Honestly, if my dad said that to me… I would always assume that anything he told me later to walk it back was just because he let his mask slip that one time, and he was trying to make me believe the facade. If he started showing interest in interests of mine that he’d never liked before, I’d assume he was doing it to restore the facade. It would feel like any interest he showed then was just subtle manipulation, so I’d forget what he’d said before. I mean, even him starting to cry, that’s just flipping the script. Instead of HIM having hurt me and trying to apologize, suddenly he’s hurting, and I’m comforting him. As another commenter said, solid emotional manipulation, right there. Every time you ignore me to spend time with my brother, you’re teaching me to live without you. After that, any time you express interest in things I like that you’ve never liked before… that’s just you lying to me so I’ll like you again. And the only thing worse than you not liking me is you pretending to like me. You not liking me would make me sad. You pretending to like me… that would make me angry. The first teaches me how to live without you; the second teaches me not to trust you.
Story 2. NTA. The roommate needs to handle her dog. It's not OPs job to watch her dog. If she can't take care of the dog, then don't get a dog. I hate people like this. Op needs to move out and let her roommate and the baby daddy live together. Get outta there.
S2 - So a pregnant woman and her baby daddy thought that just before giving birth is the best time to buy a puppy? The woman who waddles instead of walking gets to be the one to walk the untrained hyperactive dog with separation anxiety? And the chef’s kiss move… she separates from the puppy for hours a day, leaving you to manage it all. And since she isn’t bothering to train the puppy into obedience, it’ll damage community areas (or even your room), and she’s not the one reimbursing you for the damage puppy causes. I mean, this is basically YOUR dog. You take care of it, you clean up after it. She swoops in briefly, gets to do all the fun parts, then hands the dog back to you right when it’s not fun anymore. I didn’t hear that she involved you in the decision to get the thing, and yet you’re the primary care giver. And since she’s got a baby on the way, she can’t afford the damages, especially when it’s your stuff being damaged. I can’t believe this needs to be said to a grown-ass woman, but if you lack the time, money, and emotional bandwidth to properly care for a dog… don’t get a fucking dog.
S3 - Don’t most parents do the thing where had buys mom Mother’s Day gifts on behalf of the young kids? I mean, what’s the 4yr going to do… macaroni art? Yes, you are not his mother. You are the mother to his several children. He’s trying to make it a matter of principal. And that’s passive aggressive serving you steak AFTER you’ve eaten. Not even eating with you, just puts it in front of you and walks off. The fact that you care about this holiday is really the only reason he needs. If he loves you, he should care if you are happy. If he sees that being ignored on this day in general really hurts you… there’s his motivation. Instead, it’s like he’s digging out the employee handbook for “husband” saying “Well, it’s not specifically listed as my job… so I guess it isn’t.” That’s not a partnership, it’s a transactional relationship. If he were against it because it’s been commercialized all to Hell, that’d be one thing. So, why not help your youngest buy you a Mother’s Day present, like an expensive necklace? “I’m not your mother, but I AM his mother. And he doesn’t have a job, so I helped with paying for it. He even let me pick which one I wanted. He’s such a sweet boy.”
Story 1: Such a stupid way to end a marriage... Ok, he didn't tell her but he was loyal to her and his family, I don't see the problem with why she is being mad at him for something that happened before her....
So OP has no interest in the dad's hobbies and is surprised that he likes the kid he spends more time with more. People need to realise that bonds are strengthened through shared memories. Redditors are also stupid for taking OP at face value when OP never even mentioned how the favoritism showed outside of prefering to spend time with one of his kids over the other.
Story3 u skip important information. What is the "special" thing Ur doing for Ur husband on fathers day? from the point ur saying its look like hes solo provider and u didn't do anything for him on "he's" special day and yet u demand that he treat u special on you special day, ye, you are an AH
You slow op? You married that child ma'am you knew he was a child when you married him ma'am, you knew he doesn't consider mothers day for you, why haven't you dealt with n come to terms with the fact he doesnt care to do anything for you on mothers day?
I really don't get it this has happened 21 times at least why op is still expecting??? He hasn't done it so far why will he do it now??? Why the hell did op marry him and procreate again and again? Children always copy their parents and how they treat their partners and repeat it with their partners...op is responsible for allowing her husband to mistreat her and going to send out 5 similar sucky partners out in the world
Honestly, if my dad said that to me… I would always assume that anything he told me later to walk it back was just because he let his mask slip that one time, and he was trying to make me believe the facade. If he started showing interest in interests of mine that he’d never liked before, I’d assume he was doing it to restore the facade. It would feel like any interest he showed then was just subtle manipulation, so I’d forget what he’d said before.
I mean, even him starting to cry, that’s just flipping the script. Instead of HIM having hurt me and trying to apologize, suddenly he’s hurting, and I’m comforting him. As another commenter said, solid emotional manipulation, right there.
Every time you ignore me to spend time with my brother, you’re teaching me to live without you. After that, any time you express interest in things I like that you’ve never liked before… that’s just you lying to me so I’ll like you again. And the only thing worse than you not liking me is you pretending to like me. You not liking me would make me sad. You pretending to like me… that would make me angry. The first teaches me how to live without you; the second teaches me not to trust you.
Story 2. NTA. The roommate needs to handle her dog. It's not OPs job to watch her dog. If she can't take care of the dog, then don't get a dog. I hate people like this. Op needs to move out and let her roommate and the baby daddy live together. Get outta there.
S2 - So a pregnant woman and her baby daddy thought that just before giving birth is the best time to buy a puppy? The woman who waddles instead of walking gets to be the one to walk the untrained hyperactive dog with separation anxiety? And the chef’s kiss move… she separates from the puppy for hours a day, leaving you to manage it all. And since she isn’t bothering to train the puppy into obedience, it’ll damage community areas (or even your room), and she’s not the one reimbursing you for the damage puppy causes.
I mean, this is basically YOUR dog. You take care of it, you clean up after it. She swoops in briefly, gets to do all the fun parts, then hands the dog back to you right when it’s not fun anymore. I didn’t hear that she involved you in the decision to get the thing, and yet you’re the primary care giver. And since she’s got a baby on the way, she can’t afford the damages, especially when it’s your stuff being damaged.
I can’t believe this needs to be said to a grown-ass woman, but if you lack the time, money, and emotional bandwidth to properly care for a dog… don’t get a fucking dog.
If you're thinking about longer stories - dont think. Do IT. I will eat everything you will provide ;)
S3 - Don’t most parents do the thing where had buys mom Mother’s Day gifts on behalf of the young kids? I mean, what’s the 4yr going to do… macaroni art?
Yes, you are not his mother. You are the mother to his several children. He’s trying to make it a matter of principal. And that’s passive aggressive serving you steak AFTER you’ve eaten. Not even eating with you, just puts it in front of you and walks off.
The fact that you care about this holiday is really the only reason he needs. If he loves you, he should care if you are happy. If he sees that being ignored on this day in general really hurts you… there’s his motivation. Instead, it’s like he’s digging out the employee handbook for “husband” saying “Well, it’s not specifically listed as my job… so I guess it isn’t.” That’s not a partnership, it’s a transactional relationship.
If he were against it because it’s been commercialized all to Hell, that’d be one thing.
So, why not help your youngest buy you a Mother’s Day present, like an expensive necklace? “I’m not your mother, but I AM his mother. And he doesn’t have a job, so I helped with paying for it. He even let me pick which one I wanted. He’s such a sweet boy.”
Doing the whole ‘silent treatment’ thing is a red flag. Emotional manipulation for Dummies.
Repeatenitis. Waste of time.
W dad
I actually saw some egg donor do that .. said the 8 year old brat girl was her favorite. right in front of the 12 year old. what B...
I wonder if she celebrates father's day.
Story 1: Such a stupid way to end a marriage... Ok, he didn't tell her but he was loyal to her and his family, I don't see the problem with why she is being mad at him for something that happened before her....
…because he knew about the pregnancy from the start and ignored the human being he (half) created.
Why would anyone want to be married to such a ‘Man’
I would've stormed off
So OP has no interest in the dad's hobbies and is surprised that he likes the kid he spends more time with more.
People need to realise that bonds are strengthened through shared memories.
Redditors are also stupid for taking OP at face value when OP never even mentioned how the favoritism showed outside of prefering to spend time with one of his kids over the other.
I find it repetitive.
Story3 u skip important information. What is the "special" thing Ur doing for Ur husband on fathers day? from the point ur saying its look like hes solo provider and u didn't do anything for him on "he's" special day and yet u demand that he treat u special on you special day, ye, you are an AH
Yta.U weren't mistreated or deprived of anything u were sad because he expressed his feelings
Nah the dad was out of pocket
You slow op? You married that child ma'am you knew he was a child when you married him ma'am, you knew he doesn't consider mothers day for you, why haven't you dealt with n come to terms with the fact he doesnt care to do anything for you on mothers day?
I really don't get it this has happened 21 times at least why op is still expecting??? He hasn't done it so far why will he do it now??? Why the hell did op marry him and procreate again and again?
Children always copy their parents and how they treat their partners and repeat it with their partners...op is responsible for allowing her husband to mistreat her and going to send out 5 similar sucky partners out in the world