It's so hard to find relationships in general with anxiety, whether it be just friends or a boyfriend/girlfriend. Most people don't have the patience to wait around until I become comfortable with them to be myself. It's sad how those people never get to see the true me. This is a great video, thanks for sharing.
AudreyAnn thanks for your comment! It's hard for sure, but it's important to remember that your worth doesn't come from relationships. And that's been something I've had to come to terms with. When it's meant to be it will happen and I truly believe that ❤
You are not alone dude. I'ma guy. I'm 22. I'll admit, I went through that phase of it's never coming. But about half way through 22 almost 23 now. I have found a peace in being alone. And yeah I sit and think about women all the time. But I'm at a spot where I just live life not caring about the subject of love and relationships. I gotta it'll come belife now. Something happened to where I felt a peace. Check out my channel though. Hear it from a guys perspective.
Hey, I feel you, girl. I'm 21, and I've never had a boyfriend. Guys ask me out sometimes but I don't feel like dating yet. I know I'm not yet ready. I've felt all those awkward conversations with friends about having a boyfriend. But when I see them and figure them out, I realize they too are not ready. They're just fooling around and following the crowd. and I don't wanna be like them. I am a Christian and I believe God has a man for me. And I also believe He will give him to me when He knows I am ready. just be who you are. There's a guy out there who will fall in love with the real you no matter who you are. Don't be pressured by your friends and yourself.
Katherine Gomez thanks so much for the sweet comment ❤ it's so easy to get into our own heads and give in the lie that we're not good enough and that's why we haven't relationships. But the truth is we have our whole lives ahead of us. And I know there's someone out there for me, and I would so much rather wait for the right one than have a hurt heart by setting for People who aren't right for me
I'm 32 and I have never had a relationship. I have had some dates along time, but I never got a girlfriend. Even I was rejected in the past, more than once, but that it's part of the game, those are the rules, right? Anyway, I really think I going to keep being single for a long time, for different reasons, but at this point of my life I just try to enjoy it. Finally to all you reading this, please remember… to be single is not synonymous of loneliness. 💪🏽💪🏽💪🏽
I'm 18 yo and maybe someone older than me could think that I'm too young to say something like this, but I'm so tired of being single. Everyone around me is experimenting the beauty of love. My best friend is a lovebird with her boyfriend and she's always talking about him. I'm so happy to see her joyful, just like all the other people around me, but sometimes I feel so lonely. Why does everyone find their dear ones and I can't even find a simple bf? I've not high standars, I just want someone that can love me. I've dated two guys before, but none of them was the right guy. One was just having fun or almost it is the vibe that I felt coming from him. The other one was really a nice guy but He was always busy and I started thinking that he was avoiding dates on purpose. So I can say that I've no experience at all and everytime I have a crush on a guy I've always end up being used. I had a crush on this jerk, that used me and I thought that he liked me just because he gave me two kisses. I was so innocent thinking that just because someone kissed you that meant he was in love. Well, two months later he was with another girl. I still hope I will find my prince charming one day.
Guuuurl same I'm 18 and the only thing that guys did for me is use and break me ... I'm tired of being alone and I'm scared to stay single for the rest of my life bc I don't believe that " the right one " exists . So I have to accept whoever or stay lonely. Idk why it's so hard to find a good looking gentleman who respect you and love you and be honest with you and support you. It's not so damn hard why guys make it seem so complicated! Every guy here is playing around disrespecting and using girls cheating and making us feel worthless, like WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU!!
This topic just cross my head this night. Once again it catch up with me, and the thought is like a splinter I can't remove. Am gonna be 28, and realize am getting closer to my 30s and been single for almost 15 years. Am only getting out of shape and lost confident about myself and my life in general. Am also a Christian but I dont know just how much am I supose to live it up to God. I definitely feel like I would get really awkward now with a girl because I don't know how to interact. I wish you the best and I pray you may find the one. Thanks for your honesty, it's nice hearing others talk about this topic. It helps to know am not alone in this, and many of us are going through the same experience.
im so glad you made this video and also surprised as my situation is same as yours im 21 and ive only been kissed once and im also shy and introverted and have a lot of insecurities with the way i look and also want a genuine relationship with a genuine guy. i also believe in God, i know there is someone out there for me who will love me for all my good and bad stuff who would one day make me realise that all this waiting made sense and was worth it. Thank you for sharing this cuz all this time i felt so lonely and i dont even know one person who has never been in relationships. im happy being single but it does sometimes hurt plus ive also faced rejections, im the kinda person who has always been in one sided relationships, either the person i like doesnt like me back or vice versa. it sucks a lot but i still got hope. By the way, you are so beautiful im sure you're gonna find a really great guy who will keep you happy and will understand all your insecurities, i hope i find mine too :)
I've had long relationships. Had children. I can surely say, now after all those years, the guys I was with showed me everything else except love. What some of you guys are looking for I am still looking for and I think I'm just going to give up. I'm 37 now and very tired. When all you young ones find someone.... And you will.... My advice is to understand forgiveness is overrated. It isn't hard to do the right thing within a relationship. Believe that's you're worthy, even now, start believing you're worthy.... Otherwise you're not going to enjoy this life and thrn you'll see people steal your joy through disloyalty, relegation and dishonour. Patience is worth every minute, hour and day when you find someone perfect. I promise you will.... But YOU are more important. Be happy, not eager. 🙏🏻 ♥
I can relate... I’m 22 and never had a boyfriend. It gets me really down because I had to stop talking to my best friend 8months ago because I wasn’t attracted to him but we loved each other and it just became too difficult to be friends. I have tried to »date » people but I just can’t find anyone who seems right for me. I’m quiet also. I hope everything works out for you soon x
Also im having a hard time at home because I live with two couples and while I’m happy for them I have to live beside their happiness every day while I try to just be ok being single
Hi Monica;) Just wanted to say that you are really brave for sharing. So thank you for that. I know your comment is 2 years old but I understand what you mean. I'm 22 and never been in a relationship and only been on a few dates. Luckily I don't really have any social problems or get nervous, but never just wanted to date someone if it wasn't going to be a commitment I guess. Anyways I hope you are doing well, and can totally relate to those lonely feelings can come by sometimes. By the way you are cute, so I bet many guys are dying for you to approach them first haha:)) Guys are super shy, Girls have a lot more guts than us haha Take Care
I feel you on this. I’m 21 and have been single my whole life. My parents’ divorce at 15 has to do a lot with my insecurities about relationships. Because of that, I always viewed relationships more seriously than others my age. Not that I’m gonna marry the girl I date, I just want something that’s not superficial (like frequent hookups). I’ve talked to a lot of girls that liked me, but I never felt that connection. It’s hard, really really fucking hard sometimes, but I have faith one day I’ll find the girl that completes me.
Omg same.😭 I've seen a lot of women crying bcoz of cheating husband including my own mother that caused me to have relationship insecurities. They always tells me that I am too serious and tight with my relationship views. Had guys showed interest with me but there is just no connection. I'm 21 now still single. Not even a date.
I'm 32 years old. I've had one relationship in my life for 3 years since i was 17. Since 20 I never had a relationship anymore. So I know how it is to feels like to have had someone, but also how it feels to have no one for almost your entire life 29 out of 32 years. I did go on a few coffee dates but it never developed into anything. I just think society have messed up how relationships and socializing is suppose to happen. Being religious does feel it makes it harder, especially if your friends keep saying God will provide (and they keep saying it each year). Knowing there are people are out there that are also feeling this way and have been waiting so long gives me a bit of hope to keep on waiting and keep an eye out for those people also. Keep strong.
I have given up on love because I know that it is not for me. I am just meant to be forever single. So I just have to accept this and move on with my life. I just have to give on the on whole search for love because it isn’t for me and it will never be. I will just have to deal with being single the best way I can. Goodbye to love and romance. You were not for me anyway.
I'm 23 and I never thought I would come across this video and I literally cried through out this video I can relate on everything you said ..for years I thought something was wrong with me ..just I'm an old soul and I believe in morals and values and respect ..I'm not even high maintenance i don't think I'm asking alot ..like I told God I didn't want anyone in my life that had bad intentions for me..bc I've been through alot growing up and if it's something else I would have to survive through I'm good were I'm at mentally and emotionally and physically and spiritually it took so much of me to be were I'm at I'm not saying the man have to be perfect bc im not .I want God to bless everything that comes into my life ..I just know that I understand what your saying and Ive stopped questioning myself and you should to ..your day well come and hopefully mine as well ..anyways I wish nothing but happiness and peace to you ❤️
Hi Ava I hope you are doing well. Can completely relate to you. I understand your feelings. I'm also 22 and have not been on any more than a few dates and they were nothing serious. Never really been in a serious relationship, only kissed a couple times and just feeling lonely fairly often that I should. At times the lone time is great because you learn a ton about yourself and even others too. But you are so right, at this age it is really not easy to have that empty feeling inside which you explained it such a relatable way. But I want you to know you are not the problem at all sweetheart. You are so great for sharing this. So thank you and I wish you the best🙏 Bless you
I feel ur pain fren. Things could change one day but at this it's not worth focusing on anymore. Atleast for me. As a result I'm striving farther in my goals. And finding more self love. Life's a weird process and it ain't fair. But anything's possible, we all live different lives and take different paths.
Hey, same shit with me. I've tried to talk to a few people, but I've realized that being isolated from people like this has determined a huge part of my personality. I don't think I could ever be in a relationship with an average person as a consequence. The irony here is that if I ever meet anyone I will probably get along with, I won't know it because they will be just as shy about it as me. At least we never need to worry about relationship drama though. That's good.
You have such a good attitude about all of this and I admire it! As weird as it sounds it’s really comforting knowing that other people struggle also and I’m not alone. Tbh keep your head up because through out this video I thought you were really cute and I was actually shocked that you haven’t had a bf. That will definitely change😉
I'm about to turn 20 and... I wish that if the right people aren't coming into my life then even the wrong one's shouldn't come. I'm tired of telling myself everything happens for a reason and so if anyone did me wrong was just because of them and it had nothing to do with me... But what if I am the reason. I always keep thinking all these things but believe me being single isn't that bad it's just being lonely is... And for that there's something that needs to be changed from within because a good mind a good find. Kudos to everyone learning to live their way 💖💖
Just discovered your video and even though I’m a guy, I can completely relate. I am currently 22 and I will be 23 in October of 2019. I’ve never had a girlfriend, never been on a date, or ever had sex (sex isn’t really on my mind at the moment). Watching and listening to your video has helped me realize that I’m not alone in being single for an extended period of time. When you touched on not being ready, it hit home because in my mind I know I’m ready to take on the challenge that is a relationship. But emotionally I don’t think I’m ready. My main issue is that I have very low self esteem and little to no confidence because of all the times that I’ve been shot down. While I do get lonely from time to time, being single for as long as I have has shown me how strong I can be and has helped me become a better problem solver and an independent thinker. Lastly, your video was truly an inspiration to me and it helped me come to grips with my singleness and helped me own. So thank you so much for this video.
Hey Ava! I myself is in the same boat. I'm very shy and it's tough for me to be in the dating game. I feel a little sad that I'm missing out but I believe being single make me more dependent and helps my self confidence. You're absolutely right that there is a plan out there and something is going to come up in the future. Cheers and thanks for your thoughts.
Yo...on some real shit..I related to a lot of things you said..I'm 21, I've been single my whole life, never kissed or had sex with anyone. I'm pretty shy and I struggle with mental illnesses. I never have the confidence to talk to a girl and honestly I sometimes get people telling me I should try harder because of that. idk, maybe it's because i got rejected a ton of times in middle/high school and that's why I stopped trying to get a date. Idk, you're really cute tho, you'll find someone sooner or later, just be patient:)
Same here. I'm going to turn 26 in July 2021. Few girls approached to me but I'm too shy. But thanks to indian culture , I my country parents arranges marriage for us, so I know if I'll be alive for couple of more years , then I definitely will get married.
I’m in my 30s and I had one boyfriend in my late teens, early 20s, it was a horrible and toxic relationship. I really had very little interest in dating after that. But in my late 20s I started desiring a relationship, so I put myself out there and it was a horrible experience. Most guys just wanted hook ups, or were married/ in a relationship, if a new a guy liked me I gave him all the green lights in the world and it wouldn’t go anywhere. So, I took the sage advice to stop looking for love and focus on me. Then one day I realized I’m in my mid 30s still single with one prospect who hasn’t called me in weeks. I can’t even get to the 1st date stage, it’s so frustrating. Lucky for you you are still young, at my age most ppl are in a relationship or committed to being single. Shit, when your gyno says you might want to start looking for someone if you plan on having kids soon, you realize you’re on the wrong side of your biological clock. And with no prospects comes the acceptance of never having a child because time has run out on you. I just always knew I would find someone, I just knew it, well I guess the joke is on me.
I'm a 38 year old male and have been single all my life. I'm not passive but have made an effort. When you see a women you like it's challenging and difficult to engage that person in conversation. If you randomly start talking to that person they're suspicious and act defensively. I understand it's a normal reaction if you don't know a person but how are you supposed to learn about another person without conversation? It's frustrating but you have to have hope. I truly believe that God with bring the right women at the right time.
Hope you find that one. I can relate to you so much, it be hard sometimes but I try not to think about it to much. We will all find someone, good luck guys.
I've been alone for over 20 years now and I'm seeing no end in sight. At first I thought that this time alone would help me get things back in order and get my life together. I did get my shit together and it didn't take that long. A little hard work, back to school and things started to come together great. Everything in my life is going well. Except for my love life. Friends keep telling me that there is someone out there, and I just need to be patient. Well, 20 years have come and gone and nothing has changed. I'm still treated like I have the plague from women. I try everything other guys do to get a date. And nothing, absolutely nothing. I've tried going out and meeting people, tried date sites, friends have tried to set me up with their single friends and NOTHING!!!! I'm 42 years old and have been alone for 22, going on 23 years now. I try not to be bitter, I'm tiring not to just hate women because they want nothing at all to do with me. I'm trying to stay positive but I'm starting to find it hard not to fall into some dark hole. I am looking at being alone for the rest of my life.
Ava i dated three women in my entire life (now 40), and everyone of them cheated on me.. I was not a perfect boyfriend, at times I could be selfish and get a little jealous and possessive..... I never struck any gf, I was never verbally abusive and I NEVER cheated.... The last gf I had was 15 years ago (and she was also the last one I had relations with...I am not lying..lol)..and I loved her more than oxygen itself .. after two years together, I still got "butterflies" in my stomach just watching her walk across the park.... I was in a moderately successful front man for a hardcore band and good looking.... She didn't feel the same way about me anymore, and went to visit friends in another state and never came back ...... The point i'm fumbling with is ... work on your yourself first, I had problems like i said and that is never attractive to a potential partner, and when you feel good mentally and in your heart you will be confident and the young men will be lining up to ask you out for the evening .....also seek a personal relationship with God and His Son the Christ (not religion, just a kjv bible)....
You aren't the only one going through this, I'm going through it now. It's hard and lonely but perhaps...Hm, the hard wait will increase the chances of finding a relationship that was worthy of the wait? I don't know, these roads are the hardest.
I question myself for being single, Im in my 20s, everyone in my family or friends is getting married or happy and talking about their significant other, man or woman. I refuse to wait to my 30s or 40s or 50s or even 60s to meet a girl. and everyone's asking me, "why am I still single?" "When will it be my turn"? Then I snap, I'll be damned before I die with no one to fall in love with!
thank you so much baby its lobely seeing someone going through the same, a guy like me and we went out a dew dates buut I am scared to to the first step and just feel it isn't right and I feel if I don't do something now , I will never be
Girl you’re rare af and will make someone really happy :) ironically I’m 22 and only “dated” once as well so I feel you heavy lol. I’m a guy but that shouldn’t matter all I’m saying is that it happens to more people then you would think. People just assume I’ve been with lots of people even though it’s not true, I’m not trying to waste my time with fake people so just keep looking and hopefully things will work out for the both of us lol. Cheers ❤️ keep doing your thing
I never had a girlfriend until 19 and I didn't lose my virginity until I was 24, and I'm a guy. After getting out of an abusive relationship, I realize that none of that was a big deal.
When that person comes along you will know but you must act on your intuition or they could get away. When you get those vibes don't be afraid make sure they know. I think your sweet and very attractive you just need to chill out a little bit .I'm the same way I guess. Take my advice I don't use it.😁😘
I hope you see this: I hope that you find someone who treats you like you are the most important person on the earth. Like, i know that i only life to get hurt, all my crushed hurt me, i never had a relationship or stuff like that. So yeah, good luck for finding someone.
We are a strange species. Dating has such a high priority. Then there are those who are bad at it, but feels like we are not allowed to be. I accept the loneliest but the struggle still exists.
@@avacapri13 Adele did nice with that song but I prefer to hear a guy named Shane Filan sing it. But hey, you're not alone in this fight. Not all of us attractive people have the confidence to find a mate lol. Many of us millennials are struggling in this area and you and I both know the main reason for this is technology. Technology has created a huge gap between us guys and you ladies. I pray for you and everyone else in this and please pray for me as well. We all need guidance and love from Jesus Christ in these hard times ✌.
you're young pretty don't seem psychotic. i bet you're a real catch. get over yourself, stop dwelling on what you cannot change (the last 22 years) and be grateful, cherish, and rejoice in the present and future. soo many women in their thirties+ who are way past hitting the wall would sell their eternal souls to go back to being 22, look like you, be like you - BE YOU. Guess what. that's who you are now so now that you got your wish, take advantage of it!
I'm 40 yo and I never been loved or dated any girl tho in straight and got luv for women's the problem is the females are not attracted to me unfortunately, that's really makes me sad but I can't do anything about it so 🤷🏽♂️
you low-key look like Emma stone 👀 but, yeah, I relate so much. In my early twenties, I feel like there's still time to find someone, but it makes me anxious if I think about it too much..
Same here... I feel like I've been lonely for so long that this is my normal and I don't feel the need for a relationships. But sometimes I feel like I might be missing out ..
There were so many things I've been deprived of because of my average looks. I'm 20, never had a kiss, a date, or even a relationship! God must hate me lol
It's brave of you to talk about this, but you only talked about girls going through this. I'm a guy, 21, and I never even kissed. No one asked me out. Where I live, we don't seem to do that. We are all too busy with our careers or studies. So for a guy or girl who is shy, it seems impossible. I'm finally getting more confident, but still it's not considered appropriate to "ask someone out", because my fellow students have no time
I am 35, and have been single forever. I think about suicide often. I am now drinking myself to death. At times, I feel like the world left me behind years ago.
sheeeit ive been single i was 17 the last relationship i was in was back in january 21 2016 i dated this spanish girl name beronica ramirez i was still a sophmore in high school at that time god damn man fuck the single life the single life is so boring i hate being single ive been ready for a new relationship i want me a girlfriend and a wife wife i aint desperate tho i can wait
You are 22 and are claiming to have been sing for 22 years? I don't understand. We're you expecting to have a relationship when you were 5 years old? I don't get it.
@@avacapri13 ya at most that counts as being single for four years. Since 18 is the youngest I would imagine somebody would have the maturity to be in a serious relationship. Honestly, you are a babe. And I just double-checked to make sure I remembered correctly. Guys have probably just been too intimidated by your beauty to ask you out. That is a real thing.
20 and In love! ... With kpop boys and my work I think I will never find someone who will like me 🤔 but I'm not sad. I was sad when I was maybe like 16 but now I think being successful in life and doing something that I love is more important. As long as I can work on my art and making stuff with my friends I think I will be happy. But for all of normal people I hope you guys will find someone! ^o^ Remember there always will be someone who loves you!
As a girl I would love to experience all those romantic things that usuall people do BUT I dont want to be in a relationship for any costs ! I want to feel I can truly trust that guy & spend the rest of my life with him not just having sex & kisses & after s.t leave him for another guy ... I believe I have to save myself before marraige & I know that God is fair & will put the right guy on my way but it may take yearsss ....I've been a nerd my whole life , studying for NODET & medical school ....
Hey hey hey, if you see this, know the next thing : u fell victim to overthinking, in a negative pattern. Im eager to talk with you about how to perceive stuff. Trust me life are much easier than you think. U are ready as hell. Havnt meeting 'THE' guy doesnt make you flawed in any manner. The living fact is, there are so many people around there that in the same spot. I hardly suggest u to read about self development. U can try looking for Brendon's Buchard channel, and start hearing 'High Performance Habits ' (his free audiobook). Best of luck :)
I ShogunRonin I have been on dating apps and yes people do show interest in me. However, being interesting in someone based off their profile vs. meeting them and seeing who they are is very different. I am a very, very shy person. When I made this video it was much worse than it is now. Before I posted this I “dated” someone for the first time. He was interested in the way I looked but after he got to see the way I act, he didn’t want to continue seeing each other. Since then I have dated people more but nothing has lasted, and yes I have met people from dating apps.
Statistics show that women are pretty much fighting over the top 5% of men on online dating sites. Eharmony found that women rated only 7% of men attractive on their site while men rated 67% of women attractive. Essentially those 'high' standards of yours are having you fight for the top percentage of men which reach your criteria with other women. You are a beautiful girl but obviously your personality is not attracting the kind of guys you like. I think you're soaked in cognitive bias. If you've been single for 22 years I am pretty certain you will become a cat lady with those standards or when the wall approaches (your looks go down with age) you will end up settling out of panic. Good luck.
I ShogunRonin What the hell. Dating needs you to be attracted to the other person. You can't fake it. If there's no connection there wont be a relationship. I tried to "lower" my standards and it doesnt work. If she was trying to find a rich guy with x car then ok, but if your standard is to have compatibility with the other that's FINE. She needs a guy that has the right intentions toward her and that is spiritually similar. That's the bare minimum to ask for. It's not just about looks. You just sound bitter like most guys on FA subreddit. Do you want a girl to like you for who you are or to be her "lower standard option"
1- get rid of cats. 2- are you a feminist? If so stop. 3 pay attention to the guys around you some guys are shy too. Pay attention to guys some guys will stare at you but you are not paying attention. Also ask God to send you someone and dont put any restrictions on the guy. Just ask God to send someone thaT He wants you to be with.
@@avacapri13 and I said feminist. The feminists these days are not real feminists just woman that cry because they can't get what they want. Big difference between real feminists and cry babies. Woman have rights what are you fighting for? If you want to fight for womans rights go to saudi Arabia or any other Muslim country.
It's so hard to find relationships in general with anxiety, whether it be just friends or a boyfriend/girlfriend. Most people don't have the patience to wait around until I become comfortable with them to be myself. It's sad how those people never get to see the true me. This is a great video, thanks for sharing.
AudreyAnn thanks for your comment! It's hard for sure, but it's important to remember that your worth doesn't come from relationships. And that's been something I've had to come to terms with. When it's meant to be it will happen and I truly believe that ❤
You are not alone dude. I'ma guy. I'm 22. I'll admit, I went through that phase of it's never coming. But about half way through 22 almost 23 now. I have found a peace in being alone. And yeah I sit and think about women all the time. But I'm at a spot where I just live life not caring about the subject of love and relationships. I gotta it'll come belife now. Something happened to where I felt a peace. Check out my channel though. Hear it from a guys perspective.
this guy is lying. your same age 22 and just so happens to become content at that same age. His full of it.
I am 56 and never got a girlfriend before.
Hey, I feel you, girl. I'm 21, and I've never had a boyfriend. Guys ask me out sometimes but I don't feel like dating yet. I know I'm not yet ready. I've felt all those awkward conversations with friends about having a boyfriend. But when I see them and figure them out, I realize they too are not ready. They're just fooling around and following the crowd. and I don't wanna be like them. I am a Christian and I believe God has a man for me. And I also believe He will give him to me when He knows I am ready. just be who you are. There's a guy out there who will fall in love with the real you no matter who you are. Don't be pressured by your friends and yourself.
Katherine Gomez thanks so much for the sweet comment ❤ it's so easy to get into our own heads and give in the lie that we're not good enough and that's why we haven't relationships. But the truth is we have our whole lives ahead of us. And I know there's someone out there for me, and I would so much rather wait for the right one than have a hurt heart by setting for
People who aren't right for me
You're right to wait on the Lord. He brings the right people together at the right time. God bless.
I'm 32 and I have never had a relationship. I have had some dates along time, but I never got a girlfriend. Even I was rejected in the past, more than once, but that it's part of the game, those are the rules, right? Anyway, I really think I going to keep being single for a long time, for different reasons, but at this point of my life I just try to enjoy it. Finally to all you reading this, please remember… to be single is not synonymous of loneliness. 💪🏽💪🏽💪🏽
I'm 18 yo and maybe someone older than me could think that I'm too young to say something like this, but I'm so tired of being single. Everyone around me is experimenting the beauty of love. My best friend is a lovebird with her boyfriend and she's always talking about him. I'm so happy to see her joyful, just like all the other people around me, but sometimes I feel so lonely. Why does everyone find their dear ones and I can't even find a simple bf? I've not high standars, I just want someone that can love me.
I've dated two guys before, but none of them was the right guy.
One was just having fun or almost it is the vibe that I felt coming from him.
The other one was really a nice guy but He was always busy and I started thinking that he was avoiding dates on purpose.
So I can say that I've no experience at all and everytime I have a crush on a guy I've always end up being used.
I had a crush on this jerk, that used me and I thought that he liked me just because he gave me two kisses. I was so innocent thinking that just because someone kissed you that meant he was in love. Well, two months later he was with another girl.
I still hope I will find my prince charming one day.
Guuuurl same I'm 18 and the only thing that guys did for me is use and break me ... I'm tired of being alone and I'm scared to stay single for the rest of my life bc I don't believe that " the right one " exists . So I have to accept whoever or stay lonely. Idk why it's so hard to find a good looking gentleman who respect you and love you and be honest with you and support you. It's not so damn hard why guys make it seem so complicated! Every guy here is playing around disrespecting and using girls cheating and making us feel worthless, like WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU!!
This topic just cross my head this night. Once again it catch up with me, and the thought is like a splinter I can't remove.
Am gonna be 28, and realize am getting closer to my 30s and been single for almost 15 years. Am only getting out of shape and lost confident about myself and my life in general. Am also a Christian but I dont know just how much am I supose to live it up to God. I definitely feel like I would get really awkward now with a girl because I don't know how to interact.
I wish you the best and I pray you may find the one. Thanks for your honesty, it's nice hearing others talk about this topic. It helps to know am not alone in this, and many of us are going through the same experience.
im so glad you made this video and also surprised as my situation is same as yours im 21 and ive only been kissed once and im also shy and introverted and have a lot of insecurities with the way i look and also want a genuine relationship with a genuine guy. i also believe in God, i know there is someone out there for me who will love me for all my good and bad stuff who would one day make me realise that all this waiting made sense and was worth it. Thank you for sharing this cuz all this time i felt so lonely and i dont even know one person who has never been in relationships. im happy being single but it does sometimes hurt plus ive also faced rejections, im the kinda person who has always been in one sided relationships, either the person i like doesnt like me back or vice versa. it sucks a lot but i still got hope. By the way, you are so beautiful im sure you're gonna find a really great guy who will keep you happy and will understand all your insecurities, i hope i find mine too :)
I've had long relationships. Had children. I can surely say, now after all those years, the guys I was with showed me everything else except love. What some of you guys are looking for I am still looking for and I think I'm just going to give up. I'm 37 now and very tired. When all you young ones find someone.... And you will.... My advice is to understand forgiveness is overrated. It isn't hard to do the right thing within a relationship. Believe that's you're worthy, even now, start believing you're worthy.... Otherwise you're not going to enjoy this life and thrn you'll see people steal your joy through disloyalty, relegation and dishonour. Patience is worth every minute, hour and day when you find someone perfect. I promise you will.... But YOU are more important. Be happy, not eager. 🙏🏻 ♥
I can relate... I’m 22 and never had a boyfriend. It gets me really down because I had to stop talking to my best friend 8months ago because I wasn’t attracted to him but we loved each other and it just became too difficult to be friends. I have tried to »date » people but I just can’t find anyone who seems right for me. I’m quiet also. I hope everything works out for you soon x
Also im having a hard time at home because I live with two couples and while I’m happy for them I have to live beside their happiness every day while I try to just be ok being single
Hi Monica;) Just wanted to say that you are really brave for sharing. So thank you for that. I know your comment is 2 years old but I understand what you mean. I'm 22 and never been in a relationship and only been on a few dates. Luckily I don't really have any social problems or get nervous, but never just wanted to date someone if it wasn't going to be a commitment I guess. Anyways I hope you are doing well, and can totally relate to those lonely feelings can come by sometimes. By the way you are cute, so I bet many guys are dying for you to approach them first haha:)) Guys are super shy, Girls have a lot more guts than us haha Take Care
I feel you on this. I’m 21 and have been single my whole life. My parents’ divorce at 15 has to do a lot with my insecurities about relationships. Because of that, I always viewed relationships more seriously than others my age. Not that I’m gonna marry the girl I date, I just want something that’s not superficial (like frequent hookups). I’ve talked to a lot of girls that liked me, but I never felt that connection. It’s hard, really really fucking hard sometimes, but I have faith one day I’ll find the girl that completes me.
Omg same.😭
I've seen a lot of women crying bcoz of cheating husband including my own mother that caused me to have relationship insecurities. They always tells me that I am too serious and tight with my relationship views. Had guys showed interest with me but there is just no connection. I'm 21 now still single. Not even a date.
I'm 32 years old. I've had one relationship in my life for 3 years since i was 17. Since 20 I never had a relationship anymore. So I know how it is to feels like to have had someone, but also how it feels to have no one for almost your entire life 29 out of 32 years. I did go on a few coffee dates but it never developed into anything.
I just think society have messed up how relationships and socializing is suppose to happen. Being religious does feel it makes it harder, especially if your friends keep saying God will provide (and they keep saying it each year). Knowing there are people are out there that are also feeling this way and have been waiting so long gives me a bit of hope to keep on waiting and keep an eye out for those people also.
Keep strong.
I have given up on love because I know that it is not for me. I am just meant to be forever single. So I just have to accept this and move on with my life. I just have to give on the on whole search for love because it isn’t for me and it will never be. I will just have to deal with being single the best way I can. Goodbye to love and romance. You were not for me anyway.
I'm 23 and I never thought I would come across this video and I literally cried through out this video I can relate on everything you said ..for years I thought something was wrong with me ..just I'm an old soul and I believe in morals and values and respect ..I'm not even high maintenance i don't think I'm asking alot ..like I told God I didn't want anyone in my life that had bad intentions for me..bc I've been through alot growing up and if it's something else I would have to survive through I'm good were I'm at mentally and emotionally and physically and spiritually it took so much of me to be were I'm at I'm not saying the man have to be perfect bc im not .I want God to bless everything that comes into my life ..I just know that I understand what your saying and Ive stopped questioning myself and you should to ..your day well come and hopefully mine as well ..anyways I wish nothing but happiness and peace to you ❤️
Claudia Becerra this was so beautiful to read. Thank you for your kind words and sending you love as well 💗
Hi Ava I hope you are doing well. Can completely relate to you. I understand your feelings. I'm also 22 and have not been on any more than a few dates and they were nothing serious. Never really been in a serious relationship, only kissed a couple times and just feeling lonely fairly often that I should. At times the lone time is great because you learn a ton about yourself and even others too. But you are so right, at this age it is really not easy to have that empty feeling inside which you explained it such a relatable way. But I want you to know you are not the problem at all sweetheart. You are so great for sharing this. So thank you and I wish you the best🙏 Bless you
I feel ur pain fren. Things could change one day but at this it's not worth focusing on anymore. Atleast for me. As a result I'm striving farther in my goals. And finding more self love. Life's a weird process and it ain't fair. But anything's possible, we all live different lives and take different paths.
I love you! Felt every word you said. Take care.
Hey, same shit with me. I've tried to talk to a few people, but I've realized that being isolated from people like this has determined a huge part of my personality. I don't think I could ever be in a relationship with an average person as a consequence. The irony here is that if I ever meet anyone I will probably get along with, I won't know it because they will be just as shy about it as me. At least we never need to worry about relationship drama though. That's good.
You have such a good attitude about all of this and I admire it! As weird as it sounds it’s really comforting knowing that other people struggle also and I’m not alone. Tbh keep your head up because through out this video I thought you were really cute and I was actually shocked that you haven’t had a bf. That will definitely change😉
33 guy here, been single for 16 years now
I just want to cry watching this... *Hits home*
I'm about to turn 20 and... I wish that if the right people aren't coming into my life then even the wrong one's shouldn't come.
I'm tired of telling myself everything happens for a reason and so if anyone did me wrong was just because of them and it had nothing to do with me... But what if I am the reason. I always keep thinking all these things but believe me being single isn't that bad it's just being lonely is... And for that there's something that needs to be changed from within because a good mind a good find.
Kudos to everyone learning to live their way 💖💖
Just discovered your video and even though I’m a guy, I can completely relate. I am currently 22 and I will be 23 in October of 2019. I’ve never had a girlfriend, never been on a date, or ever had sex (sex isn’t really on my mind at the moment). Watching and listening to your video has helped me realize that I’m not alone in being single for an extended period of time. When you touched on not being ready, it hit home because in my mind I know I’m ready to take on the challenge that is a relationship. But emotionally I don’t think I’m ready. My main issue is that I have very low self esteem and little to no confidence because of all the times that I’ve been shot down. While I do get lonely from time to time, being single for as long as I have has shown me how strong I can be and has helped me become a better problem solver and an independent thinker. Lastly, your video was truly an inspiration to me and it helped me come to grips with my singleness and helped me own. So thank you so much for this video.
Hey Ava! I myself is in the same boat. I'm very shy and it's tough for me to be in the dating game. I feel a little sad that I'm missing out but I believe being single make me more dependent and helps my self confidence. You're absolutely right that there is a plan out there and something is going to come up in the future. Cheers and thanks for your thoughts.
Yo...on some real shit..I related to a lot of things you said..I'm 21, I've been single my whole life, never kissed or had sex with anyone. I'm pretty shy and I struggle with mental illnesses. I never have the confidence to talk to a girl and honestly I sometimes get people telling me I should try harder because of that. idk, maybe it's because i got rejected a ton of times in middle/high school and that's why I stopped trying to get a date. Idk, you're really cute tho, you'll find someone sooner or later, just be patient:)
Same here. I'm going to turn 26 in July 2021. Few girls approached to me but I'm too shy. But thanks to indian culture , I my country parents arranges marriage for us, so I know if I'll be alive for couple of more years , then I definitely will get married.
I’m in my 30s and I had one boyfriend in my late teens, early 20s, it was a horrible and toxic relationship. I really had very little interest in dating after that. But in my late 20s I started desiring a relationship, so I put myself out there and it was a horrible experience. Most guys just wanted hook ups, or were married/ in a relationship, if a new a guy liked me I gave him all the green lights in the world and it wouldn’t go anywhere. So, I took the sage advice to stop looking for love and focus on me. Then one day I realized I’m in my mid 30s still single with one prospect who hasn’t called me in weeks. I can’t even get to the 1st date stage, it’s so frustrating. Lucky for you you are still young, at my age most ppl are in a relationship or committed to being single. Shit, when your gyno says you might want to start looking for someone if you plan on having kids soon, you realize you’re on the wrong side of your biological clock. And with no prospects comes the acceptance of never having a child because time has run out on you. I just always knew I would find someone, I just knew it, well I guess the joke is on me.
You know what you don't have to be worried of being single for a log time
Just love yourself and others ♥️
I'm a 38 year old male and have been single all my life. I'm not passive but have made an effort. When you see a women you like it's challenging and difficult to engage that person in conversation. If you randomly start talking to that person they're suspicious and act defensively. I understand it's a normal reaction if you don't know a person but how are you supposed to learn about another person without conversation? It's frustrating but you have to have hope. I truly believe that God with bring the right women at the right time.
Hope you find that one. I can relate to you so much, it be hard sometimes but I try not to think about it to much. We will all find someone, good luck guys.
I've been alone for over 20 years now and I'm seeing no end in sight. At first I thought that this time alone would help me get things back in order and get my life together. I did get my shit together and it didn't take that long. A little hard work, back to school and things started to come together great. Everything in my life is going well. Except for my love life. Friends keep telling me that there is someone out there, and I just need to be patient. Well, 20 years have come and gone and nothing has changed. I'm still treated like I have the plague from women. I try everything other guys do to get a date. And nothing, absolutely nothing. I've tried going out and meeting people, tried date sites, friends have tried to set me up with their single friends and NOTHING!!!! I'm 42 years old and have been alone for 22, going on 23 years now. I try not to be bitter, I'm tiring not to just hate women because they want nothing at all to do with me. I'm trying to stay positive but I'm starting to find it hard not to fall into some dark hole. I am looking at being alone for the rest of my life.
Ava i dated three women in my entire life (now 40), and everyone of them cheated on me.. I was not a perfect boyfriend, at times I could be selfish and get a little jealous and possessive..... I never struck any gf, I was never verbally abusive and I NEVER cheated.... The last gf I had was 15 years ago (and she was also the last one I had relations with...I am not lying..lol)..and I loved her more than oxygen itself .. after two years together, I still got "butterflies" in my stomach just watching her walk across the park.... I was in a moderately successful front man for a hardcore band and good looking.... She didn't feel the same way about me anymore, and went to visit friends in another state and never came back ......
The point i'm fumbling with is ... work on your yourself first, I had problems like i said and that is never attractive to a potential partner, and when you feel good mentally and in your heart you will be confident and the young men will be lining up to ask you out for the evening .....also seek a personal relationship with God and His Son the Christ (not religion, just a kjv bible)....
You aren't the only one going through this, I'm going through it now. It's hard and lonely but perhaps...Hm, the hard wait will increase the chances of finding a relationship that was worthy of the wait? I don't know, these roads are the hardest.
❤️ thank you for this
Aw babe! Thank you ❤️
Love is real.. been alone and single for 10 year's and I'm not ugly...
I question myself for being single, Im in my 20s, everyone in my family or friends is getting married or happy and talking about their significant other, man or woman. I refuse to wait to my 30s or 40s or 50s or even 60s to meet a girl.
and everyone's asking me, "why am I still single?" "When will it be my turn"?
Then I snap, I'll be damned before I die with no one to fall in love with!
At least you have dated I have never even dated, kissed a guy. All I have is my daydreams😭
thank you so much baby its lobely seeing someone going through the same, a guy like me and we went out a dew dates buut I am scared to to the first step and just feel it isn't right and I feel if I don't do something now , I will never be
Girl you’re rare af and will make someone really happy :) ironically I’m 22 and only “dated” once as well so I feel you heavy lol. I’m a guy but that shouldn’t matter all I’m saying is that it happens to more people then you would think. People just assume I’ve been with lots of people even though it’s not true, I’m not trying to waste my time with fake people so just keep looking and hopefully things will work out for the both of us lol. Cheers ❤️ keep doing your thing
thank you!
I'm a guy and I've never had a relationship. Same situation, but I'm also extremely picky
Thanks for your compliment ❤️😘
I’m 22 years old ,I’m still getting my anxieties dealt with !,I’m so insecure about lot of things though
Imagine you are a singer but still single for 22 years,yup that's me!
It's hard to believe that your alone!!
I'm with you girl
I never had a girlfriend until 19 and I didn't lose my virginity until I was 24, and I'm a guy. After getting out of an abusive relationship, I realize that none of that was a big deal.
When that person comes along you will know but you must act on your intuition or they could get away. When you get those vibes don't be afraid make sure they know. I think your sweet and very attractive you just need to chill out a little bit .I'm the same way I guess. Take my advice I don't use it.😁😘
I hope you see this: I hope that you find someone who treats you like you are the most important person on the earth. Like, i know that i only life to get hurt, all my crushed hurt me, i never had a relationship or stuff like that. So yeah, good luck for finding someone.
Btw, I subscribed you
We are a strange species. Dating has such a high priority. Then there are those who are bad at it, but feels like we are not allowed to be. I accept the loneliest but the struggle still exists.
Are you playing "Make You Feel My Love" in the background? 😆
José Rivera sure am!
@@avacapri13 Adele did nice with that song but I prefer to hear a guy named Shane Filan sing it. But hey, you're not alone in this fight. Not all of us attractive people have the confidence to find a mate lol. Many of us millennials are struggling in this area and you and I both know the main reason for this is technology. Technology has created a huge gap between us guys and you ladies. I pray for you and everyone else in this and please pray for me as well. We all need guidance and love from Jesus Christ in these hard times ✌.
you're young pretty don't seem psychotic. i bet you're a real catch. get over yourself, stop dwelling on what you cannot change (the last 22 years) and be grateful, cherish, and rejoice in the present and future. soo many women in their thirties+ who are way past hitting the wall would sell their eternal souls to go back to being 22, look like you, be like you - BE YOU. Guess what. that's who you are now so now that you got your wish, take advantage of it!
The reason I’m single is because I don’t fit with everyone else in society at my age I always compare my self to others at my age
I'm not a people person . I don't know how to deal with social situation . I've always been that weird kid.
I`m 21, never even kissed someone. I may feel sad and unwanted sometimes.
There isnt any wrong with you.God bless you.
I feel you, my case is the same :)
Im single now
Cant wait for the release of elder scroll 6
I'm 21 and I'm single
I'm 40 yo and I never been loved or dated any girl tho in straight and got luv for women's the problem is the females are not attracted to me unfortunately, that's really makes me sad but I can't do anything about it so 🤷🏽♂️
you low-key look like Emma stone 👀 but, yeah, I relate so much. In my early twenties, I feel like there's still time to find someone, but it makes me anxious if I think about it too much..
I was also thinking she looks like Emma Stone
20 here. Single
avacapri13 .... Duh ... I just realized this video is a year and a half old... I hope things are going well for you : )
THATS JUST HOW LIFE IS IN MODERN WORLD
pfff 25 over here 😂 dated, had sex.. but no relationship or "fallen in love"
Same here... I feel like I've been lonely for so long that this is my normal and I don't feel the need for a relationships. But sometimes I feel like I might be missing out ..
There were so many things I've been deprived of because of my average looks. I'm 20, never had a kiss, a date, or even a relationship! God must hate me lol
It's brave of you to talk about this, but you only talked about girls going through this. I'm a guy, 21, and I never even kissed. No one asked me out. Where I live, we don't seem to do that. We are all too busy with our careers or studies. So for a guy or girl who is shy, it seems impossible. I'm finally getting more confident, but still it's not considered appropriate to "ask someone out", because my fellow students have no time
I am 35, and have been single forever. I think about suicide often. I am now drinking myself to death. At times, I feel like the world left me behind years ago.
Bro seek help or go to a church or a physiotherapist
sheeeit ive been single i was 17 the last relationship i was in was back in january 21 2016 i dated this spanish girl name beronica ramirez i was still a sophmore in high school at that time god damn man fuck the single life the single life is so boring i hate being single ive been ready for a new relationship i want me a girlfriend and a wife wife i aint desperate tho i can wait
Where my late teens early twenties single Pringles at ?
You are 22 and are claiming to have been sing for 22 years? I don't understand. We're you expecting to have a relationship when you were 5 years old? I don't get it.
Edwin Williams I’m dramatic I know 😭
@@avacapri13 ya at most that counts as being single for four years. Since 18 is the youngest I would imagine somebody would have the maturity to be in a serious relationship. Honestly, you are a babe. And I just double-checked to make sure I remembered correctly. Guys have probably just been too intimidated by your beauty to ask you out. That is a real thing.
20 and In love!
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With kpop boys and my work
I think I will never find someone who will like me 🤔 but I'm not sad. I was sad when I was maybe like 16 but now I think being successful in life and doing something that I love is more important. As long as I can work on my art and making stuff with my friends I think I will be happy. But for all of normal people I hope you guys will find someone! ^o^
Remember there always will be someone who loves you!
Me also 22 and singal
You won't be single forever.
As a girl I would love to experience all those romantic things that usuall people do BUT I dont want to be in a relationship for any costs ! I want to feel I can truly trust that guy & spend the rest of my life with him not just having sex & kisses & after s.t leave him for another guy ... I believe I have to save myself before marraige & I know that God is fair & will put the right guy on my way but it may take yearsss ....I've been a nerd my whole life , studying for NODET & medical school ....
Im obviously a virgin too & Im proud of it !! All of us could have lost it with a random boy but we've choosed to wait for the right one !!!
It's their Loss. Your'e a very beautiful girl. God has a plan for you, and just surrender to his plan.. Don't be hard on yourself.. :-)
thank you!
Im feeling exactly the way you feel, all of it :( *Pats your back girl and gives you a tight hug*
Gay here 😊😘
haha yours so pretty
Nice left ear music lol.
Homicidal 😂😂😂
me too
Hey hey hey, if you see this, know the next thing : u fell victim to overthinking, in a negative pattern. Im eager to talk with you about how to perceive stuff. Trust me life are much easier than you think. U are ready as hell. Havnt meeting 'THE' guy doesnt make you flawed in any manner. The living fact is, there are so many people around there that in the same spot. I hardly suggest u to read about self development. U can try looking for Brendon's Buchard channel, and start hearing 'High Performance Habits ' (his free audiobook). Best of luck :)
You look like Emma Stone :))
I've gotten that a lot! thank you :) she's beautiful
yeah alot 8D
I have subscribed! 😊😘
Be my girlfriend, I'm 25 years from UK
We all know if she went on Tinder/POF she would have dates within a couple of days..full of crap.
I ShogunRonin I have been on dating apps and yes people do show interest in me. However, being interesting in someone based off their profile vs. meeting them and seeing who they are is very different. I am a very, very shy person. When I made this video it was much worse than it is now. Before I posted this I “dated” someone for the first time. He was interested in the way I looked but after he got to see the way I act, he didn’t want to continue seeing each other. Since then I have dated people more but nothing has lasted, and yes I have met people from dating apps.
Yeah it sounds like your standards are a little too high like most people these days.
I ShogunRonin So I’m being attacked because I don’t want to date just anyone? Because I don’t want to waste my time or someone else’s?
Statistics show that women are pretty much fighting over the top 5% of men on online dating sites. Eharmony found that women rated only 7% of men attractive on their site while men rated 67% of women attractive. Essentially those 'high' standards of yours are having you fight for the top percentage of men which reach your criteria with other women.
You are a beautiful girl but obviously your personality is not attracting the kind of guys you like. I think you're soaked in cognitive bias. If you've been single for 22 years I am pretty certain you will become a cat lady with those standards or when the wall approaches (your looks go down with age) you will end up settling out of panic.
Good luck.
I ShogunRonin What the hell. Dating needs you to be attracted to the other person. You can't fake it. If there's no connection there wont be a relationship. I tried to "lower" my standards and it doesnt work. If she was trying to find a rich guy with x car then ok, but if your standard is to have compatibility with the other that's FINE. She needs a guy that has the right intentions toward her and that is spiritually similar. That's the bare minimum to ask for. It's not just about looks. You just sound bitter like most guys on FA subreddit. Do you want a girl to like you for who you are or to be her "lower standard option"
1- get rid of cats. 2-
are you a feminist? If so stop. 3 pay attention to the guys around you some guys are shy too. Pay attention to guys some guys will stare at you but you are not paying attention. Also ask God to send you someone and dont put any restrictions on the guy. Just ask God to send someone thaT He wants you to be with.
Aaron Young not getting rid of my cat and not going to stop supporting women’s rights ❤️☺️
@@avacapri13 well good luck with the single life.
@@avacapri13 and I said feminist. The feminists these days are not real feminists just woman that cry because they can't get what they want. Big difference between real feminists and cry babies. Woman have rights what are you fighting for? If you want to fight for
womans rights go to saudi Arabia or any other Muslim country.
But you're still so young!!!