Last year our second child was born the day after my husband’s 30th birthday, which means we spent the entirety of his birthday in the hospital. He thanked me for having the “best birthday party and gift ever.”
I was born the day after my dad's birthday too and 32 years later I'm still the best birthday gift he's ever gotten. It's always been fun celebrating our birthdays together.
My children’s father is the same and still to this day. Looks over at our middle baby and says you’re the best birthday present I ever got…..❤ As it should be.
PSA: If your wife does ANY income-producing work in addition to the housework, then you don't have a tRAdiTiONaL marriage, you just have a marriage where your wife does more work than you and does not get acknowledgement.
Traditionally, women who weren't wealthy typically did other work, like weaving, soap making, spinning, etc. in addition to homemaking to make money for the family. It's where the term "cottage industry" comes from, so no, it's not nOt tRaDiTiOnAl. HOWEVER, I 100% agree that valuing your spouse and their work - in every form - is of paramount importance, and sharing household work and parenting is perfectly traditional and just plain the right thing to do.
This is the same type of guy who "dies" if he has a cold. OMG what is wrong with this person and why does these people get even any attention 😮 One day she'll wake up and will be so embarrassed. Probably when he left her for another woman...If my husband would be disrespectful like that. It would be over immediately.
It's worse it's horrible especially after takes you a long time to recover properly I would have rather had natural births but unfortunately I couldn't
The fact that she constantly asks if he’s upset or acts like she’s doing something wrong, that’s a very clear indicator that he is emotionally abusive behind the camera.
@@StormyHallahanin other cases, yes. but with his behavior ON camera, it’s not hard to link her insecurities to worse behavior from him OFF camera. If it’s that bad publicly, it’s likely worse in private
@@druidonshrooms It’s not though. There’s many reasons people do that. She could be saying that because she’s empathetic and is one way she shows love to those she cares about. It shows that she values self awareness and accountabikity. Matt also has ADHD and if you have that too like I do, being checked in on every now and then by your partner is normal because its a common way for them to show support. You guys are being so accusational and ignorant about them and it’s actually cruel because its based on nothing except presumptions and your own narrative filling the blanks. It’s also very clear that your own insecurities are making you prejudiced because there are different ways to interpret many things he/they are being accused of and all of your immediate reactions stem from a place of defensiveness and victimhood. Try to actually understand their perspectives and their reality before making your final judgements because it’s so clear none of you have bothered to.
Abby gives me the vibe that she's chasing for Matt's validation because he's all she has, while Matt is chasing external validation through social media.
Which is probably true. Mid 20s with 4 kids (is that right?) it would be terrifying to try anything else. Give her a few years and she'll realize she's trapped and can do much better on her own.
I agree. It’s unforgivably cruel. I believe that Matt is a narcissist - my father is a diagnosed narcissistic sociopath and they are completely alike. Matt felt that the second baby would ruin his life and career and ‘punished’ Abby by not talking to her for a week after the baby was born! He then travelled to another part of the country to record music… and left her alone, with a newborn, still recovering from a c-section! It sends the message that her needs, and the baby’s needs, are not as important as Matt’s. It’s textbook devaluation. 😔
It's so sad, having a baby should be a time when you feel held and supported by everyone around you. I would have lost my mind if my husband gave me the silent treatment right after I gave birth!
Thought the exact same thing after my first born. It’s a message from the universe when your hormones are raging, your intuition is high that “this is not right girl”. I also think as much as she shares online, she holds even more inside and deep down is silently suffering but is under too much pressure to be honest with herself and bolt. She seems to do a lot of “convincing” how their marriage is hard but divorce isn’t an option.
if my husband gave me a workout set as a push present i'd buy him a gym membership for every birthday and christmas for the rest of his life and if he asked me for something else i'd give him divorce papers
We know that usual saying right? "Empty vessels make more noice"😂 And in my culture there's another saying as well in Indian Telugu language- 'Emi Leni aaku egiri egiri padthathi, Anni unna aaku anigi manigi undathi'. Context- here in Southern Part of Indian, we eat food in Banana leaves for sustainability & delicious taste since thousands of years ago. Translation- A leaf that has all food ingredients stays still & low but the one that doesn't have any, blows & rolls away by wind making a scene.
A MAN being disappointed that his children will slow down his career fills me with actual burning rage. Women have always had their careers decimated for children, leaving their bodies permanently changed. Not to mention bosses and hiring managers being unwilling to hire moms because they are seen as less “dedicated” and are not respected in the professional roles even though dads don’t get that treatment.
I’m sure they have problems and stuff but it’s a free country they can say what they want because they r adults. We’re not 100% sure they r unhappy so y hate on them. Sure u have small evidence but u don’t really know. And everything thing that they post they both agree to it soooooo. Not tryna hate on u either just giving my point of view.
When a woman says, "My husband takes care of the finances, I'm just not good at it," RED FLAG!!!!!!! You need to know exactly how much money you have, what bills are paid, investments, etc. Please, please!! Many women of the previous generation ended up totally financially screwed if they got divorced. If you don't understand, please learn. Do not let yourself be in that position...ever.
This! That’s a scary situation to be in. This is how men end up spending a ton of money on girls online, in clubs, Having a side relationship or a totally secret life. They are DUAL finances and she knows nothing about it, she probably just signs papers without reading which could end up very badly if they ever split
Not even divorced, just if their husband died. Working at a bank I dealt with multiple older women who had no credit score because nothing was ever in their name. It's sad.
Even then, household chores=everyday, paying bills=once a month Also the whole thing about a traditional marriage, YALL ARE BOTH WORKING AT HOME!!! a traditional marriage is him going out and working and providing for the whole family. Idk what's going on with his brain
The way he actually complained about not having a shower for two days after she just GAVE BIRTH. This is a man child. And I feel like she’s gaslighting herself into believing this is normal.
She does believe it. I did and 20 something years later, the wake up call is something. You realize when you’ve poured all of you into everything but you’re the only one. Now it’s taken a bad toll on my health.
Ok so if a woman was gRaped and she showered once or multiple times daily as a coping mechanism if she has a wife that just gave birth and complaints about not having show in two days do we sit here and SHIT ON HER for complaining because her wife just gave birth? No. Some people have legitimate undiagnosed psychological issues that cause them to NEED certain routines in their lives like shower or they literally shut down or become emotionally erratic. You don't personally know that man and its ok to give a pass to a woman who was gRaped in situation, but not someone who's mental health you know nothing about? Do kick rocks.
The only saving grace for her children is that her parents live with them. Hopefully, they're providing the care that the husband won't. She's emotionally insecure and thinks she doesn't deserve better. One day he'll find someone "better" prettier (to him), younger, no children so that he can have the full package.
My narc father was the same when my baby sister was born. He would walk around the house saying he was going to divorce my step mom because she wasn't giving him as much attention as before. Acting like the baby was more important. 😐😡😱 what the actual F. I moved out shortly after. Couldn't take his selfish BS anymore. We spoke the other day because I needed someone, anyone to talk to. Mentioned I felt I was breaking down, and he said, "I don't care. Go talk to a counselor or something."
I had a childhood like that, my partner ensures I don't feel the need to ask him if he's mad. Sure I still do it but not in these situations, not over and over again, and not with fear in my voice. Mostly just out of habit. He's made it a point that if I do ask that, he's doing something wrong. So it's on me but it's also on him. This could be a small issue, but it jumps out at me as well.
The videos where HE IS THE ONE who set up the camera and then is acting all nice…. I don’t know how people don’t see through that????? It’s all a show.
It’s really disturbing-any condition that is vulnerable should NOT be placed on the internet for public consumption. Her condition in post op-any condition someone is sick or in distress- don’t take advantage. It’s cruel. The hospital I work at-NO cameras or pictures are permitted-and they don’t play (federal government hospital). They will take your phone. If you are an employee, you will be terminated.
In this case it's vastly more complicated, as they both make their living off online using their personal lives. It still shouldn't be done, but whether or mot it is a douchebag move is extremely complicated and not as simple as. Y/N
I knew something seemed off whenever he recorded her recovering from surgeries. Idk to each their own but I personally would not like to be treated like that. She seems like such a lovely person that's why I watched their vids all the time, not for him tho.
This is the same guy in the “I’m pregnant again” video consoling his freaking out wife telling her it will all be ok, yet once his second child arrives a little over a year after his first gives his wife the silent treatment because “his life was over” having a second child! He realized having 2 babies meant Abby couldn’t take care of them both all by herself and he actually had to step up and be a father 🤦🏼♀️
The fact he pointed out HE grilled. That means he literally wanted to sit there doing nothing at all while his pregnant wife ran around treating him like a king and everyone to give all the attention. My toddler son is less of a baby than he is
Or he just wanted the validation and to be accredited for being the one who gRiLLed on his birthday 🫠😂 this man just screams insecure and wants so much attention and credit and validation
In my house, he always grills!!! It's man bragging rights or something. Even if it was his birthday, his friends would lose it and make fun of him because his wife was grilling. I don't know if I am explaining it right but.... He loves when I make grill events. He wants to Even grill for Christmas.
And the fact they don’t say which one of them prepared all the food to be put on the grill….My boyfriend always says thank you to me even after he bbq’d. Because he says that’s the easy part of it all, me preparing it is the work. I say thank you back to him for cooking it so well because I wouldn’t be able to.
They both need to get a grip. I’ve dated a narcissist before - this is exactly what they look like. It’s the little comments that add up & they’re meant to break her down, bit by bit. She needs to feel so low so that he can feel better about himself.
Okay, that clip on the couch. Why does she look exhausted physically,spiritually and emotionally but he’s fresh tanned, hair on point and perfect skin? She literally has the comfort pillow!!!!
Cause she literally was just home from gallbladder surgery after giving birth with a newborn at home and in severe pain and he chose that’s was what needed to be recorded.
@@jackchop1576 good for you?? What is the point of this comment? To minimize others abuse, or difficulties because you prefer a different type of abuse?
I do it too sometimes. But that is how my parents would act towards each other and towards us as the kids. So I didn't really have a good example 😂 I am very aware of how damaging and just awful behavior silent treatment is. And it's indeed a bad trait to have. I don't do it for long tho, because everything in my guts is longing for connection again 😂
my son was born a day before my husbands birthday.. he was sad he wasn’t born ON his birthday so they could share it. He said our son was the best birthday present he could ever have
Yeah I get that! My son was born on my birthday and I am really happy we can share! I don't really care for my birthday (since I was like 20) and now we can just throw him a party and have the visitors on one day 😂
Right?! My daughter was born on her late fathers birthday (ironically I also got pregnant with her 5 months after we had our 1st!) and he always referred to her as the best present he ever got. He spent the whole day taking care of and supporting me. We were at the hospital for 4 days and he slept on this tiny little couch. He never once complained. 2 years later our 3rd was born the day before my birthday and I was so sad that it wasn't the same day. After that neither of us ever really celebrated our birthdays again. I mean, kind of, but it was mostly for the kids. It was never a big deal and I couldn't imagine being the type of person, or being with a person, who whined about their birthday not being special enough.
"The reason our marriage is strong is because for us divorce is not an option" sounds like a hostage situation much more than an aspirational message. Wtf.
It also sounds like "we're only together because we HAVE to be" I'd much rather my partner is with me because he WANTS to be with me lol but maybe that's just me (and every other sane person)
@@rosesweetcharlottethe thing is their marriage can work but he’s not taking the steps to grow up and be a man. If he actually wanted to change and improve himself as a father and husband, they’d have a great marriage. But he’s a manchild and wants a mommy not a wife
Yes! The movement for family bloggers to stop posting their children’s faces is great but it’s not far reaching enough! Talking about them or about your feelings towards your children if they aren’t positive is so potentially damaging to the child when they eventually see the content. Also all their friends and family know the content is about them so although they will be more protected from internet weirdos, all the people you associate with will know what was said about you- I can’t imagine!
All of their fans are now flooding these comments basically saying the same thing. It’s so sad and yet so funny and ridiculous. They really will defend these people until they have nothing left in their souls. They are willing to die on this hill that these people are soulmates and super healthy and don’t have any relationship problems and we’re just judging and we have no idea because we’re on the outside looking in.
This is it! I don’t think people should generally pass comment on other people’s marriages, but if you’re putting your entire life online for the rest of us to watch, you should expect comments.
22:24 DUDE THATS LIKE WTF IT MEANS TO BE A FATHER , YOU PUT YOUR DREAMS TO THE WAYSIDE FOREVER AND NOW UR LIFE IS HELOJNG YOYR CHILD REACH HIS DREAMS, MATT , MATT, ITS NOT ABOUT YOU ANYMORE. MY GOD HES SUCH A NARCISSIST
that's not a marriage, its a business partnership. no genuine loving cpl would ever put their lives and kids online 24/7 for money. their priority is money, fame, their indivudual wants, their marriage.
Its only rare that fathers day lands on your birthday like bro💀 If my dad was born in june and it happened to him i know he would be happy and love the idea that it happened 😭
Honestly I've heard horror stories about my mother's best friend where when her birthday fell on Mother's Day her mother refused to celebrate it because it was Mother's Day
Getting an XS work out set for your wife as a “gift” for her growing your baby for 9 months and going through excruciating surgery to deliver the baby is the most disgusting thing I’ve ever heard.
SERIOUSLY!!!! UTTERLY DISGUSTING AND DISTURBING. May she never have to succumb to his sick and selfish whims, I hate this relationship for her so much.
I’m surprised Matt was mad that his birthday was on Father’s Day , it’s literally a day for for fathers and he is one , normal fathers would be happy since the universe literally gave them a sign that they were gonna be a father
My birthday fell on mother's day this year and my mom didn't really want to share the day- but when I was a kid and it landed on it, the day was way more fair for me. I'm basically saying I hope no matter how old ur kid is he's always excited to share.
That conversation about the silent treatment hurt my heart. When I had my C section my fiance was getting me food, literally helping me shower and put on fresh pads and underwear, looking after the baby, driving back and forth to our house to look after our pets, and he had had minimal sleep for 3 days because thats what a loving and supportive partner and dad does. THE SILENT TREATMENT! Is he serious??
I know - how devastating. Could you imagine your partner throwing a pity party for themselves while you’re over here just trying to not be in pain and take care of a newborn. God awful
@@e.babybaby particularly with the hormones!! 4days after a baby I was so hormonal the nurse found my crying at cardi B twerking at the VMAs because she just looked like she was having a good time. I can't imagine that combination of hormonal and dealing with a stroppy man baby husband with his one man pity party.
I really and truly thought the "cheat" thing was about losing weight. Like, isn't it crazy that you can lose 8 pounds (or whatever) in minutes? I died when I realized he meant "cheating birth". Furious.
I would have died if my mom hadn't gotten a c-section. Besides me almost dying, she said that she did actually prefer it to a natural birth. Maybe it was cheating, but even though she felt really sore afterwards and had to go back to the hospital to fix her stitches, she loved knowing exactly what was happening, when it was happening, and when it would be over.
Her feeling bad for being 123lbs after giving birth is insane, especially because of his remarks. Thats 55kg, thats a normal weight... So sad. And even if it wasnt, SHE JUST GAVE BIRTH.
It’s not normal- and what I mean by that is that she’s much smaller than the average woman in America so she shouldn’t feel bad at alllll. I agree, it’s insane
Ya like what??? I’m a small girl and that’s my healthy weight, even working out 5 days a week I was 120-128. Only time I was less was when I wasn’t eating 😬
It depends on how tall she is. BMI goes down one point with every4 lbs so someone who is 5'2" and 125 will have the same BMI as someone who is 5'6" and 141lbs
Notice how the wife on anesthesia is Constantly saying "don't get mad at me" doesn't that mean he gets mad at her often??? often enough that she remembers it even on anesthesia like WTF
I found that extremely odd , the fact that she looks freaked out that he's mad ?? Abby said she grew up in a good household her mom was kind and her dad was kind to her , but to be afraid of her husband is scary .
Yeah, that is very weird. She kept saying it constantly which is concerning too. Also, Matt seems to be controlling with the “gender roles” she is trapped because he controls the finances 😬😬
I remember seeing a screenshot of someones dating app chat on twitter and the guy said he wants a traditional housewife that does the cleaning/childcare etc. and the girl (the poster) said she was totally down for that. but then when she said she's happy to stay at home and not get a job he got so defensive saying he doesn't want to be the only one earning money for her to leech off of. these men don't want a traditional relationship they want an employee.
Yeah I have seen so many "traditional" men looking for "trad wife" but then get mad when he has to pay for everything or she asks how much money he makes. Lmao do they not realize the traditional role of a man is to be the provider which means to pay for everything so of coursw the woman should know how much he makes to be financially secure. They really do want a mom for themselves and not a wife/sahm.
0:17 ik people say don’t ask questions you don’t want the answer to… but like men if ur lady asks this, don’t ever say yes. Like 😭 that is soul crushing
@@alsolark3029originally Matt and Abby moved super far away when Abby was having their 1st baby. I believe by the time the second came around, her parents moved in.
@@OneIncomeSuperSaver excuse me??? WE act like children?????? this GROWN MAN ignored his wife when she needed him the MOST just after GIVING BIRTH TO A CHILD HE HELPED CREATE. he made her feel ALONE after she just went thru the trauma of bringing a child into the world. read that again untill you get it if he knew that having children would get in the way from his career then he should have, yknow communicated that with his wife and perhaps waited to have children??
@@lilkitty2396 Many generation prefers manly masculine men. Women today have it way too easy. I can see why men don’t want American women and are now marry women from other countries
Women should 100% be involved in the bills so they are never blindsided and have full understanding of the family financial situation no matter how amazing your partner is.
exactly. you can be SO happy for 5, 10, 20 years and you can still end up single. my brother just divorced from his 25 year marriage and she only knew how to spend money
Yeah Abby saying how he handles all that stuff so it's an equal partnership makes me just think he lies to her that it's a lot more work than it actually is, so he can get away with doing nothing. And he has an incentive to be in control of all the bills etc so he can make dumb purchases or potentially cover up weird transactions like only fans lmao
100%!!!! Me and my husband go half on everything and I'm involved with what is going on with the bills as much as he is. We have our own bank accounts and only have joint for the bills. It works so well for us.
I wish more women would read your comment and do it. I also wish 23 yr old me had been told that, but most women told me how nice it must be to have a husband that took care of that, and I didn't have to worry about it. Wrong. It's a symptom of a bigger issue going on inside the marriage. Mine was cheating, amongst many other things, and if I had been part of paying the bills I would have known right away instead of 18 years later. His use of the silent treatment is also very concerning to me and the way she justifies/excuses it all by trying to tell us we don't really know them is a farce. Deep down she knows it, too.
Sadly, they got together so young, she likely had no perspective of how his personality and behavior would transition into adulthood. I’m only partly though the video. I am a fan of them. So far I don’t see the issue other than Abby can tolerate him and others can’t. I’m not like a big fan of theirs, but I’m prepared to be wrong. I’ve seen alot of their content though so idk that I’ll be surprised. I’m not saying they’re so perfect, just that they seem like a relatively normal couple. Maybe not the healthiest but normal. Could they get divorced? Sure. I’ve always seen young couples either flourish or kind of crash after a while. I do t think they’re anything like the ace family or like idk… bad people. BUT AGAIN, I’m going to try to finish this video and give the idea a chance
I guess money. But then again his content is nothing without humiliating her. So, I guess it's business partnership?.. And she also gets psychologically abused, like a bonus!
THANK YOU!!! This is not marriage but emotional abuse!! He is very immature emotionally. I’m more than happy with my hubby as life is hard but a marriage shouldn’t be this overwhelming. She basically molds to his desires and her “only” task is doing everything (not traditional because he does the bare minimum plus judge with a minuscule brain)
Exactly! Being with my spouse is one of the easiest things for me (and him). We never fight. We have disagreements but we sit down and talk about them. I love him more every day and it gets better as time goes by. I thought this kind of healthy relationship wasn't possible but it is.
I don't find this to be true at all. Marriage can be hard. I've been married almost 14 years. Our marriage has not always been easy. You're constantly learning each other because people are always changing and evolving. So you need to be able to adapt and learn. You need to be able to have the hard conversations and those conversations aren't always going to go over smoothly. There's going to be conflict, disagreements, possibly temptations etc. If your marriage is easy, I'd wonder how open you are with one another.
@@frickfrack7075 There is always disagreement, BUT marriage shouldn’t be HARD. It should be communicated like adults when something arises even if it gets resolved after a month. My husband and I were about to break up when dating about 5 times (immaturity related) but we matured and realized what was going on, that way we started understanding how each other works where I’ve always been emotional and he’s more of the “solve it or don’t think about it” type of person. Anything that has come after us maturing mentally has been easy, not easy as in quick or colored pink, but easy as in possible to solve without a whole argument and instead respectful talk where we serve both our needs instead of only following our way of thinking
I think it might be good to have that mindset before marriage because hopefully it’ll help you to really take time and be careful when choosing a spouse, but once you’re married if awful things happen divorce should be an option for sure
I entered my marriage like that. It was beautiful and things seemed idyllic. After kids came into the picture, my FORMER spouse started take steroids, then hardcore drugs, then having affairs….then the abuse started. I stuck through about two years of awful awful treatment because I didn’t believe in divorce…. ….with lots of self work, religious reflection, and very little therapy…I decided it was the safest and healthiest option for our kids. I was scared to leave. But we have been separated for three years, legally divorced for one, and life has been financially harder but sooo much more peaceful. I entered into marriage with that mindset. I worked really hard to make my marriage work. It was out of my control and divorce was the best option for our family.
My mom and dad felt this way. It ended up me and my brother growing up in an abusive home. My mom, my brother and I all have emotional scars from it. It would have been healthier for everyone to just end it. But religion and This mindset kept it from happening. Eventually they divorced but it should have been way sooner. It was all a fake happy family act at social functions. Then my dad would go to his man cave and mainly ignore us all at home. I see similarities here. I hope Abby does whatever is best for her and her children
As someone currently going through an amicable divorce, totally agree!!! Sometimes it’s what is best for everyone. I feel like I had her mindset for a while, and it was because I did not want to admit everything to myself for the fear of what might come next. It’s always important to have options, and it’s not a negative thing.
Most people enter marriage with a positive mindset but divorce is not an option, that sounds like “I can do whatever I want and not worry about my partner’s feelings”
@@sus4nahit sounds like she’s trying to normalize their marriage to make herself feel normal. She needs to realize their marriage ISNT the norm and shouldn’t be portrayed as such. Yes, talking about marriage and the things you learn can be helpful, but when you’re that young and have no valid points to add to conversation then shut up. They need to be the ones taking the advice, not giving it.
@Sara-xk1ns i think this type of marriage is actually pretty common. But most women are sick of this dynamic. Ask alot of older women bow their marriage was/how they were treated and it will soumd something like this. A husband who doesn't appreciate his wife and lets her take on every emotional/physical demand. I think women now are trying to make this not normal which is why they get so much backlash. Alot of women are gaslit into thinking what they go through in marriage is fine.
@@Chillikilli ooof. Your comment helps point out the problem, this isn’t common and shouldn’t be portrayed as such. Women aren’t sick of this dynamic, they’re sick of being abused, treated as less then. My comment had nothing to do about stereotypical gender roles in a marriage, it was in regards to them sharing their personal issues worldwide and then advising others on how to handle issues when they have no expertise in the field either. Just because you fight often and have a lot of experience arguing and making up it doesn’t make you a professional. If anything people should be looking at them and NOT wanting to be like them. I think a lot of the viewers see right thru them and wouldn’t listen to their advice but there’s still a good portion of young adults or teens who do watch them and think they are an example of a happy & healthy family. When we have the scum of alpha male culture clawing at every chance to frame young men’s minds, I do what I need to to protect my teenage son and make sure he doesn’t fall for that crap. To me, this is similar but more dangerous for females. They’re being molded into thinking that is a normal marriage and they have to take it. When no one should ever have to. Being told by your spouse that they didn’t find you attractive is already a cruel thing to say, the wife was trying to explain herself and I took it more as the more she got to know him the more attractive he was, she wasn’t initially blown away by just his looks. But when he chimes in with his excited “Same!” it was clear what he meant and he said it to be cruel. He was mad she said something he didn’t like so he whipped back with a hurtful jab. That’s their marriage, jab after jab hidden by fake smiles, fake laughs, fake everything. THAT shouldn’t be normalized. They have a toxic marriage and they refuse to even see an ounce of their flaws, instead they keep pushing this perfect marriage plot to viewers. They need to stop trying to be perfect snd just be real, with themselves, each other and the viewers if they stay online. I have nothing wrong with traditional roles, but they aren’t that, so that isn’t what’s being pushed to viewers. They’re just profiting off of their toxic relationship while giving advise on how to be in a relationship. No one should look at them and crave what they have. They try to hide it behind traditional roles though which makes it even more dangerous to young viewers, so I can see the confusion.
She mentioned he takes care of all the finances / business aspects of their household. 😢so dangerous for women who ever need to leave bc they have a hard time getting to their own money
She has 2 babies. I wouldn't be quick to say brainwashed. You have to be really strong to JUST leave. Personally, I would stick it out until the kids are a bit older. When I have the emotional bandwidth and a financial plan.
I just want to point out that this is the first comment that I’ve ever left on a TH-cam video in my life, but I love your content. I love how you pull back the veil on so many issues. Love your style and your blunt and funny commentary.
She is being emotionally abused. There’s no point in saying they shouldn’t have had children together; they’re here. But I hope she realizes it and can raise her precious babies in a safe, loving, supportive environment when the lightbulb illuminates.
Wtf? That's an extremely hostle thing to say and throwing those phrases around will ruin this marriage.. how in the world do you know this to be true?? Because a youtuber decided to be the most judgemental and opinionated chick on the platform??
I'm genuinely curious how she's being abused. I watched them up until she got pregnant the 2nd time and I kinda fell off. I come back around a month ago and everyone HATES Matt when they loved him prior. I've looked at some previous videos and I don't see it. Someone needs to explain it to me.
@@13lilsykos @TheIndigo1child @britbrat4559 He insulted her holiday efforts, her genitalia, the way she gave birth, her hobbies he changed, her breastfeeding abilities, her weight, her eating habits, her muscles, her attractiveness, her need for support after major abdominal surgery, the way she holds him back from his dreams…Nothing she does will ever be right in his eyes because he needs to remain in control of her. (not my words I just saw this comment & it answers ur question perfectly)
Welcome to the comment section, where internet investigators are projecting their personal insecurities and hurt from past relationships, on other peoples relationships for revenge.
Imagine growing up and one day you find a video where your father basically stated that you ruined his life and stopped taking to your mother when she was at her most vulnerable. A+ for you, dude
R u not supposed to be honest on ur podcast? I might hv madd my dad’s life worse when i was young who knows. Our parents r beings outside of us, their kids
Also though, keep in mind, couples struggling together after having a child IS NORMAL. It is how you work through the struggle and communicate as a team that determines whether or not it is toxic. It is normal to struggle. It is not normal to not talk to your partner after having a child for 2 days.
My partner and I are going through a weird period right now and our daughter just turned 4. I expected it because people don't realize how much your relationship changes when having a kid. Or when one person's life changes and the others doesn't. If you're not good at communicating you have to really really work on it.
I came on here to say this! Struggling after a big change is COMPLETELY NORMAL!!! After birth, changing jobs, kids starting school, moving, kids in the hospital, natural disasters, anything that disrupts the normal -- it can be a struggle to find a new normal. Last year, our daughter lost her disability payments (on a technicality), we had our baby sick in the hospital, a fire in the house, we moved (obviously), our baby went in the hospital 2 more times sick, financial struggles (we nearly lost our new home), our daughter had surgery, our baby lost his insurance, CPS got involved, we got my daughter's payments back, then we all lost our insurance and our food stamps. THAT WAS JUST ONE YEAR. With that many changes, our "daily normal" was all over the place! We struggled as a family, as parents, as a couple, and individually. I don't know that we handled it well, but we handled it, and I feel like we are finally starting to find some normalcy in our lives again. We all have our insurance, food stamps are on, finances are good, bills are paid, everyone is healthy, fed, clothed, and loved. We are good, for now. 😊 I think it's good to normalize struggle -- EVERYONE STRUGGLES -- and feeling the struggles, feeling the change is normal, is valid. Lingering on what you've personally lost, giving your partner the silent treatment because you are butthurt, burdening your partner with all the childcare and cleaning when you are equal workers, failing to pay a bill for 6 months(!), getting butthurt about a holiday/your birthday, filming your partner at her worst so you look your best -- these are not the best ways to deal with the changes and struggles of life. The changes are normal. The struggles are normal. I'll even allow that the feelings may be normal. The selfish responses and actions are NOT.
Struggle how? Why would it make you struggle instead of feeling happiness and joy? Baby makers don't make any sense. Have solid morals and everything becomes easy.
I do disagree with you with what you say at 25:35. People make it seem like the new born stage is amazing and bliss but it just isnt for everyone. I can honestly say now because I love her more than anything but i didnt bond with my baby at start, you're recovering physically and emotionally without any time to recover because you have this tiny baby to look after. Its bloody hard and its far from bliss.
The way narcissistic abuse works is that the narcissist gaslights their victim until they start repeating it too. This is what happens in abusive relationships. Blaming the victim, individually or generally, ends up actually making those people more likely to blame themselves and never get themselves out of the abusive relationship. A big part of how the abuse cycle works, is that the victim is told constantly that it is their fault they are being abused. Just fyi.
Y’all are wild for make crazy assumptions based on small clips 🙄 Abby is constantly saying how much she loves and appreciates Matt. That’s not something you can fake, I know because my parents actually have a horrible relationship
@@missnesi4525yep and think this mostly why she puts up with it all such a shame can only imagine how trapped she feels especially since she got pregnant…highschool sweethearts that are actually meant for each other is rly rare 😂just feel bad for her atp when she realizes it’s gon get messy or just sad
And the irony is he was the one supporting her when she got pregnant again after 5 months of giving birth to her first son and he was really taking it positively and encouraging and motivating abby also to go for it and "everything will be okk" 😂😂😂
My daughter was born on my husband’s birthday-he happily had pink cakes for the remainder of his life we lost him 5 years ago to cancer celebrate all the little moments and you don’t need to share every aspect of your life
I agree he was throwing a tantrum but I do want to say that men can also suffer from depression after having a child and it doesn’t really get talked about enough in my opinion
as a labor nurse this is so toxic and actually abusive. I'd be compelled to ask her if she was safe at home if he exhibited this rush to leave the SAME DAY as major abdominal surgery. Also there's no need for formula until the milk comes in unless baby has a specific medical issue (low blood sugar/jaundice)
finding out he showed her his new song just a few days after she gave birth, and with the knowledge that he iced her out for two days, im convinced he spent those two days writing his little emo ass song😭😭
My ex would always tell me I was "raised right". I thought it was a joke. It wasn't, and the moment we had the first big disagreement and I dared defend myself, he told me I was "badly raised" lmao
Married 32 years on the 20th, have one son who is 30 who lives in the US. We now live in France. My husband works full time. I mostly clean the house, do the laundry and cook dinner Monday-Friday. My husband cooks on the weekends-breakfast too-and we grocery shop together every Saturday, sweeps and cleans the bathroom in his home office. We are a team. We thank each other for the things that get done. Oh-wedding anniversary is June 20th, usually around Father’s Day and his birthday in the beginning of July and he never minds! This couple is awful!
My parents forget my bday growing up, they seem to forget we exsist sometine outside of eating and sleeping so i get ppl that value bdays because it still hurts me so much. But im mot gonna force people on my life to put their problems and holidays away for my needs????? And throw a fit if it doesnt go my way????? (also my bday is veterans day and u dont see me boycotting shit)
The anger is totally wrong....Shouldn't he have already processed the setbacks? I mean bro you knew she was pregnant.... You knew there was a baby coming...These thoughts should have maybe come when he found out that she was pregnant. I am flabbergasted at his audacity.....
@@vinniexofiction2229 It was his TIME to be there for her and his baby! My husband was awesome. He knew he needed to take a back seat! And he took care of me. He saw what I went through and how hard it was! He got it. He really cared about me and did whatever I needed. Of COURSE, he did!
It’s so sad. If you’re alone and doing it all alone, that would be hard. But to be treated that way from the one person who’s supposed to love, support & respect you more than anything? Heartbreaking. How could that be forgiven? Abandoning your wife during the most vulnerable time. So sad/scary.
@@Bella-br1ezthis is exactly my thoughts. How can you be so selfish to not go over your frustrations to take care of your wife who JUST GAVE BIRTH. Giving birth is already traumatic enough, I can’t even imagine how traumatic it gets when your husband gives you the silent treatment for two days after, OVER HIS MUSIC CAREER.. just blows my mind how much of a dick move that is
Exactly. It sounds pretty clear to me: He resents her. She knows it. And she is sad. The writing is on the wall. I feel like she constantly justifies what he says, despite how hurtful it is. She says things that are hurtful too, but my gosh…not the way that he does. The odds aren’t good. I give it less than 5 years. Honestly, after the birth comment, I hope she says something next time they’re intimate, like “Oh, look, it’s like a d!€£, only smaller.”
28:12 HELLO? HE's ready to get home because he hasn't showered in two days 💀💀, the woman just gave birth- i think YOU taking a shower is the least of her worries.
I’ve watched 2 of your videos and subscribed. What you’re doing is so important! It’s very eye opening. Some are people I used to follow and have stopped because of lies being exposed, people exploiting their kids, etc
He failed HER; her first Mother’s Day, he did a vlog of him buying a bunch of random crap for her the same day. Nothing planned ahead of time on his part, no spa day, no cute craft from her son (at that time, just one). I remember seeing that and thinking wtf.
@@jacksnackson3578right because the mothers obviously don’t contribute to making the family thrive. They just sit around doing nothing so theyre the only ones that have time to plan out something ahead of time for their partner 🙄
@victoria51 it's just a fact that women want awards for doing things they are supposed to do where as dad's do more hard work for the family with zero gratitude. Oh, you had to feed the kids? Womp womp. Stop complaining and being ungrateful for once in your spoiled life. Seriously you need to grow up.
Honestly if he’d just posted “cleaning the house while my wife is at the gym” and it was just one of those satisfying cleaning ASMR videos all of this would have been avoided. But he thought he’d get more praise if he added “I never do this”
Yeah but thank god it happened , this not a way of talking being a new parent . Maybe he just should’ve never been a podcaster am I right . F him am I right ?…
I dont know I feel like he was just trying to be honest because so often people just post highlight reels of their life and he hadn't disclosed that everyone would keep saying how perfect he is
@@venomivy3428 no , for real I’m super honest I’ve had good relationships also some bad ones but what he did is just crazy , if that is your honest feeling when your kid is born then it’s concerning at the minimum . Actually let’s not even say it , these people won’t last together much more and when she sees all the people saying what she probably thinks all along ( cause you can see her face sometimes like “what? “ or at least 👀 don’t say it . Maybe she feels more ….. woman . And sends this dude out
I honestly don't think he was being honest i think he sees these tasks as women duties and didn't want to be less of a traditional man @@kaylahcuellarr3258
I think it’s something about people spending too much time on camera and losing their inner monologue. Like yeah, you can’t really control your initial reactions and feelings but that’s some insight that goes to your therapist to work out. Don’t make it your wife’s fault, this is what happens when people think being open with their partner means burdening them with every single thought
26:12 "oh because its blissful'- coming from someone who hasnt had any children? It's not always 'blissful' for a whole myriad of reasons (traumatic birth, baby having to go into NICU, extreme fatigue, hormones, post-partum depression to name but a few). Insinuating that it is, is incorrect, harmful and naiive.
Uhm, newborn bliss is a saying from mothers experiencing bliss. If you don't, then you won't be saying it. It's not that difficult to comprehend. She's not insinuating that it's always blissful she's reiterating the sentiment of the original statement.
Most men are like this. Every woman I've ever seen with kids looks haggard, while the husband is out living his best life at work and with his friends. Most men want kids but do not want to put in the work to actually raise them.
Don’t they have a religious or somewhat conservative background where they are taught their purpose is to have kids? But that’s not exclusive sentiment for men. We talk so much about mother’s instincts that mothers lacking them feel too much shame to talk. But both sexes can actually grow to be great parents. It’s not unusual that men strongly bond with their children only when they are a bit older and able to interact and play
That man dislikes her. She’s probably defending him now, but 5-10 years down the line she’ll see what we saw. Modified : I don’t think he’s abusing her. That is too strong of an accusation. I do believe however that he dislikes her or even resents her, for maybe having him be a dad at a time when he wasn’t ready. The talk around post parfum depression and Father’s Day screamed immature and petty.
I’m just learning about these douchenozzles now and I automatically see that she’s much more intelligent and emotionally mature than him. She will come to resent his selfishness and immaturity. He’s not deep and intelligent women need interesting conversations with their partners later in life when children aren’t the focus.
I don’t think she likes him much either. If you watch their channel and not their podcast, he drives her crazy with his adhd and annoying and childish behavior and mannerisms.
I've literally watched their channel off and on for a while, before she was pregnant the first time. I do not see what y'all are talking about. Do I think he's overenthusiastic and annoying? Yeah but that's people.
I would have appreciated some athleisure wear that was loose fitting for me to be more comfortable as my body changed after birth. But yeah, workout clothes would be so demoralizing. 😢
I could see it working if the wife was a gym junkie and the husband knew that she loved going to the gym because it made her happy, but this.... is not that.
@@simplystreeptacular if she was a gym junkie she'd already have a ton of kit. If they had a really dark sense of humour perhaps - my boyfriend and I have this and when you know a person really well and you both know it's a joke fine. I think he is just extremely insensitive.
@@EKL-qu7ih Even if you already have a bunch of workout clothes, I can see how for some people getting a cute new workout outfit would be a great present. (For instance, I have multiple ballet leotards already but if someone got me a cute new one I'd be thrilled.) But I absolutely think you're right that he in particular is just hella insensitive!
34:57 I was with my partner since we were 17, and we got married at 22 (both each other’s first relationship). The only thing we’ve thought that was even CLOSE to this conversation is “being with you has made me a better person” and vice versa. Could not IMAGINE sitting around thinking “I wonder if I’d be happier without you? What would it be like to date someone else?” on a REGULAR BASIS. No thank you. Ick.
My dad's birthday also falls on Father's Day a lot and I CAN NOT IMAGINE growing up and him throwing a fit over "not celebrating his birthday". Never once did the man ask for anything for his birthday. When you grow up...especially when you have kids...you MUST LEARN to not be selfish. Guess what! MY daughter was born on my birthday! I don't expect anything now. It's HER day. She's a child!!! I'm not. I get to be a grown up and make OTHERS feel special. I CAN NOT STAND THIS MAN.
My birthday has fallen on Mother’s Day every few years or so. Before I was a mom I would have to share the day with my mom. Then when I became a mom I had to also share the day with my mom while also celebrating myself. It’s not that hard to do when you are a mature person.
My dad always told me fathers day is just so dads don't feel left out lol. He is so thankful for still receiving a little present every year. This man expecting a party for fathers day...what?
It’s also not like it’s illegal to celebrate on a day that isn’t your actual birthday? That’s why I’m confused he’s being so pissy about it. If my bday lands on a week day, usually I’ll do something special the weekend before/after. They can have 2 parties if they want, they’re not hurting for money lol.
i literally shared a birthday with my father for 18 years and not once did he care. He always mentioned how i was the best birthday gift ever, and he didn’t celebrate birthdays, yet he always celebrated mine!!!
Ugh.. that's awful. I'm sorry. Yhat reminds me of when dads say "I'm babysitting tonight." Uuhhhm... NO you're watching your kids tonight, as a parent!
Some people don't believe in sorry, i never say sorry, it makes no difference. You should think before doing stupid sht, don't beg for forgiveness after because hell is going to freeze over before i give a damn. Just my opinion
@@AvaEFF Think about what you say here, so me for thinking before i act and talk wich makes i never have to say sorry because there is no reason too is worse then having to say sorry for all the bs that comes out of your mouth? If you think people care when you say sorry if you cheated on them or something, it's completely pointless.
@@yoachim91 this is exactly what I’m talking about. You think you’re perfect and you’re not. It’s not that you never fuck up so you never HAVE to say sorry. You just DONT SAY SORRY when you do fuck up because you think you’re perfect. That makes you a bad person. No one never does anything wrong. You’re a giant narcissist if you think you never mess up. I never said not to think about what you say before you say it. You do BOTH. Well I mean YOU don’t because you’re a bad person but you get what I mean.
@@AvaEFF Sure i am a bad person because i don't fck up.... I don't think i am perfect wich makes me make less mistakes then you ignorant people who think you are all that. And even if let's say i tell my wife she is uuh dumb or something for doing something wrong if i mean that at that point why say sorry then i am just lying in my opinion because i am not sorry that you are doing something wrong... Do you know what a narcissist is? Have an unreasonably high sense of their own importance, so tell me how important do you find yourself to expect someone else to care about a sorry after you hurt them?
I really do feel like I’m the child watching their parents who definitely need a divorce “stick together for the kids” meanwhile the kids psyche is crumbling because they have to watch their parents destroy themselves and each other every day
The c-section video really sent me over the edge. I labored for 36 hours and needed an emergent c-section because my son was stuck in my pelvis. My epidural didn’t work, and I started to feel pain during my c-section as a result. I had an additional incision made because they still couldn’t get my son out. He’s not my husband, but this made me want to come through the screen and slap him. Both vaginal and C-section moms are REAL moms, our babies just came into the world differently. No one is “cheating” birth. My husband was my biggest hero and supporter after my c-section and I truly feel bad for Abby.
He didn't say she was cheating birth. He said she lost 8 pounds in minutes and asked if she felt like she cheated weight loss. 😅 Everyone is just searching for shit at this point.
@@royalacity at 40:30 he literally says it feels like they cheated birth and then he repeats it. Agreed, the first clip it sounds like he is saying she cheated weightloss but the clip of them on the couch is absolutely him saying they “cheated birth” because the c section was so fast.
And he didn’t even stop to think about how he is impacting such a large young audience by saying that a C-section is cheating birth. The implications of a statement like that… They have millions of followers so millions of young people will believe stuff like that and carry on that harmful rhetoric and it will continue to harm moms, all because he wanted to downplay his wife’s birth on camera, release it as some form of entertainment, to get attention and make money? Like think deeper about what you’re doing for one minute. Think about how you’re shaping and framing how people will view women/moms and how they will treat pregnant/postpartum people. But nope, he can’t think because he doesn’t care to. He doesn’t care that he’s a negative influence on his wife, his kids, his family, his millions of viewers that are mostly kids or vulnerable misguided adult women (who are susceptible to being taken advantage of and abused by other men just like him). He wants women and moms to suffer. He literally plays mind games with his wife when she’s at her physical weakest just to chip away at her more. He does/says the worst things ever then acts like everyone is against him for no reason. He’s a big baby. He needs to admit his wrongs and stop making endless excuses. He’s doing widespread damage because of the power and influence he has.
they're only together because they dont know who they are individually and they're scared to find out. they don't even like each other. this is so sad.
These people give young relationships such a bad rep. I was engaged at 20, knew him a few years before that. It bothers me when people say, they're too young. they actually don't love each other they're just afraid to leave. Not because I'm 42 now and had some happy ever after with a high school sweetheart, but because we called off the wedding. When people found out the general reaction wasn't; dang that was a really difficult thing to do, I'm so sorry. it was "yeah, y'all too young that was never going to work anyway" or "why? what happened?" People, not you, but people I met were so entrenched in their own prejudice they refuse to see any sort of maturity in a young couples' actions. They'd always say don't rush to get married but when two young people decide "okay this actually won't work" and split suddenly its oh y'all weren't serious about it then. It felt like damned if I do, damned if I don't.
@@ayahlinI understand your point. I think part of the issue is that most brains fully develop at 25. If very young people get married and have kids at a young age, they haven’t fully cognitively developed yet. They go from kids to raising kids and that becomes their whole identity. That’s not even to say that’s wrong or bad but it’s a huge factor in why so many end up divorced. You can’t truly love someone you don’t know and once you realize it you may feel a lot differently about the person, which is understandable but sad and can lead to lifelong financial issues, heartache, etc. I think what I’m saying is that if people can hold off until mid 20s and/or go to couples pre marriage counseling, oh and please above all else use birth control, then I think they may stand a better chance at a lasting happy marriage and family.
These poor young baby children. She is going to wake up one morning when she is 35 and realize that she doesn't have to keep smiling and silently suffering.
It comes full circle when he says he doesnt help with his son and you realize maybe thats why hes so lax when she finds out she is pregnant in the first videos, while she is freaking out.😢
@@frozenheart7133That reminds me of the Gabby Petito police bodycam footage. The guy was reported for physically abvsing her in public, but she spends the entire time apologizing & blaming herself. All the while, the boyfriend was having a joke-y "bıtches be crazy" chat with the police. Disgusting. And obviously incredibly tragic.
Thats is the sweetest! My daughter was born December 22 and my birthday is the 28th she is the best christmas/birthday present I ever got. And it wasn't even on those days. I think it's a blessing
Last year our second child was born the day after my husband’s 30th birthday, which means we spent the entirety of his birthday in the hospital. He thanked me for having the “best birthday party and gift ever.”
I was born the day after my dad's birthday too and 32 years later I'm still the best birthday gift he's ever gotten. It's always been fun celebrating our birthdays together.
this is the correct response!
This is beautiful ❤
My children’s father is the same and still to this day. Looks over at our middle baby and says you’re the best birthday present I ever got…..❤
As it should be.
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PSA: If your wife does ANY income-producing work in addition to the housework, then you don't have a tRAdiTiONaL marriage, you just have a marriage where your wife does more work than you and does not get acknowledgement.
I want to put your comment on a billboard in every city lol
Traditionally, women who weren't wealthy typically did other work, like weaving, soap making, spinning, etc. in addition to homemaking to make money for the family. It's where the term "cottage industry" comes from, so no, it's not nOt tRaDiTiOnAl. HOWEVER, I 100% agree that valuing your spouse and their work - in every form - is of paramount importance, and sharing household work and parenting is perfectly traditional and just plain the right thing to do.
gosh I sure hope a million people reply to my comment to inform me what a "traditional marriage" is when I was clearly being facetious
Even if he does not acknowledge it,it's useless would you want your coworker to appreciate you for doing more work than her?
Exactly this!
"Does it feel like you cheated birth?" SHE GOT CUT OPEN TO HAVE A CHILD. IN WHAT WORLD IS THAT CHEATING.
THANK YOU!! My C-Section was cheating death LITERALLY!! for anyone to thing a c-section is easy in any way is a joke!!!!
This makes me the most furious I would be SO hurt if that’s the mindset my husband had
Seriously! It takes longer to heal from a c section!
I had issues after both my c sections. I wanted vaginal deliveries but my kids were both breech.
This is the same type of guy who "dies" if he has a cold. OMG what is wrong with this person and why does these people get even any attention 😮 One day she'll wake up and will be so embarrassed. Probably when he left her for another woman...If my husband would be disrespectful like that. It would be over immediately.
It's worse it's horrible especially after takes you a long time to recover properly I would have rather had natural births but unfortunately I couldn't
The fact that she constantly asks if he’s upset or acts like she’s doing something wrong, that’s a very clear indicator that he is emotionally abusive behind the camera.
Considering how he is in front of the camera, I can only imagine how much worse it is off camera
Exactly!! Such a HUGE RED FLAG 🚩🚩
Either that or she’s just very very insecure or a people pleaser. It could be her side
@@StormyHallahanin other cases, yes. but with his behavior ON camera, it’s not hard to link her insecurities to worse behavior from him OFF camera. If it’s that bad publicly, it’s likely worse in private
@@druidonshrooms It’s not though. There’s many reasons people do that. She could be saying that because she’s empathetic and is one way she shows love to those she cares about. It shows that she values self awareness and accountabikity. Matt also has ADHD and if you have that too like I do, being checked in on every now and then by your partner is normal because its a common way for them to show support.
You guys are being so accusational and ignorant about them and it’s actually cruel because its based on nothing except presumptions and your own narrative filling the blanks. It’s also very clear that your own insecurities are making you prejudiced because there are different ways to interpret many things he/they are being accused of and all of your immediate reactions stem from a place of defensiveness and victimhood.
Try to actually understand their perspectives and their reality before making your final judgements because it’s so clear none of you have bothered to.
Abby gives me the vibe that she's chasing for Matt's validation because he's all she has, while Matt is chasing external validation through social media.
She definitely gives off a fawn response
Omg this is exactly what i thought
Exactly my thought!!!
Which is probably true. Mid 20s with 4 kids (is that right?) it would be terrifying to try anything else. Give her a few years and she'll realize she's trapped and can do much better on her own.
Yep!!! ❤
If my husband gave me the silent treatment after I gave birth, I don’t think I’d ever be able to get past that
I agree. It’s unforgivably cruel. I believe that Matt is a narcissist - my father is a diagnosed narcissistic sociopath and they are completely alike. Matt felt that the second baby would ruin his life and career and ‘punished’ Abby by not talking to her for a week after the baby was born! He then travelled to another part of the country to record music… and left her alone, with a newborn, still recovering from a c-section! It sends the message that her needs, and the baby’s needs, are not as important as Matt’s. It’s textbook devaluation. 😔
@@pimmspimms5462 100% agree with this! Textbook narc. Gives me shivers when I watch him.
me neither. and them discussing it on a podcast is CRAZY!!!! go to therapy 😩
she deserves better 🥲
Yea I would deffo divorce
Her crying and saying that she felt alone after giving birth actually broke my heart. 😢
Right bc she had her husband….
Right?! Feeling alone when you’re home with your husband who should be making you feel fully supported 😓
It's so sad, having a baby should be a time when you feel held and supported by everyone around you. I would have lost my mind if my husband gave me the silent treatment right after I gave birth!
@@ydorri2460she’s a married single mom
Thought the exact same thing after my first born. It’s a message from the universe when your hormones are raging, your intuition is high that “this is not right girl”.
I also think as much as she shares online, she holds even more inside and deep down is silently suffering but is under too much pressure to be honest with herself and bolt. She seems to do a lot of “convincing” how their marriage is hard but divorce isn’t an option.
if my husband gave me a workout set as a push present i'd buy him a gym membership for every birthday and christmas for the rest of his life and if he asked me for something else i'd give him divorce papers
Unpopular opinion: I think the happiest and healthiest couples are private. They don’t make content and post each other every day. They are lowkey
Yeah. I literally can't imagine anyone postning their entire relationship online being happy, it's all fake
Agreed!
This. I think a lot of people even have infuriating conversations like these at times, but they work through it PRIVATELY.
Agreed
We know that usual saying right? "Empty vessels make more noice"😂 And in my culture there's another saying as well in Indian Telugu language- 'Emi Leni aaku egiri egiri padthathi, Anni unna aaku anigi manigi undathi'. Context- here in Southern Part of Indian, we eat food in Banana leaves for sustainability & delicious taste since thousands of years ago. Translation- A leaf that has all food ingredients stays still & low but the one that doesn't have any, blows & rolls away by wind making a scene.
A MAN being disappointed that his children will slow down his career fills me with actual burning rage. Women have always had their careers decimated for children, leaving their bodies permanently changed. Not to mention bosses and hiring managers being unwilling to hire moms because they are seen as less “dedicated” and are not respected in the professional roles even though dads don’t get that treatment.
thank you for saying this, i wanted to mention this but you worded it better than i would have!
Simple, stop having children then? All your problems are solved.
I’m sure they have problems and stuff but it’s a free country they can say what they want because they r adults. We’re not 100% sure they r unhappy so y hate on them. Sure u have small evidence but u don’t really know. And everything thing that they post they both agree to it soooooo. Not tryna hate on u either just giving my point of view.
@@avi6786-k4h uh oh found Matt's alt account
@@avi6786-k4h🫃
When a woman says, "My husband takes care of the finances, I'm just not good at it," RED FLAG!!!!!!! You need to know exactly how much money you have, what bills are paid, investments, etc. Please, please!! Many women of the previous generation ended up totally financially screwed if they got divorced. If you don't understand, please learn. Do not let yourself be in that position...ever.
100%
This! That’s a scary situation to be in. This is how men end up spending a ton of money on girls online, in clubs, Having a side relationship or a totally secret life. They are DUAL finances and she knows nothing about it, she probably just signs papers without reading which could end up very badly if they ever split
Not even divorced, just if their husband died.
Working at a bank I dealt with multiple older women who had no credit score because nothing was ever in their name. It's sad.
Understanding household finances is also very simple. It’s something I think some men try to convince women is too hard for them.
The thing is Matt sucks at it. He 'forgot' to pay their bills for like 3 or 4 months.
The blanket on the couch between Matt and Abby during their podcast clips is a perfect visual of the divide between them.
I'm still dying at "my husband pays the bills" (next clip) "our water got shut off"
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Even then, household chores=everyday, paying bills=once a month
Also the whole thing about a traditional marriage, YALL ARE BOTH WORKING AT HOME!!! a traditional marriage is him going out and working and providing for the whole family.
Idk what's going on with his brain
She is just as bad as him. You only reap what you sow!
The way he actually complained about not having a shower for two days after she just GAVE BIRTH. This is a man child. And I feel like she’s gaslighting herself into believing this is normal.
She does believe it. I did and 20 something years later, the wake up call is something. You realize when you’ve poured all of you into everything but you’re the only one. Now it’s taken a bad toll on my health.
Ok so if a woman was gRaped and she showered once or multiple times daily as a coping mechanism if she has a wife that just gave birth and complaints about not having show in two days do we sit here and SHIT ON HER for complaining because her wife just gave birth? No. Some people have legitimate undiagnosed psychological issues that cause them to NEED certain routines in their lives like shower or they literally shut down or become emotionally erratic. You don't personally know that man and its ok to give a pass to a woman who was gRaped in situation, but not someone who's mental health you know nothing about? Do kick rocks.
She’s 💯 gaslighting herself. I sure as hell did.
Yup
The only saving grace for her children is that her parents live with them. Hopefully, they're providing the care that the husband won't. She's emotionally insecure and thinks she doesn't deserve better. One day he'll find someone "better" prettier (to him), younger, no children so that he can have the full package.
Matt's baby blues were jealousy that there is a baby taking away the attention.
YES!
My narc father was the same when my baby sister was born. He would walk around the house saying he was going to divorce my step mom because she wasn't giving him as much attention as before. Acting like the baby was more important. 😐😡😱 what the actual F. I moved out shortly after. Couldn't take his selfish BS anymore. We spoke the other day because I needed someone, anyone to talk to. Mentioned I felt I was breaking down, and he said, "I don't care. Go talk to a counselor or something."
@@royalacityOh my god, that's awful... I hope you have healthy people you can talk to who won't be so unempathetic towards you. I'm so sorry :(
It wasn't even the first baby!! It was the second!
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"For the next 36 hours I am solo parenting!" Abby, the way you two talk, it sounds like you've always been solo parenting.
I thought the exact same, sounds like it's the same for her, except her husband wasn't getting in the way 😬
Yeah. She probably doesn't realise it because her parents are always around to do what Matt doesn't do.
She wouldn't be saying, "please don't be upset with me" if he was wonderful.
EXACTLY. why does she keep repeating it if it's not a fear??
I’m sure with her upbringing she has sever people pleasing issues as well that Carries over into their relationship
I had a childhood like that, my partner ensures I don't feel the need to ask him if he's mad. Sure I still do it but not in these situations, not over and over again, and not with fear in my voice. Mostly just out of habit. He's made it a point that if I do ask that, he's doing something wrong. So it's on me but it's also on him. This could be a small issue, but it jumps out at me as well.
Yes but also if someone has trauma from their parents, that can affect them into adulthood. Especially when coming out of anesthesia.
@@stephanievizzi9147 what was her upbringing like?
The videos where HE IS THE ONE who set up the camera and then is acting all nice…. I don’t know how people don’t see through that????? It’s all a show.
he wasn’t even acting THAT nice, you could still hear the annoyance in his voice😂😂😂😂
Also didn’t they meet in theatre? And they think he’s being authentic? 😫 BITCH HES AN ACTOR (arguably😂)
exactly! like this isnt a prank show where they snuck up with a camera. HE set up the camera!
I commented about that too - he’s a red flag and probably has skeletons in his closet
@@suzannafraa skeleton named Steve😜
Setting up a camera when your wife is having a obvious anxiety attack is a total douchebag move.
It’s really disturbing-any condition that is vulnerable should NOT be placed on the internet for public consumption. Her condition in post op-any condition someone is sick or in distress- don’t take advantage. It’s cruel.
The hospital I work at-NO cameras or pictures are permitted-and they don’t play (federal government hospital). They will take your phone. If you are an employee, you will be terminated.
In this case it's vastly more complicated, as they both make their living off online using their personal lives.
It still shouldn't be done, but whether or mot it is a douchebag move is extremely complicated and not as simple as. Y/N
Unless you’re a person who loves being the center of attention and shares every detail of your life
@@SJ-ni6iy Still a douchebag move.
Literally Onision behavior
Starting an intimate podcast about all the issues in your marriage sounds like a way to end any marriage 😅
The amount of times he has filmed her in incredibly vulnerable states so he can make himself look like a hero is obscene. Nobody deserves that.
That plus how he is so often needlessly shirtless: that dude is in love with himself and that's it.
I knew something seemed off whenever he recorded her recovering from surgeries. Idk to each their own but I personally would not like to be treated like that. She seems like such a lovely person that's why I watched their vids all the time, not for him tho.
Agreed I would be furious if my husband filmed me recovering from surgery or having an anxiety attack, then posted himself being my “savior”
It’s giving onision.
that’s something i’ve noticed with a lot of those young couples it’s so weird
This is the same guy in the “I’m pregnant again” video consoling his freaking out wife telling her it will all be ok, yet once his second child arrives a little over a year after his first gives his wife the silent treatment because “his life was over” having a second child! He realized having 2 babies meant Abby couldn’t take care of them both all by herself and he actually had to step up and be a father 🤦🏼♀️
I think he mainly realized that she can’t take of him aka be his mom and maid because now she has two small babies that are very demanding.
@@hajarmdn4883Yup, all he wanted from the beginning was a bang maid.
That’s insane
this is why I didn't have a second kid.
I feel like throwing up.
The fact he pointed out HE grilled. That means he literally wanted to sit there doing nothing at all while his pregnant wife ran around treating him like a king and everyone to give all the attention. My toddler son is less of a baby than he is
Or he just wanted the validation and to be accredited for being the one who gRiLLed on his birthday 🫠😂 this man just screams insecure and wants so much attention and credit and validation
The amount of men I know that cook or grill for their own parties. He’s so entitled and childish 🙄
In my house, he always grills!!! It's man bragging rights or something. Even if it was his birthday, his friends would lose it and make fun of him because his wife was grilling. I don't know if I am explaining it right but.... He loves when I make grill events. He wants to Even grill for Christmas.
Aww, but grilling is hard ya'll. How could you not understand his pain and torment?? 🤣🤣
And the fact they don’t say which one of them prepared all the food to be put on the grill….My boyfriend always says thank you to me even after he bbq’d. Because he says that’s the easy part of it all, me preparing it is the work. I say thank you back to him for cooking it so well because I wouldn’t be able to.
They both need to get a grip.
I’ve dated a narcissist before - this is exactly what they look like. It’s the little comments that add up & they’re meant to break her down, bit by bit. She needs to feel so low so that he can feel better about himself.
Okay, that clip on the couch. Why does she look exhausted physically,spiritually and emotionally but he’s fresh tanned, hair on point and perfect skin? She literally has the comfort pillow!!!!
Fr! This man is horrible
Cause she literally was just home from gallbladder surgery after giving birth with a newborn at home and in severe pain and he chose that’s was what needed to be recorded.
@@melissashepherd3995that doesn’t answer the OP’s question
Shitty men will suck the life out of a woman and then wonder why the women always glow up after divorce
@@Artchick1972it literally does.
Silent treatment is narcissistic abuse. He was punishing her for having a baby
Silent treatment is so so bad. I've had physical, mental and emotional abuse and the mental side is way worse. In my experience.
I prefer the silent treatment to guilt trips, being berated 24/7 etc.
Yep it’s him realizing he’s not number one anymore and being a child about it
@@jackchop1576 good for you?? What is the point of this comment? To minimize others abuse, or difficulties because you prefer a different type of abuse?
I do it too sometimes. But that is how my parents would act towards each other and towards us as the kids. So I didn't really have a good example 😂 I am very aware of how damaging and just awful behavior silent treatment is. And it's indeed a bad trait to have. I don't do it for long tho, because everything in my guts is longing for connection again 😂
my son was born a day before my husbands birthday.. he was sad he wasn’t born ON his birthday so they could share it. He said our son was the best birthday present he could ever have
Yeah I get that! My son was born on my birthday and I am really happy we can share! I don't really care for my birthday (since I was like 20) and now we can just throw him a party and have the visitors on one day 😂
Right?! My daughter was born on her late fathers birthday (ironically I also got pregnant with her 5 months after we had our 1st!) and he always referred to her as the best present he ever got. He spent the whole day taking care of and supporting me. We were at the hospital for 4 days and he slept on this tiny little couch. He never once complained. 2 years later our 3rd was born the day before my birthday and I was so sad that it wasn't the same day.
After that neither of us ever really celebrated our birthdays again. I mean, kind of, but it was mostly for the kids. It was never a big deal and I couldn't imagine being the type of person, or being with a person, who whined about their birthday not being special enough.
Same.
my mum and sister have the same birthday lol
So sweet! I’m due 2/27 and my husbands bday is 2/26 and he’s hoping they will be able to share!
WHY do these couples share stuff like this? The videos crying, disappointed, and having incredibly private moments is INSANE to me.
"The reason our marriage is strong is because for us divorce is not an option" sounds like a hostage situation much more than an aspirational message. Wtf.
yeah it just sounds like he can treat her however he wants because “divorce is not an option”
Divorce should always be an option. It doesn't mean you failed, it just means that the relationship is no longer working and it can't be fixed.
It also sounds like "we're only together because we HAVE to be" I'd much rather my partner is with me because he WANTS to be with me lol but maybe that's just me (and every other sane person)
@@rosesweetcharlottethe thing is their marriage can work but he’s not taking the steps to grow up and be a man. If he actually wanted to change and improve himself as a father and husband, they’d have a great marriage. But he’s a manchild and wants a mommy not a wife
😂😂🤣🤣
Imagine being a kid and finding a video of your dad saying it felt like his life ended when you were born.
Yes! The movement for family bloggers to stop posting their children’s faces is great but it’s not far reaching enough! Talking about them or about your feelings towards your children if they aren’t positive is so potentially damaging to the child when they eventually see the content. Also all their friends and family know the content is about them so although they will be more protected from internet weirdos, all the people you associate with will know what was said about you- I can’t imagine!
I WOULD CRYY
Jayson Tatum didn’t say good stuff about his son either
Really? A lot of people feel that way actually. Most people who get pregnant are quite surprised by it believe it or not.
Right?!!!!!!!!!!
Them: puts every single detail of their marriage online
Also them: 😡 why would you guys have an opinion on our marriage 🤬
All of their fans are now flooding these comments basically saying the same thing. It’s so sad and yet so funny and ridiculous. They really will defend these people until they have nothing left in their souls. They are willing to die on this hill that these people are soulmates and super healthy and don’t have any relationship problems and we’re just judging and we have no idea because we’re on the outside looking in.
This is it! I don’t think people should generally pass comment on other people’s marriages, but if you’re putting your entire life online for the rest of us to watch, you should expect comments.
Omg for reals!
22:24 DUDE THATS LIKE WTF IT MEANS TO BE A FATHER , YOU PUT YOUR DREAMS TO THE WAYSIDE FOREVER AND NOW UR LIFE IS HELOJNG YOYR CHILD REACH HIS DREAMS, MATT , MATT, ITS NOT ABOUT YOU ANYMORE. MY GOD HES SUCH A NARCISSIST
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that's not a marriage, its a business partnership. no genuine loving cpl would ever put their lives and kids online 24/7 for money. their priority is money, fame, their indivudual wants, their marriage.
Father’s Day landed on his birthday? AND he had to grill??? I’m in awe of his strength, he is so brave for sharing his story 🙏🙏
my dad would be happy ? like i'm so confused 💀
Mother's Day and my birthday both fell on the same day. I still cooked dinner that night. As I do every night of my life 🙄
Its only rare that fathers day lands on your birthday like bro💀 If my dad was born in june and it happened to him i know he would be happy and love the idea that it happened 😭
Honestly I've heard horror stories about my mother's best friend where when her birthday fell on Mother's Day her mother refused to celebrate it because it was Mother's Day
I mean long as he didn't have to do the dishes. How bad could it be ?
Getting an XS work out set for your wife as a “gift” for her growing your baby for 9 months and going through excruciating surgery to deliver the baby is the most disgusting thing I’ve ever heard.
its really not and you should just stfu
Ok maybe for that part he was actually dumb and thought that was her size lol
SERIOUSLY!!!! UTTERLY DISGUSTING AND DISTURBING. May she never have to succumb to his sick and selfish whims, I hate this relationship for her so much.
@@EvosAndMakeup lmao you dont even know the context
@@That_No_Drama_Lama😂sure, what about everything else
Father’s Day fell on my daughter’s birthday this year…. my husband woke up SO HAPPY to share a special day with his daughter! What a frickin baby.
He needs full 💯 % attention to him Only he don’t like sharing
You don't get to choose your parents and your daughter is a LUCKY girl.
I’m surprised Matt was mad that his birthday was on Father’s Day , it’s literally a day for for fathers and he is one , normal fathers would be happy since the universe literally gave them a sign that they were gonna be a father
My birthday fell on mother's day this year and my mom didn't really want to share the day- but when I was a kid and it landed on it, the day was way more fair for me. I'm basically saying I hope no matter how old ur kid is he's always excited to share.
Greenest flag!!!!
Omg I'd leave him. He is not mature enough to emotionally support his wife and children. I'm married with a baby and this is not right at all.
That conversation about the silent treatment hurt my heart. When I had my C section my fiance was getting me food, literally helping me shower and put on fresh pads and underwear, looking after the baby, driving back and forth to our house to look after our pets, and he had had minimal sleep for 3 days because thats what a loving and supportive partner and dad does. THE SILENT TREATMENT! Is he serious??
I know - how devastating. Could you imagine your partner throwing a pity party for themselves while you’re over here just trying to not be in pain and take care of a newborn. God awful
@@e.babybaby particularly with the hormones!! 4days after a baby I was so hormonal the nurse found my crying at cardi B twerking at the VMAs because she just looked like she was having a good time. I can't imagine that combination of hormonal and dealing with a stroppy man baby husband with his one man pity party.
I was on my own with my first child and spent it in the midwife hospital for 4 days.. and I think it was better on my own than with him 😂
Your fiancé is an actual, functioning adult… her husband has the mental capacity of a fruit fly.
@@stephaniecoombes2003genuinely 😂
So he talked shit about the c-section AND the vaginal birth. What a guy.
right? it makes me sick, she can't win.
and breastfeeding!!!
he has no right to speak on any of that. he’s such a narcissist
I really and truly thought the "cheat" thing was about losing weight. Like, isn't it crazy that you can lose 8 pounds (or whatever) in minutes? I died when I realized he meant "cheating birth". Furious.
I would have died if my mom hadn't gotten a c-section. Besides me almost dying, she said that she did actually prefer it to a natural birth. Maybe it was cheating, but even though she felt really sore afterwards and had to go back to the hospital to fix her stitches, she loved knowing exactly what was happening, when it was happening, and when it would be over.
"Don't be fooled by me taking care of my son" is a wild sentence 😭
Ong like how can you say that and not actually register it in your head
I just found your content last night. Your responses make me lol so hard. You hit the nail on the head with so many of these people.
Her feeling bad for being 123lbs after giving birth is insane, especially because of his remarks. Thats 55kg, thats a normal weight... So sad. And even if it wasnt, SHE JUST GAVE BIRTH.
that’s fucking deranged
It’s not normal- and what I mean by that is that she’s much smaller than the average woman in America so she shouldn’t feel bad at alllll. I agree, it’s insane
Ya like what??? I’m a small girl and that’s my healthy weight, even working out 5 days a week I was 120-128.
Only time I was less was when I wasn’t eating 😬
Damn. That's healthy weight especially postpartum
It depends on how tall she is. BMI goes down one point with every4 lbs so someone who is 5'2" and 125 will have the same BMI as someone who is 5'6" and 141lbs
Notice how the wife on anesthesia is Constantly saying "don't get mad at me" doesn't that mean he gets mad at her often??? often enough that she remembers it even on anesthesia like WTF
for sure, shes too loopy to realize she has to keep up the act 😖
I found that extremely odd , the fact that she looks freaked out that he's mad ?? Abby said she grew up in a good household her mom was kind and her dad was kind to her , but to be afraid of her husband is scary .
he most likely gets mad whenever she has an emotional moment. so many men do.
Yeah, that is very weird. She kept saying it constantly which is concerning too. Also, Matt seems to be controlling with the “gender roles” she is trapped because he controls the finances 😬😬
That clip was the most fucked up to me I don’t think you can really judge people from the internet but that really shocked me.
I remember seeing a screenshot of someones dating app chat on twitter and the guy said he wants a traditional housewife that does the cleaning/childcare etc. and the girl (the poster) said she was totally down for that. but then when she said she's happy to stay at home and not get a job he got so defensive saying he doesn't want to be the only one earning money for her to leech off of. these men don't want a traditional relationship they want an employee.
They don’t want an employee. They want a slave.
They want their mother.
Employees get paid. They want a slave
I've seen those messages too. Crazy.
Yeah I have seen so many "traditional" men looking for "trad wife" but then get mad when he has to pay for everything or she asks how much money he makes. Lmao do they not realize the traditional role of a man is to be the provider which means to pay for everything so of coursw the woman should know how much he makes to be financially secure. They really do want a mom for themselves and not a wife/sahm.
0:17 ik people say don’t ask questions you don’t want the answer to… but like men if ur lady asks this, don’t ever say yes. Like 😭 that is soul crushing
as much as i agree, SHE said it first!!
I whole-heartedly believe that Abby's parents moved in because they know Matt is a red flag.
OMG THIS!!!
Did they move closer or move away? I hope closer. But if she had a narcissistic parent, that could be the reason she thinks her husband is normal.
@@alsolark3029originally Matt and Abby moved super far away when Abby was having their 1st baby. I believe by the time the second came around, her parents moved in.
@@alsolark3029 Closer, like into their house!!! And Abby has said that her parents are sweet and kind, and from the looks of it they are!
This is a boiling hot take and I need to know more
The silent treatment is a form of abuse.
Right? He's punishing her for 'ruining' his life.
my mom did it to me while i was growing up if i didn’t do something the exact way she wanted me to. it really messed with me
@@OneIncomeSuperSaverEw. Cringe.
@@OneIncomeSuperSaver excuse me??? WE act like children?????? this GROWN MAN ignored his wife when she needed him the MOST just after GIVING BIRTH TO A CHILD HE HELPED CREATE.
he made her feel ALONE after she just went thru the trauma of bringing a child into the world. read that again untill you get it
if he knew that having children would get in the way from his career then he should have, yknow communicated that with his wife and perhaps waited to have children??
@@lilkitty2396 Many generation prefers manly masculine men. Women today have it way too easy. I can see why men don’t want American women and are now marry women from other countries
Women should 100% be involved in the bills so they are never blindsided and have full understanding of the family financial situation no matter how amazing your partner is.
exactly. you can be SO happy for 5, 10, 20 years and you can still end up single. my brother just divorced from his 25 year marriage and she only knew how to spend money
This is why I think women need to support themselves for a bit so they don’t fall for a man who does the BAREEE minimum
Yeah Abby saying how he handles all that stuff so it's an equal partnership makes me just think he lies to her that it's a lot more work than it actually is, so he can get away with doing nothing. And he has an incentive to be in control of all the bills etc so he can make dumb purchases or potentially cover up weird transactions like only fans lmao
100%!!!! Me and my husband go half on everything and I'm involved with what is going on with the bills as much as he is.
We have our own bank accounts and only have joint for the bills. It works so well for us.
I wish more women would read your comment and do it. I also wish 23 yr old me had been told that, but most women told me how nice it must be to have a husband that took care of that, and I didn't have to worry about it. Wrong. It's a symptom of a bigger issue going on inside the marriage. Mine was cheating, amongst many other things, and if I had been part of paying the bills I would have known right away instead of 18 years later. His use of the silent treatment is also very concerning to me and the way she justifies/excuses it all by trying to tell us we don't really know them is a farce. Deep down she knows it, too.
I thought he said "cheating" as in loosing weight. I didnt get it was THE BIRTH OF THEIR CHILD
You have no idea how happy I am you made this video, this man has been driving me crazy for years! I always thought I was just a hater lol
mooooood
same but also because i’ve seen a video or two about him before and i usually watch multiple videos on one topic
i always wondered why he gave me the super ick!
Same! I was like...am I the crazy one? But no. I'm not lol
Yes! I always got a weird vibe from him
WHY IS SHE WITH HIM?!? he brings nothing to the table...not even hot
“Not even hot” LMAO that’s so funny and so true
Sadly, they got together so young, she likely had no perspective of how his personality and behavior would transition into adulthood.
I’m only partly though the video. I am a fan of them. So far I don’t see the issue other than Abby can tolerate him and others can’t. I’m not like a big fan of theirs, but I’m prepared to be wrong. I’ve seen alot of their content though so idk that I’ll be surprised.
I’m not saying they’re so perfect, just that they seem like a relatively normal couple. Maybe not the healthiest but normal. Could they get divorced? Sure. I’ve always seen young couples either flourish or kind of crash after a while.
I do t think they’re anything like the ace family or like idk… bad people.
BUT AGAIN, I’m going to try to finish this video and give the idea a chance
I guess money. But then again his content is nothing without humiliating her. So, I guess it's business partnership?.. And she also gets psychologically abused, like a bonus!
@@jffry24 um what?
@@jffry24she literally brought two babies into the world… what the hell are you on Jeffrey?
Couples that constantly have to say ‘marriage is hard’ are typically trying to justify their very unhealthy relationship.
THANK YOU!!! This is not marriage but emotional abuse!! He is very immature emotionally. I’m more than happy with my hubby as life is hard but a marriage shouldn’t be this overwhelming. She basically molds to his desires and her “only” task is doing everything (not traditional because he does the bare minimum plus judge with a minuscule brain)
Exactly! Being with my spouse is one of the easiest things for me (and him). We never fight. We have disagreements but we sit down and talk about them. I love him more every day and it gets better as time goes by. I thought this kind of healthy relationship wasn't possible but it is.
I don't find this to be true at all. Marriage can be hard. I've been married almost 14 years. Our marriage has not always been easy. You're constantly learning each other because people are always changing and evolving. So you need to be able to adapt and learn. You need to be able to have the hard conversations and those conversations aren't always going to go over smoothly. There's going to be conflict, disagreements, possibly temptations etc. If your marriage is easy, I'd wonder how open you are with one another.
Right!!
@@frickfrack7075 There is always disagreement, BUT marriage shouldn’t be HARD. It should be communicated like adults when something arises even if it gets resolved after a month. My husband and I were about to break up when dating about 5 times (immaturity related) but we matured and realized what was going on, that way we started understanding how each other works where I’ve always been emotional and he’s more of the “solve it or don’t think about it” type of person. Anything that has come after us maturing mentally has been easy, not easy as in quick or colored pink, but easy as in possible to solve without a whole argument and instead respectful talk where we serve both our needs instead of only following our way of thinking
my dads birthday used to land on father’s day every few years and he was always so happy about that. being a father was his dream
“Divorce is not an option” is a really scary mindset. You may sign yourself up for a terrible deal for the rest of your life if you think that way.
I think it might be good to have that mindset before marriage because hopefully it’ll help you to really take time and be careful when choosing a spouse, but once you’re married if awful things happen divorce should be an option for sure
I entered my marriage like that. It was beautiful and things seemed idyllic. After kids came into the picture, my FORMER spouse started take steroids, then hardcore drugs, then having affairs….then the abuse started. I stuck through about two years of awful awful treatment because I didn’t believe in divorce….
….with lots of self work, religious reflection, and very little therapy…I decided it was the safest and healthiest option for our kids. I was scared to leave. But we have been separated for three years, legally divorced for one, and life has been financially harder but sooo much more peaceful.
I entered into marriage with that mindset. I worked really hard to make my marriage work. It was out of my control and divorce was the best option for our family.
My mom and dad felt this way. It ended up me and my brother growing up in an abusive home. My mom, my brother and I all have emotional scars from it. It would have been healthier for everyone to just end it. But religion and This mindset kept it from happening. Eventually they divorced but it should have been way sooner. It was all a fake happy family act at social functions. Then my dad would go to his man cave and mainly ignore us all at home. I see similarities here. I hope Abby does whatever is best for her and her children
As someone currently going through an amicable divorce, totally agree!!! Sometimes it’s what is best for everyone. I feel like I had her mindset for a while, and it was because I did not want to admit everything to myself for the fear of what might come next. It’s always important to have options, and it’s not a negative thing.
Most people enter marriage with a positive mindset but divorce is not an option, that sounds like “I can do whatever I want and not worry about my partner’s feelings”
I love when people choose to make sharing their life with the public an entire career and then get mad when people comment on it.
“I think the people out there need to know” your marital issues girl? No. No they don’t.
@@sus4nahit sounds like she’s trying to normalize their marriage to make herself feel normal. She needs to realize their marriage ISNT the norm and shouldn’t be portrayed as such. Yes, talking about marriage and the things you learn can be helpful, but when you’re that young and have no valid points to add to conversation then shut up. They need to be the ones taking the advice, not giving it.
@Sara-xk1ns i think this type of marriage is actually pretty common. But most women are sick of this dynamic. Ask alot of older women bow their marriage was/how they were treated and it will soumd something like this. A husband who doesn't appreciate his wife and lets her take on every emotional/physical demand. I think women now are trying to make this not normal which is why they get so much backlash. Alot of women are gaslit into thinking what they go through in marriage is fine.
@@Chillikilli ooof. Your comment helps point out the problem, this isn’t common and shouldn’t be portrayed as such. Women aren’t sick of this dynamic, they’re sick of being abused, treated as less then. My comment had nothing to do about stereotypical gender roles in a marriage, it was in regards to them sharing their personal issues worldwide and then advising others on how to handle issues when they have no expertise in the field either. Just because you fight often and have a lot of experience arguing and making up it doesn’t make you a professional. If anything people should be looking at them and NOT wanting to be like them. I think a lot of the viewers see right thru them and wouldn’t listen to their advice but there’s still a good portion of young adults or teens who do watch them and think they are an example of a happy & healthy family. When we have the scum of alpha male culture clawing at every chance to frame young men’s minds, I do what I need to to protect my teenage son and make sure he doesn’t fall for that crap. To me, this is similar but more dangerous for females. They’re being molded into thinking that is a normal marriage and they have to take it. When no one should ever have to. Being told by your spouse that they didn’t find you attractive is already a cruel thing to say, the wife was trying to explain herself and I took it more as the more she got to know him the more attractive he was, she wasn’t initially blown away by just his looks. But when he chimes in with his excited “Same!” it was clear what he meant and he said it to be cruel. He was mad she said something he didn’t like so he whipped back with a hurtful jab. That’s their marriage, jab after jab hidden by fake smiles, fake laughs, fake everything. THAT shouldn’t be normalized. They have a toxic marriage and they refuse to even see an ounce of their flaws, instead they keep pushing this perfect marriage plot to viewers. They need to stop trying to be perfect snd just be real, with themselves, each other and the viewers if they stay online. I have nothing wrong with traditional roles, but they aren’t that, so that isn’t what’s being pushed to viewers. They’re just profiting off of their toxic relationship while giving advise on how to be in a relationship. No one should look at them and crave what they have. They try to hide it behind traditional roles though which makes it even more dangerous to young viewers, so I can see the confusion.
Yep!!! ❤
I can tell that Abby is hurting, but she is so brainwashed into thinking it’s normal and doesn’t know how to leave.
She mentioned he takes care of all the finances / business aspects of their household. 😢so dangerous for women who ever need to leave bc they have a hard time getting to their own money
She has 2 babies. I wouldn't be quick to say brainwashed. You have to be really strong to JUST leave. Personally, I would stick it out until the kids are a bit older. When I have the emotional bandwidth and a financial plan.
I see a TON of internalized misogyny in her, it's kinda sad, especially with her feeling guilt over normal things like being cranky after surgery.
She knows exactly how it’s being portrayed she likes being the innocent victim she’s a bewt
@@angiecrocittotheir water got shut off because he didn’t pay the bill in 7 months. when i heard that i was like “AND HE HAS 2 KIDS???”
I just want to point out that this is the first comment that I’ve ever left on a TH-cam video in my life, but I love your content. I love how you pull back the veil on so many issues. Love your style and your blunt and funny commentary.
She is being emotionally abused. There’s no point in saying they shouldn’t have had children together; they’re here. But I hope she realizes it and can raise her precious babies in a safe, loving, supportive environment when the lightbulb illuminates.
Wtf? That's an extremely hostle thing to say and throwing those phrases around will ruin this marriage.. how in the world do you know this to be true?? Because a youtuber decided to be the most judgemental and opinionated chick on the platform??
Abused? Based on what? Tiktok videos? Lol. Unless you know them personally, claiming abuse based on a handful of tiktok clips is ridiculous.
I'm genuinely curious how she's being abused. I watched them up until she got pregnant the 2nd time and I kinda fell off. I come back around a month ago and everyone HATES Matt when they loved him prior. I've looked at some previous videos and I don't see it. Someone needs to explain it to me.
@@13lilsykos @TheIndigo1child @britbrat4559 He insulted her holiday efforts, her genitalia, the way she gave birth, her hobbies he changed, her breastfeeding abilities, her weight, her eating habits, her muscles, her attractiveness, her need for support after major abdominal surgery, the way she holds him back from his dreams…Nothing she does will ever be right in his eyes because he needs to remain in control of her. (not my words I just saw this comment & it answers ur question perfectly)
Welcome to the comment section, where internet investigators are projecting their personal insecurities and hurt from past relationships, on other peoples relationships for revenge.
Imagine growing up and one day you find a video where your father basically stated that you ruined his life and stopped taking to your mother when she was at her most vulnerable. A+ for you, dude
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Yea, that hurt me too.
R u not supposed to be honest on ur podcast? I might hv madd my dad’s life worse when i was young who knows. Our parents r beings outside of us, their kids
@@jacobrickayzen2744there’s a concept called inside thoughts. Having a podcast does not mean you have to say everything in your head out loud
He sounds like such a narcissist
Also though, keep in mind, couples struggling together after having a child IS NORMAL. It is how you work through the struggle and communicate as a team that determines whether or not it is toxic. It is normal to struggle. It is not normal to not talk to your partner after having a child for 2 days.
Emotionally struggling together is normal, silent treatment is soo childish though 😫 I can’t believe he did that
My partner and I are going through a weird period right now and our daughter just turned 4. I expected it because people don't realize how much your relationship changes when having a kid. Or when one person's life changes and the others doesn't. If you're not good at communicating you have to really really work on it.
I came on here to say this! Struggling after a big change is COMPLETELY NORMAL!!! After birth, changing jobs, kids starting school, moving, kids in the hospital, natural disasters, anything that disrupts the normal -- it can be a struggle to find a new normal. Last year, our daughter lost her disability payments (on a technicality), we had our baby sick in the hospital, a fire in the house, we moved (obviously), our baby went in the hospital 2 more times sick, financial struggles (we nearly lost our new home), our daughter had surgery, our baby lost his insurance, CPS got involved, we got my daughter's payments back, then we all lost our insurance and our food stamps. THAT WAS JUST ONE YEAR. With that many changes, our "daily normal" was all over the place! We struggled as a family, as parents, as a couple, and individually. I don't know that we handled it well, but we handled it, and I feel like we are finally starting to find some normalcy in our lives again. We all have our insurance, food stamps are on, finances are good, bills are paid, everyone is healthy, fed, clothed, and loved. We are good, for now. 😊 I think it's good to normalize struggle -- EVERYONE STRUGGLES -- and feeling the struggles, feeling the change is normal, is valid. Lingering on what you've personally lost, giving your partner the silent treatment because you are butthurt, burdening your partner with all the childcare and cleaning when you are equal workers, failing to pay a bill for 6 months(!), getting butthurt about a holiday/your birthday, filming your partner at her worst so you look your best -- these are not the best ways to deal with the changes and struggles of life. The changes are normal. The struggles are normal. I'll even allow that the feelings may be normal. The selfish responses and actions are NOT.
Struggle how? Why would it make you struggle instead of feeling happiness and joy? Baby makers don't make any sense. Have solid morals and everything becomes easy.
Struggle how? Why? Have some morals and it should be very simple and easy.
I do disagree with you with what you say at 25:35. People make it seem like the new born stage is amazing and bliss but it just isnt for everyone. I can honestly say now because I love her more than anything but i didnt bond with my baby at start, you're recovering physically and emotionally without any time to recover because you have this tiny baby to look after. Its bloody hard and its far from bliss.
She's gaslighting herself to believe she has the perfect husband and everyone is a hater and she's so blind to see it. Bless her heart.
SHE is brainwashed. NOBODY wants suffering so she doe snot do this to herself
The way narcissistic abuse works is that the narcissist gaslights their victim until they start repeating it too. This is what happens in abusive relationships.
Blaming the victim, individually or generally, ends up actually making those people more likely to blame themselves and never get themselves out of the abusive relationship.
A big part of how the abuse cycle works, is that the victim is told constantly that it is their fault they are being abused.
Just fyi.
Y’all are wild for make crazy assumptions based on small clips 🙄 Abby is constantly saying how much she loves and appreciates Matt. That’s not something you can fake, I know because my parents actually have a horrible relationship
They try to normalize it i guess
@Lupita19021 it's not crazy assumptions, it's lived experience.
Fun fact for everyone saying Matt is a narcissist. Even Abby's grandmother believes he is one. She does NOT like Matt at all
@@girlgreenivy No Abby mentioned it in a video ages ago
Because she knows that marrying your bf from when you were 13 years old won’t turn out well most of the time
I'm sure he is the one who puts her up to a lot of the videos.
I think I like Abby’s Grandma more than I like Abby💀
@@missnesi4525yep and think this mostly why she puts up with it all such a shame can only imagine how trapped she feels especially since she got pregnant…highschool sweethearts that are actually meant for each other is rly rare 😂just feel bad for her atp when she realizes it’s gon get messy or just sad
2 days of selfish silence right after she gave birth?? Dude needs to grow the heck up.
And the irony is he was the one supporting her when she got pregnant again after 5 months of giving birth to her first son and he was really taking it positively and encouraging and motivating abby also to go for it and "everything will be okk" 😂😂😂
My daughter was born on my husband’s birthday-he happily had pink cakes for the remainder of his life we lost him 5 years ago to cancer celebrate all the little moments and you don’t need to share every aspect of your life
no SHE had baby blues (postpartum depression), HE had a hissy fit
For accuracies sake, baby blues and postpartum depression are not the same thing and should be differentiated as they are treated differently
I agree he was throwing a tantrum but I do want to say that men can also suffer from depression after having a child and it doesn’t really get talked about enough in my opinion
Goodness think about what would happen if you did some research before posting. You don't even know the difference between the two, it's hilarious.
Baby blues and postpartum depression are like 2 different things, postpartum depression is way worse and baby blues is just a short term sadness.
@@ashleighread1491this
as a labor nurse this is so toxic and actually abusive. I'd be compelled to ask her if she was safe at home if he exhibited this rush to leave the SAME DAY as major abdominal surgery. Also there's no need for formula until the milk comes in unless baby has a specific medical issue (low blood sugar/jaundice)
I had two C-section. I stayed 5 days, my husband wanted to be sure I am fine.
finding out he showed her his new song just a few days after she gave birth, and with the knowledge that he iced her out for two days, im convinced he spent those two days writing his little emo ass song😭😭
lmao😭💀
😂 and it sucked
And it totally was about their life and situations.. So Disrespectful 🙄🙄🙄 I hate to tell him but he needs A lot more songwriting practice 🤣😂😅😂🤣
He took advantage of that being a little sad to turn it into him being depressed 😂 trying to help his music career
Will you marry ❤❤❤? Please say yes ❤
Side note to all the craziness unfolding in this video you are soo pretty 😍
Imagine people throwing praise and saying, "Someone raised her right" because she handed her husband a pillow and a drink. 😂😂😂
Literally! Like I feel like people forget what the bare minimum is 😭
YES- this!
My ex would always tell me I was "raised right". I thought it was a joke. It wasn't, and the moment we had the first big disagreement and I dared defend myself, he told me I was "badly raised" lmao
your opinion is objectively stupid af
Married 32 years on the 20th, have one son who is 30 who lives in the US. We now live in France. My husband works full time. I mostly clean the house, do the laundry and cook dinner Monday-Friday. My husband cooks on the weekends-breakfast too-and we grocery shop together every Saturday, sweeps and cleans the bathroom in his home office. We are a team. We thank each other for the things that get done. Oh-wedding anniversary is June 20th, usually around Father’s Day and his birthday in the beginning of July and he never minds! This couple is awful!
Happy anniversary!
EXACTLY
Wishing you many more happy years together.
See, that’s the kind of marriage that people should strive to have! Love to hear that!
My parents forget my bday growing up, they seem to forget we exsist sometine outside of eating and sleeping so i get ppl that value bdays because it still hurts me so much. But im mot gonna force people on my life to put their problems and holidays away for my needs????? And throw a fit if it doesnt go my way????? (also my bday is veterans day and u dont see me boycotting shit)
My comment was deleted off their Tik Tok when I said having traditional rules doesn't mean only the mom the parent.
Yikes.
It was probably Matt who saw it 😂
Ridiculous. I see so much misogyny online. Happily 4B now.
Well...yeah...most people delete hate comments...
Not to mention they both have the same job(?)
Influencer.
I absolutely need to know everything about your eyeshadow combo here - please! The glitter is wildly beautiful!!!
Her getting the silent treatment from her husband after a C-section is crazy💀
The anger is totally wrong....Shouldn't he have already processed the setbacks? I mean bro you knew she was pregnant.... You knew there was a baby coming...These thoughts should have maybe come when he found out that she was pregnant. I am flabbergasted at his audacity.....
@@vinniexofiction2229 It was his TIME to be there for her and his baby! My husband was awesome. He knew he needed to take a back seat! And he took care of me. He saw what I went through and how hard it was! He got it. He really cared about me and did whatever I needed. Of COURSE, he did!
@@vinniexofiction2229for real
It’s so sad. If you’re alone and doing it all alone, that would be hard. But to be treated that way from the one person who’s supposed to love, support & respect you more than anything? Heartbreaking. How could that be forgiven? Abandoning your wife during the most vulnerable time. So sad/scary.
@@Bella-br1ezthis is exactly my thoughts. How can you be so selfish to not go over your frustrations to take care of your wife who JUST GAVE BIRTH. Giving birth is already traumatic enough, I can’t even imagine how traumatic it gets when your husband gives you the silent treatment for two days after, OVER HIS MUSIC CAREER.. just blows my mind how much of a dick move that is
Notice how he never apologized for not talking to her, causing her to have emotional breakdowns, etc.
Exactly. It sounds pretty clear to me: He resents her. She knows it. And she is sad. The writing is on the wall. I feel like she constantly justifies what he says, despite how hurtful it is. She says things that are hurtful too, but my gosh…not the way that he does. The odds aren’t good. I give it less than 5 years.
Honestly, after the birth comment, I hope she says something next time they’re intimate, like “Oh, look, it’s like a d!€£, only smaller.”
How do you know that he never apologized? I’m not defending him, but you shouldn’t speak without knowledge.
Why would we assume that he did?@@Amm68x
28:12 HELLO? HE's ready to get home because he hasn't showered in two days 💀💀, the woman just gave birth- i think YOU taking a shower is the least of her worries.
As though there isn't a shower available in the birthing suite... or in any hospital suite. That's your own dumb fault, dude.
Why didn’t he go shower? He’s not talking to her anyway so if he’s not supporting her, what is he doing there?
@@playinglifeoneasy9226LMFAO Frrr
I’ve watched 2 of your videos and subscribed. What you’re doing is so important! It’s very eye opening. Some are people I used to follow and have stopped because of lies being exposed, people exploiting their kids, etc
He failed HER; her first Mother’s Day, he did a vlog of him buying a bunch of random crap for her the same day. Nothing planned ahead of time on his part, no spa day, no cute craft from her son (at that time, just one). I remember seeing that and thinking wtf.
That’s common for a lot of men. Most men don’t do anything for their wives for Mother’s Day.
@@anneko6842And it's so disgusting.
They are usually too busy doing everything else that helps the family thrive.
@@jacksnackson3578right because the mothers obviously don’t contribute to making the family thrive. They just sit around doing nothing so theyre the only ones that have time to plan out something ahead of time for their partner 🙄
@victoria51 it's just a fact that women want awards for doing things they are supposed to do where as dad's do more hard work for the family with zero gratitude. Oh, you had to feed the kids? Womp womp. Stop complaining and being ungrateful for once in your spoiled life. Seriously you need to grow up.
Honestly if he’d just posted “cleaning the house while my wife is at the gym” and it was just one of those satisfying cleaning ASMR videos all of this would have been avoided. But he thought he’d get more praise if he added “I never do this”
Yeah but thank god it happened , this not a way of talking being a new parent . Maybe he just should’ve never been a podcaster am I right . F him am I right ?…
At least he was honest but in the worst way ☠️ showed his true self instead lmaoooo
I dont know I feel like he was just trying to be honest because so often people just post highlight reels of their life and he hadn't disclosed that everyone would keep saying how perfect he is
@@venomivy3428 no , for real I’m super honest I’ve had good relationships also some bad ones but what he did is just crazy , if that is your honest feeling when your kid is born then it’s concerning at the minimum . Actually let’s not even say it , these people won’t last together much more and when she sees all the people saying what she probably thinks all along ( cause you can see her face sometimes like “what? “ or at least 👀 don’t say it . Maybe she feels more ….. woman . And sends this dude out
I honestly don't think he was being honest i think he sees these tasks as women duties and didn't want to be less of a traditional man @@kaylahcuellarr3258
OH MY GOD. Him saying that he was “mad” after his wife just gave birth to his son??!! What a selfish POS!!!!!
I think it’s something about people spending too much time on camera and losing their inner monologue.
Like yeah, you can’t really control your initial reactions and feelings but that’s some insight that goes to your therapist to work out. Don’t make it your wife’s fault, this is what happens when people think being open with their partner means burdening them with every single thought
However, he thinks his lacklustre, self absorbed personality is amazing!
Poor thing he couldn’t shower for 2 days because his wife was in the hospital after being ripped apart literally, the discomfort he must have felt!
@@Zahratest and he definitely could have showered! the hospital has a shower in the room he could have used
26:12 "oh because its blissful'- coming from someone who hasnt had any children? It's not always 'blissful' for a whole myriad of reasons (traumatic birth, baby having to go into NICU, extreme fatigue, hormones, post-partum depression to name but a few). Insinuating that it is, is incorrect, harmful and naiive.
100% it’s normal to feel alone after birth especially when breastfeeding as well and that’s okay!! Saying it should be blissful is super damaging
Uhm, newborn bliss is a saying from mothers experiencing bliss. If you don't, then you won't be saying it. It's not that difficult to comprehend. She's not insinuating that it's always blissful she's reiterating the sentiment of the original statement.
Matt is the best example of " I WANT KIDS BUT I DON'T WANT TO BE A FATHER"
Most men are like this. Every woman I've ever seen with kids looks haggard, while the husband is out living his best life at work and with his friends. Most men want kids but do not want to put in the work to actually raise them.
he thinks having children are like collecting pokémon cards
Don’t they have a religious or somewhat conservative background where they are taught their purpose is to have kids?
But that’s not exclusive sentiment for men. We talk so much about mother’s instincts that mothers lacking them feel too much shame to talk. But both sexes can actually grow to be great parents.
It’s not unusual that men strongly bond with their children only when they are a bit older and able to interact and play
A lot of people want kids but don’t want to be parents.
@@uggsarfacts
That man dislikes her. She’s probably defending him now, but 5-10 years down the line she’ll see what we saw.
Modified : I don’t think he’s abusing her. That is too strong of an accusation. I do believe however that he dislikes her or even resents her, for maybe having him be a dad at a time when he wasn’t ready. The talk around post parfum depression and Father’s Day screamed immature and petty.
I’m just learning about these douchenozzles now and I automatically see that she’s much more intelligent and emotionally mature than him. She will come to resent his selfishness and immaturity. He’s not deep and intelligent women need interesting conversations with their partners later in life when children aren’t the focus.
I don’t think she likes him much either. If you watch their channel and not their podcast, he drives her crazy with his adhd and annoying and childish behavior and mannerisms.
I've literally watched their channel off and on for a while, before she was pregnant the first time. I do not see what y'all are talking about. Do I think he's overenthusiastic and annoying? Yeah but that's people.
After he gets caught for having affairs no doubt!
You're a disgruntled woman projecting your experience and insecurities on a relationship you know nothing about to have revenge by proxy.
Buying his wife work out clothes after giving birth....that is unbelievably insensitive.
I would have appreciated some athleisure wear that was loose fitting for me to be more comfortable as my body changed after birth. But yeah, workout clothes would be so demoralizing. 😢
I could see it working if the wife was a gym junkie and the husband knew that she loved going to the gym because it made her happy, but this.... is not that.
@@simplystreeptacular if she was a gym junkie she'd already have a ton of kit. If they had a really dark sense of humour perhaps - my boyfriend and I have this and when you know a person really well and you both know it's a joke fine. I think he is just extremely insensitive.
@@EKL-qu7ih Even if you already have a bunch of workout clothes, I can see how for some people getting a cute new workout outfit would be a great present. (For instance, I have multiple ballet leotards already but if someone got me a cute new one I'd be thrilled.) But I absolutely think you're right that he in particular is just hella insensitive!
Abby loves working out. I bet she, like me, was excited to start exercising postpartum
34:57 I was with my partner since we were 17, and we got married at 22 (both each other’s first relationship). The only thing we’ve thought that was even CLOSE to this conversation is “being with you has made me a better person” and vice versa. Could not IMAGINE sitting around thinking “I wonder if I’d be happier without you? What would it be like to date someone else?” on a REGULAR BASIS. No thank you. Ick.
My dad's birthday also falls on Father's Day a lot and I CAN NOT IMAGINE growing up and him throwing a fit over "not celebrating his birthday". Never once did the man ask for anything for his birthday. When you grow up...especially when you have kids...you MUST LEARN to not be selfish.
Guess what! MY daughter was born on my birthday! I don't expect anything now. It's HER day. She's a child!!! I'm not. I get to be a grown up and make OTHERS feel special.
I CAN NOT STAND THIS MAN.
My birthday has fallen on Mother’s Day every few years or so. Before I was a mom I would have to share the day with my mom. Then when I became a mom I had to also share the day with my mom while also celebrating myself. It’s not that hard to do when you are a mature person.
My dad always told me fathers day is just so dads don't feel left out lol. He is so thankful for still receiving a little present every year. This man expecting a party for fathers day...what?
I was born on Father’s Day and it’s fun when both fall on the same day.
It’s also not like it’s illegal to celebrate on a day that isn’t your actual birthday? That’s why I’m confused he’s being so pissy about it. If my bday lands on a week day, usually I’ll do something special the weekend before/after. They can have 2 parties if they want, they’re not hurting for money lol.
i literally shared a birthday with my father for 18 years and not once did he care. He always mentioned how i was the best birthday gift ever, and he didn’t celebrate birthdays, yet he always celebrated mine!!!
Me ex used to say that he “helped me all of the time with the baby”… that’s called RAISING YOUR CHILD!
Totally understand why he's an ex now. I hope you and your baby are ok❤
Ugh.. that's awful. I'm sorry.
Yhat reminds me of when dads say "I'm babysitting tonight." Uuhhhm... NO you're watching your kids tonight, as a parent!
He never even apologized for ignoring her for two days. She ON-AIR said it was so difficult and he didn't even say I'm sorry
Some people don't believe in sorry, i never say sorry, it makes no difference. You should think before doing stupid sht, don't beg for forgiveness after because hell is going to freeze over before i give a damn. Just my opinion
@@yoachim91you’re a bad person.
@@AvaEFF Think about what you say here, so me for thinking before i act and talk wich makes i never have to say sorry because there is no reason too is worse then having to say sorry for all the bs that comes out of your mouth? If you think people care when you say sorry if you cheated on them or something, it's completely pointless.
@@yoachim91 this is exactly what I’m talking about. You think you’re perfect and you’re not. It’s not that you never fuck up so you never HAVE to say sorry. You just DONT SAY SORRY when you do fuck up because you think you’re perfect. That makes you a bad person. No one never does anything wrong. You’re a giant narcissist if you think you never mess up. I never said not to think about what you say before you say it. You do BOTH. Well I mean YOU don’t because you’re a bad person but you get what I mean.
@@AvaEFF Sure i am a bad person because i don't fck up.... I don't think i am perfect wich makes me make less mistakes then you ignorant people who think you are all that.
And even if let's say i tell my wife she is uuh dumb or something for doing something wrong if i mean that at that point why say sorry then i am just lying in my opinion because i am not sorry that you are doing something wrong...
Do you know what a narcissist is? Have an unreasonably high sense of their own importance, so tell me how important do you find yourself to expect someone else to care about a sorry after you hurt them?
I really do feel like I’m the child watching their parents who definitely need a divorce “stick together for the kids” meanwhile the kids psyche is crumbling because they have to watch their parents destroy themselves and each other every day
The c-section video really sent me over the edge. I labored for 36 hours and needed an emergent c-section because my son was stuck in my pelvis. My epidural didn’t work, and I started to feel pain during my c-section as a result. I had an additional incision made because they still couldn’t get my son out. He’s not my husband, but this made me want to come through the screen and slap him. Both vaginal and C-section moms are REAL moms, our babies just came into the world differently. No one is “cheating” birth. My husband was my biggest hero and supporter after my c-section and I truly feel bad for Abby.
He didn't say she was cheating birth. He said she lost 8 pounds in minutes and asked if she felt like she cheated weight loss. 😅 Everyone is just searching for shit at this point.
@@royalacity at 40:30 he literally says it feels like they cheated birth and then he repeats it. Agreed, the first clip it sounds like he is saying she cheated weightloss but the clip of them on the couch is absolutely him saying they “cheated birth” because the c section was so fast.
My step daughter was a c-section birth. It’s just a different way babies are brought into the world and it’s totally valid
I HOPE YOURE DOING OKAY NOW ❤❤ I HOPE YOUR KID IS DOING GREAT NOW TOO 🫶
And he didn’t even stop to think about how he is impacting such a large young audience by saying that a C-section is cheating birth. The implications of a statement like that… They have millions of followers so millions of young people will believe stuff like that and carry on that harmful rhetoric and it will continue to harm moms, all because he wanted to downplay his wife’s birth on camera, release it as some form of entertainment, to get attention and make money? Like think deeper about what you’re doing for one minute. Think about how you’re shaping and framing how people will view women/moms and how they will treat pregnant/postpartum people. But nope, he can’t think because he doesn’t care to. He doesn’t care that he’s a negative influence on his wife, his kids, his family, his millions of viewers that are mostly kids or vulnerable misguided adult women (who are susceptible to being taken advantage of and abused by other men just like him). He wants women and moms to suffer. He literally plays mind games with his wife when she’s at her physical weakest just to chip away at her more. He does/says the worst things ever then acts like everyone is against him for no reason. He’s a big baby. He needs to admit his wrongs and stop making endless excuses. He’s doing widespread damage because of the power and influence he has.
they're only together because they dont know who they are individually and they're scared to find out. they don't even like each other. this is so sad.
These people give young relationships such a bad rep. I was engaged at 20, knew him a few years before that. It bothers me when people say, they're too young. they actually don't love each other they're just afraid to leave.
Not because I'm 42 now and had some happy ever after with a high school sweetheart, but because we called off the wedding. When people found out the general reaction wasn't; dang that was a really difficult thing to do, I'm so sorry.
it was "yeah, y'all too young that was never going to work anyway" or "why? what happened?"
People, not you, but people I met were so entrenched in their own prejudice they refuse to see any sort of maturity in a young couples' actions. They'd always say don't rush to get married but when two young people decide "okay this actually won't work" and split suddenly its oh y'all weren't serious about it then.
It felt like damned if I do, damned if I don't.
@@ayahlinI understand your point. I think part of the issue is that most brains fully develop at 25. If very young people get married and have kids at a young age, they haven’t fully cognitively developed yet. They go from kids to raising kids and that becomes their whole identity. That’s not even to say that’s wrong or bad but it’s a huge factor in why so many end up divorced. You can’t truly love someone you don’t know and once you realize it you may feel a lot differently about the person, which is understandable but sad and can lead to lifelong financial issues, heartache, etc. I think what I’m saying is that if people can hold off until mid 20s and/or go to couples pre marriage counseling, oh and please above all else use birth control, then I think they may stand a better chance at a lasting happy marriage and family.
Mmmmmm I dunno, I think the income from vlogging together stops them cold from separating.
The woman DOES she is just manipulated and the guy does not deserve happiness. Simple as that
For views ofcourse
These poor young baby children. She is going to wake up one morning when she is 35 and realize that she doesn't have to keep smiling and silently suffering.
I don't think her suffering is silent,in fact they are both very vocal.
Matt and his music lmao. Whomever he's paying to record him is just laughing all the way to the bank.
It comes full circle when he says he doesnt help with his son and you realize maybe thats why hes so lax when she finds out she is pregnant in the first videos, while she is freaking out.😢
I was with a narcissist for 12 years. I can spot one from 100 miles away. He’s got those narcissistic tendencies and it’s a huge red flag.
He eerily reminds me of the videos I've seen of Chris Watts before he committed the tragedy
Her apologizing for needing help is it for me. Narcissists hate it so much when you need help.
@@frozenheart7133That reminds me of the Gabby Petito police bodycam footage. The guy was reported for physically abvsing her in public, but she spends the entire time apologizing & blaming herself. All the while, the boyfriend was having a joke-y "bıtches be crazy" chat with the police. Disgusting. And obviously incredibly tragic.
I was born on Father's Day and my dad always tells me that I was his first Father's Day gift, it's pathetic that Matt threw that tantrum
Im due any day now with our first and my husband has his fingers crossed she comes on Father’s Day!
Omg that's so sweet
@@Caylientewishing u a safe delivery :)
@@Cayliente congratulations :) xx
Thats is the sweetest! My daughter was born December 22 and my birthday is the 28th she is the best christmas/birthday present I ever got. And it wasn't even on those days. I think it's a blessing
Oooomg you need to make an updated reaction to cruise gate!
I feel like I accidentally walked into their couple’s therapist session on Zoom.
It's so humiliating for poor Abby! ❤
Me too. And this is the first time I see them🙈 embarrassed for them
The silent treatment is ridiculous and the fact that he ignored her after she gave BIRTH and needed him the most.
Smells like future divorce
she’s prob staying because she’s put so much time in the relationship
@@perrydaplatypus2667yup that and a kid!
she's gonna be glad that no fault divorce exists lol
Amen
@perrydaplatypus2667 they were very young so i wouldn't be surprised
He's a routine, not a lover
Your facial expression reactions are golden