WHEN THE SHOE IS ON THE OTHER FOOT

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  • @mattwesney
    @mattwesney 2 ปีที่แล้ว +176

    Just want to extend congratulations (early) for hitting 100k awakened subscribers incase i miss it over the coming days/weeks. I think I found you at about 12k and have been following daily since...And you've been instrumental in my healing process and cannot even imagine how many lives your light has reached, sadly we need the dark for light to shine. But you're a beacon of light, man! So hell yea to you brother! 😏

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  2 ปีที่แล้ว +39

      I am grateful to hear this beautiful message thank you ☀️🙌🙏😊

    • @dorothynegri9924
      @dorothynegri9924 2 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      Yes,his channel sure has grown. It’s awesome, but yet so sad that so many of us have been abused and are looking for help. 💞

    • @zulemaflores1234
      @zulemaflores1234 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Woohoo! Congratulations!🎈 🍾🎊🎉!

    • @happyhealthyblessed
      @happyhealthyblessed 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      ❤️❤️❤️

    • @sirrantsalott
      @sirrantsalott 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      I just found him recently and I wouldn’t be surprised it’ll go up to unimaginable levels - the world is awakening

  • @tinachristine7966
    @tinachristine7966 2 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    The longer you keep the narc out of your life, you will heal and be able to see things that were being done to you, that you didn't see before. Your mind will become clearer. You don't need revenge, the narc will totally self distruct and be the nothing they are. Thank you Andrew.!!! ❤🙏

  • @itsroseybyrosey5726
    @itsroseybyrosey5726 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    "The good guys are beginning to win." I love that. What a great observation to make.

  • @marlaalbert7906
    @marlaalbert7906 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Absolutely! The good guys are beginning to win! The tide is turning! 🌊😎💝💪🙏🏻

  • @ironempath7261
    @ironempath7261 2 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    This is the tone that I need to hear to begin to deal with and heal from this.
    It has taken decades to get anyone to listen. No one in my family knows where I live now. I forgive myself.
    My sister taught me the alphabet.
    I always looked up to her.
    I forgive myself for not recognizing she was a predator.
    "Putting yourself back together" is exactly what this is.
    -I am grateful for your approach.
    -I appreciate that knowing glance at the beginning.
    -I am getting to know the third version of myself.
    -I thank you kindly for words to help me get through another day.
    -I really needed this and I appreciate it.

  • @MrDavid170
    @MrDavid170 2 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    Thankyou for these videos Andrew. Watching these when I feel I need to hear someone understanding what I’ve been through for the last 23 years really helps.
    7 months ago my husband took his own life. He was a very complex person, outgoing and friendly to everyone he met outside the house, but completely different at home. I knew his behaviour wasn’t ‘normal’ but I accepted him for who he was, hoping that one day he would be the husband and father I thought he could be. But that was not to be. I won’t go in to all the relationship details, but let’s say, everything you mention about a narcissistic relationship resonates with me 100%. My husband had delved into a deep depression and refused to get medical help. The day before he died, he told me he’d been having an affair with an old (in my eyes) woman who he’d been ‘friends’ with for years. I was disgusted, applauded and heartbroken. This was not the first affair either btw! I didn’t throw him out, I knew he was very low. He wanted to make it work etc etc. I told him I needed time to think, but in my heart I knew the relationship had reached its end stage. The following morning, after my daughter left for school, he took his own life. I was in the house, he knew I’d find him. He controlled everything to the very end.
    I have done so much reading and research. It was a couple of weeks after his passing that I read about narcissistic personality disorder and relationships. It was like I was reading about my own marriage. It was then I had the light bulb moment as you call it. I do think he also had other mental health disorders too, all completely undiagnosed. As I say, a very complex person. I absolutely did everything to try and make our marriage work, but it was not to be. I am left hurt and saddened by his actions, but I know deep down I couldn’t have done any more. I am now in the process of rebuilding my life for myself and my daughter. So, once again, thanks for the video’s. It’s nice to know they’re there when I feel I need to listen to one ❤

  • @donnamarrie3272
    @donnamarrie3272 ปีที่แล้ว

    "The truth always comes out." Good always outweighs evil 💯 🎯
    Another great video Andrew! Thank you.

  • @zulemaflores1234
    @zulemaflores1234 2 ปีที่แล้ว +44

    Great teaching Andrew! I’m so exhausted, but I had a fabulous day! Enjoy your evening! Take care!

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Thank you 😊☀️🙏

    • @lesclark878
      @lesclark878 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      i hear you the tiredness is the last hurdle for me its been 16 months the tiredness is deep , im sure it will pass 🙏

    • @zulemaflores1234
      @zulemaflores1234 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@lesclark878 the tiredness on me living with the narcissist is no more, it’s long-gone, but I do understand you dear. I was busy! My energy is back. Sometimes we are low in a vitamin from lack of certain fruits or vegetables that our body needs, or maybe iron. I take care of myself more than when I used to live with the narcissist. Sometimes we can be around other people that have a negative energy, this will drain us as well. This is why I can’t be around toxic people.

  • @1Tmally3
    @1Tmally3 2 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    Thank you, Andrew- sending peace, love, and abundance. You have helped so much, this past year. Namaste🙏🙌💪❤🏃‍♀️🕊🦞🌠🌟🌟🌟🌜🎆🎆🏅🎲🎯🕯💡🛡🩹♾🅰️ndrew💯❤❤❤❤❤

  • @shelley2553
    @shelley2553 2 ปีที่แล้ว +29

    I took a class yrs ago..I learned forgiveness is a choice not a feeling. When we choose to forgive no matter who it's is its for us! Not them..we heal..we are free..I still practice this everyday, when thoughts arise I say I forgive..No one is worth our soul..forgive, move on ,heal..Matthew 18:22..Thank you Andrew for another great video..always learning while listening..God bless each and everyone..❤️❤️❤️

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Beautiful message 😊💯❤️🙌

    • @patriciastewart2537
      @patriciastewart2537 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      It DOES feel better, free, after we forgive.
      Go ahead, Andrew:
      Forgive them
      Forget them
      Wish we never met them.
      Move ON.
      Without forgiving we seem stuck in looking back.
      Let them go.

  • @TripleTTribe
    @TripleTTribe 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Always on point, the ruminations trick you into thinking the narcs are skipping off into the sunset with someone new. And life is not that easy as you say Andrew. I know that we are the ones that can move forward with our lives. Leaving them to go round and round in circles finding new supplies wherever they can. They just go round and round, it must be exhausting. I know I was going in circles when I was in a relationship with the narc, and it certainly was exhausting. I have found so much freedom in learning. And like you say the Internet can be a powerful thing for people like us. I remember the encyclopedia 😄. Great stream as always, thank you 🙏🌟🌻

  • @desiderata333
    @desiderata333 2 ปีที่แล้ว +41

    Hi Andrew! Thank you so much for your healing, encouraging words. Thank you for sharing your hard earned wisdom. I am learning to forgive myself, as it has always been super EASY for me to forgive EVERYONE else! You are a pleasure to watch and I think you are a beautiful man. Blessings to you and to everyone here for continued healing and vibrant mental health.
    Bendiciones y amor. Cindy 🌻🌻🌻

  • @9430valjean
    @9430valjean 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Yes, yes, yes forgiveness must extend backward into your childhood wounds. Great video. Congrats on all the people finding healing through your fearless truth telling.

  • @splainyourself9811
    @splainyourself9811 2 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    Something I just realized about a friend of mine (no longer friends), is that she always picks very sweet non confronting people as friends. I believe that is why her true nature was not recognized by me until I went through a bad marriage with a narc. I began to gently confront her and have my own opinion about things and made it known. As I think back, this is when she started to gather new friends around her and started relating to me less. Then came the day when I was a little too harsh with her in my confrontation. Boom, friendship over. I attempted to apologize a few times for my harsh attitude with no response. If I had not experienced that relationship with the narc hub, I probably would have never started confronting my friend. But I had had enough of condesending remarks, as I had experienced enough of that with the hub and was not going to sit back and just take it anymore.

  • @dr.cynthiabroughton1240
    @dr.cynthiabroughton1240 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you, Andrew, for always educating us with the TRUTH, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth! NAMASTE

  • @gratefultobehere
    @gratefultobehere 2 ปีที่แล้ว +31

    So good. I echo the person below congratulating you on reaching 100K - it's happening fast! As you were saying not to take revenge on the narcissist(s) in our lives and to live our best life...I remembered just what some narcs in different seasons hated about me (my peace, my joy - especially laughter, my authentic connections with people, me living out my passions and dreams and so on...) so, with that tidbit shared, I ABSOLUTELY 100% AGREE that living my best life is the best thing I could do. For me, it's never been about money and material items, but those are enjoyable don't get me wrong. It has been about the things I just shared and more. BACK AT IT NOW. NO MORE NARCISSISTS. GOD BLESS YOU and you are so loved here.

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I appreciate your kindness and sharing this message 🙌🙏😊

    • @gratefultobehere
      @gratefultobehere 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone you're welcome

    • @jennifernewton4637
      @jennifernewton4637 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@gratefultobehere Heyyyy Chelseaaaa!!! 🙌🙌🙌😁 How was your day?

    • @jannlewandowski5540
      @jannlewandowski5540 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@gratefultobehere Hey Chelsea, how are ya? I'm doing pretty good today.

    • @gratefultobehere
      @gratefultobehere 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@jennifernewton4637 Hi there Jennifer:) - the day was beautiful and a little productive and a lot relaxing. How was YOUR DAY? Did you make it with enough coffee on hand or did you need to get more?

  • @wendelsbruckenheimer4470
    @wendelsbruckenheimer4470 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    “The good guys are beginning to win”
    Love that. Good vs Evil. We need more light in this world!

  • @laureenchard4512
    @laureenchard4512 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    I believe you are right Andrew. Ill treatment of others is a boomerang. It will come back & smack them in the face. Great video. You always keep it real. You've got something & you've got it in spades. Thank you for all that you do. 🙏🙌👍❤

  • @hummers7342
    @hummers7342 2 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    Thank you Andrew. I'll listen to this again. You have helped me so much. I feel like a tremendous burden has been lifted even on the worse days. God bless.

  • @feliciajoy2264
    @feliciajoy2264 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    :{ PLEASE PEOPLE THAT IS ONE TWO THINGS IV HAD ALL THROUGH THIS..... IS ALL I HAVE IS FAITH, AND IV BEEN ABLE TO FORGIVE ALL AND EVERYONE. ALL THE TIME,,,,, GUYS LEARN TO FORGIVE YOU ARE NOT FORGIVING THENM FOR THEM..... YOU ARE FORGIVEING THEM ..... FOR YOU!!! ITS A BIG GETTING YOUR POWER BACK.... INSTINTLY

  • @karenlacy8950
    @karenlacy8950 2 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    I never wanted revenge. Really don’t care anymore . It’s such a waste of time to spend on a narcissist! So productive to work on yourself and to realize the good things about you! Have a wonderful evening. Blessings. 🎶❣️🦋

  • @annewilliams5715
    @annewilliams5715 2 ปีที่แล้ว +35

    Congratulations on the growth of your channel! While I’m years post narcissistic relationship, I love to listen to your valuable information. It validates everything I went through. I have been through years of work on how my childhood abuse led me to becoming an empath and ultimately a narcissist magnet. Becoming educated is critical to understanding and overcoming the abuse that began with my parents. Stay blessed Andrew, you are special and loved right back!

  • @golnazabaee599
    @golnazabaee599 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    very true. I never thought this day would come, but finally after 7 weeks, in the last few days, I noticed that I am not thinking about the narc anymore and that feeling of indifference seems to be kicking in! It is wonderful!

  • @bettymahoney2692
    @bettymahoney2692 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Always grateful for you sharing ❤

  • @jarroddurant8328
    @jarroddurant8328 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thanks for the virtual hug your truly blessing Andrew Soo Caring for others awesome

  • @jennifernewton4637
    @jennifernewton4637 2 ปีที่แล้ว +53

    I’m sure the shoe IS on the other foot for my ex, and you’re SO right… I couldn’t POSSIBLY care LESS, because I haven’t spoken to him SINCE and never will again. I believe we’ve spent enough time in life together 😉😁👍 Awesome video Andrew! I’m doing out-freaking-standing without him in my life! Hope you have a WONDERFUL evening! 🙌😁👍☀️😉
    Hope everyone had a great day! ❤❤❤ y’all!!!

    • @jannlewandowski5540
      @jannlewandowski5540 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I couldn't care less either. I haven't seen him in YEARS!

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Beautiful empowerment 💪🙏☀️💯😊

    • @jennifernewton4637
      @jennifernewton4637 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone Thank you Andrew🙏 that means a lot! ☺️☺️☺️

    • @emilywilson7308
      @emilywilson7308 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Go, Jennifer!!!🎉

    • @jennifernewton4637
      @jennifernewton4637 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@emilywilson7308 🎉🎉🎉Go ME!!!🎉🎉🎉 😂

  • @coffeegirl6854
    @coffeegirl6854 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Thank you Andrew. So many days I really need to hear that."I am not alone" Thank you

  • @karenzilverberg4699
    @karenzilverberg4699 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thanks, Andrew. 🙏 🕯 🙏

  • @marlaalbert7906
    @marlaalbert7906 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Pre internet here....📚📖🙏🏻💝
    “Live your best life.”
    So important!!!
    The best is yet to come! ❤

  • @lisas1625
    @lisas1625 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Im going thru a huge shift - emerging anew - building my self up and seeing rewards, from my hard work, in my children (who i abused and neglected and am making amends too daily)

  • @RM-mx1ui
    @RM-mx1ui 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Love it Andrew. From England 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿. Your posts are different and spot on. Good for us to hear it from a male perspective too as most commentators are female. Thank you. You are currently keeping me on track. 8 weeks NC. 🙂. No contact ALL the way survivors 🫡
    P.s ‘no battery left’ in their mobile phone quip .. 😭👏

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I appreciate your kindness and honesty thank you for sharing 🙏🙌🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿

  • @elanahammer1076
    @elanahammer1076 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you for your wisdom in humanity.🤔❤🇺🇸

  • @Ascension-wg7bj
    @Ascension-wg7bj 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Beautiufl message Andrew. You Are The Best. Thank you, Kim

  • @debbieramsey2696
    @debbieramsey2696 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Andrew, you are a light at the end of a tunnel. Thank you!

  • @LiveFree123
    @LiveFree123 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I value every message you share with us. 💙

  • @raYrefiedAire
    @raYrefiedAire 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    9:43 ⏩ on point superior message 🙌 thank you for that deeper encouragement

  • @EnjoyingLifeSupernaturally
    @EnjoyingLifeSupernaturally 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Hey friend. thanks for all you do… it’s a huge blessing! I was raised by two extremely abusive narcissistic parents and have been in one after another relationship with guess who… narcissists and I finally got out of them all … Praise God! I am healed and so happy I am now married to an amazing man …. but yes it does take a while to get to the place of forgiveness but from pain suffering and trail and error … healing will NOT manifest unless we forgive them as well… and it is extremely HARD abut you release yourself from all the pain and torment they put us through!! Praise God
    for your channel … Thanks again and for allowing me to comment! ❤
    However you are teaching forgiveness and that’s so awesome….but if we don’t forgive the narcissist for OURSELVES…and YES i agree with you we MUST also forgive OURSELVES
    Again thank you

  • @ellasscraps7734
    @ellasscraps7734 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Hi Andrew and once again thank you for your very informative and important knowledge of this topic. You are right about forgiveness to oneself, to start, and to do shadow work. I will forgive my sister, but l will nevertheless not ever have her in my life again. We need to look after our own energy. Love and blessings from Australia

  • @almightybeanchild
    @almightybeanchild 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Andrew you've changed so much for the better. Like you appear much more confident and wise and knowing in yourself.

  • @leilagomulka5690
    @leilagomulka5690 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Thank you for not leaving us alone 🌹

  • @Rainbowlorikeetbebe
    @Rainbowlorikeetbebe 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You're the best Andrew!
    God bless you 😘

  • @nanam9179
    @nanam9179 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I love how clear you explain everything and your voice is very beautiful. 👌😉 Excellent job!

  • @lynnfincham6839
    @lynnfincham6839 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Morning Andrew, the narcs circles or groupies, become less for them in time. They end up being isolated. This is because no one will put up with their B/S anymore . They become alone. As they age they become more alone as they don’t have the influence over folk anymore . They become sad individuals. This is their karma

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you for sharing this 🙌💯☀️

    • @countrystud1986
      @countrystud1986 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Absolutely agree. Others mature, have close work relationships or build families, and the narc is still there yelling and asking everyone to look at them; even posting on social media doesn't work after a while, and as they pass middle age it becomes much tougher for them to seek out other 'new groups' since most others have matured, wised up and are established with true caring relationships. I've learned to pity the narcissists as a group while also becoming indifferent to ones specific to my life.

  • @surlif
    @surlif 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you! Sure needed to hear this. I have now heard just how bad the smear campaign against me has been and how awful the blame shifting was for several decades. I was feeling like I wanted to find a way to tie a bunch of people down in a room together and be able to tell them off for days and days. I was picturing them begging me for even a glass of water. I will think different thoughts and find me again and heal and stop thoughts of tying people down to tell them off!! I know it is not a good thing to think that way. I will instantly think of what I can do for myself and try not to give any more energy to the narcs in my life.

  • @christielawrence4640
    @christielawrence4640 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Andrew, thank you, again..
    Blessings on you and yours for how you help us.

  • @paulakelley6007
    @paulakelley6007 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Namaste Andrew 🙏😌 Well said AGAIN! Continue to let your light so shine that ALL may see your good works. 💖 #surthriver💪

  • @lorifreeman2230
    @lorifreeman2230 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Living my best life is all the justice I need. I've forgiven ex and child. For my recovery and mine alone. Thank you Andrew for all you do 🙏❤️

  • @terrirobson9043
    @terrirobson9043 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Congratulations ❣️ Andrew on providing your insight to a growing number of people!!! Thank you for this message. It couldn't have come at a better time. Enjoy your day ~~ Blessings 💜🙏💜

  • @lindagodwin3680
    @lindagodwin3680 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I really needed to hear this!❤❤❤🎉

  • @danmcdonald8522
    @danmcdonald8522 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Excellent video Andrew. The narc is a stubborn nuisance. These creatures are out for their own gain. Hopefully they fall over themselves and never get up again. Stay away. God bless

  • @lorraineannheron3515
    @lorraineannheron3515 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    After going through this, you talk so much sense thank you so much blessings and love ❤️😊

  • @izawaniek2568
    @izawaniek2568 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Truth will always win, and IT will set us free! God bless you Andrew.

  • @warriormom5843
    @warriormom5843 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I think my onion has made the Guinness Book by now for most layers peeled away over a lifetime. Encyclopedia Brittanica of onions. A cathartic cry for a lifetime! 🧅😭😩But the education and immense amount of information coming together as the mask is destroyed and the veils are being lifted, well, this is a lightening of being like nothing else. This tribe led by you, Andrew, has helped to save me from such a darkness that for a time, I didn’t think I’d ever escape. Thank you from the bottom of my heart and my mind’s labyrinth, now open to my indigo. 💟☮️🕉

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      You are amazing and blessed..sending healing energy and strength 🙌🙏☀️😊

    • @jennifernewton4637
      @jennifernewton4637 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      That’s BEAUTIFUL!!! 🥹🤗🤗🤗

    • @warriormom5843
      @warriormom5843 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@jennifernewton4637 we are finding our pearls hidden away under sand-covered hardened shells; let our beauty be opened anew.

    • @jennifernewton4637
      @jennifernewton4637 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@warriormom5843 That’s BEAUTIFUL! 🥹😊

  • @bridgemixx3653
    @bridgemixx3653 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Omg, this is exactly what I needed to hear this minute. Thank you🙏

  • @erintighe8795
    @erintighe8795 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Such a nice message. Thank you. Namaste🙏🏼

  • @thomasdonau5140
    @thomasdonau5140 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Comforting and reassuring thoughts, Andrew, that most here probably need.

  • @diyashortmovies1600
    @diyashortmovies1600 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Man your videos has healed me 70 percent. Thank you.

  • @MJ-qb5ph
    @MJ-qb5ph 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    One thing I have noticed with toxic narcs is that they can get struck down with chronic illness - stroke heart attack and even stage four cancer - I have seen this. You cannot be that toxic and it not come back on the narc

  • @Charliemike01
    @Charliemike01 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You’re the best 🙏🏼✨😊✨🫶🏻. Please remain humble
    I guess I don’t need to say that to you because you are authentic and down to earth genuine. We just really love you. I love your flow and ease now and you smile more often
    Radiant 🙌

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thank you sincerely.. I appreciate this message more than you know..🙏☀️🙌❤️

  • @r.w.6556
    @r.w.6556 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I love this channel so much. Namaste Andrew thanks for this video!

  • @sandrazawada5316
    @sandrazawada5316 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    When I found out my ex (narc) did not love me and was only using and abusing me, somehow I got strong. He tried to control me but I would not let him. For a few years I was actually stronger than he was. He went into a deep depression. Then at some point in time he turned our children against me and they really started abusing me. So much so that I had to leave. But as I look back, it is amazing how strong I became in a very short amount of time. I started setting boundaries -- even with the children. When I would take them somewhere, they would start degrading me and cussing at me, I would stop the car and they would have to walk. Things like that. But they did not like being disciplined especially by the one they had been disrespecting for so long. After I left my ex withheld what I was to get out of the house. I told him if I did not get the money I asked for I would sue him for half of everything. Well, I got the money in short order. I say all of that because my husband was weak; he was not a brave person at all. He definitely buckled when I exerted myself. Those two years taught me a lot.

  • @Shyann1
    @Shyann1 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You are sooo RIGHT Andrew !!! 💯 God Bless U 🙏🌺🌹

  • @chrispalmer3969
    @chrispalmer3969 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Another excellent video Andrew, I still and always will call these people "EXCUSES FOR HUMANS"

  • @karenseeleylyon4471
    @karenseeleylyon4471 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Powerful reading Andy thanks 🙏🙏🙏😊

  • @blya8978
    @blya8978 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you Andrew! Narcissistic person never put him or herself in the emphat shoes! They always right and win without regard for anyone else’s feelings! The best solution is dump him or her and give more to yourself that you have deprived all your life ❤😅

  • @Linda-gs3cx
    @Linda-gs3cx 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I have been that young naive woman. I have been that worried worn down wife. I am looking forward to being that older wiser been there done that strong independent woman I know that I am inside. Third me here I come!

  • @terrim9885
    @terrim9885 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Thank you, again, Andrew! I appreciate your focus on the survivor and not on getting even with the perp. Any people who target another person for (often stealth) destruction, through smear campaigns, recruiting members for the AAAA - AKA The Aviation Association of Airborne Apes, 😀AKA "flying monkeys," hacking electronics, work/livelihood sabotage attempts, stalking, etc, are VERY troubled. These people often end up hanging in the noose they set for their target/s. And it isn't what we wanted for them. We would have rather seen them happy and whole and productive and healthy. But we can't control their choices.
    I also believe that when we harbor animosity for these folks, we can turn into the very thing we are trying to fight against. I believe in fighting evil with good, and loving our enemies, even if we have to do it behind bomb proof walls. And always putting our focus into our own healing and the good things we want to do in our lives. We can be an example for the freshly hurt and bewildered ones. An encouragement and a hope for them. These are the ones who deserve our attention. For the abusers? They are making their own bed. I love your quietly strong, non-violent ways. God bless you!
    Also: I like movies. Am working on another script. Guess what it is about? You probably guessed it. Narc abuse. A woman overcoming a lot of bloodless psychological "mistreatment," but with very brief, if any, self-pity. No matter what happens with it, I know I need to write it.

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Beautiful message of inspiration and growth..🙏🙌☀️😊💯

  • @julielewis3598
    @julielewis3598 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thanks again for your ongoing words of wisdom Andrew. I will always wear the shoes of empathy in spite of recent events. I have learnt so much this past five months about gaslighting and narcissistic behaviour. I'm richer for the experience and hope I can continue walking on the healing pathway knowing that there see still good people in this world. Strength and love to all 😍

  • @KadyPowellAEROPOLEONEKD
    @KadyPowellAEROPOLEONEKD 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Coming back STILL for my daily Andrew fix ❤❤❤ and Andrew IS correct …PLEASE continue with the path he is speaking about!!! 3 months post separation after a 6 month wait period of torture awaiting dissolution of home and business in an isolated area after physically building a house and business with a covert malignant…the mountain of education and healing and acceptance…the onion is seemingly never ending ….keep processing , keep diving into the REASONS why You got involved to begin with ….Andrew saved MY LIFE and I owe him so much gratitude 🙏

  • @michaeleckert5877
    @michaeleckert5877 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you.This is so true today.What happens is everyone will eventually deal with pain and agony.It is a vicious cycle. Your insight is bringing this to light.I appreciate you.

  • @jeanninewalton
    @jeanninewalton 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I soak up everything you talk about Andrew thank you so very much God bless take care ❤️

  • @valeriebogand7073
    @valeriebogand7073 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Wonderful message, Andrew ❤️

  • @karenseeleylyon4471
    @karenseeleylyon4471 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Yeah get it Andy and so true . Sending love from England 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿🙏🙏❤️❤️

  • @debramartinez3087
    @debramartinez3087 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Just a quick break to say hello to you & your tribe - blessings of sweet peace & beautiful dreams..... Shalom 🙏😘🌙

  • @vv-cv6ud
    @vv-cv6ud 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Yes awakening is happening . Thanks Andrew ❤

  • @jjasmina778
    @jjasmina778 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Sending you a huge hug back🤗Thank you Andrew💙

  • @blackout8105
    @blackout8105 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Does not matter if it’s now or back. It’s a resource that you live and realize, understand and determine if it’s for you or it is not! Thank you for the message and just remembering something. It’s all an eye opener. Blessings to you.

  • @maytruthprevail4668
    @maytruthprevail4668 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Andrew, I cannot tell you how much this video meant to me. I was thinking how unfair it is for nice people to get stomped on by the Narcissist who disappears unfazed into the gloom, very happy with the new supply. But your video of the shoe on the other foot, reiterates that what goes around, comes around, and if the narc is putting out horrible deeds, chances are the tides will turn, and the narc will get his just desserts. Yes, there is an awakening, a global shift, although we come across blatant lying, cheating, treachery, slowly and surely the change is being felt by many people who are awake to the shift. God bless you for being encouraging and a wholesome, loving healer. Thank you Andrew.

  • @Liz13IamFree
    @Liz13IamFree 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    My domestic abuse advocate and I just talked about my anger and thoughts of vengeance against him. I so badly want him to get what I feel is his just Karma. She said, Laurie you are evolving! You have been peeling back the layers of the abuse you endured. These are normal feelings and thoughts, as long as you aren't acting on them. Which you won't, because it is not who you are. Please don't be so hard on yourself. Feel the feelings. Sit with them and let them go. None of this is easy.

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Beautiful progress 🙌🙏☀️

    • @Liz13IamFree
      @Liz13IamFree 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone thank you, Andrew! 😇✌❤ Such a difficult journey for sure!

  • @alonzomosley7
    @alonzomosley7 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I am in my sixties ,years ago we never knew about narcissistic abuse .I am informed now ,but its still not rainbows and butterflies .

  • @maryannecomment3302
    @maryannecomment3302 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    The shoe was already on the other foot. Narcisists always feel empty inside because all their relationships are in fact just business as usual. The narcisist does not understand your empathy and thinks it is just weakness or that you are just dumb or naieve. They are not open to receiving empathy at all, so they look just for opportunities. Like people look for bargins on the marketplace or at the supermarket. There is nothing personal going on, they are just permanently in their own survivingmode, inherited from their childhood. You as an empath, are so much better off, because you are able to enjoy life. They can steal your resources but their life will remain empty.

  • @julieschaefer9964
    @julieschaefer9964 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Great topic! Thank you, Andrew.

  • @debramartinez3087
    @debramartinez3087 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Slalom ! good morning, peace be onto you & your tribe, I worked late last nite & didn't get to see you're lesson till this morning, in my journey towards healing & rebuilding myself I did learn that forgiveness is very important as much as being focused,11/2 months ago you made me realize I was holding on to pain from the past (you said it a different way but I caught on) I did alot of crying & discarding , adding boundaries & no contact but at the same time I forgave each of them for adding pain to my life since I was 9, the hardest was forgiving myself for situations I thought were my fault but just learned this year they were not, I heard that if one doesn't forgive those who hurt , then I won't achieve true peace or joy, so I worked on it for 2 months & I'm glad to say I'm over it-🤗 now I'm working on my 3rd version of my authentic self & opening up to showing emotions & not hiding them like your short#16 just adds to my new life & protecting my peace & joy.... thanks for being on the other end... May Yeshua always bless you in His love, peace & joy -Shalom 💥🙏💖

  • @rustyshackleford4299
    @rustyshackleford4299 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Blessed are the meek, for they shall inherit the earth.

  • @fermentedgenius1347
    @fermentedgenius1347 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Great message. Thankyou. I am having a big awakening atm. To realise that I have been groomed by Ns my entire life to keep in the subservient position, waking up to that fact is not easy, but to realise that it doesn't have to be that way. Going beyond the shame and getting stronger in staying in my Higher Self, pure awareness, connecting to Nature, is my current practise as I am trying to extracate myself from the many (unfortunately) Ns in my life, especially the marriage partner who I still have to sort things out with.

  • @ericrobbins9399
    @ericrobbins9399 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    The shoe is on the other foot. This narcissist fed off of drama. For the first half of this year she had all this offense. However the narc dug a big hole for herself in credibility. The state police laugh at her after she calls them. The court system is now not taking her seriously. She’s posted constantly about me on social media in her smear campaign. People are now getting tired of her calling. Oh yes and she called businesses I frequent putting me down. Doing nothing is the best strategy because she looks even more stupid for keeping the harassment up. Honestly I work two jobs and take care of family. She has all the time in the world and chooses her dark narrow path ways. The winds of change is already here. By doing nothing I increase. Through her crazy attacks she’s declining. No one is taking her actions seriously.

  • @ruthiedavis8786
    @ruthiedavis8786 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Hey everybody 🖐🏾 Blessings 💯 Andrew great video and many thanks. I've put the past behind me and living in the now. My ex is a very distance memory. I dare me to wake up thinking about him everyday and if I should, I just laugh it off 🤣 I know he wish I would spend my days thinking about him but I am just to busy enjoying the life I have now. Have a good night everybody ❤️✌🏽🙏🏽

  • @jasonvawter3625
    @jasonvawter3625 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thanks Andrew for the continuum of these videos.. they really help.. God Bless you, and everyone watching 🙏

  • @margaretrussell7202
    @margaretrussell7202 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    So grateful to you Andrew. It is great now to be able to help others when I can now recognise what is troubling them and it is usually narcissism of some shape or form. There sure is an awful lot of it in this world. Thank you always Andrew 🙏

  • @collegegirl201418
    @collegegirl201418 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    really good message tonight have a good evening Andrew namaste 🙏

  • @rodneymartel452
    @rodneymartel452 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Every Narcissist will fail at a certain point in time. Given how Narcissistic people tend flow in patterns and cycles. This is only a matter of time before they are at the bottom of the heap. Very few recover from this Narcissistic injury.

  • @carlosgiron1246
    @carlosgiron1246 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Great topic thank you for the video. Well I'm post narcissistic relationship, discarded, and have gone no contact. My heart is broken and I'm working on healing. My first mistake was looking at his social media and I regretted it. It was like opening a healing wound, I was devastated to see him with another guy. Having brand new things and him having a good time and being happy and not even thinking about me. But I found out that when I ignored him completely, he started trying harder to show me his new life. But now I'm realizing that it's a lie . Nobody is that happy all day everyday, and if he really is I wish him the best. Now I have a new job. Am starting to get a few friends I'm definitely going to rise up from the ashes better. It's hard sometimes but I'm not giving up. So I'm still working very hard to be the best me I can be. Thanks everyone and love and blessings to everyone in this community.

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Sending healing energy and strength 🙌🙏☀️

    • @jennifernewton4637
      @jennifernewton4637 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I know it’s tough, Carlos 😞 Have you blocked him and all mutual friends? For ME that was PARAMOUNT! In a way it “burned those bridges” so that I couldn’t go back even if I WANTED to, and I knew that before I took that step… that’s why it has worked so well for me. You take that step WHEN YOU’RE READY and PREPARED to cut those ties. Then you don’t look back and question if you did the right thing. You KNOW the ONLY direction IS forward. 😁👍 I wish you the BEST of luck with that, and make sure YOU are prepared when you decide to take that step!

    • @margaretrussell7202
      @margaretrussell7202 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Jennifer, that’s wonderful advice for Carlos. Wishing him the very best too.

    • @jennifernewton4637
      @jennifernewton4637 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@margaretrussell7202 Thank you, Margaret 🤗🤗🤗

  • @justintime4692
    @justintime4692 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Keep up the great work Andrew! 👏👏👏🏆

  • @jannlewandowski5540
    @jannlewandowski5540 2 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    Hi Andrew. Healing is the hardest thing to do regardless of who discarded who? It doesn't matter, we still suffer. My ex had no friends at all! I remember the look on his face when I ended it. I still believe they are MONSTERS bcse of what the do to us. My heart broke when I left him, and it took years to recover. Whatever he went thru is beyond me. I'm sure KARMA will take care of him. Very good video, Andrew.♥️💙BTW, CONGRATULATIONS!!!

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I appreciate your kindness thank you for sharing this 🙏☀️😊

    • @jannlewandowski5540
      @jannlewandowski5540 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      So glad I found you! 😃

    • @gratefultobehere
      @gratefultobehere 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      There's no winner in narcissistic abuse for sure. I'm glad you're on this side of healing now. Thank You GOD!

    • @smithashekhar9539
      @smithashekhar9539 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Karma is action. Karma phala is the fruit for the action. 🙏🏼yes everyone gets their karma phala.

  • @richardpetts5149
    @richardpetts5149 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Morning Andrew, enjoyed listening to you this morning, thank you

  • @tinavifquain6958
    @tinavifquain6958 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    ' Awareness-Understanding-Change ' ! ' ! ❤ ! " Responsibility Matters for ALL Lives " !

  • @MC-pd4sr
    @MC-pd4sr 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you, Andrew. I always look forward to your videos. You've really helped me a ton!

  • @viktorija4485
    @viktorija4485 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Andrew thanks from all my heart... I need this so much right now. Yes it's urge for revenge or something to do, but...now I know not to react and heal is the best way. I cryed when you said you are not alone. I hope so...Namaste.🙏🏻

  • @Amber-dq4ot
    @Amber-dq4ot ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You're an angel 🌻🌻🌻

  • @michignamymichigan
    @michignamymichigan 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you so much Andrew! ♥️