I never had that regulations for my emotions from my parents. I was ignored, neglected and shown insensitive cruelty by taking away my rabbit, telling me he made rabbit stew for a friend, my little dog apparently ran away! Really. At 59, I now realise the damage, ❤
This weekend - for the first time in my 57 years on this planet - I did exactly this. A rejection that would normally have floored me for days or weeks proved to be an amazing opportunity to sit with the feelings. Not just rejection, but anger, sadness and others. Letting the feelings arise, notice that they were arising and practice what I have learned in meditation, I effortlessly rest in my awareness and - in a moment of grace - the feelings abate. I was able to process this event in a day! BUT - it has taken 6 years of weekly CPTSD therapy to learn to even notice the physical feelings. I was cut off from my body for decades. I still rely on my therapist's feelings wheel cushion to help me explain what's going on. I also learned during the last year that all is grace even when it seems like harm. The rejection was a gift.
Lisa, I was just getting reconnected with Dr Joe Dispenza's methods tonight. I'm SO excited for the future and feeling So GREAT tonight. I want to thank you so much fir turning us on to his work 3 years ago now.😂 WOW!! His explanaitions if physiology and tge brain science has helped me undertand how exactly to implement what you teach. Hearing your voice is still so soothing and supportive feeling for me. I'll Love you and be grateful to you always. ❤ You are part of my constructed home base.
Listening to this is heartbreaking as it’s so my childhood, never got reassured, never got acknowledged, I took on all my mother’s emotions and had to be her comforter, now my parents are long gone my family have grown up and moved on , I wake up feeling triggered, my mother was always playing the sympathetic one always poorly, si I lived in fear of her dying, scared of what every might bring, now I’m alone but I wake up fearing what the day may bring, living in fear of the unknown, I’ve been like this all my life, my therapist calls it the freeze response, and I just can’t seem to move on from that,
Lisa, I’m so proud of you. After going through everything you’ve been through and you turned around and did all this hard work to help yourself and other people and going on to have a happy relationship with someone else. And you’re still growing and refining! ❤
Thank you so much! I am wiring with a new team this year who are experiencing a lot of failure. It is fascinating how ridged and know it all the group is...
While you were talking about how a child leaves there bodies. My parents were always fussing . when I saw the father and. then the small girl in the middle and mother. I was absent in my mind . This helped. Me alot. 😅😊
@@TheRedgoldenchildWell said. That Way Helps. I'd add: Nix ALL need for External Validation and Meditate are Key essentials to getting truly happy, too.😂
I woke up with this exact how to question on my mind today, after experiencing a trigger at work yesterday. Thankyou so much, now I have a place to start including the exact steps I can take to become closer to true to my self without that needy people pleasing.
I relate so well to your content. Thank you so much for sharing. I’ve never felt so hopeful about myself and life. I can see a path out of this cycle. Ty 💜💫💫💜💜💫
I haven't had an emotional trigger in years. What I believed, and what I valued meant nothing. I didn't matter. The very person I didn't matter to asked me about my abuser, as if she had no part in it. He held me down and beat me in front of her until she too decided, "I didn't Matter" John C Reilly, Mr Cellophane, I hear he did that in one take.
Well said, thank you ! Observatiion and Awareness are always key to informed choices ! ❤❤❤ This inspires me to now Declare: I AM healing my own inner child wounds because I Love myself and know I AM so worth it and worthy of every abundance ! I AM giving myself permission to BE the priority in my own life NOW, so I can transform the way The Lord of All Spirits and I want me to, optimally, with my own Divine Purpose, doing God's will, for God's will is Perfect Love, so I strive in Fully Loving myself Perfectly, as God does, knowing the best way to honour Our Creator is to honour our own Body Temple and The Christ Self (mind and Spirit) within, with compassion, mercy and tenderness. I know that by focusing on raising my vibrational frequency for myself, Creator, and Mother Earth, for Our Love and Living's sake, attending to my own emotional needs with Self- Love, I will then be in Peace, Harmony and Freedom, attracting higher vibrational empathetic beings of Awakened Love Conscious Awareness and Liberty, like me💞 I AM merging my will with Divine will, as I so choose ! In Jesus' Name, I so do decree, Amen !!! 💜🎶🙏🏼😇🌟🌠🌈🕊️💫
Thank you so much! This was so helpful and enlightening. I need advice and counsel on how to go through the healing process with a TRUSTED person without damaging this relationship because I have so much healing to do.
Thankyou....this is the precise video that I have been searching for.. But for me ....the BIG question is....what to do if u don't have the time or awareness in the moment to implement this & its to late & explode or lash out like a crazy person?? I've done this several times in my life & still carry the shame & have lost people/friends, relationships.....its so confusing & lonely... I didn't/dont mean it!!! 😢 People don't understand at all!! Yes I'm triggered by facial expressions also & create stories & then can act on them also 😫....Yes it's about me not others re their triggers......But how to stop after 56 years & unconcious for 50 of those.....that's traumatising in itself!!!
May I suggest you stop going to a dry well? Ask kindness of someone who is capable of giving it. A Narcissist cannot and never will. Save yourself, my dear. Figuring out why you aren't will tell you what you have to do to get there. Good luck. You can do this❤
@@sunnyadams5842 Well, nice of your suggestive supports ☮️✌️. But not a 'dry well' sort of thing -- got things in place ..... Assertiveness, Boundaries & Evade 💯
@@melissahay328 - It is an unconscious desire to block painful memories. According to my psychiatrist anyway… This can cause one to be attracted to someone like your parent- then try to fix them. Unresolved childhood issues. Seeing is the first step. Protecting yourself is the second. Good luck.
Please stop assuming that all parents expect us to be perfect, high achievers, the best at everything. I see this scenario over and over being used. Many of our parents were neglectful, didn't hear us, didn't see us, didn't care if we went to school or graduated etc.
I hear you. I also know Lisa has lots of videos which addresses that scenario too. That's what I had to fight back from. Neglect more than abused and I found a lot of healing through many videos here. I hope you find what will do it for you. Intuitively I wonder if The Crappy Childhood Fairy might be helpful to you on this issue. She does a lot of specifically CPTSD oriented work. She was pretty neglected by active alcoholic parents, whereas Lisa's parents tended to be kinda more nasty/mouthy, I gather from her stories. Maybe you've already been there. Good luck. You can do this❤
I can't watch Lisa's videos anymore 😢. They are stuffed with these terrible stock videos that are so painfully fake. I much preferred just her talking into the camera. I hope she will change it back at some point.
Kind of narcissistic to expect her to do what you want, no? You're getting free advice, and her life and channel isn't about just you. Hope you can understand that I don't mean this wrong, and want you to reconsider 🙏
Why not just listen? I find this trend of large, permanent captions distracting - not just on this channel. So, I just listen - which helps me absorb the message, too, much like a guided meditation does.
@@johnmiller0000 Yes, I prefer just listening to her. She is on Spotify as well. I used to like watching her videos as well, she has a really lively and kind expression.
This is so helpful and just what I needed in this moment 😭🙏🩷 I’ve been experiencing severe abandonment trauma. Thank you for producing such healing and eye-opening content.
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The amazing thing about Lisa is that she can constantly create new content about the same topics but more refined
I never had that regulations for my emotions from my parents.
I was ignored, neglected and shown insensitive cruelty by taking away my rabbit, telling me he made rabbit stew for a friend, my little dog apparently ran away! Really.
At 59, I now realise the damage, ❤
Thank you. Triggered almost everyday because of betrayal. I needed this video
This weekend - for the first time in my 57 years on this planet - I did exactly this. A rejection that would normally have floored me for days or weeks proved to be an amazing opportunity to sit with the feelings. Not just rejection, but anger, sadness and others. Letting the feelings arise, notice that they were arising and practice what I have learned in meditation, I effortlessly rest in my awareness and - in a moment of grace - the feelings abate. I was able to process this event in a day! BUT - it has taken 6 years of weekly CPTSD therapy to learn to even notice the physical feelings. I was cut off from my body for decades. I still rely on my therapist's feelings wheel cushion to help me explain what's going on. I also learned during the last year that all is grace even when it seems like harm. The rejection was a gift.
Lisa, I was just getting reconnected with Dr Joe Dispenza's methods tonight. I'm SO excited for the future and feeling So GREAT tonight. I want to thank you so much fir turning us on to his work 3 years ago now.😂 WOW!!
His explanaitions if physiology and tge brain science has helped me undertand how exactly to implement what you teach.
Hearing your voice is still so soothing and supportive feeling for me. I'll Love you and be grateful to you always. ❤ You are part of my constructed home base.
Perfect timing, this is so helpful to folks with cptsd who go to a toxic workplace every day. 👍
💙🙏🏾🩵 love this!!!
That was beautiful and so helpful, thank you 🖐️🌹🌞
When watching this it had 777views
I'm taking that as a very good sign.thank you for this you explained everything perfectly
Listening to this is heartbreaking as it’s so my childhood, never got reassured, never got acknowledged, I took on all my mother’s emotions and had to be her comforter, now my parents are long gone my family have grown up and moved on , I wake up feeling triggered, my mother was always playing the sympathetic one always poorly, si I lived in fear of her dying, scared of what every might bring, now I’m alone but I wake up fearing what the day may bring, living in fear of the unknown, I’ve been like this all my life, my therapist calls it the freeze response, and I just can’t seem to move on from that,
Even the ad that preceded this video put my tummy in knots 😢
I love this video. Sending it to a family member
Lisa, I’m so proud of you. After going through everything you’ve been through and you turned around and did all this hard work to help yourself and other people and going on to have a happy relationship with someone else. And you’re still growing and refining! ❤
Thank you for being here♥️
Thanks Lisa, very helpful video for me.
Thank you so much! I am wiring with a new team this year who are experiencing a lot of failure. It is fascinating how ridged and know it all the group is...
Thanks for all your videos !
While you were talking about how a child leaves there bodies. My parents were always fussing . when I saw the father and. then the small girl in the middle and mother. I was absent in my mind . This helped. Me alot. 😅😊
Thank you Lisa❤
I'm still attracting these people at 53 and repeatedly get emotionally traumatized 😢
Stop over sharing! Love yourself more and accept your failures. Your only human!
@@TheRedgoldenchild Thank you 😊
@@lauriemorales7605😂👐👍
@@TheRedgoldenchildWell said. That Way Helps. I'd add: Nix ALL need for External Validation and Meditate are Key essentials to getting truly happy, too.😂
It's really hard when you're an empath, Laurie. It's a process. I totally get it. You're in the right place to get the tools you'll need. ❤
My life all over ❤️
I woke up with this exact how to question on my mind today, after experiencing a trigger at work yesterday. Thankyou so much, now I have a place to start including the exact steps I can take to become closer to true to my self without that needy people pleasing.
I relate so well to your content. Thank you so much for sharing. I’ve never felt so hopeful about myself and life. I can see a path out of this cycle. Ty 💜💫💫💜💜💫
Thank you for your podcasts. Very helpful ❤
I haven't had an emotional trigger in years. What I believed, and what I valued meant nothing. I didn't matter. The very person I didn't matter to asked me about my abuser, as if she had no part in it. He held me down and beat me in front of her until she too decided, "I didn't Matter" John C Reilly, Mr Cellophane, I hear he did that in one take.
Well said, thank you ! Observatiion and Awareness are always key to informed choices ! ❤❤❤
This inspires me to now Declare:
I AM healing my own inner child wounds because I Love myself and know I AM so worth it and worthy of every abundance !
I AM giving myself permission to BE the priority in my own life NOW, so I can transform the way The Lord of All Spirits and I want me to, optimally, with my own Divine Purpose, doing God's will, for God's will is Perfect Love, so I strive in Fully Loving myself Perfectly, as God does, knowing the best way to honour Our Creator is to honour our own Body Temple and The Christ Self (mind and Spirit) within, with compassion, mercy and tenderness.
I know that by focusing on raising my vibrational frequency for myself, Creator, and Mother Earth, for Our Love and Living's sake, attending to my own emotional needs with Self- Love, I will then be in Peace, Harmony and Freedom, attracting higher vibrational empathetic beings of Awakened Love Conscious Awareness and Liberty, like me💞
I AM merging my will with Divine will, as I so choose !
In Jesus' Name, I so do decree,
Amen !!! 💜🎶🙏🏼😇🌟🌠🌈🕊️💫
Thank you so much! This was so helpful and enlightening.
I need advice and counsel on how to go through the healing process with a TRUSTED person without damaging this relationship because I have so much healing to do.
Very helpful! Thank you for sharing your expertise with us! This information is going to be priceless for my toolbox 🛠
Glad it was helpful!
It wasn’t just one “narcissist,”it was at least 12-15+ that jumped on when things got bad.
Thankyou....this is the precise video that I have been searching for..
But for me ....the BIG question is....what to do if u don't have the time or awareness in the moment to implement this & its to late & explode or lash out like a crazy person?? I've done this several times in my life & still carry the shame & have lost people/friends, relationships.....its so confusing & lonely...
I didn't/dont mean it!!! 😢
People don't understand at all!! Yes I'm triggered by facial expressions also & create stories & then can act on them also 😫....Yes it's about me not others re their triggers......But how to stop after 56 years & unconcious for 50 of those.....that's traumatising in itself!!!
wow thank you very much, so good video!
Thank you for this video 😊
I need this
Triggers triggers triggers & all's I ask for is Kindness kindness kindness from my Covert ...... ✌️☮️
May I suggest you stop going to a dry well? Ask kindness of someone who is capable of giving it. A Narcissist cannot and never will. Save yourself, my dear. Figuring out why you aren't will tell you what you have to do to get there. Good luck. You can do this❤
@@sunnyadams5842 Well, nice of your suggestive supports ☮️✌️. But not a 'dry well' sort of thing -- got things in place ..... Assertiveness, Boundaries & Evade 💯
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What if you can’t remember where the trigger is stemming from?
Having no memory is common in cptsd.
@@michaelgarrow3239that makes sense. It’s a form of protection? I have very little memory from my childhood and from my past too.
@@melissahay328 - It is an unconscious desire to block painful memories. According to my psychiatrist anyway…
This can cause one to be attracted to someone like your parent- then try to fix them. Unresolved childhood issues.
Seeing is the first step.
Protecting yourself is the second.
Good luck.
Please stop assuming that all parents expect us to be perfect, high achievers, the best at everything. I see this scenario over and over being used.
Many of our parents were neglectful, didn't hear us, didn't see us, didn't care if we went to school or graduated etc.
I hear you. I also know Lisa has lots of videos which addresses that scenario too. That's what I had to fight back from. Neglect more than abused and I found a lot of healing through many videos here. I hope you find what will do it for you.
Intuitively I wonder if The Crappy Childhood Fairy might be helpful to you on this issue. She does a lot of specifically CPTSD oriented work. She was pretty neglected by active alcoholic parents, whereas Lisa's parents tended to be kinda more nasty/mouthy, I gather from her stories. Maybe you've already been there. Good luck. You can do this❤
Yes I totally agree with you. I didn't know Crappy was neglected and I DO know about her too! It's good to know that! Thanks ❤
I can't watch Lisa's videos anymore 😢. They are stuffed with these terrible stock videos that are so painfully fake. I much preferred just her talking into the camera. I hope she will change it back at some point.
Kind of narcissistic to expect her to do what you want, no? You're getting free advice, and her life and channel isn't about just you. Hope you can understand that I don't mean this wrong, and want you to reconsider 🙏
Why not just listen? I find this trend of large, permanent captions distracting - not just on this channel. So, I just listen - which helps me absorb the message, too, much like a guided meditation does.
@@johnmiller0000 Yes, I prefer just listening to her. She is on Spotify as well. I used to like watching her videos as well, she has a really lively and kind expression.
I agree, I love seeing her more than watching this stuff so I just listen now instead of watching, too.
I just listen now too.
Love Lisa ❤
This is so helpful and just what I needed in this moment 😭🙏🩷
I’ve been experiencing severe abandonment trauma.
Thank you for producing such healing and eye-opening content.
Daphne-Have faith. You CAN do this. It takes time. ❤