Today's my 45th birthday and after a horrendous month of binge drinking I've decided to start turning my life around. I have felt so sick these past few days and can't do it anymore.
Happy Birthday friend. On my 53rd birthday this year September 30, after 20 years heavy almost every day drinking I had enough. A kind stranger on the internet with several years of sobriety told me straight up that I HAD TO GET MY SH*T TOGETHER. He didn't tell me I needed to reach out to anyone, go to rehab again, go to AA, just that it was time I took responsibility and owed it to myself. It stuck for some reason this time. Everything Kevin says is spot on. You can do it and deserve better ❤ 28 days alcohol and cigarette free by the grace of God. That's my story, it's ok to ask for help if you need to.
@@knor7340 Good luck to you also! I saw your comment also, and wish you good luck on your new sober life. It's the best decision you'll ever make to improve every aspect of your life! Please stick with it and you'll be amazed at the payoff!
@@G_money Thank you for sharing and encouragement, congrats to you! I definitely lost so much over the years and I'm determined to stay sober. Something shifted this time that I haven't had any cravings or desire, I give all the glory to God. Be well friend ❤️
Fight the craves..it takes time, maybe have a big soda pop instead. Then learn what your "triggers" are...what makes you want to grab booze and just check out. Then when it happens> you can say and know.."AH that is a trigger...but nope not drinking over it" Get your head on the pillow sober tonight my friend and I will do the same! fight the booze and live
607 days today (I stopped counting months ago). Kevin's vids were the most important piece to the puzzle. Today I would no sooner drink that I would hit myself in the head with a baseball bat. For anyone who reads this and drinks now....its possible. I always thought that alcohol was the solution to all my problems....anxiety, depression, relationship dysfunction, painful memories. I learned that alcohol was the source of all these problems. I am free now. Life is easier....far, far easier. We all will quit one day. Its whether we want that day to be the day we leave this earth. I decided that I was better that that. You are too.
I don’t have a lot of drinking friends to get away from. I’m staying away from them. I’m the one with a problem. It’s not fun. I like your message. It is helpful. Thank you!
I'll be one year free of alcohol on December 14, and I'm so so happy to be FREE! Kevin's videos were key for me. Love him so much, and the work he's doing is crucially important!
Same hear. This was the first stop drinking videos I listened to, and the best. That'll be 6 years ago January 19th. It ain't that hard to stop drinking or smoking. I did both at the same time lol
It took me about 4-5 months to really learn to live without alcohol and to be somewhat happy. Month 6 I finally found some inner peace with myself. I have relapsed 1000s of times. But after I found my inner peace. I stopped wanting to escape back to alcohol as easily. Progress does come quickly after you stop drinking. Even if you dont notice right away. Thank you for the videos sir! I still love listening to them, while im out walking my dogs in nature.
It's funny, I was just talking about that today on one of our videos. When you get out far enough away from your drinking, you start to see your own drinking past through kinder eyes... Well done!
Kevin's videos were the first on this topic that I stumbled onto in the early days of quitting drinking over two years ago. The words he shared really hit home and still do today.
1 year ,1 month and 28 day.4 days of beer and I feel bad. I'll feel so much better tomarrow.I started at 14 and I'm 70 now.I can do this again. Thank you for being there for me again!!😊
11 months sober, so grateful... Kevins video help me so much mentally to get out of that cave. Thank you Kevin for helping the world to be better. Saving lifes and family's. Respect brother ❤❤❤
I try to not feel guilt as i have done this so often ,the anxiety comes from knowing i will have a unproductive wasted day,and i,m compromising my health,but tomorrow will be a better one ,cut my loss and try to remember why i keep talking to my self about this,everything is better with out the beer,takes me about four days,then some how i forget all my self talks: and one won,t hurt,but its always 10.Keep trying.👍
@@goforitrazz appreciate this! It’s the definition of insanity what I do…. Drink to relieve anxiety but then the next day is awful. Sucks how much of a hold booze has on me
Hi Kevin, Dan here. You reached out to me before on your website and I just wanna thank you from the bottom of my heart for getting me started on my sobriety journey! I went 7 months sober last year. Had a lads holiday recently and had a minor slip up but the major difference I noticed was how I've changed and how my opinion of alcohol has changed because of you. 2 months sober now and hoping to stay even stronger this time! Onwards and upwards 👌🙏
Thank you for your thoughts. I was looking for videos on dealing with the uncomfortable feelings in making changes and I came across yours. I don't have drinking problem but I've been battling with emotional eating for years. I think the mindset behind any form of addiction is the same, which is the helplessness in front of overwhelming situations. The mindset shift you've shared in your video that I find most striking is that every drop of wine you put in your body is your own choice. Yes addiction can be caused by many factors, mostly the disability to make meaningful connection with other people. But owning the responsibility that I myself made every decision along the addiction journey also empowers me with the fact that I can put a stop to it. I need to hear that. Thank you again for sharing!
Glad you liked the video. I believe that most of our "addictions" are created through our mindsets and our inner dialogue...the stories we tell ourselves about why we do what we do.... It's these things that trap us much more than a loose gene or any other physical factors. The personal responsibility goes a long way, not only in dealing with your own issues, but also, I believe, in finding connections with people who look at life in similar ways.
My fears were losin motivation for all the things ive brought into my life. I used beer for an initiator . But i doon learned if i just started the activity it would just flow and id find interest and have a much more rewarding experience. Plus the alcohol was starting to lose its dopamine boost. So just had to find ways to break that thought and carry on. But i was worried id discover how dull i felt everything was . I found that i genuinely find things fun once i get going. Its such a trap and illusion to thing alcohol causes fun. Now i fear hangovers. Haaa. I can remember the pure misery and it strikes a deep terror within!!! 😮😂 Great detterent for ever going back.
So much less to worry about when we stop drinking. Small list: doing stupid things, spending too much money, needing to check the phone to see if we did/said anything dumb, what to drink, when to drink, how to get home, do we have enough alcohol at home, health issues, wasting time, etc. Once we see alcohol as BS, life is so much easier.
5 months 3 days sobar after 30 year habbit if yah wana seriously stop you will👍 stick 2 it my wife still drinks evey now and then dosnt bother me anymore
My husband is a big drinker and mlpartier that's the struggle. I dont like alcohol anymore. It's hard going out with friends. But when they are wasted is ky time to duck out and leave
It's the only way to keep your sanity. I stay until I see the first signs of intoxication. I don't want to see me family or friends like that. I remember, even when they don't.
Today's my 45th birthday and after a horrendous month of binge drinking I've decided to start turning my life around. I have felt so sick these past few days and can't do it anymore.
Happy Birthday friend. On my 53rd birthday this year September 30, after 20 years heavy almost every day drinking I had enough. A kind stranger on the internet with several years of sobriety told me straight up that I HAD TO GET MY SH*T TOGETHER. He didn't tell me I needed to reach out to anyone, go to rehab again, go to AA, just that it was time I took responsibility and owed it to myself. It stuck for some reason this time. Everything Kevin says is spot on. You can do it and deserve better ❤ 28 days alcohol and cigarette free by the grace of God. That's my story, it's ok to ask for help if you need to.
Good luck!
@@knor7340 Good luck to you also! I saw your comment also, and wish you good luck on your new sober life. It's the best decision you'll ever make to improve every aspect of your life! Please stick with it and you'll be amazed at the payoff!
@@G_money Thank you for sharing and encouragement, congrats to you! I definitely lost so much over the years and I'm determined to stay sober. Something shifted this time that I haven't had any cravings or desire, I give all the glory to God. Be well friend ❤️
Fight the craves..it takes time, maybe have a big soda pop instead. Then learn what your "triggers" are...what makes you want to grab booze and just check out. Then when it happens> you can say and know.."AH that is a trigger...but nope not drinking over it" Get your head on the pillow sober tonight my friend and I will do the same! fight the booze and live
Thanks Kevin. No amount of anxiety can be worse than the anxiety I have over drinking every day 😂
607 days today (I stopped counting months ago). Kevin's vids were the most important piece to the puzzle. Today I would no sooner drink that I would hit myself in the head with a baseball bat. For anyone who reads this and drinks now....its possible. I always thought that alcohol was the solution to all my problems....anxiety, depression, relationship dysfunction, painful memories. I learned that alcohol was the source of all these problems. I am free now. Life is easier....far, far easier. We all will quit one day. Its whether we want that day to be the day we leave this earth. I decided that I was better that that. You are too.
I don’t have a lot of drinking friends to get away from. I’m staying away from them. I’m the one with a problem.
It’s not fun. I like your message. It is helpful. Thank you!
That's great to hear :)
I'll be one year free of alcohol on December 14, and I'm so so happy to be FREE! Kevin's videos were key for me. Love him so much, and the work he's doing is crucially important!
Same hear. This was the first stop drinking videos I listened to, and the best. That'll be 6 years ago January 19th. It ain't that hard to stop drinking or smoking. I did both at the same time lol
It took me about 4-5 months to really learn to live without alcohol and to be somewhat happy. Month 6 I finally found some inner peace with myself. I have relapsed 1000s of times. But after I found my inner peace. I stopped wanting to escape back to alcohol as easily. Progress does come quickly after you stop drinking. Even if you dont notice right away.
Thank you for the videos sir! I still love listening to them, while im out walking my dogs in nature.
It's funny, I was just talking about that today on one of our videos. When you get out far enough away from your drinking, you start to see your own drinking past through kinder eyes... Well done!
Kevin's videos were the first on this topic that I stumbled onto in the early days of quitting drinking over two years ago. The words he shared really hit home and still do today.
1 year ,1 month and 28 day.4 days of beer and I feel bad. I'll feel so much better tomarrow.I started at 14 and I'm 70 now.I can do this again. Thank you for being there for me again!!😊
It's never too late, Kathy. Have you taken our preparation module?
11 months sober, so grateful... Kevins video help me so much mentally to get out of that cave.
Thank you Kevin for helping the world to be better. Saving lifes and family's. Respect brother ❤❤❤
Congratulations in advance on your first year :)
I’m on Day 8 , I was in the ER last Monday for alcohol induced anxiety , I feel so much better already after one week. I just want to keep going
Keep it up :)
Nice video Kevin! Happy to report I'm on day 54 of no alcohol and your videos have helped. Thank you!
Day 1 again… the hangxiety is very real… pray for me
Hang in there.
I try to not feel guilt as i have done this so often ,the anxiety comes from knowing i will have a unproductive wasted day,and i,m compromising my health,but tomorrow will be a better one ,cut my loss and try to remember why i keep talking to my self about this,everything is better with out the beer,takes me about four days,then some how i forget all my self talks: and one won,t hurt,but its always 10.Keep trying.👍
@@goforitrazz appreciate this! It’s the definition of insanity what I do…. Drink to relieve anxiety but then the next day is awful. Sucks how much of a hold booze has on me
@@OptimusRon23 exactly
Same for me. 5th time lucky ❤
thanks again kevin your vids have helped me greatly over the past 3 and a half years. and yes onwards and upwards
Glad to help
Hi Kevin, Dan here. You reached out to me before on your website and I just wanna thank you from the bottom of my heart for getting me started on my sobriety journey! I went 7 months sober last year. Had a lads holiday recently and had a minor slip up but the major difference I noticed was how I've changed and how my opinion of alcohol has changed because of you. 2 months sober now and hoping to stay even stronger this time! Onwards and upwards 👌🙏
Thank you for your thoughts. I was looking for videos on dealing with the uncomfortable feelings in making changes and I came across yours. I don't have drinking problem but I've been battling with emotional eating for years. I think the mindset behind any form of addiction is the same, which is the helplessness in front of overwhelming situations. The mindset shift you've shared in your video that I find most striking is that every drop of wine you put in your body is your own choice. Yes addiction can be caused by many factors, mostly the disability to make meaningful connection with other people. But owning the responsibility that I myself made every decision along the addiction journey also empowers me with the fact that I can put a stop to it. I need to hear that. Thank you again for sharing!
Glad you liked the video. I believe that most of our "addictions" are created through our mindsets and our inner dialogue...the stories we tell ourselves about why we do what we do.... It's these things that trap us much more than a loose gene or any other physical factors. The personal responsibility goes a long way, not only in dealing with your own issues, but also, I believe, in finding connections with people who look at life in similar ways.
Great scenery, thanks for the video.
My fears were losin motivation for all the things ive brought into my life. I used beer for an initiator . But i doon learned if i just started the activity it would just flow and id find interest and have a much more rewarding experience. Plus the alcohol was starting to lose its dopamine boost. So just had to find ways to break that thought and carry on. But i was worried id discover how dull i felt everything was . I found that i genuinely find things fun once i get going. Its such a trap and illusion to thing alcohol causes fun.
Now i fear hangovers. Haaa. I can remember the pure misery and it strikes a deep terror within!!! 😮😂
Great detterent for ever going back.
Absolutely a delueion. You've a good amount of time behind you now, Jenny!
So much less to worry about when we stop drinking. Small list: doing stupid things, spending too much money, needing to check the phone to see if we did/said anything dumb, what to drink, when to drink, how to get home, do we have enough alcohol at home, health issues, wasting time, etc. Once we see alcohol as BS, life is so much easier.
Absolutely. Life becomes much simpler...
2 weeks today
Thanks!
Thanks Carol :)
5 months 3 days sobar after 30 year habbit if yah wana seriously stop you will👍 stick 2 it my wife still drinks evey now and then dosnt bother me anymore
My husband is a big drinker and mlpartier that's the struggle. I dont like alcohol anymore. It's hard going out with friends. But when they are wasted is ky time to duck out and leave
It's the only way to keep your sanity. I stay until I see the first signs of intoxication. I don't want to see me family or friends like that. I remember, even when they don't.