Ah Graeme, some of us have been here since before your first new crush. We don't stay for the giggles. We stay for the feeling of a real home and job, and all the ugly moles that come with them. We've watched you grow your channel with pride but not blind. We see you, your family and your crew. We love this channel. We got you. I wish the best for your relationship with your daughter. I hope you are saving a copy of everything for her. There's a very good chance she hasn't received anything.
Yup! And couldn't of said it better‼️ I've been estranged from my Mom my entire adult life (still around her as my Dad was 1 of my top 3 fav people). FF to 4 yrs ago. My Dad passed💔 & my Mom got Dementia. But before she started to forget, she kept calling for me (vs her fav child, my sister). In the last 4 yrs, my Mom & I have made amends, given apologies & I 💕 spending time w/her. You never know what life has in store for ya‼️ Hang in there Graeme, we got ya back & adore you❣️✌️🇨🇱🇺🇸🐄🎄💗
@@The-ii5mj you gave me goosebumps! That just means her entire existence her thoughts in her head were about you! I have my Dad now he’s early stages of dementia but he doesn’t forget anything! I never thought I’d be caring for my Dad! We clashed a lot when I was little but through the years he was always there for me! Especially when I lost my son at 17 to a car/train accident. He can stay with me until the end, I hope we have a long time together! Bless you! ❤️🩹🙏❤️
I am adopted and every year for the most part my family did an annual newsletter. When I reunited with my birth family, we sent out all the copies over the years. Both sides enjoyed them immensely!
My son is now 27, from 2 to 18 his mother kept him from me, everyday without him was a nightmare…… but in the last 8+ years I’ve been able to witness him become a husband and a father, and I get to enjoy being a Grandad. Stay positive, all the best mate.
My eldest turns 16 next week. I haven't seen him since he was 8, this marks a time when I have been out of his life longer than I was in it... your comment, has tears in my eyes and has put hope in my heart. Thank you. I hope I get to have the same experiences you're going through if I survive long enough through this hell
Therapist here. I bought an autographed copy of your book, and I am in chapter 24.... Its amazing. I commend you on how vulnerable and candid you are... Connection is why we are here, and you have modeled connection for people for years through your videos of compassion for what some would call "insignificant" creatures, and now you have cracked open your chest to let us see your heart. Thank you for sharing your life, your pain, and your victories..... love is what makes life worth living, and you keep doing what you are doing.... I pray God's blessings on you. You are a blessing. Keep it up.
Those of us who care about YOU, care about your miseries too. Came because of the cows but stayed because of you. If I weren't 76 and could afford it, I'd love to stay at a little farm in Scotland. I had two grandkids who were placed for adoption at birth. After more than 20 years we eventually found each other. There is hope yet for you and your daughter, stay hopeful, but busy with life, your wife, and your two boys. After more than 25 years on the internet, there have been people who have left their mark on my life, that I have never met in person. Don't underestimate the spiritual bonds people can build over long distances. Thank you for letting us into your life. Your REAL life, not just hooves.
Me too, I am 77 and I gave up my daughter because the "experts" suggested it was the best for my situation. About 25 years ago we were reunited when she was 36. It was not something she always wanted but she was encouraged by her husband after she had her second baby. She was so happy with her life at that point, it was just the right time for her. My mother kept the same phone number over the years just in case she tried to contact us in such a scenario. Things are still fine and I have 4 grandkids I wouldn't have otherwise. She also has a great relationship with her bio-father. I also had a relationship with her adoptive mother who has since passed.
You are so right that internet friends can become a sort of family. I feel so lucky to have built my community online - luckier that some have become friends in real life too!
Here's the thing Graeme, we're your TH-cam family, we're your herd, so you should be able to talk to us about happy stuff, sad stuff & everything in between. We've always got your back & we love ya! 💚 🐄 🧡 🐂 💚
Grame, I think you should try and find or reach out to your daughter. I don't know what happened but clearly you love her. Pray 🙏 about it and ask God for guidance. ❤
My dad hasn't spoken to me in years. Your daughter is very lucky to have you thinking of her and caring about her. I hope she realizes soon how short life is and finds her way back to you. ❤️
I am in the exact same situation, he missed my high school graduation and everything. I'm 20 now, like Graeme's daughter, and he still hasn't said a word. I hope your father and Graeme's daughter reach out and try to make up for lost time. And even if not, I hope you both find some peace with it. Love you all
@SadieTurner-mm2nz that's so sweet, thank you. I doubt the situation will change for me but I hope Graeme has better luck. She is lucky to have such a caring father. I hope you experience a change of heart with your dad, but, if not, try not to let it get you down. Some people are just too stubborn or foolish to appreciate what they are losing out on. 🤗 Hugs from Illinois@@SadieTurner-mm2nz
@@ep3389 I'm not sure who you are replying to, but, in my situation, it was my dad's choice to cut me out of his life. I tried reaching out to him several times and was rebuffed.
My youngest son, who is 31 years old now, left home when he was 19. He was 20 the last time I saw him. I think about him every day, and there’s a huge hole in my heart.
U abused him to much or hes a user, I was a addict and didn't want to be around the ppl tht loved me always felt like I was being judged. Got clean now I love to shine and show wat I worked hard for (not material things).
I also have an estranged daughter due to my divorce. It's been 13 years since she has spoken to me, I pray for her everyday. Parental Alienation is real. Thanks for sharing❤
I have two children and both are estranged. My granddaughter is 21 and even she won't speak. Praying is all I have. It's more of a problem than people think it is
My late-ex cost me my five daughters. Only my son came around after some years. One dtr, 38yrs old, just passed away one yr ago, very unexpectedly. Her twin sister is just now starting to reconnect.
My dad walked away when I was 15...27 years ago! It's lovely to actually hear a father care. Mine does not! He moved around the world and has never wanted to see me or meet his grandkids. I hope you reconnect with your daughter Graeme ❤ keep hope x
When I was 20 I had a daughter with my first wife. When the relationship fell apart her family made life impossible so I had to move away. For about 15 years I hadn't heard from her. We reconnected and have a good relationship. Don't give up and keep reaching out.
I read your book about your daughter, and with how close you used to be with the years of driving to and fro to be with her, your heartache must be tremendous. Your channel is never negative, just real. And I often need my surroundings to be quiet when i am concentrating on a task. 😂 You're not the only one😅😅
I read Graeme's book, too, and I thought that Madison might remember those years and realize the truth. She will come around some day soon, I hope. Keep the faith, Graeme. And, I, too, need peace and quiet when I'm concentrating on something. We're in good company. I would love to visit Scotland, land of my ancestors, stay at your barn conversion, (love watching those shows), however age (76) and finances don't permit it...and I couldn't leave my two aging furbabies. I'll keep watching this channel and get my Scotland fix. Merry Christmas Graeme, Ashley, boys, Madison and crew.💝💙🎅🎄🙏
as someone who's had to cut a parent out of my life for some time to their own toxicity, I'll tell you this- even if you've made mistakes, even if you didn't treat her well, as long as you work towards being a better person and take accountability for the wrongs you've made, chances are she'll likely reconnect later down the road. If you have always been fine to her, and someone's poisoning her ears, she'll eventually see the cracks in their lies and come to. It just takes time and patience. You seem to have plenty of that, so don't fear! Just save copies of the letters you send her, and keep chugging along- but dont ever hesitate to voice when you're not ok. We're here for you, woes, wins, and all.
I had to cut out my sister, mother, & a daughter out of my life just to save my own sanity. It was the hardest thing I've ever done, but my life has been so much better without them pouring their poison in my ears all the time. I did what you said too, I waited, & waited, & waited....13 long years. The last words my mother ever said to me were "Go to hell!" My mother died, then a few months later my sister died too. My daughter has been turned against me by her abusive father, because he has money to give her & I don't. I'm fine without her, the hard part is that she has my only grandchild & has gone to great lengths to make sure that I'll never see her. My granddaughter is 5 years now & I've never seen her....& probably never will . THAT'S the part that hurts most.......& she knows it.
I came for the satisfaction of hoof trimming. I was hooked by the humour. I stayed for the purity of what you do and who you are, the love for your family is beautiful and you all deserve nothing but the best! I also feel the need to let you know that every time I read this title my brain reads it as "re-hecking" 😅 I hope this brightens someone's day x
Graeme, as a father with a nearly 19 y/o son that I have not seen in 12 years, I know how heavy your heart is about your daughter. I encourage you to stay strong and know that she will seek you out someday, and likely soon. Children want to know their parents and girls always want their fathers (unless horrible things have happened).
False. My dad was absent, tried to come around when I was 14, I was like whatever had that point. I’m 40 now and haven’t seen to talked to my dad in 13 years and there is absolutely no hard feelings. He’s just not someone I seek.
@@elizamarez your experience doesn't make my statement false... you may just not have reached that point, or you had another man that was a true father to you. Maybe you did not see the parentheses?
@elizamarez , if you do. You may be surprised about how you feel meeting him. You may have feelings you never knew could exist. That's what happened to me anyway. I never thought I would care, but I ended up realising how much I missed out on having a relationship with my father and the fact that I couldn't get that time back.
@Julz-c9e I was fortunate to have been able to talk to my son, just a few days ago.... Just in time for his 19th birthday. The conversation was tense, and he said he wants me to wait for him to initiate contact again, but at least we talked ... Albeit via text. Every positive step is a positive step
I haven't read your book, but I am a bipolar daughter with a bad relationship with my dad. I describe my emotions as 10 times stronger than those without my condition. It's really tough for everyone. I will pray for you and your daughter. I am sorry she suffers with this. No one is to blame. It's just a very difficult illness that can't be cured.
@Aceofspades950what does that mean? If you’re bipolar you’re bipolar. There’s not a “bipolar for people under 18” that’s still just bipolar🤦🏼♀️ people are most often diagnosed between the ages of 15-19.
@samanthahope1316 yeah there is its called disruptive mood disregulation disorder I would know bc I have it Also Children under 18 literally cannot be diagnosed with BPD unless they need to be proven unfit to withstand trial
Oh Graeme. Low points make it real, darlin. I'll wager all these people who look forward to seeing you (like me) are throwing you love all along the airs tonight. And cheers to your new property and plans for cows! I'll come! ❤❤❤❤
First time commenter. The bad comes with the good. We don't get to choose most of the time what comes when. Please don't apologise for not being 100% up. It is vitally important that we stop portraying a public face that is always ok. Cos we're not always ok. And the sooner we start talking about it, the better. Thank you for allowing yourself to be vulnerable around us.
Exactly. We need to deconstruct the idea social media created that other people's lives are perfect and it's somehow inappropriate to be transparent when things are not okay. As long as you're not infodumping without warning people shouldn't have to apologize for being human
I didn’t meet my dad until I was 40. I don’t know your story (I have the book but haven’t had a chance to dig in yet) but I encourage you to stay open. My dad died three years after we established a relationship and I wouldn’t trade that time for anything. Many blessings to you and yours.
So happy for you. Similar with me. I was reunited with my birth father after a melanoma diagnosis and loved the short time we had to reconnect. He passed a few years after I met him and it was sooooooo worth it.
I appreciate how you just want your daughter to be happy. It's tempting to use days like these to beg her to reconnect, but at a certain point all you can do is consistently let her know your door is always open and let her decide if knowing that is enough, or if she needs more from you and wants to reach out. People will want to tell you their happy reunion stories to cheer you up, or share their grief for someone who is out of reach... I've seen both from up close and the grief is immense, even when there is a happy end. Happy birthday M, we hope you have a good one. ❤
I would like to stay on a farm with the highland cows!! Never give up, I didn't see my son for forty years. We are making up for loss time . It's wonderful your time will come ❤
Life can come up with some pretty serious bumps on the road. My wonderful daughter turned 21 two days ago. She has multiple disabilities, and had a bad general health as a child. 4 years ago we had her put in a special care facility/she moved out (as we like to call it). I still have legal custody over her, and we see her twice a week. She is a caring, loving girl, mentally around 4-5 years old. Through the first 17 years of her life, both my wife and I got ill with stress, complex PTSD in fact. Keep reaching out to your daughter. Take care. Have a nice trip to Edinburgh 👍👍👍
She came of age and moved out, I love how you phrased it, as her moving out 😊 You had to think of yourselves, as well! as her. You can't live the rest of your lives, constantly being ill. It was what was needed for everyone, and I bet she's having a ball also, with all those new friends. X
The channel where you upload videos for your daughter is a beautiful idea. At some point it will show her, that she is always in your thoughts and always has been. Xx
You almost made me cry. I have a daughter that's 23 and I haven't been able to see in about three years. I also think about her everyday and pray she's happy. ...and like you there was nothing I could do about it. I hear things here and there... but its not the same as having her here with me. Don't give up, life always comes full circle. I have faith and hope we'll both be able to see our girls again someday again some day. ❤❤❤
There is nothing wrong with showing that you're a real person who has real struggles. Happy birthday to her wherever she is! ❤ And the cabins sound amazing!!!
My husband didn’t have contact with his father for about the same amount of time,… but they found their way back together, to the point that my FIL came out to help me take care of my husband when he badly hurt himself last year. As long as you’re both breathing, there’s a chance. ❤
Never give up hope Graeme! My son did not see or hear from his Dad for over 20 years and they've recently reunited... I pray this happens for you and your daughter.
It may not be the same, but I was adopted and I did wonder about my biological parents. It took 30 years but got to meet my mother. It was amazing to get to meet her and talk. So, don't give up, but keep on living. You never know. I love your videos for all of it, not just the funny parts. You have gotten me through some hard times. Well, you and Mrs Brown's Boys.
I love to watch your channel, for simple reasons: 1) You so humble and genuine. 2) Your empathy for the cows and even the humans. 3) The laughs 4) Educational. I just love the way your videos are brilliantly and naturally compiled. I appreciate the the Scotland's landscapes you share and your music. Big thanks from South Africa.
I have a 29 year old daughter I didn’t get to know until she was 18. Long story. Her mother is she who shall not be named. I see her and talk to her and my grandchildren very regularly. Never give up hope❤️❤️
I know how you feel, I haven’t seen my daughter in 23 years. Her mother made sure that. I seen a picture of her on Facebook other than that no contact.
This gives us hope as we are in a very simialr situation. Our grandson is 11 now n we are counting down the yrs to him being of age to hopefully find us where we can tell our side of the story as his family.
It is so sad that you don't have a relationship with your daughter. Don't give up hope . As for your new adventure, if I lived there, I would love to stay at your new property. I love highland cows.
I truly hope you and your daughter find each other. And for all you men out there who have lost your children I hope they find you as well. You’re a human being and you have every right to feel down. I hope tomorrow is a better day.
It might not mean much from a stranger really but you are inspiring, never forget that . Sometimes you have to let emotions out , if you think of it what would you rather do break down and hurt silently while it eats away at you or let it out to people you probably won’t meet in real life but they care . I honestly don’t think and hope no one would mind you opening up infact again it can inspire. Keep the head up , you do a great job and you’ve taught so many ppl like me so much about quite a niche subject really. Stay 💪 good vibes from me (another Scotsman ) to you ✌️
I have a son who hasn't talked to me for over 6 years. We were so close when he was younger and married to his first wife. Now with his second, he holds a grudge for me helping with his kids! God bless. We all have a story and a past its ok to just live and let live.
Yes..apologize for any mistakes you made as a parent..a true apology without excuses. Continue to reach out. Sometimes young folks are too embarrassed to make that first move.
Yes, when I need to concentrate on something, like backing up (reversing), I turn off the radio. That was my brain isn't divided. And thank you for talking about your daughter. It's really helpful to know that other people have these struggles, too.
When the book was over I immediately said nooooooo, there must be more! Keep going.... I nearly started listening to it all over again from the beginning. Powerful, heartbreaking and inspiring all at once. Whether or not this is your first video or your hundredth video the book is an absolute must-read! Much love and respect from Canada Graham.
Graeme, Keep hold of your open mind and heart because, one day, your daughter will come to find the comfort she will inevitably need there. Back to the physical realm, I would LOVE to pop over to your B&B. I'd probably be able to talk a couple of friends into joining me there. Will you have any animals I could pet or cuddle. I'm just an old bat, but I do still love that! Wishing you the merriest of Christmases, with love from Perpignan 🎄🎄🎄, and an American with Scottish ancestry.
You’re awesome for opening up about a struggle in your life. More men should, to be good role models for our sons. We all need to realize that we’re all having problems in our lives and we need to have more empathy for each other.
I don't comment very often anymore. But I just have to say that you are a wonderful person and I'm sure it's taken a long time for you to get to that point. We all hopefully get to that point. But the amount of love in your heart is great.!!!!❤❤❤❤Deep and so wonderful! Your heart shows through with your soul. I see things like that......❤ I watch your program because of your heart and soul. These are the things that attract people about you. Some people don't realize what they're feeling, but I can visually see your soul.❤ And I just gotta tell you I love watching the cows come out and they hesitate for just a minute and then they turn back as if to say thank you.❤ T 🇸🇪Utah
I was on the other side of your story. My bio father abandoned me when I was too young to remember him and I never knew him. I think you’re amazing for trying to get messages to your daughter. As for your plans to have places for people to stay, I’m definitely interested. I loved Scotland when I visited several years ago and I would love to visit again. Also, you had me at Highland cows.
I'm a professional tractor trailer (lorry) driver in the US. I have to turn off my audio book or music to reverse as well. I swear you see better with the quiet. ❤😂 Yes, my wife and I would definitely rent your barn with highland cows, as they are my favorite cow!
For all of us who have compassion in our hearts ❤ need to be a part of this growing heard community. To be there to lift each other up when we need it. Also to celebrate our victories. Sometimes we can be our own worst enemies. Hold your head high, you are a delightful human being ❤
Graeme, we are The Heard. That includes you too. We are all TH-cam family. I wish the best for you and your daughter. I wish I had the money to buy your book, or merch, or come and see your beautiful Scotland (USA here) and stay in your rentals. You are always a bright spot in my day, no matter what is going on with you (or me). Mooooooo
It would be cool to have some retired celebrity cows from your channel too at your new farm. I'm thinking of Gracie.❤ If you keep all channels open with love for your daughter, you never know when a miracle can happen ❤ They happen every single day!
Graeme I just finished reading your book yesterday and today I saw this video. Thanks for sharing more of yourself with the world. I am sure Maddie will reach out to you when it is the right time for her. Keep reaching out in the mean time and showing her that you love and care for her.
Gosh Graeme, absolutely yes to that question. Who wouldn’t love to stay in a barn conversion with animals around. I’d love it. Doesn’t matter what kind of animals either as far as I’m concerned. Any animal is a good animal. What a great idea. Hope the conversion goes quickly and smoothly for you. 👍👍❤️❤️
Thanks for sharing. Talking about mental health normalizes some of these struggles so others can feel less isolated. You’re setting a good example for the heard. ❤
I feel you, I haven't seen my daughter in years and she will be 20 next month. It's tough stay strong and keep up the great work being an awesome human
Bless you Graeme, we all have those moments, for many different reasons. You never have to apologize for being human. You are warm and funny, you have invited us into your world, we are honoured that you even feel comfortable enough to share the good and the bad, that everyone goes through. The cottages sound fantastic. Wishing you all and your families the best over the holiday season. Have fun in Edinburgh. ❤
I haven’t seen my eldest son (54) in 11 years when we were at my youngest son’s funeral. We speak on the phone maybe three times a year. I’ve found a YT channel where estranged parents with adult.Children and there are many in This situation.
@@GrdmaKat2000just be extremely careful with those estranged parent channels. Many of them are abusers and will gaslight and redirect blame rather than taking accountability for their actions in the past. The vast majority of people that go no contact with parents are because it’s for the child’s peace in life and it’s a last resort after many attempts to heal the relationship from their end with no results to show for it. If someone is telling you that it’s an epidemic, be very wary of them because that’s more victim-blaming. I tried for 30 years to stay with my family, to get SOME semblance of love, and I finally went completely no contact with my family in 2023 after Christmas. I herniated discs in my spine and my IN-LAWS visited me and offered aid around my home more times than my bio-family could be bothered to text or call. My in-laws drove 7+ hours round trip to help and care for me more times than I could get a text message from the woman that raised me that wasn’t a response along the lines of “I promise I’m not ignoring you.” If you asked that woman, my no contact came out of no where and she can’t fathom that her neglect caused the rift because she “did her best”. Mine is just one of hundreds of thousands of other stories in this growing trend of adult children standing up for themselves.
Just visualise giving your daughter a hug, stay positive, I lost my six year old little girl in 1985, there isn’t a day goes by that I don’t think of her… she was called Louisa… you will see your daughter again one day soon ❤❤❤
I am not farmer, and other than passing cows in the field while driving, I have no connection to them - don't even drink milk. However, I really enjoy watching these videos. As someone else commented, I find them calming and educational. I find Graeme's approach, with humour and knowledge, as well as his genuine concern for his "patients” to be highly entertaining and his are one of a few other You Tubers whose videos I watch to the end. We had a falling out with our son and we don't talk anymore (his choice) but this also means we have lost contact with our two grandkids. It's been hard, more-so for my wife, but it is what it is. This just makes our relationship with our daughter all that much stronger. Stay positive and just (as we do) hope that she comes around to reconnecting. Cheers. from Canada.
All of the herd members who have responded about your daughter have perfectly expressed my thoughts and feelings about you sharing regarding your daughter. Don't feel bad for sharing, or feel like we aren't interested! Also, you have made me extremely jealous. Edinburgh at Christmas is magical! It's a wonderful place anytime, actually. I would love to be able to move back there. And finally, YES I would come visit your steading complete with highland cows! What a great idea ❤❤❤
Hello GP (and Wife)! Life brings us Peace and Challenges. Lifting you up in Prayer to ease the pain in your heart; and find resolution. Peace be with you ~ from Texas
🥰 i discovered you one insomnia night and fell down the rabbit hole. Since then ive followed for the whole package. I have your book in my wish list and really enjoy the down to earth honesty that you bring to the channel. Keep being yourself, thats what we love about you. X
I’m so sorry about your daughter. My two children didn’t see their father for most of their lives because he didn’t care enough about them to see them, or call, or write, or anything at all. They have no chance now because he died. Your daughter is lucky. She will someday learn how much you loved her and that you were a good father in absentia. I know that doesn’t help your pain at the moment. Thank you for sharing with us.❤️ I always turn the music down when backing up, or am looking for an address, or anytime I need to concentrate with no distractions.❤️🤗🐝
You are always so kind to folks in the herd when they open up and share, I hope you know the majority of us would have no problem with you sharing what’s on your mind today.
YES!!!! O M G Graeme! I almost started cheering out loud when you said about turning the radio down to reverse. I do that too and my youngest daughter and I were just talking about that last night. I'm glad I'm not the only one. Much ❤ from Northern Ontario 🇨🇦 x
Graeme, your faithful followers love, trust, believe, and have faith in you. We stay because you have made us a part of your life and family. Your emotions are mirrored by us. It’s like you have thousands of brothers and sisters. ❤️ We love you and will continue watching because you are real with us. We know there’s no fake with your channel. I wish I could afford a goat size mini crush for my goats. ❤
Graeme sooner rather than later you need to open the lines of communication with your daughter. There’s absolutely Nothing more important than your children! And if she doesn’t want to talk then at least you tried. Believe me when I tell you that if something happens, God Forbid, but if it does and you don’t try to contact her, you will never forgive yourself. I’ll keep you both in my prayers 🙏🏻❤️🙏🏻
My 4 children, aged 24 to 30, have nothing to do with me thanks to their abusive father. I raised them and he then turned them against me once they were over 16. I also have 5 grandchildren I'm not allowed to see. I totally understand your sadness. Especially so close to Christmas. Luckily you have a wonderful family to support you.
Why is this becoming so common. Its been 18 years since my middle children alienated me. They are 38 and 32. I also have 2 grandbabies I've never met. I'm so sorry.
I work hard at just getting thru December to February 15th. This is the loneliest time of the year. My daughter has banned all gift giving. My ex-d-i-l got word to me if i gave anything to "her" son it was coming right back to me. Got around that one by sending him a bank card so he can access his birthday and xmas money i put into the account. There's a special place in hell for abusive males.
I've been to Scotland one time before and stayed at Bothwell tower house. I would love to stay in your cottage and feed the cows. One of the cutest joys is to watch calves play or cows run across a field, singly, not in a stampede. Don't want frightened cows!
I've been watching for years, and I watch for many reasons, hood trimming is satisfying, ur voice is comforting, ur a great person with a huge heart, I dont know if u'll remember but 4 years ago in Jan 2021 my son passed away suddenly @13yrs old, we had to start a gofundme and u donate to it, I was amazed, alot of ppl say things like, they care, we're a family ect but dont actually mean it, u helping showed me how amazing u r, I will always watch ur videos and buy ur merch.... U will always have my support... Stay strong,
Ah Graeme, some of us have been here since before your first new crush. We don't stay for the giggles. We stay for the feeling of a real home and job, and all the ugly moles that come with them. We've watched you grow your channel with pride but not blind. We see you, your family and your crew. We love this channel. We got you. I wish the best for your relationship with your daughter. I hope you are saving a copy of everything for her. There's a very good chance she hasn't received anything.
I still remember the really old crush that was balky as all get out.
@@geneard639 I do too! 🇨🇦 Been here since the VERY beginning and never left.🐮
Yup! And couldn't of said it better‼️ I've been estranged from my Mom my entire adult life (still around her as my Dad was 1 of my top 3 fav people). FF to 4 yrs ago. My Dad passed💔 & my Mom got Dementia. But before she started to forget, she kept calling for me (vs her fav child, my sister). In the last 4 yrs, my Mom & I have made amends, given apologies & I 💕 spending time w/her. You never know what life has in store for ya‼️ Hang in there Graeme, we got ya back & adore you❣️✌️🇨🇱🇺🇸🐄🎄💗
@@The-ii5mj you gave me goosebumps! That just means her entire existence her thoughts in her head were about you! I have my Dad now he’s early stages of dementia but he doesn’t forget anything! I never thought I’d be caring for my Dad! We clashed a lot when I was little but through the years he was always there for me! Especially when I lost my son at 17 to a car/train accident. He can stay with me until the end, I hope we have a long time together! Bless you! ❤️🩹🙏❤️
I am adopted and every year for the most part my family did an annual newsletter. When I reunited with my birth family, we sent out all the copies over the years. Both sides enjoyed them immensely!
Thank you for being you everyone.
Thank you for always being honest and true ❤
If anyone has read your book they will know the pain you are feeling. Life is strange friend, always keep her in your heart.💕❤️💕
Bought and read your book Graeme. Good stuff.
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Thank you❤
My son is now 27, from 2 to 18 his mother kept him from me, everyday without him was a nightmare…… but in the last 8+ years I’ve been able to witness him become a husband and a father, and I get to enjoy being a Grandad.
Stay positive, all the best mate.
My eldest turns 16 next week. I haven't seen him since he was 8, this marks a time when I have been out of his life longer than I was in it... your comment, has tears in my eyes and has put hope in my heart. Thank you. I hope I get to have the same experiences you're going through if I survive long enough through this hell
Therapist here. I bought an autographed copy of your book, and I am in chapter 24.... Its amazing. I commend you on how vulnerable and candid you are... Connection is why we are here, and you have modeled connection for people for years through your videos of compassion for what some would call "insignificant" creatures, and now you have cracked open your chest to let us see your heart. Thank you for sharing your life, your pain, and your victories..... love is what makes life worth living, and you keep doing what you are doing.... I pray God's blessings on you. You are a blessing. Keep it up.
Never have to apologise for being human. So important that men speak up a bit more and never suffer in silence. Great video thanks for sharing
Those of us who care about YOU, care about your miseries too. Came because of the cows but stayed because of you. If I weren't 76 and could afford it, I'd love to stay at a little farm in Scotland.
I had two grandkids who were placed for adoption at birth. After more than 20 years we eventually found each other. There is hope yet for you and your daughter, stay hopeful, but busy with life, your wife, and your two boys.
After more than 25 years on the internet, there have been people who have left their mark on my life, that I have never met in person. Don't underestimate the spiritual bonds people can build over long distances. Thank you for letting us into your life. Your REAL life, not just hooves.
Me too, I am 77 and I gave up my daughter because the "experts" suggested it was the best for my situation. About 25 years ago we were reunited when she was 36. It was not something she always wanted but she was encouraged by her husband after she had her second baby. She was so happy with her life at that point, it was just the right time for her. My mother kept the same phone number over the years just in case she tried to contact us in such a scenario. Things are still fine and I have 4 grandkids I wouldn't have otherwise. She also has a great relationship with her bio-father. I also had a relationship with her adoptive mother who has since passed.
So well said
You are so right that internet friends can become a sort of family. I feel so lucky to have built my community online - luckier that some have become friends in real life too!
What a really beautiful message ❤
Here's the thing Graeme, we're your TH-cam family, we're your herd, so you should be able to talk to us about happy stuff, sad stuff & everything in between. We've always got your back & we love ya!
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Agree 100%
@@debrawilliams5792 Me too 100% x
Well said❤
Grame, I think you should try and find or reach out to your daughter. I don't know what happened but clearly you love her. Pray 🙏 about it and ask God for guidance. ❤
Yes, we are your herd!❤❤❤
My dad hasn't spoken to me in years. Your daughter is very lucky to have you thinking of her and caring about her. I hope she realizes soon how short life is and finds her way back to you. ❤️
I am in the exact same situation, he missed my high school graduation and everything. I'm 20 now, like Graeme's daughter, and he still hasn't said a word. I hope your father and Graeme's daughter reach out and try to make up for lost time. And even if not, I hope you both find some peace with it. Love you all
@SadieTurner-mm2nz that's so sweet, thank you. I doubt the situation will change for me but I hope Graeme has better luck. She is lucky to have such a caring father. I hope you experience a change of heart with your dad, but, if not, try not to let it get you down. Some people are just too stubborn or foolish to appreciate what they are losing out on. 🤗 Hugs from Illinois@@SadieTurner-mm2nz
Or maybe you haven't spoken to him in years
@@ep3389 I'm not sure who you are replying to, but, in my situation, it was my dad's choice to cut me out of his life. I tried reaching out to him several times and was rebuffed.
They always tell parents to let the kids initiate the contact. You never know that might be what holds him back
So sorry for your separation from your daughter. Glad you're making contact however possible.
My youngest son, who is 31 years old now, left home when he was 19. He was 20 the last time I saw him. I think about him every day, and there’s a huge hole in my heart.
Oh boy! Praying for your family and for your son.
What did you do to him?!
U abused him to much or hes a user, I was a addict and didn't want to be around the ppl tht loved me always felt like I was being judged. Got clean now I love to shine and show wat I worked hard for (not material things).
Why?
@@averyward8919 neither of those things is true!
Graeme, you could bawl about it and we'd still be here. Bawling with you
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Amen.
Staying at a farm while watching cows in Scotland sounds like a bucket-list item to me. 😊 🏴 🐄
I like your project with the land you buying 🐮🤠🚪🛖🏰🏘️😘👏🏼🫶🏼
I'd love to rent for a holiday one of your cottages, never been outside of Edinburgh or Glasgow, always wanted to see rural Scotland.
OMG that sounds stellar!!! Can I get a reservation now? I want to beat the rush!
That sounds so lively, I doubt I'd leave ...
I also have an estranged daughter due to my divorce. It's been 13 years since she has spoken to me, I pray for her everyday. Parental Alienation is real. Thanks for sharing❤
I'm in much the same situation. Two of my four children are estranged from me, its been 18 years of no contact. Big hugs to yoy!
I have two children and both are estranged. My granddaughter is 21 and even she won't speak. Praying is all I have. It's more of a problem than people think it is
@@Kelly-u6l I've never found praying to have any effect whatsoever. Personal actions though seem quite effective.
It is a terrible club to belong to😢
My late-ex cost me my five daughters. Only my son came around after some years. One dtr, 38yrs old, just passed away one yr ago, very unexpectedly. Her twin sister is just now starting to reconnect.
My dad walked away when I was 15...27 years ago!
It's lovely to actually hear a father care. Mine does not! He moved around the world and has never wanted to see me or meet his grandkids.
I hope you reconnect with your daughter Graeme ❤ keep hope x
Keep posting to her ❤ never stop. She will see it.
When I was 20 I had a daughter with my first wife. When the relationship fell apart her family made life impossible so I had to move away. For about 15 years I hadn't heard from her. We reconnected and have a good relationship. Don't give up and keep reaching out.
I read your book about your daughter, and with how close you used to be with the years of driving to and fro to be with her, your heartache must be tremendous. Your channel is never negative, just real. And I often need my surroundings to be quiet when i am concentrating on a task. 😂 You're not the only one😅😅
I read Graeme's book, too, and I thought that Madison might remember those years and realize the truth. She will come around some day soon, I hope. Keep the faith, Graeme. And, I, too, need peace and quiet when I'm concentrating on something. We're in good company. I would love to visit Scotland, land of my ancestors, stay at your barn conversion, (love watching those shows), however age (76) and finances don't permit it...and I couldn't leave my two aging furbabies. I'll keep watching this channel and get my Scotland fix. Merry Christmas Graeme, Ashley, boys, Madison and crew.💝💙🎅🎄🙏
as someone who's had to cut a parent out of my life for some time to their own toxicity, I'll tell you this- even if you've made mistakes, even if you didn't treat her well, as long as you work towards being a better person and take accountability for the wrongs you've made, chances are she'll likely reconnect later down the road. If you have always been fine to her, and someone's poisoning her ears, she'll eventually see the cracks in their lies and come to. It just takes time and patience. You seem to have plenty of that, so don't fear! Just save copies of the letters you send her, and keep chugging along- but dont ever hesitate to voice when you're not ok. We're here for you, woes, wins, and all.
I second this well said. Keep on cracking you have this. Cheers
I agree as long as she knows your here for her always it will sort itself out eventually
Well said‼️👍
I had to cut out my sister, mother, & a daughter out of my life just to save my own sanity. It was the hardest thing I've ever done, but my life has been so much better without them pouring their poison in my ears all the time. I did what you said too, I waited, & waited, & waited....13 long years. The last words my mother ever said to me were "Go to hell!" My mother died, then a few months later my sister died too. My daughter has been turned against me by her abusive father, because he has money to give her & I don't. I'm fine without her, the hard part is that she has my only grandchild & has gone to great lengths to make sure that I'll never see her. My granddaughter is 5 years now & I've never seen her....& probably never will . THAT'S the part that hurts most.......& she knows it.
I came for the satisfaction of hoof trimming. I was hooked by the humour. I stayed for the purity of what you do and who you are, the love for your family is beautiful and you all deserve nothing but the best!
I also feel the need to let you know that every time I read this title my brain reads it as "re-hecking" 😅 I hope this brightens someone's day x
Graeme, as a father with a nearly 19 y/o son that I have not seen in 12 years, I know how heavy your heart is about your daughter. I encourage you to stay strong and know that she will seek you out someday, and likely soon. Children want to know their parents and girls always want their fathers (unless horrible things have happened).
False. My dad was absent, tried to come around when I was 14, I was like whatever had that point. I’m 40 now and haven’t seen to talked to my dad in 13 years and there is absolutely no hard feelings. He’s just not someone I seek.
@@elizamarez your experience doesn't make my statement false... you may just not have reached that point, or you had another man that was a true father to you. Maybe you did not see the parentheses?
@@elizamarezhence the last statement, babe.
@elizamarez , if you do. You may be surprised about how you feel meeting him. You may have feelings you never knew could exist. That's what happened to me anyway. I never thought I would care, but I ended up realising how much I missed out on having a relationship with my father and the fact that I couldn't get that time back.
@Julz-c9e I was fortunate to have been able to talk to my son, just a few days ago.... Just in time for his 19th birthday. The conversation was tense, and he said he wants me to wait for him to initiate contact again, but at least we talked ... Albeit via text. Every positive step is a positive step
You do not need to apologize for feeling sad today. I appreciate you being so honest & transparent with us.
The farm idea sounds AMAZING!!
I haven't read your book, but I am a bipolar daughter with a bad relationship with my dad. I describe my emotions as 10 times stronger than those without my condition. It's really tough for everyone. I will pray for you and your daughter. I am sorry she suffers with this. No one is to blame. It's just a very difficult illness that can't be cured.
I am in a similar situation only I have basically bipolar for people under 18 and my dad and I do not get along this made me feel less alone
@Aceofspades950what does that mean? If you’re bipolar you’re bipolar. There’s not a “bipolar for people under 18” that’s still just bipolar🤦🏼♀️ people are most often diagnosed between the ages of 15-19.
@samanthahope1316 yeah there is its called disruptive mood disregulation disorder I would know bc I have it Also Children under 18 literally cannot be diagnosed with BPD unless they need to be proven unfit to withstand trial
Oh Graeme. Low points make it real, darlin. I'll wager all these people who look forward to seeing you (like me) are throwing you love all along the airs tonight. And cheers to your new property and plans for cows! I'll come! ❤❤❤❤
First time commenter. The bad comes with the good. We don't get to choose most of the time what comes when.
Please don't apologise for not being 100% up. It is vitally important that we stop portraying a public face that is always ok. Cos we're not always ok. And the sooner we start talking about it, the better.
Thank you for allowing yourself to be vulnerable around us.
Exactly. We need to deconstruct the idea social media created that other people's lives are perfect and it's somehow inappropriate to be transparent when things are not okay. As long as you're not infodumping without warning people shouldn't have to apologize for being human
Maddison, happy belated birthday 🎂 may God give you strength to face your fear and call your dad!! 🐎
We love you no matter what you tell us!!!❤️❤️❤️🌲
We will love to stay in the cottages ❤❤❤ Holiday in Scotland is on the bucket list.
You'll love it here. It's a beautiful place. I've lived here all my life and I'm still stunned at how beautiful it is. The people aren't bad either 😂
I love Scotland, and that sounds like an amazing place to stay!
I didn’t meet my dad until I was 40. I don’t know your story (I have the book but haven’t had a chance to dig in yet) but I encourage you to stay open. My dad died three years after we established a relationship and I wouldn’t trade that time for anything. Many blessings to you and yours.
So happy for you. Similar with me. I was reunited with my birth father after a melanoma diagnosis and loved the short time we had to reconnect. He passed a few years after I met him and it was sooooooo worth it.
@@kimkozuma1771 I’m so happy that you had that time together. Sending you a big hug.
Keep Showing You Love Her No Matter What 💙
I am all for these cottages!! Sounds like a wonderful peacefully time! ❤
Just talked to the wife.. we will absolutely come visit from Texas and have morning coffee with the highland cows.. keep us posted
I appreciate how you just want your daughter to be happy.
It's tempting to use days like these to beg her to reconnect, but at a certain point all you can do is consistently let her know your door is always open and let her decide if knowing that is enough, or if she needs more from you and wants to reach out.
People will want to tell you their happy reunion stories to cheer you up, or share their grief for someone who is out of reach... I've seen both from up close and the grief is immense, even when there is a happy end.
Happy birthday M, we hope you have a good one. ❤
I would like to stay on a farm with the highland cows!!
Never give up, I didn't see my son for forty years. We are making up for loss time . It's wonderful your time will come ❤
You are not alone. Being separated from our child has been so painful. I’m so sorry.
You opening up about this stuff really helps other people that are dealing with family issues and realistically, helps you too. Proud of you.
You said you don’t want to be down on camera but you are showing that to good to talk, especially for the men that are watching. 😊
Life can come up with some pretty serious bumps on the road. My wonderful daughter turned 21 two days ago. She has multiple disabilities, and had a bad general health as a child.
4 years ago we had her put in a special care facility/she moved out (as we like to call it). I still have legal custody over her, and we see her twice a week. She is a caring, loving girl, mentally around 4-5 years old.
Through the first 17 years of her life, both my wife and I got ill with stress, complex PTSD in fact.
Keep reaching out to your daughter. Take care. Have a nice trip to Edinburgh 👍👍👍
She came of age and moved out, I love how you phrased it, as her moving out 😊
You had to think of yourselves, as well! as her. You can't live the rest of your lives, constantly being ill. It was what was needed for everyone, and I bet she's having a ball also, with all those new friends. X
The channel where you upload videos for your daughter is a beautiful idea. At some point it will show her, that she is always in your thoughts and always has been. Xx
You almost made me cry. I have a daughter that's 23 and I haven't been able to see in about three years. I also think about her everyday and pray she's happy.
...and like you there was nothing I could do about it.
I hear things here and there... but its not the same as having her here with me.
Don't give up, life always comes full circle. I have faith and hope we'll both be able to see our girls again someday again some day. ❤❤❤
Wishing your daughter a wonderful birthday! And sending you thoughts of love and healing.
OH MY!!! YOU ARE HUMAN!!! It is ok to show your feelings. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤😊😊
Chin up Graeme, we got you. The barn project sounds amazing!
There is nothing wrong with showing that you're a real person who has real struggles. Happy birthday to her wherever she is! ❤
And the cabins sound amazing!!!
❤❤Your herd is always with you!! Take special care❤🙏🏾
My husband didn’t have contact with his father for about the same amount of time,… but they found their way back together, to the point that my FIL came out to help me take care of my husband when he badly hurt himself last year. As long as you’re both breathing, there’s a chance. ❤
Never give up hope Graeme! My son did not see or hear from his Dad for over 20 years and they've recently reunited... I pray this happens for you and your daughter.
Happy birthday to your beloved Maddison. Best wishes to you too.
It may not be the same, but I was adopted and I did wonder about my biological parents. It took 30 years but got to meet my mother. It was amazing to get to meet her and talk.
So, don't give up, but keep on living. You never know. I love your videos for all of it, not just the funny parts. You have gotten me through some hard times. Well, you and Mrs Brown's Boys.
I love to watch your channel, for simple reasons: 1) You so humble and genuine. 2) Your empathy for the cows and even the humans. 3) The laughs 4) Educational. I just love the way your videos are brilliantly and naturally compiled. I appreciate the the Scotland's landscapes you share and your music. Big thanks from South Africa.
Thank you for feeling safe enough to share something so personal. Never lose hope. God has this.
I have a 29 year old daughter I didn’t get to know until she was 18. Long story. Her mother is she who shall not be named. I see her and talk to her and my grandchildren very regularly. Never give up hope❤️❤️
I know how you feel, I haven’t seen my daughter in 23 years. Her mother made sure that. I seen a picture of her on Facebook other than that no contact.
This gives us hope as we are in a very simialr situation. Our grandson is 11 now n we are counting down the yrs to him being of age to hopefully find us where we can tell our side of the story as his family.
Her mother is valtamort?
@@vanessahuman7607 if the shoe fits 😁😜😜😜
It is so sad that you don't have a relationship with your daughter. Don't give up hope . As for your new adventure, if I lived there, I would love to stay at your new property. I love highland cows.
I completely understand Graham, happy birthday Madison ,20 is a big step.
I truly hope you and your daughter find each other. And for all you men out there who have lost your children I hope they find you as well. You’re a human being and you have every right to feel down. I hope tomorrow is a better day.
It might not mean much from a stranger really but you are inspiring, never forget that . Sometimes you have to let emotions out , if you think of it what would you rather do break down and hurt silently while it eats away at you or let it out to people you probably won’t meet in real life but they care . I honestly don’t think and hope no one would mind you opening up infact again it can inspire. Keep the head up , you do a great job and you’ve taught so many ppl like me so much about quite a niche subject really. Stay 💪 good vibes from me (another Scotsman ) to you ✌️
I have a son who hasn't talked to me for over 6 years. We were so close when he was younger and married to his first wife. Now with his second, he holds a grudge for me helping with his kids! God bless. We all have a story and a past its ok to just live and let live.
Renting a barn in your beautiful area with Highland cows from you and Ashley sounds like a dream come true!!
I hope they make one wheelchair friendly. Not being able to go to some of these special places because being in a wheelchair sucks
Never stop trying to be a part of her life! Trust me, it will mean a lot to her someday.
Yes..apologize for any mistakes you made as a parent..a true apology without excuses. Continue to reach out. Sometimes young folks are too embarrassed to make that first move.
It’s great Kev went back to farming. It’s a peaceful life with the cows and fields. We miss it. 🇺🇸🇺🇸
God bless you Graeme
Hello from West Virginia in the states
Yes, when I need to concentrate on something, like backing up (reversing), I turn off the radio. That was my brain isn't divided. And thank you for talking about your daughter. It's really helpful to know that other people have these struggles, too.
I have "car quiet" times for stuff like this when my kids are in the car. The whole family has concentration issues at times, so they get it.
When the book was over I immediately said nooooooo, there must be more! Keep going.... I nearly started listening to it all over again from the beginning. Powerful, heartbreaking and inspiring all at once. Whether or not this is your first video or your hundredth video the book is an absolute must-read! Much love and respect from Canada Graham.
I haven't read the book, would you be kind enough to explain why his daughter is estranged?
I have a daughter who refuses to speak to me and it's been 6 years. I know the pain
It's good you're able to share with us.
Hugs
Graeme, Keep hold of your open mind and heart because, one day, your daughter will come to find the comfort she will inevitably need there. Back to the physical realm, I would LOVE to pop over to your B&B. I'd probably be able to talk a couple of friends into joining me there. Will you have any animals I could pet or cuddle. I'm just an old bat, but I do still love that! Wishing you the merriest of Christmases, with love from Perpignan 🎄🎄🎄, and an American with Scottish ancestry.
You’re awesome for opening up about a struggle in your life. More men should, to be good role models for our sons. We all need to realize that we’re all having problems in our lives and we need to have more empathy for each other.
I don't comment very often anymore. But I just have to say that you are a wonderful person and I'm sure it's taken a long time for you to get to that point. We all hopefully get to that point. But the amount of love in your heart is great.!!!!❤❤❤❤Deep and so wonderful! Your heart shows through with your soul. I see things like that......❤
I watch your program because of your heart and soul. These are the things that attract people about you. Some people don't realize what they're feeling, but I can visually see your soul.❤
And I just gotta tell you I love watching the cows come out and they hesitate for just a minute and then they turn back as if to say thank you.❤
T 🇸🇪Utah
Tonia which part of Utah are you in? I am up in Davis County.
I was on the other side of your story. My bio father abandoned me when I was too young to remember him and I never knew him. I think you’re amazing for trying to get messages to your daughter.
As for your plans to have places for people to stay, I’m definitely interested. I loved Scotland when I visited several years ago and I would love to visit again. Also, you had me at Highland cows.
I'm a professional tractor trailer (lorry) driver in the US. I have to turn off my audio book or music to reverse as well. I swear you see better with the quiet. ❤😂 Yes, my wife and I would definitely rent your barn with highland cows, as they are my favorite cow!
For all of us who have compassion in our hearts ❤ need to be a part of this growing heard community. To be there to lift each other up when we need it. Also to celebrate our victories. Sometimes we can be our own worst enemies. Hold your head high, you are a delightful human being ❤
Hey Graeme, you are a good person. Stuff happens, and life journeys are never simple. But you've got this, and we've got you and yours.❤
We are here for you as well as the hoof trimming. Don't be afraid to talk about what's on your heart.
Thanks you for your honesty and opening up about the good and the negative in your life. My prayers that you will reunite with your daughter.
Graeme, we are The Heard. That includes you too. We are all TH-cam family. I wish the best for you and your daughter. I wish I had the money to buy your book, or merch, or come and see your beautiful Scotland (USA here) and stay in your rentals. You are always a bright spot in my day, no matter what is going on with you (or me). Mooooooo
It would be cool to have some retired celebrity cows from your channel too at your new farm. I'm thinking of Gracie.❤ If you keep all channels open with love for your daughter, you never know when a miracle can happen ❤ They happen every single day!
Graeme I just finished reading your book yesterday and today I saw this video. Thanks for sharing more of yourself with the world. I am sure Maddie will reach out to you when it is the right time for her. Keep reaching out in the mean time and showing her that you love and care for her.
Happy Blessed Day, dear Madison🎉!!
Yes, one of my dreams is to visit Scotland. Airbnb to your farm? Bucket list!❤❤
No worries Graeme. Love you no matter what and will always appreciate yours efforts, honesty and humanity.
Gosh Graeme, absolutely yes to that question. Who wouldn’t love to stay in a barn conversion with animals around. I’d love it. Doesn’t matter what kind of animals either as far as I’m concerned. Any animal is a good animal. What a great idea. Hope the conversion goes quickly and smoothly for you. 👍👍❤️❤️
Thanks for sharing. Talking about mental health normalizes some of these struggles so others can feel less isolated. You’re setting a good example for the heard. ❤
I feel you, I haven't seen my daughter in years and she will be 20 next month. It's tough stay strong and keep up the great work being an awesome human
Bless you Graeme, we all have those moments, for many different reasons. You never have to apologize for being human. You are warm and funny, you have invited us into your world, we are honoured that you even feel comfortable enough to share the good and the bad, that everyone goes through. The cottages sound fantastic. Wishing you all and your families the best over the holiday season. Have fun in Edinburgh. ❤
I raised my daughter she is 31 been 12 years since I was with her last but I still think about her every day and love her always
I haven’t seen my eldest son (54) in 11 years when we were at my youngest son’s funeral. We speak on the phone maybe three times a year. I’ve found a YT channel where estranged parents with adult.Children and there are many in This situation.
@@GrdmaKat2000 what is the channel please ?
@@GrdmaKat2000just be extremely careful with those estranged parent channels. Many of them are abusers and will gaslight and redirect blame rather than taking accountability for their actions in the past. The vast majority of people that go no contact with parents are because it’s for the child’s peace in life and it’s a last resort after many attempts to heal the relationship from their end with no results to show for it. If someone is telling you that it’s an epidemic, be very wary of them because that’s more victim-blaming.
I tried for 30 years to stay with my family, to get SOME semblance of love, and I finally went completely no contact with my family in 2023 after Christmas. I herniated discs in my spine and my IN-LAWS visited me and offered aid around my home more times than my bio-family could be bothered to text or call. My in-laws drove 7+ hours round trip to help and care for me more times than I could get a text message from the woman that raised me that wasn’t a response along the lines of “I promise I’m not ignoring you.”
If you asked that woman, my no contact came out of no where and she can’t fathom that her neglect caused the rift because she “did her best”. Mine is just one of hundreds of thousands of other stories in this growing trend of adult children standing up for themselves.
Just visualise giving your daughter a hug, stay positive, I lost my six year old little girl in 1985, there isn’t a day goes by that I don’t think of her… she was called Louisa… you will see your daughter again one day soon ❤❤❤
I am not farmer, and other than passing cows in the field while driving, I have no connection to them - don't even drink milk. However, I really enjoy watching these videos. As someone else commented, I find them calming and educational. I find Graeme's approach, with humour and knowledge, as well as his genuine concern for his "patients” to be highly entertaining and his are one of a few other You Tubers whose videos I watch to the end. We had a falling out with our son and we don't talk anymore (his choice) but this also means we have lost contact with our two grandkids. It's been hard, more-so for my wife, but it is what it is. This just makes our relationship with our daughter all that much stronger. Stay positive and just (as we do) hope that she comes around to reconnecting. Cheers. from Canada.
We’re here for you, good or bad. We don’t abandon friends when they’re sad, so we’re here for the long haul ❤
All of the herd members who have responded about your daughter have perfectly expressed my thoughts and feelings about you sharing regarding your daughter. Don't feel bad for sharing, or feel like we aren't interested! Also, you have made me extremely jealous. Edinburgh at Christmas is magical! It's a wonderful place anytime, actually. I would love to be able to move back there. And finally, YES I would come visit your steading complete with highland cows! What a great idea ❤❤❤
Hello GP (and Wife)! Life brings us Peace and Challenges. Lifting you up in Prayer to ease the pain in your heart; and find resolution. Peace be with you ~ from Texas
🥰 i discovered you one insomnia night and fell down the rabbit hole. Since then ive followed for the whole package. I have your book in my wish list and really enjoy the down to earth honesty that you bring to the channel. Keep being yourself, thats what we love about you. X
I’m so sorry about your daughter. My two children didn’t see their father for most of their lives because he didn’t care enough about them to see them, or call, or write, or anything at all. They have no chance now because he died. Your daughter is lucky. She will someday learn how much you loved her and that you were a good father in absentia. I know that doesn’t help your pain at the moment. Thank you for sharing with us.❤️
I always turn the music down when backing up, or am looking for an address, or anytime I need to concentrate with no distractions.❤️🤗🐝
You are always so kind to folks in the herd when they open up and share, I hope you know the majority of us would have no problem with you sharing what’s on your mind today.
The old farm sounds like a great plan!! ❤😊
YES!!!! O M G Graeme! I almost started cheering out loud when you said about turning the radio down to reverse. I do that too and my youngest daughter and I were just talking about that last night. I'm glad I'm not the only one. Much ❤ from Northern Ontario 🇨🇦 x
I do it too!!
Graeme, your faithful followers love, trust, believe, and have faith in you. We stay because you have made us a part of your life and family. Your emotions are mirrored by us. It’s like you have thousands of brothers and sisters. ❤️ We love you and will continue watching because you are real with us. We know there’s no fake with your channel. I wish I could afford a goat size mini crush for my goats. ❤
We are here for you, Graeme. I'm praying for you and your daughter
Graeme sooner rather than later you need to open the lines of communication with your daughter. There’s absolutely Nothing more important than your children! And if she doesn’t want to talk then at least you tried. Believe me when I tell you that if something happens, God Forbid, but if it does and you don’t try to contact her, you will never forgive yourself. I’ll keep you both in my prayers 🙏🏻❤️🙏🏻
I too will pray to my gods.
Happy 20th Birthday 🥳 Madison, I hope your sweetest dreams come true and that you always have joy and happiness in your life 🎉🎂🎁🎈🍾 xx
Merry Christmas to you and your family. May your troubles be less and your blessings be more and nothing but happiness come through your door. 😊
My 4 children, aged 24 to 30, have nothing to do with me thanks to their abusive father. I raised them and he then turned them against me once they were over 16. I also have 5 grandchildren I'm not allowed to see. I totally understand your sadness. Especially so close to Christmas. Luckily you have a wonderful family to support you.
I understand and go through what you do. It is really hard at Holidays. Hugs to you.
Why is this becoming so common. Its been 18 years since my middle children alienated me. They are 38 and 32. I also have 2 grandbabies I've never met. I'm so sorry.
@karenm6887 I wish I knew.
I work hard at just getting thru December to February 15th. This is the loneliest time of the year. My daughter has banned all gift giving. My ex-d-i-l got word to me if i gave anything to "her" son it was coming right back to me. Got around that one by sending him a bank card so he can access his birthday and xmas money i put into the account. There's a special place in hell for abusive males.
@@lynhanna917 Sorry to hear this. We are not alone in this. Many families have been divided, I could go on, but I know YOU know. Hugs to you.
I've been to Scotland one time before and stayed at Bothwell tower house. I would love to stay in your cottage and feed the cows. One of the cutest joys is to watch calves play or cows run across a field, singly, not in a stampede. Don't want frightened cows!
I've been watching for years, and I watch for many reasons, hood trimming is satisfying, ur voice is comforting, ur a great person with a huge heart, I dont know if u'll remember but 4 years ago in Jan 2021 my son passed away suddenly @13yrs old, we had to start a gofundme and u donate to it, I was amazed, alot of ppl say things like, they care, we're a family ect but dont actually mean it, u helping showed me how amazing u r, I will always watch ur videos and buy ur merch.... U will always have my support... Stay strong,
My 21 year old daughter has broke contact with me and I think of her many times during the day. My heart goes out to you. ❤
I've been going through the same thing with my two middle children age 38 and 32. Its a heartbreaking time for sure. Big hugs to you!
Many of us in the same situation. Feel for all affected.