Expectations vs. Reality | S4 E5 | Couch Conversations

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  • @StephFolling
    @StephFolling 2 ปีที่แล้ว +37

    Elijah & Jia are absolutely amazing! I could watch them all day!

  • @YoutubeNameHere
    @YoutubeNameHere 2 ปีที่แล้ว +59

    Sometimes having expectations set you up for disappointment and it’s better to just have standards and boundaries.

  • @bdoti1822
    @bdoti1822 2 ปีที่แล้ว +99

    Could listen to Kevin and Melissa all day. I love that they're hosting this season of Couch Conversations. Long may it continue!

  • @joannapilgrim
    @joannapilgrim 2 ปีที่แล้ว +44

    Expectations: long, long honeymoon phase, male spiritual leadership, being taken care of financially, twin, continued dating, semi-carefree living...
    Reality: fading honeymoon phase, female spiritual leadership, taking care of things financially, miscarriage, no dates, adulting...
    I so needed this conversation!

  • @rashondarandolph9262
    @rashondarandolph9262 2 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    Jai looks phenomenal in this outfit!

  • @koranwatson8996
    @koranwatson8996 2 ปีที่แล้ว +65

    I love to hear real conversations from real couples living in the real world with the rest of us. I am in a season where I am learning the importance of learning from others' experiences. I do not have to go through it to learn the life lesson.

  • @thriftstorescoffeeshops
    @thriftstorescoffeeshops ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Omg I think the Miranda's are the ones from TikTok they are HILARIOUS! Love this!

  • @nellersbme
    @nellersbme 2 ปีที่แล้ว +28

    I’m not black and I’m not in a relationship, but this video came up on my feed, I said I love the Fredericks, lemme watch this couch conversation 🎬🎬🎬🦋🦋🦋

    • @sunkissdj5608
      @sunkissdj5608 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I love that this is literally a show for everybody

    • @YoutubeNameHere
      @YoutubeNameHere 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Same here single 😢 😅 but I watch all their videos and love it. I’d like to think it’s helping me prepare for when I am in a relationship.

  • @popjele3761
    @popjele3761 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I love all couples but Jia, you are amazing. You are so real. And yes without a firm foundation God everything falls to pieces

  • @vanessaosei-bonsu8603
    @vanessaosei-bonsu8603 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Love Kev and Melissa together, no matter the channel or episode, it’ll always be entertaining and impactful ❤️

  • @chrisjohnson926
    @chrisjohnson926 2 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    I love these conversations. Even eating Melissa’s show #theLoveHour my wife and I realized I relate to m Melissa and she relates to Kevin. My wife is the creative and I’m the structure person. Similarly from this conversation, my wife is already ready to talk about stuff and I’m the one who needs to process things.

  • @renettecorley446
    @renettecorley446 2 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    Loving all of the couples on this episode especially the Mirandas 😊

  • @lifewithmissblaque9271
    @lifewithmissblaque9271 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I love Kevin n Melissa so much, they seem grounded n true❣️ n honestly resemble wat I have! This was a great convo, fun n educating! Thank u

  • @christinebryant8354
    @christinebryant8354 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I enjoyed watching expectations vs reality. When your lover is your best friend. It’s a beautiful thing ❤️

  • @angellebvi4784
    @angellebvi4784 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    We love these frank and open discussions. No lead in just conversations 👌

  • @bosstravels36251
    @bosstravels36251 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I love that they play fight about I'm gon do this no I'm gon do it. I love it.

  • @carralumsden8853
    @carralumsden8853 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I lived together in peace and love with 3 of my longterm partners. We shared duties for the mostpart, food, driving, music, love letters etc. Rational ups as well as downs but communicative and patient love through them.
    Both these couples have elements of my previous relationships.
    I love and prefer soft relationships with really good communication. I need a complete detoxifying overhaul. Rebuild some bridges. Get myself, and my One man Longterm Black Love.
    P.E.A.C.E

  • @cj10109
    @cj10109 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    It’s good to hear the different struggles other couples are going through. Relationships are hard work but it’s worth it. 💜

  • @Sheherhis
    @Sheherhis 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I see these videos pop up and I decided to finally watch thus is my second one, and I find these interesting, this one was really good. Thanks to the couples for sharing their stories. I especially enjoyed the couples stories where the lady ask for 3hall passes when after her previous boyfriend cheated on her.

  • @beechannel27
    @beechannel27 2 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    This was chock full of awesome relationship gems! Great convo!

  • @kingdomvibeonlyglobal
    @kingdomvibeonlyglobal 2 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    My new fave show! I’m always keen for the next episode 🥰🤍

  • @abster4709
    @abster4709 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Love this show, always insightful and FUNNY! Thank ya'll.

  • @NetSunJin
    @NetSunJin 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    I love the Miranda’s

  • @DebbieRay64
    @DebbieRay64 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I love these videos. So much information and insight into relationships and marriage.

  • @SaipherWells
    @SaipherWells 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Jia is so beautiful!

  • @yellowisme
    @yellowisme ปีที่แล้ว

    This was great! thank you for showcasing black real love.

  • @FeelinMe11
    @FeelinMe11 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    I loveeee Jia 🤣🤣

    • @summerrain6125
      @summerrain6125 ปีที่แล้ว

      Jia and her short king lol. Glad she's happy! 😁

    • @popjele3761
      @popjele3761 ปีที่แล้ว

      😂me too. She is gorgeous

  • @jasminereynolds3196
    @jasminereynolds3196 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Dog and kids are not the same 😂

  • @Incolere
    @Incolere 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    So we ain't talking about the blue hair clip 🤔...I not even focused 😂...pray for me yall 🙏

  • @lynnpaggett3894
    @lynnpaggett3894 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Luv it! Great Conversation couples! 💪🏿🙏🏿🤗🤸🏿‍♀️💃🏾🎉

  • @shamgod3003
    @shamgod3003 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    "the grace to change" I can get with this if I get the same grace to miss the mark on a moving target. I often feel the expectation to know what my wife wants and likes is very difficult if it is constantly changing. So I would stress that if we as a partner are putting in the effort to hit the most recently communicated target needs to be shown similar appreciation as if we hit the mark that has moved without knowing. If not, as a partner I will stop trying. May not be a popular comment, but I believe it's a real one

    • @NJoy621
      @NJoy621 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      This is a very real comment and as a wife I really appreciated your point of view.

    • @shamgod3003
      @shamgod3003 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@NJoy621 Thank you for taking the time to write this.

    • @lesliew.7804
      @lesliew.7804 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I think that’s the thing about grace, right? It has to be mutual. And multi faceted. You’re talking about having your partner honor your efforts and not having cemented expectations about the outcome. I think that’s a fair aspect to consider.

  • @carolynlong8701
    @carolynlong8701 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Great conversation from both couples ❤️👍🏾😊

  • @tishataray
    @tishataray ปีที่แล้ว

    Love the couples and kev and mel ofc

  • @jamesbond6501
    @jamesbond6501 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Going in the red 😮 love that

  • @danadandy555
    @danadandy555 ปีที่แล้ว

    I just love these conversations and the couplles 👏👏👏👏 Thanks for sharings your ❤ and life 😘

  • @brittanymoses2825
    @brittanymoses2825 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I love every bit of this

  • @shaneecooley4867
    @shaneecooley4867 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    How can I be friends with Jia!! I feel like we'd be besties. We can go on a double date. Lmk.

  • @MyMARI3
    @MyMARI3 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Love both couples ❤

  • @supermom7
    @supermom7 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    These couples are totally cute could there be a couch conversation with single people I know it's only for married couples but how about talking more about when they were single help us single folks find their person

    • @supermom7
      @supermom7 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Oh and what does BEST FRIENDS look like

  • @aieshadaniels6104
    @aieshadaniels6104 ปีที่แล้ว

    That was a great video when's the NEXT ONE?!

  • @dah-veed
    @dah-veed 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Just discovered ur show and I love it. These honest conversations are great. 🔥🔥🔥

  • @joannapilgrim
    @joannapilgrim 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thx, Melissa

  • @Anti-democratChick
    @Anti-democratChick 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    This was good ❤️

  • @Reeses710
    @Reeses710 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Another great conversation...

  • @chequilajackson2986
    @chequilajackson2986 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I love these🥰🥰🥰

  • @unapologeticallyromel7096
    @unapologeticallyromel7096 ปีที่แล้ว

    Good episode

  • @ambermccutchen8451
    @ambermccutchen8451 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I have enjoyed this conversation because I am dealing with this topic in my marriage with reality vs expectations I am finally finally been honest with myself and with others and identify what triggers me and bother me and what bother my partner and learn what causes stress and anxiety sincerely yours Mrs Amber Mccutchen

  • @bossladypym
    @bossladypym ปีที่แล้ว

    So GOOD

  • @KINGfunction
    @KINGfunction ปีที่แล้ว

    I’m 16min in the video and I’m ready to marry her right now. I’m just afraid of what’s next after!!

  • @1LocWonder
    @1LocWonder 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    This was good!

  • @jacquelineyvette7427
    @jacquelineyvette7427 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Their doing a lot of laughing and joking but handle with care .

  • @miyahantoinette3734
    @miyahantoinette3734 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Take this ticket!

  • @kendrabrownpersistence2178
    @kendrabrownpersistence2178 ปีที่แล้ว

    LOVE this

  • @divineorder22
    @divineorder22 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Just love you all❤🙏🏽

  • @mizzyoung9836
    @mizzyoung9836 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Love it 👍🏾👍🏾

  • @CA-zf5kk
    @CA-zf5kk 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Love this❤

  • @aieshadaniels6104
    @aieshadaniels6104 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    He was mourning the loss of the HAIR really, you better get over physical aspects real quick The Body is ever changing!

    • @wilsonswife85
      @wilsonswife85 ปีที่แล้ว

      EXACTLY... I felt cringe he even said that... Sounded like he was in love with her for her hair..... KRAZY!

  • @sheilaisaacs4360
    @sheilaisaacs4360 ปีที่แล้ว

    ❤️🙏🏾

  • @kyleemon1852
    @kyleemon1852 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Jia and homeboy not together nomore . He came out the closet and now their friends.

  • @pamk1967
    @pamk1967 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    💕👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

    • @AJ-gd1ww
      @AJ-gd1ww 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hmmm, I didn't get that at all and I remember them from their first interview

  • @lashaonda
    @lashaonda 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    🎬🎬🎬🎬🎬🎬🎬🎬🎬🎬🎬🎬

  • @Shemashay
    @Shemashay 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    All representation is NOT good representation. This couple on the first episode now this one is giving HARD STRUGGLE no love.
    He didn’t want her and told her that first episode. We found out this episode she was sleeping in a car dealing with him. This lady doesn’t understand her value or worth! She went through all of this and he seems like he honestly married her and still there because he feels a duty to her.

    • @nyaallain9635
      @nyaallain9635 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Huh? I didnt get that from the episode. Do explain.

    • @Shemashay
      @Shemashay 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Look at season 4 episode 1. It’s the first episode with kev and Melissa hosting. It will show you the back story

    • @ellenadams3371
      @ellenadams3371 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Are you talking about when they first were together? I think she said she had moved on at that time. Didn't she?

    • @RahYisrael99
      @RahYisrael99 ปีที่แล้ว

      ​@@ellenadams3371they were teenagers.