@@marciaoh7056 they are not just actors,, She actually does have ADHD, i have seen a interview of them both talking about their real life scenarios, him living with her with ADHD, and her living with ADHD, that’s why they can act it out so well and he is just as lovely towards her in real life
I have days where I'm like her and laundry is literally all I get done and I have days where I'm able to multi-task and get other things done between washes.
I’m autistic not ADHD - dunno if the same strategies work. I set alarms with names for just about everything, on my Apple Watch. So I’ll say “set an alarm in one hour called laundry is done” so my watch will buzz and tell me the laundry is done. If I have to ignore it, I try to always press snooze, so it reminds me again after ten minutes or so. Same for alarms when I have noodles boiling on the stove, or if I promised my kid I’d play a game with him, etc. This lets me focus as much as I want to on what I’m doing, without having to keep extra things in my head that will either be forgotten or be a distraction.
@@faioraYess, alarms can be so helpful! Glad that they work for you and that you're mentioning them so other people can use that knowledge 😊 I also use alarms, but only for some stuff like doctor appointments, leaving for work etc and sometimes for making food. Tried to use them for other stuff but it feels too controlling and demanding 😅
I love these!💕 My only problem wld be that I’d need to take the first load rather than last bc I wldn’t be able to concentrate on anything else during the first four loads, knowing that I had the fifth one coming up later🤯
Or, would have to take the first load because I currently had the "I'm in!" attitude, but there's no guarantee that I'll still be in that state in 4 hours...
@@pjp9383 both combined for me xD I'm gonna be anxious for 4 h, will see the whole day as occupied by that single laundry batch and will be totally out of the mindset by then so te folding will feel like an eternity
I made it work for me using ikea open closet, so I can literally toss it in its rollout wire mesh basket as I get it done. Kinda like Andrea's Fashion Galaxy setup, everything coordinated by color (its visually/organizationally easiest for my ADHD brain) and another wall of roll out baskets for accessories. I broke down and couldn't function anymore in my bedroom, so I asked for help going thru my clothes and drilled down on finding an organizational system that worked with my ADHD, rather than being given a system from others that would never work for me. It took about 18months of concerted effort to figure out every I needed for it to be functional for me but the perseverance was worth it! Laundry is a whole another system of pavlovian training to timers (put your favorite snack on the washing machine and you can only have bites after you've switched the load), it took a while but now when the timer for laundry dings, I'm excited cuz I get some ginger candy and clean laundry LOL Good luck all!
My problem is I'm like ok, laundry day... Wash is 45 min, dryer is an hr... so I can get five loads done and yard work done in-between. It's going to be a productive day! Next day one load in the dryer, 1 in the wash and yard tools still outside... OK today is part two! But I forgot I had a Dr appointment and missed it again... Ohhh wait where is my coffee? Crap where's my phone?
So many emotions watching this one video on 1 chore. I seriously feel like everyone with ADHD needs someone in their life that is THIS supportive. Great video, super accurate.❤
This is so cute to talk it over and explain the process. My dad does the laundry in the house cause he sorts and folds really well. However I'd argue the changing from wash to dryer to folding is where it gets forgotten about. I've now done my own laundry (yea college and no parents and moving back in thinking I can do my own laundry now) and have developed a system of timers to remind me that I'm doing laundry. If I forget to set the timer...that is a problem 😅
Laundry is my #1 problem long before I was diagnosed late after decades of anxiety and depression. I would wash clothes then forget they were in the washer. Then have to rewash them. I would put in dryer and forget that and come back to run dryer to get wrinkles out and forget that too. Once dried I would take one piece at time out of dryer and fold it and stack on dryer. Only to leave there and many eventually fall off in the floor get trampled on just to be put back in washer again. I would say I will not do this again or try to change up the way I do it just to rinse and repeat all my ADHD issues over and over again.
Both my partner and I have ADHD (imagine the chaos), but thankfully, laundry is something I can do. I love the smell of line-dried washing, and folding puts me in my happy place. I find it very meditative. Then he drops the things I've csrefully laundered and folded on the floor. It's a small wonder he's still breathing!
This!! I do all laundry and it is also a smell and texture thing for me. But my partner does floordrobe, wear again piles and I find their clothing everywhere through the house. But they get mad that I do not care how much life might have been in the clothes, when I do laundry, all that is misplaced, is going in. 😂
I have 4 piles that need washing, lol the cats start using them as beds since the piles don't move that quickly. I found "clean" bed sheets in my closet that I just forgot about. Omg, there was so much cat hair on them that I was scared to put them in the washer machine before lint rolling them. I used over half a roll getting that hair off. Whew! I've been doing a lot of deep cleaning lately since I am getting ready for a move. Your app has helped me tremendously! I love you two 💕
We got a new dishwasher that works so much better than the old one that I wanted to rewash all of the dishes yesterday. Same damn thing, it’s like I was stuck to the dishwasher all day and I knew that didn’t make any sense but there it was anyway. 😂😂😂 You have become the most relatable thing in my life!!!
I just had this discussion with a friend yesterday😂… I said I freakin wash the damn dishes before putting them in there! I feel like it’s double the time now🫣
On a tangent... In the first couple of weeks when I'd got my new washing machine I would stand and watch it - just marvelling at all the different functions! (The old one lasted 14 years.) I knew I should really be getting on with other stuff but still stood watching it with a smile on my face... so no danger of forgetting I'd done a wash and discovering it when I went to put a wash on.
It's taken me years to work around the washing and understanding that once it's in the machine I don't have to 'hold my breath', so to speak. I wouldn't exactly say I was organised but I can now do smaller stuff in between washes.... sometimes, not always I'm not perfect but I've learned not to care 😅
These videos are incredible. I just got through my ex-husband divorcing me basically because he was sick of my AuDHD and these give me hope that, when I'm ready someday it's possible to meet someone who is willing to be kind to me.
Timers are your friend. Four tips. 1. Put your timer device (phone in my case) in the same room out of arms reach, or in a different one so you have to physically get up from what you're doing, keeping you from just shutting it off and forgetting it for the next 1-5 hours. 2. Make sure you stop whatever you are doing (for me it's watching TH-cam and/or Video Games most of the time) and immediately get to the laundry to put it in the dryer or get it out of the dryer, depending on where you're at in the cycle. 3. Name your timers so you know what they are for. That keeps you from forgetting what you're doing. Mine are "Laundry Washed" and "Laundry Dried" respectively. 4. If you see how much other cleaning/chores you can get done before the timer goes off *instead* of goofing off, the rush of urgency that fuels most ADHD folks like us can help you get more done in less time. Don't take Adrenaline for granted. Hope that helps. Good luck!
@@xantishayde-walker4593 That can help sometimes, but often I end up being in the middle of a videogame that I cannot pause so I let the timer ring until it stops on its own and by the time I finish my game/mission/whatever, I already forgot about laundry. I guess I should set multiple timers, spaced out by 15~30 minutes...and annoy the hell out of my boyfriend. xD
@@xantishayde-walker4593 Thanks but the timers never work for me. I turn them off because I’m in the middle of something and then forget what I’d had them on in the first place and then it goes from a one day task to all weekend task for doing my own laundry. But maybe that’ll help someone else.
When we used to live in a house, and had a washing machine, I had no issue doing the laundry most days. I'm an AuDHDer, so I like routine. I don't like someone else doing my laundry/touching my clothes, stuff, etc...
I’m AuADHD too, and I don’t mind doing laundry. But my “ADHD brain” often forgets to follow through if I don’t leave reminders for myself! Unfortunately, that part seems to be in charge of organization, which means my “Autistic brain” has to cope with tracking the chaos my “ADHD brain” creates!😅
Best appliance I’ve ever purchased is a combination washer dryer. Had a plumber and electrician help get it installed in my closet. I put my clothes in it as my laundry hamper. I never have to worry about sour laundry or having to do several loads in one day.
I just do what i need for the next 2 days. lots of searching through different floordrobes. I have a sainsburys carrier a bag with about 200 clean odd socks in, 150 could be matched. i think its on the To Do List ;) . It is what it is. BTW late diagnosed in my 50's. vids like this helps with not giving yourself a hard time for it.
Ok, laundry in my house, I always notice when it needs done & get hyper focused on gathering it all up, usually when there's no clean bras or socks😂, I haul it all to the laundry room and start it, I tell my hubby (the neurotypical) I started the laundry can you switch it in an hr. & that's how we roll. The only way that works for me on my own is to start a project I've been wanting to do, but I start it in the laundry room. Or if I wanna binge watch TV show, I ask my husband to not let the next episode start until I switch the laundry... thats the only way ive managed to do mountains of laundry in one day. But usually never committing myself to more than 1 load a day is best.
Doind the laundry is a full-time for me too 😂. My mind goes "we are doing laundry" and blocks out any open time slot I have in between washes. Some days are good and I can mentally disengage from the task once it's in the washer/dryer and do other things. Some other times I get so tired from disengaging that I'll only do one load instead of the many I wanted/needed to run. Best I've got is leave the load doing its thing before I go to work/sleep. But then there's the risk I'll come back to it and have no energy to put it away/on the dryer 😅.
I am single and have inattentive ADHD. I hate laundry. It takes me a whole week to complete and I have to constantly rewash because I forget about the clothes. It can be a maddening experience.
Love your wholesome videos with the considerate strategics. Thank you for sharing!❤ ps: Got distracted while watching another short of yours in the shortlane, well well..😅
I'd need to do the first load in this scenario. Otherwise, it's a day in the ADHD waiting room for me and guilt later because I still didn't get anything done and didn't help because I thought I should be using the time otherwise. The good news is, once off the hook and after I do my load, I'm free from obligation and will likely help a lot and wonder why I thought it was so hard! Further, She's right. Five loads of laundry is a full day, after the first hour at least. Aside from putting it in and taking it out, there is folding and putting away. It is NOT ten minutes give times a day! Even though I tell myself that same lie every time I plan to do multiple loads, it can fill the whole day before you know it. I'm not as sure about this being a neuro-typical/divergent thing as a male /female thing. My husband never worries about wrinkles or clothes being put away just so and gets things done quickly.
I’m ADD, and a single mom. My boys are sweet, I’ve told them I struggle. We do our own laundry, and help move things through for each other (I need to wash, someone else’s stuff is in the wash, so we move it to the dryer for them and continue on.) sometimes, clothes have to be rewashed or dried from sitting too long. 🎉 great. But I think I still would employ more strategies (set an alarm for example) to stay “on it”. I love these guys, but even with my struggles… I find myself doubting the utter incompetence in the laundry department. Sure, it happens. We forget sometimes. He can call out “new load!” When it is time to switch and she can do it. Really, only an exceedingly kind man whose job is to teach partners how to kindly deal with ADHD would demonstrate such patience. Hard to not feel taken advantage of if it were always like this. Some call it, “weaponized incompetence”… always a struggle, but in our efforts for compassion do we risk lowering the bar so much the incompetence becomes (even if inadvertently) manipulative?
Thank you so much for the last sentence of your comment! This is something I struggle with constantly. I don’t want to take advantage of my husband but he is an Aspie and doesn’t read situations and people well. I am AuADHD and have some very real but ‘invisible’ health conditions. I have a hard time asking for help and often wonder if I might be ‘inadvertently weaponizing or manipulating’ him. I constantly try hard not to do that and I am glad to have something to actually call it. Thanks
Only four hours from now she is going to be so preoccupied with something else that she will forget to do the last load 😄. Better to have her only do the first load now that you have her focus, cause your not going to have it four hours from now 😬.
@@joannecolijn3647Yeah, if I try to get my wife to do something four hours later she will be so hyper focused on something else by then that my life will be on the line if I try to get her to do something else 😬.
I totally get this: mentally preparing for laundry day (May take days to prepare), not being able to do tasks while doing laundry (sometimes I’m lucky & can do other things). My laundry is not in suite but in a room in my building. If it wasn’t for my anxiety constantly telling me to set an alarm& having to pay for laundry, I’d end up doing loads over & over again.
The way this looks in our house is that he does the laundry and I fold it all when it’s done. I’m also disabled and our washing machine is pretty much inaccessible to me except in emergencies, so folding once it is back upstairs is the only thing I really can do. But, I never really realized how much that suits my mental health as well.
Timers are a lifesaver. Also, short cycles. Stuff that isn't dirty-dirty can go for a 30 min cycle rather than the 2-3 hr cycle that my machine insists on for higher temps. That way I don't get too caught up in whatever else I am doing (but I do need a timer to remind me either way) .
I avoid so many issues by having to use the laundromat. And the need for clean work clothes means I go about once a week. While at the laundromat I deal with emails and answer text messages--or sit there distracted by the noise. When I get home I either hang up my laundry or pull the shirts and dresses out and lay them on my bed so they don't get too wrinkled. The socks and other stuff gets put away days later sometimes because I can rarely complete all of it in one go. This is a recent improvement from living out of my hamper until the next laundry day, and it's because I switched to mostly wearing dresses and some of them really don't look great all wrinkled (and I sure don't want to have to iron or steam them)
You two are my goal. I wish so bad my wife could better understand and we could have this without me always having to be so overwhelmed. Can't wait to listen to the second book! 🖤
That's one of the reasons why I ❤❤❤❤ to crochet😂😂😂 I can make a whole shirt in between.. It's just a flop here and a flop there.. And it gets me off my ass to make sure that i'm eating something during the day too😅😋
I hang laundry inside. I could double up if I hung stuff on all surfaces, or made a web of washing line, but I really don't fancy it. If I had a clothes dryer, or a large yard, I could see working on it all day, but the hastle now keeps me both frustrated and safe.
I don't have a dryer so my ADHD-laundry looks like: Day one: washing and putting it up on the air dryer Day two to whenever it's still on dryer Day whatever: wear it from the dryer Next laundry day: Oh Sh*** I still have laundry on the dryer - quickly put it on the pile on my bedroom chair Visitors, prep for holiday or random dopamine rush: folding and putting it in the cupboard. Tip: when I left something too long in the washing machine and it gets smelly, instead off washing it again I put it in the freezer for 48h - kills all the bacteria and with it the smell.
I thought that was normal... Wearing it from the air dryer... Or folding it only when I have new load to hang out to dry... 😂😂😂 People fold it as soon as it dries??? And that tip with the freezer is hilarious and amazing!!! Hahahaha, you are a genius!!! 😂
I couldn’t face doing five loads in one day. I have to do one load in separate stages. Day1: 1) take dirty laundry downstairs 2) load it into the washing machine Day 2: 3) put detergent in 4) start washing machine 5) get the clothes horse and sit by the washing machine door to hang each thing. Take break if needed 6) larger items on the radiator (or outside if lucky). Day 6: 7) if stuff is actually dry by now, shove everything into a big bag and carry it upstairs. 8) either just take stuff from bag as and when needed or slowly put a few things away each day until it’s done.
I admit...my main reason for not leaving the wash has been because I have to use public places and we had theft enough times from washers and dryers as kids that I now just sit with my stuff. But I totally get this. I'm like this when I cook, to be honest.
Adhd in the brain too. Very interesting, if I’d have to take the last load I still wouldn’t be able to do anything until my time for the last load was up. I would forget. I’d be better off doing the first load.
Hahaha. I don't get much done either, so I limit it to 2 loads on one day. Only lose half a day. Unless laundromat nearby has 2-3 big loaders available at the same time. 5 loads could be done in about an hour and a half. Edit: Since I have a capsule wardrobe now, and limited my linens don't have much of a laundry build up now. Though instead of only having a weeks worth of clothing and linens, I have enough to last two weeks. Weekly is too stressful.
I just do one load at one day and come back to it the next day. Then I put the washed clothes in the dryer and wash the next load and so one. After a few days everything is washed, dryed and folded in the closet. No problem, I just have to write a reminder for washing in my calendar. And yeah, I have ADHD and autism and I don't even take meds. It's about training yourself and some routines.
My floordrobe & clean washing pile are at one 🌏 Sometimes, once a year or so. You get so close to dealing with the washing basket that you find ‘new clothes’. (Spoiler alert - They’re not new. We’ve just forgot they existed) Its like a free piece of clothing that we should probably love, because we probably picked it, finding a hidden dopamine gem in the bottom of the washing basket is free new clothes 😂 Sometimes it’s a bit of a miss, think I’ve got !Bear USA and Ed Hardys buried deeper. Sometimes you miss the trending years - a lil piece of history. Right there in the washing basket. Retro 😂
I would feel the same. Like that’s 5 hours I’m on standby. And I share my washer with the building so I can’t leave it just sitting in there. Not much mental space for more.
5 loads od laundry definitely took me at least 5 hours because of the sorting, washing, drying, folding, hanging, sorting. Maybe I could vacume and organize the clean stuff in between...Still a full day of work...😂
I put a load of washing in at 10am yesterday then went to the cinema intending to take the wet load out when we got home (our machine takes about 2.5 hours for a load). Because I had left the house, I forgot about the washing. This morning I realised it was still in the machine, put it back on again at around 8am. It is now 4.15pm and the wet washing is still in the machine because I went upstairs afterwards instead of sitting on the sofa in the next room waiting for it to beep to let me know it was finished
My life was so much easier, in a weird sort of way, when I didn't have a washing machine in my flat, but a laundrette not too far from my house. Every week, normally on a Sunday, I'd poddle off to the laundrette, dump all my washing in to about two machines, and then have a patient little sit-down and a read while waiting for it to get done. Then I'd take it all out, poddle off home, completely fail to unpack my laundry bag, and then use them as my wardrobe for a week and my floor as a laundry bag. Rinse and repeat.
My husband does the washing for me, when all loads are done and completed we tag team putting them away. He helps me sort out the shirts pants and underwear into separate piles then I throw all the underwear into a drawer, not folded, all the socks into another drawer, not paired, hang all the shirts but I make sure all the tshirts are together, dress shirts, then our casual hang around the house shirts like tank tops. He has his side for shirts and I have mine, and I have a rule that you take it off the hanger, you put the empty hanger in the middle with the other empty hangers. Then I sit on the bed and start folding/rolling up the pants (saves more room this way) and since he sits in front of our dresser on the computer, I hand the pants to him and he puts it in either my drawer or his and he doesn't have to get up and I can focus on getting the pants actually folded instead of having to stop every five seconds. And I can only put the laundry away when they are all washed because if I do one load, I cannot guarantee the second load will get put away. I have to mentally prepare myself all day for the task and then I am completely wiped out after. We just did this last night and immediately after folding the last pair of pants, I just laid down on the bed, somehow managed to fall asleep quickly despite my brain going 100 miles a minute, and didn't even wake up to my husband getting into the bed. It takes so so so much out of me. On a somewhat related note, I absolutely hate cooking because I have to stand there and literally wait for water to boil. I cannot set the stove on and then walk away, I have to stare at it and get mad it doesn't hurry up. The only time I can walk away is if I put something in the oven for an hour, and only if I set an alarm to remind me to go get it out. I have the timer on the oven, and Alexa to both go off. And you can forget about me cooking multiple things at once. No, I will not start heating that sauce up until this meat is cooked. No, I will not cook this meat until the noodles are boiled, lol. A hack I found for this though, is the tupperware stack cooker. So if I'm making chicken alfredo, I'll put already grilled diced up chicken into the stack cooker, put on the lid, put it in the microwave and hit the buttons, then I can just leave it there and forget about it so I know it's not going to get overdone. While that's sitting in the microwave, I'm cooking the noodles. When the noodles are done and drained, I throw in the chicken, throw in the sauce, add more seasoning, heat it up all together in the same pot, and it's done. Super quick, super easy, less mental strain. I do prefer fully cooked meals I can buy from the store though. Like my Aldi's I just found a bag of Rana's chicken alfredo. Noodles, sauce, chicken are completely done just need to heat it up and it serves 6 people and I'm so excited to give it a try and fingers crossed it tastes good so I can do this from now on and it's cheaper than buying all the ingredients individually. Sorry for the info dump, making myself stop here I could go on.
Yeah... I loathe laundry... but if I don't do it our bedsheets and towels would literally never get washed because my fiancé just doesn't even think about it. He'll wash his clothes, but towels and the sheets could be covered in slime, and I swear he would just continue to use them like normal. 🤦♀I really don't understand. Does he just not notice how filthy and disgusting it is?
Sometimes I do fine with laundry. Sometimes it's the only thing I can get done in a day. Sometimes it takes me to the very last piece of clean clothes to get it done. I usually have two loads. And today I was struggling. So, I sorted it out to just the basics into 1 load. When that's clean I dump it onto the guest bed and I'll put it away another day. And I'll do the 2nd load on another day. It's sounds so confusing and it is but laundry is one of those things in life that goes 'round and will never go away. So, I choose not to let it be the biggest priority. Too many other things need my energy and I deserve to have energy. 🙂
Amazon has a CONTINUOUS RING TIMER! It doesn't go off until you turn it off! I've tried regular timers and - haha, nope! This one is a game changer! It goes where action is needed. I'm about to order a 2nd one. )My stove already has one built in.) The trick is entering "continuous ring" in the search. Every other description just showed the regular ones. Good luck everybody. We can do this!
Love you two! And what? -How can it only take 10 minutes per load? Are the US machines bigger? It might take 10 minutes to load and start the washer. But then it's anywhere from 5 to 20 to unload since some things hang up, and others go in the dryer. THEN to sort, fold, or hang, and THEN to put away? My time blindness is really bad, so I actually used a list to record certain tasks I frequently avoid. --No surprise -- they can take a lot longer, or much less. On average, a load takes about an hour of actions totaled up, not counting the machine time. 5 loads is totally do-able in one day, even though it's definitely not as simple as five 10minute sessions.
What a great system you've negotiated in your household to eliminate the guilt trips for one another! But where does the "10 minutes" for each step come from? It's about 30 minutes to separate the items into types and decide on what to put in the next load, thoroughly double-check again for every missed pocket or items gone inside the lining, identify items with stains to be pretreated, separate each item from the pile to turn it inside-out and to put it loosely into the machine so it gets clean, pull out some items to check the washing instructions on their labels, ignore it and choose my own settings anyway, put underwear and delicates into laundry bags, scour the bathroom, bedrooms and kitchen for similar items near enough to being ready to go in the wash to make up a full load, turn the machine to check how full it really is, decide to take some out and choose which least belong with that type of load, choose which is the correct washing powder for the mix, decide it looks like I've put in a bit too much and try to scoop some out, and make sure the washing machine actually starts when I press the button. Turn around then and see other items which should have gone into that wash so then stop the machine once or twice to add those in. Then it's likely at least 30-60 minutes to finally separate out and hang up the items from the previous load to dry, remove the underwear from the laundry bags, make a half-hearted attempt to match up again as many socks as I can, throw out some of the ones with bigger holes in them, position as many as possible of the remaining ones flat onto radiators to try to dry them without creating potentially uncomfortable creases, but dropping half of them and getting them covered in dust and returning them to the laundry basket; and then folding and putting away what's already dry from the previous loads, in the process of which I decide that half of the items smell manky and which go to rejoin the laundry basket pile to go another round with the washing machine; by the time I've then had a break to recover from doing all that, and all the other tasks that I came across or remembered in the process of going around doing all that, then it's almost time to empty the next load and to recommit myself to the following cycle, until I'm all washed out. Rinse and repeat!..and finally to leave the next load in the machine when it's completed, slowly decomposing in there over the next two days.
The problem is I see it like her too…but knowing I had to do that in 4 hours, I’d struggle to do anything or be productive and probably sit overwhelmed doing something “silly” or at best make a list of stuff I think I could get done (waaaay overestimating g it!) and do nothing as I watched something while having a quick cuppa tea before I start and end up in a rabbit hole
My roommate and I have adhd and we both have no issues with laundry. I don’t always fold right away but I never forget it and I DO get to it relatively timely. I suck azz at everything else tho! 😂
Oh shoot - I've just sat on the sofa watching three hours of Criminal Minds Beyond Borders while booking a table for hubby's dinner and playing Scavenger Hunt when i meant to get the dishes done and go to bed... 💀
I did laundry so bad that my hubby took over. He has been doing it for years. I still feel guilty off and on, but it can get it done within 3 hours once a week. Me: It would take all week and not put away. UGH
Your washing machine only needs an hour for one load?!😮 Jealous! Mine takes 1h33min....and I don't have a dryer, cos that dude just ruined all my clothes anyways aka shrink them. So it takes sometimes 3 days until one wash is dry. Especially in winter. I don't have room to hang more than one load. Oh...plus...😂to have 5 loads to wash at once...takes a 3 week trip and extra bed sheets. I don't think I ever had 5 loads in my single person household. Once I had 4! But there was one load that was gonna be "handwash", and I put it in for 17 minutes in a 15°C program😅 so...
TRIED multi-tasking; doesNOT work for me. NOW, I put the laundry into the washing machine; drag a chair in front of it; scroll on my phone until washer stops; move laundry to dryer; scroll until dryer stops; remove laundry; and, put laundry away immediately. (ONLY benefit to living in an apartment building with multiple washers and dryers so simultaneous loads can be done.) Overall time less than 2 hours for 3 loads of laundry.)
I hate laundry. If I could afford to pay someone to take it away, wash it, dry it, iron (if needed), fold it and put it away, then it would solve half of my problems.😂 They would need to put it away though because that 1 step is my undoing.
I love how he treats her
Love! ❤
Me to, he is lovely,, if only others could be that understanding, our world would be so different and less anxious 😮
@reverie_song me too he is really sweet to her.
They are actors.
These are scripted.
It's still very informative and educational about ADHD and I go out of my way to upvote every episode.
@@marciaoh7056 they are not just actors,, She actually does have ADHD, i have seen a interview of them both talking about their real life scenarios, him living with her with ADHD, and her living with ADHD, that’s why they can act it out so well and he is just as lovely towards her in real life
I have days where I'm like her and laundry is literally all I get done and I have days where I'm able to multi-task and get other things done between washes.
I’m autistic not ADHD - dunno if the same strategies work. I set alarms with names for just about everything, on my Apple Watch.
So I’ll say “set an alarm in one hour called laundry is done” so my watch will buzz and tell me the laundry is done.
If I have to ignore it, I try to always press snooze, so it reminds me again after ten minutes or so.
Same for alarms when I have noodles boiling on the stove, or if I promised my kid I’d play a game with him, etc.
This lets me focus as much as I want to on what I’m doing, without having to keep extra things in my head that will either be forgotten or be a distraction.
@@faioraYess, alarms can be so helpful! Glad that they work for you and that you're mentioning them so other people can use that knowledge 😊
I also use alarms, but only for some stuff like doctor appointments, leaving for work etc and sometimes for making food. Tried to use them for other stuff but it feels too controlling and demanding 😅
Thank you all on this thread for the lovely insights 🥰💐
Yeah! I relate to that so much.
This is the most accurate description of doing laundry I have ever seen.
I love these!💕 My only problem wld be that I’d need to take the first load rather than last bc I wldn’t be able to concentrate on anything else during the first four loads, knowing that I had the fifth one coming up later🤯
Or, would have to take the first load because I currently had the "I'm in!" attitude, but there's no guarantee that I'll still be in that state in 4 hours...
@@pjp9383 both combined for me xD
I'm gonna be anxious for 4 h, will see the whole day as occupied by that single laundry batch and will be totally out of the mindset by then so te folding will feel like an eternity
Omg, well said .
Me too
Literally came to the comments to say the same thing!!
Lol, I've literally just written that myself!
So accurate. Been doing laundry for 5 for 20 years, and my bedroom rarely has the laundry put away. Clean...just scattered. 💓
😅same hete chic...clean bloomin laundry everywhere! Like dot cottons laundrette the whole house...
@@philippamcqueen5430omg I’m so glad I’m not the only one!! 😅
I made it work for me using ikea open closet, so I can literally toss it in its rollout wire mesh basket as I get it done. Kinda like Andrea's Fashion Galaxy setup, everything coordinated by color (its visually/organizationally easiest for my ADHD brain) and another wall of roll out baskets for accessories. I broke down and couldn't function anymore in my bedroom, so I asked for help going thru my clothes and drilled down on finding an organizational system that worked with my ADHD, rather than being given a system from others that would never work for me. It took about 18months of concerted effort to figure out every I needed for it to be functional for me but the perseverance was worth it!
Laundry is a whole another system of pavlovian training to timers (put your favorite snack on the washing machine and you can only have bites after you've switched the load), it took a while but now when the timer for laundry dings, I'm excited cuz I get some ginger candy and clean laundry LOL
Good luck all!
@@SickSociety 😅you get me chic ...at the mo I'm a full time cleaner aswell 😅can u imagine the pile now 😅x
That guy deserves heaven lol. My husband does the same. Trying to help me. It's not easy for them either. But love helps
My problem is I'm like ok, laundry day...
Wash is 45 min, dryer is an hr... so I can get five loads done and yard work done in-between. It's going to be a productive day!
Next day one load in the dryer, 1 in the wash and yard tools still outside... OK today is part two! But I forgot I had a Dr appointment and missed it again...
Ohhh wait where is my coffee? Crap where's my phone?
So many emotions watching this one video on 1 chore. I seriously feel like everyone with ADHD needs someone in their life that is THIS supportive. Great video, super accurate.❤
That's why I have so many timers on my phone... My phone literally just started saying "laundry time" to me while I was watching this LMAO
This is so cute to talk it over and explain the process.
My dad does the laundry in the house cause he sorts and folds really well. However I'd argue the changing from wash to dryer to folding is where it gets forgotten about.
I've now done my own laundry (yea college and no parents and moving back in thinking I can do my own laundry now) and have developed a system of timers to remind me that I'm doing laundry. If I forget to set the timer...that is a problem 😅
Laundry is my #1 problem long before I was diagnosed late after decades of anxiety and depression. I would wash clothes then forget they were in the washer. Then have to rewash them. I would put in dryer and forget that and come back to run dryer to get wrinkles out and forget that too. Once dried I would take one piece at time out of dryer and fold it and stack on dryer. Only to leave there and many eventually fall off in the floor get trampled on just to be put back in washer again. I would say I will not do this again or try to change up the way I do it just to rinse and repeat all my ADHD issues over and over again.
He's such a gem 💎 and she is so caring and beautiful and wants to do well
Both my partner and I have ADHD (imagine the chaos), but thankfully, laundry is something I can do. I love the smell of line-dried washing, and folding puts me in my happy place. I find it very meditative. Then he drops the things I've csrefully laundered and folded on the floor. It's a small wonder he's still breathing!
This!! I do all laundry and it is also a smell and texture thing for me. But my partner does floordrobe, wear again piles and I find their clothing everywhere through the house. But they get mad that I do not care how much life might have been in the clothes, when I do laundry, all that is misplaced, is going in. 😂
I have 4 piles that need washing, lol the cats start using them as beds since the piles don't move that quickly. I found "clean" bed sheets in my closet that I just forgot about. Omg, there was so much cat hair on them that I was scared to put them in the washer machine before lint rolling them. I used over half a roll getting that hair off. Whew! I've been doing a lot of deep cleaning lately since I am getting ready for a move. Your app has helped me tremendously!
I love you two 💕
Aaaaahhhhhh this is MEEEEEE!!! Omgaaahhh 😂❤❤
I relate soooo much!!!
We got a new dishwasher that works so much better than the old one that I wanted to rewash all of the dishes yesterday. Same damn thing, it’s like I was stuck to the dishwasher all day and I knew that didn’t make any sense but there it was anyway. 😂😂😂 You have become the most relatable thing in my life!!!
I just had this discussion with a friend yesterday😂… I said I freakin wash the damn dishes before putting them in there! I feel like it’s double the time now🫣
On a tangent... In the first couple of weeks when I'd got my new washing machine I would stand and watch it - just marvelling at all the different functions! (The old one lasted 14 years.) I knew I should really be getting on with other stuff but still stood watching it with a smile on my face... so no danger of forgetting I'd done a wash and discovering it when I went to put a wash on.
"B... Big Time, yeah!"
😂🤣🤣🤣🥰🥰🥰
Yes!!!
I need that understanding and kindness. I do get help but with much resentment.
It's taken me years to work around the washing and understanding that once it's in the machine I don't have to 'hold my breath', so to speak.
I wouldn't exactly say I was organised but I can now do smaller stuff in between washes.... sometimes, not always I'm not perfect but I've learned not to care 😅
These videos are incredible. I just got through my ex-husband divorcing me basically because he was sick of my AuDHD and these give me hope that, when I'm ready someday it's possible to meet someone who is willing to be kind to me.
It’s worth the wait ❤
It's great to see this kind of interaction. It's the way it should be really.
Yeah it’s like this. It’s my whole day. I can message friends and play video games but I must stay upstairs listening to the machines.
Timers are your friend. Four tips.
1. Put your timer device (phone in my case) in the same room out of arms reach, or in a different one so you have to physically get up from what you're doing, keeping you from just shutting it off and forgetting it for the next 1-5 hours.
2. Make sure you stop whatever you are doing (for me it's watching TH-cam and/or Video Games most of the time) and immediately get to the laundry to put it in the dryer or get it out of the dryer, depending on where you're at in the cycle.
3. Name your timers so you know what they are for. That keeps you from forgetting what you're doing. Mine are "Laundry Washed" and "Laundry Dried" respectively.
4. If you see how much other cleaning/chores you can get done before the timer goes off *instead* of goofing off, the rush of urgency that fuels most ADHD folks like us can help you get more done in less time. Don't take Adrenaline for granted.
Hope that helps. Good luck!
@@xantishayde-walker4593 That can help sometimes, but often I end up being in the middle of a videogame that I cannot pause so I let the timer ring until it stops on its own and by the time I finish my game/mission/whatever, I already forgot about laundry. I guess I should set multiple timers, spaced out by 15~30 minutes...and annoy the hell out of my boyfriend. xD
@@xantishayde-walker4593 Thanks but the timers never work for me. I turn them off because I’m in the middle of something and then forget what I’d had them on in the first place and then it goes from a one day task to all weekend task for doing my own laundry. But maybe that’ll help someone else.
Laundry is something I'm pretty good at multitasking with... until it's time to fold. 😅😂
I hate folding. I think I left two of my bedsheets hanging in the attic for months.
When we used to live in a house, and had a washing machine, I had no issue doing the laundry most days. I'm an AuDHDer, so I like routine. I don't like someone else doing my laundry/touching my clothes, stuff, etc...
I’m AuADHD too, and I don’t mind doing laundry. But my “ADHD brain” often forgets to follow through if I don’t leave reminders for myself! Unfortunately, that part seems to be in charge of organization, which means my “Autistic brain” has to cope with tracking the chaos my “ADHD brain” creates!😅
Best appliance I’ve ever purchased is a combination washer dryer. Had a plumber and electrician help get it installed in my closet. I put my clothes in it as my laundry hamper. I never have to worry about sour laundry or having to do several loads in one day.
I love you two 😊 I wish I had a husband like yours.. I think everyone does ❤
But he gets a great deal too. She’s gorgeous and the loveliest person you could ever imagine
@@scarba absolutely Agreed ♥️
I just do what i need for the next 2 days. lots of searching through different floordrobes. I have a sainsburys carrier a bag with about 200 clean odd socks in, 150 could be matched. i think its on the To Do List ;) . It is what it is. BTW late diagnosed in my 50's. vids like this helps with not giving yourself a hard time for it.
Before I put it in the washer: "I'll just set a timer to when it's finished".
10pm while brushing my teeth: "Damn. Forgot the laundry. Again."
I'm still struggling with the concept of 5 loads in one day! I think I did two loads once when I was really behind on washing...
Thank goodness I don't have enough clothes for 5 loads!
Oh no. Y’all just reminded me I washed a load yesterday but didn’t get it into the dryer.
Awwww! This is just sweetness all over.
Ok, laundry in my house, I always notice when it needs done & get hyper focused on gathering it all up, usually when there's no clean bras or socks😂, I haul it all to the laundry room and start it, I tell my hubby (the neurotypical) I started the laundry can you switch it in an hr. & that's how we roll. The only way that works for me on my own is to start a project I've been wanting to do, but I start it in the laundry room. Or if I wanna binge watch TV show, I ask my husband to not let the next episode start until I switch the laundry... thats the only way ive managed to do mountains of laundry in one day. But usually never committing myself to more than 1 load a day is best.
So damn accurate. Also, I love the Noah shirt. Seen him twice now and honestly INCREDIBLE
Doind the laundry is a full-time for me too 😂. My mind goes "we are doing laundry" and blocks out any open time slot I have in between washes. Some days are good and I can mentally disengage from the task once it's in the washer/dryer and do other things.
Some other times I get so tired from disengaging that I'll only do one load instead of the many I wanted/needed to run.
Best I've got is leave the load doing its thing before I go to work/sleep. But then there's the risk I'll come back to it and have no energy to put it away/on the dryer 😅.
I am single and have inattentive ADHD. I hate laundry. It takes me a whole week to complete and I have to constantly rewash because I forget about the clothes. It can be a maddening experience.
Love your wholesome videos with the considerate strategics. Thank you for sharing!❤
ps: Got distracted while watching another short of yours in the shortlane, well well..😅
What a great couple! Talking about laundry, I am loving reading the Dirty Laundry book 👍🏻
I'd need to do the first load in this scenario. Otherwise, it's a day in the ADHD waiting room for me and guilt later because I still didn't get anything done and didn't help because I thought I should be using the time otherwise. The good news is, once off the hook and after I do my load, I'm free from obligation and will likely help a lot and wonder why I thought it was so hard!
Further, She's right. Five loads of laundry is a full day, after the first hour at least. Aside from putting it in and taking it out, there is folding and putting away. It is NOT ten minutes give times a day! Even though I tell myself that same lie every time I plan to do multiple loads, it can fill the whole day before you know it. I'm not as sure about this being a neuro-typical/divergent thing as a male /female thing. My husband never worries about wrinkles or clothes being put away just so and gets things done quickly.
She could seperate the colors and get the laundry to the washer, you run the machines, then after she puts it away, 50/50 shared work.
I’m ADD, and a single mom. My boys are sweet, I’ve told them I struggle. We do our own laundry, and help move things through for each other (I need to wash, someone else’s stuff is in the wash, so we move it to the dryer for them and continue on.) sometimes, clothes have to be rewashed or dried from sitting too long. 🎉 great. But I think I still would employ more strategies (set an alarm for example) to stay “on it”. I love these guys, but even with my struggles… I find myself doubting the utter incompetence in the laundry department. Sure, it happens. We forget sometimes. He can call out “new load!” When it is time to switch and she can do it. Really, only an exceedingly kind man whose job is to teach partners how to kindly deal with ADHD would demonstrate such patience. Hard to not feel taken advantage of if it were always like this. Some call it, “weaponized incompetence”… always a struggle, but in our efforts for compassion do we risk lowering the bar so much the incompetence becomes (even if inadvertently) manipulative?
Thank you so much for the last sentence of your comment! This is something I struggle with constantly. I don’t want to take advantage of my husband but he is an Aspie and doesn’t read situations and people well. I am AuADHD and have some very real but ‘invisible’ health conditions. I have a hard time asking for help and often wonder if I might be ‘inadvertently weaponizing or manipulating’ him. I constantly try hard not to do that and I am glad to have something to actually call it. Thanks
He is the exact opposite to my husband! Calm, caring and considerate 😊
Only four hours from now she is going to be so preoccupied with something else that she will forget to do the last load 😄. Better to have her only do the first load now that you have her focus, cause your not going to have it four hours from now 😬.
Or the opposite: she knows she has an important chore in 4 hours so she can't do anything else until then. Let her do the first load please!
I thought exactly that. And.... A task scheduled hours ahead makes me nervous too. Rather have it done and free time afterwards!
@@joannecolijn3647Yeah, if I try to get my wife to do something four hours later she will be so hyper focused on something else by then that my life will be on the line if I try to get her to do something else 😬.
@@tysongames2750 get that! Lol! Risky Business!
@joannecolijn3647😂
I totally get this: mentally preparing for laundry day (May take days to prepare), not being able to do tasks while doing laundry (sometimes I’m lucky & can do other things). My laundry is not in suite but in a room in my building. If it wasn’t for my anxiety constantly telling me to set an alarm& having to pay for laundry, I’d end up doing loads over & over again.
I live alone. I wish i had a washing buddy like him!
I love these guys
The way this looks in our house is that he does the laundry and I fold it all when it’s done. I’m also disabled and our washing machine is pretty much inaccessible to me except in emergencies, so folding once it is back upstairs is the only thing I really can do. But, I never really realized how much that suits my mental health as well.
Timers are a lifesaver.
Also, short cycles. Stuff that isn't dirty-dirty can go for a 30 min cycle rather than the 2-3 hr cycle that my machine insists on for higher temps. That way I don't get too caught up in whatever else I am doing (but I do need a timer to remind me either way) .
I avoid so many issues by having to use the laundromat. And the need for clean work clothes means I go about once a week. While at the laundromat I deal with emails and answer text messages--or sit there distracted by the noise. When I get home I either hang up my laundry or pull the shirts and dresses out and lay them on my bed so they don't get too wrinkled. The socks and other stuff gets put away days later sometimes because I can rarely complete all of it in one go. This is a recent improvement from living out of my hamper until the next laundry day, and it's because I switched to mostly wearing dresses and some of them really don't look great all wrinkled (and I sure don't want to have to iron or steam them)
I've learned watching you two talk it out !!! Capitalize when HYPER-FOCUS time Bebe
Husband of the year. Again. ❤👏👏👏👍👍👍
You two are my goal. I wish so bad my wife could better understand and we could have this without me always having to be so overwhelmed. Can't wait to listen to the second book! 🖤
Rich is awesome 🙌
YALL R WONDERFUL! LoL ♥️ 😆 Such a WONDERFUL way 2 comprise
That's one of the reasons why I ❤❤❤❤ to crochet😂😂😂 I can make a whole shirt in between.. It's just a flop here and a flop there.. And it gets me off my ass to make sure that i'm eating something during the day too😅😋
I hang laundry inside. I could double up if I hung stuff on all surfaces, or made a web of washing line, but I really don't fancy it. If I had a clothes dryer, or a large yard, I could see working on it all day, but the hastle now keeps me both frustrated and safe.
Adorable pair. ❤
I bought some of those beads you put in the washing. My clothes smell AMAZING and I’m in sensory heaven
I don't have a dryer so my ADHD-laundry looks like:
Day one: washing and putting it up on the air dryer
Day two to whenever it's still on dryer
Day whatever: wear it from the dryer
Next laundry day: Oh Sh*** I still have laundry on the dryer - quickly put it on the pile on my bedroom chair
Visitors, prep for holiday or random dopamine rush: folding and putting it in the cupboard.
Tip: when I left something too long in the washing machine and it gets smelly, instead off washing it again I put it in the freezer for 48h - kills all the bacteria and with it the smell.
I thought that was normal... Wearing it from the air dryer... Or folding it only when I have new load to hang out to dry... 😂😂😂 People fold it as soon as it dries???
And that tip with the freezer is hilarious and amazing!!! Hahahaha, you are a genius!!! 😂
I don't think I have room in my freezer for laundry. I try to work through one load a day at least, if it's stinky, it gets baking soda treatment.
I couldn’t face doing five loads in one day.
I have to do one load in separate stages.
Day1:
1) take dirty laundry downstairs
2) load it into the washing machine
Day 2:
3) put detergent in
4) start washing machine
5) get the clothes horse and sit by the washing machine door to hang each thing.
Take break if needed
6) larger items on the radiator (or outside if lucky).
Day 6:
7) if stuff is actually dry by now, shove everything into a big bag and carry it upstairs.
8) either just take stuff from bag as and when needed or slowly put a few things away each day until it’s done.
I admit...my main reason for not leaving the wash has been because I have to use public places and we had theft enough times from washers and dryers as kids that I now just sit with my stuff. But I totally get this. I'm like this when I cook, to be honest.
Im sure you have lots off goals..and you seemd like a realy realy kind and nice person
The look on his face was priceless.
I'm so relatable to her, tho 💜
Adhd in the brain too. Very interesting, if I’d have to take the last load I still wouldn’t be able to do anything until my time for the last load was up. I would forget. I’d be better off doing the first load.
Hahaha. I don't get much done either, so I limit it to 2 loads on one day. Only lose half a day. Unless laundromat nearby has 2-3 big loaders available at the same time. 5 loads could be done in about an hour and a half. Edit: Since I have a capsule wardrobe now, and limited my linens don't have much of a laundry build up now. Though instead of only having a weeks worth of clothing and linens, I have enough to last two weeks. Weekly is too stressful.
I just do one load at one day and come back to it the next day. Then I put the washed clothes in the dryer and wash the next load and so one. After a few days everything is washed, dryed and folded in the closet. No problem, I just have to write a reminder for washing in my calendar.
And yeah, I have ADHD and autism and I don't even take meds. It's about training yourself and some routines.
You guys are so freaking cute and total goals 💖
My floordrobe & clean washing pile are at one 🌏 Sometimes, once a year or so. You get so close to dealing with the washing basket that you find ‘new clothes’. (Spoiler alert - They’re not new. We’ve just forgot they existed) Its like a free piece of clothing that we should probably love, because we probably picked it, finding a hidden dopamine gem in the bottom of the washing basket is free new clothes 😂 Sometimes it’s a bit of a miss, think I’ve got !Bear USA and Ed Hardys buried deeper. Sometimes you miss the trending years - a lil piece of history. Right there in the washing basket. Retro 😂
You two are so beautiful! 💕
You two are exactly like me and my partner! I just discovered you and I still can’t get over the fact that this is normal (ish) 😂
I would feel the same.
Like that’s 5 hours I’m on standby.
And I share my washer with the building so I can’t leave it just sitting in there.
Not much mental space for more.
5 loads od laundry definitely took me at least 5 hours because of the sorting, washing, drying, folding, hanging, sorting. Maybe I could vacume and organize the clean stuff in between...Still a full day of work...😂
I put a load of washing in at 10am yesterday then went to the cinema intending to take the wet load out when we got home (our machine takes about 2.5 hours for a load). Because I had left the house, I forgot about the washing. This morning I realised it was still in the machine, put it back on again at around 8am. It is now 4.15pm and the wet washing is still in the machine because I went upstairs afterwards instead of sitting on the sofa in the next room waiting for it to beep to let me know it was finished
It can stay in the washing machine for 48 hours before getting bad. Trust me, I tried it.😉
My life was so much easier, in a weird sort of way, when I didn't have a washing machine in my flat, but a laundrette not too far from my house.
Every week, normally on a Sunday, I'd poddle off to the laundrette, dump all my washing in to about two machines, and then have a patient little sit-down and a read while waiting for it to get done. Then I'd take it all out, poddle off home, completely fail to unpack my laundry bag, and then use them as my wardrobe for a week and my floor as a laundry bag.
Rinse and repeat.
My husband does the washing for me, when all loads are done and completed we tag team putting them away. He helps me sort out the shirts pants and underwear into separate piles then I throw all the underwear into a drawer, not folded, all the socks into another drawer, not paired, hang all the shirts but I make sure all the tshirts are together, dress shirts, then our casual hang around the house shirts like tank tops. He has his side for shirts and I have mine, and I have a rule that you take it off the hanger, you put the empty hanger in the middle with the other empty hangers.
Then I sit on the bed and start folding/rolling up the pants (saves more room this way) and since he sits in front of our dresser on the computer, I hand the pants to him and he puts it in either my drawer or his and he doesn't have to get up and I can focus on getting the pants actually folded instead of having to stop every five seconds. And I can only put the laundry away when they are all washed because if I do one load, I cannot guarantee the second load will get put away. I have to mentally prepare myself all day for the task and then I am completely wiped out after. We just did this last night and immediately after folding the last pair of pants, I just laid down on the bed, somehow managed to fall asleep quickly despite my brain going 100 miles a minute, and didn't even wake up to my husband getting into the bed. It takes so so so much out of me.
On a somewhat related note, I absolutely hate cooking because I have to stand there and literally wait for water to boil. I cannot set the stove on and then walk away, I have to stare at it and get mad it doesn't hurry up. The only time I can walk away is if I put something in the oven for an hour, and only if I set an alarm to remind me to go get it out. I have the timer on the oven, and Alexa to both go off. And you can forget about me cooking multiple things at once. No, I will not start heating that sauce up until this meat is cooked. No, I will not cook this meat until the noodles are boiled, lol. A hack I found for this though, is the tupperware stack cooker. So if I'm making chicken alfredo, I'll put already grilled diced up chicken into the stack cooker, put on the lid, put it in the microwave and hit the buttons, then I can just leave it there and forget about it so I know it's not going to get overdone. While that's sitting in the microwave, I'm cooking the noodles. When the noodles are done and drained, I throw in the chicken, throw in the sauce, add more seasoning, heat it up all together in the same pot, and it's done. Super quick, super easy, less mental strain.
I do prefer fully cooked meals I can buy from the store though. Like my Aldi's I just found a bag of Rana's chicken alfredo. Noodles, sauce, chicken are completely done just need to heat it up and it serves 6 people and I'm so excited to give it a try and fingers crossed it tastes good so I can do this from now on and it's cheaper than buying all the ingredients individually. Sorry for the info dump, making myself stop here I could go on.
Yeah... I loathe laundry... but if I don't do it our bedsheets and towels would literally never get washed because my fiancé just doesn't even think about it. He'll wash his clothes, but towels and the sheets could be covered in slime, and I swear he would just continue to use them like normal. 🤦♀I really don't understand. Does he just not notice how filthy and disgusting it is?
They are beautiful 🥰
Im a guy and I have ADHD and the struggle is real for londrey
Sometimes I do fine with laundry. Sometimes it's the only thing I can get done in a day. Sometimes it takes me to the very last piece of clean clothes to get it done.
I usually have two loads. And today I was struggling. So, I sorted it out to just the basics into 1 load. When that's clean I dump it onto the guest bed and I'll put it away another day. And I'll do the 2nd load on another day.
It's sounds so confusing and it is but laundry is one of those things in life that goes 'round and will never go away. So, I choose not to let it be the biggest priority. Too many other things need my energy and I deserve to have energy. 🙂
Amazon has a CONTINUOUS RING TIMER! It doesn't go off until you turn it off! I've tried regular timers and - haha, nope!
This one is a game changer! It goes where action is needed. I'm about to order a 2nd one. )My stove already has one built in.)
The trick is entering "continuous ring" in the search. Every other description just showed the regular ones.
Good luck everybody. We can do this!
Her gaze off into the distance because she zones out… hahaha
You two are inspiring
Love you two! And what? -How can it only take 10 minutes per load? Are the US machines bigger? It might take 10 minutes to load and start the washer. But then it's anywhere from 5 to 20 to unload since some things hang up, and others go in the dryer.
THEN to sort, fold, or hang, and THEN to put away? My time blindness is really bad, so I actually used a list to record certain tasks I frequently avoid.
--No surprise -- they can take a lot longer, or much less.
On average, a load takes about an hour of actions totaled up, not counting the machine time.
5 loads is totally do-able in one day, even though it's definitely not as simple as five 10minute sessions.
I need only 2 minutes to load the machine and start it. I have no time to waste. And I really don't know what you are doing for so long.
@Flopsi80 my comment is about total time, not just loading & starting.
Omg, I love that you have a Noahfinnce shirt!
What a great system you've negotiated in your household to eliminate the guilt trips for one another! But where does the "10 minutes" for each step come from? It's about 30 minutes to separate the items into types and decide on what to put in the next load, thoroughly double-check again for every missed pocket or items gone inside the lining, identify items with stains to be pretreated, separate each item from the pile to turn it inside-out and to put it loosely into the machine so it gets clean, pull out some items to check the washing instructions on their labels, ignore it and choose my own settings anyway, put underwear and delicates into laundry bags, scour the bathroom, bedrooms and kitchen for similar items near enough to being ready to go in the wash to make up a full load, turn the machine to check how full it really is, decide to take some out and choose which least belong with that type of load, choose which is the correct washing powder for the mix, decide it looks like I've put in a bit too much and try to scoop some out, and make sure the washing machine actually starts when I press the button. Turn around then and see other items which should have gone into that wash so then stop the machine once or twice to add those in. Then it's likely at least 30-60 minutes to finally separate out and hang up the items from the previous load to dry, remove the underwear from the laundry bags, make a half-hearted attempt to match up again as many socks as I can, throw out some of the ones with bigger holes in them, position as many as possible of the remaining ones flat onto radiators to try to dry them without creating potentially uncomfortable creases, but dropping half of them and getting them covered in dust and returning them to the laundry basket; and then folding and putting away what's already dry from the previous loads, in the process of which I decide that half of the items smell manky and which go to rejoin the laundry basket pile to go another round with the washing machine; by the time I've then had a break to recover from doing all that, and all the other tasks that I came across or remembered in the process of going around doing all that, then it's almost time to empty the next load and to recommit myself to the following cycle, until I'm all washed out. Rinse and repeat!..and finally to leave the next load in the machine when it's completed, slowly decomposing in there over the next two days.
The problem is I see it like her too…but knowing I had to do that in 4 hours, I’d struggle to do anything or be productive and probably sit overwhelmed doing something “silly” or at best make a list of stuff I think I could get done (waaaay overestimating g it!) and do nothing as I watched something while having a quick cuppa tea before I start and end up in a rabbit hole
My roommate and I have adhd and we both have no issues with laundry. I don’t always fold right away but I never forget it and I DO get to it relatively timely. I suck azz at everything else tho! 😂
Oh shoot - I've just sat on the sofa watching three hours of Criminal Minds Beyond Borders while booking a table for hubby's dinner and playing Scavenger Hunt when i meant to get the dishes done and go to bed... 💀
I did laundry so bad that my hubby took over. He has been doing it for years. I still feel guilty off and on, but it can get it done within 3 hours once a week. Me: It would take all week and not put away. UGH
its like going to the laundrymat.but one load at a time❤😂
Your washing machine only needs an hour for one load?!😮 Jealous! Mine takes 1h33min....and I don't have a dryer, cos that dude just ruined all my clothes anyways aka shrink them. So it takes sometimes 3 days until one wash is dry. Especially in winter.
I don't have room to hang more than one load.
Oh...plus...😂to have 5 loads to wash at once...takes a 3 week trip and extra bed sheets. I don't think I ever had 5 loads in my single person household. Once I had 4! But there was one load that was gonna be "handwash", and I put it in for 17 minutes in a 15°C program😅 so...
you can get drying racks and hang your clean, wet clothes on there. then put a fan next to the rack to dry everything faster.
Mine takes only 43 minutes but I add 60 minutes more cos I feel is to fast to be clean even if it is.
The time it needs depends on the washing programm.
I live on my own Sunday morning as always been my laundry day and my big shop too I am so much more motivated in the morning want job done
I kid you not, I’m currently sat by the washer waiting for it to be done 😅
I like tag teaming (but I would take the first load to avoid Waiting with a capital W)
I didnt know laundry PTSD was a thing,but here we are, in Roxys world!
They must have a super tiny washer. Lol I could get that done in two loads tops with mine.
I love these!
🤣 oh you two ❣️
I'd have to take the first load, or else the four hours would be wasted in wondering if its time to do my wash load 😅🤦♀️
TRIED multi-tasking; doesNOT work for me. NOW, I put the laundry into the washing machine; drag a chair in front of it; scroll on my phone until washer stops; move laundry to dryer; scroll until dryer stops; remove laundry; and, put laundry away immediately. (ONLY benefit to living in an apartment building with multiple washers and dryers so simultaneous loads can be done.) Overall time less than 2 hours for 3 loads of laundry.)
I hate laundry. If I could afford to pay someone to take it away, wash it, dry it, iron (if needed), fold it and put it away, then it would solve half of my problems.😂 They would need to put it away though because that 1 step is my undoing.
Same but I'd do the first load because otherwise I feel I'm just waiting 4h until I have to do it