I think the wrong thing is being focused on. The main thing is, that is the rule so if you know up front that’s what the rule is you move differently because your brother is holding you accountable it prevents the mistake in the first place! Instead of allowing it to happen!
Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this matter. I really wish people in my life would have had my back as their sister in Christ. Instead, my “Christian” husband was involved with a ‘“Christian” woman for several years. People were aware but no one would really confront them. I even informed her Pastor, but nothing was actually done. Told me he’d be praying for us. 😮 So, my 25 plus year marriage ended. Adultery and his unwillingness to repent and surrender destroyed us. They are together now and people applaud their relationship. It has left me broken from the heartache. His brother in Christ who was also a Pastor and leader, would not confront him, instead it was like he was waiting for my husband to say something first. He never did. I applaud you fellas for bringing true Men of God
Honestly. If I been trying to tell my friend he doing wrong to his lady, and won’t stop. All of us will say something and if not let him know, “if you don’t fix this, we will tell her”. You gotta tell the lady once it gets past that point. I’d expect my friend to hold me accountable too if I was in the wrong.
I am not going to lie, this episode forced me to reevaluate... He is 100% correct that this is an area where the streets have infiltrated the church. I'd talk to my boy in private. Would pray. Would even cut off relationships if it came to that........ But at no point would telling on him have been the thing that entered my mind; unless perhaps he was doing something to be of harm to himself or someone else. Thankfully - have yet to be in this situation with any brothers of the faith.
This will make married people be accountable for their actions that's for sure!!! I'm here for it. Just make sure they have real proof and know for sure possible cheating is happening.
Recently had a situation in a friend group. Unfortunately, the infidelity had to do with two people within the friend group. We gave space for each party to share with their spouses. One spouse finally decided to tell his wife but the woman involved was given the opportunity to share and didn’t. So a husband and wife shared the incident with the husband who had been betrayed. It’s always best that it’s not one person who tells someone. There is safety in numbers.
Man its suck at how relevant this conversation is for me as i just recently went through this with my bestfriend. He'd been unfaithful to his wife for 2 yrs maybe longer and i told him if he disclosed to me that he'd been unfaithful then I'd intercede being the bestman/bestfriend and I'd tell her. But i didnt have to. She found out on her own and without my intercension. I no longer talk to him, and i am therefore covering her in her time of betrayal. I think this is how any biblically righteous man would handle it and with any potential "street code" blowback, would handle it with just as little fear as anyone truly covered by the strength and righteousness of God. The street codes dont apply to a child of God.
Similar to what y’all said, Biblically I think you need to have the courage to go to a man’s wife in that man’s presence. (Mt 18) Which seems extra important now…because the backbiting is out of control in so many churches.
Iron sharpens iron. What do you stand for in your Godly marriages… in your Godly friendships? Context: respectfully amongst friendship groups/not private or messy/not to infiltrate #Kingdomminded
I think it’s all depends on whether you are doing life with these people or not. Some brothers and sisters are part of a group life and are doing life together in Christ. So, they have a high level of responsibility to each other as friends doing life together in Christ.
I do agree biblically you should approach whoever is in sin even more so if they are a brother or sister in Christ, however they said they had an agreement so if they agree upon it let them do it. If they are all believers and try their best to obey the Word it should all work out.
Ya it's best to send ur wife I've been in a situation where one of my friends was cheating. And his wife found out and blamed me like I made him do it. I was crazy.
As a wife, I would want to know if my husband is doing something to harm our marriage. It might not come from you, but the information is true, please send someone who is trustworthy tell me what's going on. Have two or more witnesses there while I recieve the news.
I think we need to follow scripture for correcting and restoring a believer in Christ. Sean/Shawn is saying it correctly. Listen, very few spouses are in the dark about who they're married to. They'll pretend until it comes to light and we have to make sure we follow scripture because most spouses protect the other spouse and either deny or say that's my husband or wife and you're out of line. Just follow scripture and pray!
Destroy a whole family....? Sean was right bring in the Church or a brother....PUSH Repentance. This snitch principle isn't necessarily biblical but right to consider.
Iron sharpens iron. What do you stand for in your Godly marriages… in your Godly friendships? Context: amongst friendship groups #Kingdomminded #beyond.theletter
I think the wrong thing is being focused on. The main thing is, that is the rule so if you know up front that’s what the rule is you move differently because your brother is holding you accountable it prevents the mistake in the first place! Instead of allowing it to happen!
Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this matter. I really wish people in my life would have had my back as their sister in Christ. Instead, my “Christian” husband was involved with a ‘“Christian” woman for several years. People were aware but no one would really confront them. I even informed her Pastor, but nothing was actually done. Told me he’d be praying for us. 😮 So, my 25 plus year marriage ended. Adultery and his unwillingness to repent and surrender destroyed us. They are together now and people applaud their relationship. It has left me broken from the heartache. His brother in Christ who was also a Pastor and leader, would not confront him, instead it was like he was waiting for my husband to say something first. He never did. I applaud you fellas for bringing true Men of God
I’m sorry that happened to you!
Ryan is spot on, we as men should not be the one telling the wife. If anything let your wife do it or speak to his pastor.
Honestly. If I been trying to tell my friend he doing wrong to his lady, and won’t stop. All of us will say something and if not let him know, “if you don’t fix this, we will tell her”. You gotta tell the lady once it gets past that point.
I’d expect my friend to hold me accountable too if I was in the wrong.
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I am not going to lie, this episode forced me to reevaluate... He is 100% correct that this is an area where the streets have infiltrated the church. I'd talk to my boy in private. Would pray. Would even cut off relationships if it came to that........ But at no point would telling on him have been the thing that entered my mind; unless perhaps he was doing something to be of harm to himself or someone else. Thankfully - have yet to be in this situation with any brothers of the faith.
I pray you continue to grow in this area. Notice you said if it was harming someone else. It's harming his wife.
You fellas are the best.
It’s great to see unashamed Christian MEN who are not scared to discuss, such topics.
Thank you!!
@@trackstarz You are welcome❤️
This will make married people be accountable for their actions that's for sure!!! I'm here for it. Just make sure they have real proof and know for sure possible cheating is happening.
Wow... it's difficult to find iron sharpening like this! What a beautiful thing, fellas. 👏
Did he say straight to the wife? Or was it assumed?!
Recently had a situation in a friend group. Unfortunately, the infidelity had to do with two people within the friend group. We gave space for each party to share with their spouses. One spouse finally decided to tell his wife but the woman involved was given the opportunity to share and didn’t. So a husband and wife shared the incident with the husband who had been betrayed. It’s always best that it’s not one person who tells someone. There is safety in numbers.
Hello everyone. I hope everyone is having an amazing day
Great discussion and some really wise counsel.
Going straight to the spouse and side stepping your brother is WILD
Man its suck at how relevant this conversation is for me as i just recently went through this with my bestfriend. He'd been unfaithful to his wife for 2 yrs maybe longer and i told him if he disclosed to me that he'd been unfaithful then I'd intercede being the bestman/bestfriend and I'd tell her. But i didnt have to. She found out on her own and without my intercension. I no longer talk to him, and i am therefore covering her in her time of betrayal. I think this is how any biblically righteous man would handle it and with any potential "street code" blowback, would handle it with just as little fear as anyone truly covered by the strength and righteousness of God. The street codes dont apply to a child of God.
Similar to what y’all said, Biblically I think you need to have the courage to go to a man’s wife in that man’s presence. (Mt 18) Which seems extra important now…because the backbiting is out of control in so many churches.
This is an aspect I hadn't thought about.
Iron sharpens iron.
What do you stand for in your Godly marriages… in your Godly friendships?
Context: respectfully amongst friendship groups/not private or messy/not to infiltrate
#Kingdomminded
I think it’s all depends on whether you are doing life with these people or not.
Some brothers and sisters are part of a group life and are doing life together in Christ. So, they have a high level of responsibility to each other as friends doing life together in Christ.
I do agree biblically you should approach whoever is in sin even more so if they are a brother or sister in Christ, however they said they had an agreement so if they agree upon it let them do it. If they are all believers and try their best to obey the Word it should all work out.
But Sean brings up a good point, you should make sure you know for sure what's going on before going around spreading a "rumor".
This was GOOD
Ya it's best to send ur wife I've been in a situation where one of my friends was cheating. And his wife found out and blamed me like I made him do it. I was crazy.
As a wife, I would want to know if my husband is doing something to harm our marriage. It might not come from you, but the information is true, please send someone who is trustworthy tell me what's going on. Have two or more witnesses there while I recieve the news.
I think we need to follow scripture for correcting and restoring a believer in Christ.
Sean/Shawn is saying it correctly.
Listen, very few spouses are in the dark about who they're married to. They'll pretend until it comes to light and we have to make sure we follow scripture because most spouses protect the other spouse and either deny or say that's my husband or wife and you're out of line. Just follow scripture and pray!
Destroy a whole family....? Sean was right bring in the Church or a brother....PUSH Repentance. This snitch principle isn't necessarily biblical but right to consider.
😂 that’s my pastor. I can’t tell if you guys are worried about backlash from cheater friend or being held to the same standards??? 🤔
Never that. Ijs
Iron sharpens iron.
What do you stand for in your Godly marriages… in your Godly friendships?
Context: amongst friendship groups
#Kingdomminded #beyond.theletter