I just got broken up with because he was insecure and couldn't handle it. First love, hurts really bad. Most of the time it wasn't malicious, but just raw anxiety he would put onto me. He was my first boyfriend, partner, everything, so it feels incredibly unfair that he was the only one to ever touch me, but that still wasn't enough. Just talking to guys or wearing something sexy would bring out accusations of me "doing it for attention." As if it was the biggest sin in the world. Got to the point where I had to cancel plans because he freaked, and explain myself for having close female friends over to drink. I set strict boundaries as our last gasp, and the next day he ended it. The hard part is knowing he didn't want to control me out of some hateful misogynistic place, he is just incredibly insecure and had really bad anxiety/maybe ocd about it. I loved him and wanted him to get better, but he just wouldn't internalize the work and always made it my job to soothe him. Now that its over, like that caller, I feel his insecurity seeping into my thoughts too. It's still very fresh, so a big part of me still wants him back and is hoping it'll work out eventually. But because of that, I'm terrified of crossing his boundaries even though we're not together anymore. Because if he comes back, I know he won't want to give us another chance if I dated, or god forbid slept with, anyone else. The frog thing is so real, because 3 years ago I would have said I'd NEVER put up with this from a guy. But I'm still in love with him, so I'm letting myself be boiled alive :(
Same thing happened to me today, He didn't even fight for me but I've been fighting for him with him because of his depression. He told his parents about me and I had their contacts but I had to choose myself this time because he'll never choose me🤷🏼♀️. It sucks but we'll be okay 👍🏻.
I just got broken up with because he was insecure and couldn't handle it. First love, hurts really bad. Most of the time it wasn't malicious, but just raw anxiety he would put onto me. He was my first boyfriend, partner, everything, so it feels incredibly unfair that he was the only one to ever touch me, but that still wasn't enough. Just talking to guys or wearing something sexy would bring out accusations of me "doing it for attention." As if it was the biggest sin in the world. Got to the point where I had to cancel plans because he freaked, and explain myself for having close female friends over to drink. I set strict boundaries as our last gasp, and the next day he ended it.
The hard part is knowing he didn't want to control me out of some hateful misogynistic place, he is just incredibly insecure and had really bad anxiety/maybe ocd about it. I loved him and wanted him to get better, but he just wouldn't internalize the work and always made it my job to soothe him.
Now that its over, like that caller, I feel his insecurity seeping into my thoughts too. It's still very fresh, so a big part of me still wants him back and is hoping it'll work out eventually. But because of that, I'm terrified of crossing his boundaries even though we're not together anymore. Because if he comes back, I know he won't want to give us another chance if I dated, or god forbid slept with, anyone else. The frog thing is so real, because 3 years ago I would have said I'd NEVER put up with this from a guy. But I'm still in love with him, so I'm letting myself be boiled alive :(
Same thing happened to me today, He didn't even fight for me but I've been fighting for him with him because of his depression. He told his parents about me and I had their contacts but I had to choose myself this time because he'll never choose me🤷🏼♀️. It sucks but we'll be okay 👍🏻.
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