scolded when you spend your money on unnecessary things like video games xD
What do you mean by " I am marrying a Dutch woman for 15 years" what is the use of (for) in this?
@@gamerwithnoobskill7660 I think he means he has been married to a Dutch woman for 15 years.
But the way he said it makes it sound like he is planning on marrying a Dutch woman for 15 years, and then breaking it off. It would be true to stereotype if Dutch are so fastidious about planning that they even plan their divorces before getting married XD.
@@eliharman "they even plan their divorces before getting married"
This made me crazy. :)
So, taller than you, doesn't want you to play video games, tells you to get a haircut and do your homework. Basically, you married your mom ?
Not all Dutch women are like this, I get the same treatment from my English husband ;-p
His facial expression after she insults his risotto but appreciates “the effort” - I’m dying 🤣🤣
I’m so happy another one of these have come out. Editing must take so long. Well done!
Learn American English With This Guy Huge fan too.
Wow! I can't believe I met you on here, man!
Looks like TH-cam is so small and tight place so everyone knows each other here hahahahaha
Glad to see you, Brent! :-)
Does you wife know that you are watching videos like this one hahahahahahaha
Just kidding. It's a great channel to learn about other cultures and not only about dating :-D
I laughed my ass off about the "Tikkie"! XD It's cheap even for Dutch standards actually, but very true nonetheless. Besides that I'm still quite suprised the "Dutch directness" is so... famous... I still find it difficult to see how we apparently are so different in this way, but I guess I can't judge this myself. I enjoyed the video. Cheers!
Tikkie is perfect for teens, college students and some starters. Later on in life it's getting cheap indeed. It saved my ass during university!
Dutch directness is one of the most awesome things ever. As a man, I'd argue it makes the whole dynamic of dating much simpler.
Dutch people are up-front, honest and forward. The great thing about being around the Dutch is that you ALWAYS know where you stand. DON'T be late.
Women that are honest and direct... This clip sure loves its fantasies...
I don't call that a quality. They completely confuse honestly and rudeness, brutality.
@@majy1735you probably havent met a real dutch person have you
@@tikket10 😆😅Ik ben ontelbare keren in NL geweest. De "recht voor de raap" Nederlandse manieren noem ik brutaal en onbeschoft.
after living a couple of years, as a German, in the Netherlands incl. dating. Yes, that was 100% accurate.. You are gonna to love it!
I'm dating a German-Dutch girl, and everything is spot on besides "not in to food culture". she prefer to cook and prepare some vegetarian stuff.
That is the "no food culture" part.
@@nielsdebakker3283 well she is partly dutch and vegeterian. Please dont blame us Germans for that mess!
@@KristalBlut lmao
Same but not Dutch German, just Dutch
Tim Dane but if u want meat on those veges?
Just give her Indonesian food, she Will be happy....
Yeah, i guess that's why they stay with us for so long...
@BesteKanaal1 Oh.. Wait..
Is that THE DEFINITION of COLONISATION.. ? Rape, Murder, Loot, Resource Extract, Enforcement of Language, Culture, All... In exchange of Building few roads... Oh wait..
@@peradabanbaruindonesia1546 Ikr
I'm from India
I was Surprised when I Found our that National Dish of UK is Chicken tikka Masala.. CTM. SMH..
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Well In India, There Is No National Dish. 😂
@@jenimarai1906 chicken ticka masala is SCOTTISH food with Indian influence.
@@jorgesevil1137 Thank You. Yes, Fish&chips Bangers&mash is the Best Indian Dish IN India.. 😜😂.
Just Because it's Popularised in UK, from Bangladeshi CHEF cooking it in SCOTLAND doesn't mean it's ORIGIN is there.
It's Origin is FROM PUNJAB India when MIGRANTS were Migrating there and 2009 ,BRITISH MP Mohammad Sarwar Tried to Give Protected Geographical Status = patent OVER it...
But HE Got Rejected.
BTW
I spent a month in Holland. The Dutch are the most honest and tolerant people in the world.
Lovely people.
Honest and Tolerant is a good combination, kudos to the dutchies!
Yes, and they have a special political party for pedophiles, awesome tolerance, huh?
*Netherlands
It's all true. However, we do have a food culture, but thats more focussed on dinner instead of lunch.
True, back in the days it was the complete opposite. Lunch was the "big" meal of the day and dinner was actually some (soup with) bread slices (for example). The reason why it changed was because of the business. People got longer days at work and couldn't eat a whole meal at work. So they switched it. I have no idea if we are the only one who switched it (because I don't think so XD). Further more, my breakfast and lunch are most of the time the same. Bread. Dinner is a different story. I love it when my dad makes food :O
BesteKanaal1 Brabant and Limburg?
@@tessameijerink1710 interesting, in Germany the "big" meal is still centered around lunch time, we often have canteens at our workplace so we can keep this up. Just if you invite people to come over it tends to be around dinner time. I'm always hungry when I'm in another country and there the big meal is at dinner time.
Having been bought up in Australia by Dutch parents, this resonated in terms of how I was raised - thanks for the high calibre content.
The end is quite accurate when they’re speaking Dutch and don’t really care that you can’t understand them 😂
that's so rude.
I have to meet the first person who will try to talk Dutch with dutchies.
youtuber2000, where don't they do that though? I have hung out with a lot of different nationalities and this seems quite common to me.
actually this is not true, dutch people will always try to talk your language or english so you understand each other, not like for example french people, they talk french and if you dont understand french or cant speak french thats your problem😂 they are not going to try to talk english, dutch people will, we also learn like maybe 4 languages at school
@@evelinexleddy6161 at least 4 languages.
Dutch from birth, English in primary school (around age 10,) French and German in secondary school (age 12)
Other language they might learn in school (that aren't mandatory) include Spanish, Chinese, and Arabic. But those are pretty rare.
Everything sounded perfect until the crappy sandwich part. That is unforgivable.
hmm try dating your mom?
@@originalmix2546 way so ofended ?
@Rodrigo Santos Valeriano This is basically the only correct answer yes :)
Deal-breaker.
BesteKanaal1 what’s more important than a good meal?
From what I remember about the Dutch... They seem to use chocolate sprinkles (hagelslag) on almost everything
Northy YES
Not me
Northy i don’t even have hagelslag in my home. Its kids food
Im a dutch woman and i eat still hagelslag lol
We even put hagelslag in cakes if we bake them ourselves :)
Seems like I’m actually a Dutch woman in disguise.
She seemed like a man on disguise.
Same here 😂
Wow! Very informative! My family is dutched. My mother immigrated from the Netherlands when she was 12. I see some of these characteristics for sure!
Thanks so much for this. It was a lot of fun. I'm an Aussie and I dated a Dutch Woman and also traveled with her and this brought back memories and yes a lot of it rings true to me.
As an spanish I can not even imagine myself making casual plans more than 1 week away. In fact it's typicall to make plans in the same day or the day before. Greetings from Spain 👋♥️ I love this videos!
Ha! I’ve been married to a Spaniard for many years and it drives me crazy how she can’t plan anything and has no concept of timekeeping, even for really important stuff. I hate it!!!!
@@phillipcooperUK 😂 we can live without that level of planning, so you also can!.
Forget the planning I was more worried about bread and cheese, in the video. A satisfied stomach first then planning later.
I live in Northwest Germany (Oldenburg), it is maybe 100km from the dutch border. I studied two semesters in Groningen many years ago. I love, I really love dutch girls, but I was never really in contact / touch with them. Most dutch women are so hot and they have a fantastic clothing style.
I really want to have a dutch friend. :)
Are you ethnically German yourself? I spent only a short period of time travelling in the Netherlands and a bit longer in Germany. My tentative impression is that on average Germans are more helpful and therefore kinder than the Dutch. Is that also your impression?
Talking about girls: I was not all that impressed by the Dutch girls. The beautiful Dutch girls that I saw on some random TH-cam videos are very beautiful but I did not see many of them when I traveled in the Netherlands. I think there are more beautiful Danish girls per capita than in the Netherlands. I prefer the facial beauty of the Danish girls more than that of the Dutch girls.
Yesssss I've been waiting for this for so long! It is spot-on for sure :D
I feel like keeping it simple, direct and not holding back your opinion applies to a lot of Europeans not just the Dutch.
This is Christian puritanism. Lie is a terrible sin.
Yeah, you've got European honosty, and than there is the Dutch way...
@@avortinus6031 that is the biggest BS i have ever heard. most religious people (especially christians) are the worst kind. they always gossip and lie when it suits them.
That might be true, but as a Dutchman I think the Dutch take that attitude up another notch. We can be direct to the point of appearing rude (without intending to be).
My girlfriend is from Utrecht and she's not tall or blonde, she's 5 foot and brunette and without doubt she's the most perfect beautiful gorgeous perfect woman I have ever seen. She's my life. Amanda D. I love you
So true! Especially that Dutch people do tend to be very direct in giving feedback. But most people do this out of courtesy to make someone better by giving them feedback, most of the time there's no harm intended.
Omg being Dutch I realised how direct we are when a friend (originally from S-America) wanted to show me a story he had written. He came over and said he needed my opinion. So that was my mission, I took it literal: give my opinion, that is what he wanted. I read some parts of the story and told him I liked it but he would need to improve it because there were a lot of spelling mistakes in it, and the plot didnt add up in my opinion. I also said that it needed to be more original. He didnt really say much after that and then left. Later a common friend texted me that the guy really just wanted some encouragement, and I felt so bad for not understanding
Well, as a Turk, and obviously from a very different culture, I kinda think you're not to feel sorry.
Because you just did what he asked for, instead of giving up mixed singles like some teenage girl, he could've asked like an adult whether you think he has potential based on what he's written, which would cause you to review his work way differently
I hate it when people expect me to be responsible for their emotions
Nah forget that crybaby 😂😂😂 be blunt as much as you want 😂
You know you are dating a dutch woman if she is taller than you
And higher
She's going to be a giant... Im 6'4".. Thats about 1.95 metres?
@@sahhull I'm 1.71 I can not date e dutch lady hahahaaahaah
@@metallica4955 hahahahahahah this comment made my day 🤣🤣
My Dutch wife is 5'3. It's a mixed bag really.
I'm American and not hereditarily Dutch, but this matches my dating style the closest. I like to have a friendly, equal footing with the people I'm dating before I allow things to become serious. I'm also super excited whenever I get to plan dates.
FYI, are there any apps like Tiki (spelling?) in America to pay for bills equally on dates? There should be.
2:38 directness at it's finest hahaha. To all foreigners don't take it as blunt or rudeness. By researching expats videos i found out our directness can be seen that way, but we just speak our mind honestly. One definition of love is truth, so rather honesty then lying to our neighbours. Of course directness need to have a limit too. We don't find everything okay when people speak their minds.
Honesty is sexy haha
@BesteKanaal1 there is a difference between being honest and a douchebag. Any form of effort should always be appreciated.
@BesteKanaal1 i can totally begrijpen (understand) i was geboren en getogen here (i was born and raised here).
Now without joking. I understand your vieuw but we find it normal here to ask people if they like certain food. Instead of just making something and being offended if someone eventually doesn't like the food. Logical thinking to me.
Well there is honesty and there are people being rude or unpolite, I mean if someone was in the kitchen for you, and you don't like the meal you can say it, and will be helpful, just do it in a respectful way. It's not the same saying «I did not like it that much» than saying «I just hate it» I mean personally if I get a bad answer I would tell him/her «great, cook your own food»
I am Italian and have lived in NL for 30 years. I LOVE all the points raised here about the Dutch. Planning makes life so much easier. I planned meeting my neighbors several months in advance - what's wrong? we were all busy. Italians give far too much importance to food. You loose perspective of priorities in doing so. Direct-ness: I love it. I have so hard time with people who say but don't say, and don't say but say, for example in buy/ sell transactions: these are a nightmare in Italy. "The price? never mind we will discuss that later" why later?
Points of view, I'm also Italian, lived and studied in the NL and had a Dutch gf for 1.5 years. She was my host in Italy for Christmas and she said to my mom's face how she didn't like the food she prepared because there were not enough veggies in it. And my mom put a LOT of effort to prepare that dinner, she wanted to make her feel welcome. Needless to say my mom was quite mortified. Sometimes dutch directness is just plain rudeness, it doesn't serve any real purpose. I have other examples too.
@@tdsdesa yes, my Italian nature is still there and I can understand as someone may be "offended" by directness. There is no right or wrong, life and traveling shows that people of different countries have just different cultures or education. In China, shopkeepers spit on the floor of his/ her own shops and this is perfectly normal! In other countries, burping in the face of the host after a meal is a sign of appreciation of the food that was offered.
I am Chinese and spent 4 years studied in Netherlands, this experience definitely changed my way of logic...like being straight, sharing when go out and even the stomach as well, i like raw herring right now
bet you never had a dutch girl
So...recognizable being a Dutch guy myself. However I am married to a wonderful chinese woman, dutch woman are great and so down to earth.
Brandon Graham yeah true I’m Dutch and honestly I wouldn’t date a Dutch women either I rather date a pole or Russian maybe a spanish girl but Dutch are not for me
I Love the Dutch. I keep meeting them when I go to Thailand and they are always super cool and nice. Plus Amsterdam is my spiritual home
I am of Dutch background and live in an area in the U.S. that is settled by the Dutch. So much of this holds true here also. Women here with Dutch lineage are ice cycles. Beautiful granted, but ice cycles none the less.
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Omg I had one friend from The Netherlands. This is so much like her :))) Hi Joyce👋🏼
Being equal to our partners is seen as 'not feminine' by some of the reactions here. Thats so so sad.
Hester Fokkema equal means that the woman is a man why not date a man if the woman is useless
@@hirsizvar9835 it is not meant as equal in gender. Just in status, no one is the boss of the other. You do things together. It means a woman can help herself too and work too. And a working woman does not mean she doesn't do anything in the house. So I don't see why this would make her useless. In fact this makes her even more useful.
@@hirsizvar9835 it's means both man and woman are equal. Equal workload at home and equal workload at work.
@@TheMaxximo87 yeah and that's not good
are dutch gals into SMBD?
Thank you Marina for uploading this video about Dutch Women! I was waiting for this moment, and for so long! I appreciate it! P.S.
All of these is very true. And the planning and food applies to men too. Omg so annoying 🤣 my bf already planned the weekends of june and has an excel page to plan his activities. Its so weird! And the tosti thing... its just so sadly true im tired of eating bread 🤣 but you can enjoy fries and carpaccio as well :v
Haha I love that he used excel! Organization at its finest
there’s a Dutch girl in my class... so beautiful. And wayyy taller than me.
You should try talking to her...
@@gretelannelies3828 Damn I forgot about this comment. (Update I guess...) I talked to her and we've gotten super close... turns out she's interested in me too...
@@chrisbarajas3765 Oh nice! I'm really happy to hear that!
Well... about lunch : it's true that, when at work, we take a cheese and/or ham sandwich to work However, when someone is really invited to lunch we tend to make more work of it. True, bread may be a key component but also luxury meat, salads (egg-, chickenpesto for instance). Or maybe a warm component. Often soup can be present as lunch-dish...
The way it is displayed in the video is... not really how I experience it.
The Dutch have such a wonderful country and culture.
Absolutely!!
All Dutch ladies are sluts - willing to have sex in 10 mins of meeting.
As a Turkish girl who is born and raised in Amsterdam.
This is true XD (also some bits of the Turkish woman video is true too ;)
neresini türk kizina benzettin anlamadim, bence tam tersi. Yemek kültürümüz gayet iyi, daha spontan insanlariz ve erkeklerin macolugu hosumuza gider.
Nah
@BesteKanaal1 lol. Even if they would live for 250 a month, the life is cheaper in Turkey so it wouldn't be that bad.
And if both her parents are Turkish then how should she calls herself? If she write that she is Dutch , u would then write that she doesn't.
@BesteKanaal1 So if a rabbit is born and grown up in a stable he is a horse?
BesteKanaal1 who are you to decide what and how a person feels? She can be proud of her roots and live where she want, so the only thing what is wrong is you😉
Dutch women sound like my dream kind of women. Practical, progressive, honest and independent. What sane man wouldn't love all that! :)
Just be gay ,it's the same thing ,they are like men
... clever and smart too.
@@Србомбоница86 100%
they behave like men
If you're beta male cuck, surely they do.
Somehow, some traits are common among German girls as well. The planning and the chill look are often visible out in the cities.
My dad is Malaysian and my mum is Dutch.... I can relate to this very much😂😂
Filmed in Portugal! Near my neighbourhood. Nice!
Please do one about "You know you are dating a peruvian women when..."
Uf, con la cantidad de memes que andan circulando ahora sobre eso.
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Absolutely!
Sounds hot
She has a llama as a pet and look native Indian.
I happened to date a Dutch from a small place near Rotterdam. Her humour was incredible: always pragmatic and straightforward. Not sure if it was just her personality, or it's rather quite a Dutch thing.
Great video. Im a Dutch woman myself, but I went to see if there were funny video's about us.
The first I stumbled upon was the Amsterdam Shallow Man, who basically called us ungainly men and warned people to avoid us like the plague, after which his enthusiastic fanbase said; 'They need a good slap in the face, those arrogant loudmouths.'
Needless to say, *this* video was a very welcome surprise. Well done! You've perfectly captured our shared personality-traits!
Finally a Dutch woman, all there's left is a Greek man Romanian man, Japanese woman etc.
Bengali!!! They have yet to do bengali!!!
And like both swedish man and woman... :)
@@ninjakarin1761 Been waiting for the swedish ones for ages😅
I want an episode on Filipinos too
@@ninjakarin1761 That too
Finally finally a Dutch girl version! So accurate this video! And of course the Tikkie! Endless sandwiches (deeply meaningful lunch conversation about "tostis", hehe)))), sneakers, no make up, no spontaneity, sense of humor so-so, but still - Dutch girls are very beautiful, strong, independent! Its a real challenge for a man to charm such lady, not easy! 😁 worth the effort - to visit Netherlands which is very special indeed! The only thing which concerned me in this video - zero affection or interest from girl's side - the guy is working hard for nothing! 😁
When i see this i think that dutch women are men and dutch men are women or gay
Hirsiz Var You just don’t understand the Dutch.
It's like that with feminist cultures... they're independent and believe they can achieve everything themselves... they feel they don't need a man and so are refusing to take anything from them. Essentially, they are "anti-women" that have become men themselves in the process.
CellGames2006 The Dutch are very similar to the Nordic culture. They all have independent women. Even the Vikings were more egalitarian to their women than their neighbors. While other men seem afraid to lose their masculinity like a bracelet, the Nordics have always done their own thing.
I'm half-Dutch, and it was interesting to see how many points in this video matched me, and which ones didn't.
These videos are really entertaining. We can realize how different and interesting the cultures are. I hope you guys make more videos about dating in South America. Greetings from Ecuador.🎊♥️
Thanks for making the video in Lisbon 💕. The tasteless food reminded me of the Norwegian matpakke.
so true. please do "you know you are dating a polish guy.." thanks
Ohhh... after 31 years i realized who i am 😁, all exactly about me, even many ppl think that i am dutch, but i am not at all🙈
The Dutch girls skin is so vibrant and pretty!!
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That was fun to watch. I had the opportunity to visit Den Hague many years ago on business. I was warned about this little cultural difference about sandwiches in advance, but it felt quite odd to eat a sandwich with a knife and fork.
Well, that's quite unusual in the Netherlands, though I did have a friend in high school whose family would eat sandwiches with a knife and fork. They were very fancy.
You make amazing videos every single time 💗 it's so good to see how people in different countries think and behave
I like this painfully blunt attitude. Soooo refreshing!! (love from Hungary)
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Canadian male here with a Dutch father, can confirm this to be true. I plan, am cheap and 6'4.
I hate cheap people omg
I love straightforward women but it's hard to find them in Asia.
Watching dating a Dutch woman, but never went to their country before.
You really should :))
My experiences with Dutch people in general are nothing but positive.
As someone who lived near the Netherlands and went there quite often I can just say the best things about the Dutch. Very friendly, very helpful and simply very pleasant in general!
Not to forget: quite easy on the eyes ;)
@@matchaleche thank you very much 😃🇳🇱🙋🏽♀️
Excellent video. I like the honesty part. The toasti reminded me of the Norweigan lunch of a simple, tastless sandwich.
thats why you add ketchup haha
I should have seen this video since long time ago. A few years back I was really interested with Dutch ladies. But many of my approach ended in disaster as I was blocked by them. There were some mutual interest, but it ended in breakup as I was offended by their bluntness which interpreted as insult.
I like Dutch ladies because of their angelic beauty, but their attitude need to be explored further.
I feel as a danish male in my thirties that dutch women and danish women go about dating in pretty similar ways. At least from my experience from dating danish women :)
Danish women also value equality a lot so trying to have a macho "I can take care for you" isn't going to work on them either as they - as said in the video - want to be seen as an equal partner.
Danish women also often adopt this chill-out style to wear on a date, and even if it doesn't seem to put in an effort they often do - and still often look very sweet and beautiful :)
I do however feel that the danish dating culture is more open for spontaneous dating ideas and isn't focused to the same degree on practical planning as dutch dating culture should be as stated here.
this might not be a big surprise since we are two nations pretty close to each other geographically and several words in dutch sounds a lot like the same in danish
I've also heard that the Dutch and Danish business culture is like the same so they don't face a lot of problems while doing business.
Very masculine girls
I was randomly thinking tonight that dating a Dutch man could be a good idea, but then I watched these videos. Not that Dutch men are not charming and lovely, but I'm Canadian, we are almost the direct opposites!
-The Dutch prefer directness. Canadians are laid-back, but reserved and polite. They will typically beat around the bush and suffer just to spare someone's feelings.
-The Dutch ride bikes to most places. Canadian winters and the sheer size of the country keep sure that most Canadians exclusively use cars.
-The Dutch may usually 'go dutch' a.k.a. splitting the bill. Canadians can usually be pretty generous with their money when out. "You want a beer? You want a beer? You want a beer? Four beers, please!".
-The Dutch value efficiency and planning. Like I said earlier, Canadians are pretty laid-back, they'll usually go, "Yeah, I'm up for whatever. Sure, I'll meet you 5:00ish, 5:30ish..."
While dating a Dutch man sounds like a pleasant idea to me, I think I should spare the poor man, I think I would drive him crazy!
At least I'll always be able to see the tulips you Dutch have sent to us since World War 2! I've heard that the Dutch love Canadians, so I really hope that's true.
Yes, Canadians have a good reputation in NL. After WW II, quite a lot of Dutch girls went to Canada to follow their Canadian liberator/lover. And in recent years, we celebrated the old Canadian heroes who liberated our country. Alas, many of them don not live any more but they will always be seen and treated as heroes in NL
@@Euroka2000 That's lovely! If I ever visit the Netherlands one day I would love to visit any WW2 museums, monuments, or sites they would have.
Amazing how is all so close to reallity!Specially about the planning stuff!I was totally catched in surprise on our first vacation together.She had everything so planned on detail that i thought we were on kind of militar program...!And of course,she is taller than me..!
All good but I am 5'4. Two me stacked over can date a dutch woman!
I'm 5'10 so I only need 1.5 of me ;D
@Slaughter all mosquitoes
I never said that I wanted to date a Dutch woman. Not that I wouldn't, but I just dont have any expectations
I love a self reliant woman who knows how much things can cost! I hate freeloaders!
The planning ahead thing is so true lol
Spot on!! This one is the best one yet!
Well I thought it was just the English food/eating culture that was crap. This is a bit depressing also!
The food in England has vastly improved with our multi cultural society. So many different options.
@@tallisinwonderland4724 true, but our attitude towards it is still "rush rush" instead of making each mealtime an event, where you actually enjoy your food. It's a sick culture.
@@disarmsox Food in the UK should be treated the same as food in the Netherlands. Stay away from whatever they invented themselves and just go with the food they 'imported' from former colonies. Well, except for Sunday roast. Sunday roast is quite awesome. So we can balance that out with Dutch pancakes and poffertjes. Guess both the UK and the Netherlands have something to contribute to food in the end anyway :D
@Prussian Revivalist well at least in Russia we don't eat bread with peanut butter 3 times a day
Anna Chernenkova - that’s a US thing not a british, english, nor Dutch thing, plus Russian and eastern Slavic (Polish, Ukrainian, Polish) food is bland and tasteless, whereas balkan Slavic food is delicious (Serbian, Croatian, Bosnian, Slovenian, Bulgarian cuisine is flavourful and tasty).
My experience with Dutch women (and Dutch people in general) is that they tend to have very cold personalities and are actually socially awkward. Being direct doesn't have to be a good thing.
Like basically everything it is a question of preference. I usually get confused by mindgames abd non-direct conversations and I am pretty good at warming up cold people, it might me the other way round for you.
Oh yeah, it's much better when they don't speak their minds & beat around the bush so they end up unhappy & suicidal!
that s why dutch ladies love american men over dutch losers
Guys you are hilarious! Those videos are a lot of fun to watch 😍😂
As a trained Chef whenever I have cooked for a lady I ask them what they like to eat to avoid wasting time on things they don't like or are allergic too. So we agree on the menu before I cook it.
2:38 There's a difference between being a straightforward person and being so ungrateful
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