Thanks for the post vlog message, I was wondering about the connection between the two. I was thinking... Have you considered non-gendered pronouns? Using pronouns such as "they" are easy and non-defining, which can be very freeing for all parties involved.
@drum4ica Yeah i've thought about a lot of different options. But I found that using the gender-neutrals (be it "they", "sie", or what have you), for me, were more awkward than they were worth and didn't really afford me any extra comfort. And as I said, while I don't identify as a MAN, I do feel more comfortable on the more "masculine" side of things. But either way, a pronoun can't by any means encompass the whole of my identity anyway, so I try not to put too much weight on it.
@drum4ica lol i'm just in this weird funk where some days I wanna come out and tell the world and live my life the way I want to and other days I just want to curl up in a box and have everything be normal. Today is one of those curl up in a box days, and so I feel all embarrassed when people know (that's why I didn't tell anyone on my facebook or anything). That, and I always worry if I seem legitimate enough to people I know.
@QueerlyK I hope this isn't awkward... Believe me I don't talk to anyone anyhow... especially now that is summmer... you are actually one of the few I have actually been able to corresponde with so far this summer... I was just thinking out loud as well... I too hate gender neutral pronouns, I just go by whatever... I am just in this funk where I hate both masculine and feminine... Why can't we just be where we are!!!!
@drum4ica That said, I have no objections to "sie" or "they", so I would feel totally fine if someone addressed me as those, I just wouldn't go so far as to specifically state that one of those is my preferred pronoun. (oh and by the way, i'm sorry if all this is kinda awkward lol. I hadn't intended to come out to all the people at Miami just yet...i'm just taking things one step at a time.
Thanks for the post vlog message, I was wondering about the connection between the two.
I was thinking... Have you considered non-gendered pronouns? Using pronouns such as "they" are easy and non-defining, which can be very freeing for all parties involved.
@drum4ica Yeah i've thought about a lot of different options. But I found that using the gender-neutrals (be it "they", "sie", or what have you), for me, were more awkward than they were worth and didn't really afford me any extra comfort. And as I said, while I don't identify as a MAN, I do feel more comfortable on the more "masculine" side of things. But either way, a pronoun can't by any means encompass the whole of my identity anyway, so I try not to put too much weight on it.
@drum4ica lol i'm just in this weird funk where some days I wanna come out and tell the world and live my life the way I want to and other days I just want to curl up in a box and have everything be normal. Today is one of those curl up in a box days, and so I feel all embarrassed when people know (that's why I didn't tell anyone on my facebook or anything). That, and I always worry if I seem legitimate enough to people I know.
@QueerlyK I hope this isn't awkward... Believe me I don't talk to anyone anyhow... especially now that is summmer... you are actually one of the few I have actually been able to corresponde with so far this summer... I was just thinking out loud as well... I too hate gender neutral pronouns, I just go by whatever... I am just in this funk where I hate both masculine and feminine... Why can't we just be where we are!!!!
@drum4ica That said, I have no objections to "sie" or "they", so I would feel totally fine if someone addressed me as those, I just wouldn't go so far as to specifically state that one of those is my preferred pronoun. (oh and by the way, i'm sorry if all this is kinda awkward lol. I hadn't intended to come out to all the people at Miami just yet...i'm just taking things one step at a time.